I'm a trans woman and I just lost a friend the other day because he found out I was trans. I had helped him for months with his streaming for free, simply because I thought he was just kind of cool. But when he found out I was trans he claimed that I had lied to him about it when I just simply didn't bring it up because it wasn't his business. My exact words were "you aren't my doctor and we aren't fucking" the idea that I can just completely avoid hate because it's going to be deleted is absurd. I can't even avoid it in my own friend group

@CatlovingNB

9 күн бұрын

I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you find a group that will accept you.

@jasperdrawings

9 күн бұрын

I’m sorry- I remembered when my brother almost lost a friend in high school when her mother found out her daughter was hanging out with a trans man. She had this weird notion that one day the two of them would fall in love and get married but then found out that my brother was a biological female and lost it because how could her daughter ever marry a biological woman- yah her mother is crazy. And yah I live in THAT kind of community. Thankfully my mom managed to talk her down from cutting all contact and while the friend’s mom hates my brother the two of them are still close friends. Jokes on her mom though that girl is the fruitiest person I’ve ever met.

@KathrynwithaY

9 күн бұрын

Wha? I don't understand how that should be an issue if you were friends. People are odd.

@avirtualcanvas7584

9 күн бұрын

So sorry that happened to you,but I hope you have other friends around you that will accept and suport you (matt)

@secret_bonnie1983

9 күн бұрын

I’m so sorry that happened. I recently also lost a friend bc I’m trans. She was fine and supportive up till recently, she started posting transphobic stuff, and also told me it was “against her religion” so I had to block her, I wasn’t gunna let that stay in my life

Ah yes, the trans privilege of having my mother hate me, my community hate me (they don’t even know I am) and feeling constantly on edge and hating myself for not being born “normal” How privileged 😃

@RonanDahlman-ci1ql

9 күн бұрын

What a privilege.

@jessicatymczak5852

9 күн бұрын

Do not hate yourself sweetie, the world is blind, you were born exactly as you should have been and are perfect the way you are. And “normal” is the abnormal, no one is normal.

@bdariamihaela

9 күн бұрын

May I cheer you up with some ace tea? Blackberry, raspberry, dragon fruit (Aro tea is in the works)

@lynster6034

9 күн бұрын

Be proud of who you are! There's nothing wrong with being trans, it's part of what makes you, you. It's also completely natural contrary to what society has conditioned us to believe; life has always existed beyond binaries. Just be you 💛

@I_want_White_Cheddar_Popcorn

9 күн бұрын

No, no tea. Only flavored water​@@bdariamihaela

Gotta love the privilege of being discriminated against

@Hokarina1

9 күн бұрын

So jealous of the fact that you are getting targeting for just existing

@ricequin

9 күн бұрын

My trans friends would love the privilege of not fearing for their lives every time they leave the house.

@newgate-zerohour

9 күн бұрын

I love not being able to come out as trans to avoid being pushed out by a society that, at best, believes anything lgbtq should be "cured" with the appropriate "treatment" and at worst... well... yay

@SeinIshamiado

9 күн бұрын

​​@@ShanRenxinit's sarcasm. Learn it sometime.

@gordieboi2340

9 күн бұрын

@@ShanRenxin ever heard of sarcasm?

Ah yes the Privilege of not knowing if your rights will be taken away on a whim and having to check the state you’re travelling to so you can aced the likelihood of being hate-crimes 😊 We trans people should be more grateful!

@Salikino

9 күн бұрын

Sure love that “privilege” I have

@TakeAchance365

8 күн бұрын

Wasn’t it George Carlin who said that a right isn’t a right when it can be taken away it’s a privilege which is sad but true

@silly-LL-Guy

8 күн бұрын

^* assess

@0xm

8 күн бұрын

Persecution fetish

@RynMayhem

8 күн бұрын

​@@TakeAchance365rights SHOULDN'T be able to be taken away for certain groups, but in America they sometimes are

"[Trans people can] go online and not recieve any hateful comments" What. Arbitrary. Silliness.

@muted__dreamer

8 күн бұрын

that one got me giggling because of how awful and just wrong it is ive been hated in comments for things that had nothing to do with being trans and my comment saying nothing about me being trans

@pocketfluffal2134

8 күн бұрын

I think it has gotten slightly better in the last year or so (although maybe this is just because I "pass" more now than I did back then, at least online), but there was a time where I couldn't comment on anything online without someone dropping some really hateful replies. It didn't matter what the subject was. Someone would be there to drop a dogwhistle

@SC-jh9qp

8 күн бұрын

I've just replied 👍🏳️‍⚧️ before in the comments to a video by a trans person and received personal abuse.

@starscreamthecruel8026

8 күн бұрын

What part of the internet are they referring to? I havent come across this *safe space* where no one gets hateful comments.

@insanetxartist

Күн бұрын

Uh, literally NO ONE can go online without some weirdo giving them hate for literally any thing that can be nit picked. WTH did they get this messed up idea from?

I'm trans and disabled and I recently asked someone to stop using a word that increases my gender dysphoria and their answer was literally "Just because you have a disability doesn't mean you can have everything you want". It feels like as soon as you're part of a discriminated group of people, even something as simple as being treated with respect and kindness becomes like a super special privilege.

@neon17.08

9 күн бұрын

All you did was ask them to stop using a certain word. A word that would be referring to you goddammit and they got upset? Thats just petty. What is with transphobes being supersensitive about words that aren't even about them.

@berrysnowyboy5251

9 күн бұрын

🫂🫂🫂🫂 People are shitty, especially transphobes. Transphobes love to claim that we're the "sensitive" ones, yet they're the sensitive ones themselves (it's the hypocrisy and irony from transphobes)

@Ashurion-Neonix

9 күн бұрын

That's like saying "just because you have a nut allergy doesn't mean you can choose exactly what food you can get"

@dragonfliesnh4204

9 күн бұрын

As a person with disabilities, I can relate. There have been times that I've asked people, including FAMILY MEMBERS, to stop using certain words and sending inappropriate memes targeting and bullying people with my conditions. They say I'm too sensitive, it's just a joke and to get a sense of humor. I'm a cis straight female and for some reason my friend's bf thought it was appropriate to make nasty and hateful comments about transpeople when we were sitting in the car. She was in the store with her niece who is a lesbian. Now I'm wondering if he's secretly homophobic but keeping his mouth shut because of my friend's niece. The ironic part is that I was wearing an LGBTQ+ necklace... Now I will have nothing to do with him. She and I didn't know he thought this way.

@FrozEnbyWolf150

9 күн бұрын

That's literally the bare minimum. I fail to see how asking someone not to use a disparaging term is twisting their arm.

This list legit reads as "I'm not allowed to bully, harass, threaten, or deny your basic human rights and therefore trans people are privileged!" 🤦

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

100% FACTS

@Salikino

9 күн бұрын

Poor Karen, people don't like bigotry

@IndigoViolent

7 күн бұрын

It shows a really profound lack of understanding about what privilege is. Even if you could somehow objectively prove that misogyny is worse than transphobia, which I think is the main point the author of the list is going for, they're still both forms of oppression. "Transphobic comments get taken down faster than misogynist ones" ignores the fact that cis men typically don't get attacked for their gender orientation at all.

@LittleLavenderLaughter

7 күн бұрын

Sadly, this is a lot of ppl view communities they're not part of bc they're ignorant abt said communities. (ie disability community, lgbtq+ community etc)

@adrianblake8876

6 күн бұрын

​@@IndigoViolent *cishet Cis-men do get attacked for their orientation if they're not hetero...

