I have been struggling finding good content on youtube. I actually feel your channel is not clickbait or personal gain but very creative pursuit, doing what's meaningful to you and sharing worthwhile information. Thankyou😊

"And it just felt so dirty to where I stopped talking about it"... 100% This was hard, and I'm still very weary of having these conversations.

@karenholmes6565

Ай бұрын

I am so lucky. The only person I have felt a responsibility to tell about my struggles is my son. At first he didn't see how I could be autistic. He educated himself and now he sees it clearly. The people who are really important will make the effort. If they aren't willing to make that effort they aren't important.

@Catlily5

Ай бұрын

Yeah, same with my boyfriend.

This really spoke to me. As a late diagnosed autistic adult I’ve really struggled to fit in and adapt to the workplace, and boy are my arms tired.

@jennyanthonia7553

Ай бұрын

exactly this. this resonated with me so hard, especially having entered a new sector. it’s so hard finding my place

@MessiahRamsay

Ай бұрын

@@jennyanthonia7553 and that’s not a blanketed statement!

@cleo1827

Ай бұрын

Yep, the masking itself is EXHAUSTING. And I just myself everytime I speak because IM NONVERBAL. But the more I mask the more people think I’m neurotypical, then people assume I understand social cues and take something I said the wrong way. It’s such a struggle no matter how nice your coworkers are let alone in a stressful working environment.

A metaphor: putting on glasses for the first time and seeing the world clearly. After years of being told it is fine, or that everyone has some issues. You could live years thinking everyone must be struggling the same, because you literally have no way how its like to be neurotypical, and anytime you mention your struggles, neurotypicals would say, oh me too. BUT IT WOULD NOT BE TO THE SAME EXTENT. TURNS OUT, the eyesight was terrible, you were actually struggling more, didnt know why. So then you get tested, and get the diagnosis, and you put on those glasses and everyting starts to make sense

Going to the doctor and describing how I feel is a nightmare. Having my diagnosis made so much sense of a lot of my traumatic experiences in the hospital and doctor visits.

@ashmac87

Ай бұрын

Yep, now I can say things like, "I sometimes have trouble communicating," instead of just wondering why no one is listening to me. I should've seen the signs earlier. It's almost hilarious, but I was shocked to find out I'm autistic.

@cleo1827

Ай бұрын

@@ashmac87 yep it’s so strange because I’ve always kinda known and everybody told me.. but when I actually got diagnosed level two autism I felt so confused yet everything clicked together. It really doesn’t help that I have such a hard time explaining my experiences and speaking verbally. I’m so confused why my doctors and psychiatrists didn’t see it earlier and why my parents didn’t get me diagnosed if they always knew. My dad and brother have autism and I showed all the signs even more so than my brother.

i ended up with ocd compulsions when trying to recalibrate my awkward memories. anytime i would remember something i didn't want to remember i'd find myself either shaking my head to get the memory out, or saying something like "am i stupid?" or "am i annoying?" to try to somehow "counteract" the memory. it was not fun lol

@thethoughtspot222

Ай бұрын

I feel it. Those moments are so hard!! It’s definitely this full body sensation. But in a weird way if it helps move that overwhelm out of your body, I think it’s better than keeping it in.

@stars_will_fall

Ай бұрын

same!! i've been struggling with this for years and it was at an extreme high last year. i've learned that the best thing i can do is pretty much not react to it. just be like, "yep that happened", and move on.

