Granny knew what she was doing when she gave OP the house. I doubt that the Grandma was unaware of the cousin’s situation. She gave the house to the person she thought deserved it.

@kingkillerx4893

2 жыл бұрын

It also says that no one helped but him so he deserved the house then those butt holes

@annika5893

2 жыл бұрын

I have a feeling that the rest of the family don't know what OP did for his grandma though. Or they've conveniently forgotten about it.

@mrn234

2 жыл бұрын

My wild guess is Grandma set it up and had a plan on giving the house to someone who helped her.

@Lilith-Rose

2 жыл бұрын

Without op there would have been no house to give.. so of course they deserve to get the house

@ben10mama

2 жыл бұрын

I will say I think OP could have rented like two rooms to his cousin as a compromise

First Story, NTA: Imagine demanding for someone's house because they have kids. Having kids is no excuse to try to demand a house for free. OP's grandma gave him the house, no one else did. OP is selfless not selfish Second Story, NTA: The death of a loved one is not something u should joke around with. Never make someone guess which family member died. OP's husband is horrible for trying to make OP guess who died Third Story, NTA: Soooo in the budgeting story, we going to skip over the fact that the niece got engaged after 4 months of dating???? Anyway, all OP did was help their niece succeed in life and make better choices; especially since she was rushing into a marriage after 4 months of dating. But hey, at least OP exposed his niece for being a gold digger Fourth Story, NTA: OP's boyfriend is just being lazy and is trying to make OP his free maid. I would’ve done the same thing honestly. If he want to pretend to he dumb about chores then he has to suffer the consequences Fifth Story, YTA: First off, the cake didn’t belong to OP in the first place so she ate something that didn’t belong to her. Second, being pregnant doesn’t makes u entitled to eat whatever u want nor do whatever u want. Third, it IS disrespectful because the birthday girl should always get the first slice. OP doesn’t have impulse control. If OP wanted something sweet she could’ve got something sweet herself

@TheRuneTail

2 жыл бұрын

Course just like how everyone skips the fact that she dumped him cause he can't give her the quality of life she's accustomed to

@sa4ru328

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah i disagree with rslash there, honestly dont think op manipulated her, he warned about the numbers probably being higher than what it would actually be. He only showed her the truth, it was all up to her to decide to stay on the hard route with her fiancé or get an easy slack on dads money. The way she acts just speaks to me that she didnt really loved him that much nor was ready to marry.

@maieen2665

2 жыл бұрын

You too? I was thinking “four months into dating is kind of soon to get engaged, isn’t it?”

@stuartwalker9597

2 жыл бұрын

I want to also point out OP said his budget was rosey best case, but did warn her that the reality could be much worse

@vloggerbonakid6178

2 жыл бұрын

@@sa4ru328 So OP exposed his daughter as a Gold-digger?

Story 2: “Guess who? 😀” is for when surprising your spouse with a gift or visiting your beloved family who lives in a different country. Not for telling that a family member has died

@viktorwesterlund5734

2 жыл бұрын

TBH sounds fake

@lista2308

2 жыл бұрын

By everything holy, please let that story be fake

@songohan3321

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately this is exactly what a Kevin will do.

@GTSE2005

2 жыл бұрын

True, a death cannot be taken lightly

@mr.invisible1873

2 жыл бұрын

That’s like the doctor coming in and saying “Guess what?? Your baby died!” Bro, Wth

The husband saying, "Guess!" After someone LITERALLY DIED is a major red flag. Run far, FAR away.

@whittles6326

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly as I'm thinking!!! Get them divorce papers!

@kalimaxine

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that was really sickening. It's not a freaking game.

@AtotehZ

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorta thinking the guy was in shock, but I don't know that.

@DarkTakanuva

2 жыл бұрын

@@whittles6326 Give em divorce papers and say "I'm divorcing someone; guess who"

@pearlshin14

2 жыл бұрын

I wanted to say that he could have been nervous about how to bring it to his wife. When you're nervous and someone died you can just blur out the wrong words at the dumbest moments. But he would have apologized right after.

What kind of psychopath think it's okay to say "Guess who!" when telling someone their family member died?!

@Zess26

2 жыл бұрын

I'd probably file for a divorce, or at least separation.

@rontheauraknight9606

2 жыл бұрын

“A family member died… GUESS WHO???” like what That’s… that’s not how you phrase that guess who is for a NICE SURPRISE Wtf

@hollaatquad3511

2 жыл бұрын

I think we’re taking it out of context I don’t think he said guess who like it’s a game plus is extremely hard being the bearer of bad news especially telling someone that they little brother just died I think she Took her anger out on him of course he could’ve handled it differently but don’t exclude him

@RumbleDelta

2 жыл бұрын

@@hollaatquad3511 Even then this is not how you do it. You just be straight up with shit like this, not dance around. OP's entirely justified and husband is an idiot.

@certiakenley1341

2 жыл бұрын

@@hollaatquad3511 regardless of how he said it, saying guess who is fucked up period. You dont say that to someone who's family member just died

I’m currently pregnant, and while the cravings are definitely no joke, I can not at all relate to sneaking a piece of someone else’s birthday cake and then trying to manipulate my husband that it’s not a big deal. What a COMPLETE asshole.

@ninja23yt

2 жыл бұрын

I bet she would be worse than how he is acting if he did the same thing with a birthday cake for her

@polar9411

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats on the baby!!! 👶🥳

@ratkid4560

2 жыл бұрын

Even as a little kid I knew better. I had a bad habit of taking little bits of icing or crumbs that had fallen off, but even little me knew you can't actually have a bit of cake

@scooby45247

2 жыл бұрын

i disagree.. she is 7 months pregnant and 3rd trimester pregnant women get cravings.. if her body says eat something sweet then she gets something sweet, NO EXCEPTIONS.. she is making a human being.. those cravings are the baby needing something to develop or her body needing something to repair itself to develop the baby.. just ask your doctor.. congrats though on yours but my pregnant wife can have her cake and eat it too and if my mother isnt adult enough to understand that then guess who is getting tossed out..

@rutgerwuijster2315

2 жыл бұрын

And the worst part I think is that she tried manipulating her husband by saying something along the lines of 'did you think I wasn't up to the task?' Well thats the problem, see he did think she was up to the task otherwise he would've given the task to someone else...

