Requiem - Coping With the Loss of a Parent | Adeline Woltkamp | TEDxValenciaHighSchool

Losing a beloved parent as a teenager feels like your whole world is crashing down, making it difficult to connect to certain aspects of the way your life was before. Loss can be all-consuming, compartamentalized, or pain you learn to live with - true grief is different for everyone. But for everyone, it CAN be difficult to re-establish your groove with acquaintances, friends, and loved ones once your perspective shifts and your life is changing. This talk touches upon reaching out and relying on the love and support of people and communities, in whatever form it may come, during difficult periods. This TEDx talk is dedicated to Anthony Woltkamp, who passed away on October 20, 2018.
Cancer Communication Community Compassion Death Emotions Empathy Family Health Life Memory Mental health Pain Parenting Relationships Self-help Adeline Woltkamp is a senior in the International Baccalaureate program at Valencia, a Tiger Tutor as part of the National Honor Society, as well as a member of the Valencia Tiger Regiment marching and jazz bands (she was Drum Major!). Her hobbies include reading, writing, listening to music, and telling herself she’ll only watch one more episode of Jane the Virgin but then watching six because they all end on cliffhangers. She would like to thank Mrs. Filowitz for having her back no matter what and working to make this experience possible. She would also like to thank her family for supporting her on her educational journey and throughout everything she does. Adeline’s TEDx talk is dedicated to her father, Anthony Woltkamp, who passed away on October 20, 2018. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @gabedove5207
    @gabedove52073 жыл бұрын

    Lost my dad almost one month ago. Still doesn’t feel real. To those of you who unfortunately relate, I’m so sorry. We will get through this. Head up folks

  • @marijanab.292

    @marijanab.292

    3 жыл бұрын

    I lost my dad a month ago. I know how you feel. Sorry for your loss. 🙏😥

  • @solsburyhill2093

    @solsburyhill2093

    3 жыл бұрын

    I feel your pain its hurts so bad

  • @raviraushan3435

    @raviraushan3435

    3 жыл бұрын

    Can we talk each other..m feeling same...even guilty...7903021227

  • @gabedove5207

    @gabedove5207

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@raviraushan3435 you okay?

  • @solsburyhill2093

    @solsburyhill2093

    3 жыл бұрын

    Just heartbreaking

  • @BrendanMannix
    @BrendanMannix11 ай бұрын

    I lost my Dad to cancer at 18; I just lost my mother this Mother’s Day to cancer - she was 60. For those of you who are also here for the same pain - I wish I could hug each one of you. May this pain get better for all of us.

  • @TonyBBQ

    @TonyBBQ

    10 ай бұрын

    hope youre doing ok man. keep your head up

  • @cassandradavidson9077

    @cassandradavidson9077

    10 ай бұрын

    Oh no I am so sorry

  • @yvonneshanson1525

    @yvonneshanson1525

    8 ай бұрын

    For my mom, lost her 25 days ago.. I'm wearing her wedding ring, which has today's date 9/25, i cant stop crying + hurting..😢 I'm sending you the biggest hug

  • @TsewangChozom

    @TsewangChozom

    8 ай бұрын

    Sending you lots of hugs❤

  • @EAM43

    @EAM43

    6 ай бұрын

    Lost my mom about 3 weeks ago. She was diagnosed and passed in only 7months. She was only 64 years old. We are devastated, we watched her suffer greatly and it’s so hard to get those images out of our heads. I struggle because we had so much hope she was going to live, she had a stem cell transplant with a 100% sibling Match. Even the doctors were so confident in her odds. Then she took a turn and ended up in ICU for a month unresponsive. Then she passed. I know time heals but right now I feel like I will never know joy again. I try to push myself because I know that’s what my mom wanted, her worst fear was she would pass and we all would never heal from it. So I owe it to her to be strong now and try to cope the best I can and try to find joy in my life.

  • @cheeseizgod
    @cheeseizgod Жыл бұрын

    Lost my dad 7 weeks ago and am still in shock. It’s the worst pain I’ve ever felt in my life.

  • @Elhastezy888

    @Elhastezy888

    Жыл бұрын

    My sincere condolences💓very sorry prayers for your healing 🙏🏻 many many blessings 🐬

  • @balateroedelyn2797

    @balateroedelyn2797

    Жыл бұрын

    I Lost my father 😢

  • @Extroverted.

    @Extroverted.

    11 ай бұрын

    Mary I saw your video, all the photos are so precious. Im so happy that you all have so many pictures of him and for who he was. Im sorry for your lost and may he rest in peace. He was a very cool dad. He is watching over you, always. He is your angel.

  • @cindysanchez7929

    @cindysanchez7929

    5 ай бұрын

    Lost my dad this past April- my heart truly is broken

  • @JB23669

    @JB23669

    4 ай бұрын

    How are you doing now ?

  • @stealth6375
    @stealth6375 Жыл бұрын

    My father passed. I am 17. Condolences to all who went through this grieving

  • @johnwilliam9954

    @johnwilliam9954

    Жыл бұрын

    Same . Father passed away. I am also 17. Hope things get better and that maybe one day I will meet him again.

  • @derp1237

    @derp1237

    Жыл бұрын

    16 year old here who lost his dad today, ik how you feel

  • @kristina7901

    @kristina7901

    Жыл бұрын

    Hugs to all of you. I lost my dad in 2021.

  • @annie9855

    @annie9855

    Жыл бұрын

    I’m a mom of a teenager. I am so sorry to hear hear of the 3 boys on this comment losing their dads. I’m sending you a big hug. Stay strong. My mom who just passed kept telling me that. ❤

  • @solli2330

    @solli2330

    Жыл бұрын

    my dad died when i was 17, too. i'm 19 now. the pain didn't go away, but i learned to live with it. it taught me to take care of myself and others and to stay soft in a bitter world. i can still feel my dad around me. know what he would say to things, and i still talk to him a lot. he's still here, just different.

  • @jermstah
    @jermstah4 жыл бұрын

    my dad died a few hours ago i can’t stop crying i feel so lost edit: thank you for all the kind words, it means to world to me. it’s been almost 7 month since my dad passed away and it was extremely hard to go out through my days without crying and reminiscing on the beautiful memories we had together. it’s gotten a little easier to live from day to day but the void is still very much there.

  • @henrylai7289

    @henrylai7289

    4 жыл бұрын

    Stay strong

  • @aaikesantens1744

    @aaikesantens1744

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hey, I hope you are okay, you're very strong. Please remember that❤

  • @ashleyaguilar8343

    @ashleyaguilar8343

    3 жыл бұрын

    How are you ?

  • @caratjoy8586

    @caratjoy8586

    3 жыл бұрын

    Big Papi rest in peace 😭 be strong

  • @dreamkettle2855

    @dreamkettle2855

    3 жыл бұрын

    same

  • @cryptcr3ature81
    @cryptcr3ature814 жыл бұрын

    My mother passed away yesterday. It was quick and gentle, but the loss I feel is undescribable. I'm happy she's free and my heart is at peace, but she was like my best friend and I feel like I'm missing half of myself. Nights are the worst because that was our time, as we were both night owls and that was our time to chit chat and bond. I was her caretaker during her illness, by her side day and night and was there as she passed. I feel so lost now.

  • @nischalatm2467

    @nischalatm2467

    3 жыл бұрын

    sameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee here :(((

  • @justjemiah

    @justjemiah

    3 жыл бұрын

    We share the same situation. I lost my mom aug 14th. She was my everything. When you seen her, you seen me. It’s a tough loss that will never heal. Stay strong my friend. 🙏🏾

  • @victoriaegan602

    @victoriaegan602

    3 жыл бұрын

    I can relate, my mom died a little over a week ago. And I don't know what I'm doing. I was her caretaker majority of my life and was the one trying to revive her as she passed. No one can understand it because each person had a different relationship with her due to her illnesses. But I loved her so much and I have no idea what the right thing to do is now. I'm on antidepressants, trying so hard everyday just to not kill myself, and I talk to friends and family but nothing feels like it's making any difference. And as the days have gone it's gotten easier I think. But I just want to quit my job and cry. My husband and I lived with her and my dad. She and I were the only ones at home majority of the days because I'm working from home and now I'm all alone most of my day.

