Hey guys I hope you enjoy this longer podcast style video - I know I touch on a few touchy subjects and I hope you understand that these are just my experiences and those of those close to me xx

"Life is short. I mean... climate change is coming" BEST QUOTE EVER.

We got married 13 guests, a second hand wedding dress and husband wore the suit he wore to his sister's wedding. Family weren't pleased at first but then we talked about eloping (which is totally us) and they soon shut up and got behind us. 😁 Loved learning more about you!

Totally agree with you about the whole wedding debacle. The amount of money that people spend astounds me - it's one day. The celebration should be about the couple, and I have friends who have put themselves into debt for it. A refreshing video, nice to learn a bit more about you. Xx

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your insight - sometimes I feel like I'm out there on my own with that one haha

@camilacarnevale2152

5 жыл бұрын

I started thinking about this when I saw that my sister was spending USD 3,000 on HER WEDDING DRESS. I'm so happy to see I'm not the only one who thinks this is nuts

@sixxlee890

5 жыл бұрын

@@camilacarnevale2152 honestly, I wish that the people I know had spent that little. I know people who have spent upwards of £15,000 on their weddings. To me, that's just mad.

@rsdxxxx

5 жыл бұрын

My parents eventually got married 7 years ago (for financial reasons more than anything) after 32 years together, while we were on holiday in the US.. The day cost us $150~ for the court's time, then lunch out for just the 4 of us. I can't imagine spending more than that ever and it astounds me watching programmes like Say Yes To The Dress :o

I have SUCH strong feelings about what you described when it comes to A levels. I work as a private tutor on the side (mostly GCSE) and half of my job is to bolster school students’ confidence because, due to “bad grades,” they are absolutely convinced that they’re stupid and of course, they never are. It’s heartbreaking and wrong, the whole grading system is usually rotten and the social status attached to them is just deplorable. Good for you for rising above all that: grades genuinely do not matter, ESPECIALLY if you have the right attitude. Your hours of effort revising in the library were worth more than a single letter, and that dedication shows in your videos. Sorry for the rant!

@alinabelousova

2 жыл бұрын

You are so right. Grades do not reflect what the person will or will not achieve in their lives! I hate the whole grading and competition system that the school is breeding.

My boyfriend and I are gonna get married next year for our 10 years. We need to because we are gonna travel a lot in the next few years and it is safer for a lot of reasons. It is also a way to see all family and friends before going abroad . But we are definitely doing something simple, vegan and low waste. If people are not happy I don’t care ...

AGREE with not moving to the U.S. (and I'm in the U.S.!)

Something to consider is that if you and your partner should decide to marry and have a wedding, you can have a sustainable wedding and have a vegan feast to show people how it can be done properly and prioritize your values over tradition and other people’s values.

@Alice_Upward_Flamingo

5 жыл бұрын

juchinchou We did. A vegan, dry wedding, as sustainable as possible (for us, at that time). Everyone had a great time and those (few) that wouldn’t have didn’t show up.

I'd love to see your updated essentialist wardrobe! Loved this video, you're so wonderful to watch.

@bldnblklace

5 жыл бұрын

Oh so would I! I love using this word instead of minimalism now. I've realized it's what I've been; rather than a minimalist per say. I've been 'minimizing' for years, but I'm more of an essentialist by nature and function as such. Looking at things that way has really opened up a new perspective because I didn't really match that word to it even though it's honestly how I've been doing things all along, I just wasn't calling it that. I do'nt know why words matter so much haha but they do!

I basically spent this entire video nodding, we seem to be on a similar wavelength when it comes to religion, marriage, weddings.. and moving to US, haha 😀👍

My husband and I decided to get married basically for the medical benefits. We both are disabled and have medical issues that have put us in the hospital at various points in our lives. So, we wanted to be able to advocate for each other when we did end up in the hospital unable to make our own decisions. Our wedding was perfect. We had about 30-50 friends and family at a tiny wedding venue located right behind our apartment complex. His mom cooked all of the food and his family helped with the decorations and everything else to make it run smoothly. We were married by my husband's grandma's old pastor who had to leave his old church because he's gay. The whole thing cost about $6,000, including the venue, food, clothing, decorations and everything else. If you ever do get married, make sure you designate someone to be the go-to for all complaints so the two of you aren't bothered by any bitching. :)

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your perspective - your wedding sounds divine ❤️❤️❤️

man oh man do I appreciate your views on religion/weddings! Totally agree with the big wedding show being so extra and often they end up being wasteful and expensive! Don't need to spend thousands of dollars and have a priest give you permission to spend your life with the person you love!! :)

Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us. I respect your personal views and your honesty.