This is a common tactic by bullies --- to pretend that they're the victim. But this instance is particularly blatant. If trans people had privilege, then: * haters wouldn't *hate* trans people, they'd *envy* them * cis people would transition for the privilege

@pipi-caca

9 күн бұрын

YES, bullies love to pretend they're the victims. Someone called me the fslur and then said he wouldn't have done it if I didn't "insult his intelligence" (I corrected him)

@christopherb501

9 күн бұрын

Case in point, Benedict Donald

@berrysnowyboy5251

9 күн бұрын

Exactly. Both bullies and abusers use this tactic to make themselves the victim to get away with discriminating against, abusing, bullying, and harassing trans folks

@sikorilzcx4513

9 күн бұрын

biological sex*

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

@@christopherb501Benedict Donald😂😂😂

I am a cisgender woman who is 2.5 years into an NHS waitlist for support (and probably surgery) for intense breast pain I've had for 15 years (they've ruled out anything serious). I do blame the government failing the NHS causing such a long wait. I do blame stupid male-oriented medical science/research for 15 years of intense breast pain being put down to "it's just puberty"/"it's normal". However, I have never once looked at my situation and blamed trans people. Mental pain is as real as physical pain and there's no reason my situation should be prioritised above the very real dysphoria that trans people experience.

@IndrasChildDeepAsleep

9 күн бұрын

This! I mean also as a trans guy, I have more issues with my chest than dysphoria. I've also been told "it's normal" when trying to access chest-related medical care. It's disgusting how a lot of doctors treat both all women and many trans men, lol we can (and should) be fighting that shit together anyway.

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

I hope you are able to get the treatment that you need.

@redarrw1633

9 күн бұрын

Holy shit 15 years that must be hell. I hope you'll be able to get the care you need soon! Whomever designed the American healthcare system was a sadist. (I assume its the American healthcare system, its just the system most immediately assume just because of how ridiculous it can be)

@waffles3629

8 күн бұрын

Yep. You can even be trans and have chest pain, and they still don't care. They still blame puberty despite my chest pain having been a thing for decades. I was like 16 years past the start of puberty and I had a doctor tell me the pain was because of puberty and I'd just have to wait it out. Like excuse me? What person is still going through their bodies natural puberty at 26?

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

I would send hugs, but that sounds like hugs would hurt too. You are 100% correct - the problem is not the other people who need health care, the problem is the people making health care artificially scarce and inaccessible. I know you've just had a big election over there. I hope you're able to persuade the new incumbents to make your health care system work.

wish i had the privilege of being who i am without being harassed!

@Salikino

9 күн бұрын

I wish the transphobes were correct in their “privileged” claims.

@muted__dreamer

8 күн бұрын

@@Salikino for real

@waffles3629

8 күн бұрын

​@@Salikino for real. Or how fast they think we can access care. It took me 7 years as an adult to get a hysterectomy for medical reasons, and yet they claim 12 year old girls can walk into a hospital, ask for surgery and be handed a gown.

As a trans woman in America, I cannot stress enough how bad trans healthcare is in the USA! It is getting better, but it is still nowhere near equal to cis-gendered peoples' healthcare.

@saundraschaefer

8 күн бұрын

I absolutely agree. Healthcare sucks in America in general. It's worse for women than it is for men. It's worse for PoC than it is for white people. And it's absolutely atrocious for trans folks of any race/ethnicity. The classism is disgusting. If you're poor, which most of us are these days, good luck even getting any kind of healthcare.

@LuluTheCorgi

8 күн бұрын

It's better than most of Europe

@VTB12

8 күн бұрын

@@LuluTheCorgi I don’t doubt that. Let’s continue as a community to raise its quality and affordability across the board!

@dustthewolf6620

8 күн бұрын

It's even getting worse in Canada, it's like spreading. I know Canada isn't perfect, but it's been known to be better for lgbtq people and now it's going down the same path

@24drewtheshark

8 күн бұрын

I'll never cease to be amazed that chilean trans healthcare is better than a lot of 1st world's

Trans woman: Actually, it's she/her, if that's cool Terf: *flips a table* Person on the street: Actually, my dog's a girl, not a boy Terf: O! Em! Gee!! I'm so so sorry! What a pretty little girl she is!

Trans privilege is being the scapegoat for everything wrong in this world

@aleksabanjevic8316

8 күн бұрын

Judging by how Jewish ppl, black ppl, gay and bi ppl were treated, and for how long, I'd say this will take about 5-maybe 10 more years before they move on to a next target

@jhbq

3 күн бұрын

@@aleksabanjevic8316it just sucks we gotta deal with it right now 🤦‍♀️ like obv in the future it wont be a thing anymore or not as much but i so hate having to live through all this hate right now

@aleksabanjevic8316

3 күн бұрын

@@jhbq I mean, hate will always exist obviously, but yeah, likely it will be less in the future, I'm just worried who will be the next scape goat, they are kinda running out of minorities to blame, idk if they will resort to old ones, or, like they did with lgbt+, isolate a specific group of a group they already used. Like "ok, I'm fine with trans ppl now, but those nonbinary are just too far" (something one of my friends kinda said already... )

@jhbq

3 күн бұрын

@@aleksabanjevic8316 exactly, either they'll go back to old minorities or they'll find new ones. it's sickening

Wait… we had prevlige?!? Wtf, why do I always miss the important gay meetings. I swear all the emails for studying the gay agenda go to junk!

@timothyisstupid

9 күн бұрын

Sorry, i keep forgetting to send out the meeting emails

@ThatFont

9 күн бұрын

@@timothyisstupidI knew I was missing a mark on my rainbow calendar!! >;(

@timothyisstupid

9 күн бұрын

​@@ThatFontMy bad, I'll set a reminder next time

@CatlovingNB

9 күн бұрын

@@ThatFont which day? I can fill that date in.

@I_want_White_Cheddar_Popcorn

9 күн бұрын

​@@CatlovingNBthink it may have been "gayday" tuesday

Basic human rights are not "privilege" Privilege is when you have something over and above the basics. Those things listed seemed to all be the basics.

@cryochick9044

9 күн бұрын

To those who are used to being superior, equality seems like superiority.

@domobject

9 күн бұрын

Also, a group in society organizing, seeking representation and to be heard by politicians is not "privilege", it's the basis for democracy.

@Nic0Dr4ws

9 күн бұрын

That’s what I was thinking too, none of these things are privileges they’re just things OTHER people get too??

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

👍💯percent!

@ausnetscience

8 күн бұрын

Often these people are privileged because they actually have the basic human rights and freedoms that those of us in a minority group don’t. Civil rights campaigns are full of that fact and evidence of such.

I think if you replace "trans" with "black" then you can pretty easily see how abhorrent this is, if you somehow can't already.

@emojothejojo

8 күн бұрын

Transphobes will lose their minds when they see this comment

Gotta love the transgender privilege of knowing that my rights could be taken away from me for no reason depending on the circumstances

@catmoss581

8 күн бұрын

Real !

Yes it’s common decency and respect. I don’t understand why transphobic people think they are allowed to be disrespectful.

@timothyisstupid

9 күн бұрын

They think they can do anything they want Like, they ain't Jevil Deltarune.

@ThatFont

9 күн бұрын

Entitlement

@RonanDahlman-ci1ql

9 күн бұрын

The true privilege.

@I_want_White_Cheddar_Popcorn

9 күн бұрын

Ig bc they think they are "the only normal people left in the world"

@berrysnowyboy5251

9 күн бұрын

It's the arrogance, entitlement, and selfish behaviour from transphobes and the lack of humanity plus human decency they have (because transphobes project their shit, their insecurities and their bullshit onto others, hoping that others get hurt because of them)

I am a trans guy who’s always had a deep voice. I’ve always been hairy. Always been muscular. I do have those privileges without hrt. Compared to other trans guys I have the privilege of passing.