@loverainthunder

Ай бұрын

I opened up to someone and at first they pretended to be supportive. Then they told me I wasn't autistic I'm annoying. Very painful. Devastating. But then on Twitter a ND Psychiatrist said "Annoying is not a personality trait." That concept allowed me to reframe her, the cruel person, as having a lack of responsibility for her feelings and a lack of grace. I can often feel annoyed but I feel responsible to not hurt people. I deserve to recoeve what I give out. ❤

@cleo1827

Ай бұрын

Does anyone else get brain buzzes or a rapid eye twitches when you think of a social situation you think is bad but can’t read properly? My nervous system is completely broken down from having to mask so constantly

@Kagomai15

Ай бұрын

A YT short i saw recently said "whenever you remember one of those memories that make you cringe, remind yourself of your intention at the time. Yes you know better now and it makes you feel cringey, but you didn't know then, so remind yourself what the circumstances and intentions were at the time and try to forgive yourself"

A bit random, but I love how you openly stim while listening to these bits and don't force on a neurotypical listening mask. It's very comforting to see, especially because I often feel a lot of shame around how much I feel this natural desire to look away and stim during long discussuons.

That puppet statement rang so true. I feel like I have a script that I know will be safe, but I can't express myself at all. What can we do? We need to make a living.

I love Rick Glassman; As We See It was cancelled way too soon, and TYSO is such a fun podcast. As an Autistic man who's recently gotten an Interviewer job, he's honestly an inspiration (cheesy as that sounds)

@NadiaDelcatty-pg6fs

Ай бұрын

As We See It was so painful to watch and had so many harmful parts. It was made for allistic people and is essentially ‘caretaker porn’.

@GhostIntoTheFog

Ай бұрын

Why was "As We See It" cancelled too soon? IMO, it wasn't cancelled soon enough. It was an ableist s--tshow.

@NutsNBolts-fv9kx

Ай бұрын

@@GhostIntoTheFog It wasn't perfect, but idk, I enjoyed the performances and felt like it had a lot of room to grow. I saw my less mature self in Jack, I guess.

I get so often from family, "That's not autistic, everyone struggles with that."

18:32 I HAVE ALMOST NEVER had such a common all the time occurrence so clearly verbalized for me!!!!!! I am sitting alone in my room waving my arms and saying “YES!!!!!!! THAT’S EXACTLY IT!” If someone is sharing a story and I don’t know what the point of it is, I would go the whole time listening to a story with concern that what they are telling me is actually supposed to be funny, or I could be listening with humour when they actually want advice, or maybe they just want to share something with me that they thought was neat but I have no way of knowing. And if I don’t know that going into it I can be so distracted and confused, wondering what this means, trying to grasp or understand the tone (often with little success). With people I am close to I do stop them and ask them just to tell me why they are sharing it with me so I can have “context” - I never really realized until right now that this was an accommodation I’ve unknowingly been making for myself.

It is hard when you're struggling Especially People say that everybody goes through it But I don't know how we felt.

Man, I veer away from your channel now and then and dive into an audiobook series or a music album, and when I come back it’s like a breath of fresh air because I realize I’ve been forgetting to have compassion for myself. I forget I’m AUTISTIC and not just failing at life every day. 😢 it’s crazy how we forget 😅 Your channel helps me make space and allowances for myself. Thank you 🙏

i feel seen with what was said about combatting flashbacks of embarrassing memories. this is something that i’ve been struggling with a lot recently, so that message feels as though it was meant for me

I think that trying to set boundaries to avoid sensory overload makes us look rigid too. Other people can't understand why we are getting upset about what are small details (to them). They don't understand how we could be so uncomfortable with the things that don't bother them. This makes us look controlling and rigid.

I'm about 11 minutes in and I wanted to mention in regards to pain and rating pain - I find the Comparative Pain Scale to be helpful for me. It's the very wordy red, yellow, and green one on a Google image search. I have had a huge struggle with rating my pain most of my life because the numbers and my perception seem so unrelated. I've also been told multiple times that I "put on a brave face" and I "must have an incredibly high pain tolerance." Using this scale to help me determine my pain in terms of how I function both mentally and physically and in comparison to other, similarly painful things, really helped me communicate with doctors.

