Respecting Husbands - Douglas Wilson | Marriage Seminar

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  • @tobystamps2920
    @tobystamps29203 жыл бұрын

    Wow! This is so needed today. The great majority of pastors won’t even get close to saying the things he is saying. But he’s biblical

  • @nehemiahreginald6810

    @nehemiahreginald6810

    2 жыл бұрын

    you probably dont give a shit but does any of you know of a way to get back into an instagram account..? I stupidly lost the password. I love any help you can offer me!

  • @tylersalvador2437

    @tylersalvador2437

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Nehemiah Reginald instablaster =)

  • @anarchorepublican5954

    @anarchorepublican5954

    2 жыл бұрын

    .......I've heard countless references, sermons, admonitions, and warnings on the Husband's requirement to love wives like Christ...but a clear Biblical discussion of submission, the mass rebellion of women in our Society, remains the third rail, undiscussed, and ignored....

  • @hammerbarca6

    @hammerbarca6

    4 ай бұрын

    Amen!

  • @christophertaylor9100
    @christophertaylor91002 жыл бұрын

    Every single married couple, dating couple, sing person hoping to find love needs to hear, understand, and humbly pray to God to live this.

  • @demetrimattis7959
    @demetrimattis79592 жыл бұрын

    This man has been blessed with Godly wisdom. What an amazing message!

  • @BasedZoomer
    @BasedZoomer2 жыл бұрын

    Darn it, Pastor Wilson! I was trying to listen to this before bed to fall asleep, but you are simply too well spoken and entertaining, so I stayed up through the entire sermon and am not a bit tired! Thank you for the wonderful teaching.

  • @barkerpoe9221
    @barkerpoe92212 жыл бұрын

    So very grateful the LORD has led me here. What a loving Savior.🙏🏻⚔️

  • @centpushups
    @centpushups Жыл бұрын

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. Respect defined with examples.

  • @kkinner2762
    @kkinner27622 жыл бұрын

    Articulate much better than I ever could. Wonderful teaching as always from Doug ☺️

  • @rosagoglia4649
    @rosagoglia4649Ай бұрын

    This was good…. thank you:)

  • @ruhammadaniel560
    @ruhammadaniel5602 жыл бұрын

    I love this. So thankful for it being put into words. 🙏 I think what we also need to do is communicate what to do when a husband (or wife) is thinking on a less motivated less loving, and more worldly level than the other spouse.

  • @whitney2280
    @whitney22803 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! This is great teaching when in our day very few are saying this!

  • @ChristKirk

    @ChristKirk

    3 жыл бұрын

    Blessings!

  • @christinegohlke3380
    @christinegohlke33802 жыл бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @barkerpoe9221
    @barkerpoe92212 жыл бұрын

    🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻so helpfully stewarding

  • @MrsJMW
    @MrsJMW9 ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @anthonybardsley4985
    @anthonybardsley49853 жыл бұрын

    Lots of women today don't respect as they should. Glad to be single. No marriage is better than a bad one.

  • @christophertaylor9100

    @christophertaylor9100

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lots of men don't love as they should, either.

  • @evertonporter7887

    @evertonporter7887

    2 жыл бұрын

    We should all be honest before God and ask ourselves WHY we really want to marry! If we men are honest, we want a wife to fulfil our desires, satisfy our needs and for our own sexual gratification. And if women are honest, they want to marry a man for the security and material comforts he can provide her. Both need to repent and look to the biblical model of marriage for both men and women.

  • @holinessofthebride1935

    @holinessofthebride1935

    6 ай бұрын

    There are still good women out there. Many are even former feminists who learned the truth. Do not dismiss the importance of finding a wife. It is very joyful and fulfilling when we do it God's way.

  • @samanthafischer6995

    @samanthafischer6995

    25 күн бұрын

    And plenty of men don’t lead and sacrificially love the way they should. It’s cyclical not one sided. That’s why you seek out a good god fearing partner and both put God first ❤

  • @kentfrederick8929
    @kentfrederick89293 жыл бұрын

    Husbands and wives should be free to offer constructive criticism, and accept it. My problem was that my parents, rather than discuss what the other did that was annoying, would tell me. But, neither one of them wanted me to pass along the criticism. Here's the funny thing. My mother's criticism of my father was somewhat valid, but not as bad as she thought. My father's criticisms were off base.

