You're right, it's not an issue of American or immigrant. It's a matter of applying the Deen or not.

@zabirhussain

Жыл бұрын

No it's a matter of whether they have a passport or not, it's plain and simple

@gobah

Жыл бұрын

100% true

@kamrudkd

Жыл бұрын

Asalam walikum This is why keeping the bonds of kinship and community is so VITAL in islam. Because if you do not have a tried and tested social circle, whos members social standing/character/family you can objectively verify. You will find all kinds of trouble and social ills. May Allah protect us. This becomes especially important when our children come to marry. As a parent you don't just hand down wealth to them or even islamic knowledge but also you hand down to them a proven social circle. And it will be their responsibility to maintain it/enhance it and hand it down to their children.... May Allah help us to maintain the bonds of kinship. Salam

@S734L7H1

Жыл бұрын

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@JewelsRoyale

Жыл бұрын

Yep the more I live the more I realise how Allah’s rules are perfect. There is a reason women need a Wali. This also happens to born Muslim women with a western passport btw.

You diagnosed the actual root cause .Sisters should involve a "WALLI" .Please advise them how to choose a "wali " will be beneficial for sisters.

Myself is an immigrant Muslim, normally I should feel offended by this statement, but I am very happy you said that, and in fact I totally and thoroughly agree with you!!! I think we born Muslims rely very much of our born Muslims fact, which could not mean anything in the matter of fact. I think many of us don’t have the deep feel of responsibility towards our religion. I don’t know, but I think who ever does this to his wife regardless of her religion, is not having enough understanding of the religion of Islam!

Very good advice brother. Just because a man says he is a Muslim doesn’t mean he is a good one at it. Taking precautions is better than regretting later.

@DominusZeikyu

Жыл бұрын

Very well said sister, Actions speak louder than words and only Allah knows the strength of our iman. May Allah bless you

@fahimal9417

Жыл бұрын

@@DominusZeikyu JazakAllah khair

I'm a revert sister that was blessed to marry a western born (but culturally different) muslim. I think a huge part of the problem is the lack of support new Muslims (female and male) often experience from their local masjid community. They're treated basically as SEP (somebody else's problem). It's all Allahuakbah and MashaAllah at shahadah time. Phone numbers exchanged and then.... nothing. I've had to actually request phone numbers for new sisters. No one thinks, hmmmm I better make sure this sister gets some support. Basically (if you read this far) the community are for the most part, economic migrants with no interest outside of their cultural group. Can't even raise a basic smile or go beyond a simple Salaam. If this is you then know that you read this for a reason and you are now obliged to change your attitude. Takes some time to get to know each and every face you see at the masjid. Reverts, returned Muslims and new to your city Muslims... they all need your smile, your salaam and your attention.

@maryamali3935

Жыл бұрын

This happens in Finland too, Alhamdulillah Allah has help all the way from 21 years ago when i said my Shahada until now...whitout Allah i dont know how i would survive all tests what is coming in my life...😊

@lawlietlawliet

9 ай бұрын

May Allah make us better insha Allah

@user-lq6jv6dg4n

2 ай бұрын

ان شاء الله

May allah protect our revert sister.

Your arabic pronounciations are not bad at all, it's superb brother!

As Salam Alaikum brother, my wife and I are both new reverts, going on 4 months now. Great information for the sister's, I'm blessed my wife reverted when I did, an was a surprise it was only I going to take my shahada that afternoon, Alhamdulillah Allah opened my wife's heart an she spoke up an took her shahada. Allahu Akbar.. hello from Oklahoma.. Astaghfirullah, Allahu Akbar

May Allah Azzawajal protect our revert sisters. Ameen

You're right. Married with partner in the same culture is already tough because need to understand each other. Married with different culture will be more challenging. I'm Not saying that it can't work, but both side need to be very patient with each other. Peace.

Alhamdulilah that you have spoke out about this brother. Our sisters should be careful...a lot of revert sisters have been getting into abusive relationships nowadays from what I've heard and am aware of

I’m biased… I never really liked Middle Eastern Muslim men. It came from seeing how my father and men in my family behaved. I decided early on I was going to marry a revert and I did. No regrets.

@user-fm7nq7ul2c

6 ай бұрын

Not all men in the Middle East have the same thinking, and not all Westerners do

100% agree . bad people are everywhere sadly

This phenomenon is extremely saddening 🙁

It's disturbing my mind that many of these happened out there. Please protect our sisters!

