What makes the third story worse is that the pregnancy was Intended and Op Wasn't even told about this, Chris and Amanda were hoping that op was too old to fight about this and just accept the parenting but they failed

@Dondizle

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah. He overheard them talking to a friend about him being a free babysitter. How can someone have a child and expect someone else to raise them, especially not even ask or talk about it first? Just, "my dad will do it. He's retired and has the time when we want to spend ours being selfish, young and free". His daughters make it sound like he has no right to retire and he shouldn't have his free time to himself.

@qc6057

2 жыл бұрын

Then called a misogynist?

@jdpace4371

2 жыл бұрын

Marriage and childbirth are two majorly transformative events, and if you haven't been married for long, or haven't had children, you don't know what you don't know. I think the dad was correct to establish a boundary, but also has a coaching opportunity. His kids are going to go through a massive right-of-passage and will likely (hopefully) emerge much more mature.

@dnisey64

2 жыл бұрын

@@jdpace4371 yea, not necessarily. Or the baby will be neglected and the marriage will suffer or fail. However, I'm glad you're looking positively on the situation.

@funkytoasts4768

2 жыл бұрын

He's 52 and they think he's too old lmao. My dad is almost 50 and he is doing ironman races, he has taught me someone is never too old for things

3rd couple blew my mind. They want to spend their 20's having fun not tied down with kids, but they were trying for a baby? What? W-why?!! And If Auntie Sanda thinks they deserve 4 days of free child care, then it was very kind of her to offer.

@braidygal

2 жыл бұрын

They did spend their 20s that way. By the time the baby is born, they’ll only have 2-2.5 years left in them.

@Nerobyrne

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah if the aunt thinks they're right than she can take care of the baby ^^

@ECSDaemon

2 жыл бұрын

The fact that his sister thinks he's misogynistic for expecting his daughter and her husband to take responsibility of having a child is, not only extremely misogynistic but misandrist as well.

@thetruth1816

2 жыл бұрын

Sandra is incredibly toxic

@nicolethetford3095

2 жыл бұрын

@@ECSDaemon misandry isn’t a real issue, it’s viewpoint is denied by sociologists, anthropologists, and scholars of gender studies.

For the third story: going out clubbing and enjoying your life child free is a completely legitimate life decision. But if you choose to have a kid, the kid comes first. You don't get to have both. You don't get to have a full-time social life and raise a kid. You intentionally brought the kid into this world. It's your responsibility to give them the best life you can.

@derguenter6257

2 жыл бұрын

you can have both. you just have to pay a nanny tho

@WarsWorth

2 жыл бұрын

@@derguenter6257 I mean yeah if you're rich most rules don't apply to you

@wta1518

2 жыл бұрын

You can have both, but you have to pay up.

@animefan8591

2 жыл бұрын

Karen logic why pay when you can have family do it free

@MethuselahWinter

Жыл бұрын

I agree, have social life but the kid comes first.

"We all know how people like to eat at restaurants by themselves" Me listening to this video at a bar, by myself: Now wait just a goddamn second!

@aaronmccullers384

2 жыл бұрын

RSlash really just roasted a lot of his viewers XD

@RisingRevengeance

2 жыл бұрын

I think a bar is a bit different from a fancy restaurant. Not saying you can't go to a restaurant alone either, you do you.

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

@toadounetlovesyou

2 жыл бұрын

I felt attacked for sure xD I love doing that!!

@fabiang1821

2 жыл бұрын

Thats what I thought, I like going out for a good meal alone. Of course its nice to go with friends, but alone can be quite the pleasure too

It sounds to me like Sandra is volunteering to be a full time babysitter!

@kg5626

2 жыл бұрын

Sandra is nuts. Raising an infant hasn't gotten harder. She definitely wants to provide free child care

@_la.paola_

2 жыл бұрын

As someone whose name is Sandra, we don’t claim her.

@therealspeedwagon1451

2 жыл бұрын

@@kg5626 yeah. For some reason I feel like she’s some kind of radical feminist too.

@leemarjoram3187

2 жыл бұрын

I really don't want to be that guy but Sandra sounds like a toxic feminist

@stanleyyy427

2 жыл бұрын

@@therealspeedwagon1451 oh she definitely is. Nothing about that was “misogynistic.”

Maaan I'm decidedly child-free but hearing you talk about your family always makes me smile. You're a good dad, Dabney.

@Eros_is_calling

Жыл бұрын

Dadney

@someghosthunter

Жыл бұрын

​@@Eros_is_calling wait a god damn minute

@TheEDFLegacy

Жыл бұрын

​@@someghosthunterWait a goddamn hour.

@someghosthunter

Жыл бұрын

@@TheEDFLegacy wait a god damn day

@nightmareblade34

Жыл бұрын

Wait a god damn week.

I'm not disagreeing with RSlashs Judgement in the situation, but RSlash, how does the first husband get a 4/5 Ahole score for disrespecting his wife, but the second one only gets 3/5 for fundamentally neglecting his daughter, leaving her in a full diaper which can cause diseases without food?

@bdp4

2 жыл бұрын

he gave husband in story 1 a 4/5 for inviting a friend to join his birthday dinner, because apparently men and women can't be friends without cheating and husband must always do everything his possessive wife says.

@Scarlett.Granger

2 жыл бұрын

@@bdp4 are you stupid the "friend" asked the husband to not marry his wife and blow of the wedding because she had feelings for him and told him like one week before the wedding. Thats not possessive, or "men and women can't be friends" stuff, thats a legitimate reason to never see this person again. Still not as bad as child neglect.

@akl2k7

2 жыл бұрын

@@bdp4 Eh, this lady confessed her love to OP's husband and tried breaking up their marriage. That's not the kind of woman a married man should be friends with. If men want to be friends with women, there should be exactly as many romantic feelings as between them and their guy friends: absolutely none.

@mooncloud536

2 жыл бұрын

Right??? Second story deserved 5/5 buttholes. Child neglect is abuse.

@GoldenSunAlex

2 жыл бұрын

Rslash is incredibly biased in situations like this. He tends to rate men not following their wives every demands as being the same as child abusers.

I'm so happy about the couple in the 3rd story! They have SO MANY family members that thinks they should be helped with childcare! Can't wait for them to volunteer to take care of the child!!!

@moosecat

2 жыл бұрын

We all know they won't.

@LilDevyl17

2 жыл бұрын

Ah, yes! The countless Family Members that think that anyone BUT them should help with childcare! Honestly, it's the, "I totally believe this but I'm not going to practice what I preach!" The Family Members, "Do what I say not as I do!"

@moosecat

2 жыл бұрын

@@LilDevyl17 Sadly, it feels like those who "walk the talk" are becoming fewer and further between with every passing day. I was taught if you're not leading by example then you're not leading at all.

@ked49

2 жыл бұрын

@@moosecat yes and that’s sad

@Gus-n9u

Жыл бұрын

I’m all for helping family (if they actually are emotionally family to you) BUT FOUR FUCKING DAYS!!!! THATS LESS THINE THAN MY REAL FATHER GOT WITH ME A WEEK (split custody). That is literally more time than what legally constitutes partial custody!!!! Which is its own problem for another day.

"they expected me to watch the baby while they were working so they could have " fun time" while they weren't working." That doesn't sound like they want a sitter, that sounds like they want grampa to actually raise the baby and they get all the fun bits of parenting without having to do any of the hard stuff. Amanda's reaction sounds like she was raised very entitled.

@S_H9260

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Grandpa already raised his kids, fun time with the grandchildren is the reward. His daughter wants to skip parenting and go straight to Grandma.

