Men lowered the bar to coffee dates and now they can't even afford coffee dates? 👀🤔

@Southern.Nappiness

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@dday3322

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@danifranc7011

Жыл бұрын

Haaaa

@r.w.sexposedlive2894

Жыл бұрын

I don't know why women are dating poor males it makes no sense.

@user-rx7uh9mg4f

Жыл бұрын

In the middle east, men don't even get to see the girl unless he comes in with a gold bracelet/ necklace, flowers, sweets with NO sex of even a kiss in return. Women have ALL the power to set high standards!

This is the future of black men who aren’t subsidized by black women😂

@jamesblack-hw3sx

Жыл бұрын

My problem with this is that this happens to black women too. stop making this a blackmen vs black women thing. black women are the lowest paid income group. just because some men are bums stop trying to cast a shadow over the few who are are attracted to you. the men who have their shit together dont want these women. so they must not be an attractive partner so they keep running into bums.

@SnipsOfTime69

Жыл бұрын

😂 Cats are in your future. And who’s choosing these so-called HoboSexuals? You are, just like Y’all pick those Chads an Tyron’s.

@Fungigi

Жыл бұрын

@@SnipsOfTime69 You strike me as unemployed and will more than likely be apart of this statistic if you aren’t already are. Truth be told, i have a few partners and i don’t stay single for l long when i am. It’s a reason why most women will take in a pet instead of a grown man. It’s ok. To avoid this fate, y’all need to work, save your money and treat the people in your life halfway decent. It is a LOT of y’all on Skid Row. I fully expect full communities of 🥷roaming the streets, being a nationwide nuisance in the near future. Your freeloading days are coming to an end.Might want to start looking for a job and saving for retirement. Less and less women are out here saving y’all and for good reason……

@q.t.gamingfamily

Жыл бұрын

They're already starting to feel it too. This is one of the reasons why they keep telling us we can't be loved by non-blk men. I wish I knew then what I know now. Nonetheless, I lived and learned and no more will I settle anymore.

@karinazrzu

7 ай бұрын

@@q.t.gamingfamilyExactly! Non BM are definitely into BW

TLC taught me 24 years ago NO SCRUBs!!!!!! Take care ladies!!!!

@dianaprince3176

Жыл бұрын

NO, I don’t want your number. NO, I don’t want to give you mine. 😂

@thepragmaticexistentialist

Жыл бұрын

And the Dusties are still triggered by that song. 😂

@upfront2375

Жыл бұрын

As a man.. when rapper make record and call women btchz and brag about how they leave of the bite the dust, I never took TLC's song as offensive. It's tit for tat!😂😂

@beianli4620

Жыл бұрын

@@upfront2375 Well, if it don't apply, let it fly, right? 😉

@upfront2375

Жыл бұрын

@@beianli4620 Exactomondo!😄 If somebody on street yelling " Hey a-hole!!!" Why should I turn around? ;)

I don’t date anymore. Best decision ever! Tired of being the comic relief by telling stories about poor treatment by broke dusties. Liberating!

@mz_deedy123

Жыл бұрын

I don't date anymore because I don't want to take care of these dusties and I'm not going to let him live with me

@Aja-Christian

Жыл бұрын

I'm really really glad that more women are realizing that dating is not this mandatory, obligatory lifestyle choice and that opting out completely often does bring so much more peace and clarity than trying to spend years/decades trying to "crack the code" on how to find a good man. Everything in my life got better once I stopped dating, not even exaggerating. I don't even want casual companionship with men anymore, the nicest thing they can do for me at this point is stay TF out of my way.

@aqp519

14 сағат бұрын

​@Aja-Christian 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 YOU BETTA SHUT YO MOUTH AND KEEP ON TALKIN! I am right there with you, and I am OHHHHH SOOOO HAPPY! 😁

The number 1 rule still applies whether you’re 20 or 50 - you have NO business dating if you’re broke. You need to focus on getting your financial ducks in a row. That woman in the post was smart for passing by those bums, but the reality is it didn’t affect them at all. They’ll keep doing what they’re doing because they know that they’ll find a sugar mama because there are women out there that are so desperate to have a man that they’ll do anything to get one.