  • @priyamvadaparihar9479

    @priyamvadaparihar9479

    3 жыл бұрын

    So much strength to u all ♥..my heart cries reading this all

  • @amethyst1267

    @amethyst1267

    3 жыл бұрын

    I had the same relationship with my mom and was her caretaker too, she passed recently and it hurts. I wish you well!

  • @brianna094
    @brianna0943 жыл бұрын

    I lost my dad 13 years ago and his loss affects me more now than it ever did before. The day after he passed, we were cleaning out his truck... in the cupholder was the fortune cookie that he refused to open (days prior when our family went out to dinner). I insisted that he open it at the restaurant but he kept it instead. I opened it the day after his passing, it read: You Are Heading to a Land of Sunshine

  • @vvvJake

    @vvvJake

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sorry for your loss. Mine passed away a few days ago.

  • @stephb1010

    @stephb1010

    2 жыл бұрын

    I feel u! lost my mum ten years ago. The pain has always been here, but I feel just now it hits really hard....I started meditating to meet her every day, it helps a lot to deal with the pain

  • @emilyshai

    @emilyshai

    Жыл бұрын

    Wow 😔❤️ that’s beautiful. Sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in May of this year. We got this

  • @Elhastezy888

    @Elhastezy888

    Жыл бұрын

    WoW 💗 Thank you for sharing.🙏🏻 extremely touching..... I may not ever think of fortune cookies the same way again. I can only imagine it's tenfold for you💓 this helped me today💫 many many blessings

  • @LeeLee-kk1qu

    @LeeLee-kk1qu

    Жыл бұрын

    Is it still hard after 13 years?

  • @steveolson599
    @steveolson5993 жыл бұрын

    My father passed away last night I am going to miss him so much

  • @pierobernini5964

    @pierobernini5964

    3 жыл бұрын

    My father passed away on dec 11 2020.

  • @pierobernini5964

    @pierobernini5964

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@erikmeseke atleast you know it's coming.

  • @pierobernini5964

    @pierobernini5964

    3 жыл бұрын

    @scar lol that's wild. My dad passed a day before same age.

  • @jun-ki

    @jun-ki

    3 жыл бұрын

    You will reunite with him again eventually. May god bless you.

  • @aaronnieves4371

    @aaronnieves4371

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@JustYourAverageMom. i am only 15 but almost every night i cry thinking of life without my parents being there. calling out for my dad just to hear no response and not being able to hug him goodnight and say goodmorning every day.

  • @matthew10alexander
    @matthew10alexander2 жыл бұрын

    My mom passed away 2 days ago. I love her. I miss her. I’d do anything to see her again. But I never will. This is the worst thing I’ve ever felt I love her so much.

  • @Kokomiii
    @Kokomiii3 жыл бұрын

    My dad’s death happened so quick and out of nowhere. I still can’t believe he’s gone forever. He had so many years in front of him. And we currently don’t know the cause of his death yet. I don’t want to live anymore. I was already at a low point in my life, and now I don’t even know what to do with myself anymore.

  • @WatchHWuMove24

    @WatchHWuMove24

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’m so sorry for your lost stay strong and keep moving forward in dedication of the one you lost 😢

  • @somayaghalib4273

    @somayaghalib4273

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same thing happened to me today will get through this ❤❤❤

  • @VampireQueenBrittany

    @VampireQueenBrittany

    3 жыл бұрын

    I am in the same situation... I pray we heal.

  • @Jaglicic1

    @Jaglicic1

    2 жыл бұрын

    I really hope you're feeling better

  • @maya-jg2lg

    @maya-jg2lg

    2 жыл бұрын

    i am feeling the exact same way. my dads been gone for 3 days and i just cant say that out loud because it feels like a lie to admit he's gone. he was my best friend and i feel that living without him until the end of my life is impossible. im 19 and to think i die at the average age sounds so painful to live away from him for so long. im ready to go now and to be with him again. how are you getting through it?

  • @AleQuag
    @AleQuag3 жыл бұрын

    My dad is not only dying, he is also dying slowly and painfully. He is at the terminal stage of a pulmonary disease and it's killing me to see him suffering everyday. He doesn't deserve to die like this. He is such a good man. Life can be very cruel.

  • @arshag14

    @arshag14

    3 жыл бұрын

    I wish you all the strength in the world do you and your loved ones. You will get through this!

  • @AleQuag

    @AleQuag

    3 жыл бұрын

    My dad just died. He is finally resting in peace. He isn't suffering anymore but now my pain is immense. I miss you dad. I love you dad. Rest in peace dad.

  • @discoveroldsongs6383

    @discoveroldsongs6383

    Жыл бұрын

    Im in the same boat right now as you were a year ago, it is so painful

  • @divyankdixit4344

    @divyankdixit4344

    Жыл бұрын

    @@AleQuag I m 24 and in the same shoes. Is there a way to connect with you bro

  • @thegreatestofthemall9942
    @thegreatestofthemall99423 жыл бұрын

    Lost my dad this morning, i have in my entire life never met someone as sweet and pure, he never lied, stole, or did anything wrong to someone else, cancer took him, may he rest in peace forever and evermore

  • @LookWithin777

    @LookWithin777

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hugs

  • @thegreatestofthemall9942

    @thegreatestofthemall9942

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@LookWithin777 thanks 😔

  • @dannym631

    @dannym631

    3 жыл бұрын

    I lost my dad last week to heart failure. I feel so lost without him.

  • @soulrarity9890

    @soulrarity9890

    2 жыл бұрын

    Bless you

  • @thegreatestofthemall9942

    @thegreatestofthemall9942

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@soulrarity9890 bless you too, may you're dad rest in peace 🕊️

  • @caramellliiii5135
    @caramellliiii5135 Жыл бұрын

    My dad passed a few hours ago, it feels so unreal

  • @kristinawhittington2798

    @kristinawhittington2798

    Жыл бұрын

    My heart goes out to you. My mom passed in her sleep last night and I came to hear some comfort. This pain is worse than I ever could have imagined.

  • @susanborchert1164

    @susanborchert1164

    Жыл бұрын

    My mom passed 8 hours ago and I’m devastated and feel like I’ll never be able to go on.

  • @lamelo3998

    @lamelo3998

    Жыл бұрын

    Mine passed away just a little over a day ago. He was my source of strength and confidence. I can’t imagine how I’d live life w/out my number 1 fan and supporter.

  • @hindustaniyodha9023

    @hindustaniyodha9023

    Жыл бұрын

    @@kristinawhittington2798 My father passed away 2 days ago and it feels so unreal. I didn't cry when I last saw my father and during is cremation because of my mother and sister, if I had been crying at that moment my mother and sisters health would have deteriorated so I didn't cry. But now I feel as if I should have cried when I had the chance because it feels as if I'm going to have a hole within me for rest of my life.

  • @Overholser

    @Overholser

    Жыл бұрын

    It's been a little over a month since my father passed. I am honestly struggling still. I know it's going to take time and of course I have good days. I keep looking up videos on how to cope. Miss you pop. Stay strong everyone. I know I am trying

  • @Mikenactor
    @Mikenactor6 ай бұрын

    Lost my mum in 2021, I have allot of respect for the speaker, you can tell she's still grieving but she kept her composure. Very brave.

  • @solaronsticks-3444
    @solaronsticks-3444 Жыл бұрын

    Lost my dad at 15, Just turned 18 a month ago. Trust me when i say It never gets easier, but you just have to keep going.

  • @StreamerShowreel

    @StreamerShowreel

    10 ай бұрын

    Stay strong. I know just what you mean

  • @wouldyourather1922
    @wouldyourather19222 жыл бұрын

    I woke up this morning (March 9th, 2022), to find out that my father had passed. I cried for hours, and many people came to mourn with me and my brothers. I didn't go to school that day, and it didn't feel real, but I know I will see him someday. I didn't realize it until he was gone, but he was the most major person in my life, and he guided me through everything. He was so kind, patient, successful, and he never did anything wrong. Life will never be the same without him. He died in his sleep, and it was unexpected. I am only 12 years old, and my two younger brothers are 7, and 9, so they don't quite understand. Maybe I don't either. All I know is that he is in a good place.

  • @a_asquare1298

    @a_asquare1298

    5 ай бұрын

    Does time make the pain go away?