@jaybirdishhhhhh

9 күн бұрын

that’s not really privilege, that’s more like luck. even if you pass you still have to deal with the horrors of a government and society that’s out to get you

@twig6102

9 күн бұрын

Same! I'm afab but hormonally intersex so my body has always been more masculine than a typical female body. People used to make fun of me for "being a girl with a mustache" as a kid. When I started T it worked really quickly and I started growing substantial facial hair within two months. I also got a few "extra" changes that ftm people on T don't usually get such as getting a relatively prominent adam's apple. I feel very fortunate to be able to pass so quickly and so easily, as really the only thing stopping me from passing pre T was my voice. I empathize with trans guys that have to put in more effort to pass.

@sluttyMapleSyrup

9 күн бұрын

​@@jaybirdishhhhhh Can confirm. That realization helped break me from the "pick me" mindset

@supermangarritano6636

9 күн бұрын

@@twig6102oh my god same

@mrcroob8563

9 күн бұрын

@@jaybirdishhhhhh Isnt alot of privilege luck? Rich kids were lucky to be born to a rich family.

Ah yes. Not being accepted by my family and getting bullied in school. That sure sounds like a huge amount of privilege I have. But hey look on the bright side. Actually is there even a bright side?

@jessicatymczak5852

9 күн бұрын

Yes. Being who you are is magnitudes better than not being yourself and living a lie. I did this for 57 years.

@MirandolinaAmaldin

9 күн бұрын

I think the bright side is that we seem to be at a turning point and hopefully (despite some setbacks) things are going to get better.

@Nic0Dr4ws

9 күн бұрын

I agree, this and the mentality that I could die at any moment ( not in a sh way but in a anything could happen way 😅) is the only thing that really keeps me being true to myself

@skully6223

9 күн бұрын

@@jessicatymczak5852THIS!! At 46, I am no longer willing to betray my authentic self in order to appeal to anyone's comfort or acceptance--WHY SHOULD I? The better question is, why would anyone WANT me to? Dealing with hate & harassment & bs , in the past, would have me sitting & asking, "why me"..."why couldn't I just be normal"....over the years I've learned that my "not being normal" is amazing. It's empowering...bc I come from a long line of trans folks before me who had the guts to sometimes die standing, while refusing to deny themselves, rather than choosing to live on their knees--& I owe it to them, & to myself most of all, to stand up for who the hell I am...not in an egotistical way, or superior way, but to say, "who are YOU to expect that I should deny anything about myself to appease another's bigotry, or lack of intelligence, lack of humanity"? I refuse. Burn me at the stake if need be--but no other human is worth my denying myself. If I'm gonna control one thing while on this earth, it's going to be my controlling my own life, destiny, etc. I just know i don't want to live to 90 & be on my deathbed & have an iota of a thought that I denied myself for some half-wit nobody!! We all owe it to ourselves to stand up & say, "this is who I am...accept it or deny it, but if you deny it, it's your loss"..& I will know I saved myself a lot of energy & effort & pieces of my life & self that could be shared with someone who will accept it--family, friends or otherwise! I am happy that you are being your authentic self--take care!

@FrozEnbyWolf150

9 күн бұрын

Yes, knowing yourself is better than living a lie. A wise man once said that an unexamined life is not worth living, and trans people have examined their lives much more closely than most people ever will.

Hello Everyone! Trans rights!

@wizardontherocks

9 күн бұрын

👏👏👏

@timothyisstupid

9 күн бұрын

So true! And Trans lefts And Trans diagonals

@spiritsys

9 күн бұрын

​@@timothyisstupidtrans geometry ✨

@timothyisstupid

9 күн бұрын

​@@spiritsysCan't wait for the Trans polygons

@CatlovingNB

9 күн бұрын

TRANS RIGHTS! WOMENS RIGHTS! RIGHTS FOR PEOPLE OF COLOR! EQUAL RIGHTS FOR EVERYONE!

Absolutely disgusting that the government would consult JKR for trans issues. I'm sorry, did I miss her getting a PHD and working in a gender clinic to understand what she's talking about? Has she conducted scientific, peer reviewed studies?? The worship of celebrity needs to be eradicated.

@EmoBearRights

8 күн бұрын

It's not celeb worship that's the issue ....it's taking her seriously.

@Jaq2Jack

8 күн бұрын

@@EmoBearRights I'm talking about in general. We put way too much importance on what celebrities have to say.

@EmoBearRights

8 күн бұрын

@@Jaq2Jack Fair enough

@mrmoment6061

8 күн бұрын

it's so annoying. being rich and on social media gives you an IN for any topic you wanna spread missinfo about.

@pit_stop77

5 күн бұрын

Jk is rich and has a huge following that's why the shallow labour party is courting her

Trans privilege is commenting on a post unrelated about trans things and getting harass about being trans because it’s in your bio.

I love how this person’s definition of ‘trans privilege’ is the non-existent access to care she thinks we have and being able to block out hate comments.

as a trans man, I get told I need to find Jesus and get misgendered at school on purpose because someone found it so funny.

@demoncorejunior

8 күн бұрын

next time point out you already know about jesus, the most popular trans man in history (if mary gave birth without a father to provide a Y chromosome, jesus would have been an XX chromosome man…)

I constantly feel scared to come put as trans or bi. So OBVIOUSLY i have the most privilege in all of America

@CatlovingNB

9 күн бұрын

Came out once. Found who accepted me and not coming out to anyone else.

@Salikino

9 күн бұрын

I wish we were the most privileged lmao

I rember back during the whole Trans Day of Visibility thing, there were countless comments just saying "this is just narcissism". Sorry that trans people are shown in the spotlight for one day.

@Mars-jf4gy

9 күн бұрын

“A community celebrating the fact that they’re still alive despite hardships that we as a society have put on them? Narcissism!” I wonder if they feel the same about Juneteenth, or Women’s History month, or Veterans Day, or Independence Day, or-

@christopherb501

9 күн бұрын

It's not just trans people. I'm honestly surprised I haven't seen it with regards to ethnicity.

@Nic0Dr4ws

9 күн бұрын

To be fair some of those people for sure feel the same about Juneteenth and womens day

@Nic0Dr4ws

9 күн бұрын

Womens history month* I have no clue where I got day from 💀

@cryochick9044

9 күн бұрын

@@Mars-jf4gy there are many holidays to celebrate the military to list a few Armed forces day Memorial day Veterans day Military spouses day Loyalty day VE day And probably more I can't find As well as there is a military appreciation month God forbid we have something similar for lgbt people who have died and been harmed WITHOUT any positive gain being able to be argued for their loss. Note today more lgbt are killed than US military personel die IIRC. Only a few dozen military personal die in combat a year, a few hundred from all deaths from military personel, note this includes stuff like cancer.

Ah yes, the privilege of convincing a doctor to put me on a waitlist for a year to be allowed to pay for healthcare that other people get for free

As a kid who wants so trans “heath care” (I want a binder cause I’m gender-fluid) I had to get out of public school cause the amount of times I have screamed at, threatened, and just not getting the help I need. I have spoken at 4 school board meetings and only this year have I actually gotten listed too; so no the U.S does give trans people special treatment

@RonanDahlman-ci1ql

9 күн бұрын

Oh, they seem to give you special treatment. Just the shite kind.