"why did you let me handle the cake if you didn't think I was up to the task?" He DID think you were up for the task, but you proved him wrong.

@allisoncastle

6 ай бұрын

I gotta say, this is the first time I’ve seen weaponized incompetence from the WOMAN in a reddit story

Just cuz you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you’re entitled to everything. She really does have no impulse control.

@xS.K.

2 жыл бұрын

Right??? Who does that

@Aderla22

2 жыл бұрын

I think she was petty. She writes that her husband didn't bring her the snacks she wanted, then she takes a slice of cake out of, I guess, petty revenge for not getting her snacks.

@TheSwimmer522

2 жыл бұрын

Being 8 months pregnant for the second time I have never let a carving ruin anything. Its just food like seriously….

@brandiswiger2422

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheSwimmer522 as someone who ended up with severe allergies and could only eat a handful of things during pregnancy. I can understand cravings being severe ,but even hormonal and hungry. I would have just passive aggressively left the house to get my own snacks and came back home with an irrational amount of food. Why the heck would you eat a cake that you knew was for an event for your mother in law., That's not just petty revenge to your husband, that's a complete lack of concern for everyone attending .

@omegaofmankind693

2 жыл бұрын

One of the stupidest things for divorce I've ever heard, this would be one i wouldn't argue lol adult children.

OP in the Cake Theif Story haven't even had the kid yet and she is acting like an entitled parent. A Pre-Entitled Parent.

@carktheshark

2 жыл бұрын

Can't wait to hear her stories on r/Entitled Parents!

@Wendy_O._Koopa

2 жыл бұрын

@@NotAFanOfHandles There's no need to be a grammar gestapo. Originally 'entitled' would be the adjective, and 'parent' would be the noun and you'd be correct; but over the years 'Entitled Parent' has become a unique beast, and can be used as its own proper noun. What I'm saying is that *Pre-Entitled Parent* and *Entitled Pre-Parent* are both acceptable, and there is no reason to fight.

@Kiarathegoat

2 жыл бұрын

@@Wendy_O._Koopa wha- I think pre-entitled would mean that she is not quite entitled yet- but she IS entitled- so it should entitled pre-parent

@ThePuschkin1986

2 жыл бұрын

a Prenatitled Parent?

For the cake story: I know sometimes cravings are really hard to control, but what makes you the asshole op, is the fact that you used your son as an excuse, refused to apologize, and told the story as if he is in the wrong. You did something bad, whether or not your husband overreacted doesn't really matter, cuz you didn't even own up to it.

@BersealiaDreamheart

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, and the fact that RSlash is also pissed off at her proves your point. Sheesh, she’s acting like an Entitled Karen…

@OfficialDiffy

2 жыл бұрын

It's the part where she took a slice of cake for me. If someone grabs the first slice of my cake then they're gonna catch some hands😂

@tucagwathiel3380

2 жыл бұрын

The fact that she is very dismissive of other people by describing a fight to the point MIL is staying with them for a few days as 'not so major' and saying her husband being hurt and upset is an overreaction is a major, entitled red flag to me.

@MsEngelby

2 жыл бұрын

She's an r/entitledparents in the making

@Gesteppie

2 жыл бұрын

Yea, she is a major but hole for not apologising for what she did, but had ASKED her husband to get the snacks as a preventative measure to curb her cravings. Hormones during pregnancy make us feel like doing some crazy stuff and the best way to get through it is with a supportive partner. I'd give the husband a butt hole rating too, but not nearly as high as OP's

Wait so let me get this straight. Essentially a broke college student, stepped up and gave his grandma $1500 that he really couldn't afford to and his grandma remembers him doing this and leaves him her house as a thank you and his aunt has the AUDACITY to demand that OP give her the house

It's odd at how people get upset when told the hard truth of living within their means. Even if the OP over guesstimated the boyfriends' wages, it does not change the fact that sacrifices must be made. He asked if she wanted a budget, she said yes and got mad at the truth, overreacted and broke up. I guess it never occurred to her or him to postpone getting married and finding better paying jobs.

@matthew9326

2 жыл бұрын

OP in that story was a butthole because he should have lowballed not highballed. I mean was it justified, yes. Was it still being a butthole, also yes. I am more scared for whoever the niece dates next. She sounds incredibly spoiled and went from dating to engaged in 4 months to full on dumping him in a discussion.

@Aethian

2 жыл бұрын

@@matthew9326 The niece couldn’t handle the highball estimate, she would have left faster from a lowball estimate.

@robertiams4198

2 жыл бұрын

@@matthew9326 he did tell her it was optimistic.

@stunfire

2 жыл бұрын

@@matthew9326 not at all mate but I understand that's your opinion.

@DrkWhiteWolf

2 жыл бұрын

Never had to deal with this with moving out on your own budgeting, but I've dealt with it with plan for the baby Budgeting. It was great with Babies R us to make a basic list of what they would need, send them off into the store to try and fill a registry, and watch them turn white as ghosts as half way through the list the total number is beyond anything they ever imagined. Sometimes the easiest way to show people they're not ready for something yet is to scare them to hell and back with monetary figures and responsibility.

“Guess who died??” Good Lord that sounds like a taunting message from a serial killer on the loose.

@velvety2006

2 жыл бұрын

toby Bell's voice: hello op, I wanna play a game and then claiming he wanted keep her from getting traumatized

On the budgeting story, I absolutely disagree. He explicitly told his niece he was being generous with his estimations & that reality would likely be less. It's not manipulation if you spell it out. If he hadn't told her that, sure, maybe. But he did. So, no, he's NTA. She asked for his help, he gave it, she made a decision & now that she's second guessing herself, she wants to blame him.

@CieraMychele

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, I was confused when they started talking about him being manipulative, I thought he made it pretty clear

Budgeting story: Seriously?! NTA. Op didn't manipulate her. Op over guessed the bf's funds when she found out he made less and she wasn't gonna be able to life the live of luxury she's used to sue dumped him. "She still loves him" but apparently not as much as her love for her parent's money. Cake story: YTA. You took a piece of birthday cake cause she had a craving? Then go to the store or Doordash it

@JadeAnnabelArt

2 жыл бұрын

OP also made it VERY clear that 'this is a rosier outlook and is best case scenario.' OP did their best to let them know that the numbers were likely inaccurate and not to take it to heart.