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

It's a really nice way to get closer to our community! I wish I could get to know all of you so much more too xx

Thank you for that section about your alevels. People always overlooked me and though I wasn’t a worthy completion when it came to grades so I started playing into that making my grades get way worse. I just finished my exams and I know I didn’t do well but I’m excited to do the best I can for my self over the next year and hopefully my grades will be as good as yours.

All of my low impact friends are in the internet. Haha. Love you!

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

hahahaha IT'S TRUE xx

Your answer regarding academia really resonated with me. I felt the same growing up!

Thank you for trusting and sharing yourself more fully. I appreciate you're journey.

Loved this video! It's nice getting to learn a bit more about you.

I really liked this video & getting to know you better. I’ve watched your channel for awhile now but it’s nice to see a different side of you. You should do more videos like this.

This was a beautiful video, don't normally care for these kinds of posts but I found myself relating to your nature a lot. (e.g. confrontation, oh honey I feel you). Thanks for doing your bit and putting your loveliness out to the world. Thanks for your gentle, kind inspiration xx

Loved this video x you are so genuine

Girrrrrl, what you said about religion and marriage... let me tell you, you just put into words lots of things that I've been thinking about for the past year or so. Thank you! Please, make more videos like this one :)

i’ve been told that avoiding confrontation is a huuuuge personality trait most british people have in common? one reason i would fit right in 😂

@tanuki116

5 жыл бұрын

Haha have you read Watching the English by Kate Fox? One of the best books I've read in my entire life I think, as a French person 😂😂

@sierrao.3501

5 жыл бұрын

@@tanuki116 no i haven't! i'll definitely add that to my reading list, thanks :)

This was such a fun, relatable video!!💕

This was fun! I had no idea your perspective on some things... and I understand your perspective on not needing to get married, but your wedding does not have to be full of drama.

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

haha if you knew my family then you would know that it would only be drama and not about the person I love xx

that ranttttttttt was everythingggg im sure you could've kept talking about it lol i can relate

Haha, the confrontation one I agree with so much even being so passionate about stuff I crack 😭

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

haha absolutely same as me xx

the grades thing got to me a bit. I struggled with studying in high school,and what I always read or wanted to read as "you are stupid" was really "you could do good in school if only..." which I started to understand around the last 2 years of school, but even then I needed more confidence, more demonstrations of respect and love and I struggled so bad to focus on a bunch of subjects partly bc of how the books were written, partly because I was distracted by internal struggles and wishes. I understand it best now that I am 23, and I could not have done different. I was introspective but I saw things as they were twisted by my self-loathing. I want to start working on this sooner or later. and I agree with what you said for every point that allows for an opinion XD

Loved this video. Glad to know you better. I really like you😊

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

ahhh you're too sweet xxx

I loved this video! It is nice to know some more about you!

Oh Immy, that was lovely and also hilarious - like having a natter with a friend. Though I think you could have proved the tail thing by mooning the screen. ;) We spent very little on our wedding and had a small number of the people we love best there. Afterwards we went for coffee and a sit down - there I was in Costa in my wedding dress! But it was perfect, doing it how we wanted rather than how other people thought we ought to.

You're really on my wavelength! My boyfriend and I feel the same way about marriage, after 6.5 years together

I enjoyed this video so much!! Excellent way to address misinformation about you.

loved getting to know you a bit more, it turns out we are more alike than I thought! Love from Cyprus ;)

This was such a fun video!

Loved this video!!!

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

ah thanks for watching and commenting xx

No way! I have the *exact* same story about opening my A Level results and misreading them. 😂

Lots of love and positivity. XOXO.

