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If you are in a toxic relationship with another person and you are mindful your needs will never be satisfied .

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and for sharing your thoughts

@user-lu6yg3vk9z

Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes can you please do a video on narcissists/arrogant people?

@foxiefair123

5 ай бұрын

No, they won’t. They weren’t and he left. That was good because my health was getting very bad from the stress that he was putting on me.

I can listen to you all day long.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Thank you for watching!

Thanks for this Doc. I have been in recovery for an abusive relationship for the last 20 months, but recently ended a deeply codependent friendship with a very toxic friend who demonstrated most if not all of the behaviours and effects shown in this video. Great information. Thanks for posting.

I always get a little confused by not allowing these toxic behaviors from others but also not having conditional love. Cuz to me it’s like if you can’t treat me with respect and consideration then why do you deserve my love and attention.

@joshuaanzalone2060

Жыл бұрын

Yep Hippie Trap

@TheGraceRace.

8 ай бұрын

Unconditional love can also be gently correcting someone and showing them that their behavior is effecting you in a way that is hurting you. It’s up to them if/how they receive what you are telling them.

Thanks! I am actually getting into my trauma response!! You are helping me 🔐crack the code. This self-sacrificing mind-set was drilled into me with my Catholic religion and the Signs of the Cross ✝ as a way to "DO" relationship loyalty. So my loyalty to God is to put others first, and this is the subconscious programming and trauma due to strict upbringing to DO for others FIRST. I was happy to do this for others, but did not realize that, as a child at least, I desperately needed (and maybe only needed) someone to actually DO for me. Children NEED stuff! I got nothing in the way of love and care from two narcissistic parents. For more information, please see my other comment, Doc and everyone. Thank you.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your support. You might also like the videos on emotionally immature parents and healing the inner child

This was great convo to have. My career field is extremely toxic., I work really hard at trying to improve my interactions with others. A lot of times though, it feels like it’s not working, at work.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that. How will you start responding to those unhealthy environment?

@chilloften

Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes idk, these types of places are all the same. I just do the best I can at staying regulated per self and do my job.

@sunrise5567

Жыл бұрын

@@chilloften What career field is it, Im curious bc u said its generally toxic all together and … well Im looking for work right now lol so itd be nice to know what to avoid 😜

@chilloften

Жыл бұрын

@@sunrise5567 I’m an RN.

@sunrise5567

Жыл бұрын

@@chilloften Bless Your Heart!! Thanks for sharing also. Im familiar with the healthcare field, it really can take a toll on u! Im so sorry that wherever u currently are is toxic- I know that a change of environment, even moving location can lead to an immense change of mindset and meeting new people can be refreshing… if u can make that happen it could be worth it. I dont know what department ur in, or how old u are or ur situation etc… however, there must be better place for u somewhere. Uve worked hard to become an RN, u have the power now to dictate what u do and where u go with it. Have u considered working in a more chill environment like esthetics/dermatology/plastic surgery? I dont mean to impose. Just know Im rooting for your peace and happiness. Im calling this year toxic free 2023 💜 its a work in progress, its hard, but Ive had enough for too long. If nothing else, I hope my message at least brings you strength and a smile today, u deserve it

This channel is so good its really hard to belive it exist. Thank You Doc Snipes. Great hair btw.

Doc... You have helped me so much... I just want to say thank you for giving me the sight to recognize toxicity and the strength in myself to leave the toxic. Hope you're doing great! Much love ❤️

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. Thank you so much for watching the video. I am grateful to be of help.

I really needed this about 5 days before it was posted in preparation for helping some family move. It's here now and can help me reframe things. 😊

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?

@melissarey2973

Жыл бұрын

self care, emergency line (and emergency exit plan), focus on facts, don't feed trolls, avoid trigger topics. This slide was a really good reminder. My favorite Hanna Barbera cartoon is Heidi's Song. I'm 37 and still enjoy it. The Overture (Wunderhorn) is beautiful and Ode to a Rat is still one of my go-to pick-me-up songs.

This really put into perspective how toxic to myself I really still am at times, I do so many of the listed behaviours. And I've let people in my life exhibit toxic behaviours that I let slide due to attachment issues/fear of loneliness etc Thank you for your work! You really are helping people out here! I just hope more people can discover your wonderful content. Only nitpick I have was about your definition guilt, I don't like the word "should", I feel it is inherently toxic (ironic given the context) Using 'should' in the past tense indicates holding on to regret in my opinion, or, not letting go of something or someone that did not work well in the past I think of guilt as simply, doing something that goes against your moral compass, one way or the other, very black and white. 'I did said action, I feel guilty, therefore I know I'm not okay with what happened/that action, I won't do it again" Easier said than done most days honestly, but I feel looking at it in this sense puts a clear defining line at the end point of that event in your life, allowing you to acknowledge then move on. As opposed to feeding your brain the "could of" "should of" rumination diet. Hope they made sense, and I understand it probably was a very generalised statement regarding guilt, I just think it's something worth thinking about for people.