@Tustin2121

2 жыл бұрын

I have to disagree with rSlash about how every culture since the beginning of time expected parents to raise their kids, because a lot of cultures in the past had a lot of people help in raising kids. I just learned the other day about the Hawaiian tradition of hānai, where kids would be given to / informally adopted by another person to raise; said person was maybe childless or even was the grandparents. That said, our modern culture expects the parents to be the primary guardians and upbringers of the child, so the couple in that story is in the wrong.

@MrsShocoTaco

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tustin2121 Agreed. "It takes a village" came from somewhere. The problem with these two was that they expected it without even discussing it with Grampa. What a couple of turds

@christopherendswell

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tustin2121 Couldn't agree more. For the vast majority of our history child rearing was a communal activity divided amongst the tribe. Often the elderly and older children would care for the young while the parents would be out foraging/hunting

@lissaw4

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tustin2121 even in current times, that's not the expectation or standard in every (or even most) societies and cultures. That's mostly western, Anglo-Saxon cultures. In reality, most cultures outside of this rely on multigenerational family structures and social circles to raise children. It's precisely where western culture has gotten the phrase “it takes a village to raise a child".

The last story makes me laugh with the Owner saying "Others have been complaining about this employe" and don't see what's the common denominator of those bad reviews.

Dude You sound like the literal best father ever Whenever you talk about children and it pretty much reduces me to tears You are the Internet father to all the children With fathers who left to get milk Respect

First story: NTA. Honestly, it doesn’t even matter if he was cheating or not. If my husband invited a woman who tried to convince him to ditch me for her RIGHT BEFORE OUR WEDDING without checking with me to make sure I’m comfortable with it, he’d either be sleeping on the couch or at a friend’s house for the next month.

@zoofan1015

2 жыл бұрын

He’s definitely cheating

@songohan3321

2 жыл бұрын

@@zoofan1015 Or just hilariously stupid.

@chevgage6210

2 жыл бұрын

No one but the husband can vouch she did that. It's more likely he's a narcissist trying to separate his next chain of supply from his current supply after she broke up with her boyfriend for a different reason and made that up knowing the wife would go scorched earth like that. Confrontation is really important to avoid manipulation.

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

@Mr.inspector997

2 жыл бұрын

the couch? nah he in the dog house

Last story: as a woman who's been challenged to prove her nerd cred so often that flaunting it has become a reflex, you were too kind to the misogynist employee.

@RiveroftheWither

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly same, it's not quite as common now but I've definitely been quizzed and grilled on games and anime, called an E-thot even though I don't make videos, told I support gamer gate when I don't and told I'm trying to ruin the hobby for men. Just by minding my own damn business in a comic shop and having a Celtic PlayStation tattoo

@thebosshouse

2 жыл бұрын

SAME! Those quizzes are so ridiculous. It's like my entire existence is only validated by my trivia knowledge. Incel logic. 😒

@marcelrobinson

2 жыл бұрын

Asking someone to prove their fandom has always been weird to me

@Mivdyr

2 жыл бұрын

why do they have to quiz and grill about it instead of just wholesome nerd talk, like if I see anyone (man, woman or other) having anything with something I enjoy, I would much rather talk and share favorites than quiz them about it. As quite a nerdy man, it shames me that those kind of people are real, why cant they be happy instead of gatekeeping.

@marcelrobinson

2 жыл бұрын

@@Mivdyr Because they view their hobbies as their identity and being a fan of something is somehow a personality trait.

1st story: It could be that the husband wanted to reintroduce Ava and reintegrate his old friend into his life. But he definitely kept contact with her against OPs wishes.

That third story got to me. This woman is 27! Your almost 30! I had an unplanned pregnancy at 18, I raised my baby on my own as a single mom and I wouldn't have changed that for anything, rslash is 100% on the money when he said watching your kids grow is the real joy in life. I'm now 23 with 2 awesome kids, while most people my age are going through collage and partying, I'm at home wiping butts and making a million snacks. I had lots of partying before I had my kids, and none of that even comes close to the joy and fun I have being a mom.

Last story: why is the owner surprised he got a bad review when the customer service employee is harassing and SWEARING at the customer. Like he's literally doing the polar opposite of his job and the owners shocked that people are complaining about bad service. Op is 1000% NTA

@stephenzygiel5266

2 жыл бұрын

To fire people without recourse you need some level of proof. If she won't email with him and give a name or description, he can be stuck under some labor laws. She kinda is the asshole for refusing to help the owner end it.

@vikkran401

2 жыл бұрын

@@stephenzygiel5266 The owner wasn't trying to end it. He was activity trying to justify his employee's behavior by threatening OP to take down the review and the reason he gave was that it negatively affects his employee's personal revenue and the overall revenue of the store. That's why he's upset, not because their customers are treated poorly

@PaveMentman

2 жыл бұрын

--- @@vikkran401 Not to mention this was one of the many similar consumer-complaint-reviews; this just happened to be the one ending-up and voted upon on the subreddit. ---

@DasSpaceAce

2 жыл бұрын

@@stephenzygiel5266 You vastly misunderstood the situation LOL The owner isn't "trying to end it" & he wasn't asking her for information about the employee. He knew which one of them it was because by his own admission in his email to her, he has *multiple* complaints about the guy from other customers too. He emailed her to demand that she take her review down because it's hurting his profits - i.e people aren't coming in & buying as much stuff because of that rude, misogynistic employee. He didn't say dick diddly in that email to her about terminating the employee, chastising the employee, needing more information to do either of those - No. He emailed her to whine that her review of his employee's shitty behavior is losing him money, can she delete her review so he can make money. Oh, & just a heads up, lotta places in the states are "no fault", meaning an employer doesn't need to have a reason to fire you.

@survivedandthriving

2 жыл бұрын

@@PaveMentman That was my thought - the fact that others complained about the same issue means that the manager apparently had no problem with his employee behaving in this way. So, he and the store deserved the ratings that they got.

Last story: so instead of firing the employee for being rude, sexes, and cursing at a customer because she wouldn't take it, he emailed you asking that you take down the review because it's bad for business? I think this employee is related to the owner, no business would go out their way to protect the employee that is sinking them for no reason. P.S I'm a female who loves Naruto, and I did not need help figuring out what it's all about inside and out

@RiveroftheWither

2 жыл бұрын

"I'M GONNA BE THE NEXT HOKAGE, BELIEVE IT!!!" Mystery solved 🤣

@michaelrobertson4896

2 жыл бұрын

Naruto is for everyone, believe it ya know!!!!

@mousem7071

2 жыл бұрын

Haven't seen Naruto but I'm in my 50s and have been a huge anime fan since the early 80s. That employee is an absolute ahole and should be dismissed. If it's family owner is protecting then he needs to school him on his rude behavior and make it right with OP.

Rslash has always been passionate about kids, but after his own kiddo's arrival, he's definitely gotten more passionate.

@Gus-n9u

Жыл бұрын

I’m super glad it changed his life and I understand how profound it is…… but he sometimes unintentionally comes off as having the “you’ll change your mind about kids” energy. IM AWARE THE LADY WAS ALREADY PRÈGÃNTÉ AND IS BERY MUCH THE ASSHOLE, but still, his big speech was pretty preachy. I work with abused children for a living and am not interested in having children cause I want to care for these kids… everyone is different, man.

@threecards333

14 күн бұрын

​@@Gus-n9uhis point was more that if one intentially bring a child into being then one is responsible for said child and dont plan to pressure someone else to take responsibilty.

First story: I like to go eat by myself at a nice restaurant. I feel a little attacked... That aside, it is suspicious that she showed up on his birthday and he then invited her to hang around.