@TheRuneTail

2 жыл бұрын

@@JadeAnnabelArt exactly

@matosz23

2 жыл бұрын

So you are saying she ain't a gold digger but she won't marry no broke dude.

@zljmbo

2 жыл бұрын

are Americans really so sensitive about their cakes?

@RCDROMERO

2 жыл бұрын

OP in the budgeting defenitly over inflated those numbers. His best case Scenario was him working 78 hours a week, that's pretty crazy. Instead of maybe talking to his niece about waiting a little long he straight out scared her

Of course he's divorce material He treated OPs brother's death like a game! He's a freaking sociopath!

@supercasualgamer513

2 жыл бұрын

FACTS!! It just took awhile to manifest but this is certainly a red flag 🚩

so let me get this straight: he stepped up, gave her a loan when nobody else did, then was left her house? it’s his house, not cousin’s. he should lease it to his cousin at a discount if she’s “family”

@ReigoVassal

2 жыл бұрын

Also having kids aren't disability. She is perfectly able bodied and get one of her own someday.

@kalimaxine

2 жыл бұрын

No. If he leases HIS house to her, he should make her pay full rent. Who cares if she is "family". It's HIS house. She has absolutely no claim to it. She doesn't need a discount. She seems super entitled. If I were him, I would not lease it to her at all. And definitely not give it to her.

@Yumi_Jay

2 жыл бұрын

Knowing how she is behaving I would say she and her crotch goblins would trash it to spite OP.

@kaimagnus5760

2 жыл бұрын

My Family "Discount" Is a 20% price INCREASE. After all, if they're family shouldn't they be MORE willing to pay me a fair price? You bargan to get strangers to bite. Family should WANT to give you the best price.

@rylashadow18

2 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't even do that. Once she gets in there it would be next to impossible to get her out. She'd have to pay the acceptable amount of living expense that would include a first, last and security deposit. Then the FaMiLy will start telling him that since he's allowed her to "live there" why not just give it to her since again FaMiLy. He said so himself that he's moving into it so let him. She wanted this so badly/ FaMiLy wanted her to have it so badly they should of helped when asked.

Rslash: hard disagree on the budget story. There was no manipulation and he didn't "set her up to be disappointed by reality". He showed her how expensive the real.world is. He showed her that even working 12 hour days 6 days a week at an exorbitant salary she couldn't meet the expectations SHE had financially. She expected to live the same life she was accustomed to and OP showed her that even assuming you're willing and able to basically work non-stop, she was being unrealistic. He did not manipulate her. He took off her rose colored glasses and showed her reality. If she's disappointed by it, that's only because she wasn't living in it to begin with and finally got her first dose.

@TheGamersfolly

2 жыл бұрын

This needs to be pinned

@inescaballero3368

2 жыл бұрын

Right?? And she was also VERY young to be getting married, imo. Like at that age a lot of people haven't finished their careers/have stable jobs. She could still be with him but to legally/financially tie yourself to someone at that age is...

@ratpoisonedcupcake2827

2 жыл бұрын

And even if the OP of that story gave a more accurate figure, wouldnt the outcome still be the same? It litterally doesnt matter if OP was generous with the budget.

@realrealwarpet

2 жыл бұрын

@@inescaballero3368 plus, only 4 months of dating.

Story 1: "You don't have kids. You don't deserve the house" "You (and everyone else in the family) didn’t help Grandma with taxes. You don’t deserve the house" If the cousin wanted the house, she should have helped Grandma like OP did.

@velvety2006

2 жыл бұрын

sounds like my family lol

@Doublebarreledsimian

2 жыл бұрын

@@velvety2006 Cousin? lol.

@velvety2006

2 жыл бұрын

@@Doublebarreledsimian No when I got my own apartment my aunts were apparently pissed lol. it seemed they believed I was too dumb to live on my own and they were angry I did not ask for their help. 🤷‍♀️ and recently they have been claiming I told them 'family does not matter'

@Doublebarreledsimian

2 жыл бұрын

@@velvety2006 Oh I was just trying to extend the joke, cause it sounds like my family too.

@velvety2006

2 жыл бұрын

@@Doublebarreledsimian who knows, I don't know al my relatives and I do know we have or had a couple in Australia lol. as for my aunts I have been enjoying the peace and quiet but I do stay open that they will crawl out of the woodworks for something at some point.

The husband that said guess who while informing of a death: throw the whole husband away cuz there is something really wrong with that guy.

@addicted2mako

2 жыл бұрын

Seriously, that was sickening to hear about!

@velvety2006

2 жыл бұрын

he didn't want her to be traumatized guess what playing a guessing game probably made it more traumatizing

@Wendy_O._Koopa

2 жыл бұрын

Husband: "I didn't want you to be traumatized, so I made a fun little guessing game out of it!" OP: "Well, you failed miserably. I'm not sure why this is the hill you wanted to die on, but you're going to do so alone, because I'm divorcing you." Husband: "Uh-oh spaghetti-oh!" OP: "I knew I shouldn't have married a writer on the Big Bang Theory..."

How to tell someone a close family member has passed away: ask them if they are in a private place. Not driving. Then explain the circumstances of the person's death and them passing. Comfort. How NOT to break the news: Story #2

@Doublebarreledsimian

2 жыл бұрын

Right? The only way that jackass could've made it worse is to record OP's reaction and post it on tic tok.

@AuntLoopy123

2 жыл бұрын

One day, almost 20 years ago, I was just coming home from work. It was an hour long commute, and I was DESPERATE to pee. I came in the door, and my Dad was standing there in the doorway, waiting for me. "Your uncle Joe died." I rushed to the bathroom, peed as fast as I could, and then rushed back. "WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?!" That's still much better than what the idiot husband in the story did.

For the budgeting story, OP put a number in the box for "husband's income." No one had the right answer. Would it be better to just put 0 in the box, and then base the budget only on niece's income?... Actually, maybe. But I still don't think OP "manipulated" the situation. The end result of teaching niece the reality of "being on your own" was still in place.