Straight from the heart ......high five ! 🙏🏾

I think you are great!!! The simple fact that (even if you disagree) you respect ideas that differ from your own is precious!!! I am not Vegan, never will be; I am a good Christian (not a holy-roller or a judgy poser); I am a scientist by profession; I am a loving US Patriot; I am trying to reduce my impact on the planet & people in any way other than touching a soul 😁 So easy to be KIND & TOLERANT. And, from what I’ve seen, you are... Your videos opened my eyes to so many things that I aspire to change in my life. PS. My first wedding (age 22) was perfect, the guy ended up being a Class-A jerk! My second wedding (age 37) was private in my living room, 6 of us total... and, my marriage was the focus instead of the wedding. We’ve been together 18 years, married 10. So many were mad at us for just “doing the damn thing.” But, THEY weren’t our focus! SO YOU DO YOUR WEDDING (or, not do your wedding) & MARRIAGE AS YOU & YOUR MAN SEE FIT 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS & LEARN WITH EVERY ONE!!! Thanks!!!!!!!

What about moving to Canada? We’re a commonwealth country & your personality would fit in well here.

Love this video, you're the best, keep being you.

Hi Immy this was a different video it was kind of fun. Thank you for sharing some of your personal beliefs and thoughts. My husband I agree with you when it comes to weddings. We had a small wedding we had it in our house we only had 9 people.

I loved this video so honest and funny too X

Hi Immy this was a very great video to watch, just felt like having a fun tea talk with you =) ! I just wanted to add that your footage seems to be a little over-exposed on the left side (I'm a photographer too). Have you thought about using a reflector so that the right side isn't so dark and you can shut your aperture a bit down ? Anyway that may just be my laptop that is really bright ^^ Have a great day !

The more I learn about you the more I appreciate you

You are such an honest and very cool, open-minded young lady. Not to mention very adorable!

Um yeah...don't move here!

I am in the same position as you were in high school. I am in grade 10 and both this year and last year I have got some of my worst grades and most of them as well. I chose a very math oriented class when i am good at learning languages, only to be able to learn German with the teacher, that actually helped me discover that I was better at languages. That is my only skill that is appreciated in the school system of my country, learning languages very easily, just by paying attention during class, I can get a B or an A sometimes. So because I am not very interested in getting good grades (I know that I could be a top student, but I simply don't care for that kind of appreciation ) I always feel like my classmates who get better grades and aren't that close to me constantly judge me for it and think i am dumb. But then I also don't get happiness out of it so it is annoying, especially when my mom used to be at thw top of her class and constantly tells me that she was the best but of course she worked hard for it. Well done, but I don't want that! 🙄

My boyfriend and I are very similar to you guys in view of marriage. We'd like a courthouse wedding and then a Halloween party reception with close friends :) Neither of us want a huge event that costs a lot of money and is super stressful.

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Omg a Halloween reception sounds amazing

I didn't know you are in a long distance relationship! My boyfriend is from Scotland and I lived in America- we dated for 5 years before finally getting married (because of visas etc as you say...you pretty much have to get married) last year & now live in Scotland. So hang in there!! :) Long distance is the worst because it's so heartbreaking being apart most of the time, but ultimately when things were hard I'd think: I can either stick it out, or break up... is he worth it? And he totally was/is.

Great video!

I HEAR YA on the American boyfriend thing. I fell in love with an American, and to stay together long term in the UK we decided to get married. We had the smallest, most casual wedding we could think of. After the register office legal bit we had our ceremony in tipis with hay bales in my parents' back garden... homemade cakes, foraged table arrangements, humanist celebrant... you get the idea! Low cost, low stress, all about celebrating with close family and close friends. Extended family who didn't get an invite will always be bent out of shape about it, but you have to do what right for you.

Loved this video so much! We're so much alike :)

I don't think you're stupid at all. You seem intelligent, insightful, and you think out of the box. You made me question things that I believe and thought about life..

make a video regarding why you "would NEVER" move to the states?

I had a similar experience with my pre-college education...I was going through some mental health issues from middle to high school so school wasn't a priority, but that meant others tended to think I wasn't as smart as I am. Now, I am an A student in grad school who LOVES school. Who would have thought?