@strawberrysoulforever8336

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I like going to restaurants on my own too. I read on my Kindle while I wait.

First story: as far as I'm concerned, Ava WAS "invited"; personally, I think it was the husband whodunnit. The fact OP's husband didn't seem to have a problem with OP giving up her seat to Ava until 2 hours later is quite telling.

@MyFiddlePlayer

2 жыл бұрын

I think both the wife and the friend have issues. What kind of person waits until the week before the wedding to try to talk one of the partners out of it? That train left the station a long time ago, and a real friend would not mention it because bringing it up is only going to wreck their friend's happiness. She only wanted him after she found out she couldn't have him? Seriously! The OP, though, should have stayed at the dinner to monitor the interaction. Remind him later in private that he broke their agreement about no longer interacting with the former friend. Making a scene to test the husband's loyalty was pretty poor form, and also counterproductive. He may well have been motivated to stay longer at the dinner just to prove that she doesn't have him on a chain. As for the husband, I'm having a hard time telling if he is just oblivious to how his wife is going to react when he unilaterally invites someone she doesn't care for to join them for dinner, or if he is a jerk who doesn't care. This is one of those "they all suck" stories.

@D64nz

2 жыл бұрын

Some parts of that story feel weird, but that last bit, if I show up to a restaurant, and I see one of my (not even an ex) ex's there having dinner, birthday or not, at most I'll give a polite nod of acknowledgement and then continue on to order. I'd never rock up and crash the date. They would have to come get me and drag me over to participate. Even then I'd keep it light and bright and excuse myself as soon as it's polite to do so. Sorry, I can't sit down. I have to attend the opening of my garage door. Toodles!

“It’s been a long time since he has seen her so she probably doesn’t have feelings for him anymore.” That confession was only five months ago! That’s not nearly enough time to be able to give Ava the benefit of the doubt, and OP has the right to be suspicious of husband’s invitation to eat with them.

@spydersoup8447

2 жыл бұрын

To think OP's husband actually thinks even with this short time, she's gotten over him.

@danieljoseph2617

2 жыл бұрын

Smells like an affair

@ronbo112

2 жыл бұрын

I must have missed it. Did they really say 5 months?

@spydersoup8447

2 жыл бұрын

@@ronbo112 OP said they've been married for 5 months.

@HowardDPVT

Жыл бұрын

I whole heartedly agree with "suspicious" but that by itself is not condemning.

"It's just a bunch of Ninjas fighting other Ninjas with Ninja magic" I have never been so offended from a truer statement than that lol

@RB-fg2sq

4 күн бұрын

Lol right? As an absolute naruto fanatic, same. 😂😂😂

Even if the guy in the second story absolutely _needed_ to stream and somehow couldn't hear his own baby crying because he was wearing headphones or something, it is not hard to set a reminder to go off every 20 minutes or so. Just set an alarm so he won't forget to check on his daughter, and if he tells his chat why he's walking out for a moment it might even gain him some 'good dad' points in their eyes. Rslash is completely right, family first, internet clout second.

First story: Definitely think it's option 2. Second story: there is no excuse for Op's husband to spend 4 hours on a live stream and not step away to care for his daughter. I know several streamers who have done the 24 hr ones and they wouldn't be at the screen. Third story: Op has no obligation to raise his grandchild. The torch of Parenthood always goes to the parents of the new born. I have been told by my mother she isn't a babysitter once my own kids are born and I respect that. Fourth story: keep that internet behavior ON the internet.

It's very telling about the OP's husband in the second story response was "You ruined my streaming career" over "Oh my god, I neglected my daughter." While I understand getting wrapped into things that time escapes you, I can't understand getting to the point of neglecting your own own child. I'm not a parent, but when I've watched my nieces and nephews, I 've always had the presence of mind of not getting too wrapped in my stuff to neglect them.

@Dudman83

2 жыл бұрын

That second story didn’t add up in my opinion. Yes if he didn’t look after the child the whole time op was out that’s neglect. But I believe that he probably did take care of the child and the baby had a nap and op is just completely blowing out the neglect statement as he found time to stream. Op sounds very controlling when she states about fitting it in to the schedule yet goes out grocery shopping for 4 hours and explains how she was concerned the whole time due to him just saying the baby is asleep. Why didn’t op go home sooner if she was that concerned. Why couldn’t op spend a couple hours shopping and let her partner stream for a couple of hours

@mattg9483

2 жыл бұрын

I would've given her a butthole score too for publicly embarrassing her husband. Yes, he was in the wrong, but it could've been handled more tactfully off camera. His butthole score was probably on point, but she deserves 1 or 2 buttholes too. With already 14,000 followers, it's possible he was gaining more and more each day, which could lead to more income. But now, it looks like he's a joke and a douchebag. It may have killed his career as a KZreadr. Also, it was never mentioned if he had been streaming the whole time or only a few minutes before she confronted him publicly. If he had been checking on his daughter up until shortly before his wife returned, he's not really a butthole. It's possible his daughter was sleeping every time he checked on her, and a few hours had passed, so he decided to start streaming knowing his wife would be home soon anyway. Hard to say with the info given of the situation.

@zacharyjackson1829

2 жыл бұрын

small details aside I believe the Husband is automatically in the wrong for putting himself in a closed office while probably wearing headphones while his baby was alone. Like dude, get small crib and put it in your office so the baby is near you f you want to stream so badly. I've seen plenty of dad streamers doing that. if anything that just brings more of a smile to my face because it tells me they are attentive while still doing the things they love. Also people love seeing babies on stream

@Dudman83

2 жыл бұрын

@@zacharyjackson1829 also keep in mind if the baby was in discomfort it would have been screaming and crying which would have made it very difficult to stream

@Dudman83

2 жыл бұрын

@@zacharyjackson1829 I don’t really believe they are small details. I do believe both parents shouldn’t be parents as both could do much better

First story: Definitely option two applies here. Usually people do not arrive by chance at a restaurant celebrating their love interest's birthday party unless they are invited by that person. Obviously the husband feels the same way about Ava as she feels about him. I wouldn't be surprised if there was an update sometime in the future where OP finds out that her husband has been having an affair with Ava.

@maagi1

2 жыл бұрын

If they did have affair, why would the husband risk it by inviting Ava there? That's exactly what he wouldn't do in that situation. So 2. option is the most unlikely one.

@TiffWaffles

Жыл бұрын

@@maagi1 You seem very naive, honestly.

@maagi1

Жыл бұрын

@@TiffWaffles Nah, either husband is stupid or it wasn't option two. Why would the husband be with his wife if he likes Ava? If it's only affair, and he doesn't want to leave his wife, then he wouldn't risk it by inviting Ava.

You gotta love how the third story daughter says"these are supposed to be the best years of my life." and nobody points to her "Didn't your father give up those 'best years of his life' raising YOU, and making it all about YOU!?" How can someone be so self absorbed. Her father took care of her for 18 years, then has to take care of her child for 18 years and then will probably ask her child to take care of her in her old days even though she never did for her dad...

Second story: “he misses his daughter.” HA! How do you miss someone you neglected and mistreated??? Also, how do you “forget” an entire human who HAD to be crying at some point- FOR FOUR FREAKING HOURS??? My bet is he doesn’t care about them. Maybe he wants OP for the money and live-in maid and the kid so he can show his followers that she’s okay and save his channel.