@ChrisMaxfieldActs

2 жыл бұрын

$16 is pretty high for USA, and 12 hours of working a day? What? Very unrealistic scenario there.

@argaveus101

2 жыл бұрын

@@ChrisMaxfieldActs $16 is pretty high, but people choose to work long hours like that all the time in order to make ends meet, or just extra spending money

@azroceankitarn9620

2 жыл бұрын

@Chris Maxfield not really, I'm around the same age making more, and all I do is work a starting position in manufacturing. Its not the most common thing, but as I found it, buts its more common than you think

@supervegito2277

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah. My interpretation is that OP was taking the best case scenario, to show how even under absurdly good circumstances, its gonna be a drastic and difficult shift. The sisters reaction is a bit odd, but i dont see how OP did anything wrong.

@supercasualgamer513

2 жыл бұрын

I mean if he didn’t admit to playing her, I’d agree with you… but he did He, himself, admitted to playing his niece and feeling bad about it I still don’t think he’s wrong, per se, because he knew she was going in blind and wanted her to see before it was too late I don’t believe he was being malicious, just a bit harsh

I was sure the cake story would be that she ate his piece, not that she cut into a birthday cake before a party. You want something sweet? Go to the store. You're pregnant, not disabled. (And not on bed rest).

@paden1865able

2 жыл бұрын

She could have Googled how to make a mug cake in the microwave if she wanted something sweet. That's what I do.

@chummy707

2 жыл бұрын

She asked her husband to bring her a treat and he didn't

@toportime

Жыл бұрын

@@chummy707 Oh boo hoo, she could have ordered something on delivery, she isn't mute or stupid. Well, maybe stupid.

Wife: I'm going to divorce someone. Guess who?!

@bryn1063

2 жыл бұрын

Ooo is it me? Haha funny, you're kidding right?... 😀😨

@AustinBlack28

2 жыл бұрын

right?

I don't agree at all with the niece budget story. OP told her it was a generous assumption painting a rosier picture than reality. If he hadn't I'd agree, but he did. I don't get her either. The boyfriend was probably young, same as her. Why is the choice between breaking up and marriage?

I HATE when pregnant women act like them being pregnant gives them a free pass to do nearly whatever they want

@orenjitoburu474

2 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!!!! I saw this one story where there was this guy who seriously had to use the bathroom and the women's bathroom had a long line and this pregnant lady saw that the men's bathroom had a short line and when it was OP's turn, she pushed past him and tried to get in and when he told her no, she got mad then when OP was in the bathroom she was in there banging on his stall telling him that he was a butthole for not letting her use the bathroom

@71499lion

2 жыл бұрын

@@orenjitoburu474 Ok as someone with ulcerative colitis that actually infuriates me, if that were me and she got past me, sorry to the workers, but I'd shit right in front of her stall lmao

@LucyAdroit

2 жыл бұрын

@@orenjitoburu474 Yeah, rSlash actually covered that one early on

I am really weirded out by the third story because op said they and their wife were cut off in their thirties and then had to start making a budget - is it normal to be financially suppprted by your family even though you have a career? Like ... What?

@matosz23

2 жыл бұрын

Irresponsible children, not adults.

@stormwright8300

2 жыл бұрын

That could depend on where they live. NYC for example, is super expensive so most of your money goes to rent/utilities. Not a ton for much else. It could also be that the family is super rich and happy to help, but OP doesn't make as much as he needs to survive, so he had to start budgeting even more

@ajanija1590

2 жыл бұрын

I think it may be very rich family. Like some TV shows - meybe not "Dynasty" or " Succession", but close. It would mean that even if OP had her own career and good job she would lost a lot of money after they cut her off.

A friend’s husband tried that planned incompetency thing with vacuuming. He made a checkerboard pattern in the carpet, which took him a while. His wife, realizing what was up, told him that she loved the way it looked and he should do it that way every time. Game. Set. Match.

Fiance story: I dont think OP was wrong or manipulative. He actually cushioned the blow. He took an average salary and made a basic budget. When she realized the truth she freaked out. She might have kept her bf if she discussed it with fiance and let him come to his own conclusion. It shows she wasnt ready for marriage.

@tatotaytoman5934

2 жыл бұрын

spoiled kid moment

Story 2: NTA. Who calls their wife, tell her that a family died and asked them to ‘guess who’? Like a sick joke. Story 3: NTA. You helped her make a budget and tried to prepare her to be cut off. If she really loves him then she would try to make their life work, but she loves her current lifestyle more.

The second story: OP should have play a guessing game with her husband "I have a surprise for you." "What is it?" "Guess what." " A car?" "Not even close." then give divorce paper. Anyway he deserve 5/5. That was way out of line.

@GTSE2005

2 жыл бұрын

You should have been given a pin

The last story: some women have this entitlement just because they’re pregnant they deserve everything! There’s a thing called impulse control! She was the butt hole in the situation. She just should’ve taken responsibility and apologized

@alyssalopez3421

2 жыл бұрын

I honestly would have given her another half or full AH point for trying to use her pregnancy as an excuse to both her husband and MIL

@Bynming

2 жыл бұрын

It actually blows my mind that she felt confident enough in her story to post it given how clearly damning it is for her. That's why there are so many assholes... they don't even notice how selfish they are. Completely oblivious.

@alyssalopez3421

2 жыл бұрын

@@Bynming Right?!

@christopherchristmas5846

2 жыл бұрын

In my opinion the woman in the last story is not the butthole because the husband didnt get her what she wanted. And second off some women dont have the same impulsive control like others. Finally the husband got pissed off because she took a small piece of cake lol the husband has anger issues like for real dude stop being soft.

@alyssalopez3421

2 жыл бұрын

@@christopherchristmas5846 Dude it was his mother's birthday cake and OP didn't even bother to ask permission to have the first slice from either of them. And was there nothing else in the house that she could munch on? My guess is there was, but she just wanted to be petty or a brat and take the first slice of her MIL cake. Her husband didn't get her what she wanted in that exact moment? She has legs, she can get up and walk to the kitchen herself if she's so hungry. She opened the door for the cakes delivery did she not?