@briannegallant1102

Ай бұрын

Felt this. I went to the dentist recently for a filling and as he was drilling the cavity out, he could tell that the anesthetic was starting to wear off and he said, "you must have a seriously high pain tolerance or you're an incredible actress." He then asked me if I felt I needed more anesthetic and I said no because the 'pain' of getting my tooth drilled (which wasnt really a pain as much as it was like a weird sharp, pulsating feeling, kinda like when you hit your funny bone but worse), was more tolerable to me than getting poked with a needle (I have needle trauma from medical procedures). I always find the aftercare where your face is sore and you can't eat anything and your face feels swollen and numb from the anesthetic is worse than the actual procedures

13:18 absolutely relate to the cringe flashbacks, they’ve been paralyzing wishing I could go back in time and just fix the moment. I love the tip about refocusing on the intention that you had at the time because our intentions are always so pure.

I haven’t had the words to describe, even to myself, what I am experiencing, and it has been making life very difficult since I identified that I’m autistic. Thank you for making this video because today was becoming unbearable. Your work is improving lives and lineages (my children) in people you may never ever meet. THANK YOU!🙏🏼

@christinelamb1167

Ай бұрын

As a very late diagnosed autistic (just 4 months ago, at age 60), I have been just trying to "figure things out" my entire life. I never got the memo on how to navigate through interpersonal interactions, and it's always been a mystery to me. I can remember thinking as a young person that maybe as I got older I would suddenly understand. But that moment has never come! I relate so much to not having the words to describe what I am experiencing, even to myself. I just know that whenever I talk to anyone, even family members or people I have known a while, I always feel completely mystified as to what's going on, and I always feel like I'm doing something wrong (which, by people's reactions, apparently I am!) My official diagnosis has given me an answer to my lifelong question of "why do I feel SO different than everyone else in the world"? Now the task becomes how to learn what I need to do to accomodate myself, and to ask for appropriate accomodations from others, so that I can feel more comfortable and at peace.

SO MANY THOUGHTS ON THESE VIDEOS! 🤯 First off, the first 15 min or so, I was in literal tears feeling so validated because of both of you articulating things I've always felt but never had words for. Second, I'm glad I went and watched the original video and heard the clip of Rick's mom explaining his struggles in school because initially I brushed it off thinking, oh I didn't have that experience needing special schools as a kid, maybe I was actually fine. But then, she explained that he lacked the confidence to do the things to the point he couldn't do the things (even though he actually could). It was the pressure that made it difficult. I had those exact struggles, but I internalized it and therefore never got the supports I needed!🤯😭 There's so many more things I could speak to, but I already forgot what they were... 😒 However, I do want to say that the more actually autistic experiences I hear, the more I realize that Autism is not necessarily about a set of behaviors or traits but a way of thinking and percieving the world around us that leads to those behaviors. Obviously that's a mojor generalization, and it is much more nuanced than that, but I just feel like I'm picking that up as a pattern. The experience may sound or look different on the surface, but when you start to listen to the why and the thought process behind it, that is what matches up.

As far as being aware of our own struggles, no, not all of us have been aware of how much we struggle. But even more so we hide our struggles because we do not want to be weird. I saw a video of a man with level 1 ASD who worked in scientific research. He said something that brought tears to my eyes, he said "I didn't want people to see that I was retarded". Being a middle aged undiagnosed person is filled with instances where we know there is something wrong and we are trying desperately to hide it. When I was a teenager we moved into an apartment and the door had to be locked when we left. I couldn't open a keyed lock. I was so embarrassed that I could not open a keyed lock that I would intentionally lose the key so my mom would leave the door open for me. I "lost" dozens of keys. She was so upset with me over this. I was literally willing to put up with threats of being grounded because I couldn't admit I was too dumb to open our door. These are the types of things we struggle with. We are smart enough to know we have deficits.

I can’t explain how much this hit my heart

Wow I'm soo thankful for finding your channel Irene!! Your content helped me figure out that I'm also AuDHD. My whole life I thought I just had anxiety and was an HSP with PTSD but it's so much more than that and I'm relating to sooo many things that you say it feels like I've known you forever. What really shocked me is that I also have Scoliosis lmao. I'm in the process of getting a diagnosis right now and it's sooo hard with burnout. I usually don't comment a lot because I never feel heard, but if you read this thank you so much! I wish we could talk somehow, you seem so sincere.