@angelsweet9611

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree, that’s why I haven’t dated in a while. I’m trying to get out of debt and focusing on my career

@canesugar911

Жыл бұрын

Its worse if you are 50. TF

@naediggs4816

Жыл бұрын

​@@williammcneill2753 ​ Well, I hope it _was_ a happy union for them, truly, but this is *terrible* advice. Just because they were married doesn't mean their union was a happy one, as we never know what happens behind closed doors. A lot of women have been coming out to talk about the reality of their marriages, or their parents/grandparents marriages, and the truth is coming out about those long-suffering women, who had to endure infidelity, disrespect and violence from their partners, all for the sake of their children, or because they had no options to leave. It is this exact reason, or part of it, that a majority of older women report that they would *_never_* marry again, or even live with a man again, after experiencing years of marriage. I have seen some relationships amongst pastors, and other religiously "devout" individuals play out, and observed shocking levels of infidelity and abuse throughout the entirety of the relationship, with many of those people weaponizing the community of the church to keep the women trapped in those relationships through societal pressure, or religious-based psychological warfare (guilt, shame, and the idea of eternal damnation for disobedience). Additionally, even if everything went well for that couple, the contemporary men of today have shown, time and time again, that they are not interested in, nor even fit to pursue long term relationships. It's a rarity now, especially anything like a 60 yr marriage. Today's men, through their own mouths, and actions have expressed that are not interested in fatherhood, marriage, education, the workforce, community leadership, community involvement, genuine friendships, religious pursuits or anything else. This is also backed by statistical evidence. These "rules" came about through the repeated observations of male behavior across generations. It would be foolish for us to not learn from the mistakes of others, especially when, as women, *_we_* will be the ones getting told we should've chosen better. Getting involved with men who are financially unstable is a sure-fire route to absolute derailment, or even ruination, of a woman's plans, dreams, and pursuits, especially since these types will trap you, usually with a baby (but no marriage), in order to secure _themselves._ They are known to either be leeches/deadweight *or* as users, getting women to fund and facilitate businesses, or other pursuits, only to leave her with nothing (except maybe some kids) in the end when they've to _their_ goal, through her hard work. To be honest, it's often a ticket to an early grave; these men don't have anything to lose, so they don't value anything, and can unalive you through driving up your stress with their complaining/mistreatment, or through actual violence. While this isn't the case for all men, sure, but the instances of trifling, degenerate behavior are now too many to be discounted. It doesn't matter if it's not so men anymore, because the ones who _aren't_ like them do nothing to stop them. These broke men aren't an investment, and if they are, then they need to invest themselves, by themselves, and do it on their own, just as women have had to (being shamed and labeled gold diggers if otherwise).

The House and a Hole comment is EXACTLY it. At 50, this is what they are looking for. I know a person who is dating and sleeping with a deadbeat, dude. He lives with his mom, and she picks him up and drives him to her house. He was unemployed but has since got a job. However, he still has no car, is living off his 80 yr old mom, and does not support his children. I had someone from the past try me. It was short-lived. Although he was self-employed and had a car. He had a roommate, bad credit, sleep apnea(machine), prostate issues, ED (I never gave him access to me), and a pre-teen. The lifestyle I created for myself was not conducive with his, nor what I wanted for myself. At 51, I'm a retired emptynester. I am not, will not, and can not care for, support, sleep with, or next to any man NOT on my level. No way, no how, NO SIR! No, thank you.

@trisha1989

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 LawdHaMercy @T

@catmouse2882

Жыл бұрын

He's a whole Black man ain't he?😂

@user-kpkxgtj

Жыл бұрын

Someone is going to have to explain to me how this desperation for some d works and what benefit she's deriving from this particular one. 🤦‍♀️

@Mirror_My_Ambition

Жыл бұрын

​@@catmouse2882 If we consider him whole. I don't

@Mirror_My_Ambition

Жыл бұрын

​@@user-kpkxgtj She never had anyone do the bare minimum and he's doing that for her. It's unfortunate but it's her life. I wish her the best. He is never allowed in my home or on vacation. I don't celebrate deadbeats and I ain't accepting him.

Men were like this in my 20s, 30s and now 40s. Different races, different types of men. Men genuinely don't like women.

@SunandSunflowers

Жыл бұрын

Now this is a whole different conversation that women do not want to have.