I enjoyed this video, so cute to get to know you even better, of course, as much as you feel like sharing 🙂 I don't have a tail either, but I do call "tail" my tail bone, just to see people's puzzled faces 😄 I'm a catholic, but I do have my strong opinions about some things that are totally in contrast with Church, but I don't feel guilty about them one little bit. I believe everyone should have the right of being who they feel they are and love who they love 🙂 I agree with you on marriage, point by point, I don't need a ring to know I love my boyfriend and it annoys me to think of inviting people just for "diplomatic" reasons. Though, I'm a big romantic and I do dream about a simple long white dress 😍

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Love this - thank you for sharing your opinions, thoughts and feelings with us ❤️❤️

Love this video immy! 💙💙

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much xx

It honestly ticks me off something chronic that people feel so shamed about B's and C's in results. Sometimes ppl have a super chaotic homelife, neurological conditions/learning difficulties (I have some that were undiagnosed at the time of my GCSE's and uni) but are perfectly intelligent and capable people. I understand that education is such a privilege but I wouldn't be surprised if making out to kids that B's and C's aren't worth pride is stopping them from even trying. EDIT: I did not mean this as an attack against you, Immy, just as a general point, You always come across as very thoughtful, down to earth and fair.

Hi SV! Have u heard of green hosting? Hosting that invests in renewable energy... Maybe u could explore it for your website. I'm all into climate change too. I wonder if you could address more about zero waste in terms of energy and fuels, this includes not just transportation but water, for example ( there's so much energy put into water treatment, wells, etc, and also diverting water from wherever it is has an effect on ecosystems), or food or electronics, or other items we get wasteful at... I'd also would like you to talk about extinction rebellion, the school strikes for climate and other interesting movements, or at least some initiatives making positive change you believe in... Love your honesty, just suggestions! good luck!

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Feeling the marriage ramble so much!! Why does it have to be so fake? I’m definitely not going to invite anyone I don’t love. And the wedding will be vegan. Loved the videoooo

CAN YOU DO A VIDEO ON ZERO WASTE SUMMER WHERE YOU SHOW HOW YOU COOL YOURSELF OFF IN THE SUMMER WITHOUT AIR CONDTIONING

@owlwing212

5 жыл бұрын

You could try breathing techniques from yoga. Some can cool you down. I am sure you will find something on the internet.

I had more people that I had to invite to my wedding than people that I wanted there. So many of them i have not seen since!

It’s not THAT hard to get a visa to move to the UK if you’re getting married or are already married. As long as your BF doesn’t have a criminal background, and you make at least the required income to sponsor him, it’s actually a fairly straightforward process (just expensive and time consuming). If he’s still in university, that could necessitate a way until he’s graduated, but otherwise it wouldn’t be too difficult. My husband is from the U.K., I’m American, after dating Trans-Atlantically for three years, we decided that we either were going to break up or live together in the same country. Flying across the Atlantic multiple times a year so we could spend a week or two together at a time wasn’t something we were willing to do forever. It’s just not emotionally sustainable long term. Marriage was the best/easiest way for us to be able to get a visa and be in the same country. He chose to come to the USA, but the visa requirements for the U.K. wouldn’t have been that different. We’ve started looking at the requirements to possibly move back to the U.K. (he’s still a citizen) and even that is a fairly straightforward process. A wedding doesn’t have to be a huge event. Ours was super small with just our parents, my brother, and his wife. No church, no minister, and our dinner was just a reservation at a nice restaurant. The whole thing (other than our rings) cost way under $2000.

My husband and I got married after 15 years and one son who was 10 at the time. Our son gave me away and was also best man. We had a wedding breakfast but no evening reception and just 35 guests. My husbands father had recently died so we wanted to make sure there wasn’t a ‘hole’ where he should be so we didn’t follow traditions. I gave the speech. And you know what? Every one was relaxed and happy and glad they didn’t have the marathon day weddings usually entail. Do it your way, those who love you will be happy and the rest can bugger off 😂😂😂

Well, now we know. Thanks.

What university did you attend? What did you study?

I hear you about religion. I cannot believe that a God can decide who dies or lives (I lost someone and I was devastated about it). However, not all religions have a God and since I became Nichiren Buddhist I feel free to be myself, happier and stronger. I don't pray a God, I simply try to achieve happiness in this life and to make people happy. :-)

What about animism (like shinto) or buddhism? I think those could suit you^^

Really enjoyed this one, like hanging out together 😊

“As an American *big pause* we will probably be end up getting married” As an American I feel this 😅

We are on the same wave length in many ways and I would also like to say that I'd never encourage any European in any country to move to the US. No no no way. By all means your partner should be the one moving there, you have a much better life. If I was single I'd be moving over there too. I kinda tell my partner we should run away from our families and move there too. I mean.... I don't feel like there's a lot of need to explain why.

