Swinger story: I have been in that lifestyle (no longer). That is actually something that happens all the time. Many men struggle with watching their spouse of sex with another man, but want to plow the hot 25 year old. Basically it is from insecurities in the man because they didn't spend the time doing the emotional work with their spouse before jumping in.

@ostlandr

4 ай бұрын

OTOH, I heard of a guy who talked his very willing straight GF into a MFF threesome. Unfortunately for him, his GF and the third got so "into it" he ended up going down to the Hotel lobby and playing on his phone.

@TipTheScales27

4 ай бұрын

Another man overvaluing his sexual value, when really it’s his wife who has more sexual value 😂

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

I always found swinging and stuff like that to be stupid

@chapwolff

3 ай бұрын

@@bigjalapeno7061 understandable, it isn't for everyone. We got out of it for various reasons. But it does work for some folks. Monogamy isn't for everyone, and to be honest, what consenting adults do isn't my problem.

@katrinepedersen9660

3 ай бұрын

I really feel like these guys just jumped over multiple steps in getting intimate with other people. Having a discussion beforehand about the possibility of jealosy happening feels like a pretty important part of any experimentation like this. Not proper talking about expectations, boundaries, precautions and actually getting to know the people you plan on sleeping with seems like a setup for disaster

OP, you didn’t send him to prison. His own actions and a jury of his peers are going to send him to prison. You just did the right thing and got a monster off the streets.

@stevenandcarminabeedle9089

4 ай бұрын

Exactly.

@blainetate743

4 ай бұрын

You’re not talking to the real OP.

@louib716

4 ай бұрын

Never fails to be a lack of personal accountability in these stories.

@milesrogers7402

4 ай бұрын

​@@louib716what do you mean

@kdepp90

4 ай бұрын

​@@blainetate743u don't know that the orginal OP isn't lurking in the comments section. I've seen it happen before, where the OP from a story in the video had identified themselves as such, and had replied to comments.

Story 3: the issue isn't that she was into it. The issue is hubby wanted her to let him sleep around while she slept with him. Aka a pass to cheat

@mariposa9506

4 ай бұрын

I think he wanted to watch her hate it

@MomsterPup

4 ай бұрын

Seeing how he wanted her to sleep with the woman, I think he has a kink for watching women do it. Double gross

@LilDevyl17

4 ай бұрын

@@mariposa9506 I think it was more that the Husband wanted his "Fansty" of seeing two women go at it, but since the Wife said no he was disappointed. He felt like he could just sleep with the other Wife and his Wife would be okay. But he really doesn't get the Swinger Life Style. It's like an open marriage and of course, if one pushes it's usually b/c of the whole, "I need an Ego boost to sleep with younger women who aren't you!"

@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072

4 ай бұрын

It’s within the realm of possibility that he thought her libido was low or something? But then he’s like “wait you’re like this with him but not me” im not saying he handled it well at all. But i can kinda understand him

@MomsterPup

4 ай бұрын

@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 I don't think so tbh. He wasn't for her sleeping with the guy even before she did, him glaring at them even just talking. He was all for her sleeping with the woman, and I think if she enjoyed that he wouldn't have minded

2nd story: Huh?, the girl didnt ruin your life OP. You just woke up. Take the chance and be who you truly are. Restarts are always hard,but can be good

@Mokuteke

4 ай бұрын

What I don’t understand is op saying he doesn’t wanna have to act like someone he isn’t. But the thing is nobody made him do that. He did that himself. He blaming others for a decision he made all alone makes o sense

@giancarloc1985

4 ай бұрын

Exactly. I had a restart like that after I realized several of my friends were not really my friends. Sometimes it's best to just start from scratch.

@augustaseptemberova5664

4 ай бұрын

@@Mokuteke I was thinking the same thing. I also thought (though I can't be sure if that applies in OP's case), that you have to be realistic with what expectations you put on your friends. The overwhelming majority of people has neither experience with serious trauma, nor the training of a professional therapist to adequately deal with someone else's trauma. Sometimes, a 'bad friend' is just someone dealing with their own problems. Sometimes, a 'bad listener' is just someone overwhelmed by what trauma you just shared with them, coping the best they can and struggling for something, _anything_ to say. Sometimes, someone trying to 'one up' your experience is just trying to relate to your situation by sharing their own thing.

@Mokuteke

4 ай бұрын

@@augustaseptemberova5664 yeah that’s what I thought as well. Thats how must people relate is by talking about similar things or subjects

@mrlugh

4 ай бұрын

@@augustaseptemberova5664 Thank-you. I totally understand OP, and their story made me think of the matrix scene "ignorance is bliss". I don't entirely believe that, because you will bump up against reality, and watching people struggle with that looks to be its own kind of hell. But, in a hell like OP's and mine, it is incredibly rare to meet someone like that person on the airplane. I'm fortunate to have a few people in my life, largely through a lengthy education process on their end. Even then it falls short. People like the other commenters will say, go out, you'll meet people. Sure, but it's like realizing no one in the world speaks the same language as you. Then someone might say, well then learn their language. And that is some incredibly ignorant $%!&. And I have not figured out how to extend the analogy further to someone who has not experienced what I have. I've had bad friends I've had to walk away from after 25 years - but I know, I experience daily, that is not the same as what OP is describing. I think augustus articulated it nicely, but I find even that explanation falls a bit deaf on those who don't have the right experiences or skills. Of course, the truth is that I am not unique in what I have experienced; the thing is that people like me, myself included, can be difficult to interact with. We are, after all, broken to varying degrees or in differing ways. So I don't find any solace there either. The only thing I can offer OP is is that just because most people aren't like the person on the plane, that most people can never see you completely, even as much as some might desire to and try, doesn't mean they don't see you at all. In your own words, you had a great time with your friends. You simply, unfortunately, realized there can be something more. I hope you find it. I never have, and not for lack of consistent trying in my long life. But that doesn't mean you should throw out what you do have. People like us have to find small wins, and learn to live with that.