@danifranc7011

Жыл бұрын

Best comment agree

@zenolad.whilder6641

Жыл бұрын

Actually before my now age of 63 I knew this about Males attitudes and watched them from a young girl to the present.Theyre hatred is as real as we are breathing. We only serve two purposes for them no matter what changes have been made in the last century or more ...1 To be Quiet 2 Give them Sex without. Repercussions and the third one wth a fourth edge Maintain the household and raise the children without assistance. This has been and with many others it's their Mantra. Remember these are Males with Male dominated thinking because Men who are taking care of their households, businesses, and are building, destroying old structures and restructuring other dynamics are not out here caring about breaking down social constructs, worrying about our hair, nails, or if we're educated or not. I'm so sick of these Dust Mites leeching off the whole planet and in their deconstruction on the ideals (mind you they've created) all of Us have to suffer for it. What's worse is at the rate they're going in this modernized era they're going to try to take Us out with them.. A male is a Male and with the way many of them think it's a scary place in this world for Us, young boys .and young girls because of the way it's going. They're hate for the Feminine dynamic they want is also what they hate.😮 Look around you😢

@briana14333

Жыл бұрын

@@zenolad.whilder6641that’s a whole word 👌🏾

@heneverforesakesme4038

Жыл бұрын

same here but now I am in my 50's...don't matter who they are, or where they come from, men are all about the same.

As a 51 yo, that's been my experience and I'm a nurse (licensed in 6 states) and I have a nice purse as a result. When I divorced my ex, you'd should've seen how many men who reached out in order to take his place. Many even tried to get in close with our children. When my ex got sick and died, ngaz he'd call friend started calling. Yet, some of our younger sisters think were jealous of them when they get with these hobosexuals! No. At my age, I'm trying to amass 7 figure income and I'm going to go international. I'm not using my money for go fund me funerals and dialysis meals. Nope, not doing it. I also love our cats. We have two babies: Leo and Biers. I have no trouble out of them so threatening me to be a cat lady does nothing but make me smile!

@BurbNBougie

Жыл бұрын

Please teach the youngins!!

@q.t.gamingfamily

Жыл бұрын

@BurbNBougie Always and I'm proud of what I'm seeing in y'all. I'm more prouder of your generations than I've ever been in bw ever and I've always loved us ❤️.

Why are middle-aged women trying to date men like this? If you aren't well off at this age don't even look at me period.

@dr.jennapetersonap3874

Жыл бұрын

If you loved yourself enough to strive for and attain a certain lifestyle and security, *as a woman with the attendant hurdles plus "female tax," ex: taxis, higher rent for safer neighborhoods*, and the dewd can't match you? Walk.

Recently I went on a first date that went fine. Then on the second date he starts freely sharing all about his financial problems. This is my cue to exit stage left, it was just unappealing.💃. This video made me realize they do this in purpose to see if you are going yo step up and offer to be a sugar momma. I thought he was just a broke dusty. Turns out he was a manipulative broke dusty.

@user-jp1zs8wy5n

9 ай бұрын

Aren't u glad u swept THAT away quickly???😃😃😃

As a recently retired woman, I find all of this extremely amusing. Successful Black women have always had to navigate the minefield of racist white folks, backstabbing women and soul/wallet sucking Black men. Stay strong and observant...all will be revealed, these brothers with their hands out will always tell on themselves...we just need to pay attention. I'm teaching my 14 yo daughter the ways of the world and encouraging her sense of discernment...ALWAYS trust your gut, it will never steer you wrong.

@christinerichardson6596

Жыл бұрын

Lucky daughter!

@maxxedtfout

Жыл бұрын

Smart lady. I wish mine had told me anything about dating. I’ve learned the hard way but these men are true bums. I’ve never not had money but I have worked 3 jobs around the clock if I needed to or thought I might need to. These men barely want to work one but are convinced that they are so valuable that if all of them were taken out of the workforce suddenly the world would stop 😂

@dianneyung111

Жыл бұрын

"Successful Black women have always had to navigate the minefield of racist white folks, backstabbing women and soul/wallet sucking Black men." Lady, you summed it up in a nutshell. Bravo.

Move around ladies. Shop for groceries, etc in a wealthier part of town even if you have to take a bus or train! You'd be amazed at the kind of appropriate attention you could get from men and women. Have a "date me" fund and splurge once in a while on an activity for you to enjoy! People will notice your comfort level of being by yourself in public...

@sonyab2u974

Жыл бұрын

This!🎯💯

@iwasbornunderwater

Жыл бұрын

So true! An ex friend liked to drag me and tell me "come eat/shop where The People are". I said hell no. I love the peace of shopping in my neighborhood where men open doors for you and they'd never even think of harassing me.

@Southern.Nappiness

Жыл бұрын

This is my area. I love it! Peaceful, men opening doors, men get up when the cafe seats are full to allow you to sit and absolutely no dusties. They can't afford the area and I don't live in town.