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

@shykorustotora

2 жыл бұрын

This story reminded me of the Korean couple who were so busy playing games for days on end, their baby starved to death in a pool of it's on waste. Yeah, and then he turned around and says "I miss my daughter." Being a parent doesn't mean you get to miss/care about your kids when it CONVENIENT

@annika5893

2 жыл бұрын

Good time parents do that. They don't want to take care of the mundane everyday things. They want to be the parent who does the "fun stuff" with their kid, a few hours every week when it happens to suit them. I know the type, I have a family member who is like that. Sometimes I had to pick up the slack on their behalf but usually it was the kid's grandparents. Like in the "you can babysit drandpa, I want to live my best youth" couple in that other story.

@mushroommagic1697

2 жыл бұрын

On point Because of situations like this, is the best to ask yourself. Well, am I really going to respect this commitment or am I doing this for the norm's sake, not to miss out and? A family is not a ride in the park, but a responsibility. Thanks to stories like this, I fully understood the responsibility of a family.

@Lambo800-4

2 жыл бұрын

He might of had 5,000 followers so him getting *exposed* is _a good thing_ !

The last story: I would actually add to my review that the owner tried to convince me to remove my review saying he has gotten complaints about that employee and its making him lose money. Like I'm sorry hut if you have a shop and an employee is creating bad experience for customers and making u lose money you fire them, not ask the customers to not mention it happened

@glennrishton5679

2 жыл бұрын

First to say the owner received complaints is meaningless, what were the complaints? Watching an older video of this type yesterday a customer made a complaint about the employees lack of eye contact. Not all complaints are truly actionable by an owner. Next OP did have a real complaint and should explain in detail for her benefit and the owners. Then remove the complaint when the employee is removed. The owner by reaching out to OP is trying to find sufficient first hand information to take corrective action.

@___________0Z0X

2 жыл бұрын

@@glennrishton5679 but the owner did not seem to do anything to the employee.

@agentmaryland1239

2 жыл бұрын

@@glennrishton5679 From my experience, Mom and Pop shops usually only hire friends or family, which means that it's likely there's only 1 or 2 people working there (especially since it sounds like it's just a little store). The owner likely knows their employee is a problem but won't do anything about them because any various reason that is probably not acceptable in the line of running a business.

@glennrishton5679

2 жыл бұрын

@@___________0Z0X Watch a few of these videos and one thing you'll see is that customers embellish and outright lie. An owner can not base actions on some review. There have been some previous stories on here about unjustified negative reviews too. My point was the owner f wanted a first hand account and that was denied. How would you react to being fired os disciplined on the basis of a review which may well be a lie.

@glennrishton5679

2 жыл бұрын

@@agentmaryland1239 Valid point and I cant disagree if that be the case. However I still feel OP should communicate with the owner in case the owner genuinely does not know the situation.

Ralash talking about his kid is the most wholesome thing, you can tell he adores her :))

3rd story: While I 100% agree with R/slash on his AH rating, I disagree with his belief that the “human experience” is getting married and having kids. The human experience is whatever you want it to be. But once you do have kids, you set aside your “fun time” because your child comes first.

@ConejitoPequenito

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I thought that too

@goofyrat2938

Жыл бұрын

I had the exact same thought! I get that he was super passionate for his family, but it’s not the life for everyone. Some people just don’t want children, and that’s also fine. If you do have children though, then you can still pursue your passions AND support your kid too. It’s not always an either or.

"It's a bunch of ninja fighting other ninja with ninja magic" Never before have I been so offended by something I 100% agree with

@kirastar4371

2 жыл бұрын

That was my very first reaction NINJA MAGIC" REALLY?

@1musamune

2 жыл бұрын

it's slightly more complex than that but only a little

As a feminist I’m rly struggling to see the “misogyny” in expecting the parents to step up and be parents. Someone explain the logic because I can’t find any

@Dondizle

2 жыл бұрын

The daughter's are just screeching their favourite word they've learned, because it makes them feel better about themselves when they get what they want, instead of taking on their responsibilities. ⭐Misogyny!⭐ Because dad won't sacrifice his well deserved free time running around after children he didn't choose to have, or have the energy for.

@bflat5274

2 жыл бұрын

The *only* thing I can piece together is that OP is male, so they're making the sexist argument because he's a guy refusing to do childcare, a traditionally feminine thing? But childcare being feminine isn't his reason for rejecting to help them. I think can be chalked up to misunderstanding, purposeful or accidental.

@mavisvioleta

2 жыл бұрын

Whatever men do in these times and it's against women's wishes is automatically "misogyny". 😒

@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement

2 жыл бұрын

@@mavisvioleta Which is, in truth, misandry.

@truthseeker9249

2 жыл бұрын

@@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement Agreed

Categorical best part of Rslash videos is listening to him be ridiculously excited about being a dad. Adorable. 10/10. Highly recommend

In the first story, I think that it could be a mixture of the first two options. Ava was told that she wouldn't be invited, but wouldn't be turned away if she showed up; and that lead her to stalking OP/the husband/their friends. That's my theory, anyways

The second story deserves more of a butthole score. He left his child unattended for FOUR HOURS! There’s so many things that could have happened to that child during that time. I’d give at MINIMUM a 4/5 score. It’s literally child neglect/abuse

@AzureKyle

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly, she could have walked in to a dead baby.

@mooncloud536

2 жыл бұрын

I agree I was miffed when I saw it was only 3/5 That is 100% child neglect, which *is* a form of abuse, and any kind of abuse deserves 5/5 buttholes RSlash had said it himself that he saves that for "like, child abusers", and didn't use it when faced with a child abuser. ((Edit: and this is coming from a guy

@bladeslayer72

2 жыл бұрын

Cant forget child endangerment which is an easy gateway to have your kid taken from you. Mans is irresponsible

@cathyheckman7415

2 жыл бұрын

Anybody else catch that mother went to the grocery store for FOUR4 HOURS. I cant imagine any grocery shopping that would take that long. Sounds like she was getting her “me time”! not saying the dad was right, just that Mom deserved maybe 1 or 2 buttholes.

@Drummerchef13

2 жыл бұрын

The worst part is that "he forgot" he was watching his kid... when op was calling and checking in... no excuses he get 5 out if 5

The husband in the second story is an AWFUL father. He couldve waited for his spouse to come back, but he just HAD to be a neglectful douche. That is CHILD ABUSE.

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

@Nerobyrne

2 жыл бұрын

not to mention I've seen a streamer audience that would ditch you for taking a break to take care of your baby.

@fdm2155

2 жыл бұрын

Here's the thing, if the child was sleeping, he could have easily jumped online and done a livestream. It's not like he needed to sit with the child while she slept. The problem is he apparently spent HOURS livestreaming and didn't even bother to check on the child. WTF?

@DragoNugget

2 жыл бұрын

@@fdm2155 thats the thing, yeah. The best option wouldve been to take the baby inside the room where he was streaming so he could watch his kid while also not taking the audiences time to go to another room to check on the child.

@Playingwithproxies

2 жыл бұрын

I laughed when he said 14thousand subscribers like yeah so it’s not important at all and his fan base should leave him for being a shit human being and shitty parent. If he had over a million subscribers then hire someone to watch your baby but 14000 is nothing.

Story 2: This isn't just a "I forgot to do a few chores" scenario. OP is totally justifiable here.

For the third story I agree that OP is NTA but I very much disagree on your point that having kids is “the human experience” because you can have a very fulfilling life without having kids

third story: the guy could have easily told anyone watching "hey give me a second I gotta go check on my baby to see if she needs anything" and people usually will understand and be cool with it

Man the third story annoys me, my girlfriend’s older brother had a kid with a deadbeat woman so now he’s moved back home with a 6 month old as a single dad. The problem comes when he completely depends on his mom to do 90% of the childcare when she also still has a full time job. He’s also assumed me and my girlfriend will watch this baby for free just because we’re “family”. We did watch the baby for a few days a week for a whole £20 a day between us from the grandma, the dad refused to give us anything. He does the absolute minimum with the baby, somehow doesn’t even wake up when she screams in the night and the rest of the house wakes up. This has just turned into a rant because of how annoyed it makes me oops

@wmdkitty

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like your girlfriend's brother is a deadbeat, too.