A million pearls of wisdom in this enjoyable discussion. And your insights add to it, too. Thanks.

Rick is a hero for his vulnerability.

I can relate to so many parts of the conversation. I would always feel like I was pretending to be someone else or wearing a costume of how a “normal” acts or looks like due to the awkwardness or alien feeling. Also, I would realize constantly that I was always missing the mark even when trying my hardest.

What Rick said about energy changing in a conversation is too true for me! I'm Autistic too by the way!

I loved the tv series he participated in , As we are, & I watched it numerous times.❤

the point about working environments! Going from retail to an office environment was such a culture shift bc everyone who worked hard in my retail job also all got on, and then going to the office and seeing people who basically never did any work thriving socially was so confusing to me!

16:45 - The clip and your response to this clip, just a million times yes. It's very affirming to hear, ty 😭😭😭 "I don't have cards for that" is exactly the feeling!

Only 10 minutes in and I feel like a raw nerve, lol.

In my own experience, I have often felt as though I need a help button to press when I don’t understand someone else’s intention or context of the conversation. The constant scanning and processing of information flooding in and going out can be difficult. I often misunderstand or feel lost when multiple people are talking and that is why I struggle with social settings. The anxiety also takes over and that affects processing as well.

This ended up being some surprisingly good advice, esp 44:55 (not because you don't give good advice, because you do, but because I went into this video thinking it was just going to be a bit of a monologue)! Thanks Irene! 😁

Been acting all my life and only recently discovered autism as the ah ha moment. I’ve been loving this convo and especially to the safe space environments bc it was so hard only being involved in projects every few years but seeing that each one was a safe space and realizing my lizard brain noped me out of what I can only imagine where REALLY toxic spaces

Thanks for bringing this video to light. I’m a fan of Rick’s comedy and podcast, his humor is so dry sometimes that your title read to me as joke done by him. I could have never guessed he could be so serious and not constantly be doing bits. He’s so self aware and much more complex human than I gave him credit for. You commentary was great to be able to gain a perspective about a subject I know little about.

I never really related to the pain issue that’s addressed around 10:30. But now, with the explanation, I realised that I actually experienced it a lot. I remember vividly one time where I got to a doctor, and they asked how much my problem is effecting me in my everyday life from 1 to 10. I said about 3 and they where a bit confused why I got an appointment for a 3, so they asked a few follow up questions about specific situations. And they came to the conclusion that it’s more like an severe 8… Well…

10:30 even just GI stuff, AP will ask any issues using the bathroom? Without getting super technical, and being told what is ‘standard’ how does one know they are having ‘issues’?

20:00 this literally just happened to me during work training and my meltdown put me in a type of verbal/response freeze and my anxiety told me everyone didn't want to work with me because of what I said/didn't say/respond. Omg, I'm emotional watching this.

There's so much to unpack and reflect on, I'll need a couple rewatch to understand it all - it makes me happy! You know that often times when I'm watching your videos, I feel extremely grateful to have found your channel. I like to think I'm grey team even though sometimes there's more black and white, but I appreciate hearing nuances. It helps me to grow even more as a person. Thank you truly. Also, I love Rainn Wilson (Dwight), I was often watching SoulPancake back then and I've always felt like he was genuine in his way of being. I'm definitely going to listen to the full episode so thank you for sharing 😊

Irene, your content just keeps getting better and better. When ever I think one of your videos is the bestest ever, you send another one out into the world that feels equally if not more informative and inspiring. I enjoy this space immensely, your insights and perspectives resonate deeply with me as I am sure with so many others of course. I appreciate your clarity, gusto, and language when talking about Autism and Autistic life. Thank you, for your representation! 🌼

I really relate so much to Rick. I don’t do stand up comedy bc I faced way too many social rejection to handle it not landing but I give props him still going and trying despite that. Also I felt like the original guy talking to him I too felt like I was an alien all my childhood that I’m jsut now learning I don’t have to be survival mode or mask anymore I’m a social recluse now finding peace with what happened. I hope they are as well bc once u do find peace yall it’s amazing ❤

this was a great video. i need to start taking notes so i can explore with my therapist

35:58 Given our social issues, as well as the language issues that often attend autism, whoever the language police of the day are, we're often the first to fall afoul of them. So it makes eminent good sense to avoid language-policing each other.