You are right, Even Muslimahs who aren’t reverts get taken advantage of if they haven’t got a male guardian. Even when they use the local Imam as a wali, as they don’t vet accordingly. So you can still end up getting used. It’s best to find brothers in the community who actually take marriage seriously and can help in the vetting process etc The struggle for sisters is real, whether revert or not.

@JewelsRoyale

Жыл бұрын

Yep. This also happens to born Muslim women with a western passport. The more I live the more I realise how Allah’s rules are perfect. There is a reason women need a Wali.

As a born Muslim woman, we have also these issues, even in our cultures

@Pfyzer

Жыл бұрын

because cultures are that especially when there's 2 different cultures

@itzz_somaxX

Жыл бұрын

@@Pfyzer True, but even within the same culture/country it's really different, But I believe that if the Muslim couple are okay with each other cultural difference or both can compromise and sacrifice for each out of true love, It would be great for both. That's why both man and woman need to be mature and understand each other. We just need to be careful with the person and his motive, make sure that he/sher is not a manipulative, immature, etc Just a good personality and a good heart, doesn't matter if born in a Muslim country or a revert.

@fntasticHijack

Жыл бұрын

Every family can have different culture even they are sama tribe

@itzz_somaxX

11 ай бұрын

@@user-xu2qg2zf6u ??

Mashallah such a great response. Love and support. Muslims need to look out for Reverts because Islam is basically a new life. And being new to someone you're always prone to making lapses of judgement. Our reverts brothers and sisters need to be looked out for and protected properly and guided through the path and supported. This is our Islamic duty.

The more I live the more I realise how Allah’s rules are perfect. There is a reason women need a Wali. This also happens to born Muslim women with a western passport btw.

You are 100% correct! Alhamdulillah.

100% true brother.

Needed this🙌🏻 thank you! Also, where do I find an American to hold a guy accountable? My masjid doesn’t have a single American. SMH

Good point, brother... As a new revert, this issue is close to my heart.. however, I have nobody around to help me with this.. just really an intuition.

@malikiclique

Жыл бұрын

Connect to Safina Society. Someone trusted there will be your wali and hold whoever u are talking to account. Don’t do this alone

@kamrudkd

Жыл бұрын

Asalam walikum This is why keeping the bonds of kinship and community is so VITAL in islam. Because if you do not have a tried and tested social circle, whos members social standing/character/family you can objectively verify. You will find all kinds of trouble and social ills. May Allah protect us. This becomes especially important when our children come to marry. As a parent you don't just hand down wealth to them or even islamic knowledge but also you hand down to them a proven social circle. And it will be their responsibility to maintain it/enhance it and hand it down to their children.... May Allah help us to maintain the bonds of kinship. Salam

@malikiclique

Жыл бұрын

@@Mister.Bone_Saw get the FBI involved when marrying someone? Bruh….

@allinfaith4800

Жыл бұрын

@@malikiclique i live in Europe 😐😞

@S734L7H1

Жыл бұрын

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I left my beautiful non Muslim expected fiance. I shouldn't have done that. I feel so guilty. She was becoming a Muslim too. But I left her because her parents were not Muslim. Yes it's complicated. I ask Allah to forgive me everyday. I fell for her, miss her, and I didn't marry her. All sins. 😢😢

@bashar4550

Жыл бұрын

🤔

THANK YOU MAY Allah BLESS YOU FOR ALL PEOPLE TO THE BEST

Jazak Allahu khair my brother

The bottom line is don't marry a muslim woman or man until you know their medium and family and their reputation in their medium.

Not every muslim is a muslim by character

@abdulkhan00786

Ай бұрын

Just look at those who are Muslims by birth 🤣🤣🤣

Referring to "Send me location" I am Muslim and am not European married to an (Original Non-arab) European she is backed up by her friend's parents who happened to be Chechens, every time we argue there will be three 7ftX3ft fighter giants who just finished Isha Prayer knocking at my door, if there are no consequences by driving on the red traffic light, no one will stop at a red light.

@malikiclique

Жыл бұрын

Da!

Very important discussion -Thank You In shaa Allah!

This happens to western sisters as well. Men from "back home" marry a sister from same country but one who has lived in west along time or was born in west. Man marries the sister, flies overseas to west, impregnates her, gets citizenship then divorces them. Wild stuff happens sometimes.

100% agree with you we all heard brother the stories are well kwown. There is a charity in uk called SOLACE FOR REVERTS SISTERS They help reverts sisters alhamdulilah

You're right... Love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩

Wish I had you as a wali when I was looking to get married. Revert sisters just don't know until it's too late sadly.