Hey you. Don't look around. It's a pleasure talking to you. If you are reading this article, I hope all is well☺ It's the love you're looking for, isn't it? We are born from love with love. During life, we still lose some of it😞 Don't worry☺ I have some tips,to get love back. 1. Think with Love. 2. Hope with Love. 3. Love with courage. 4. Whatever you do, do it with love. 5. Pray with love for Love. Try it, you have nothing to lose, "You will win all the time" I love you all❤ Amen.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! Here is the video to the Loving Kindness Meditation: kzread.info/dash/bejne/dK2tushtZLmTm5M.html

I am exhausted doing exactly what you gave a lecture on. Ugh.Thank you Dr. I need to know its okay to think about me however it feels very uncomfortable.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

I am sorry you are exhausted, Phillip. I am so grateful for you, for being here and watching videos on the channel.

Would it be possible for you to do a video on the effects of frequent moving/relocation in childhood? I’m not sure if you’ve made a video on the subject already, but I’m having difficulty finding many resources on it in general and your videos have been great in helping me manage issues of insecure attachment so I figured I’d ask. TL;DR is on top of the CPTSD from chronic abuse/neglect from highly unpredictable caregivers, the frequent, annual or sooner, moves (often to different states altogether) has left me at a great disadvantage in… pretty much every area of my life. I have an older siblings with pretty much all the same issues as well. We both often ask each other for advice and then feel hopeless together. I enjoy human connection, but have no idea how to make and maintain friendships, I dropped out of high school and spent the past decade working minimum wage jobs, making no progress in any direction and just existing in the background. I’ve wanted to move back to my hometown and reconnect with my grandparents but have always felt powerless to affect change in my life. Heavy inattentive ADHD like symptoms as well. I learned how to stop dissociating all the time and general emotional regulation about 2 years ago but that’s about it. It’s far more pervasive than that, but this comment is already very long. I thank you immensely for all your videos, they’ve been extremely helpful and validating, in making me not feel so crazy for being triggered by general human interaction. Even if you don’t make a video addressing my above concern, i’m sure i’ll learn plenty of useful skills from you in the future. 🙏🙏🙏

I recently got broken up with by people who exhibited some of these toxic behaviors. Invalidation was one of the most overt thing they did. I wasn't able to express my feelings about something they did without being told my feelings were "entitled" or without them making my feelings about themselves. It's frustrating, in hindsight, that I was attached to that group for so long. They were all I had. This video also made me realize how toxic I am to myself at times. That really clears up a lot for me. Thank you for this video, it taught me a lot!

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

I am sorry you have gone through that and I appreciate you watching the video. Here is the video on copying with guilt after ending a toxic relationship: kzread.info/dash/bejne/fZaBy6eQmca5Zag.html And here are the videos on trauma: kzread.infosearch?query=trauma

@fistOFjustice91

Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes Thank you 😊

So much ability to share such valuable knowledge in an understandable way.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for waiting the video and thank you for your kind words.

35:40 solution to how to address toxic behavior in self and others

Thank you for doing this. 🙏🏻

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome! Thanks for watching

Very helpful subject.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzread.infosearch?query=toxic

Thank you, Dr. Snipes!

@DocSnipes

11 ай бұрын

You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching

hey doc! Just went over this topic today trying to implement. Thanks for the content

this is so powerful , thank you! God bless you for doing what you do and helping others like me

@DocSnipes

7 ай бұрын

You're most welcome. Thank you for watching the video

I have a neighbor that has a lot of mental and emotional issues... He has angry outbursts every day... I feel a lot of pity for him...

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about your neighbor, Tom. Thank you for watching

You are a brilliant person who offers so much useful advice. I am thankful I found your channel. I hope your channel grows because that means you will help more people.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind words. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video.

I love that you lead with our relationship with ourselves

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Thank you so much for watching!

I wonder... If all of the 24 Hour News Sources are actually harmful to our society... Back when I was growing up in the 70s and 80s you never heard of any mass shootings,much less crime,much less anger and hatred...

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

It can be harmful, yes. It could trigger feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, hostility, anxiety etc.

Thank you. It csn get so lonely in your head. Wanting to be friends with people who DONT care about me. I keep thinking of the laughs and jokes. But laughs and jokes dont make someone a true friend. Its easy to be blind sided by the good. I have to acknowledge the bad. I wonder why we forget the bad

@DocSnipes

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching the video. Our brains tend to prioritize positive or neutral experiences over negative ones as a natural coping mechanism. This can lead to the phenomenon of forgetting or downplaying bad memories. It helps us maintain psychological well-being and adapt to challenges. However, the extent to which we forget negative experiences varies from person to person and situation to situation.