@toefur___

9 күн бұрын

@@RonanDahlman-ci1ql yeah lamo

@christopherb501

9 күн бұрын

*listened

@i_ate_a_cat_

9 күн бұрын

Jesus it seems you have to literally contact the government to buy a piece of clothing,,

@ObsidianWinters

9 күн бұрын

​@@i_ate_a_cat_ Exactly, smh 🤦🏿‍♂️

Gotta love the privilege of getting no rights

@minestar2247

7 күн бұрын

That somehow unites more people than you expect

15:25 Majority of homeless youth are lgbt, and majority of lgbt homeless youth are trans. That is because their parents/guardians found out and kicked them out. Because there are so many homeless trans youth that were unable to finish their high school education and are obviously desperate, there are therefore a decent amount of trans people that get arrested for petty crimes and are thrown in jail/prison. This isn't helped by recent laws that are beginning to pass that criminalizes "the act of presenting as a gender different than the sex one was assigned at birth within 1000 feet of a minor" or possessing a drivers license that "has a marker not representative of the owner's birth sex". NOW LETS TALK ABOUT TRANS PEOPLE AND PRISON/JAIL! Did you know a new proposed laws (and one passed in Missouri) would have trans people in prison/jail to be cut off from hrt, effectively forcing any trans person who ends up their to be detransitioned against their will. This alone is dehumanizing and disgusting, but in the USA, of the roughly 2100 trans people (including trans men and women) who are incarcerated, sadly less than 30 are in the jail/prison of their gender, the rest are in prisons for their biological sex. THE TWO MOST COMMON OUTCOME FOR INCARCERATED TRANS PEOPLE is either to spend their entire sentence in SOLITARY CONFINEMENT (not even the most violent criminals spend their entire time in solitary), or they are PIMPED OUT by the guards to either the inmates or the other guards. This is called V-coding. So no, trans people do not have an easier time when arrested.

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

This is just 🤮 People need to be treated like people.

@rosieg6989

9 күн бұрын

@@Thelastunicorngirl It is disgusting and it needs to be more well known so more people can try to stop/reverse these laws.

They do not care, my insurance listed vfs as covered and denied it TWO FUCKING DAYS before my surgery, I'm now fighting that denial. Yay privilege

Ever since coming out as trans I haven’t heard back from a single job I’ve applied to. When I omitted this detail in my CVs/resume (still early on t), I began receiving interview requests again, etc. I live in Florida so I kinda feel like it’s connected!

@christopherb501

9 күн бұрын

My condolences

@creacher00

9 күн бұрын

@@christopherb501 Thank you. It’s a rough time here

@jhbq

3 күн бұрын

i'm visiting florida soon as a trans woman and it was honestly surreal to look at the canadian recommendations for traveling literally refer to Florida as "avoid if possible" (if you are lgbtq) i felt like i was living in an alternate reality tbh.

as a 13 year old trans boy I have been beat up countless times especially because in the UK I live in a shitty neighbourhood so it SUCKS

@element6555

9 күн бұрын

that really sucks, I am not even out and was literally beaten up everyday through until y7. Best piece of advice I can really give you is to avoid ppl when possible and stay in sight of people in public where possible, same in school stick around teachers, sometimes they are clueless or dont care but its usually better than often. Literally everyone thats bullied me though has always been really unhappy or attention seeking themselves, so just try to keep that in mind. Not gonna recommend this strat but the way I stopped mine was beating up my main bully ;) . Violence isnt the answer but he did leave me alone afterwards. I made some better friends at my new school and I've finally started seeing a therapist. Sending all the support I can from southwest england :) PS sorry for the personal rant, just wanted to give some context that it can get better. Not trying to downplay your experience it all, it sounds absolutely miserable and I'm sad youve had to experience the same kind of thing I did. Hope your weekend has been good, and hopefully labour will be a little better than the tories. I really hope you arent bothered too much in the final few weeks of school b4 summer.

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

I don't have any useful advice for this situation, but please stay strong. Being an adult has its own challenges, but it's WORLDS better than being a teen, and all you have to do to get there is survive this. Choosing where to live, choosing where to study or work, choosing who to hang out with, and having the freedom to seek out people like yourself to form deep friendships with people who love and understand you, are all basic rights you get once you're an adult. Please stay strong.

@Twinkatron7000

8 күн бұрын

@@tealkerberus748 thank you so much

@Twinkatron7000

8 күн бұрын

@@element6555 honestly I am in year 8 right now I had to move to online school due to violent and physical bullying it SUCKS

@SuperJJParker

8 күн бұрын

Just curious is it boys or girls that are bullying you? Or both?

My neighbor across the hallway from my apartment insists on calling me by my deadname. I'm going to have to ask him if he has any respect for me whatsoever.

@kl4314

9 күн бұрын

Maybe start calling him a different name and see how he reacts

@spiritsys

9 күн бұрын

Start calling him by his mother's name

@timothyisstupid

9 күн бұрын

Choose the most "feminine" name you can think of and call him exclusively that

@dietotaku

9 күн бұрын

i think you already know the answer to that question. i agree, start calling him a completely different name, preferably of the opposite gender, and when he objects tell him "i'll call you by your actual name when you start calling me by mine."

@athrowawayperson9990

9 күн бұрын

suggestion: ask him if he would like if you called him debra. his new name is debra until he figures out how to be a respectful human being.

This is gonna be good… lmao. “Privilege”

I live in America. And when i had to stay overnight in the hospital I was told that because i am a trans guy I have to have a single room and nobody can be put in my room even if there is another bed open. And i had to also wait a year to get on testosterone because the doctor had so many other people at the time. I thankfully am 6 months on testosterone currently but it took a while to get there and a lot of effort finding a doctor who accepts me. I currently have a consultation for top surgery and the only appointment I can get is inn November and honestly I am greatfull for that. But what the transphobic people are saying as far as healthcare is so false. It’s very hard still. Things definitely improved but there are still things that has to improve in ways.

@redarrw1633

9 күн бұрын

Fr. They act like Trans people getting surgery and healthcare is as easy as going down to the 7 eleven and buying a drink and candy.

@CactusMuffin

8 күн бұрын

And if a cis person wants the same exact treatment to affirm their gender they are far less hoops to jump through. Even cis minors get plastic surgery and go on hormones without having to see a therapist once.

@katanah3195

8 күн бұрын

And you're one of the lucky ones, if you can afford it out of pocket or get insurance that covers it.

Honestly this whole list just had me thinking of the 16 kids who were confirmed to have discontinued life because of the lack of access to trans related healthcare...

imagine being so entitled that you see being in a group that is "protected" against hate speech (which it's generally not in most spaces) as "privileged"

Nb person here. Sure do love the "privilege" of not being able to talk to (most of) my family about my identity without getting an incorrect lesson on how writing works.

@Dr_Mortis_SCP

9 күн бұрын

Next time they complain about singular they, you can bring up how singular they predates singular you

@LoremIpsum-dp1li

9 күн бұрын

@@Dr_Mortis_SCP You can even put it like this: Roses are red Violets are blue Singular "they" Predates singular "you"

@Dr_Mortis_SCP

9 күн бұрын

@@LoremIpsum-dp1li Brilliant

@aleksabanjevic8316

8 күн бұрын

​@@LoremIpsum-dp1licoming from a language that has a singular and plural you, that was way more confusing for me than they being both singular and plural. Had way more situations where I had to clearly what kind of you I'm using than what kind of they, as it's a bit harder in context to tell if its singular or plural. So I just started using yall as plural you

Yes... My privilege of feeling dead inside and afraid constantly Hating my body Loosing friends Being threatened My wonderful privilege I have

As a trans man, I had to pause the video to speak my own personal experience with the trans insurance statement. No, being transgender didn't make getting my top surgery easier, it actually made it HARDER. My family has a history of gigantomastia (im talking H-K cup type stuff) which can cause some extreme health issues (especially in the back). I had been working things out with getting an appointment and the surgery for a while and then finally July 2022 was set to be my surgery date. Insurance was going to cover EVERYTHING (this was looking to be a 48,000 dollar operation). However, they got wind right before that I was trans and began blocking every single medical appointment, even bloodwork, dietician, and psychologist appointments (this still effects me and they even attempted to refuse my appendectomy after coming down with appendicitis). We had to fight tooth and nail and ended up having to come out of pocket 13K with a cheaper institution because the insurance still refused. All because the word "transgender" slipped into their ears. No, it's not a privilege. The 6 month pushback on that surgery (which was THANKFULLY only 6 months) was the worst time of my life. When they thought I was a ciswoman they were fine, but the second they hear one mention of being trans, my opportunities went out the window. Sorry for the rant to any fellow comment readers, but I hope yall enjoyed the story! 💜

The ad proves that this man is a dad. Kids or no, this man is a dad.