  • @helena5980
    @helena59803 жыл бұрын

    my mom, and only parent, died 2 weeks ago. I’m still in shock

  • @cdb5001

    @cdb5001

    3 жыл бұрын

    It sucks, I know how you feel. People will say stay strong and blah blah. All I can say is that it sucks and what worked for me was accepting the loss. I spent my whole life fearing the loss of my parents and now that it's happened, I have learned to stop running away from it and accepted it. I feel good some days and lonely and depressed others. I accept it all. I also did something very different than when my Dad passed; I decided to stop being an atheist. Too many strange things happened after my Mother passed for me to believe they were coincidences. I truly believe that she is not with me in body but her spirit lives on, and that she watches over us and I will see her again one day. This has brought me much more peace and acceptance. I wish you the best in this journey. It sucks, but the truth is, it will happen to everyone.

  • @sweetsupernova631

    @sweetsupernova631

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@cdb5001 so sorry for your loss. I struggle so much with having faith, belief if God/afterlife. what exactly opened your mind to the idea? I want to believe in something because I have come to understand if all there is to life is death/loss/mourning, we are living in a bleak and hopeless existence. I feel like I am not strong enough to survive that

  • @cdb5001

    @cdb5001

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@sweetsupernova631 hi! Thanks for the kind words. Hard to explain, it's been a series of events. My Mother was always a more "in your face" in a good way, personality. I feel her presence more so than my Dad, which is a reflection of his more quiet, stoic personality in life, though he also loved me very much. I've also seen a medium a few times. Not a John Edwards "is there someone with an M in their name", type. A serious medium who doesn't cold read and doesn't ask questions. She spoke only facts and asked no questions. And everything she said was true. My Mom basically spoke thru her and believe it or not, helped me find answers to where certain documents and legal processes were. Aside from that, I was awoken by my Mother one night, because the water had been left on (watermain was serviced, no water the whole day). I had left the kitchen sink on to see when we would have water again, this was at my Mother's house, as we were staying there to prepare for the service. I was asleep, dreaming and suddenly, through my dream, my Mother appeared to me and shook me awake. Can't explain it, other than it felt and smelt like her. I had the feeling I should go downstairs and when I did, I heard the faucet shooting water out full blast against stacked dishes in the sink, and wetting the floor. This was exactly something my Mother would have been on top of in life, as she was a little ocd with house affairs. I would not have heard the water from upstairs and she woke me up specifically to deal with it and as an "I'm here with you" gesture. There's more, but I'll leave it there for now. Instinctually, I just feel I know there's more to this life now. I was a card carrying skeptic and atheist-leaning agnostic but I feel more assured and aware of things now. I can't tell you I know for sure that there is more after death, but I feel a very strong 75% positive there is. And that number, for me, is hard to refute. Cheers.

  • @gun1987gunn
    @gun1987gunn3 жыл бұрын

    My dad died today. I've never cried so much. I'm devastated

  • @akc1739
    @akc17392 жыл бұрын

    Reading all these comments help so much. I feel very alone in my grief, but reading everyone’s feelings reminds me we really are one human family, and none of us is really alone. It just may feel like it sometimes. I lost my mom 2/1/22. Rest in power, MamaLama. You were the best mom/friend/life coach/cheerleader anyone could have. I will always love and miss you ❤️

  • @danijela1631

    @danijela1631

    Жыл бұрын

    So sorry for your loss🙏 my mom doesn't have much time left due to her illness unfortunately. How are you doing 11 months later? Has grief gotten any easier?

  • @akc1739

    @akc1739

    Жыл бұрын

    @@danijela1631 Very sweet of you to ask. I am taking it one day at a time. Many days are not easy, but the sting of it softens more often than not, now. For a while I could hardly breathe. I wish I’d known how to prepare for this more. I wish I wasn’t so panicked at her bedside so I could have been more of a comfort to her. Hold your Mama close. I’m glad you still have her with you. Sending a hug 🤗

  • @Dineskii

    @Dineskii

    Жыл бұрын

    I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom suddenly on 4/28/2023. For some reason, reading these comments help me so much as well. My siblings and I are in shambles and I am trying so hard to stay strong, especially for my Dad, who lost his best friend/wife. She was only 40. RIL Mama, you were the rock of our family & left way too soon. I miss you so much. My condolences to everyone and sending prayers for all of you to get through these tough times🙏🙏

  • @TOKITO_422

    @TOKITO_422

    9 ай бұрын

    Well ,I cannot relate to the death of your mother with sadness. But I have something important to say. You know how it feels at the loss of a parent. But the fact that someone regards this as a "change in life" and relies on other people to get comfort without relying on God. Not even thinks about praying for the loss of a parent. Its like they ignore the death by allowing friends to calm them down. It feels very very weird. If I am wrong anyhow could you explain?

  • @SoxArizona
    @SoxArizona26 күн бұрын

    I lost my dad 3 days ago to cancer. I can't believe he is gone. I love this comment section..

  • @dana419

    @dana419

    24 күн бұрын

    I lost my mom 4 days ago as well. Heartbreaking

  • @BreAnaOfford
    @BreAnaOfford5 ай бұрын

    I lost my mother in May of last year. I find it harder to come to terms with it every single day. Imagine seeing your best friend living and breathing that morning and then losing them a few hours later. I still can’t wrap my head around it. I miss you so much, Mommy. To those of use going through loss, keep going! We have angels watching over us. ❤️🙏🏽✨

  • @Tesseslife2342

    @Tesseslife2342

    4 ай бұрын

    I lost my mum a few weeks ago my best friend 😢

  • @BreAnaOfford

    @BreAnaOfford

    2 ай бұрын

    @@Tesseslife2342 I’m sorry for your loss. Continued strength to you. ❤️✨

  • @GoBuddieGo
    @GoBuddieGo2 жыл бұрын

    I'm already crying typing this because I lost my mother only 4 months ago due to cancer. She told us back in 2018 and I remember coming home from work one night already crying as I walked through the door, keep in mind it was only a few months into our family understanding this and being there for my mother during her treatments, but I was walking to my bedroom and my mother who had fallen asleep on the couch in the living room while watching TV heard me and ran over to my room to check on me. With worry on her face she asked me "What's wrong son? What happened?" and all I could do was point at the tubes in her body as a way of telling her "I'm worried about you" and being the mother she was, she comforted me and told me "Don't worry about me, son. I'll be fine" with a smile on her face, and then she hugged me. That's just one of the many memories of my mother I have, I just miss her, and what makes it even worse is she passed only a few days before her only grandchilds birthday and I just moved out of state and was doing poorly financially so I couldn't make it back home to be by her side but even during the facetime calls she made it a point to tell me she loved me and not to worry. I sometimes scroll through her text messages and begin to cry again, it's going to be hard going forward because when I do start a family. She won't be there to meet them, and that's what hurts the most.

  • @Nobody10150

    @Nobody10150

    2 жыл бұрын

    I can relate to the pain of such memory .. I was the sitter with my mom in hospital.. that night during visit time she felt such enormous pain .. she was screaming out of pain , my sisters were with me , one of them was mad at me thinking that I didn’t take care of my mon although i did my best .. i was in semi isolated room with her all the time taking care of her unlike my sister .. so I start crying because she blamed for something I didn’t do , i felt such a heavy killing preasure as if it was my falut .. so I started sobbing in silent I didn’t want my mon to hear me .. suddenly I heard her asking me although she was in such pain “ why are you crying? What happen to you? Why are your sister crying “ she was worried about me in such time .. she went afteward to the icu and lost conscious then died .. I miss her every day and minutes she was everything in my life.

  • @daphnec4016

    @daphnec4016

    Жыл бұрын

  • @divyankdixit4344

    @divyankdixit4344

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Nobody10150 I m 24 and in the same shoes. Is there a way to connect with you bro

  • @islandgyrl84
    @islandgyrl8411 ай бұрын

    I lost my dad 6 days before Fathers day. My dad was my best friend and its so hard to go a day without crying or feeling down. No one prepares us for this type of pain.

  • @rosecares4863

    @rosecares4863

    11 ай бұрын

    Same here lost mom month ago but still feel empty and things have no meaning.