  • @ClassicalProtestant
    @ClassicalProtestant2 жыл бұрын

    Nailed it.

  • @flexforchrist11
    @flexforchrist113 жыл бұрын

    The first part was so edifying- is there a way to ask Doug a question directly? I have a few regarding this series

  • @ChristKirk

    @ChristKirk

    3 жыл бұрын

    Go to dougwils.com and at the bottom of his homepage you can submit questions. They are usually answered in his weekly letters blog post.

  • @gandalfthegrey2171

    @gandalfthegrey2171

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Titus Finnegan nobody cares

  • @jamesbuchanan3888
    @jamesbuchanan38882 жыл бұрын

    Going along with his metaphor... Using the correct currency may be critical. Some people are incapable of recognizing effort and commitment if it comes in a currency they do not recognize.

  • @igamesaintsaintification1839
    @igamesaintsaintification183910 ай бұрын

    Lots of great stuff! He got the hunger/hamburger analogy a little confused though. It's almost like he tried to avoid saying you have to show it. Talk is cheap and words really don't mean much because people can say anything for any reason. What he should have said was, for example, when you're telling the husband what you respect about him, then therefore go and show it. Because you're not going to go around saying what you respect every second everyday, you're going to need to show it everyday and that is where the rubber meets the road therefore enhancing the marriage and putting it where it needs to be because like I said you're not going to go around every 2 minutes saying 'I respect you, I respect you, I like you doing this', that's silly, you can do it more but that's not real life to do it every second. And Doug didn't advocate to do it every second but that's where this conversation would lead. The point is, to show it, and all parties have to do their respective job by showing it, demonstrating it. And, using the same example, showing respect is very specific, there is a myriad of things that show disrespect so those would be the things not to do-😉

  • @rolandparfenovics5250
    @rolandparfenovics52503 жыл бұрын

    From Australia well articulated Doug in this vital area of marriage and assuming both are committed Biblical Creationist Christians. It is vital be equally voked under the Lordship of Christ. As Christ says His yoke is easy and the ideal for both a wife and husband. It all goes back to the real history in Genesis. Adam was standing next to Eve when she was being deceived and manipulated by Satan the talking serpent in the Garden of Eden. Why didn’t he intervene ? Adam would have taught Eve the only restriction of the only tree they should not eat from. They both walked in the cool of the afternoon walking and talking with God. The pre incarnate Christ.

  • @cindychristman8708

    @cindychristman8708

    2 жыл бұрын

    The Garden of Eden story makes more sense if Yahweh was 'Satan' (the deceiver) and the serpent was telling the truth. It's all right there in the text if you read it without preconceived motives.

  • @evertonporter7887

    @evertonporter7887

    2 жыл бұрын

    Guess I won't be a good catch as I'm a socially conservative, straight male old age creationist Christian 😥

  • @masfw2012
    @masfw2012 Жыл бұрын

    30:46 I give my husband notes that say I love him, be safe, etc, and he tapes them into his lunchbox, etc. Why would I assume to stop doing that?

  • @RebekkaMH13

    @RebekkaMH13

    3 ай бұрын

    We don't have to stop loving in order to start respecting. Both would be the goal, but loving comes more easily to us. Hence the love notes. It is not wrong for your husband to appreciate them. However, it makes sense to take special care to practice respect since that comes less naturally. And since the Bible calls wives specifically to respect their husbands, respect notes might be a good idea. The husband might appreciate them, too.

  • @anarchorepublican5954
    @anarchorepublican59542 жыл бұрын

    ....The Rarest of Sermons:...I've heard countless references, sermons, admonitions, and warnings on the Husband's requirement to love wives like Christ...but a clear Biblical discussion of the mass rebellion of wives in our Society, remains the third rail, undiscussed, and ignored....Pastor Doug Wilson excepted...