@timothyisstupid

9 күн бұрын

He's our internet dad. We're all his kids

My brain can’t even fathom how this person believes this list to be true… like, what insurance company? Show me the insurance policy that covers mastectomies for gender affirming care, but not for cancer.

@Nic0Dr4ws

9 күн бұрын

I think the only example they could possibly bring up is a insurance company covering it on one plan but not another, but even that is just a hypothetical

I'm seeing a therapist that advertised herself as accepting trans patients but hasn't ever written a WPATH letter. The fact that I even need a WPATH letter is insane. Cis people don't need a damn letter from a therapist before being treated by doctors. I've been on HRT for 10 years and have had confirmation surgery and I still need a letter....

@BodaciousBovine

9 күн бұрын

The amount of therapists/doctors who claim to be accepting/supportive/friendly to trans people and yet they've STILL constantly misgendered me and have no clue about even the MOST basic 101 trans stuff is WILD.

@dragonfliesnh4204

9 күн бұрын

I have never heard of a WPATH letter before and that's so crazy!! How can a therapist claim they accept trans patients but refuses to write one of these letters? That seems like an oxymoron to me. People shouldn't have to jump through hoops to get medical care! I know this isn't the exactly the same, but this is similar to people with disabilities experiencing chronic pain trying to get adequate health care and help with their pain. So many, especially with hidden medical conditions, aren't able to get the care they need, especially pain meds. Doctors don't want to prescribe and the government (in the US) keeps adding on more and more restrictions. Sometimes they don't even believe the person that they have chronic pain, even with their diagnoses in their charts. Because of all this, doctors won't treat them and just refer them to pain management clinics. Those clinics will drop patients if they feel the person doesn't really have chronic pain or it's not severe enough. Many won't even prescribe meds. It doesn't even matter that the person's doctor has sent their chart with proof of their conditions. Those people falls through the cracks and suffer.

@ArturGlass.C

8 күн бұрын

I've had to literally tell my psychiatrist what to google and even some wording on what to write on the WPATH letter. Yay trans healthcare. And I'm under no illusion I'm lucky enough he still went and did it.

@waffles3629

8 күн бұрын

I had a therapist who advertised herself as trans accepting tell me I "just needed to choose already because you can't continue with this nonsense". "Nonsense" meaning me being non-binary and ace. Yeah, turned out she was LGBinaryT accepting.

As a black, pansexual trans guy who mainly dates men, I have all the privilege in the world. This is a joke btw.

Trans rights and women rights are not in conflict with one another, and are in fact in agreement on issues like: - Preventing discrimination - Bodily autonomy - Inclusive healthcare - Fighting r*pe culture

@LittleLavenderLaughter

7 күн бұрын

They're both human rights so it makes sense they'd be in agreement on things 😅😅

@aleksabanjevic8316

5 күн бұрын

I can imagine an antifeminist and a transphobe who only thinks trans women exist going "yeah, both wnat to ruin man". Lmaoo Fr tho Also, both want to define personhood as more significant than arbitrary biological features and how they "should" be used (tho I guess that kinda fits with bodily autonomy)

When that person said "[...] claim a genocide despite literally nobody dying for their identity" they obviously have never heard of the trans panic defense which can be used in more than half of all US states to excuse murder just because the person is trans.

@rosieg6989

9 күн бұрын

It is more like it is a legal defense in four fifths of the country.

@cloudyskyz2237

9 күн бұрын

@@rosieg6989that’s more than half…like OP said.

@demoncorejunior

8 күн бұрын

genocide is quite literally killing people because of their identities, people are willfully ignorant because it makes them feel better

@dukeskunk

8 күн бұрын

@@rosieg6989 21 out of 50 states have some sort of ban on the LGBTQ panic defense, leaving 29 where it can be used.

@CometAura

8 күн бұрын

Not to mention the trans folk that have literally been unalived because of their identity

Jamie, I've seen you react to some horribly transphobic videos, but never have I ever seen anything that screams "I live in fantasy land" like this list, especially as someone who lives in America. I'm speechless.

For me, personally…it’s a privilege to live in a time of wonderful trans influencers like Jamie. That’s not to say our progress is finished, though.

I don't understand women who don't like trans people. We are all basically being pushed down for the same reason: sexism. It's just presented differently.

@Tiana_atr

9 күн бұрын

Because unfortunately a lot of people are selfish bastards that seek validation for themselves alone. If they think attacking an even weaker group will increase that validation or that the weaker group is an obstacle preventing them from their validation (usually because they got propagandized af by the people actually suppressing them).

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

Speaking as a cis woman, 100%. Transphobia and homophobia both look very much like recycled misogyny to me, and I will fight them where I see them.

When I was getting top surgery, it had to be rescheduled due to an emergency cancer patients surgery. How do people think trans people are taking the priority lol? Obviously cancer is going to take priority to an optional surgery

Trans rights are not just human rights, but are also the right to access needed medical care.

@PhantomGato-v-

9 күн бұрын

To be fair that should also be human rights regardless

@minestar2247

7 күн бұрын

@@PhantomGato-v- ah yes, human rights, that thing westerners pretend to love before taking them away from anyone that's slightly different from them

We don’t get special treatment. We actually have it very tough. And we have to keep fighting for equality. Everyone no matter what gender they are deserve happiness and freedom. So honestly this is completely unacceptable what transphobic people are saying and false

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

Usually I'd just skip the sponsor section of the video, but Jamie always puts effort into them instead of just reading off a script, and I just can't miss out on that puntastic humour of his.

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

Same. His squarespace segments are a feature to enjoy.

i am a cis women who had breast cancer I had a single mastectomy this was covered by our public health system if I had cancer in both breasts then both would have been removed i do not have medical insurance ,.,my son who wants top surgery cant even get on the public wait list until he is 18 and then who knows how long the wait list it...we will likley go private even if he cant get it done before he is 18

Trans privilege??? I live in the country which kills the most trans people, my parents would never accept me and if I really want to transition (the way I want to) I would have to spend a shit ton of money on cosmetic surgeries. I suffer with constant gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia, I have to worry about if people will accept me as a man even if I like to put makeup on (I want to be a drag queen, I have never heard of a transmasc drag queen tho).

@prageruwu69

9 күн бұрын

there are trans male drag queens

@cjbird446

9 күн бұрын

Gottmik is a transmasc drag queen who has some really cool fits ^^

@weallneedmentalhelp

9 күн бұрын

I was watching RuPaul's drag race earlier with my friend and there was a trans ftm drag queen called Gottmik! I believe it was RuPaul's drag race all stars(?) on Netflix :D

@voidpriestess42

9 күн бұрын

Check out gottmik, he's a transmasc drag queen Wishing you the best ❤

@wolfman-zd1ed

9 күн бұрын

Transmasc drag queens are 1000000% valid, don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise.

i love being privileged!! (i live in fear everyday)

I like how many of these are "there are other problems in society, therefore no one should have good things"

I can confirm that most insurance companies try their hardest to *not* cover cancer because the treatments are so expensive. That's a common issue for all serious expensive treatments and surgeries. Even among trans healthcare, you have to find the right insurance agency to even cover any surgeries, and they often only cover a small amount of the cost.