@rosewolf5020

2 жыл бұрын

My brother did the same and all that I can say is that is one of the reasons that I moved 8 hours away

I love when rslash talks about his wife and kid. He is such a good husband/dad and clearly loves his girls so much

I've heard the second story before, and some of the commenters made a very valid point - who takes 4 HOURS to go shopping? Especially with a baby at home? Does it seem fair that the wife gets *4 hours* of baby free time (which is HUGE), but the dad's need for a mental health break is still something to be negotiated one day in the future? This might be a case of only getting half the story. I can't help but wonder how the husband would tell it.

@OmniscientWarrior

2 жыл бұрын

True. Even though she is getting some time to reprieve, the father can't just ignore the child so he can stream. Besides, people love babies and understand if needed to step away to change her. There is a lot that can be done to incorporate some of the stuff into the streams, like feeding, and can even set up a pin nearby for her to do her thing and you still do your thing. Both parents should make time for the other to have the kids so one of them can decompress. Like it isn't too hard to shop with a baby in tow. So the father is more so at fault in this instance but the mother is no saint in this either.

@markyoung1148

2 жыл бұрын

@@OmniscientWarrior but the only evidence of him ignoring the baby is her saying he did. How long had the baby been awake? It wasn't crying because if it was she would have said so. My kids used to wake up and play in their cribs just fine. And a 4 hour diaper... after a nap? Is not that big of a deal. We need the father's side of this story. I'm willing to bet he checked on the baby a few times and it was still asleep and he was like well, why not use this nap time to get some streaming done. And as long as he didn't ignore a crying baby, no harm no foul in my opinion.

@ConejitoPequenito

2 жыл бұрын

All the comments are just speculating. 4h could be legitimate, depending on what had to be bought, but it could also have been an excuse for downtime, we just can't know

@markyoung1148

2 жыл бұрын

@@ConejitoPequenito the only way 4 hours grocery shopping, grocery shopping, is legitimate is if the grocery store is an hour away, or she's never shopped for groceries before. If she has said 4 hours shopping you get an instant pass. But since she specified groceries, it seems odd.

@AuntieCreed

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what my husband pointed out when we were listening together. Who takes 4 hours to grocery shop? Unless they live in a rural area where the grocery store is over 30 mins away, I just don't understand how it took her that long. He'd asked for time to stream, if he really wanted to stream that bad, he could have put the baby in the room with him or something. I think they're both a-holes actually.

I just had to say, it would have been hilarious if after the second story Mrs rSlash busted in and got into an argument about leaving the toillet seat up or some non-consequential things that everyone might understand is a joke just to prove the point that yeah life comes first online second

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

@srtatropicalia

2 жыл бұрын

Omg that would be hilarious!!

You gushing over your little girls sing bye-bye is like the cutest thing ever. With wife's permission because it's a two-way street is there any way you can have your little one say bye-bye to us at the end of a video one of these days?

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

@Nixie3545

2 жыл бұрын

@@SuperNoobGaspirilla 🍌

@fernandoscheibler7004

2 жыл бұрын

This is the best idea any of his followers has ever had. We do love Yugo, he's cute and all, but having his daughter say bye-bye to us would make me ALWAYS watch the video until the end.

@Nixie3545

2 жыл бұрын

@@fernandoscheibler7004 i dont really like the revege/compliance vids, but if she said bye bye in those, id watch and like JUST FOR THAT! I Wouldnt skip either!❤

@AngelWingsTVdavcs

2 жыл бұрын

Boost this!

rSlash is such a dad, and I’m living for it. Don’t want kids myself but goddamn is it wonderful to see good parents like this ❤ Gives me hope for humanity

I love when you talk about being a dad and give Lilly updates. I'm so happy to hear things are going so well for you and your family.

rSlash, you’re allowed to be passionate about bad parents, and honestly I’m here for it. You often give a voice for abused kids, as as a child abuser survivor that left me with PTSD and permanent nerve damage, I absolutely love that you’re passionate about bad parents. If I had a parent even just half as loving as you, I’d have been much happier in childhood, your daughter is a very lucky wee girl having you for a dad. Never apologise !

Second story: That man can NEVER be responsible for taking care of his daughter again. He doesn't get to be a father anymore

@thenorthwillow1536

2 жыл бұрын

@@sierrapate1899 can you share a link?

@staceycastle2233

2 жыл бұрын

yeah i think RSlash gave too lenient a butthole rating. The 'dad' in the second story was a 10/5 butthole for sure.

@mooncloud536

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Child neglect is and always will be abuse. Abusers don't deserve family /srs Maybe if he were to understand what he did wrong, and change, *maybe* his partner might be justified in going back to him, but he should *never* be left alone with his child again.

@markyoung1148

2 жыл бұрын

Oh please! What did he do that was that bad?

@yat282

2 жыл бұрын

@@markyoung1148 If his wife had been gone longer, she'd probably have come home to a dying or dead baby. They need to eat constantly, every few of hours. Imagine if he was put in charge of her for a full day. The wife can never trust him to do that

If OP worded her review that "One of the employees will call you a b!tch" and the owner claims "More people are complaining about THAT employee" that tells me the owner knows who the employee is and that he's a problem. Now if OP DESCRIBED the employee in the review, that's another story entirely.

My husband chose live streaming over taking care of our kid: "he started blaming me for ignoring his needs" *proceeds to ignore his daughter's needs*

This is in reference to the birthday dinner one. At this point it doesn't matter if he's cheating or not. When he stayed for two hours instead of leaving with his wife he chose the other woman. That was it.

The husband in the second story clearly doesn’t want to be a dad. just imagine if the baby was sick and she ended up not surviving because Daddy was too busy streaming. I’d have kicked the husband out and told him to go stream in his mommy‘s basement.

@linda-0587

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@linda-0587

2 жыл бұрын

Though I’d also divorce him right away

@morgandouglas6014

2 жыл бұрын

@@linda-0587 I would have divorced him as well. Kicking him out and making him go do live streaming in his mommy’s basement would be a clue to him that divorce is on the table long term.

@teparadox

2 жыл бұрын

4 hours for 2 people??? Nah fuck that. He did a shitty thing, but sounds like a toxic fucking relationship

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

I love how rslash basically loses his mind trying to think if parents should act like parents. 😂😂😂

"Our lives shouldn't be all about the baby!" Uhhhhhh, then you REALLY shouldn't be having a baby.

Story 2: grocery shopping...for FOUR hours? That sounds sus as hell. Even when I lived an hour from the nearest grocery store I wasn't gone that long. And they can never find ANY time for him to livestream weekly? That said...he let his daughter sit for HOURS with no attention, care, or food. That isn't just embarrassing. That's abusive...

First story: Quote Garak "I beleive in coincidence, but I don't trust in coincidence." Absolutely option 2 and NTA. Third story: Grandpa doesn't owe his daughter free labor. If Sandra thinks the daughter is owed she can care for the kid herself. (That said, life is not defined by having kids, yuck)

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

@pharynx007

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it was a little annoying that rslash said that was *the* human experience. No my dude, human experience is living life however they want to. Whether single, or married with no kids, or popping out crotch goblins. But yes, the grandpa is nta, and if his daughter wants to enjoy her youth, she shouldn't have that kid. Plenty of people wait til later in life to have kids.