@malikiclique

Жыл бұрын

Tell others to reach out to good brothers and share this video please

Jazak Allah khair brother have a blessed Ramadan Ameen.

Salaam brother you are talking the truth god bless you

Islamic centers should organize this 'wali' division to protect these moslem women from getting preyed upon. I mean, this is a serious matter and need to be handled ASAP. 'After sales service is what make customers go back to your shop' -my dad. I hope islamic centers has this after sales service division to monitor every reverts thoroughly.

Thank you brother! BarakAllah Fiq.. I literally needed to hear this..

Spot on brother

Great advice.

Great advice True insight As a born muslim living in a muslim community - totally agree with you Most Women are vulnerable n changing circumstances put them in grave danger of being manipulated specially if they don't have much insight themselves besides having minimal options . Be careful ladies.

My brother, this happens to two parties, including Muslim immigrants or those born to men or women, and there are those who took their children

Sallam, Everything starts with Intention. and consistent with that intention. May God's Grace always be open to you.

Totally agree with you

Yes it is a high risk for new reverts

My dear brother, Marriage is an essential part of our religion and encouraged by the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم in many ahadeeth. Without marriage, corruption will spread in society as stated in the Hadeeth. However, an effective solution from the sunnah is to ensure a Wali (could be a trusted imam in the community) is involved in the selection of the husband. This will ensure this vulnerable sister has a strong backup in the community and the men proposing to her can be verified by the Wali. Allah knows best.

Prayers for Turkey syria . Another 6.5 magnitude earth quake hit today

You’re right. It’s about time this is addressed.

All Muslims men should try their best to adhere to Prophetic Tradition and Masculinity.

@kamrudkd

Жыл бұрын

Asalam walikum This is why keeping the bonds of kinship and community is so VITAL in islam. Because if you do not have a tried and tested social circle, whos members social standing/character/family you can objectively verify. You will find all kinds of trouble and social ills. May Allah protect us. This becomes especially important when our children come to marry. As a parent you don't just hand down wealth to them or even islamic knowledge but also you hand down to them a proven social circle. And it will be their responsibility to maintain it/enhance it and hand it down to their children.... May Allah help us to maintain the bonds of kinship. Salam

Yes the Wali for revert sisters should be something they absolutely look for.

When the Arabic came through 😮" it was at this point " I knew 😂

Thank you for this video

Thank you brother 🙏💙❤🙌

😂😂 you know all the love phrases they use and you said that perfectly.

Being a muslim is compulsory because it is our responsibility to get knowldge about the truth and real true of god in this life but get married to muslim person is not compulsory because it depends on our ability to do that. If we can't handle our desire, we can try to learn to fast or do a lot of works in our daily life so that we can easily forget any nonsense things in our minds.

Asalam walikum This is why keeping the bonds of kinship and community is so VITAL in islam. Because if you do not have a tried and tested social circle, whos members social standing/character/family you can objectively verify. You will find all kinds of trouble and social ills. May Allah protect us. This becomes especially important when our children come to marry. As a parent you don't just hand down wealth to them or even islamic knowledge but also you hand down to them a proven social circle. And it will be their responsibility to maintain it/enhance it and hand it down to their children.... May Allah help us to maintain the bonds of kinship. Salam

Anyone preys on new muslim sister, prepare yourself for serious questions from Allah .. I'm born muslim and I have HIGH regards for converts especially sisters .. my god the sacrifice thet make .. it rises up to the level of early Islam era. Glad Tiding to the strangers (in their family and community).

as a born muslim i completly agree her

Truly agree and respect this comment 💯🙏🏼👍🏼🫂

Well said Akhi

As Salam Alaikum brother Maliki doing good Job bro.

Yes!! I’m going through this right now. He is not even taking care of me financially but wants complete obedience always. And any move I make is questioned as if I’m doing something wrong. He said last night I’m the worst wife and very bad because I have to drop of my daughter at her father’s house sometimes. He doesn’t want me doing this and says I have to obey him or he’ll be angry and I’ll be cursed by the angels I have to take her though occasionally. I can’t expect my ex to pick her up all the time and I feel safer taking her myself. I had to take my daughter to her father last night and my husband lost it. He says he misjudged me, that I’m not a ‘real’ Muslim woman and that I choose to disobey him. But I have NO ONE HERE to help me! He’s not even here in my country and doesn’t even provide for me!!! I have NO protectors and no one to take my daughter. And on top of that I’m struggling financially trying to keep us fed and housed. I’m trying not to lose hope right now. And I question why was called to Islam if I am to be miserable 😢