19:22 Similar to roe vs wade, gay marriage is not set in stone and can be over turned at any time so that's terrifying. It is legal for police to profile lgbt people, lgbt refugees seeking asylum from countries with a death penalty for being lgbt will be sent back to their country, conversion therapy is still legal, in most states the legal defense of gay/trans panic is still allowed. Then for trans people it is legal for them to be evicted for just being trans, refused service at a place of business for just being trans, and not only can a doctor refuse to treat a trans patient but entire hospitals can. There is no trans anti-discrimination laws in health insurance. And every month over a hundred anti-trans bills are introduce and at minimum a couple pass per month. Trans people are born they way they are and yet in several states it is now illegal to simply be trans and under 18, imagine if it was illegal to be under 18 and black.

@SoSoMikaela

9 күн бұрын

There are laws about trans discrimination in healthcare, at least as far as the Affordable Care Act is concerned. Problem is companies don’t care and lawsuits take ages.

@rosieg6989

9 күн бұрын

@@SoSoMikaela Perhaps, but 27 states on their own have no medical discrimination laws for trans people, in fact 2 of those 27 explicitly have legislation allowing for discrimination against trans people.

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

Some places are just…Yikes.

@SoSoMikaela

9 күн бұрын

@@rosieg6989 Like I said, lawsuits take ages. A conservative state legislature or governor can pass something that gets enacted overnight, even if it flies in the face of federal laws, and it’ll take years to reverse through the courts.

@antarath517

9 күн бұрын

@@SoSoMikaela And it is a fundamental flaw in our system that does not account for bad faith actors. They can throw the same law (with a new coat of paint) at the courts with no penalty until they get a verdict they like

I had the privilege of having someone personally attack me for being trans seen as “not against community standards,” but then having to prove my identity by sending a picture of my drivers license to Facebook.

Umm… I had top surgery covered by insurance. Which means, I paid $10k, instead of $40k. Believe me, I still saved for years and now have massive credit card debt. I didn’t just get free surgery.

@Nic0Dr4ws

9 күн бұрын

May I ask why it cost 40k? I’m currently in the process of getting top surgery ( waiting for the reply from insurance) but I’ve already been told that it’d be around 10k without insurance

@ILoveYou-rv3pd

9 күн бұрын

@@Nic0Dr4ws the surgery itself would have been around $10k without insurance, and I only had to pay $3k for that, because insurance didn’t cover nipple grafts. The rest was the cost of all the hospital bills, other than the actual surgical fee. Without insurance the rest would have been about $30k without insurance, but insurance brought all that down to $7k for me. It was at a world renowned hospital that just happens to be 15 minutes from my apartment. I’m sure that raised the price a lot. My results are amazing, and I have no regrets, but yeah, I’ll be in debt for awhile 😂

I have a mighty need for the terf repellent tea

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

Me too☕️

Wait. A double mastectomy for cancer IS covered by insurance. My spouse can confirm that firsthand. Not 100%, but that's American health insurance for you. But gender affirming mastectomies aren't covered 100% either. Likely LESS covered.

@prageruwu69

9 күн бұрын

and even when that's the case for top surgery, the waiting lists are so unbearable that a lot of people have to somehow get thousands just so they can get the necessary surgery in less than like five years

Every single trans person I know who’s had top surgery had to fundraise for it. In countries with allegedly universal free healthcare. I don’t know where that one person gets it from, but free teat yeets are not readily available!

@SimonClarkstone

7 күн бұрын

"teat yeets" 😀

To the privileged, equality feels like oppression...

If being trans has so many privileges, why isn't EVERYONE trans then? Huh? It's almost like it's not that simple

Just to add about the breast reductions: I work in Health Care, so I see registrations for both reductions as well as masculinizations. I also know people who have gotten the reductions and in Canada, depending on the situation, some reductions are NOT covered by Healthcare (even if necessary), so the person must pay out of pocket. But masculinizations are considered Medically Required. But you are spot on Jamie; there real focus shouldn't be hate on trans men for getting their access for "Free" while others have to pay, it should be why AREN'T those surgeries deemed medically necessary and treated as such? Pure cosmetic "I want a boob job" is one thing. "I need a reduction because my breasts cause me pain" should NOT be considered cosmetic, even if you can "tolerate" the pain "for a while".

@spooniejusticewarrior

9 күн бұрын

Yeah I'm in the US, but I've wanted a breast reduction since before i came out as non-binary. But i avoided pursuing it because i didn't want an insurance company deciding how much can be removed. So now I'm looking into pursuing it as gender affirming care instead. As well as a hysterectomy. Sad that if i were cis and wanted a hysterectomy, i would not be able to get one because I've never had kids and i "might change my mind" about not wanting children. It's insane. I'm almost 40. I'm not changing my mind. Even if i did, i wouldn't have to birth children to have children.

@twiztedsynz

9 күн бұрын

@@spooniejusticewarrior Change your mind and if you have a male partner, some places ask that he have input too.

@spooniejusticewarrior

9 күн бұрын

@twiztedsynz oh i know! But cis men can get vasectomies without their female partners even knowing!

@twiztedsynz

9 күн бұрын

@@spooniejusticewarrior Yep! For myself, I stated to a nurse co-worker that I wouldn't care about having my breasts 'cut off'. In honesty, as a gender-fluid/non-binary/I don't care about gender person, Iwould rather removal just because I find them annoying and irritating. But since I know that would be labelled 'cosmetic', I don't bother because it's not that much an issue that I'd pay for it. But I do feel for people who either want the removal for masculinzation reasons, or because their breasts are just too big, too problematic to cause them issues. In those cases, yes, a person should have the right to removal.

@waffles3629

8 күн бұрын

​@@twiztedsynz yep. I'm a demiguy and I had a hysterectomy. I had one doc tell me, while holding my girlfriend's hand (she's also trans, but hasn't medically transitioned yet so she reads as a man) that no doc would give it to me before I was 35 with two successful pregnancies, yes two "no matter what happens with the first one", all because "Your future husband might want kids". As far as this doc knew my future husband was holding my hand, but because she was supporting me he didn't think she'd be my spouse. He was wrong btw, found a doc in my mid 20s.

Transphobes also don't understand the term "genocide". It doesn't always involve killing people. Eg, punishing people for speaking their native language can be part of a genocide.

@rosieg6989

8 күн бұрын

I think my comment got deleted, so I just wanted to say that I was agreeing with OP.

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

This. Taking kids away from their parents to destroy their connection to their culture is genocide. So how is forcing transgender people to live closeted their whole lives not genocide too? Even aside from the number of LGBT+ people who die from the trauma of closeting and fear, denying people's innate identity is a crime.

@minestar2247

7 күн бұрын

Heh, and somehow people use gay rights to justify it nowadays. Weird

I'm surprised that I have the time to watch this. What, with the interviews, meeting the President, and then bottom surgery being forced upon me, how do I find the time? Oh, wait. Never mind. Come on Wednesday so I can buy some food.