  • @crystalsylvia6920

    @crystalsylvia6920

    7 ай бұрын

    I'm so sorry I lost my mom on Aug 26th 😢 and your right about not being prepared for this type of pain. When my dad passed I was 11 but still had my mom and now that their both gone it's undesirable. I'm hoping just as much for myself ya'll find some peace sometimes somewhere ❤

  • @sherlainmiranda76
    @sherlainmiranda76 Жыл бұрын

    Lost my Daddy last week…I have no idea how to handle this. It’s huge. I’m almost afraid of the grief. I do feel him right here with me, I look like him thank GOD so he’s in the mirror. Just keeping busy and listening to what’s bonded us forever, music. Any help is appreciated, thank you

  • @fatherlucid4995
    @fatherlucid49952 жыл бұрын

    My dad passed away at 61 due to a blood clot in his lungs just a day ago. Too young for me to lose my favorite person in the world. I lost him and didn’t get to properly say goodbye. He was gone so quick. He wasn’t just my father. He was my best friend. I’ve never been more shocked and depressed in my life and I don’t know how I’ll go on without him. I have no idea it doesn’t make any sense.

  • @ThePsychedelicCinema
    @ThePsychedelicCinema3 жыл бұрын

    My Dad. My role model. The man who taught me everything. At 27, I'm having a baby girl and she won't get to meet her grandpa, but she will hear so many stories. He was a legend among those who knew him. So broken 💔 Words can't describe Dad. Love and miss him more it seems everyday.

  • @soulrarity9890

    @soulrarity9890

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here. I feel so lost without his protection.. he was the reason I had any confidence in this world.. just knowing he had my back.. I feel like I need to have a family now (I have no kids) the only thing that matters is love

  • @RA-mt5sv

    @RA-mt5sv

    3 ай бұрын

    I hope you guys feel better today two years later

  • @linz0mbie
    @linz0mbie4 жыл бұрын

    My mom and I found out she had pancreatic cancer on September 12th, and she just passed away on Oct 10th. Literally not even a full month. We barely had time to process the word cancer, let alone hospice, and then death. Thank you so much for this video.

  • @sundus3013

    @sundus3013

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hi, i feel you😔💙 My dad passed away literally 2 days before your mum from brain cancer. It's been almost 2 month and I still find it hard to accept the fact that I will nevere be able to see him or hug him again and it sucks. But oh the other side we fought this disease with all our power until the last moment, so we did all we could. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in this, and as painful as it is, there are so many people going through the same thing. stay strong💙

  • @TenneyVision

    @TenneyVision

    4 жыл бұрын

    My dad died from bladder cancer after he found out he was gone in a little over a week...I wish I couldve been there for him but i was on the other side of the country

  • @togbazulu

    @togbazulu

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hopefully things are improving my Father passed June 25th 2019 from brain cancer definitely sucks but grateful for the 32 years we had.

  • @bobsmith962

    @bobsmith962

    2 ай бұрын

    So sorry about that. I hope you are feeling a little better now.

  • @theboringalgorithm5190
    @theboringalgorithm51903 жыл бұрын

    My father died two days ago at age of 59 due multiple complications and I was right there in front of him and he was in so much pain before passing out. I could not comfort him and could make his pain less. It really doesn't feel like he is no more, it feels like he is in office. He used to work long shifts due to which I dont have much memories with him. He was really a strong man and very tough from outside but he always cared for everyone. I used fight with him a lot. I really disappointed him. He didnt deserved all this he worked very hard from early age till his death. He deserved a comfortable life which I couldn't provide him. He worked day and night for us and didn't cared for his health. Wish he is free from pain and in peace in heaven. He is my hero and will always be alive with me. Love you papa.

  • @itzeleiv37
    @itzeleiv376 ай бұрын

    I lost my beautiful mother this August & it is so heartbreaking not having her around

  • @Kimmiz79
    @Kimmiz794 жыл бұрын

    My mother died when I was 6 and my father died when I was 16. SO very hard. I had my grandmother for a while but I felt utterly alone and I still drift off to that place. Now I am a mom and i feel bad for my kids having no experience with their grandparents.

  • @bobsmith962

    @bobsmith962

    2 ай бұрын

    I really feel for you. Losing parents is so tough but impossible at a young age. I'm glad you have kids and a family of your own now.

  • @stackofpooncakes
    @stackofpooncakes2 жыл бұрын

    My dad passed very suddenly in March. I’m still trying to understand the reality of it. He shaped me, taught me everything that I know. The shock still lingers but I know he’s free from all his inner demons. It’s always the ones who smile the brightest. Just know, we are so much more than our bodies. May all the souls live on freely in an atmosphere that’s beyond our comprehension ❤️

  • @Herberth889
    @Herberth88925 күн бұрын

    My father passed away two days ago and I just can't believe I won't hear his voice again. I'm thankful for all the wonderful stories you've been sharing.

  • @karenbrown6348

    @karenbrown6348

    7 күн бұрын

    I relate. It's only been 3 days since Mama died 😢😵😩🙏

  • @Herberth889

    @Herberth889

    7 күн бұрын

    @@karenbrown6348 I am so sorry for your loss. These past few weeks have been really hard but just know that you're not alone and we need to be strong because that's what our parents would've wanted for us.

  • @kurtk9826
    @kurtk9826 Жыл бұрын

    Buried my father this past Saturday. My dad went through a lot. Seeing him in the hospital was very hard. Ultimately, his passing was a roller coaster of emotions. But overall, I’m comfortable knowing he’s at peace and resting. At 30, I felt like a kid again. My mom consoling me at the funeral made me realize the importance of parents and how appreciative we must be. It’s a different feeling but like she said, “you have to feel what you feel.”

  • @divyankdixit4344

    @divyankdixit4344

    Жыл бұрын

    I m 24 and in the same shoes. Is there a way to connect with you bro

  • @anahifuentes6403

    @anahifuentes6403

    Жыл бұрын

    Im 26, lost my dad last week. All year 2022 he had been in and out of the hospital it was hard. Even though I was expecting it because he had cancer it’s difficult

  • @Chickle619
    @Chickle6197 ай бұрын

    You are so blessed you have friends like your friends. I lost both of my parents and I never get a chance to receive gift, encouragement and support from friends and people around me.

  • @Siobhan-pj8hx
    @Siobhan-pj8hx Жыл бұрын

    I lost my dearest Dad two weeks ago, I am 23 and I didn't have a chance to say goodbye. It hurts so bad, sometimes I think I am not able to handle this pain, this emptyness. I have a huge problem with an excessive sense of self-blame. Over the past 3 years we were separated, because of Covid, then because of war. I haven't seen him since 2019. I cried and had severe depression, cause I missed him so much. Only thing that kept me motivated to move on is the thought that one day I will come back home, hug him and never let go. But I didn't. And never will.

  • @mariomat1999
    @mariomat19994 ай бұрын

    I just lost my dad to a surprise heart attack, im 24 and he was 57. He was my best friend, biggest hero and coolest dad... he took care of me for so long despite being a shut in, he raised me as a stay at home dad while my mother worked... I miss him so much I cant stand it.

  • @jeanjames5912
    @jeanjames59122 жыл бұрын

    I lost my best friend (my mum) a few weeks ago. The pain is immense. I'm still grieving, i cry everyday and sometimes I feel numb. I feel so lost. Its hard to want to sleep in and cry when you know you have to go to school and keep up with what's happening around you. She was a beautiful soul. I can't wait to see her again in heaven

  • @tarirodorcas

    @tarirodorcas

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lost mine in January i feel your pain

  • @bobsmith962

    @bobsmith962

    2 ай бұрын

    My sis said the same thing when my mom died. I really feel for you. I hope you feel a little better now.

  • @aleyahjimenez9614
    @aleyahjimenez96142 жыл бұрын

    My dad passed away yesterday, I miss him so much. The father-daughter relationship is what makes my heart break, we were so close and the fact that I’ll never be able to see him again hurts me so much. He’s in a better place now, but it hurts

  • @gracekellywalcott1283
    @gracekellywalcott1283 Жыл бұрын

    My dad died 4th June 2022. Never thought the night he went in the car to go to the hospital will be the last time he would have been home. Daddy I feel so empty inside. It is like my world has ended. I really miss you a lot. Sometimes I talk about you like you are right there.

  • @wendykoldin6611
    @wendykoldin66113 жыл бұрын

    I can’t believe anyone would give this girl a thumbs down. She’s grieving and she explained it beautifully. Thank you so much

  • @stevestewart8008
    @stevestewart80082 жыл бұрын

    The pain is truly unbearable. Death of a loving parent is horrific.