The best brothers and sisters I've met were all reverts........ Alhamdulilah but it's also very saddening. I know someone who was targeted because she was a new Revert to Islam and that Pakistani man was actually very abusive, manipulative, and very very cultural with not much knowledge of Islam💔💔💔💔💔💔...she is divorced from him now and he is still trying to make her life like hell for getting the courage to divorce her after more more than 15 years of scared and somewhat a slave to that man.. So please my Revert sisters, listen to what our brother is saying. Their are people who target you all because you don't know much about Islam when you first become Muslim

Naah, sometimes immigrants do be assholes. I am an immigrant myself, so I know. For example, in Turkey, the people that come to Turkey as immigrants, really raised the crime level, especially assaults and rpe. But just like the brother said at the end, not all are bad, but you have to protect yourself from danger, which can come from anywhere

@azmolhossain9244

Жыл бұрын

my brother, turks in europ are known for running drug mafia. last week at a fast food chain a group of turkish student came in and everybody happily eating lunch.

@user-fm7nq7ul2c

6 ай бұрын

What you said is just propaganda from the Turkish secular opposition affiliated with America and their media

That issue is happening two both Muslim or none Muslim women because of culture shock and marriage for multiple agenda

I am a single American revert. One of the first things I was told was if I am interested in marriage, to speak with my Imam, he'd be my wali. I was also told not to do online dating. I'm an American and have no preference of nationality. But I do want him to be a man strong in his deen.

Allah bless you

@abdullahalhikam1432

Жыл бұрын

Aamiin ya Allah

You're right ✅️

Cant trust noone!. I agree with you!

Firstly I would like to condemn the men who are marrying women for green cards. That will have bad reflection on the characteristics of the community. But the thing is that if anyone converts to Islam for for marrying and getting a partner, it is wrong with intention and it doesn't fulfill the deen. Come to deen for only Allah, not for partner. And the most important thing if anyone converts, it is still a good idea to have Advise of Wali before getting married to anyone.

This is what i have been saying for years.

I agree with you to marry American Muslims

The thing is that this happens in the west all the time and she did the same, always let your parents decide, if u already don't have a preference , because oir parents know the reality of the boy who is approaching u, plz tell the sister that this is a test and if she leaves islam then this is her deficit, Allah will be unaffected, if she holds steadfast then her reward will be millions of times greater than us and she will no doubt have the best husband in jannah.

O humanity! Indeed, We created you from a male and a female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you may ˹get to˺ know one another. Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware.1

Good advice

لا اله الا الله

Go to Sharia board in Chicago ask for Mufti Jamal Rahman he can help the sister to find the nice guy if she wanted

I agree i was thinking same

Thus spoke the truth Maliki Clique MashAllah. Arab men are handsome and offshore Arab men want to marry from first-world countries for a better life just like any other person. However, most of them are not well-intentioned (men and women) just like any other person this is just the reality of the time. Sisters need to be careful and do their research with hikmah instead of just their emotions. However, it is also important to know, that there are well-intentioned ones and they should be given the chance. But do a lot of intensive research and take advice from many, especially the wise. Follow what the shaikh said and what was ordained by the prophet.

I see your point, too, brother; and it is an unfortunate issue that Machiavellian/manipulative personalities come from desperate people taking desperate measures to settle in some so-called place of liberty-that people with greed and lust tend to go for some vulnerable, meek type-this happens in all religions, not just Muslim reverts, male or female. Research on the person and their family should be done, and their “history” of being truly Allah’s servant or some cultural representative, who has nothing to do with Islam-young people who are genuine towards Allah, no matter their geographical upbringing, might consider examining the intellect and nature of the person rather than looks or superficial things, as the Prophet taught us, peace be upon him. What is diversity after all-but one’s distinct personality, not skin tone or green card. (I’ve seen manipulative, cunning, and mean people from all across the board of human geographies. And every person was an immigrant’s child somewhere, even the Native Brothers and Sisters immigrating from Bering Strait 20,000 years ago-/close in DNA to our Mongolian brothers and sisters with great hearts but no green card:)💜

Like you said, tot all Muslim men or women are bad abroad. You just have to find a good family and start the investigation to find out their reputation. I do agree some try to get into the country by using the person. Which totally wrong. Advise to a all, get to know the family and take your time to know them before you pull the trigger. Also, have someone experienced with the culture to help and guide you.