About the cis women having a hard time getting breast reductions: I'm nonbinary, but never brought that up in the process of getting a breast reduction. I had severe back pain that was starting to affect the muscles in my legs as well and the process was so easy. Asked my doctor, she gave me a referral, ordered x rays of my back to show insurance nothing was wrong with my spine, and then the surgeon had me scheduled for 4 months later. The process was SO easy as someone who was presenting as a cis person during it. And I didn't have to pay a dime because insurance covered most of it and the hospital comped the rest as financial aid. I'm not sure it would've gone that smoothly if I had introduced gender into the conversation

@neon17.08

9 күн бұрын

Maybe I should try that as a cis-looking nonbinary person. I mean tbf my shoulders are sore a lot.

@kotonix

9 күн бұрын

@@neon17.08 Totally worth a shot! Lots of cis women get breast reductions so it was pretty easy. The one thing is, if insurance covers it then you can't choose what size you go down to.

@neon17.08

9 күн бұрын

@@kotonix Unfortunately my insurance provider doesn't cover any gender related healthcare, and they know I'm nonbinary anyway (had to put that in). But if I go private and just pay for it, because my gender identity isn't relevant.

@kotonix

9 күн бұрын

@@neon17.08 Ah dang that sucks with the insurance. I wish you luck with however you choose to pursue the process though! I know it felt absolutely life changing for me in several ways!

@neon17.08

9 күн бұрын

@@kotonix Also went on T, cancelled that as I got cold feet. But I would have to decide whether I want some breast left or be flat and have it all gone.

I'm trans, an adult, and live in Australia. Australia honestly is one of the best places for trans rights, (particularly in South Australia and Victoria). Even so, I've been trying to get a referral for an initial appointment with a gender specialist, and have been denied multiple times. This appointment would just be to talk things over, and see what options are there moving forward. It would be a two to three year wait list for this initial appointment, and then another four or so years before I could get top surgery, provided they even agreed to it. I'm having trouble with step one, getting my first referral. Trans people do NOT have easy access to healthcare.

@waffles3629

8 күн бұрын

Yep. I'm trans, in the US, and it took me seven YEARS to get a medically necessary hysterectomy. And yet there are transphobes who think 12 year olds are walking into a hospital, asking for surgery, being handed a gown, and rolled straight into an OR. And for all that I ended up with PTSD. It's sooo easy. 😒

@nunyabeezwhacks

8 күн бұрын

Yeah I'm in australia too and I ended up going to a private informed consent clinic for help instead of trying to go through the public system. Have to pay $200 per appointment which is a struggle because I'm poor af but at least I got HRT now...

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

I'm in Victoria, and it took several years of failed referrals and waiting list mismanagement for me to see a psychiatrist for a PTSD examination. Some months later, I still haven't seen his report. And yes, I was several hundred dollars out of pocket on that, because they don't bulk bill even when you've been trying to survive on "jobseeker" for several years while the government pretends you're not really disabled. The problem is that the health care system is grossly underfunded and mismanaged for everyone, not transphobia. It's still not okay that you're being made to wait so long, though. I hope you get your foot in that door soon.

"trans privilege is demanding someone find you attractive & date you with people agreeing" My Demiboy Aroace self: well, I guess I'm doing this whole transgender thing wrong/sarc

@waffles3629

8 күн бұрын

Yo, demiguy aroace as well. Though I am in a QPR, but yeah, we really are doing the whole thing wrong 🤦. I'll never understand people.

@Mx_Jayden

8 күн бұрын

@@waffles3629 the straights are not ok/hj

@ace.of.space.

8 күн бұрын

aroace agender person here ... guess I missed the memo about dating! oh well

@starfishgurl1984

7 күн бұрын

Haha, aroace demigirl here, I had the exact same thought too!

@minestar2247

7 күн бұрын

Technically there is no wrong way of doing it

People may think that we can't see the privileges we have when we're experiencing them ourselves, but I'm very aware of the privileges I have from being in a family that supports me in my education and gives me financial stability. If I was getting any privileges from being trans, I would know.

On insurance: I live in one of the most conservative states in the US. My cis friend who was diagnosed with breast cancer early in the pandemic was able to get her breast removed and reconstructed within months of being diagnosed, and her public healthcare covered everything but her nipple reconstruction. Meanwhile, I cannot have a breast reduction covered for gender reasons by public funds. No trans person, regardless of age, can have their gender-affirming care funded that way, and such care for minors (including hormone blockers) is illegal. It's so irritating that people just make stuff up. Like, if you're going to hate me, at least do it based on something that's true!

I don't even have the privilege of being able to make plans to go out alone and not be worried that I'm going to be assaulted for either being a woman or being trans. When I can't feel safe walking in the streets I think just about ANY good that comes to my life still falls well below the term "Privilege".

People who claim a marginalized group is "getting privileges" above "normal" people, as usually just mad about marginalized people finally getting a few safe spaces. Ive seen the same thing with dude-bro-men getting mad at women only spaces and claiming "privilege"/"special treatment". So dumb.

I've decided to go on T 🥳 but I still gotta move away from family first before doing so because they're gonna have a riot. I'm not even gonna tell them. They're just gonna see and hear the changes whenever they see me in person, online, or speak to me on the phone...

I sure do love the privilege of having my continued existence be up for public debate.

You have not only my axe but my knitting needles

@SimonClarkstone

7 күн бұрын

Knitting needles as weapons... are you Rose Lalonde?

@FrancescoKoreck

7 күн бұрын

@@SimonClarkstone no I am just Viking that loves to knit

If you have a fossil related job, you could make a lot of bone puns. That would be *humourous*

I mean trans people are the exact opposite of privileged, and I feel like anybody saying otherwise should stop talking about trans people.

oh yes the privlige of having people tell me they will never date me becuase i dont have man parts. cant forget the privlege of friends dropping me, the government taking my rights and my family despising me!!

Jamie!!!! Hugs and kisses for both you, and your wife! ❤️ 🧡 💛 💚 🩵 💙 💜

Love that all the privilege I have is losing my career, more than 90% of my friends and family and being attacked 3 times in the same year with a knife in london. Is the privilege that I'm still alive?

20-25 years ago, my (VERY conservative, religious) dad made VERY similar arguments about how the "most privileged" class of people was actually black women. He makes those same arguments about trans people now. Bigotry will just keep changing form or adding targets for some people And I would like to once more recommend that you make a dragon horde organization/management website for a future endeavour (:

@waffles3629

8 күн бұрын

Do we share a sperm donor? Mine continually insists that white straight MEN (aka cis men) are the most discriminated against group in the entire world who are passed over for literally everything. Which explains why 90% of Fortune 500 CEOs are men. Up until 2023 there were fewer women CEOs than CEOs named John. Only 1.6% of them are black.

As a cis straight man (well, plus or minus, I had a therapist tell me I'm trans -- I'm not gender conforming and they declared that means I'm trans, but I identify as a gender non conforming cis straight man and I get to decide how I identify) I feel such a need to apologize for the bigots who identify the same way I do who are posting these hateful memes. It's not that I think for a second that I'm responsible for the actions of any other people. I just hate hate, and it really bothers me that so many people WANT to feel it.

@Panguinolucy

9 күн бұрын

Only you get to say if you’re trans, it’s super neat to see a gender non conforming cis person though-🏳️‍⚧️

@NotGoodAtNamingThings

8 күн бұрын

@@Panguinolucy - If I were 1-2 generations younger I'd probably identify as enby. By the time that word was invented, I already had a stable settled identity. People around me briefly freaked out in the mid 90s when I got piercings and started wearing nail polish. It was kind of funny. But physicists mostly don't care what you look like. They care what you can do. So people thought I was weird, but accepted me. (I was at a lab for grad school.) Very unlike the generic outside world and very unlike K-12 school for me, which was horrible. Because I never really fit into any group, although I can pass for straight white cis with little effort if I give up on my appearance, I was always an ally from a very young age.