Has kids, has CP... he aint ever seeing those kids again. I hope nothing happened to them.

@Nerobyrne

4 ай бұрын

Even if they weren't harmed by him, imagine how devastating it is to hear your dad is most likely never coming back because of what he did ....

@freshfromthecoven13

4 ай бұрын

Pedos, as long as they don't touch their own children, get granted custody everyday

@akl2k7

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, no kidding. Good thing she's going to put them through therapy. I hope nothing gets uncovered.

@Milk-ck1wv

4 ай бұрын

PRISON FOR LIFE

@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072

4 ай бұрын

@@akl2k7i mean what traumatized them?

The swinger story; I get the feeling it bothered him seeing someone else want and satisfy his woman. It probably made him insecure which is why he blew up at her. He's mad because he can't communicate and OP is just going along with whatever he wants.

@TomDarkwulf87

4 ай бұрын

I think he was trying to live out a fantasy of two women at once, but failed and is now upset she got more out of it then he did

@DoctorOaks

4 ай бұрын

This feels like he didn't actually have any interest in swinging. What he wanted was to sleep with other women because he wasn't feeling satisfied with her in the bedroom.

@karlking9871

4 ай бұрын

Husband fucked around, and found out. HE pushed this along and during the act HE was only interested in HIS OWN pleasure, whereas the other guy saw how uncomfortable the wife was and made it about HER, what she wanted etc. To the husband, yes you would not have needed to do this if she was more enthusiastic with you. The problem is if YOU would have been more attentive to her needs instead of your own then she would have likely been more enthusiastic with you. This guy is the cause of his own misery.

@askabluejay4932

4 ай бұрын

Based on how OP mentioned her husband seemed disappointed that she wasn't interested in sleeping with the woman, I'm wondering if it wasn't only the "pass to cheat" like another commenter said, and in part him fetishizing lesbian women.

@pollypockets508

4 ай бұрын

Husband: Let's have a foursome Also husband: I'm mad at you for having a foursome

Story 4: why are you hoping he can keep his truck? The only reason he bought it was because he thought he could just live off you to pay off. He heard you might get a raise and immediately decided to spend your money on himself before you even moved in, he even lied about how much it was actually going to cause because he knew you wouldn't agree to it. Block him and his stupid little friends, this guy is a gold digger that couldn't even wait to trap you in a lease before doing something stupid.

@dinlupus3196

4 ай бұрын

a gold digger who is spectacularly bad at knowing where the gold is...

@giancarloc1985

4 ай бұрын

He's also a complete moron who doesn't budget for anything. And I thought my $32k car was a lot. I make $75k but will likely make $130k in a few years. I would NEVER buy anything like that. I'm sticking to a $30-$35k sedan even if I make tons more. Dude saw a shiny toy and his ego exploded. And all logic went out the window. OP running from him was dodging a big bullet.

@YourXavier

4 ай бұрын

"why are you hoping he can keep his truck?" Because it's a close to a real relationship as he's ever going to get.

@DannyD-lr5yg

4 ай бұрын

I mean, she did cut ties with him, so I think the “I hope he gets to keep his truck” is somewhere between a well-meaning platitude (e.g. “I hope it all works out for you”), and OOP just naturally being the kinder, more pro-social of the two (wishing someone well instead of wishing them ill, even as you yeet them out of your life)

@christinebaker7311

4 ай бұрын

He planned on using her as a Sugar Mommy without consulting her about it, first. It's not even her job as a girlfriend, instead of a wife, to take care of him in the first place. Without marriage, they are basically roommates who are intimate.

Foursome one: that was super bizarre. How about bringing in some marital "tools" to spice up the sex before trying to go into full blown swinging? Holy shit.

@xxAliceNightxx

4 ай бұрын

Cause he didn't want to spice it up he wanted a free pass to cheat.

@malachieclipse9507

4 ай бұрын

@@xxAliceNightxxgotta agree with you, he wanted to hook up with the girl before hand and was making sure his wife wouldn’t divorce him, unfortunately she may realize he’s not as caring as she thought

@kg5626

4 ай бұрын

The husband wanted to have sex with the 25 yo. The husband likely didn't think OP would have sex with the guy. OP will likely be branded a cheater who ruined the marriage.

The Truck guy didn't want a partner, he wanted a free ATM. Live within your means and suck it up until you've saved and clawed your way out of poverty.

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

I feel bad for the truck though. It did nothing wrong and it fell into possession of this dude

*OP:* A $95,000 truck!? How are you going to afford this? *Idiot Boyfriend:* Uhhhh... with your money? *OP, in her best Strong Bad impression:* Aaaaaaaand best of luck to you!

Man that Truck story is wild!! I want to know how he even qualified for a loan like that with his income! Seriously! What kind of sleezy car dealership did he go to that actually allowed him to take out a loan like that on his income?

@Cryonan

4 ай бұрын

Sleezy and car company are synonyms

@giancarloc1985

4 ай бұрын

14% interest. 😮 what a fool!

@kristy1653

4 ай бұрын

Normally, when you buy a car they don’t confirm your income like they do with a mortgage. They usually ASK your income, but qualifying for a loan and your interest rate is typically based on your credit history and score rather than your income. The only instance they may want things like paystubs is if you have extremely poor credit and are buying from one of those used dealerships that give out loans at like 24%.

@YourXavier

4 ай бұрын

He probably showed them the second budget.

@danielmorton9956

4 ай бұрын

Dealerships are happy to give out bad loans. Think about all the ads you hear for no credit/ bad credit dealerships. The add-ons are all high margin. At that interest rate and negotiated price, they only need a few months of payments to make it worth the repo.

Story 5: All lies…for what? What kind of image was he trying to build during his short life, lying about a car, money, a storage unit, what is it?

@jurgennicht4626

4 ай бұрын

A storry of success. A story of how he wanted to be seen. Sadly, a story about himself he thought was loveable.