  • @jacobruch6254
    @jacobruch62543 жыл бұрын

    2 month's now since my dad "my best friend" in the world unexpectedly passed away so suddenly. The grief and emotions are hitting me harder then ever lately. I miss him so damn much! A piece of my heart was taken the night that everything happened. I don't know how to grieve and tend to keep my emotions to myself but It's becoming way to much to handle. I LOVE YOU DAD.. YOU ARE MY HERO, MY IDO AND EVERYTHING I WISH TO BECOME... 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥

  • @MACKMORRIS83

    @MACKMORRIS83

    3 жыл бұрын

    💔 So sorry for your loss, Jacob. Just lost my dad yesterday, and I felt the same way about him, that you felt about your dad. I hope you’re doing a little better, and have found peace.

  • @varistizabal

    @varistizabal

    3 жыл бұрын

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I am feeling the exact same way. I lost my dad 4 weeks ago. I am devastated, sad, I feel lost, abandoned. I miss him so so so much!

  • @amiira67

    @amiira67

    2 жыл бұрын

    😭😭😭

  • @dondressel452

    @dondressel452

    2 жыл бұрын

    Well said about your father I’m sorry for your huge loss I to lost my dad in 2015 It felt like the world was closing in Life does go on Take care

  • @christiansteen9226

    @christiansteen9226

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@dondressel452 my dads in hospice im 26 and I cant imagine not having my dad to share in my successes in life

  • @odreyjoseph9317
    @odreyjoseph93175 ай бұрын

    over 24 years ago since i lost my father, still feels like yesterday, I miss Him so much everyday, I was so young then, I don’t even know His grave, or what he sounds like. The pain is really unbearable sometimes. I don’t understand why i have to go through this unbearable pain all my existence.

  • @andrewbriggs5248
    @andrewbriggs5248 Жыл бұрын

    I lost my mother 07/18/2022 but she is never forgotten. Her 3 children have all of her qualities, and she loved that, Ellen Briggs was a Good Woman and the Best Mother Ever! I love you Mom and I miss you, I'll see you in heaven someday ❤

  • @oohhkayy
    @oohhkayy Жыл бұрын

    Love to all of you here. My dad recently passed and I’m just wondering how I will get through this. I hope to still make him proud. I love you so unconditionally, dad.

  • @lemonadelexus

    @lemonadelexus

    Жыл бұрын

    My mother passed away on May 10th, 2023. I'm tired of crying, I hate that no matter what I do she's not coming back. I take a nap, eat, watch a distraction and I'm back sad. Talking to my momma. I'm asking God to have mercy on me this is debilitating loss. Have mercy on my Daddy, her husband in their home alone. I'm praying his heart doesnt break. A warm sea of sorrow. But I know it's a part of life. Then when you have money issues it's like I'm grasping for a life raft. Our loved ones are in heaven doing better than they were on earth. Rest in heaven momma😢! 😘

  • @lemonadelexus

    @lemonadelexus

    Жыл бұрын

    And I'm sorry for your loss. May God comfort you always!

  • @Oblivious2488
    @Oblivious24882 жыл бұрын

    My mother just passed away less than a week ago. She was only 53 and I don’t have a father. It was sudden and tragic and I’m back and forth between hysterics and emotionally numb. I have been beating myself up with “what if, or why didn’t I” thoughts. Please please PLEASE anyone with parents give them an extra hug because once they’re gone. You can’t tell them you love them anymore.

  • @mimangsassanabuzowg2559

    @mimangsassanabuzowg2559

    Жыл бұрын

    We’re totally the same. My mom was also 53. I keep crying every night because of my what ifs thoughts. I have a father but he wasn’t good to my mom. I have hatred towards him when my mom died, he didn’t take care my mom. It hurts me a lot. I’m only 21. She died few weeks before my birthday. It was a sudden death, but our presence was there when she died.

  • @divyankdixit4344

    @divyankdixit4344

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mimangsassanabuzowg2559 I m 24 and in the same shoes. Is there a way to connect with you bro

  • @annaparr9218

    @annaparr9218

    Жыл бұрын

    i’m so sorry. i’m sending you the biggest warmest hugs

  • @alexilinn1

    @alexilinn1

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for reminding us. Losing a loved one is hard to cope. Hope you have a great and prosperous life time ahead .

  • @MindBodyRevolution77

    @MindBodyRevolution77

    6 ай бұрын

    We have very similar type of story, and night is the worst time to deal with kind of thoughts.

  • @shreyasrica
    @shreyasrica2 жыл бұрын

    The fact that she made it through the entire speech without breaking down in between!

  • @melissacochran9488
    @melissacochran94882 жыл бұрын

    I love this. Life IS what WE make of it. Move on, even though the darkest of days or get left behind to drown in misery. My mom passed away unexpectedly. There was no time to think about it. She was here one day and gone the next. She was the anchor of the family. I choose to remember the happy. Not dwell on the bad. I choose to adapt, evolve and make her proud by the strength that I've fought to find. Happy, loving, wonderful vibes to you.

  • @pearl411

    @pearl411

    2 жыл бұрын

    so proud of you!❤️

  • @lovelylickyricky
    @lovelylickyricky7 ай бұрын

    My mom passed away...this doesn't feel real....

  • @crystalsylvia6920
    @crystalsylvia69207 ай бұрын

    I lost both my parents to cancer my dad in 1992 when I was 11 and my mom a couple months ago. I feel like I lost the only person I could count on no matter what and now I have this new thing called life. I was the 1 to find her which haunts me. I know all of your feelings and my heartbreaks for every last 1 of you ❤❤❤❤

  • @CaspianArk
    @CaspianArk9 ай бұрын

    My dad passed away from cancer in late august, just a few weeks ago. Every day is a challenge. I just started college. He never got to see me move in. School work was hard enough before but now it feels impossible. This video is inspiring

  • @carinabrancodias
    @carinabrancodias3 жыл бұрын

    How do you cope with the death from both parents due to covid19? In only one month I lost the two most important people in my life: my mom and my dad. It's like a physical pain not having them here anymore around me. It's a hole in my heart that nothing and no one can replace. It's so hard.

  • @lindakadenge7343

    @lindakadenge7343

    3 жыл бұрын

    I think the most important thing is to know you're not alone in this pain.

  • @megamanfan1500

    @megamanfan1500

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello. I am truly sorry for your loss, and the resulting pain. I have lost both parents - my father due to a massive heart attack 10 years ago, and my mother this past Sunday, August 29 from Covid. The pain is unbearable at times, and during those times, I allow myself to cry. I know that, even though my parents are not physically here, they are both with me, and watching over me. They are in my heart wherever I go. I know your parents love you very much,, and will be your guardian angels and guiding light as you continue to live on. I do hope this brings you some comfort. I am praying for us both.

  • @dustybrammer8279

    @dustybrammer8279

    2 жыл бұрын

    God bless you!

  • @PlakakiChannel

    @PlakakiChannel

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oh!i'm so sorry for your loss.Unfortinately covid has taken a toll in the lives of many of us 😔stay strong

  • @datboidrew

    @datboidrew

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @tcole6291
    @tcole6291 Жыл бұрын

    I lost my mom three years ago and honestly I took care of her for majority of her illness but I could have done a better job at it. I guess I always believed she would be okay and that she wasn’t going anywhere. It didn’t hit me that she was really leaving until her health to a deep decline and her physical appearance began to change and then her mind started slipping. But the hardest part was seeing her in the hospital bed unable to speak and I wanna believe she knew who I was but I’m not really sure she did. My mom was my very best friend she helped me raise my children and she supported me through everything. Through my own struggle with cancer my drug addiction and overall life. She was my backbone. And when she died I think I did too because my life took a drastic turn for the worst I began to not care about anything and it almost cost me my life. I was in the worst situation imaginable and I could not see a way out. I thought my life was at an end. Well even in the grave she still continues to be my counsel and my rock. One day I broke down because I was ready to give up and all I could do was pray pray harder then I ever had before. And as I cried for her and asked god to take me to her. A peace like no other took over me almost like she was holding me reassuring me that this was just a moment that would pass. And when I finally made it out of that situation by the grace of god I vowed to her and god to clean up my act because my children deserved a mother like the one I had. And that’s exactly what I have been doing. I still have a long way to go before I become the woman I know she would be proud of but as god as my witness I’m going to spend the rest of my days making sure all her sacrifices and hardships were not in vain. And as far as the grief I’m not sure that ever goes away because even now I type this and my heart is completely broken because the one person that I could always turn too is gone. Thank God for the real family and friends he surrounded me with because they make things easier to bare. Her birthday is coming soon and all I can think of is how much I wish she was here so I could get on her nerves and how I wanna sniff her pillow cause it always smelled like her and when I was a kid and she was gone I sniffed her pillow to feel like she was there with me. But I no longer have any of that but I have my children that she adored and also me and my brother look exactly like her so she is still around. I just wish I could hold her anyway thanks for letting me share the story of my best friend. Also I’m sorry for anyone that knows this loss. We will never recover it just becomes easier to bare as time goes on but that ache will never go away. Plus if any of your loved ones was as sick as my mother find comfort in knowing their pain has ended. And hold onto that because it will get you through the days.