@Panguinolucy

8 күн бұрын

@@NotGoodAtNamingThings it’s really appreciated. Honestly-🌸

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

I feel my gen-X bloodymindedness on this. I never conformed to gender. I made gender to conform to me. I am a woman and (until I became disabled) I enjoyed operating a chainsaw. Therefore operating a chainsaw is a womanly hobby. I understand where your therapist is coming from, using "trans" as an umbrella term for all forms of gnc and nb as well as actually being transgender, but it's a very messy way to use an umbrella.

@NotGoodAtNamingThings

8 күн бұрын

@@tealkerberus748 - I'm GenX as well, 1st half. I've had a few women friends who love power tools of various kinds and those have always been some of my favorite friends. I have always loved knowing others who challenge gender roles. I have encountered that usage of "trans" before, the umbrella term of "if you aren't perfectly cis then you are trans." I prefer to leave the word for those who are binary trans and those enby who claim the term.

I think a trans privilege is having a different view of the world and (usually) being more empathetic and open minded (and smart/hj)

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

Being smart is mostly about using your brain. People whose living situation demands that they use their brain are going to be smarter than people whose living situation allows them to coast.

This person is REEKING with “in the wrong social circles and see a more supportive group/community and get Uber jealous because they “can’t” have that”

Cis people can pick their own names too! They just typically don’t feel the need to.

@tealkerberus748

8 күн бұрын

It's more common amongst survivors of abuse by parents - choosing our own name in adulthood is a way of reclaiming ownership over our personhood. But these days, most people online are using a chosen name, because unless you have a very common name or you are online as part of your career, you don't need your online name to be traceable to your irl name.

@artikulv731

8 күн бұрын

There’s a series I’ve read where it’s considered normal for everyone, cis and trans alike, to pick their own names when they reach a certain age. Honestly, it REALLY made me come around to the idea that we should do that too.

@SimonClarkstone

7 күн бұрын

@@artikulv731 I'm pretty sure there have been IRL cultures like that too.

As a trans person, I am very privileged to live in a place (Colorado) where I have experienced almost no discrimination, and my access to healthcare has been great (and I qualify for Medicaid). Our openly gay governor (Jared Polis) has even strengthened the protections for both trans people and the right to an abortion here. However, I'm still terrified if Trump wins. Also, our governor is on his last term in office, and I fear the conservatives here will try to get a Republican governor into office at the next gubernatorial election. So, while I have been very privileged, I fear that my access to healthcare, and even general safety, may soon come to an end, and I'm considering my options on where to flee, if I have to.

@Nic0Dr4ws

9 күн бұрын

I completely agree with this, I live in Delaware and as far as I know legally it’s been ok ( we even had/have? A trans senator!) but just because it’s okay now doesn’t actually mean anything. I’ve thought about what we (my family and I) would have to do if things ever got bad. The fact that I even have to ponder that is crazy, and the fact that leaving this country would be ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE for me because we’re poor is also insane. It’s either flee to Canada and probably be homeless/in a shelter or just tough it out here in America, and Canada isn’t even that better in the first place!

@PhantomGato-v-

9 күн бұрын

You can consider coming to New Zealand! We're very friendly here and (most of us) don't discriminate! Just offering options!

@Kleineganz

8 күн бұрын

@@Nic0Dr4ws Yeah, my backup for a long time was Germany because I have family there... but conservatives are taking over there, too.

@shadowldrago

8 күн бұрын

@@Kleineganz Which is a WILD concept to me, given, y'know, the 40s.

@Kleineganz

8 күн бұрын

@@shadowldrago You mean the 30s and 40s. Hitler rose to power in the early 1930s. However, Germany has been very progressive for many decades and any and all Nazi activity was illegal. However, that has been changing recently and not just in Germany. Conservatism is on the rise throughout Europe.

ah yes, the trans privilege of knowing i won’t be treated the same if anyone i know found out i was agender 🤑

Oh yes, the privilege of being homeless. The privilege of having politicians listen to what my needs are for healthcare and then deciding it’s not legal for me to have it until I’m 26.

I would add, not only are trans rights NOT in competition with rights for other groups, and not only do various marginalized identities overlap, but also the denial of trans rights is often used as precedent to erode the same rights for other groups. For example, taking away the bodily autonomy of trans people is part of a larger legislative effort to strip those rights away from cis women and eventually everyone else. Taking away legal protections from trans people is part of a larger movement to take those same rights away from racial minorities and the disabled. Blocking access to certain medical treatments for trans people is part of a plan to deny access to those treatments for cancer patients and people with psychiatric illnesses. Taking away the freedom of expression from trans people is just the start of taking that freedom away from everyone.

@Am-uj6qn

9 күн бұрын

That sounds like a conspiracy theory.

@FrozEnbyWolf150

9 күн бұрын

​​@Am-uj6qn Wrong, it's already happened. Did you miss how Roe v Wade was overturned in the US? It's not just that either. Cis women are often denied necessary medical procedures that affect their secondary sex characteristics or reproductive system because, "What if a man wants to have children with you?" Disabled people still have to fight for accommodations, medical care, and even basic recognition if the disability is not visible. The mental healthcare system in America is abysmal and exploitative, and patients often have their basic rights taken away if they're deemed a danger, whether or not this is justified. Marginalized groups are statistically the most censored by the state, such as the police crackdowns on Civil Rights demonstrators and indigenous land protectors. Need I go on, or does evidence mean nothing to you?

@eveisunavailable

9 күн бұрын

@@Am-uj6qn its quite real, im sure you've noticed how transphobia, homophobia, misogynism, racism and many other types of bigotry all seem to be present when one of the others are present.

@Shampyon

8 күн бұрын

@@Am-uj6qn Too many true things do, because the general public doesn't closely follow politics. This has been a political strategy for decades. In some forms it's called "wedge politics" - you pick something that a normally united voting block disagrees on and use it to erode their power and push your own agenda. When you're using one specific issue as a way to open the door on other broader or larger issues it's called "thin end of the wedge" or "salami slice tactics". Different groups have been used as the "wedge". Often it's immigrants - we saw that here in Australia with the Tampa affair. Gay people have been a common wedge issue, such as the way the Democrat voting block was split on gay marriage back before it became a federal right. These days it's trans people's rights.

"Trans privilege means that you get support" fck it then. Enjoy some privilege, darlings. As a cis mother of a trans kid, I love and support all of you, because I am 10 000% sure that you're all just as amazing and wonderful as my kid and you deserve a whole world of support.

My mom (in the US) was able to get a brest reduction on insurance, but that's because we had the right insurance. It's hard for EVERYONE to get a surgery covered in the US

I have a friend thats like this i told him about murders that happen and how we dont feel safe in the streets. He told me it was ridiculous and that it was probably years ago as in like decades but he was shocked it was in 2020 and when we got off the phone i got a notification about one that happend last month

The only politicians here in the us that actually try to help transgender ppl are democratic governors, especially my states governor gavin newsom yes i live in California

@christopherb501

9 күн бұрын

I hate Louisiana

@Nic0Dr4ws

9 күн бұрын

I’m so glad I moved away from there around 2020, I lived in THE SOUTH ( picture confederate flags and horses) I don’t even want to think about how itd be if I still lived there

I HAVE NEVER BEEN THIS EARLY OMG LOVE YOU JAMMI

@OleanderPetrichor

9 күн бұрын

same!!

@Casper-teen-writer

9 күн бұрын

REAL IM HAPPY RN

@Thelastunicorngirl

9 күн бұрын

🦖🦕 are cool, Transphobia is not 🚫

@ghost_mynx3943

9 күн бұрын

@@Thelastunicorngirl YES