@Catlily5

Ай бұрын

My autistic friend (I am also autistic) polices language more than anyone else that I have ever met. I am not against policing language. But it seems excessive in her case.

The point you made about Drs and Autistic people not understanding each other rings very true. I recently read a paper about the "triple empathy problem" which describes this exact problem. It was really interesting to read and to know this is recognized and starting to be studied.

@Catlily5

Ай бұрын

That sounds very interesting. I have had problems communicating with doctors. I bring my boyfriend to appointments when I can.

What you said about there being some autistic people who are more fluid than others due to feeling allowed to make a mistake. I notice this a lot in myself. When I was younger I noticed one of the things I was missing in a conversation was fluidity. I tried to foster fluidity in different ways with my mask, one of those ways was listening to the rhythms of conversations, and noticing patterns in it. I got a lot better at holding a conversation with people, but I still felt there was something missing. I noticed the ease that NTs spoke with, and noticed also that they too could say the wrong thing, or worry about what they said, just not as much as I did. So I took an attitude towards myself where I allowed myself to make social mistakes, and accept that I would make them and that I can't do anything about that. Though this had to come in combination with others things I had to learn about people, particularly different groups of people. I always found it easier being at a large event where I was able to bounce from one person to the next. Everyone would be drunk and preoccupied, but when they talked to one person there was always an intensity. I would talk to one person or a group of people, and then when I felt bored or like I was becoming awkward I would bounce to another. I learned to balance my awkwardness with a genuineness and openness, and a real interest in who that person I was talking to was. I learned to flatter, I remember a huge ammount about people I barely know, and if I saw them again I would bring up something positive that I remembered about them and that they had achieved. Bringing up something someone has achieved is a lot better than bringing up something that they were just given, such as looks. If I see someone has put effort into something I will point it out, because they want to be appreciated for it. I also learnt to leave when I saw that I had gone wrong, or that a person wasn't open to me. Being in a big space with a lot of people allows me to do that with ease. Things tend to go wrong with me if I'm in a small group where I can't leave, but I am also aware that in small groups over time the ego and insecurities become heightened in everyone, and it isn't always my fault. Something that could be misunderstood about me in a large space will have less consequences and more forgiveness than something that goes wrong in a smaller group. Another thing about groups that I learned. Some groups are more open than others, some groups are more likely to let things go than others. I can't help how a group operates and whether I get something wrong. I notice in some groups things are easily forgotten, and others they hang around under the surface. I learned the signs of a group who were more open, and I gravitate towards them. I can talk to people in the groups that are less open but I don't blame myself if it goes wrong, I remember that these things are always a 2 or more person job, and nit always on my shoulders. Some groups and individuals are closed off by nature, they are the way they are. I used to take so much personally, but now I can see that others are as complex as I am, and that I can not predict or understand everything about them. There are many reasons why things go wrong that aren't just because I'm autistic. This is why I gravitate towards people I know are more open, I know this by observing them, remembering their reactions, because there are most certainly people in the world who are forgiving, even when they feel slighted. They will give me the benefit of the doubt, and that's important. Sometimes I feel we're attracted to those who won't give us the benefit of the doubt, because we want to heal the times when no one did. But people grow, and I notice that when I was trying to befriend those who would judge easily, I was basing my knowledge of people off of those interactions I had as a teenager and child, and even early 20s. At those ages people are more judgemental and worried how friendships will reflect on them, but they do grow and they do become more tolerant as they learn to tolerate themselves. Those ages were very difficult for me because none of what I'm saying woudl have worked well due to many people at those ages not having much experience or understanding. Sure there are always people who remain that way, but there are also people who grow and learn to give others the benefit of the doubt, and lean into their own eccentricities! So yes I can communicate fluidly with people, but I have to know I'm in the right environment and with people who are forgiving and mature. I do not have to appease anyone, and I am allowed to make mistakes. There's many things about me that aren't that different from other people, and things which are, but I can't view myself at extremes. Extremes like it's all my fault because I have autism, or I am so different from others because of autism, or I always caused the awkwardness.