@Butterfly_Beauty

Жыл бұрын

💯💯🎯

@MsMoneyonMyMind

Жыл бұрын

I was literally just out doing this today. I didn’t go to the wealthy side of my city bc fk that lol (I get what you mean tho) but I DID venture outside of the city limits. I got in a good workout and went about errand running and I was already on a post workout high plus moving around w/o a bunch of nakers around was so pleasant and enjoyable. It may just be in my mind but I’m noticing bw smiling more and being more accommodating; I hope it’s bc the message is spreading far & wide 🤞🏾☺️

Years ago, I wasted about a year of my life on one of these types. He had a good job,but too many habits (alcohol, tobacco, marijuana). If his habits are more important than you? Run like the wind 🏃🏾‍♀️

@aqp519

14 сағат бұрын

I AGREE!

That’s why they’re so mad at women 30+ who have requirements, and their rebuttal is “after you’ve wasted your “prime”, 20s”, now you want to have standards. So many bm are responding to this bw video on Instagram about what she wants, one of them said after you done scking 🍆 now you want to have expectations. What they really have an issue with since they don’t have anything, 30+ women should take them as they are and be glad a man looks their way. Even woman’s in theirs 20s, they don’t give those women anything tangible she can look back on. If the women weren’t doing anything, the children wouldn’t be able to go to the best schools, eat decent foods above McDonald’s dollar menu. They see women in their 20s as new clothes, they want to be able to wear those clothes, then discard them when they’re done. Men, especially bm are sick. I leave them all alone.

@mjackson3109

Жыл бұрын

🎯🎯Yeah those 30+ XY's thought the well would never run dry of 20-25 women desiring them. If it the young women said "NOPE", they figured they could circle back to 30+ women. Thinking the very same women they'd previously used, abused and abandoned would be waiting with open arms. 🤣🤣Jokes on you. Nobody wants these old broke, broken down, hobosexual Uncles.

@Lisette121

Жыл бұрын

Women gain standards through experience. They are being wilfully obtuse, because they act like women who are in their late teens to early 20s should know game when they see it. But most learn with time.

@catharsismemory

Жыл бұрын

Another thing that they aren't honest about is that they act like 20yr old men are marriage minded at that age. As if they weren't living it up, enjoying their 20s and wanting to sleep with many women as they can. The issue is they are highly jealous of each other but take that anger out on women.

@dianaprince9311

Жыл бұрын

These menz operate on the assumption all BW are 304s in their younger years when that’s a lie since the ones they want are focused on their education and careers instead of dusties who want to give out stds and create single mother homes to ruin her life. They are mad they didn’t get that chance.

@jennifergilkey

Жыл бұрын

They act like they all are offering marriage to women under 25! (They arent)! Tho...

It’s still going on. My mom is 87 and she has a guy calling her to take him places, and for food. My sister and I told her, He’ll No! Don’t take him anywhere or give him food. Chile, they still DUSTY!

@dday3322

Жыл бұрын

Wow!

@queenana9

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂Not still @ 87!! Giiirrll.. I’m done!

@eb51

Жыл бұрын

Yes once you feed them they won’t go away . We never feed the strays

Being desired is not as desirable when it’s by the desireless.

@user-jp1zs8wy5n

9 ай бұрын

Tell it on the mountain girl!!!🤣🤣🤣

@Zanyelle

Ай бұрын

😮 that’s so true 😂

1st RED FLAG… if a man is inviting you out on a BreakFast Date, he’s broke… You only go out to eat breakfast together, after you’ve been out in several dinner dates already… But an initial breakfast date should be an automatic no..Also ladies, stop letting these men dictate where to have a date.. He should be asking where you would like to go out on a date.. Personally I wouldn’t go out to eat at all, I would suggest a show.. I’m in NY, so a comedy show, a Broadway or off Broadway show.. (they have to buy tickets ahead of time) Ur supposed to spend money on a real date.. and if he doesn’t have it, tell him to save up for it and move on.. Suggest real dates and you will quickly see who is broke or not.. Dating is about weeding out the ones you don’t want, stop wasting ur energy on men that can’t measure up..

@sonyab2u974

Жыл бұрын

Or a coffee date

@trisha1989

Жыл бұрын

@n3w Wd #facts they will spend every dime to hook you! #LoveBomb #PoorMoneyManagement

@venamoore98

Жыл бұрын

You can do you, but a comedy show or Broadway for the first few dates is not for me (I live in NY too). You can't talk to the date during the show and I'd rather spend the time having a conversation with the person and getting to know them. Coffee dates are a minimal investment and have multiple exit strategies so I prefer them for first dates. If there are additional dates, then I'd rather go out to eat somewhere, no matter if it's breakfast or dinner or do an activity like bowling or visiting a museum where I can actually talk to the person.