If Op had a birthday and someone ate the cake first, she would be pissed. Plus, wtf is this manipulation

@patc4586

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely. Her next birthday and every birthday, thereafter every cake is presented to her with a large slice removed and replaced with a sign that reads: "I just couldn't help myself." 🥮😈🍰

What is it with single parents that think that they deserve everything for free because they CHOSE to have kids and now they are going through financial troubles.

@Chuckf66

2 жыл бұрын

It always seems to be the ones who got knocked up young, threw their lives away & were spoiled by relatives "coz baybeez", rather than those who were widowed/divorced & had to do the hard yards.

@LLandS18

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. The only person responsible of those children are are the mother, father. Unfortunately it not just single parents who think just because they have kids they are entitled to others money, time or stuff it is some parents. You don't need to fund someone's else lifestyle and having a bunch of children you can afford is a lifestyle.

@Sorchia56

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!! Drives me mad when I hear that used as an excuse.

@DeadDancers

2 жыл бұрын

To be fair, feeling entitled to granny’s money is something all of her kids and grandkids probably felt. Nobody expects just one family member to get everything. It was probably a shock when they all got cut out except this kid - who for all we know, would not have paid either if he didn’t by chance get this windfall right as granny asked. The family saying single mum should get it all was still weird though. Like, at least push him to sell and split the cash.

@maagi1

2 жыл бұрын

@@DeadDancers It was granny's house, and she chose op to get it, so..

That guy who told his wife to guess who, sounds like something peter griffin would say in a skit, not a real person lol

it boggles my mind a 24 year old can't figure out that she can go buy a cake if she craves something sweet

Aside from the budget thing... getting engaged after just four months of dating? What they should've done is continue to date until they got better careers and became financially independent. THEN they could think about marrying.

Being the one to tell a person someone passed away is hard. I hope I never have to do it again.

@Push-ku4yy

2 жыл бұрын

@Аmр WоrId 🅥 who tf is amp world?

@matthew9326

2 жыл бұрын

Bet you didnt play guess who though.

@motherofthreecats582

2 жыл бұрын

@Аmр WоrId 🅥 no one fucking cares ;)

@mayflyrose8195

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah... I'll never forget that feeling. Much love to you!

@tazhienunurbusinezz1703

2 жыл бұрын

Oh God yes. What's even worse, though, is when the cops leak someone's name to the local media before you can tell that person's elderly grandmother (before the cops were supposed to do so & I received a very big apology because of it) & she finds out on the morning news while she's all alone. The guilt of that will probably haunt me forever even though I'm not remotely responsible for how that went.

Helping a young person to see reality is NOT a butthole move. They think it's rainbows & fairys then are devastated when turds & darkness slap them in the face. Helping her see mistakes before she makes them makes me wanna give him 2 non-butthole stars.

@QuietChaos1996

2 жыл бұрын

fairies*

Getting pretty tired of single mothers making their mistake other peoples problems.

@suzyboyleanderson6945

2 жыл бұрын

My former friend acted like that. I'm a single mom give me a break please. Her youngest daughter is 17 and she doesn't have custody of themm, and her oldest daughter is almost 30. But it's not everyone else's problem she got pregnant at 15.

@wannabehistorian371

2 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure some are fake though. Because there’s suspiciously a lot of rage bait single mother stories on Reddit.

@It-is-me...Melsie

2 жыл бұрын

Everyone hates a single mother

@suzyboyleanderson6945

2 жыл бұрын

@@It-is-me...Melsie my friend is a single mom after her husband died in Irac and she doesn't rely on charities to put food on her table. She works hard for what she gets and the food she puts on the table.

@It-is-me...Melsie

2 жыл бұрын

@@suzyboyleanderson6945 Similar for me... my husband died suddenly when our son was just a little baby. Even as a widow I was surprised at the disdain, blame, and judgement thrown at single mums. Single dads though are apparently heros.

Was it that hard for her to just go out and buy the snacks herself if she craved them that much?

@maralorca6518

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe it's hard because she is pregnant, in a world with covid and such.

@DarkEinherjar

2 жыл бұрын

@@maralorca6518 She could've ordered them instead then. Or kept her eating impulses in check, I don't know... unless she was stuck at home and the husband let her starve, nothing justifies going for the birthday cake.

@toportime

Жыл бұрын

@@maralorca6518 I suspect you would have done the same thing based on your reply. smh.

I love how entitled people see having kids as equal to having a disability, the inability to keep your legs closed may seem like it but it isn't.

@DeathProductions200

2 жыл бұрын

I always get stared at by parents when I sit down on a bench (I walk with a cane ill give you creative ideas of what is wrong) and I hate the fact that you can tell they are contemplating asking a disabled person to stand up for them or their kids to take the seat instead

@gothichinata4332

2 жыл бұрын

I also always get the best stares when I sit down on the disabled spots on the bus because you can't immediately see if I have something :'D

@N0xiety

2 жыл бұрын

@@gothichinata4332 I mean, that's probably a good thing tbh. Maybe not for you, but in general. It means people are keeping would be non disabled assholes somewhat in check at least.

@velvety2006

2 жыл бұрын

@@gothichinata4332 I do that too and then hop off and offer them if I see an elder or disabled get on.

@wannabehistorian371

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe a lot of women don’t have a choice though. Also they may have come into economic hardship after having the children. Maybe their husband was abusive and they’re left without a home. I really hate this “inability to close your legs” BS. You never know someone’s life. I say this as someone who has met a teenage r@pe victim. Or at least, the father was very much not a good person. She was homeless with her mother and was being served by our Girl Scout troop. It wasn’t her choice to become pregnant, but she was willing to keep the child and give it the best life possible. She was also probably Muslim, by the way, so she may have been religiously obligated. I’m not saying they’re entitled to people’s houses or whatever, but this almost misogynistic anti-mother sentiment isn’t cool.

When my bf and I first moved in together he'd put dishes with food still on them in the sink and "rinse them off" by turning the water on but not really rinsing. I'm taking no scraping of any food remains off. I asked him several times to clean the food off before putting in the sink but he just wouldn't. So I bought all disposable dishes, cups and cutlery and used only those myself for a week while he continued to fill the sink. One night he calls me into the kitchen, points at the sink and asks "What is this?" With a smile I said "Oh! This is what you leave for me clean up. I've used disposable dishes all week and every one of these is exactly how you left them." He looked at it again and said. "I'm sorry...That's gross as hell. I'll clean it." And yes, he stopped doing that.