That comment is 100% outside of Islam already and racist without even knowing it, and I'm glad you touch on this subject. Salam to all of you guys and your families. and still, marrying is better than Zina whether the marry is working or not, it came from your intention and your works on it, and after that, it came from Allah because he knows which one is good for Us and wich one is bad for us.

@kamrudkd

Жыл бұрын

Asalam walikum This is why keeping the bonds of kinship and community is so VITAL in islam. Because if you do not have a tried and tested social circle, whos members social standing/character/family you can objectively verify. You will find all kinds of trouble and social ills. May Allah protect us. This becomes especially important when our children come to marry. As a parent you don't just hand down wealth to them or even islamic knowledge but also you hand down to them a proven social circle. And it will be their responsibility to maintain it/enhance it and hand it down to their children.... May Allah help us to maintain the bonds of kinship. Salam

Converting to islam doesn't means that you loose your mind or become a person with empty mind whoever approaches sister revert think judge them before falling into trap of immigrant muslims 😢 😅the phrases 😅Allah bless you

i know of a revert sister who wanted to get married one day. same day the imam brought an immigrant and they got married the same day - the brother was ok but did not want her to pursue a certain profession - Long story short… they had to get divorce

ما شاء الله

I often pray for the sisters... But i have no intention to marry them. And I do acknowledge the fact that they are vulnerable due to the lack of support. It's the same problem anywhere for converts. Any country. That's why, I always thought, if I am rich, I would buy a large beautiful piece of land in some state in the US, a bit far from civilization, build fascilities like resort and also some training schools, where converts get to stay a year or two for free, learning about the religion, build network among converts, so those who need can get job once they "graduated", and when they leave the fascility they'd be equipped with network (graduates from previous batches) in the area they're heading to. All that if I am rich though.

How can I find a Wali? My family disowned me . Thank you

The importance of a wali. This is what most of us often forgot. We Muslim aren't made to be individualistic.

@kamrudkd

Жыл бұрын

Asalam walikum This is why keeping the bonds of kinship and community is so VITAL in islam. Because if you do not have a tried and tested social circle, whos members social standing/character/family you can objectively verify. You will find all kinds of trouble and social ills. May Allah protect us. This becomes especially important when our children come to marry. As a parent you don't just hand down wealth to them or even islamic knowledge but also you hand down to them a proven social circle. And it will be their responsibility to maintain it/enhance it and hand it down to their children.... May Allah help us to maintain the bonds of kinship. Salam

You are right. Im a revert. Ended up getting married to the guy who married me for visa status. In polygamy with 2 babies. Want to get out now but not financially independent at the moment. I dont know people dont fear Allah

@xxnoz2800

Ай бұрын

That sounds terrifying 😢. May Allah help you. Are you okay now sister?

True

Wanna marry a guy ? 1. His deen must be good 2. He doesn't go on dates 3. He is a US citizen or whatever country u live in. 4. Get a walli, it can be a shaikh, but when you ask a shaikh to be your walli make him swear that he won't reject all the men you show him so that he the shaikh will have you to himself. 5. Ask a Muslim friend who you trust if they have relatives who wanna marry, because if you get in trouble with your husband your friend got your back.

@ryojs4286

Жыл бұрын

3 is unnecessary But the rest agreed

@Aquacrystal78

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

Look we do not even know the full story, we only know one side of it, only a message in a twitter account that we cannot even verify.

Easy to say: “find a wali”. How? Sharia says women can not appoint themselves a wali. How can I start asking men around to be my wali? Even an imam tried to take advantage of me. 😢

I love all the different Arabic accents 😂 brilliant! I’ve always wondered about this. How is it that people who learn Arabic almost always have beautiful native accents even if they learn it as adults but Arabic speaking people always have distinct foreign accents when speaking English no matter how long they’ve been speaking it and even if they learnt it as a child.

Facts

Not always Asian or Arab are wrong. Let me know where i was wrong ? It feels like I was doing most of the work at home while my wife focuses on other things. I was handled cooking, cleaning, laundry, and even bring food from work or cook twice a day. But despite all this, she expects me to take her out for dinner every night. On weekends, I have to take her wherever she wants to go, and during the week, she stays up all night and sleeps all day. I feel like she only sees me as useful for chores and not as an equal partner. She also complains to her friends, but I feel embarrassed to talk about our issues with anyone. Where am I going wrong in my marriage to an American girl? And i never used her to for USA Visa things.

I know a revert muslim man who left his Moroccan wife....

Look this might be an unpopular opinion but culture matters… one has to stick to dinn yes, but compatibility of cultures is important too…

❤

You can’t inbox a certain category of people in one box and say they are all the same.