  • @369ZIR

    @369ZIR

    7 ай бұрын

    I read this whole thing! I just wanna say, I have a lot of respect for you. You sound soo danm strong! I’d be proud to have a strong mother like you. keep it up.

  • @ReenalUpadhayay

    @ReenalUpadhayay

    7 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this. I do have my mom still but reading this caused a wrench in my heart. I will pray for you 🙏

  • @foxsden
    @foxsden4 жыл бұрын

    My dad passed away today.. The lord holds thee now.

  • @stunner4146

    @stunner4146

    4 жыл бұрын

    My dad passed away 3 weeks ago today as well... i'm sorry for your loss

  • @ericwedderburn2829

    @ericwedderburn2829

    4 жыл бұрын

    My mom passed away this morning.

  • @MatthewsEmSee

    @MatthewsEmSee

    4 жыл бұрын

    Im sorry for your loss, My father passed away late last night.

  • @roymusic6

    @roymusic6

    4 жыл бұрын

    My dad passed away 6 days ago. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️.

  • @ericwedderburn2829

    @ericwedderburn2829

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@roymusic6 I'm so sorry to hear. My Mom recently passed as well

  • @grettalemabouchou6779
    @grettalemabouchou67795 ай бұрын

    Mother passed two days ago. I am thinking of how wonderful Heaven must be. But I am very tired. God bless you all.....we will get through.❤

  • @nicolevanbeek1994
    @nicolevanbeek19946 ай бұрын

    My dad passed away in October of 2022. I miss him so much. He is/was very loved by family and friends.

  • @sheltonmukewa734
    @sheltonmukewa73411 ай бұрын

    My girlfriend lost her mom some two weeks ago honestly it's hard seeing what she's going through but I can't give up on her at such a moment. Yeah I have noth parents but seeing her in pain hurts and I can't talk to her from her point of view but I'll still be there for her no matter how long it takes. I wanna assure her that she isn't alone and I'll make an effort to see her happy n back to her old self. Sometimes it takes those around you to help you in the healing process

  • @marijajankovic2696

    @marijajankovic2696

    11 ай бұрын

    My mom died also from cancer, my boyfriend is going trough the same thing as you. I can only say to you she will never go back to her old self. I hope you can accept her the way she will be . She will always be a little bit sad even tho she is laughing. This kind of emotion of loosing your parent never really goes away, it will stay for a long time. But how time goes on it will be more in the background of things. So you can only be there for her , distract her or when you see that she wants to talk about it, you talk to her about her mom. It will be easier for both of you how the time passes

  • @n3rdworldproblemz877
    @n3rdworldproblemz87711 ай бұрын

    I just loss my mother a week ago... I'm 35, she was 59, a few months away from 60. I've been so busy the last week with family service and the funeral. I don't feel like I've had a moment to grieve. Today I'm back to work and I feel empty.

  • @rosecares4863

    @rosecares4863

    11 ай бұрын

    Same here feel so empty 😭😭😭

  • @branan6935

    @branan6935

    9 ай бұрын

    I lost my mom on July 25th. She was 64 and I am 35 like you. I am still in mourning; sometimes I cry bitter tears, sometimes I feel numb. I often go to her grave where I put her myself and talk to her. I feel purposeless. I feel lost. I've never experienced loss before, so I was not ready.

  • @caratjoy8586
    @caratjoy85863 жыл бұрын

    I’m praying for all of you that have lost loved ones, pets, friends. I know it’s so painful and sad but keep going! Don’t give up, because they wouldnt want you to stop achieving great things. They are watching you whenever and wherever. Sending love to all of you that are going through this tough time

  • @MACKMORRIS83

    @MACKMORRIS83

    3 жыл бұрын

    😢💔 Thank you. Really needed to hear this today.

  • @blakgal13
    @blakgal13 Жыл бұрын

    My partner just lost his mum and it’s heartbreaking seeing him be so silent and just numb. I can almost see the hurt in his eyes I may not understand how it feels but I loved her so much as well. He’s been very distant and our 3 year relationship has been Rocky since her death because he’s been so upset and it breaks my heart because I don’t know what to do as he said he doesn’t need my help, I’ve given him his space to spend with his family ect. It’s just so hard and heartbreaking experiencing this and seeing him go through this when he’s mum was his whole life. Tried my best to comfort and be there for him but he wants to be alone for while which all I can do it accept and respect that. 💔

  • @alecedwy3065
    @alecedwy3065 Жыл бұрын

    Lost my dad April 29th 2023 to stage 4 lung cancer. It’s quite strange how the world works i was born at 12:21pm and my dad died at 12:21am they say souls can attach when you are in a specific soul group. I say that to just say i miss my dad like no other and anyone going through this my condolences and apologies. Very tough. But somebody needs you so don’t give up. ❤

  • @srinivasatr1395
    @srinivasatr13952 жыл бұрын

    To all those, who lost their parents in recent times, may god give strength to hold and move forward.

  • @maxdubs2241
    @maxdubs22415 ай бұрын

    It’s been 7 years and years of grief counseling later.. I’m still hurting so badly. No matter how hard I’ve tried, I feel like I’ll never be whole again. I was 23 then.. now I’m 31 and with a beautiful fiancé and an infant son of my own. But I can’t stop hurting

  • @anneliseerismann6105
    @anneliseerismann61055 ай бұрын

    My father is dying, my mom is going through a very difficult phase and I have been feeling so lost. We live far away, which only makes it all worse. Really recomforting to read the comments here, thank you. ❤ Hope you are all taking care of yourselves.

  • @DiyaHNadaf
    @DiyaHNadaf10 ай бұрын

    My heart is always heavy no matter how much I wipe my tears out. I lost my dad due to covid 19 in the second wave. My mother is a lecturer in far away city , she doesn't stay with me. I do everything on my own unlike my school friends who's lunch is packed by their mums. I'm a 15 year old with no one by my side yet struggling to survive, Wish dad could be with me, whatsoever I'm not his princess but a strong daughter ❤miss you till infinity pappa 😭

  • @edwahnnieva8898

    @edwahnnieva8898

    8 ай бұрын

    Take care . Keep taking care of your health

  • @ambinocnadzmahm.4142
    @ambinocnadzmahm.41423 жыл бұрын

    Lost my dad 2 days ago with sudden attack 😭 i cant do anything but to watch inspirational talk thinking that I can do it , I can move forward too.

  • @kaspernielsen9738
    @kaspernielsen973814 күн бұрын

    My Grandma is turning 91 on sunday. She is almost like my 2 mom. Having her last days at hospital, getting pain relief. She is not eating and drinking. I Got the chance to say i love her and goodbye in my heart. she Said “ if i go to sleep for good, then have a wonderfull life” she knows it is the end. She had a Long and great life, happy and wanted to live longer. But cancer was the bus stop. I wish you all a wonderfull life. ❤

  • @ta0312
    @ta03127 ай бұрын

    My father took his life earlier this week. I’m 22, my sister is 19… this is the hardest thing we’ve been through… condolences and prayers for everyone else who is going through loss right now

  • @AshtonG2022

    @AshtonG2022

    7 ай бұрын

    OMG i am so so sorry. I’m 21 about to be 22 and my parents are 59 Mom, 54 Dad, i hope they will still be around for at least the next 20 years but as soon as my parents pass i might not want to live anymore. But on the other hand i have 3 nieces who love me so much. So i may continue to live once my parents pass just for my Nieces and for them only. But no matter when i pass i hope all 3 of them will be there with me if i do make it to at least 80-85 but tbh I want to just live till 50-55.

  • @annaparr9218
    @annaparr9218 Жыл бұрын

    when you lose someone so sudden it’s so unreal

  • @Dineskii

    @Dineskii

    Жыл бұрын

    I feel you on that. Lost my Mom a few weeks ago…not sick or anything, just a freak accident. I miss her so damn much and im still tripping over it.