I found this helpful, thanks Doc!

Thank you so much for this. I think it will help me immensely.

Toxic people constantly want my attention, I'm like goooo awayyyyyy

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. What did you find most useful from it?

Well,I'm 52 years old and I still love watching Warner Brothers and Loony Toons,so I guess I don't feel too bad about watching them now..

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

There’s nothing to feel bad about. :)

I have not met anyone who would actually hear me and accept my boundaries. Every time I tried to communicate or defend my boundaries, I was either ignored or perceived as a bad person for speaking up. For that reason, I find it much, much easier to end relationships and friendships with people rather than to keep trying to convince anyone that I have needs too!

@DocSnipes

9 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. Videos on boundaries can be found at kzread.infosearch?query=boundaries

You know your stuff Doctor

Thank you Doctorrrr❤

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome, Queanna! Thank you so much for watching the video!

Im a truck driver and I first heard this song driving down the road...I had to pull over and cry it spoke to me so much. It felt so good. Now it's my favorite song for the moment. I was badly mentally ill and on drugs for over 20 years and Jesus cured me by his hand. I love you Jesus!! Thank you so much.

@hayleyb467

Жыл бұрын

what song?

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

I am glad you have healed yourself. Thanks for watching

Okay so this was a huge issue in my relationship. I often felt like my partner was the center of attention whenever her family was around. Whether it was a cousin dad or brother. Especially those individuals. Sometimes around her mom too but not as often. I felt like ignored me around these people and made it all about her getting the attention. It made me feel awful unloved and unimportant to her and also betrayed in the relationship. When I tried to address this my partner said that it is because I am insecure an need to let her be herself around her family. Is it my problem that she seemed very flirty around certain people? And made it all about her? What can I do about this in the future?

I am in a toxic workplace. While fingers point to the biggest offender it’s also a culture. Narcissistic behavior…on the way to psychopathy are driving things. HR has struggle because these folks are smart and don’t pile up enough offenses to be fired. It’s been facades of high turnover and people working in silos to avoid. I first defensively fawned, then l asked to leave projects, not l am being asked to work with them and they are driving the boat…despite it being my role. I moved to a firm boundaries stance…it feels terrible. Still looking for a way to ride it out.

🤯 Wow! looking Good Doc.That new hairstyle definitely adds to your appeal.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I appreciate you watching the video

@maintain.faith.3657

Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes in my James Bond 007 Sean Connery voice. My pleasure 🤝

NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, NEGATIVE CRITICISMS, BEATING ONESELF UP, SHAME ,GUILT , REMORSE DEPRESSION, YEP ...SHOULD OF DID THIS ,SHOULD OF DID THAT .... YES ,I GOT A LOT OF THERAPY WORK TO DO ON MYSELF ❤❤❤5/19/2023

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching the video and for sharing

DOC WHAT DOES A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP LOOK LIKE CAN YOU DO A VIDEO ON THAT? THANKS

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching the video. You can learn about healthy relationship from my relationships playlist: kzread.info/head/PLcB3trehXswhDAOBwJpMfMPyAVRTUaVjS

@Chloeayoy

Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes THANK YOU!

Netherlands is too civilized for them to treate me for no good reason like a criminal .

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching

I am not claining to any relationship , i am claining to God Almighty. The abuse am getting from these prison hospital is way too much to handle. I am seriously tired with their abuse .

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching the video

What a pitty and a shame for me to undergo such abuse from people who have already abuse the system . And yet still they are stupid abusing me for no good reason and nobody to come out with the truth to defend me for the abuse am receiving from these people . till date instead the abused is just intensifying . Instead of reducing . This people have show me evils . They are really evil . They are taking advantage over me , me being a foreigner in a foreign land (Netherland 🇳🇱) which is very very bad .being a foreigner does not make me a criminal. Besides that I am not the one that abused the system by rebeling against it . May the evil plans of all my enemies backfire to them .

Don’t that’s how

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching

❤❤

I would like to add onto, and maybe discuss, what you said about changing the structure of relationships. In your example, you said bringing another person into the relationship without your partner's consent is toxic, and I agree. However, it's important to mention it can be just as toxic for the monogamous person to force the polyamorous person to only be with them. Both actions are coercive. Both can lead to dishonesty, cheating, and a slew of toxicity. It is the responsibility of both parties to address their boundaries. It hurts both people when they don't agree about something as foundational as their sexual orientation. It's something that has to be addressed and worked out, or else both partners will inevitably suffer, not only the monogamous partner.