Budget story : OP isn't the butthole. He made assumptions, yes, but he specified that he made them. He clarified that he did estimation of their salaries and established a budget around it. In the end, all he said was "If you earn this much, you can have this lifestyle". The girl then took the decision by herself to see if this lifestyle was worthy of her boyfriend or not. Not the butthole at all.

@justintay4044

2 жыл бұрын

he will be the butthole by supporting the niece and not helping her budget

@GamerGrovyle

2 жыл бұрын

He would've been the asshole if he left her to get surprised.

The fourth story was brilliant! He got the bitter taste of medicine that he deserved. OP is not the asshole.

@GTSE2005

2 жыл бұрын

It should be in r/pettyrevenge or r/maliciouscompliance

Assuming the best case scenario is manipulative now… Really wish people would stop throwing around serious words like that. Edit: Wow, especially next to the future Entitled Parent in the cake story. How the hell does controllingp impulses and not being rude on someone’s birthday harm an unborn baby?

That boyfriend has taken weaponized incompetence to a whole new level!

About the "guess who" story: OP's husband wasn't trying to be a bearer of bad news in the least traumatizing way. He did the total opposite; He played with her emotions, made her even more worried, and was OP's sister who had to give her the bad news, and he got pissed off when OP did the logical thing; If I was her I wouldn't even come home. Serve him the divorce papers and send someone else from the family to get her stuff. Cut all contact with this asshole.

Give away my house: He didn't get a free house. He paid $1500 for it when no one else would help grandma from becoming homeless.

@joimumu

2 жыл бұрын

My guess is had Op grandmother needed cash again she would simply sold it to Op at very cheap price

@LokiLoverForever99

2 жыл бұрын

@@joimumu Yeah probably at like half the value or less. And ovibiously OP would of let his grandmother stay living in her own house.

Husband: *"LOL I played with my wife's emotions when someone in her family died, what could go wrong???"* OP: *Prevents him from coming with her to see his BIL* Husband: *Shocked Pikachu Face*

When it comes to the budget story, while OP did give their niece a higher estimate than their significant other really could provide, it was still too low for the niece, and she was the one to cut off the engagement. If she really loved him, she would have stayed with him. When it comes to the wife story, while the husband was a bit aggressive about it, I do agree with rSlash on that one. She took a piece of somebody else's cake and refused to apologize and blamed it on the baby. People need to make up their minds about what things can be excused when it comes to pregnancies. They'll say that acting a certain way isn't an excuse because of pregnancy, but then will turn around and say that another behavior is acceptable. It's both confusing and irritating.

@talitafranco7230

2 жыл бұрын

Well that’s because pregnancy is confusing and annoying!!! Your hormones get all over the place and your emotions are a little out of control!!! I have a really big problem with noise when I was pregnant! It made me so angry about the amount of noise in my street and I kept thinking that my baby would not sleep when he was born!! But while I totally believe that you should be a little spoiled when you are pregnant, what op did was horrible!!! Yes, the cravings are real but they are not something that you have no control over it!! You still have self control when you are pregnant!! Eat someone else birthday cake before the party is always a NO NO NO!!! Is disrespectful and cruel! Nothing justified that, nothing!! And then to make it worse, manipulating her husband and blaming her baby! Just no!!

@addictofanimation2923

2 жыл бұрын

@@talitafranco7230 I feel bad for women who have to put up with pregnancy hormones. They sound worse than puberty hormones. But women who overexaggerate their pregnancies make other women look like they're blowing things out of proportion or lying. It really just rubs me the wrong way. I hope you're feeling better. Pregnancy sounds like it sucks.

@talitafranco7230

2 жыл бұрын

@@addictofanimation2923 I totally agree with you!! Pregnancy is hard, you are growing a new person inside you and the hormones are crazy! But that doesn’t mean you don’t have a brain or self control!!! You should be spoiled when you are pregnant but within reason!!! My pregnancy was wonderful, and until the last two weeks (when I got really uncomfortable) I could do most of the things I did normally! I have to confess that I did use the cravings to get what I want to eat some times but it was in a harmless way, like when deciding what we were gonna eat or something like that! I never made someone leave the house in the middle of the night or eat something that wasn’t mine because of that!!

@addictofanimation2923

2 жыл бұрын

@@talitafranco7230 Sounds like things went as smoothly as they could. Wish you the best of luck with your motherhood. It's going to be a tough rest of your life. You may not be religious, but God bless.

@avashnea

2 жыл бұрын

Unless it's something directly caused by the pregnancy, a pregnant woman shouldn't be excused for anything a non-pregnant person wouldn't be excused for.

"I'd rather date someone who would Weasle out of chores than is too stupid to know how a dish washer works" honestly I'd definitely be opposite on this, I'm never a fan shirking responsibility especially shared ones. But stupid can be fixed with just some proper and kind teaching. You can't always fix a bad habit like shirking responsibilities, not easily.

@suebob1678

2 жыл бұрын

And it's not just shirking. He's gaslighting her! He's pretending there's something wrong with HER! Red flags! All the red flags!

@Poke-Chann

2 жыл бұрын

Seriously! Rslash went way too easy on the guy- his personal story with his wife was one thing (just putting something off in the hopes someone else does it, but then eventually giving in and doing it) but what OP’s partner did was a whole other can of worms. He LIED to her about the fact he could do basic chores so that she would have to do them herself forever and he would just not have to do chores. He GUILTED her by whining about how she didn’t believe him. He **LITERALLY RUINED HER FAVORITE DRESS.** He destroyed her possession so that he could force her into doing labor for him. He’s immensely fucked up and I’m disappointed he only got a 1/5 rating.

@AuntLoopy123

2 жыл бұрын

My late father was a great man, and he did a LOT of work around the house. He definitely wasn't lazy. But, we had a rule that he was NOT to do dishes or laundry. It's not that he wasn't willing. It's not that he was stupid. He was incredibly smart. But we always had to wash the dishes again after he did them. Every single time. And EVERY load of laundry he did wound up either ruining clothes or breaking the machine, and usually both. This was the same man who wondered why the clothing budget was so high, and didn't notice that Mom bought him new dress shirts for his office job at least once a month. Why? Because he'd come home from work, see something that needed doing RIGHT AWAY (nothing could ever wait), and no matter how many times she said, "Dear, why don't you change into your grungy clothes first?" he would always respond with, "It's fine! I won't get dirty!" She could often salvage his dress pants, if they were dark, but the white shirts? Never. She gave up, and just started buying new white dress shirts, by the box-load.