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

Yea really

The word we're all thinking of is "Pedophile". The fact that KZread is intent on censoring this word for some reason helps nobody.

@Qriox

4 ай бұрын

Announcers pay for youtube and creators. Would you like to announce your product on videos that talk about those guys? No.

@aerieleah533

4 ай бұрын

There's such a need to keep it off the internet, but yet that doesn't exactly do people favors to hide it. It's hard conversations to have, but they need to be had to help protect children.

@michaeldavidryandanielpaul1990

4 ай бұрын

👍 Like so many words that need to be said!

@ajjamsen694

4 ай бұрын

You can't say it but showing is a different thing apparently on KZread. 😮‍💨

@seabass819

4 ай бұрын

Because the execs don't like that label.

In the swinging story...maybe Max was more considerate and did things her husband just didn't/doesn't sounded like the husband wanted to have fun and preferred his wife either be too afraid to play or play with the wife to please her husband

@mariposa9506

4 ай бұрын

Max was a dick. He saw her freaking out but put the moves on her anyway.

@makii7408

4 ай бұрын

​@@mariposa9506 Max was thoughtful and considerate, her husband was a dick. Max noticed that she was scared and uncomfortable and comforted her while her husband just didn't give a fuck about her and only had eyes for the other woman.

@mariposa9506

4 ай бұрын

@@makii7408 Max noticed she was scared and didn't cancel the sex. That is not in the slightest bit thoughtful. If a stranger looks scared to have sex with you, and you are a decent person, you don't try to soothe them into it, you take sex off the table.

@Lunicia_the_crazy_healer

4 ай бұрын

​@@mariposa9506she didn't say she was scared, she said she was awkward. We weren't there, but maybe she really just didn't know how to feel comfortable with this situation and Max helped her overcoming this.

You generally don't go to prison for life if you're innocent so this doesn't seem like the wife's fault.

@Nerobyrne

4 ай бұрын

Well she had rock-solid evidence, so ..... yeah. What the absolute hell man. I have no idea how someone can do that to their family. Like, I'm pretty sure if he had gone to therapy for this crap, his wife wouldn't have reacted the way she did. Most certainly, he wouldn't be in prison!

@chronobretz9511

4 ай бұрын

Plus she didn’t even give the police all the evidence just what she found they found more themselves which just made it worse

@akl2k7

4 ай бұрын

​@Nerobyrne and they found even more evidence on his phone. The guy deserves to be locked away.

@yuriko3977

4 ай бұрын

slight correction: you absolutely CAN go to prison for life if you’re innocent. what’s more important to focus on here is the fact a nasty pedophile was caught before he could hurt his own kids, and will hopefully be sent to serve his full sentence in prison.

@TheTiayahi

4 ай бұрын

They are NOT married, so she has NO right to have a say in how or on what he spends his money. This guy is an IDIOT for spending this much $$ on a truck that will be less valuable as soon as he left the car lot.

God I hope OP didn't/doesn't tell her ex husband that it was her fault he got caught and now is in prison. if he ever gets out, he will try to hurt her and their kids.

@thetruth1816

4 ай бұрын

Ohhh he's never getting out.. the prisoners love touchers .

@AlastorsNight

4 ай бұрын

While I agree she shouldn't tell him immediately, he will find out once she has to testify against him but by then she will be far from his grasp.

@danielbrant6740

4 ай бұрын

OP was the one who discovered what her monster of a husband was doing. There's a high chance she'll have to testify in court, and in turn, the monster will know exactly who tipped off the cops.

@akl2k7

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, she should file for divorce and THEN tell him she was the one who turned him in.

@luke_at_my_art

4 ай бұрын

It's not OP's fault that the husband got arrested. She put her morals above protecting the waste of space

9:55 My _mortgage_ for our 3BR, 2BA home is $995/mo. This man is _absolutely_ insane. This OP was _very_ smart to seperate herself from this guy immediately. I can hear Caleb Hammer screeching in my head.

@LA_choca

4 ай бұрын

... where do you live??

@foodforthought9079

4 ай бұрын

Where is this magical place?

@NEPAAlchey

4 ай бұрын

You must live in a flyover state.

@Gweem13

4 ай бұрын

In my city here in canada, bottom of the barrel bachelor pads are $1200+ nowadays, so you MUST have been living there for a long time.

@lancerevell5979

4 ай бұрын

Not all of us live in places where a modest home costs two grand or more a month! Many places are actually affordable for us Middle Class homeowners. Avoid big cities and liberal population centers

Ok wait, the ice maker. My girlfriend put ice in everything, everything she drinks has ice in it. She would keep making ice in those trays, asking me to make them, go buy bag of ice etc. So I wrote that down for her next birthday: a ice maker. I was looking at them, thinking "wow that's expensive", but I ended up buying her a 500$ ice maker (I would generally buy something around 100-200$ for her birthday). It is by far the best birthday present I ever bought her, she herselft though when receiving it "oh ok, seems a bit expensive for essentially a gimmick" but after using it for a couple weeks, she was super happy and couldn't believe how much she liked it and it basically changed her life. That thing is basically always own making ice or at least full of ice. I would buy that for myself, but for someone who likes ice, it's really cool. It has been more than a year and her next birthday present was nowhere near as cool and I had to tell her "You gotta lower your expectations, I don't think I'll ever be able to top the ice maker". It was just... the perfect gift.

@threecards333

4 ай бұрын

Now you motivated me to buy one. I dont even have a freezer, so no way of making ice and i love ice in my drinks, so i just get drinks drive thrus and recycle the ice. Thankfully for me my office has an ice maker, so i can have ice at work.

@randomrandom450

4 ай бұрын

@@threecards333 totally worth it ! The one I bought output ice in about 15 min, so even if you forget and don't plan ahead, you can have ice very quickly !

@smapa1185

4 ай бұрын

Uh, if she's craving ice and eats it constantly, she might be anemic. I'd get her iron levels checked if she's not had them checked before!