I found it interesting that you read an assumption stating “religion” - and then responded by mentioning that you weren’t raised “Christian”. As a Jew, I’m noticing this more and more. And I know it’s even more normal in England. So many people default to thinking everyone is Christian. They’re not. Religious ≠ Christian. It is fun to get to know you more personally though! Thanks for sharing!

i’m black but i’m so interested in sustainability zero waste and all that

This is really funny. In this video you said you are not moving to US ever. And now you are actually preparing to move to US. Never say never :D

About Jewish 🤣 Love it. (it’s Judaism, but that was funny)

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Haha sorry I was in a flurry and minced my words

Why is all creators on youtube worried about long videos? Most people spend hours and hours on youtube, I have already watched all your content and I just subscribed not too long ago! half hour for a video is great.

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Probably because we’re constantly being told that our videos are too long haha

how long have you been vegan?

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

like 6 years I think

What uni did you go to?

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Sussex

No offense taken 😂

You are so beautiful!

When my bf and I get married it will most likely be in at the court house at his Navel base😋

I dont think anyone who quits anything are bad people but! I just dont think people should come out as something unless they know that cannot change for them. When you say hey....I'm vegan....for me in my mind vegans are against eating meat or anything from animals because they love animals and respect them...so when you go against that and stop being vegan it doesnt really make sense. I for one dont eat meat but I recently started. My family meaning my husband and son still eat meat so it's hard to find replacements for our favorite food.

Is it just me or is the idea of "borders" just ridiculous? I mean, if governments need to keep track, fine. Drop them a line "I'll be in your country for a while or forever, not sure, but I will be kind and work and pay taxes like a good soldier. Right, Cheers!" Do we really need more than that? I can never wrap my head around it. Reminds me of a song lyric "Freedom bares no credence when the lack of it's still being justified (in small minds).-Lone Justice #AmericaSucks (speaking as an american)

You must be a Myers-Briggs type ISFP or INFP.

I totally respect everyone's beliefs. But I just want to say this: God never said anybody is wrong to be themselves. The church people say that. There is a very important difference. Like anything else, your relationship with God or religion should be yours, personal, and true to your feelings. I just think you are missing out, just because you got scared off by different "rules". It's just my opinion, based on your explanation/argument here. :) I'm totally with you about the marriage.

I do not like America either, but it sounded as if moving to America would be the stupidest thing. What if your boyfriend would share the same thoughts towards England. I think decisions like this need more compromise between the two people. And also I believe after the marriage the visa question would be solved automatically, making the move effortless overnight:) Sorry for saying this, but this was my first thought after watching the video. Of course I should not judge after 15min.

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

Haha you make it seem like we haven’t talked about it a million times and came to this decision together

@attilabarcsik

5 жыл бұрын

​@@SustainablyVegan "We have talked about it million times and came to this decision together" indeed differs from ""no offence guys, but I absolutely not moving to the US, absolutely not" . Sorry I think I am just bickering here, which is of course does not make so much sense.

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

I guess I just assumed that couples on the whole make decisions together

I loved your video but I don't think you should say that people who work hard will get good grades and that if you work hard and don't you are an idiot :) I know it's not what you meant but a lot of people really struggle with academics and sometimes no matter how much they revise

@SustainablyVegan

5 жыл бұрын

I made it very clear this was only referring to me and my experience so I don’t really understand why it’s a problem ? I also didn’t say if you work hard and don’t get good grades you’re an idiot?

Why don't you want to move to the US lol?

@greenknitter

4 жыл бұрын

I don't know about Immy but as a European I wouldn't want to either and I know many who wouldn't. Public healthcare cover for all here, affordable education, 5 weeks paid annual leave, no worries about gun violence, I can cycle everywhere, no religious crazies in politics, no fear mongering 24/7 on TV news, healthier better quality food, no Trump...lots of reasons.

HELL NO DONT GO! Do not move to US. Stay strong. Not anti-patriotic here, realist and from lived experience, this aint the place to be for ‘our brand’ right now. Academia is an expensive receipt. Nothing more. Stay away from that too. It makes Jack a dull boy so to speak. But you know this already. Carry on. May everything and everyone good come your way... including your boyfriend 😉