@It-is-me...Melsie

2 жыл бұрын

@@AuntLoopy123 My late husband was a very hard worker, and would do anything around the house that needed doing, however I had to ask him to please stop cleaning the toilets. I don't know how, but every time he did he'd snap the toilet brush.

Whenever I feel stupid about myself I listen to stories about Karen’s then I feel better

@ReigoVassal

2 жыл бұрын

Whenever I feel stupid, all i need is just r/facepalm or darwin's award and i'm sure i'm not the worst one.

@vybepokemon6044

2 жыл бұрын

Whenever I feel stupid about myself I remember people spell stories as story’s then I feel better

On the budgeting story, OP didn’t suggest at all that the niece break up with her fiance. If she wanted to make it work, she would’ve sat down with the guy, had an open and honest conversation with him about finances, and make a game plan going forward. Marriages will not always operate on the best conditions. One partner might lose a job, get into a car accident, or lose a loved one. Even positive changes such as a new house or a big promotion are stressors and can dramatically test a relationship. The important thing is that both partners work together and keep each other supported when the ground shifts. The fact that her first reaction to him making less money than OP’s example was to jump ship shows that she wouldn’t have been mature enough to handle marriage. Because even if he made six-figures, chances are she would bail if he suddenly lost his job and could no longer support her.

@vegasrenie

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. If she jumped bail just because of some numbers right now, then she is definitely too immature for marriage.

Last story: OP sounds like she gonna be a entitled parent. Instead of taking a piece of the cake couldn't she go to a store or get something delivered? Also, I feel like she gonna use "bUT hE WaS hUNgRy" as an excuse for her son getting a slice someone else's birthday cake before them. It's sorta what she did here lol.

@jalucero93

2 жыл бұрын

She was asshole-ish for refusing to apologize afterwards, but that's just how pregnancy works, you get emotional, get really strong cravings, it overall messes shit up. The husband was right to be upset for the shitty excuse, but overreacted a lot. Like, bitch, it's for your mom, she has been pregnant at least once, she understands more than you think.

Transcript of the conversation if my husband asked me to guess who died. Him: guess who died Me: you Him: ah no, I'm obviously still alive Me: no, you're living on borrowed time now either tell me who you will be sharing a funeral with or double down and not even get a death announcement Him: babe no, I was just trying to soften the blow Me: unlike me who will be softening nothing but still make it look like an accident for insurance purposes

3rd story: how was she mainpulative, op was giving her a real slice of life and showing her hard it would be to make a living, I just dont get how she would know much the fiance would make. damn i sure can be mature for a 14 yr old

@luna_theraider

2 жыл бұрын

Plus in some places $16 an hour is the minimum wage or soon will be.

@PseudoUematsu

2 жыл бұрын

Plus, wouldn’t it have scared her even more if they tried to make a budget on the real numbers?

@shebb.

2 жыл бұрын

@@PseudoUematsu thats the thing i think op just prevented the spoiled brat from breaking up with the fiance even sooner

@shebb.

2 жыл бұрын

@@luna_theraider oh...

The first story: It’s not OPs fault that his cousin has 2 sex trophies. 😂😂😂😂 He helped his grandma with the taxes, no one else could or wanted to 🤷🏽‍♂️

@johnnyhuntrero6870

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr Its not OPs fault her cousin has too many baby daddies.

@maieen2665

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve never seen/heard children be referred by that term, lol. Can I use that?

@ObtuseMori

2 жыл бұрын

"Sex trophies", I love it 😂

@songohan3321

2 жыл бұрын

I will comeback later just to see if this comment is here.

@GTSE2005

2 жыл бұрын

A better term is semen demon

Budget: OP didn't manipulate her. The girl probably shouldn't have been engaged to him if she was so quick to change gears in the first place and break it off with him instead of talking with him about their future together to see how to get things to work. OP is NTA.

“Can’t fix stupid” is one of the most accurate sayings of all time. Seriously. 🤨

Story 3: I mean, as I see it, OP didn't tell her to break up with him, just that it should be wise to wait until both can stand on their own 2 feet. That the niece was so scared she broke up with her boyfriend is not OP's fault, she made that choice. Then again, OP said she was spoiled, so maybe she got a lot more scared from a cruel reality, and bc she is spoiled, she decided to blame OP instead of herself for breaking up.

My husband broke down with me when he found out my brother died! I had actually heard it over my radio on my and was on scene in seconds. Thank heavens the State Troopers that responded knew me. My husband came home immediately. I was still dressed in my military gear but I was going to the morgue so he wouldn’t be alone. My husband said ‘not without me, you’re not!’ Yes, I know he was dead but we were thick as thieves and I really wasn’t in a good frame of mind. Our kids were home on break from Uni but we didn’t want them alone so my husband arranged for them to go to my best friend’s house for the night. We spent 18+ hours at the morgue waiting to see him after his autopsy. He held me, helped me stand, made sure I ate…that’s a life partner! He still sees that “look” in my eyes and holds me. OP, get a divorce attorney now. You’ll never have the true support you need. I’m tough as nails and never cry but that day I learned, some things break you beyond repair.

My grandmother just died this April, her house has to be either sold or kept in the family. So my brother who is now has two children got the house because we have a lot of family stuff still in the house that would take years to sort out so it makes sense to have him own house since he's going to have more children in the future. He pays the mortgage and nobody's upset about it.

The lazy man got what he deserved 🤷‍♀️

@shadowpuppet8192

2 жыл бұрын

*psst* Thorette

The story about the "lazy" husband: that is weaponized incompetence, a form of gaslighting! It's a tactic people use to manipulate others into taking on more work bc they make themselves seem so incompetent at a task that the effort to teach them properly is too much to bother. It results in the other person deciding its just easier to do it themselves, increasing their workload, and the first gets off scot free. The way to stop it? Either teach them while treating them like children and make them feel stupid for "not knowing" how to do something, or make them live with their laziness like OP did.