@ostlandr

4 ай бұрын

My Lady Wife and I got a potpourri pot for our wedding. We were very thankful, but thought "What do we do with it?" Turns out we loved it. We could use natural herbs, flower petals, etc. in it, without that particular stink of commercial air fresheners. We'd even put cinnamon and spice or bayberry leaves it at holiday times. Hearing how much we loved it made the friend who gifted it very happy.

After reading so many stories or terrible wives and mothers defending their husbands when they do terrible things. Im soooo glad this one did NOT do that. She did the right thing the second she found out as you should!

Respect to the wife. I'd like to think that most people would do the same thing in her shoes. But, I'm not sure. This woman blew up her family for justice. This will have flipped all of their lives upside down. That's not an easy thing to do. Not only that, but she feels accountable. She's actually willing to tell the soon to be ex that it was her that turned him in. That's called integrity right there. Mad respect.

Story 4: OP said their bf had an APR of 14%. His credit sucks. It can be speculated that he has a history of making bad financial choices.

I also get the feeling, having heard many of your other vids, that the guy in the second story just wanted to cheat without getting in trouble, then got a dose of his own medicine when his wife actually got enjoyment from it as well. I suspect that he just wanted her to sit back I'm the room with the other husband and watch while he plows the other girl.

@TipTheScales27

4 ай бұрын

I don’t know what he thought was gonna happen. The whole point of swinging is for both people to participate

3rd Story: Literally anytime I see a "the man wants to open the relationship/swing/etc" it's literally just the man wants to sleep with other people while the woman has to stay faithful to him.

@TheJadedJames

4 ай бұрын

I have absolutely no respect for the husband in this situation. I try to give people as much credit as possible when listening to these stories. I don’t want to jump to “He just wanted to have sex with other women while his wife remained faithful.” But while I get that people can have unexpected emotional reactions reactions to these things, he’s not showing his wife any curtesy or respect. This is a situation he created and that she agreed to so he just doesn’t get to be mad and he especially doesn’t get to be disrespectful

Last story: OP could still dump him. She could dump his ashes somewhere he would never want them.

@danielbrant6740

4 ай бұрын

As tempting as that is, I'm certain the dead man's family might take issue with that.

@bonniehalf-elven

4 ай бұрын

@@danielbrant6740 She can just give his ashes to his family, along with any other of his possessions, and wash her hands of him.

@wordsmith6154

4 ай бұрын

@danielbrant6740 Well, she said she had the ashes. It's safe to assume that she can do whatever she wants with them. He might not have family or they might not care. She doesn't really mention them.

@WhoisVinnie

4 ай бұрын

Down the toilet

@RisingRevengeance

4 ай бұрын

@@danielbrant6740 I wonder how much the family of his cared about him. Something tells me he wasn't great to them given that the whole life he told his fiance was a lie and he scammed at least one friend.

NOOOOOO! The second story is absolutely wild! Because I've lived basically my entire life like that. I'm honest and open, and if people don't like it, they don't call me again. I personally see that as a win for everyone. And now that OP has had ONE honest conversation, he realized that living a lie 24/7 is actually hell ^^

@danielbrant6740

4 ай бұрын

I hope "honest and open" isn't code talk for "unfiltered asshole" like many AITA posts have taught me.

@Nerobyrne

4 ай бұрын

@@danielbrant6740 no, I actually mean it exactly like I said it ^^ I'm only mean to people I don't like, AND who are mean to me first.

@Mokuteke

4 ай бұрын

What I don’t understand is why Op is acting like someone forced him to be a fake person. They justified in their own head that the real them wasn’t what people wanted and then blamed people who never met the real them what sense does that make

@AlbRomano

4 ай бұрын

​@@Mokutekewell, let's not speak as if you didn't know society molds the way we act towards others. Of course he's wrong blaming the people in his life, cause this is responsability, but I hope for his sake that he can actually honest and open to the people of his life, or find people he can be himself with.

@Mokuteke

4 ай бұрын

@@AlbRomano seeing as I’ve never let anyone but myself and things I wanted or people I wanted to mold how I act. I dont understand that point of view. Society it what it is there are standards of course. But no one is forced to try to uphold those standards. You are an individual you can choose what path you go down it may be harder to be your own person but you still have that choice.

Pickup Truck Guy trying to call his Ex-GF after she breaks up with him... I imagine the calls going like this. "Hi OP, it's Pickup Truck Guy and I've been trying to reach you about my extended warranty..."

Story 4: So…why did he think all of this was a good idea? Like, that plan is so unrealistic that he's just f**ked, really shouldn't have bought that truck if his plan including banking on a raise that might not happen. If he wanted an ego-stroking fancy truck, well he'll need to save more money.

@annika5893

4 ай бұрын

He gambled to freeload on girlfriend's money while enjoying his expensive toy, and it didn't pay off. Gambling rarely does pay off.

@akl2k7

4 ай бұрын

​@@annika5893it was dumb of him to pull this on someone not legally bound to him. Heck, she wasn't even on his lease.

@RisingRevengeance

4 ай бұрын

He just forgot that it costs money to have that kind of midlife crisis, easy mistake. /s

@user-od7hh8qg9d

Ай бұрын

And, most probably, it's cyberrust.

4th story update: i think you need to dump him op. Cause, he literally told you that he was planning to use you for money for his truck that it's out of his price range. All because, he remembered that you would get a promotion soon from your job.