  • @edbenjamin5136
    @edbenjamin51362 жыл бұрын

    The issue of Sara obeying is not as clear cut as pastor makes out. In Genesis 21 Abraham and Sara disagreed, and God told Abraham to listen to his wife, though Abraham was aggrieved, and do what she said. There is a mutual submission in the marriage (Ephesians 5:21); both are called to be servants first (Matthew 20:26). That is Christ's example. This is why Peter qualifies his statement to underscore "doing what is right", speaking directly to wives, contrary to the cultural practice. By no means should a woman obey a man if he is leading her into sin or abuse. To be equally yoked, husband and wife need to pull together always under the authority of Christ. I also disagree that obey is the most important word - it should be love just like the greatest commandments, to love God first and love your neighbor (read your spouse) as yourself. As an aside, I cannot imagine a worse thing to say than to tell a woman she is stupid for marrying her husband - that right there divorce-making. She'll correct that mistake right quick if all the fault is placed at her doorstep as pastor seems to do.

  • @michaellautermilch9185

    @michaellautermilch9185

    Жыл бұрын

    Mutual submission in marriage is a misreading of Ephesians 5:21. Id recommend you look at the original language and draw your own conclusions.

  • @edbenjamin5136

    @edbenjamin5136

    Жыл бұрын

    @@michaellautermilch9185 Already did and it is not a misreading. The term is: hypotassomenoi. The passages thereafter on marriage are predicated on this term. Ephesians 5:22 does not contain the term and so must refer back to 21.

  • @winstonsol8713

    @winstonsol8713

    15 күн бұрын

    I can’t speak to your first criticism, but in regard to the second, Doug contextualized his point very clearly. I’d repeat what he said, but it would be impossible for me to be clearer than he was. To be frank his contextualization was so explicit and clear I wonder whether you need to listen again (just to that portion). If you remember it clearly, it’s possible you underserved your argument (making it difficult to know what you’re driving at)…because otherwise, I think Doug would agree with you. If your destination is Seattle and you’re starting in New York, of course west is the most important direction, but people make wrong turns, and course correction requires emphasis on the thing you fell short of. If you keep driving west in a hay field instead of course correcting back to the interstate, you’re going to have problems. You have to go west…but you can’t ignore the details, and some details become paramount.

  • @JR-rs5qs
    @JR-rs5qs2 жыл бұрын

    15:25 come on now...in today's feminist world, this is just not true. Wilson is a boomer so he's probably not faced with the same challenges younger people are in this regard. Godly younger men are constantly smashing up against the feminist tendencies of their wives.

  • @mchristr

    @mchristr

    Жыл бұрын

    Modern feminism had its roots in the 1950's and began to flourish in the 1960's. I'm a recently divorced Boomer because I married a woman (my mistake) who looked to be a Christian but was thoroughly captured by Disney romanticism and a subtle but destructive feminism. A young husband can love and cherish the feminism out of his wife. Get to it.

  • @rachelbolze1397
    @rachelbolze13972 жыл бұрын

    That is a miss interpretation of what is meant by the word obey in the verse from 1st Peter. If you look at the Bible, we don't have one single example of Sarah obeying Abraham in a way that was righteous. She only ever obeyed him when he was telling her to sin, which was of course wrong for her to do. There is however one example of how Sarah obeyed God alongside of Abraham in leaving her home and starting off on a journey to the promise land. This is the closest the Bible gets to saying that Sarah obeyed Abraham in a righteous way, and the point is actually her obedience of the Lord. In the context in 1st Peter the wives are being called to follow Sarah Example By obeying the Lord in the difficult situation of staying married to a man who is not a believer. It's important to do more exegesis very carefully. Otherwise biblicistic interpretations can actually lead us to a conclusion that does not adhere to what the rest of scripture says and teaches. When we look to what Word in the Greek is constantly used in the New Testament to instruct wives, it is the word for submission, which is a different word from the word that is used for obey once speaking to children. We have to make sure that we remember the actual word that the Bible uses, and not insert a different word.

  • @toddcote4904

    @toddcote4904

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hmmm 🤔

  • @tripnc1374

    @tripnc1374

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Rachel Bolze what a wonderful response. It is so refreshing to see someone who is genuinely listening AND thinking scripturaly about what is being taught, like the Bereans. I also has the same issue with his teaching here and also that he went outside the Bible for his context. Note: I do not want my husband to bring flowers or jewelry ect. If you stick with scripture your not going g to pull sermons from your cultural knowledge but from the wisdom of God.