@LizzieourWorld

2 жыл бұрын

@@pharynx007 I think RSlash means it is for the people who choose to have kids to love - but it’s definitely not just “it” for them either

First story: as a single person I do like to go eat out alone, I have no one to go with, why should I just miss out on that? I agree it's shady af what Ava did, but please don't throw single people under the bus and further stigmatize going out to eat alone because that in itself is suspicious. That's not the suspicious part, it's that she showed up at the same time as them and immediately went to their table rather than be seated at her own table.

@YUN6_V3NUZ

Жыл бұрын

exactly what i was thinking, but unfortunately R/slash probably couldn't ever relate considering he has a wife and a child. he probably just sees single people as sad, lonely hermits with nobody to love 💔 smfh

@topaz9655

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I cocked my eyebrow when he assumed single people don't ever eat out alone. When I was single, I treated myself to a very nice Japanese restaurant. I was by myself, a few people were looking at me like "wtf" but I enjoyed being in a nice atmosphere by myself after working my ass off for a long while. Now I have a kid with another one on the way and look forward to going out with my family, but I will never think it's weird that someone dines out alone

@krystencabbage1032

Жыл бұрын

@@topaz9655 There's a nice Chinese restaurant that I like to go to occasionally because it's in walking distance, but I feel like I have to bring a friend with me because they tend to forget I'm there if I'm alone, I feel like maybe if it was more normalized to eat out alone, they wouldn't forget me when there's only one or two other tables there.

@topaz9655

Жыл бұрын

@@krystencabbage1032 that's odd I never got that kind of treatment on the many times I went out alone. Sounds like poor service. Have u tried talking to a manager about the issue?

@krystencabbage1032

Жыл бұрын

@@topaz9655 No, I don't want to cause problems for the servers or get them in trouble, their jobs are hard enough, I'm sure it's just a mistake, they're used to couples or groups, so I'm off their radar when I'm not a couple or group.

The 2nd story is really doing good to promote mgtow for men. She will find some time for him to stream in the next week and then goes shopping for 4+ hours and only cuts the spree short when she got a feeling about the baby. I wonder just how long she would've been "shopping" that day then...

I absolutely love having no doubt that you're an amazing parent, Rslash. It's great to hear you talk so passionately about how it is to raise a kid.

Last story: this is why all fans get put under the same umbrella of being called toxic and sexist because of douchebags like this employee because a very vocal minority constantly does stuff like this and gets away with it because we as a whole don't call them out like this op did

@RiveroftheWither

2 жыл бұрын

It's not so much that no one is calling them out, it's that people like the owner defend them or mask what they say. Talk to any woman or even LGBT+ person whose super into geek culture or any kind and they have a story about shutting down a person like this. The real problem is then even more people like him come out of the wood works and start harassing the one that called out the behavior or half heartedly defend what they said.

@michaelrobertson4896

2 жыл бұрын

@@RiveroftheWither your right. I’m a guy and I’ve heard plenty of stories exactly like what you described. It pisses me off to no end that these a-holes all gang up on people for calling them out on their toxicity. If a girl wants to enjoy an anime then she should be welcomed to do so, if a trans person wants to enjoy the fantasy of Harry Potter then they should go for it, if a gay man wants to Cosplay as a Jedi then he should do it. Fandoms are for ALL people, no exceptions.

@mriddley

2 жыл бұрын

@@michaelrobertson4896 and that's what these gatekeeping "fans" don't seem to get this is for everyone we ALL have the right to enjoy Trigun or cowboy bebop we all should have the right to cosplay as the batman or recite the litany against fear from dune I'm honestly sick of these people and their enablers thinking they can speak for all of us they do not and they need to learn to shut the hell up

@xNeariax

2 жыл бұрын

@@RiveroftheWither Sadly true. Crap like this is exactly why most of the girls in my friend group (we're all gamers) don't let on we're women in online games if there's people we don't know around. It's just a sure fire way to draw out the creeps and either leads to a) misogonystic shitstorms or b) uninvited advances. You'd think we'd be over that in this day and age, but unfortunately we're far from it. It even happens in the comment section sometimes. I was asked - in a "clearly looking for an argument" way - if I was gay just the other day after mentioning "he, my partner" in a comment. Because... apparently women aren't allowed on the internet at all anymore now and I couldn't possibly be one?! XD

Story 3 - how has parenting gotten harder? if OP's daughter won't even parent her own baby I don't think OP is relying on her for elderly care. I'd check myself into nursing home care rather than rely on her.

@Freezinggreece2

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly the only way parenting could be harder than in the past would be due to inflation making evetrhing stupid to get

@bellapham1140

2 жыл бұрын

A lot more households have two working parents instead of just one working parent which makes childcare a lot more difficult. Cost of living has also skyrocketed in more urban areas as well. Socially also, the amount of involvement in a child’s life expected from a parent is higher than in previous generations and also spans for a longer period (caring for your child till they turn 18 as a social norm vs till they graduate college). Paying for a child’s college education has also become expected of parents, and more children are going to college. All in all, parenting has somewhat become more difficult because of increasing costs, a changing social landscape, and an expanding definition of what it means to be a parent. That being said it’s still so wrong of story 3 to expect their parents to take care of their kid 24/7 so they can “have fun”

"It's a bucnh of Ninjas fighting other Ninjas with ninja magic" is a hilarious way to describe Naruto

As an anime nerd myself, I'm glad no one's tried to make me prove my nerd cred, as much as I would for certain media. I can tell you the lore of Genshin Impact or Harry Potter, but I don't know everything for The Legend of Zelda and I still enjoy the games.

Third story: I don't understand how it's misogynistic to expect a woman to care for her child.

@MsAnonymous1981

2 жыл бұрын

Not going to lie, this made me LoL

@kudoro1357

2 жыл бұрын

It's not even that, it's expecting a woman and a man, the parents, to care for their own child

@briannad9155

2 жыл бұрын

The thing is, I can understand OP’s daughter wanting/ask him to watch their kid occasionally so they can go out and have “adult fun time” but not every day.

@Robin93k

2 жыл бұрын

Some women, enjoy playing the victim card, and consider every disagreement with a men to be misogynistic on their part. They don't want to take any kind of responsibility, so it MUST be misogyny... Because women are always only the victims, because men are always stonger, PEROID. And when these women meet up online, they call themselves feminists, because they somewhere read that feminists are the opposition of misogyny.... And the white knights, will happily stregnthen their image of a helpless princess, in order to make themselves look like knights in shining armor... And these Women and Men are the reason why equality is impossible to achieve.

Story 4: I see this behavior online a LOT. Who cares if someone is a "True Fan" or something along the lines of that? Just let people enjoy their stuff in peace!

@vikkran401

2 жыл бұрын

Anime gatekeepers are by far the worse. To them you can't call yourself an anime fan if you haven't seen every single anime in existance and also watch it not dubbed. On top of that you need to know the lore about all the shows when really most anime shows aren't that deep.

@franl155

2 жыл бұрын

It's like someone wearing a t-shirt with the rock band Queen and getting a third degree on Queen's entire back catalogue to prove you're a "real fan". It's a bloody t-shirt, not a statement of undying fealty.

@shanelbryant5638

2 жыл бұрын

While I’m super into lore, I know a lot of people aren’t and that’s okay! But when someone has THREE naruto tattoos that’s an obvious sign to anyone who’s watched the series that this is peak fan level.