  • @London.h.2007
    @London.h.2007 Жыл бұрын

    You are amazing girl! I lost my father 5 months ago and I can barely talk to people about it while keeping my cool. What an amazing speech!

  • @Dan43g
    @Dan43g3 жыл бұрын

    My mom passed away on april 12th 2021 Its so damn hard, because it was unexpected and there were so many things to come for both of us She was always full of life We were each others pillars, each others support It all feels unreal, like a bad dream Feels like she's about to comeback at some point, like none of it ever happened I feel weak without her, she was my everything But I'm trying to stay strong for her and in turn for myself For now it seems like life lost all it's meaning for me Waking up is incredibly hard, especially when you're alone Pretty often ( almost every day ) it hits me so hard and all I can do is cry it out She was only 58 years young and I'm so broken about dreams that didn't come true for her and me that we always discussed and planned

  • @hpaki6607
    @hpaki66072 ай бұрын

    My dad is in coma and has been for the past year. I've forgotten how his voice sounded like and it's breaking me. My mind is slowly forgetting him eventhough he's still alive, although not conscious. It's filling me with guilt and makes me grief even more everyday. It feels like I'm slowly drowning and losing hope, eventhough I'm trying my best to be optimistic. But reality always hits me and ruins me. I wish everyone dealing with grief peace.

  • @jessicadavis3016
    @jessicadavis3016 Жыл бұрын

    My mum had a heart attack at 45 and passed yesterday. I can’t sleep. I feel numb. So, I’m listening to this video

  • @joharray.6299
    @joharray.62993 жыл бұрын

    I needed this I lost my dad 5 years ago and I still struggle with my mental health sometimes.

  • @teebrinner5939

    @teebrinner5939

    3 жыл бұрын

    I don't think it ever goes away and part of us dies with them. I hope you're mental state is okay

  • @serenitybeats1677

    @serenitybeats1677

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hope ur still okay 💖

  • @mbelwa5656
    @mbelwa565625 күн бұрын

    I just lost my grandfather an hour ago he was a inspirational person and God with carry him into heaven

  • @MinxLaura123sWackyWorld
    @MinxLaura123sWackyWorld8 ай бұрын

    Lost my mum 2 days ago. I feel broken. Tryin to keep strong

  • @gkatz9867

    @gkatz9867

    7 ай бұрын

    Just lost my mom on October 2nd! We will get through this!

  • @luke137brr5
    @luke137brr53 жыл бұрын

    I want you to know that your speech has truly touched my heart and helped me to understand what my perspective ought to be, losing my my mom to cancer changed the way I understand life or who I am as a son..... let me tell you, you have a bright future, and I hope the best for you..... thankyou for making this speech and sharing it with all of us. You are the Best!

  • @prettygirlpandora
    @prettygirlpandora20 күн бұрын

    My mother passed 7 days ago. My chest hurts so much from sadness m, this grief is too heavy to bear.

  • @uniquemccants331
    @uniquemccants331Ай бұрын

    It’s Sunday May 12th 2024. My dad passed away today, and I’m struggling. It all happens so fast. 10am I called to see how he was doing, 3:30pm I get a call that he passed. We knew this moment was coming because of how sick he was, but I still was not ready to lose him. I miss him soooo much.❤ My heart hurts. I’m sending love to all of you who are feeling the same way. 😢

  • @michael79676
    @michael79676Ай бұрын

    While my dad died over a year ago, sometimes it still hits like a wall of bricks. You miss the way their hand felt, what they sounded like, their favorite anything. It does get easier but there are days when all you want is your parent.

  • @ObservationalAwareness
    @ObservationalAwareness6 ай бұрын

    I lost my mother 1.5 hours ago due to cancer. Im 21 and it feels like my own life is over, I haven't told my sister about our mom yet, i hope she will be alright.

  • @jajajajaja357

    @jajajajaja357

    6 ай бұрын

    I lost my mum 6 days ago as well. I am much older than you are. But I think this type of pain is universal. I train myself to constantly remember the great moments, the happy moments, the moments she was happy, the moments we were serene together, the moments she told me she loved me and I told her I loved her (and those were many). I choose to be GRATEFUL for all that she gave me. I choose to be GRATEFUL for the fact that I was lucky enough to have this special person as my mother. I choose to be grateful for all the good times and good moments and good talks and good laughs that we had together. I am an only child....you have your sister.....hold on to her and be strong together. Our mums would want us to be strong and getting through this pain with our head up high and coming out on the other end stronger than before. Our mums are watching us from above now and we have to make them proud.

  • @boomboombaby9140

    @boomboombaby9140

    6 ай бұрын

    I lost my mom yesterday at 1:50 pm to a stroke and I talked to her on my lunch break at 11:30 pm and he was happy .

  • @jajajajaja357

    @jajajajaja357

    6 ай бұрын

    @@boomboombaby9140 Gratitude for all you had with your mother and all she gave to you will get you through this. It does it for me. I never thought I could handle this so strong and stay so composed. I am living in gratitude since her passing and I know that I can go on with my life and that I will be happy again. Choose to feel gratitude and love instead of desperation and pain. It is the only right thing to do.

  • @boomboombaby9140

    @boomboombaby9140

    6 ай бұрын

    @@jajajajaja357 she was here, I could talk to her , visit her , now I can’t and she’s gone forever

  • @charleswilson7371
    @charleswilson73713 жыл бұрын

    My mom passed away Xmas day 1972. Dad April 1973. I was 11, am 58 now. I know how hard it is, been there done that. I speak to people about loss. Helping others helps you cope better.

  • @rocketman99

    @rocketman99

    2 жыл бұрын

    How do you cope with this for soo long i lost my mom 2 years ago when i was 19

  • @cydneyrhines3804
    @cydneyrhines380410 күн бұрын

    My daddy just passed away suddenly two weeks ago. I’ve never felt this pain before. Sending love to all of us who are navigating this new reality. Let it be hard. Let it be difficult. Let the right people love on you…strangers even. We will make it through.

  • @thealleine
    @thealleine4 жыл бұрын

    My father died in october 11 2019, I thought there was something deeply wrong with me with the lack of motivation and joy I have, I hope I can make things have sense again so I can enjoy and do things the same way I used to. My fathed died abruptly, got diagnosed with advanced gastric cancer with metastasis after one month of taking care of him at the hospital, traveling back to Mexico but trying to keep my job at the same time, it was so difficult, I had to travel back for work hoping he could make it a little bit longer, but he died when I was away. I know he was waiting for me because I could have a last videocall with him, still alive but unconscious, he passed away when the call finished. It just changed everything, I feel huge a disassociation and numbness, guilt and impotence.

  • @onewayoflooking7674

    @onewayoflooking7674

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hi Alain, Sorry to bring this up. Has time healed you after your loss? I am feeling what you mentioned in your comments. I can't show how I truly feels in front of my kids.

  • @thealleine

    @thealleine

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@onewayoflooking7674 Hey thanks for your answer, yes, time healed me but still there are some things that from time to time makes me feel sad about it, it's much better now.

  • @onewayoflooking7674

    @onewayoflooking7674

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@thealleine Thank you

  • @arshinaaz9976
    @arshinaaz99763 жыл бұрын

    Recently i lost my mom💔nd I can’t tell you what i feel without her... before some week ago she is so fit nd fine still doesn’t feel real she was everything for me i misss you a lot mom 😣😔😔now i have no idea how i can survive my life without her. She was just 45 years only.. plz everyone pray for my mother miss you mom💔😔😔

  • @jakenegipre-malone3762

    @jakenegipre-malone3762

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hugs! I lost my mother today. Pray for their souls 🙏 let's share the sorrow and live for them to our best. Healing to all for a healthy life🙏

  • @noeme17

    @noeme17

    3 жыл бұрын

    I also lost my mom on April 29, 2021 due to covid and it has been tough few weeks of my life... I miss her a lot...😔

  • @michellechikaonda3219
    @michellechikaonda32194 жыл бұрын

    My father died one week and two days after yours did, Adeline, and at the time of your talk you already had such precise words for the experience that I was nowhere near to having. You are such a talented speaker and writer, and your willingness to share your experience and your grief really is a gift to the world. I wish you the very best for your future and your life-I know your Dad is proud of you, as proud of you as I believe my father is of me.