@AM-sw9di

Ай бұрын

I'd also like to say that I started off with horrendous social skills, no one liked me and I crossed boundaries constantly. I still find certain things difficult when interacting with others, but fostering an ease with myself helped, and not chasing those who I knew deep down were rejecting me. This all came with experience, it is hard to foster ease with oneself when you haven't learned certain things about people. I don't think what I say applies to all, but it does apply to me as an autistic person who also is adhd. My father was also autistic but he could be the most charming man you'd ever met, he had an ability to walk into a room and have people surround him. Why? Because he fostered ease and a kind of detachment, he valued that ease above anything else when socialising, and he could listen to others while making them feel smart and interesting. He didn't have friends as such, he found those relationships difficult, and he spent a lot of time alone feeling frustrated. He didn't learn how to make connections with others, but he was good at socialising when he saw people occasionally. I personally want connections with others, and I have learned to make a few connections. But like my dad I am uncomfortable with too much closeness. I really prefer to have 2 or 3 close friends who I don't see regularly. I used to think there was something wrong with that, that I should want to be in a group, that it woudl make me happy. I learned that it did not, that I was trying to fit in instead of listening to myself. I love to meet lots of people and speak for a short time, and I love to have 1 or 2 close friends I can see with no strings attached. It suits me. These ways of socialising give me energy, and I must socialise in the way that makes me happy, not in the way that I think will make me happy. I become rigid and insecure whne I force myself to be a part of a group, this absolutely makes me unhappy and I accept it. Part of having ease around others is socialising in the ways you want to, not in the ways you think you should. Sure it may seem unhealthy to the NT world that I am not part of a group, and do not see people regularly, but I get a lot out of how I do things and very little from doing things the NT way.

It was sooo interesting. At 43 minute, when you talked about roasting someone too far because you think that is what people want, I immediately thought about the moment in Ru Paul Drag Race when one participant asked Ru Paul to stand up and it was received with a middle finger lol. The participant could just not figure out what roasting means. Such an iconic autistic moment in retrospect.

This video is incredibly relatable. I've been researching Autism now for 3 years and before I started this journey I was in college for Film Production. I remember walking into a new class and that day being told I have to fill in for a missing actor on a project in an hour. I had never met any of these people who have been working on this project for a month. Every one of them knew the story and characters inside and out and there I am with the director 1 hour before filming learning my character and lines lol I told him to be very direct with me which goes against everything we get taught and after our first take he came back with this big surprised smile on his face. Everything they talk about, even down to the experience of being on set is so relatable. It was one of the most rewarding experiences from my time in college and ever since I've wanted to act on set again. I have no diagnosis but truly believe it is highly likely and acting honestly felt the same as just existing to me. I could write about every last relatable moment but the point is I appreciate it and enjoyed the video :)

I can’t wait to watch the full interview… totally relate! Best thing I’ve ever done is to come out of the AuDHD closet 😅. I now accept and honor myself. Tony Attwood is right, Autistic people are honorable!

20:06 & 48:04 ALL THE TIME. I had a friend who I've known for more than 10 years, who would do this, while chatting online. I'm there thinking, i can clearly see that there is a shift, but she wont tell me why and will deny it. and every time i had to be like: hey, could you please tell what i have said that was off so i can learn not to do it the next time? and she still would not tell me, while also being clearly annoyed at me. so to me it felt like beinf berated for no reason. I ended the friendship eventually, after feeling used as her personal dumping ground. It isn't worth it really, to be in those type of friendships where you give so much of your time, be there for them more than their own boyfriends, call or text until 3-4 am about her issues, while not even being worthy of a: and how was your day?