  • @toddcote4904

    @toddcote4904

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@tripnc1374 No, it's not wonderful. It's deceitful because it's the same Greek word used in Ephesians 6:1 "children obey" as 1 Peter 3:6 "Sarah obeyed". The word is: Strong's G5219 - hypakouō And means: to harken to a command to obey, be obedient to, submit to She lied.

  • @addisonferguson8871
    @addisonferguson887111 ай бұрын

    a wife is not called to obey her husband but scripture teaches for wives to submit. and husbands must love and lead their wives not love and command.

  • @holinessofthebride1935

    @holinessofthebride1935

    6 ай бұрын

    Incorrect. Wives are called to obey their husbands in Scripture. That is a part of submission by definition. If you do not obey, you are not submitting. Husbands command their wives, which is a natural part of leading them, since people in authority give commands. Those under authority obey commands. It's not hard to understand.

  • @addisonferguson8871

    @addisonferguson8871

    5 ай бұрын

    @@holinessofthebride1935however, obedience is something we are commanded to do. we do not have a choice, in marriage a women chooses to submit herself to her husband.

  • @holinessofthebride1935

    @holinessofthebride1935

    5 ай бұрын

    @@addisonferguson8871 It is good to submit whole heartedly, but submission is commanded, as is obedience. Submission is the richer concept of being under authority, and obedience is the simple act of obeying, which certainly is contained in the former concept. The wife chooses to submit at her wedding, and that is continual for life, as it goes along with the marriage. Certainly, submission should be with sincerity, but she needs to do it either way.

  • @ericjames7819

    @ericjames7819

    2 ай бұрын

    Christ chastises his church. Husbands are commanded to love their wives the same way as Christ.

  • @JRRodriguez-nu7po
    @JRRodriguez-nu7po2 ай бұрын

    Like every sermon and commentary I hace seen/read, this interpretation of Gen 3 is wrong. There's no record of who told the woman (who was not yet called Eve) not to eat OR TOUCH the forbidden fruit. Scripturally, what's not written, is not law. Christ was very clear that the "traditions of men" need not obeyed. Also, the woman was not commanded to obey her husband until after the fall. Therefore, there was no legally binding command on the woman. Therefore, the women was deceived but by whom? Think about it. Second, because the woman didn't TECHNICALLY sin, her lineage was free of original sin. This is the reason for the virgin birth. Sin is inherited from the father. 3- The woman though did sin, against the law written on ger heart, but that's not why she fell and died. She became a sinner and subject to death for the same reasons that all creation did: the fall if Adam. This didn't/did sin is the typical paradoxical tension found throughout Scripture. 4- the woman was named by Adam after the fall. Scripturally you name what you own. 5- Adam might have eaten "out of desperation" or... because he saw the woman did not die. More I could write, but this is enough to get you to think. If you think God commanded the woman not to eat the fruit, then where did "don't touch" come from? I suggest that the Pharisee/Nehemiah error of adding to God's word with goid intentions was there in the garden before the serpent . Yes, there's no proof, and much of this is argument from silence but think.

  • @nattamused9074
    @nattamused9074 Жыл бұрын

    So what do you have to say to the Esthers who married hot dog venders? It’s your word picture, not mine. Surely we all recognize the sovereignty of God Almighty even in cases like these? So what then? How about a word of encouragement for women who have gotten themselves into a mess like this until death does them part. I’ll add that again, in the Lord’s sovereignty, there ARE instances where a young woman found herself very naïvely giving herself in marriage to a man who has no aptitude for being a good husband and father, without the benefit of 25 people warning her against it. Thanks to generations of “Smile! Jesus Loves You!” dogma, many young ladies believe they can marry the first guy dumb enough to marry them, and trust Jesus to fix everything down the line.

  • @ericjames7819

    @ericjames7819

    2 ай бұрын

    This whole "hot dog vendor advice" is his personal reasoning and is not found in the Bible.