@darkaoshi27

2 жыл бұрын

I'll admit. I'm kind of like this. But on a different perspective. When it comes to stuff I know a lot of, say Halo or Rurouni Kenshin or Silverchair, I don't condescend people for not knowing as much as me. Instead, I explain more to them. I figured if they like it, I should share the information not keep it to myself. Anyways, I'm just weird.

@Kyubinooni

2 жыл бұрын

Only issue I have is Rslash saying Naruto ain't that deep. In all seriousness I enjoy explaining and talking about anime with those that wanna listen, I get butt hurt when someone who bashes it takes things from it cause its popularity in pop culture at the time. I wouldn't cuss them or anything, just keep it to myself and silently judge them. 😀

A 25 and 27 year old married couple can’t be bothered to use effective birth control?! Oh wait, no-they intentionally got pregnant and expected to not change their carefree lifestyle!! These people should not be parents with that kind of decision making. Maybe give the child up to some loving family who want and are capable of parenting…? Just wow.

First story: 4th option… OP’s husband is secretly cheating with her and is trying to show everyone that there’s no ill will between them. So yeah, still NTA

Tell Sandra, if she’s so inclined, she can be the new babysitter then. You’re retired years are for relaxing, not changing nappies.

There's nothing wrong with eating by yourself at a restaurant, though Ava was definitely not there by coincidence. Its definitely option 2. Gotta love "parents" that don't realize that having a child is a MASSIVE RESPONSIBILITY!!!!!!

Okay this is random but I was having a horrible day but hearing rslash be super wholesome and talking about his kid improved my day a bit lol

I find it sweet when rSlash talks about his family and hearing him say that his baby started saying "bye-bye" IS THE CUTEST THING AAA

2nd story: Wasn’t there a KZreadr who started another channel, but had to quit it, because he is a dad now? This guy knew what his priorities were.

@OmniscientWarrior

2 жыл бұрын

There are a lot of those. Some try to come back, many never do. There are even many that put in the extra effort to still care for the kid and make what content they can when they can; and you can see they suffer though it, but after 3 years, it gets easier and can be worth it. Not everyone call pull off this type of work and parent at the same time. But we must do what works best for our children first.

I think someone in their friends group tipped Ava off. I also think the husband secretly enjoys the thought that Ava wants him. For the second story... the husband was live streaming for FOUR HOURS and couldn't take 20 minutes to check on his daughter? For the third story, the daughter and her husband are crazy for thinking OP is going to spend his retirement providing free daycare for 5 years. LOL

1st story: It's more likely he invited her, because he offered her to stay and only came home 2 hours later. Huge red flag!

Grandpa doesn’t want to raise his granddaughter: Before getting pregnant kids should have checked with Grandpa to see if he was willing. Make stupid decisions, live with unhappy consequences.

For the first story, I’d just like to point out that he likely didn’t invite her to the restaurant. I’m guessing she knew it was his birthday and where his favorite place to eat was. She probably went there for that exact reason. I don’t think he was cheating, but he probably should have made sure it was okay before she sat down

@jhariii

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with this the most really it’s the most logical, he invited her cuz I mean they were friends for years and ya know I believe he was just having a good birthday

@avashnea

2 жыл бұрын

@@jhariii Them being friends means nothing if her being there makes his WIFE uncomfortable. His wife's feeling come before his ex- friends.

@CidVeldoril

2 жыл бұрын

@@avashnea If something like this happened here in Germany, he would have been considered SUPREMELY rude if he did not invite her to sit with them. This is one of the most major faux pas you could do here, even if someone was just someone you knew from work.

@jhariii

2 жыл бұрын

@@avashnea she showed up she wasn’t invited if she trusted her new husband it shouldn’t be a problem she woulda been there the whole time to watch they were friends for years and he gave that up for his wife. She showed up he missed his long life friend and wanted to enjoy his birthday

@avashnea

2 жыл бұрын

@@jhariii 'She wasn't invited' according to the husband who invited her to sit with them. Who CARES if they missed each other? She crossed the line when she tried to talk him out of getting married and that should have been the end of the friendship for him.

Husband: "Yeah, Ava is crazy." Also Husband: "Wanna join us for dinner?" OP: **Gets Upset** Also also husband: *"I WAs JuST TRyINg tO bE NiCe!!!"*

@SweATZ87

2 жыл бұрын

I mean people change she could have changed he doesnt have to cut off people for ever

@Threadnaught

2 жыл бұрын

@@SweATZ87 There is no forgiveness here also if you are male and any abuse of you can be painted as being humourous for your abusers or "deserved", then both rSlash and its clapping seals will cheer it on and suggest ways in which to make it worse.

@SweATZ87

2 жыл бұрын

@@Threadnaught Look the wife left and actually did ruin his birthday Rslash jumped strait to hes not innocent at all either he planned this or cheated no it could be a coincidence OP is being childish because she left because a person she doesnt like showed up she needs to grow the fuck up she ain't ready for marriage if you think I'll drop a life long friend for a mistake they can grow from

My god this has been the best video you made yet. I bursted out laughing multiple times. You nailed the premise of Naruto perfectly. "A bunch of ninjas fighting other ninjas with ninja magic" best sentence ever

To the anime story: No, absolutely don't take down the review. I am cis-female and would absolutely be happy to see a comment like that to avoid headaches since I only like a few anime and being quizzed makes me anxious. I wouldn't spend my money at a place like that. This is literally what reviews are for. Also, I don't want to comment on the parents story because I disagree that "having kids and a marriage is what life is about" because due to both lack of desire and medical issues I won't be having children and kind of hate it when my life and goals are then trivialized so badly.

The last story: If the owner is ok with am employee treating a customer so rudely, then I have to think he agrees with that employee. Otherwise he would fire him, right?

Last story, small hobby shops are like this a ton. There's one nearby with an employee similar to this. Multiple reviews calling him out, and he still works there three years later.

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

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@Patrick-zj4qz

2 жыл бұрын

Ok.

One issue I'm currently having is that you said "part of the human experience is falling in love and raising a kid". But that lifestyle isn't for everyone. I'm not justifying the woman who wants to shove her kid off onto her father. I'm saying that not everyone is most fulfilled and happiest from raising a child. For some, that would be a nightmare. Please don't say that the woman is missing out on life for not wanting to raise a child, because that isn't the only purpose or the only good thing in life.

Hearing story #3 again. I find it funny that his daughter said “Don’t be surprised when I put you in a home..” at the rate you’re going, honey. Don’t be surprised if your future child goes full NC. My mother used to joke about how she better treat me well or else I would put her in a crappy home. Jokes on her… she destroyed my life so bad… not only is none of her children talking to her… but no one is putting her in a home. That is her future. I will never forget my mom said the same thing after she had her youngest child. “I’m going clubbing because it’s MY time now..” and at the age of 23, I told her that her time will begin when the youngest is 18. She wasted an opportunity to finally be able to have a life simply because she is a narcissist and has children so that they will worship her (her words not mine). I feel so so sorry for their future children if that is the mentality of her parents. Also quick question who parties that much at 27? Or 25? I can see going out once in a while but it kinda sounds like they party every night.

For the second story with the livestreaming husband: it is very easy for him to have just set an alarm or something to go off now and then to remind him to take care of their baby. He could have very easily told the people watching him, "Hey guys, I need to change my baby's diaper/feed my baby real quick. I'll be right back." Most people would've been understanding and let him do that and waited. But noOoOOooOooo he didn't do that. My guess is that livestreaming in his mind is a me-time, no-responsibilities time, and he is definitely being such a man child. Edit: also, he was also very well aware that people wouldn't take lightly to a neglectful father- then he shouldn't have been one in the first place!