@venamoore98

Жыл бұрын

@Emily Rogue I respect your opinion but I value my time and my safety. Coffee dates are safer as they are in the daytime. And if I am not compatible with someone, I can end a coffee date quickly. You can't end a dinner date with an incompatible man that quickly.

@venamoore98

Жыл бұрын

@Emily Rogue We'll have to agree to disagree.

No to coffee dates ladies.

@GeminiCloudTech

Жыл бұрын

The little Nigeria content creator Fumi says we're ungrateful for not going on coffee dates 😑 😒

@ShiningLight411

Жыл бұрын

@grezsoy You beat me to it! I just posted the same thing!😂

@renaissancewoman100

Жыл бұрын

I'm GenX and the rusties(vintage old dusties) are absolutely like this. set a brunch date with a rusty decrepit naker. He started trying to get me to come to his home. I believe in meeting in public. I'm not going to anyone's house. I flat out told him I was uncomfortable with that. He actually said, "and they wonder why they're single". Umm sir I know why I'm single. I'm a widow. I don't wonder why he's divorced though.

@sonyab2u974

Жыл бұрын

Or Taco Bell, any cheap date offers 💯

She was going to pay for her own food??? Fuck no.

@sonyab2u974

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! I wouldn’t even agree to none of that smh, these women need to get some better standards and self esteem. These men need to get a job lol

Is non child support payments finally hitting some of them in their golden years?

@dday3322

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

I get real crass in these situations and tell men that I don't get wet for sob stories lol.

"At 30 they wined and dined you on credit cards they never paid off" 🤣 And that's why they're in debt with bad credit in their 40's and 50's 🙃

This is why I keep money on me....I find it funny that these same men will call u a gold digger when u ask of they are paying for the date smh lol foh

I'm GenX and the rusties(vintage old dusties) are absolutely like this. set a brunch date with a rusty decrepit naker. He started trying to get me to come to his home. I believe in meeting in public. I'm not going to anyone's house. I flat out told him I was uncomfortable with that. He actually said, "and they wonder why they're single". Umm sir I know why I'm single. I'm a widow. I don't wonder why he's divorced though.

@user-jp1zs8wy5n

9 ай бұрын

U MADE IT HURT !! ROSES 🌹 FOR U!!!🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

@user-jp1zs8wy5n

9 ай бұрын

That dusty mf was tryna secure a test drive!!! Ur safety comes first! I know for a fact u left that dust in the dust!!! Glad u r safe!!

This is pathetic. If you can't feed yourself properly and don't have shelter and transportation then your priorities are not in the right place. It would make you feel like you are giving your children lunch money. Never entertain anybody with poor credit. They are looking to drain you for yours. They are parasites.

These men have no business going on dates. Fix yourself first, then pursue someone.

💀💀💀 WHET?! The AUDACITY is encoded on the Y of their chromosomes! 😂🤣😭💀 This reminds me of a guy I used to be friends with. He wasn't working and was dating at one point in time. I told him should he be focused on getting another job instead of dating and he got an attitude with me. They have no understanding of priorities or planning for the future which is why they deserve to be alone.

This is not just the 50 year olds…this is the 20’s, 30’s and 40’s too. Just sad AF!

@sonyab2u974

Жыл бұрын

Yep!💯

I live on an island where we make average 10k USD a year. And STILL men try to live off a woman. At work 1 guy has THREE WOMEN a day bring him food! 3 different women bring him a meal each!

My elderly relative lives in a senior community and baybee the stories she tells me are wild, her fellow senior citizen neighbors tell her of all kinds of debauchery. She said the reason why she decided to never ever marry and stay celibate after becoming a widow is that HIV/AIDS is rampant in the building according to the care team (onsite doctors/nurses), but these elderly men keep all of their money to take younger women on dates and trick off, while having 5 or more elderly women on the property that are lonely paying all their bills. People are having orgies, partner swaps, etc. and most of the women are infatuated by these dusty men, while those men do nothing for them but bare minimum. She's 70 and said she have seen women her age fighting over the elderly menz at the retirement home. Police has had to be called on several occasions. And the retirement community she's at is "upscale" so I can only imagine what goes in in low income areas. Geeez! 😮‍💨

@ari_an_yah

Жыл бұрын

I heard this a couple of years ago about the HIV/AiDS in the senior citizen community. Damn!