  • @aaronwind67
    @aaronwind673 жыл бұрын

    Biblical hypergamy

  • @lwacc
    @lwacc10 ай бұрын

    What does it mean by a wife obeying a husband? What are the practical applications in this day and age? Example, should she obey him in financial matters and what if she is also an independent income earner and a better investor than him? In the past, women were submissive to their husbands and (maybe mothers-in-law too) because truth be told, they depend on their husbands for food, clothes and lodging. But nowadays, a Christian woman can also have her career, afford to own a home by herself and have savings. (And if anyone is to say a woman shouldn't work, her husband should take care of her, she should have babies and stay at home, I say to this person, wake up. You are not living in the 18th century.) What if this woman is to marry, what would be the relationship dynamics between her husband and her? Is this man to come into her life and start dictating that she has to obey him...perhaps on how she spends her money, when she can meet her friends for a meal etc etc? So, what does it mean to obey a husband??

  • @holinessofthebride1935

    @holinessofthebride1935

    6 ай бұрын

    Wives are to obey their husbands in all things, according to Scripture, except for sin. It means she does what he tells her.

  • @ericjames7819

    @ericjames7819

    2 ай бұрын

    Just read what it says. "I'm everything". You may not like that, but that's what it says. The entire descent of culture, politics, economics, etc into emotion based decision making is the result of women not obeying men.

  • @JohnJakeWilliam
    @JohnJakeWilliam3 жыл бұрын

    Dear sir, we are the temple of God. Not only spiritually speaking but also physically. He purchased our whole being. Instruction for you, dear sir. You're grossly overweight, please get your health under control and then perhaps you can instruct others. The Spirit is convicting you because of your lack of obedience regarding your weight. .... blessings!

  • @maximobabbo2512

    @maximobabbo2512

    3 жыл бұрын

    Matthew 7:3-5

  • @snowviolet508

    @snowviolet508

    3 жыл бұрын

    Rude. And what does the Bible say about rudeness?

  • @orgullosamentemexicana952

    @orgullosamentemexicana952

    3 жыл бұрын

    The bible does talk about gluttony but it's not exclusively speaking about overeating. What I do see and more extensively in the Bible is the use of our tongue and what it reveals about our heart and it's deadly effects. I would encourage you to take out the log in ur own eye before pointing out the speck in ur brother's eye! Wow, where is the love and grace and honor we owe each other???

  • @DS-ll5fn

    @DS-ll5fn

    3 жыл бұрын

    For lack of Biblical argument against his teachings you are attacking his person and looks! This disqualifies you totally! Maybe you need to humble yourself and look inwards!

  • @crystalgaylemyi7480

    @crystalgaylemyi7480

    3 жыл бұрын

    Very mean spirited man. Rude and misbehave.

  • @duncescotus2342
    @duncescotus23423 жыл бұрын

    Why don't you respect your husband, Jesus? He died so we wouldn't have to be a bunch of legalists. He gave us the Holy Spirit. Well he technically asked the Father who then gave the Spirit. We don't want to piss off the Orthodox, you know the Filioque and all.

  • @elib9002
    @elib90022 жыл бұрын

    Yes and no. A woman is to obey her father until her father gives her to another man. If the father is not there then she obeys her eldest brother or who ever the eldest man in her family is. If you want to do God way you need to do god's way.

  • @thomascrown4994

    @thomascrown4994

    2 жыл бұрын

    What is your scriptural basis for this?

  • @oleandra3759

    @oleandra3759

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes, yes, your penis makes you wise and worthy 😂

  • @jackflap57
    @jackflap57 Жыл бұрын

    Society will continue to evolve irrespective of this man’s anchor of superstition. Your “book” is increasingly irrelevant. So much in this clip to agree with and so much to dispute. Douglas Wilson is a force for sincerity, for traditional family, but not for future. Douglas Wilson knows his religion is dying in the advanced nations, he knows less educated nations are still under these superstitions and he’s sad for it. I wonder if he realizes that his message, minus bigoted local religion, can, to a degree, still be relevant. Be with another human you love if that is your desire, be nice to other people, do good in some strangers life and surround your children love, protection and appreciation for the world around us without superstitious myths that can’t stand up to scrutiny. Many religions, the first one with evidence wins.

  • @mchristr

    @mchristr

    Жыл бұрын

    Perhaps you've conflated technological progress with societal evolution. Societies evolve when individuals are confronted with their cosmic treason, repent of their rebellion, and flee to the Cross of Christ for atonement, and adoption into God's family. Only then will a society "progress', marriage by marriage, family by family, community by community.