@markyoung1148

2 жыл бұрын

Nap time at that age can last for 4 hours. Let the sleeping baby lie. We don't have enough of the story to know he was actually neglectful.

First story: Option 3. I'm one of those people that absolutely loves to eat alone. Like take a book and eat somewhere fancy...or just somewhere good. I go to the local Mexican restraint alone all the time. I've also run into people i know more than a dozen times. Just because it's not something you experience doesn't mean it's nearly impossible...especially in a small town.

@leomatomulto8766

2 жыл бұрын

i cant believe i need to scroll so much to get to this comment for me no one sucks here men can really be dumb about this things OP did ruin his husband birthday party but its justified it's possible that OP's husband is just dumb and think that kind of obsession can move on in just 5 months for me everyone is innocent until proven otherwise it's a birthday party with friends and family of course youll just stay imagine inviting people and ditching them the only asshole here is ava because if youre a decent person youll just refused the offer

Expecting a monthly date night for 2-3 hours is one thing (even then you should ask, not assume), but expecting someone to raise your kid for you is another kettle of fish altogether.

If OP's sister thinks OP should commit to babysitting 4 out of 5 days, SHE can do it.

I remember reading that second story on Reddit and thinking “damn I hope RSlash covers this one” lmfao

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

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@horseluver4ever623

2 жыл бұрын

@@SuperNoobGaspirilla 🍌

Last story: How is that store owner not getting in the face of his employee about store values, customer service and general decency? Are they the same guy?

@victoriagarcia3078

2 жыл бұрын

The way it sounded in the story made me think the employee was someone close to the owner, either a friend or family member, and that was why the owner was trying to sweep the employee’s behavior towards customers under the rug.

@michaelrobertson4896

2 жыл бұрын

I suspect that the a-hole is probably related to the owner somehow. That’s the only reason I can think of that he wasn’t immediately fired. Any other employee would have been fired for that kind of behavior unless the owner was equally as toxic and encourages that behavior in which case that place will soon get a bad reputation and business will ultimately tank. Something tells me that place won’t be open for very long before they’ll have to either fire the a-hole which is unlikely or they’ll have to close because of no customers, because no one will want to buy from a bunch of misogynistic idiots.

For the first story. I love going out to eat by myself, so dont say that no one goes out to eat by themselves. But I agree with everything else

In the second story, the husband sucks for leaving the daughter unattended for so long. But what I don't get, why did the wife go grocery shopping for FOUR hours? She was obviously able to leave immediately when she felt something was off. It sounds to me like she wanted a day out and left the husband to watch the child, and then got mad at the husband for doing the same. I'd say everyone sucks here.

First Story, NTA: Oh yeah it is really obvious OP’s husband is cheating. What are the odds that Ava came to the exact same restaurant they were in. That is do sus. Also it is even more sus when OP’s husband asked her to join them in dinner. Even if it isn’t cheating, inviting someone who tried to ruin the marriage to dinner is insane Second Story, NTA: Wow this guy is not a really good father. He is really neglectful. God forbid something happens while he is streaming. There is no excuse for neglecting your kids Third Story, NTA: I would’ve laughed in Amanda’s face. If they wanted to continue to have fun why did they want to get pregnant? How is it misogynistic? They are parents they need to raise their own kid Fourth Story, NTA: Imagine trying to gatekeep Naurto. Bruh, women are deep Naruto and anime fans just as much as anyone else. See if I was that guy, I wouldn’t act how he acted; I would’ve had convos about the anime and ask questions (i.e what’s ur favorite character? What’s ur favorite story arc? Etc) because I’d always want to talk about anime with a fellow anime nerd. The guy is a douche and the owner is a douche for hiring that douche

@Jamalfarmboy

2 жыл бұрын

Off topic but y’all need to let among us die just stop saying sus

@xKCAZxLEADER

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jamalfarmboy lmao I said “sus” before Among Us so idk what u are talking about 😂😂😂

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

Banana

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jamalfarmboy banana

@ramenbomberdeluxe4958

2 жыл бұрын

Naruto treats women bad enough in its as is, we don’t need gatekeepers making things more horrible. But in all seriousness, this comment is a generally good take. I agree

When my oldest was an infant, my aunt agreed to become her babysitter while my husband and I were at work. She offered to do this, and I paid her for her time. If she hadn’t offered, I would have found another sitter or daycare.

My father had this lady friend while married to my first stepmother (and his fifth wife) that would always pop up "unexpectedly". He constantly told me and my younger brother not to mention to our stepmom that we'd seen her. It was all very awkward and uncomfortable that he made us accomplices in his cheating. He never admitted to cheating on our stepmom with this woman, although I did catch them making out once, which made me devastated, but he told us that he had an affair about thirteen months before our stepmom had had enough and filed for divorce. He married my stepmom eleven days after the divorce from my mother was final, in 1999, and the marriage lasted until 2011. Let's not forget the fact that he cheated on my mom with her...

Regarding the 3rd story, my Step-mum and dad ended up having to move as they were constantly having to drive ~50 miles each way to pick him up when they'd had enough, my Dad is not happy about this, primarily as they have left a two bed bungalow with a large garden to live in a 1 bed flat (though they are on the ground floor and there is only one floor above them) on the outskirts of a city.

Last story: something similar happened to me when I walked into a comic book store. I really love graphic novels and there was a comic book shop near where my school is so I decided to drop on by to see if they had any new graphic novels I haven't read yet. Let me tell you it was very very unwelcoming. I was stared at, glared at and no one spoke to me or offered help who worked there. (It's a very small store too so they definitely knew I was there.) It was just very uncomfortable and I was there for maybe 5 minutes before I left. I know it's not as bad as what OP went through but it was definitely a situation where I was made to feel inferior/uncomfortable/unwelcome in a male dominated hobby.

@Yendor1224

2 жыл бұрын

Best case: They have a female working in the store. They don't pull this stunds because they had been treated the same way and they often are extremely competent because they have to deal with the neck all the time.

@Nerobyrne

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah gee wonder why so few women are into comics -.-

@Threadnaught

2 жыл бұрын

@@Nerobyrne Comics are a visual medium where the story is told via text and illustrations. Out of all of the women I know, the ones who are into comics either grew up as tomboys or have more masculine personalities. My own sister is into the MCU and Witcher series, she has read a Black Widow novel and plans to read the entire Witcher series of books. I offer the ability to experience some different stories via a comicbook or the Witcher game series and she turns me down on both as she prefers to either just watch it or to only have the pictures be in her head. She even balks at the price of commissioning an artist for a custom piece, as her argument is literally "You can get something vaguely similar from Brand store, cheaper as a print". Almost all of the artists I follow are women and they're in my eyes, the best artists I could find. However, the women I know who aren't artists have no appreciation for what it takes to create art as a profession.

First story: Option 2. There's no way he stayed out for 2 hours without contacting his obviously upset wife if this was all unplanned.

@SuperNoobGaspirilla

2 жыл бұрын

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@TheWeaponshold

2 жыл бұрын

He was out and a planned dinner with FAMILY AND FRIENDS. He did not just stay out with Ava...

the human experience REALLY isn't about having a kid. You are not worthless or missing out if you do not have children. BUT, if you do decide that you want to have a kid, it should definitely be your priority, whether you like it or not

I would disagree that "having a family and raising a child" is the best years of your life and the human experience. Some people may find the best years of their life in a club, or doing other things that don't involve having kids, or even a partner, at all. However, I will say that if you are going to have a child, you need to be committed to having that child. That means all the responsibilities that come with it. Some people are not cut out for that, and that's ok, but they can't just go have a child and then just pass it off on someone else like some kind of trophy pet.