@dianaprince3176

Жыл бұрын

Somebody needs to show @TylerPerry this post and tell him to write the soap opera of it.

@Southern.Nappiness

Жыл бұрын

When I lived in MI, rural area outside of Detroit. There was an apartment bldg in Detroit with mostly seniors living there. A nurse told me, there was several bm who were HIV positive, sexually active and refused to get treatment after testing positive. As a result, they were threatening to terminate their leases. Several older women in the bldg contracted HIV from those bm. The women did get the treatment for it and survived. Later, I found out all the bm had passed away, but one. None took the steps to save their own lives. Could you imagine your grandmother contracting HIV in her later years???

@carolanestanley4030

Жыл бұрын

I live in one of those communities and it's a hot mess! I've been hit on by a couple of men residing here, but will never go any further than small chats. Nothing like being/single and having peace of mind! 😍

@peacefreedom4930

Жыл бұрын

Lmao! Omg

How someone (mis)manages finances IS an indicator of their personality. See it and listen to your instincts.

Why we doing coffee dates anyways??? That's a sign of poverty if he doesn't want to properly take out on a date. Coffee shop dates are for friends, study groups, and business ideas meetups.

@dearbrave4183

Жыл бұрын

Women are on discount now. The desperation is high. Also what difference does it make since she'll probably house him too, like most do

@memebzk5001

Жыл бұрын

@@dearbrave4183 they need to raise their standards

@Callimo

Жыл бұрын

Lots of people are meeting strange folks over dating apps. It's a way to slide into a dinner date. So, think of coffee "dates" as a pre-date. Just to get a real world physical feel that you can't get online.

@thelastshallbefirst6036

Жыл бұрын

​@@memebzk5001 They need to get some standards first.

@sonyab2u974

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! I will turn down any cheap date offer because its tells me they are broke n cheap. They really shouldn’t be dating smh

I only date men over 55, and I don't have this issue because I state it at the very beginning of my profile that they must be financially stable/secure, and other language letting them know I don't do 50/50 on dates or in life with a man. So, that is likely why I mostly get communications and dates from men with disposable income. The ones who are broke, I can sense it very quickly in their profile and by looking at the backgrounds of their photos, so I simply just block and delete.

@user-jp1zs8wy5n

9 ай бұрын

You've got it down as a science!!! Keep it that way sis!!! Weeds out all the derelict dust buckets!! 💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️❤️

The tenets of survival is called the Maslows Hierachy Pyramid. On the bottom is physiological and water for survival and sex (I think sex should be for the upper echelons of the pyramid. Not dating or sex.)

I’m hearing Luther Vandross singing “my house is not a hole.”

@BurbNBougie

Жыл бұрын

💀💀💀😂😂😂

As a BF on a fixed income (medically retired from the army) I don't have a lot. My mortgage and other bills are paid my freezer and fridge are full. If I want to go out I go out. I have credit cards but very rarely use them. I cant understand why you can't afford a meal. Shoot they bought back the steak,egg, and cheese bagel.

@genxx2724

Жыл бұрын

Sounds as if you have plenty. Good for you.

@Southern.Nappiness

Жыл бұрын

Some places coffee is still .99 and refills are free. So, if they still can't afford that, then they need to stay home.🤨

@TFPG62

Жыл бұрын

Me too sis! On disability and my house is paid for, and my freezer, fridge and pantry is stocked. Don't need a broke dusty. AT ALL

What is so baffling to me is, if you are a person who moves this way then why not treat the person you are trying mooch off of with more RESPECT! They mistreat the person who helps them like trash, it makes no sense!

🤦🏽‍♀️ These coffee/breakfast "outings" are not dates. They are interviewing women for the positions of sugar mommas, nurse with a purse or both. Go to only high end places when out. DUSTin & Ashquayviyus will never cross your path.

@sonyab2u974

Жыл бұрын

💯

@user-jp1zs8wy5n

9 ай бұрын

Girl; If u suggest a high end spot, the color will drain from their faces!!!!🤣🤣🤣💯💯💯

$10 for TWO WEEKS - I hollered SO LOUD

I'm a 45 year old Afrikan man, I can't imagine not paying for the food on a date. I'm dating right now and I have always paid whatever bills come up, even though my lady has her money.

I’ve been seeing a bunch of children paying there dads back child support, new lows for this lot.

@rastamuff1

Жыл бұрын

Really?? Really?? Please tell me more because this is new!