  • @countryrose7122
    @countryrose71222 жыл бұрын

    My dad passed 7 days ago. It still doesn't seem real. The best thing I have found for now is just to feel the emotions and don't try to hide or bottle them up. I also try and write a letter to him. I know He can't actually read it but it helps me cope by feeling like I am talking to him and letting him know what's been going on since he left.

  • @tcr333

    @tcr333

    2 жыл бұрын

    My mother passed away 7 days ago. Still can't get my head around it. I'm ok one minute then the next it hits me she has gone. I went out for a drink last night hoping it would do me good but I think that was a bad choice. I don't know you but Brittany but just to let you know you're not alone. Take care

  • @nevdurette

    @nevdurette

    2 жыл бұрын

    mine passed away 3 days ago. i miss him so much.

  • @countryrose7122

    @countryrose7122

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@tcr333 I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope you can find something to help you cope. Going on without them is so hard.

  • @countryrose7122

    @countryrose7122

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nevdurette I am so sorry to hear. Just like tcr333 said you aren't alone. It's so hard to go on without them, but we can get through this hard time together, knowing we aren't suffering alone.

  • @XxNBA2kXxGamerzXxXxUniverseXx

    @XxNBA2kXxGamerzXxXxUniverseXx

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lost my mom on the 12 of November I’ve been struggling ever since I feel your pain I’m sorry for your loss

  • @amandawesterlund5266
    @amandawesterlund52662 жыл бұрын

    My dad passed away last night. I tried to get there in time but i didn't make it. Its unreal, i can't really accept it yet, its really hard knowing i won't see him smile or talk to him ever again. And with that, I won't ever forget seeing my dad dead, it's the worst thing I've ever witnessed. I miss him so much it hurts.

  • @janessadufour107
    @janessadufour1077 ай бұрын

    literally hit way to close to home my mom passed two months after i graduated but she was fighting for less than a year. it took her too soon. wish more people brought awareness to these losses at such a young age and how it’s almost impossible to finish that grieving process when they’ve been around our whole lives and when we need them for all those milestones.

  • @marieharris3035
    @marieharris30356 ай бұрын

    My dad passed away 10 months ago 😢and Holidays are the worst ❤ I love you so much Daddy and Happy Thanksgiving!!! I miss you more and more every day

  • @violetnkirote5843

    @violetnkirote5843

    6 ай бұрын

    sorry for your lose a friend of mine lost his dad 2 months ago now he is isolating himself and being offline ....is it normal

  • @heavenrose1111
    @heavenrose1111 Жыл бұрын

    I lost both my parents during the pandemic. It feels like I can’t relate to anyone these days. I realized that I didn’t have the relationships and support I needed. I’m trying to build new ones. Thanks for sharing!

  • @Cobe9323
    @Cobe93237 ай бұрын

    I just lost my dad to stomach cancer. And I have been so sad. That pain is unexplainable.

  • @gkatz9867

    @gkatz9867

    7 ай бұрын

    Lost my mother on October 2nd suddenly. We will get through this!

  • @ailidh-Bcn

    @ailidh-Bcn

    7 ай бұрын

    @gkatz9867 I also lost my mom suddenly 15 days ago, we lived together and now it's getting very hard to move on, can't get over the fact, that I will never see her again

  • @TheBrooklynBratt
    @TheBrooklynBratt Жыл бұрын

    My father passed away a little over a month ago - I just found out a few days ago since we were not close. But I still have memories of him growing up, I even remember his voice and it took a couple of days for it to register that he's gone. It hurts so much to think what if we rekindled our relationship all those years we missed. Thankfully, my mother's still here and this makes me only love her even more - going to give her the biggest hug ever next time I see her.

  • @kmg7640

    @kmg7640

    Жыл бұрын

    My Dad is deteriorating and I'm strong, but, I'm finding that I'm at times sort of getting emotional seeing him going down , im cherishing that he is still here, he for all I know could be around a long time, I'm just saying, on occasion although I'm strong, I have my moments like right now, I feel like I have to be the strongest, my mom is still here and she seems to be a lot stronger than him, healthier than him, she just turned 78 today, he, god willing will be 79 Dec 18, I feel better getting this off my chest online like this, I see I'm not the only 1 who has moments of I don't even know what to call it, I'm ok though, I feel if he does go, and I hope I'm not wrong for writing about this, he is still here, but, I feel ill be strong if something happens, I have to be, idk, I think it's just hard to see my Dad , change, I know life happens and we all will pass one day, I guess since I know that, why did I even write all this, I think it's because I was having a little emotional moment because I just saw my mom help him get in bed and he curled up like he was a little baby, I been looking out for him, cooked him breakfast yesterday morning, he enjoyed it too.

  • @anonymousman4144

    @anonymousman4144

    Жыл бұрын

    My real father wasn't really A good example for a growing boy like me. My Father Figure.... that is my uncle raised me like a father..... He died today in the morning. I can't cope with the loss

  • @alecriggs8653
    @alecriggs865310 ай бұрын

    My dad passed last night, it’s so hard I don’t understand. Still feels so unreal. Love too all who relate.

  • @DallasStorm43
    @DallasStorm439 ай бұрын

    March 15, 1992 I lost my dad to kidney cancer. He was only 47 yrs old. I had never got the chance to talk to him face to face. First time I "met" my dad was at his viewing. February 3, 2018 I lost my mom. I dont have a support system here anymore. So I have been diagnosed with PTSD, grief and anxiety. I still struggle with the loss of my mom.

  • @rivv010
    @rivv0109 ай бұрын

    I lost my mom the day after my birthday and my son was less than 2 weeks old. The roller coaster of emotions is crazy, I will never allow the legacy and memory of her to die. For everyone out there who has lost a parent I am with you all. And for those who haven’t let me warn you, DO NOT TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED EVER

  • @shubhamwadile_16
    @shubhamwadile_163 жыл бұрын

    Lost My Both Parents In One Week😭😭 Missing Them So Much😭

  • @mohammadfatik1113

    @mohammadfatik1113

    2 жыл бұрын

    Stay strong bro i lost my dad on 21 aug its hard

  • @KayKay-fc5sg
    @KayKay-fc5sg3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you greatly. My father passed a few days ago and I am trying to filter through all of these emotions and honestly don’t know how I feel😭😭😭

  • @crossaholicluv8171

    @crossaholicluv8171

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’m sorry for your loss. He’s in a better place wherever it may be.

  • @HankTheTank23
    @HankTheTank237 ай бұрын

    I lost my dad completely out of the blue just 6 days after my 22nd birthday almost two years ago. I never thought something like that would ever happen to me, but I can promise you it was the worst thing that’s ever happened to me. He was my best friend. It was incredibly hard and painful at first. It still hurts me a lot to think about, but it does get easier over time. To all of those who have also lost a parent at a relatively young age, you’re not alone. You have to continue living your life in a way that will make them proud and trust that they are with you.

  • @tarynhansen9826

    @tarynhansen9826

    6 ай бұрын

    I’m 25 and experiencing this exact same thing. My dad died 4 days ago. Any tips for the grief?

  • @HankTheTank23

    @HankTheTank23

    6 ай бұрын

    @@tarynhansen9826 I’m so very sorry to hear that. I’m honored that you asked, but honestly, I don’t think there’s much I can say that will make you feel better. That said, I will still try. If you’re anything like me, you’re probably already through the very worst of it. On the first day, it stung, but I was more in shock and couldn’t really process what had happened because it was so sudden for me. On the second day, however, I experienced intense physical pain as the reality sunk in. Each day after that, however, became slightly less painful. Of course, I would have random moments of intense sadness weeks and even months after. I still cry thinking about him every now and then, but you have to trust the healing process and that it will get better with time. My advice would be to spend time with friends and family as long as you feel up to it, but know that it’s okay to take time for yourself. I would also say to try let yourself feel your emotions as much as you can tolerate instead of bottling them up and delaying the healing process. I would also encourage you to focus on your favorite memories with him and write as many down as you can, especially some of your last conversations with him. I also recommend reaching out to others who’ve also lost a parent at a relatively young age (as you already did with me) because it really helped me knowing that I wasn’t alone. I hope my tips are somewhat helpful. I’m certainly in a much better place now than I was, but it unfortunately takes time.

  • @user-yb2qr2sp7u
    @user-yb2qr2sp7u2 ай бұрын

    It's been 3 years and i never got over it

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