You really are one of my three favourite youtubers. My other favourites are SBSK (a popular channel that holds compassionate interviews with people with various neurodivergence and other diagnoses) My other favourite is a neurodivergent comedian. Every single video of yours that I have watched has made me feel so safe in this world because among all the nonsense on the internet, the hate and ignorance and outright stupidity that exists online and IRL, you are breath of fresh air as you are clearly very intelligent, passionate about the topics you discuss, you are compassionate and empathetic and notice small details, logical and emotionally intelligent, a highly efficient and articulate communicator. These are autistic traits I know but I do appreciate them! I'm going to be honest, I long to have people of this description in my actual life but so many people I meet in the real world are closed minded or lacking compassion and many are also unfortunately not able to hold a conversation on this level. I speak similarly to you at a similar pace with the same amount of passion and frustration, however I'm not as well read on the subject of autism as you are. I try to hold conversations like this with people I know like family (not always about autism, but about anything meaningful) but they just respond with silence or change the subject or blatantly tell me to not talk about complex things. It gets really lonely because of this lack of ability to converse with likeminded people, as if my autism didnt make me lonely enough to begin with. I have some really cool and compassionate friends but I cant see them anymore sadly. Anyway, I appreciate everything you say in this reaction vid. Super specific and kinda abstract concepts explained superbly well as always. thank you!

Thank you so much for posting this. It helps those of us that have trouble communicating verbally, to be able to reference this as an example of what we are trying to to convey. ❤️

Wow! This was great. I’m a long time fan of Rick and a more recent fan of this channel. This was really cool to see the two combine. Really insightful stuff here.

12:20 I knew I didn't have (many) friends growing up because I made the (initially) conscious decision not to be friends with anybody that wasn't friends with me first (because I didn't get along well with my peers). I had a few friends I felt safe around, and that was enough.

this video has been really healing for me. ive been having so much trouble and frustration at work (and in life lol). thank you

Thanks for existing and give awareness to all this issues.

OMG this was so good. I struggle recognising and being able to articulate difficulties. I so appreciate these conversations that explain the nuances and give me the opportunity to learn … I had so many “aha” moments! Thank you 😊

31:49 this part! So much!

Loved this Irene!

You should definitely watch as we see it, highly recommend

Even as an artistic person myse been going to a lot of anxieties and I need to like take care of my Mental health and I've been trying to tell my colleagues about that but my colleague doesn't understand how I've been going through They're like think that I was fine and stuff like That but it's not

@turtleanton6539

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Autistic

Very insightful Irene. Thx

This was a fantastic video, Irene, thank you for sharing 😊

Yessss I love him and you so this is my ideal video!!

Awesome video!! Thanks Irene 🫶🏽

Really great video Irene I love these types of reflective and discussions heavy reactions that you’ve been doing lately

🏆 Great Video Irene. Thank you. ❤

First time commenting, thank you for sharing this video. 🙃

The show as we see it is really good

This content was amazing, Irene. I really appreciated your thoughtful commentary.

amazing video. very grateful for the discourse at 42:30

wow this is so relatable and informative thank you so much

I love this format this was such a great video! I resonated with a lot of the explanations that you gave so deeply 😭 I was starting to tear up on some of them!

I really resonate and appreciate your perspective. The way you process and deliver your expression just makes me feel validated, seen and understood making it easier for me as I process and develop a clearer sense of self; self acceptance, self validation. And I feel like your format makes it easy for me to digest and integrate other resources as well as your own lived experiences that you share with us…Thank you.

I was always told “on a 1-10 a migraine is a 10” so I didn’t get diagnosed with migraines because a 10 is to be like being burned alive, right? Now I have a permanent patch of vision gone because I didn’t know how to vocalize my experience and feelings/sensations properly.