@dday3322

Жыл бұрын

What?!

@darciethemom2273

Жыл бұрын

@@rastamuff1 Yes, these last few Months of browsing yt, tiktok and Fb. There have been posts of kids paying off their deadbeat father’s back child support. I’ve also been seeing siblings in relationships with the same father who didn’t know because their father failed to raise them together.

@TheRealist00

Жыл бұрын

WHAT?! I would flip my sh*t if I found out my kids were doing this. They (the fathers) really have no shame huh…

@darciethemom2273

Жыл бұрын

@@TheRealist00 It’s really disgusting.

Not sorry! I don't give menz money or a place to stay. 😊😊

I saw this mess. He’s an entire dusty. He can’t afford coffee or be in a woman’s face. The car thing means he’s broke and or he sold a car that he never transferred to the new owner or he just had tickets on his car which is undrivable with a boot on it.

The audacity. Unreal.

I like meeting for breakfast dates so that you can have a moment to get to know this person without that “we might bump n grnd after this” mood hanging over the whole outing. You sit there and have a light meal, converse to see what’s going on with this other person, and then when you’re done, you still have the rest of the day to do what you want. He can keep a cool head and not be thinking “and then we go to bed” the whole time he’s talking to you. If he’s working with less cash and admits to it, no harm no foul. He was honest and now you know. You can decide how you want to proceed and he doesn’t have to worry about an expensive meal he really can’t afford. Easy peasy.

@briana14333

Жыл бұрын

I feel you. There are dates that feel cheap and thoughtless, then those that are thoughtfully planned to align with his dating budget.

In its simplest form.. it’s *reaping what you sow.* All the money in the world doesn’t buy love. And when it’s all said and done, when you’re alone, lonely and crave love, companionship and caring, a stranger will only give you 2 of those 3 things. Because money can buy companionship and care. I know, I’m a caregiver. But not love. Especially if You’ve spent a lifetime being a selfish prick. Applies to women, too. I’ve been in big homes. With long hallways, beautiful expensive art, and high ceilings. More tricks and treats than you can imagine. But I’m here to tell you the void of family and love has a deafening heartbeat. And dying alone, sad and without love has a very different smell than going in peace, ensconced in the love one grew, nurtured and reciprocated in their lifetime.

My mother has had a hobo sexual pet for 30 years. She’s 61 he’s 7 years younger and he is not working. Just waiting to see the outcome.

Yikes on a rack of bikes. I can’t or won’t.

I think this is why my x (52 at the time) broke up with me. He was spending like crazy at first, then he started asking to meet at his house and he’d end up just making me dinner. He had his phone hooked up to his speaker for music while we were at the lake once and a creditor called! It was so loud and embarrassing.

I thought all of them were getting passports to go marry Maria and Mei Ling. 😳

@sonyab2u974

Жыл бұрын

Passport Bros lol

@briana14333

Жыл бұрын

Ma’am, passports are like $150. You know they ain’t got it!!!

These dusties really don’t grow out of their dust. I’m 27 and met an older guy who admitted he has bad credit, had his car repossessed and if anyone moves him in he would not pay rent. Oop. These dusties lack the maturity to grow up well. I suggest when you meet one and they show their true colors…avoid them!!!

Lesson: Don’t meet men for coffee!

My aunt had a man try to sneak her into a movie.

I don’t see a problem with coffee dates. If you’ve been on enough dates, you know the types of questions to ask, how to frame it while appearing ‘fit feminine and friendly’ to get them to tell on themselves. Spoiler: they always tell on themselves. Coffee dates are safer (day, public) and it doesn’t leave you with a dinner bill that you may have to pay cause someone decided to date broke. Plus it lets you know that it may or may not go any further after this.

@venamoore98

Жыл бұрын

I also prefer coffee dates and don't understand why so many women are against them. Besides being safer, they're less of an investment and have multiple exit strategies. If you're not compatible with someone, you can end a coffee date quick. You can't end a dinner date with someone you don't like that quickly.

@Daug555

Жыл бұрын

@@venamoore98 exactly!

@islandgirl8067

Жыл бұрын

Same here, less time and money invested & easy to walk away from if the man is unsuitable.

@r.j.whitaker

Жыл бұрын

Agree 👍 safer and more practical ☕️

@misskeah8893

Жыл бұрын

​@@islandgirl8067 yes or unhinged...

From the last video 1/4 of men think money is important in a relationship. And women have already shown and trained them that they are willing to lower their standards pay and house them ,so ..