Story 3: wait...wait wait wait WAIT!! OP's husband is upset with OP for enjoying a whole "orgy" THAT HE SET UP??!! DA HELL?!! What is that logic?! Dude wanted a pass to cheat but got mad OP enjoyed "cheating" too! As someone in the swinger community, I can say this dude was stupid. You don't just JUMP IN HEAD FIRST. You get to know the other party (or parties) on a friend basis first. You test the waters in terms of chemistry. You communicate properly (in person and via messages). You set CLEAR BOUNDARY rules so that no complications arise. And only then, once all those steps were taken, do you jump into the deep end. Because even outside of the bedroom, so long as everyone is still friends, things would/should be gravy. Story 4: wow...well then....that's a real kick in the teeth. Dude played a whole "mourn me when I'm gone, but you well cared for" story and OP is basically suffering the after effects. I say/hope OP should give this guy's ashes and stuff to his family, tell them all his lies, say she isn't "his widow", and move out of state with her daughter. Because no doubt the family will look at them and aways say "your husband was lucky to have you" every single time. It probably would drive OP crazy.

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

4 ай бұрын

Story 3 is the foursome

For the swinger story, OP, IF YOUR READING THIS, RUN. This is extremely common. Your partner, typically the male, will want to either have something like this, or open up the relationship, but once you agree and you know, go and sleep with someone else, they'll get mad because you wanna know why? They want to cheat. They want the best of both worlds, they wanna have you as a rebound, but also be able to sleep with other, typically younger, people. Run.

Truck story: I actually understand the boyfriend, there's a lot of things I want and I fantasize about, like expensive trips, a motorbike, the house that a guy I hate is renting, stuff like that. The difference is that I won't try and buy them until and unless I find a way to pay for them first, because I have basic self control.

"We met the old-fashioned way, on a dating app" Wait ... what's the NEW way?!

@VictoriaMullakandova

4 ай бұрын

Dumb luck

@lancerevell5979

4 ай бұрын

Uh.... on Reddit or Tictoc? 😅

@Xarosai

4 ай бұрын

The new way is not meeting anyone because the dating culture nowadays is just a toxic shitshow lmao

@leileyaravencroft

4 ай бұрын

My first thought was street corner but I guess TikTok would be "new"

@Nerobyrne

4 ай бұрын

@@Xarosai Damn guess I'm going everything right lol

Foursome story Okay so in reality the husband just wanted some spark in the bedroom again and rather than express that, he just wanted to bang other people and brought Op along so it wasn't cheating. What the husband really wanted was more attention in the bed from his wife, which probably means he doesn't pay alot of attention to her and just wants to be taken care of in the bedroom. Op meanwhile needed her husband to show her attention so she could be in the mood to reciprocate. Rather than discuss their love life he looked to others for that attention. If you're going to become swinger's and have couple friends with benefits you need to be solid in your own love life first. You as couple should be going crazy on your own in the bedroom, learning what you both enjoy and trying new things well before becoming a swinger. It also helps that both people in the couple are bisexual and are meeting another bisexual happy couple without homelife issues. Also yes rslash is right, you need to know the personality of the couple first too so meeting in a public hang out spot for a bit first makes sense Op gets 0 outa 5 Husband gets 3 outa 5

Story 1: I don't think you should tell him it was you that turned them in, and honestly I wouldn't tell your kids either, at least not yet. You are the investigator the proof you gave him a loan was a state charge and that wasn't even everything, on top of finding out he's been cheating on you. When a guy like that has almost nothing left to lose and finds out someone they know was the person that rather than out it can get bad. And then there's your kids who more than likely don't understand the situation I'm assuming, and don't know everything yet. Plus your oldest is already furious if they find that it was you that sent their death to jail before fully understanding the the gravity of the situation it might lead to more harm than good. I think maybe you want to wait until after the trial, because if it's half as bad as you described as probably an opening check case, and when your kids Rios certain level of understanding. I don't think you should hide it for them forever just something like this need to be explained carefully and you have to consider your safety first.

Story 2; this happen to me when I was in Hawaii. I met a women who allowed me to share my thoughts and aspirations; things I couldn’t share with my boyfriend at the time. After our two am conversation while sharing fries and cola; i realized I was wasn’t happy. Two weeks after that vacation I left my boyfriend & pursue nursing and guess what. I’m a nurse working in neuro. My friend in Hawaii; thank you ❤ thank you for opening my eyes and being the friend i desperately needed.

@BoatingMyFloat

4 ай бұрын

if no one has told you today, you should be so incredibly proud of all you've accomplished in life :)

@celinagarcia5075

4 ай бұрын

@@BoatingMyFloat thank you 💕

>Wife finds out her husband phone has CP >She takes pictures with her own device to show it to the authorities as evidence Investigator Johnson, on Monday: "There's the bastard! _Get 'em!"_ On a real note: I HIGHLY doubt he was "unaware" of what he was being taken into custody for... If he truly is, though - he's either dumber than a bag full of hammers or is simply lying outright out of denial. Either way, it doesn't change the fact that the police are supposed to tell him his rights as he's being taken into custody. Miranda Rights are very, VERY important for ensuring that the law is enforced with due diligence.

@kranberry3318

4 ай бұрын

Yeah my first response was “that’s illegal” like you HAVE to tell someone what they’re being arrested for when you arrest them.

@KiraMermaid

4 ай бұрын

He knew. At the time, he didn't know that the wife knew, and might not have known how much evidence they had on him. He was basically lying to her so he could spin a story to make him look innocent if he was able to dodge the conviction.

The fact people can literally look up CP while having children themselves is appalling, vile, and scary

If they were staying in their own apartments and not paying bills together, then he has every right to buy what he wants when he wants. But if you plan to move in together and share bills, you can't make a big purchase without talking to your partner.

@DoctorOaks

4 ай бұрын

This. The issue is they were going to be moving in together soon, and he expected her to pick up his slack while he pays nearly $2k a month paying off his new truck. He literally cannot afford this truck on his own, and wanted to make it OP's burden. Then he has the audacity to say it was his own money he spent on the truck so she gets no say in how he spends it.

Truck story: 2500$ for the truck, 115$ for food and everything else... that's what I call setting priorities 😅

@kconway2263

4 ай бұрын

He’s the definition of delulu.

@akl2k7

4 ай бұрын

And expecting to be able to leech off his girlfriend without telling her beforehand.