@Catlily5

Ай бұрын

Glad I never heard that about migraines. I have never rated pain a ten because I don't know if I have felt it. I told the doctor some migraines are a 9. He accepted that.

Best video ever!

If you get a child make sure custody in case of separation /divorce is agreed with a lawyer before birth, because any ADHD and autism will be used against you in family court!!! Where to put effort in society? Educate family court judges and lawyers please! This is where it gets really really really nasty 😢

21:30 i love being social and going out! it takes mental gymnastics to do new things, but i do. at one point, i was going to a club pretty consistently (3-4 times a week.) i had a safe person there that was working and i'd kind of wander about 😅 though socializing was usually a no go, i LOVED that place. i had 3 places i'd alternate between all night and would just vibe out..Pulse nightclub. just gone. i haven't found a new place yet..

@Catlily5

Ай бұрын

Pulse in Florida?

@quincinco

Ай бұрын

@@Catlily5 pulse nightclub, yes.

@Catlily5

Ай бұрын

@@quincinco There was also one in Albuquerque where I live. I am sorry about what happened .

This is going to be so interesting.

idk if u made one already could u pls make a video on how best to approach the conversation with family and friends so they fully understand

out of topic, but your lipstick is gorgeoussssss ♥️♥️♥️

18:59 omg, I do that exact thing to!

53:50. That’s called bias and discrimination. That’s what’s happening to me at work. The sociopaths who don’t want to work are bullying me out.

This was so interesting

I lost it at @39:40 omg lmao'd so hard I believe Rainn didn't get the joke (or didn't mind idk) edit: @57:00 damn that's so true... back then I thought I knew the answers to everything at work, didn't even know what autism was at the time, I just thought I was too brilliant for everyone else and they were dumb... I could finish tasks quickly and knew the objective answers to most things... after some time, after I suspected I could be on the spectrum (after my child started flapping her arms) it clicked and I was like "... oh... oh... no I'm not that brilliant... people don't function as objectively as me... maybe I don't have the answer for everything" and then I realized I would be the worst business manager of all, cause I don't get people hahah

Was this clipped together or did Rainn interrupt Rick a lot? I wanted to hear him finish a lot of his thoughts that got cut off. Also feeling bad about how often this happens because people don’t have patience for us as we process things slower or in more depth, no wonder we’re struggling.

i want his sweater where do i buy it

43:30 omg that whole part you went through here. Impact > intention…. Good premise, BUT.

I can’t focus on this video because of that painting behind Rainn Wilson. It looks an awful lot like a Donald roller Wilson painting, or at least his style. Those paintings are incredibly racist, I have done a deep search into his paintings some months ago and it kept getting worse the more I saw. I don’t know if I should even bring it up but I know it will only fester in my mind if I don’t get it out..

@MiauxCatterie

Ай бұрын

there's an African looking mask behind Rick. to make this more complex.

@Catlily5

Ай бұрын

Yeah, that painting was disturbing to me too. I kept wondering if it was racist and why he has it there.

@Catlily5

Ай бұрын

It seems strange that Rainn has a painting like that while speaking out about racism.

I can't get any help with my ASD because I'm HF and higher IQ. My parents don't care and my biodad doesn't care. I can't find anyone who cares.

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1:00:44 did Rainn just realize he might be autistic? 🙊

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I really didn't like As We See It (too much focus on the abled white woman and a bad framing on the autsitic woman of color) but his work (as well as the other two autistic leads) in it is really stunning

@GhostIntoTheFog

Ай бұрын

"As We See It" is the sole reason I can't bring myself to consume any of Glassman's other content. I can't get over the fact that he and his fellow cast members allowed themselves to be used by allistic writers, producers and costars to put such an ableist piece of garbage into the world (a piece of garbage that A$ consulted on to boot). If I ever were to meet him, I'd ask if he believed himself to be a "beautiful burden" (a term actually used by an allistic character in what was supposed to be some kind of touching conversation between allistic caregivers).

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