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching

@AngDevigne

Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes You're welcome! Your channel has helped me alot, and I hope my comment didn't come off as rude 🙈 If it did, I sincerely apologize. (I'm on the spectrum and still working on my majorly lacking communication skills, only recently - like, two days ago - realizing that I can come off aggressively when I think I'm being helpful. Sometimes, I don't realize I sound insensitive until after I've already offended someone, and judging by your response, I think I may have done exactly that, unintentionally. 🥺) I was really just trying to give a different perspective and context, because I know that alot of people don't know any polyamorous people in real life and we tend to get dragged on other media platforms. I didn't think that's what you were doing because I trust the info you share, which is why I felt compelled to speak up. Again, I'm sorry if I came off as an asshole in the first post. 🙏 It wasn't my intention to criticize your work and I appreciate that you responded anyway. Thank you.

If this makes any sense... I have a toxic relationship.. with myself...

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. What tips will you use to improve your relationship with yourself?

i love to watch cartoons too! its a passion

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

:) that’s awesome. Thanks for watching. How will you start responding to toxic people and environments?

FEELING UNSAFE OR POWERLESS, NEGLECTED, ABUSED ,CONTROLLED ARE RED FLAGS RIGHT??❤

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Yes, they are. Thanks for watching

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzread.infosearch?query=toxic

❤Hanna-Barbera, me too.😅

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Which ones? Flintstones, Jetsons, Yogi, Wally Gator, Yakky Doodle, Fibber Fox.... You can find them on internet archive :)

@Hampster8U

Жыл бұрын

@Doc Snipes here's my all-time favorites in somewhat of an order, all originals. I've no interest in any anime remakes. •Scooby-Doo, where are you? •Jonny Quest •Wacky races •The Herculoids •Top cat •Yogi bear •Peter Potamus •Atom ant and secret squirrel •Fantastic four •The perils of Penelope pitstop •Harlem globtrotters •The amazing chan and the chan clan •The smurfs •Hong kong phooey As well as Josie and the pussycats. I'm pretty sure there are a few favorites I'm forgetting, I am forty years old.😅

I watch the Golden Girls. Don't tell anyone;)

@DocSnipes

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. :)

What if I am one of "THEM "

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

If you feel you have some traits that hurt you or the ones you love, you can start using the tips in the video to address them.

So what do we do with them? Toxic people? Described what they are but what do u do?

@DocSnipes

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Here is more on the subject: kzread.info1LziPC0M_Zw?feature=share

@SA-px3ln

Жыл бұрын

I know subject it’s just they won’t accept anything u said. Boundaries etc. family the Coninue to abuse hurt mentally verbally they just sat accept it. Or else we kick u out famiky I left but keep asking them stop just be normal yet they live in my head ptsd hurt. Why can’t I let go when they won’t stop trauma bond. How do heal tips?

Hello, your videos are incredible, I’m wondering if you can offer 1-1 chats? I’m desperate for help and have exhausted all help available in the UK. I have childhood trauma from the aged of 5 and 20 years later I’m still suffering immensely. I can’t seem to access your website and would love to get in contact, Best wishes xx

@DocSnipes

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching the video. I am currently not taking new patients. You can email support@allceus.com and we will try to help you. Also, here are the videos on trauma: kzread.infosearch?query=trauma kzread.infosearch?query=ACES

What do you do when a covert narcissist blames YOU for any mood they have but can't tell you that you are exhibiting any behavior that is actually questionable???? What about when they project their self-hatred on you????????? Treat you with disdain and disrespect in a Jekyl/Hyde way?????? SURPRISE ATTACKS OF RAGE!!!!

@DocSnipes

16 күн бұрын

Dealing with a covert narcissist who blames you for their mood swings, projects self-hatred onto you, and exhibits disrespectful behavior can be incredibly challenging. Covert narcissism is characterized by self-focused attention, hypersensitivity to evaluations from others, and an exaggerated sense of self-entitlement. These individuals may also have socially destructive outbursts of anger, which can be difficult to handle in a relationship. Here are some strategies you might consider: Set Boundaries: Clearly define what behaviors you will not tolerate and communicate these boundaries to the narcissist. Be consistent in enforcing them. Stay Calm: Try to remain calm during outbursts of rage. Escalating the situation with your own anger can make things worse. Don't Take It Personally: Remember that their behavior is a reflection of their own issues, not a true assessment of your character. Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist who can provide you with support and perspective. Educate Yourself: Learn more about narcissism to understand the dynamics of your interactions better. Consider Your Options: Reflect on the relationship and whether it is healthy for you to continue in it. Sometimes, distancing yourself or ending the relationship is the best course of action for your well-being. It's important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and that it's okay to prioritize your own mental health. If you're finding these interactions to be too harmful, it may be necessary to seek professional help or consider other changes to your relationship dynamic.