@giancarloc1985

4 ай бұрын

I'm like lol. And I thought my $32k sedan was too much. I make $75k with the possibility of going to six figures soon. I would never buy a gas guzzling truck. This dude saw a shiny toy that stroked his ego and went for it. Without any logic.

@annfranksus1531

4 ай бұрын

Keep in mind that it's $2500/ month minimum. And he is growing that debt with the 14% apr over 6 YEARS. That "extra" $100 should be invested in an air mattress so he can sleep in the parking lot where he works

Truck story: the former bf didn't realize how much OP helped him by not moving in with him. This wouldn't be practical with two people but now he can save so much money by living in his new truck! 😂

Insane purchase.... Old story. This guy had a huge amount of gall, expecting OP to pay half his truck payment, especially based on her MAYBE getting a raise.... in the future. Stupid. He needs to get a second job, and OP has dodged a huge bullet. 🤨

First story: As a victim of SA & CP from my own father, I pray that op's kids didn't turn into his victims. It's painful when anyone harms you that way, but when you know it was a family member.... it really messes with your head. I hope all the best for OP and her kids. I hope in time they will all be able to move past it and be generally happy with their lives.

*Last Story:* Losing two dads at age 4? It wouldn't surprise me if that kid ends up needing therapy in the future.

@Sordorack

4 ай бұрын

to be fair, i think almost everybody could benefit from therapy at some point in their life

Good on wife in story one for just going for it despite having to turn her life upside down to protect children

4:12 He needs Anakin to tell him "Hold on, this whole operation was your idea"

Story 2: I don't think that the original poster's husband actually wanted to do what he said he did. I think that he was just more in love with the idea rather than with the actual act.

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

4 ай бұрын

Story 3

3rd story: think it was the hubby's plan to make OP jealous but back fired on him.

@lacko623

4 ай бұрын

Yep, he effed around and found out...literally... 😂

@TomDarkwulf87

4 ай бұрын

Either that or was hoping she'd be too much of a deer in headlights to participate

@ResidentMilf

4 ай бұрын

No, I think he just wanted some strange and didn't understand for some reason that that means either cheating, or his wife *also* getting strange. It makes zero sense, but these posts are a dime a dozen on Reddit. "The problem with men is that we have two heads, but only enough blood to operate one of them at a time." - Robin Williams

@dashopepper

4 ай бұрын

A lot of guys are fixated on watching two women "hug"; he wanted to get off on watching her with another woman or watching her, Max and the other woman in a threesome. When it didn't work out that way, he resented his wife. She'd be better off dumping him than remaining with him.

@sebforce1165

4 ай бұрын

@@ResidentMilf Or he wanted his wife to get it on with the other lady while the other guy took another approach at the same time

S1) The husband's disgusting trip down F around lane is landing him in find out row. OP did everything right now to divorce him. Those kids need to know the truth in a age appropriate manner. S2) OP had a life changing eye opening experience. It's okay to realize you don't want certain people in your life. They thing that sucks is if you cut them out without telling them why you're doing it. Therapy would also be something worth looking into. S3) I hate people who suggest opening the relationship when it was never that way to begin with. Then to have the audacity to complain that they're not happy. Gee genius what was your first clue? Just divorce. He's not happy he didn't get what he wanted and is now throwing a tantrum about it. S4) He wanted OP to be his live in bang maid ATM. That goes both ways you know? Support is for both sides of a relationship. He wouldn't support OP financially and he showed it by buying something he can't afford. Why should OP eat all the living expenses, her bills and his with that truck being his only responsibility with the largest if he can even pay for it. He can take the crud street rubish friends with him. The double audacity for making financial plans with money that's not his nor guranteed is utterly and unquestionably insane. I'm glad the OP dumped his behind. S5) OP it's a good thing you never married this lower than a worms belly bottom feeder. His debts would have been yours. Sell what you can to compensate your lost financially. Take the ashes to the closes garbage dump and leave him where he belongs.

Truck story: Yeah.... she didn't run away because finances became tough. She left because the boyfriend proved he was too immature to handle a relationship. He blew his money on something he couldn't afford because he thought she'd carry him financially and that's a huge red flag. It's one thing to purchase something you can afford and pay off yourself, but when you require your partner to help pay for it, you absolutely have to discuss first. Honest communication is key in any strong relationship. If you marry a dude like that, you'll regret it, because one day he'll get emotional and blow your life savings on a toy for himself. I have a friend like that. He got divorced sold his house and started pushing for full custody of the kids in court. He then proceeds to blow all of the money from his half of the house sale on a supped up modified truck and had to rent a crappy 1 bedroom apartment that isn't big enough for the kids. He didn't get any warranty or guarantee on this almost new truck and he blew the motor within a month and is now stuck with no money and I'm sure the courts will be very sympathetic to him. NOT. OP needs to run for the hills. Glad he revealed how immature he was BEFORE they moved in and got serious. That budget planning was something a teenager would come up with.

First story: Ok good that the kids are ok but op has the right idea see a therapist because from what I’ve heard that kind of situation takes years of therapy 2nd story: i wouldn’t say she ruined your life it’s more made you realize something that does happen from time to time you run into someone they give you advice or something to think about and it changes your life don’t take it to personally it’s a part of growing up

I understand how OP feels about her late bf, I was planning stuff for the future with a person who was on board , but then on last minute backed out and laid with the first wh*re he could find and blew up at me for being upset about it ,saying that I was a stalker (???) and blocked me. And just recently I came to the realization that he never cared about me but about the stuff I was giving him, gifts, attentions etc. All of that was just a lie and now im being treated as the bad guy for being mad at him.

@Robin93k

3 ай бұрын

If that's true, it sounds like your friends and family are just as trash mentally as your Ex~ Or whoever calls you the bad guy. Because "Birds of a feather flock together" Cheaters defend Cheater, Gold Diggers defend Gold Digger, and alike. People always defend their own flaws in others.