Where is she getting these men from??

Oh no, some do still have credit cards, after a bankruptcy or two. I know of a guy who is a hobosexual, and he’s throwing his credit cards around too, and he’s 60!

This is a sad state that men are in. I think the question that we should be asking is, "From this point is.. What are parents and caregivers doing to help break this cycle that we're seeing with men young or old?" I'm saying this because times are becoming more difficult for humans to survive. And if this cycle is not broken. Especially in the black/brown communities, how can survival be sustained. Yes, women can and have been raising children on their own. However, currently and in the future, the financial and emotional toll will become too much. And the children will suffer.

4:15 "I understand struggle, but I also think that when you are in such a bad place in one aspect of your life, dating should not be in anyone's list of priorities: Food, Health, Shelter, Liquidity... Funny how the basic tenets of actual survival should also be observed to be able to have a viable dating life." Unless, of course, the truth is really what another content creator on this platform has been shouting from the rooftops and that these XYs are 'dating' as a means of securing these 'basic tenets of actual survival' in the form of women whom they seem to regard as walking 'benefits packages'... Let that sink in. When one side is seeking partnership, and the other side is seeking to use the other to survive, then dating is a dangerous game.

Not to mention the guys that steal your information get a credit card in your name and then buy gifts for her using your forged credit card.

She needs to mingle elsewhere.

I know this is off topic but what lipstick are you wearing in this video??? It’s so pretty and I’ve been looking for a shade like that!

@BurbNBougie

Жыл бұрын

Urban Decay "No Restraints".

@brib6046

Жыл бұрын

@@BurbNBougie thank you!

@Southern.Nappiness

Жыл бұрын

Right! Her lipstick colors are always popping. 😊😊😊

They're like this into their 60s.

They should have paid attention to their health, their financial, building a relationship with their family and friends; instead they blame women for everything. The real problem is them and they are failing every time.

😮 Yikes “nurse with a purse!”And “house and a hole!” I’ve never heard these terms. Educate me sis 😂. My goodness. I thought the older man would have it together

Start asking for credit reports and recent medical like the employers and banks do!

I met a guy who told me he was 47, he planned a date and before I gave him my address I did a quick google search. Come to find out, he’s 51 and turn 52 next week 😒…. Why lie about 4 years?

@rubycubez1103

Жыл бұрын

Same happened to me! Dude told me he was turning 50. He was 55. Its such an odd lie

@Evettecord

Жыл бұрын

@@rubycubez1103 wmn don’t really want older men like these men claim

@autumxxleaves4186

Жыл бұрын

@@Evettecord exactly lol

@VLM123

Жыл бұрын

When I was dating, I came across a fair amount of men who chose to lie about their age. They do it so they won't be identifiable in a background check (which will reveal their true age anyway, if you have the person's full name and/or date of birth), or they don't want you to think they're much older, or younger, than what they told you due to insecurities. It's a hot mess. I'm good with no longer dating, at this time.

@daniella8400

Жыл бұрын

@@Evettecord not at all! I’m not dating anyone over 50!

We think of a creator that apparently caters to black men but it appears that she caters to the dusties. She made a short saying that she will take a broke black man. Good for her, take him. I don't want a human pet. I have said that before in real life.🤣

Supportive comment 🥰

The flip side of lifelong strong preference in types of men.

The best men are usually (still) married/settled down long before their fifties. Makes sense you gotta wade through the kind of men no one else wanted

As soon as you walk in that coffee shop and seen that he made his purchase, you make a u turn out the door, that's inconsiderate.

YESSSSSS

Ladies please be careful.out there. A lot of men are looking for a hand out. If you have a house and job you have a lot to offer

People(men) need to focus on getting their lives together before trying to date. That's all men do is trying to sleep with a woman knowing he's a bum. They really need to redirect their life decisions on becoming a man before trying to become someone's man

I would t even go or buy a coffee if I had to bum a ride omg so rmbarsssinf

The women have money and homes from THEIR ex-husbands and they want to talk down to older men...smh

@BurbNBougie

13 күн бұрын

Now now. Maybe you don't know, but women work and pay into the marital home. And even stay at home moms add value. Regardless, that has nothing to do with this video. No woman should take in a broken down or sick man. He better figure it out.

I've seen these people actually try to lure married people from their stable relationships in an effort to use them as a resource. Don't fall for the foolishness!

SOLO🎉🎉🎉🎉

0:45 why are you dating Sirs?

But women are the “gold diggers” … right? According to them.. oh ok.. 😂😂