I thankfully don’t know much about prison but one thing I do know is they do not let people who mess with kids off light that dude is definitely not going to enjoy the next couple decades

@KiraMermaid

4 ай бұрын

If he survives that long...

Jeez that's scary. I just found out my bf of 5 months was planning to hang out with a girl he used to flirt with online for years. I asked if she knew we were together, and he said no. But, "I was going to tell her when we hung out." I can't imagine something like this happening after so many years. I hope she finds happiness.

Story 1: it'd be a "shame" if a fellow inmate got wind of his actual charges.

@drwboy07

4 ай бұрын

What I learned from another youtuber, when you get sent to jail they give you your papers on what you were charged with. Once you're in a cell your cellmate will ask you for your papers and if you try to refuse you'll automatically be summed up as a pedo. And majority of prisoners don't like people that hurt children, elderly, disabled and/or animals.

@mariposa9506

4 ай бұрын

Wings?

@Fenronin

4 ай бұрын

Thats fucked up the dude didnt do shit

@KiraMermaid

4 ай бұрын

@@drwboy07 This happened to a friend of mine. His ex got mad at him for leaving her (she was cheating), so she made up a story that he was doing inappropriate things with her daughter. He had to constantly watch his back for the 2-3 months he was in jail while they investigated. Charges were dropped because they couldn't find a speck of evidence to support her BS story.

@drwboy07

4 ай бұрын

@@KiraMermaid I know of something similar as that basically a very f'd up false accusation. My gfs ex friend J has a daughter M and M was living with the parents. J has 3 other siblings one of the siblings has severe autism. J was trying to get money from her parents, when that failed

Man, I was laughing so hard with the first story when the officer told her he was also cheating with men. Like, he's already a chomo, how does that info help anyone lmao

@mariposa9506

4 ай бұрын

And there will be people here mad that he was "outed" for being gay more than anything else in the story and complain about homophobia.

9:48 did some math and his total after the 72 months is a nice $232,362.43

@danielbrant6740

4 ай бұрын

😵💸

@TomDarkwulf87

4 ай бұрын

Whatever company approved that loan took bro to the cleaners

@purple-47

4 ай бұрын

@@TomDarkwulf87 yep

2:56 it's always hard to tell from people if they're doing this or just trying to say a similar story to show you they truly do understand and empathize

@CinderXiaoLong

4 ай бұрын

I do that sometimes, but it's always to try and empathize with someone, not one up them

Boyfriend buying an expensive truck is irresponsible. He was expecting to completely comingle finances before they even moved in together. He may never change (speaking as an ex-wife whose ex-husband's 4th wife confirmed it).

@lancerevell5979

4 ай бұрын

It had better be a long bed truck with a topper. I'm betting he'll be living in it when he can't pay his rent. 😅

@TheJadedJames

4 ай бұрын

I loved that he said it was HIS money but he also couldn’t afford to keep it without his girlfriend paying half the rent. He needs to get dumped hard.

@Robin93k

3 ай бұрын

Seriously.... Did you not know you were the 5th? Did you think the 4 other women must have been the problem? Or did you think you could change him?

@shannonp1656

3 ай бұрын

@@Robin93k I was the second in the 1980s. I maintained a relationship with his parents, which is how I was put in touch with # 4 in the 2000s.

@Robin93k

3 ай бұрын

@@shannonp1656 aah, okay... I misunderstood, I was so confused as to why you'd marry him based on that prior knowledge.

Every so often R-slash ends a video with a story with heavy themes, but no commentary. This is one of those videos where im like, "You know what? I dont blame you for not following up with that one."

"Ruined my life story". I think the person has depression or something similar.

Hello, I am someone in a swinger relationship- going out and getting to know the people you bring into your life is sooooo standard. Also, when you get into this kind of relationship you have to communicate EVERYTHING before, after, during- you have to tell them if you feel jealous, set boundaries, etc. just finding someone and jumping in without talking is horrible. (But also you shouldn't get into the lifestyle if one person is not on board 100%) I hate when I hear stories about people opening the relationship when they don't want to, I've met people in person who are in that type of situation and we don't go forward if that's the vibe (or if they're cheating, we won't be with cheaters either.) Sorry for the mini rant 😅

Honestly glad OP was a therapist. Her education means she knows exactly what to do and has the right tools to deal with this situation.

Unfortunately a similar thing (first story) happened to my sister in law. Not the cheating part, but finding CP on her boyfriend's phone. Yeah... he went to prison and he's never seen his daughter since. It was a horrible situation as she really loved him.

I bet he financed the truck through the dealer. It's like in the beginning of GTA 5. They sell you a car you can't pay for, squeeze as many payments as they can out of you, then repo it, and repeat with the next sucker.

Truck guy is an idiot but that loan was hella predatory

@susangrande8142

4 ай бұрын

My thought, too. What loan company/bank/whatever looked at the guy’s income and expenses and decided he’s a good risk for paying off that loan successfully?! They of course know a vehicle loses a lot of its “value” the second the buyer drives it off the dealer lot. The idiot boyfriend should sell the truck and cut his losses.

OP of the first story should double talk her husband into believing that getting a divorce and giving her full custody of the kids is a great idea legally and financially... Legally he wouldn't have to worry about the kids as OP would be able to make all decisions without him (which honestly could cause issues if there was something that required his approval), and if he signs over everything in a divorce, he has nothing and could get a lawyer assigned to him, protecting the assets of the family. THEN reveal to him that she's the one that turned him in, and let him live his new life.

Story 3: he was annoyed she said she wasn't interested in doing anything with the other woman, I bet he wasn't interested in doing anything with the other man either though. He just wanted a free pass to be with someone else, but didn't actually want her to do so.

@mistystorm2637

4 ай бұрын

AND to fetishize queer women and push that onto OP… there’s so much wrong with that man

On that second story, I choose to believe OP looked up that girl and they’re going to get married and live happily ever after.

Story 4: so basically he wants Op to cover all the expenses including gas for his truck while he be only contributing to the truck and nothing else.

That guy's $87,000 truck payment is more expensive than my mortgage on a $400,000 house LoL

To the girl with the stupid boyfriend and his truck: BREAK UP. Can you imagine how he would mismanage finances after marriage and kids? Yikes! She dodged a huge bullet.

Right off the bat, OP's husband wanted to open the marriage for his sake. HE wanted to sleep around while his wife sat at home.

Really, that's where story 1 is going to end? Did you tell your husband it was you? How much time did he get? Was there a second shooter on the grassy knoll?

'we met the old fashioned way...' Bar? '...on a dating app.' Oh. Well now i feel ancient😅

Re: truck guy The surprising part is that he apparently didn't have any actual explanation of him needing the truck, like for work or something. So he never had any justification for getting it besides his girlfriend being his sugar mommy.

Someone I know found CP on their fathers' computer after he passed away. A lot of it. They never knew. Everyone loved that guy.

Story 4: OP’s ex is an idiot who needs to get schooled in budgeting and financial planning. Especially if he didn’t have a decent cushion of liquid funds. Credit is not a free ticket to freedom, it’s a ball and chain that you need to be prepared to handle.

Story 1: No, OP. You didn't send him to prison. He did it to himself. Also, please don't tell him. Let him sit in limbo about who outed him. Divorce him and be done with him. Also, KZread is too soft. It's child porn. Story 2: Dude, you may find that girl again, possibly in someone else. There is no need to be pessimistic about life. Story 3: OPs husband, honestly, what the hell did you expect to happen? I am kinda glad that Max tried to get OP comfortable. Story 4: I'm sorry, but $94,000 for what truck!? Dude literally has no sense of money or has impulse control. Good riddance to him, OP. Story 5: The story had me in the first half, not gonna lie. But that guy lied...a lot. Holy shit. I'm sorry that you had to go through all of that, OP. I'd give his ashes to his family and move on.

Truck story: This reminds me of my time in the Marine Corps. Car lots in Oceanside would have signs “ We finance E-1 and up” The APR would be 26.99% 🤣😂 Some new Marines would buy from those car lots 🤦🏽‍♂️🤣😂🤣

The Foursome Story: op’s husband just sounded like he wanted to cheat.

OP in the foursome should have watch the movie "Chasing Amy" 😢 maybe it would have helped deter this kinda thing

The fact that YT will demonetize or straight up remove videos that have certain words, forcing creators to work around them, all the while displaying ads for mobile games with scantily clad/naked women and still claiming to be a kid friendly platform lmao

"We met the Old Fashioned way- on a dating app." Cue that aging forward scene in Saving Private Ryan...

@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072

4 ай бұрын

Oh?

This always happens someone in the relationship says lets try something new with new partners, and then later they realized they screwed up. You can't be in a monogamous relationship and have sex with other people, that's not how anything works.

@TomDarkwulf87

4 ай бұрын

Yes you can, that's how swinging works. It's not the same as polyamory, and plenty of people do it successfully. The husband however just sounds like he was using it as an excuse to get his dick wet somewhere else and hoping that she would be too scared to actually participate.

How in the world did the BF get aporoved for financing on a 87k truck if he can't afford his bills

@TomDarkwulf87

4 ай бұрын

Yeah I was questioning that as well. Shame on that loan company

@mariposa9506

4 ай бұрын

Hence the 14% interest they knew he might default.

As for the second story, I think it would be best for OP to visit a psychologist. From the story it is clear that he has some issues or supressed feelings that might or might not have to do something with his childhood trauma and that should probably be consulted with someone.

Swinger story.. My EX did the same thing. He wanted details, then got upset with details. He's a controlling POS.

Husband: Let's swing. *wife swings* Husband: Wait, that's illegal!

I've had just about enough of these "P-Worded" people

For the truck story, assuming taxes were at least $1,000 a month out of his check, that means HIS other expenses were roughly 2,668 a month! This guy!!

S2: Op I hate to be the bearer of obvious news. This isn't the first time that your husband has been with other women. This is the first time he decided to bring you along because he assumed that you would just sit there and watch. Plus he was counting on the other guy to not be attracted to you or you him. Well surprise surprise surprise. He found his wife enjoying being intimately hugged by a younger and firmer man and loving the experience. Now he's trying and succeeding in making you feel guilty because now he knows that you can do better than him and that he's the reason that the bedroom was at death's door. Sucks to be him. I hope that you both are employed and have separate accounts because this isn't going to end well. Good luck.

RSlash: Forbidden "P" word. Me: Pizza? Picture? Poltergeist? Prison? Pumpkin? Phonograph? Pretzel? Pinhead?

re: truck story Even though OP's ex has student loans, which would indicate going to college, it would appear that he's not the brightest bulb in the marquee. If his truck loan is 14%, then his credit score is probably fairly low. If what OP is saying about the payments is also correct, then--even after the trade-in (which, probably wasn't much) AND whatever savings he put towards the truck--he's STILL going to make over $140,000 in monthly payments for this truck. OP didn't dodge a financial bullet...I believe she dodged a financial atomic bomb.

Props to OP for taking action as soon as possible and not hesitating.

Husband: We should swing! Wife: *swings* Husband: Wait that's illegal!

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

Lol yea

Story4 It sounds like the bf only wanted to move in together so he could afford a new truck.

If your partner shows severe financial irresponsibility, think long and hard about whether you are willing to be saddled with their debts

4th Story: Go into the nearest church, and give a prayer of thanks that you got these red flags before moving in and possibly marrying this guy. lol "Financially immature" isn't a big enough title to fit this guy - he's like financially fetal, requiring help for every aspect of his life because he is unable to do the smallest of tasks.

Story 5: hello bankruptcy with an 85K salary

Swinging needs all parties to be absolutely okay with the idea of their partner banging someone else. You have to fully trust your partner for it to work out well. It should NEVER be treated as a way to "fix" a relationships' sex life!!!