Nah, man. Getting married at 19 to a partner of nine months? OP is trying to spare the niece from seriously setting her life back. I wouldn't have been so nice about what an awful idea the marriage. OP was being realistic about how even a somewhat generous job wouldn't be enough for a young couple to live comfortably without additional support.

In story one, the solution is simple. When OP does renovations to the house, give the cousin the discarded pieces of the house. In that way, OP would have compiled with the cousin's request. She did tell OP to give her the house after all.

Budgeting story: I can't see how it is OP's fault that the niece broke up? The niece was the one that made the final choice

Budgeting story op is NTA. This story is similar to the story of a girl who spent 1week living the life of a mom and decided to not be pregnant. Both the stories OPs showed them how they live their life and the girls then decided to go forward with their decision. So OP is NTA

I was the one to break the news to my dad about his best friend's passing was the worst phone call I ever made. Especially since it had been hours since I had gotten the news and thought that he'd been told by the time I called him to see if he was okay. That husband was an a$$.

The second OP should call up her husband and say “Guess who’s getting a divorce?” :D

@mariposa9506

2 жыл бұрын

🤣

OP 1: You can rent the house from me if you want. At full market rates.

Good on OP for helping his grandmother out like that.

Budgeting story: the niece is ONLY nineteen. That's all that needs to be said, really. The fiancé is extremely sus.

...did he SERIOUSLY play dumb jokes over someone who had just died? OP, for the love of all that is good, get rid of that piece of crap.

Got here early again! Also be kind to your grandparents because that makes a world of a difference. One of my grandmothers talk about how I am probably the only one out of her grandchildren who speaks or see her on a consistent basis. There is literally no excuse to not take 10-20 minutes out of your schedule to check in on your grandparents.

@AA-cy9ib

2 жыл бұрын

I was also only one out of 4 grandchildren who was in touch with my grandma consistently. However, when she got sick due to covid and died after a month and half, I never called her during those days as I was too much depressed and stressed out knowing she is very sick. I used to call my parents to check on her everyday but never called her directly. Her death had huge impact on my health as I got severely depressed and also diabetic at age of 28. This was first time I lost someone close and couldn’t digest the fact the she is no more. Now, after several months, I have only one regret that I should have been brave enough to talk to her in her final days.

@Yumi_Jay

2 жыл бұрын

@@AA-cy9ib I know how that feels. I'm sure she appreciates you doing so. Your health is also important.

@jacobbritton4099

2 жыл бұрын

I was the only grandchild tryig to make sure she was heathly and not dieing she rectly passed

@velvety2006

2 жыл бұрын

not grandparent but i see my mom so often we actually have to schedule days that we don't see each other lol

@Yumi_Jay

2 жыл бұрын

@@rinchxa that is true. There were a couple grandfathers I didn't see because of how they treated my family. This is more in response to OP in the first story who help his late grandmother

Honestly, I think story 3 was handled perfectly. Nothing like a bit of gently applied reality to stop the potential disaster of impulsive teenage dumb decision making. That girl did not know what she was getting herself into and now she's making decisions based on what's best for her instead of whatever fuels a girl to jump right into marriage without preparation. If she follows through on that sort of sensible decision making then I'm confident she'll be thankful for that budgeting advice years down the road, even if she never got her teenage love story.

In the first story, it isn't about who deserves the house, it's about who EARNED it. Without OP's intervention, the house could have been lost and then nobody would have it. Grandma knew exactly what she was doing when she left you that house. One good deed earned you that house and the respect of your grandma to live in it. Absolutely do not give it away.

“Personally, I would rather date someone who tries to weasel out of chores than date a person who’s too stupid to know how a dishwasher works” This kind of made me laugh a bit, because growing up my parents were very old fashioned and absolutely hated dishwashers. I had to hand clean all the dishes. When I moved out, I had to have my boyfriend teach me how to use a dishwasher. I wasn’t being lazy, but he almost didn’t believe me that I had never used one before. I still almost prefer hand washing over dishwashers, because they never seem quite as clean coming out of a dishwasher versus hand washing, but that’s just my preference.

@jewels3846

2 жыл бұрын

Ours broke shortly before i was considered old enough to start doing the dishes (13yrs) my bf had to show me too. And let me know what is and isnt diahwasher safe. I still sometimes have to check on less used kitchenware if its dishwasher safe. I still struggle with remembering cold/hot for what laundry too that my bf does because my mom.never let us or taught us to do it. I am happy to, but not learning at an early age made it way harder later

Last lady with the cake... I was listening to that the whole time with my jaw on my desk. In what universe does she think that's ok?!

@asmith8692

2 жыл бұрын

The "but, but, but, I'm pregnaaaant!" universe.

@NiamhCreates

2 жыл бұрын

@@asmith8692 I've been pregnant three times and somehow missed the wormhole to that universe lmao

The story about chores is a perfect example of the term weaponized incompetence and I think the way she handled it was fantastic. Your partner is not your parent and it’s not their job to clean up after you.

@olivers_playlists7343

2 жыл бұрын

I respect OP for holding her ground, but I would have dumped the guy long before resorting to mind games. He doesn't want a girlfriend, he wants a maid he can bang. Gaslighting isn't a good look.

@IDWWaspinator

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you that Op was doing the right thing, but serving someone food on dirty plates? I'm not a clean freak, but theres probably a lot of bacteria and germs on those plates when they're needing to get washed. It could be health risk, and the meat dish that Op's husband needed, yeah it's his responsibility to make sure it refrigerated, but what if he didn't check that it was fine to eat? His party guests and him could get sick

@olivers_playlists7343

2 жыл бұрын

@@IDWWaspinator It would be unfortunate if the bf took the dish anyway and his coworkers got sick, but I don't think he's actually that ignorant. He understands cleaning and food storage, but thinks he's entitled not to have to worry about any of it now that he has a gf. The opportunity to be an adult and correct his behavior was always there. No one made him purposefully load the dishwasher wrong or eat off of the dirty dishes. I think it's very transparent that it was her clothes that were ruined by the bleach and not his. If he gets food poisoning from his own malicious behavior, so be it.

@ambiguouslyexisting6311

2 жыл бұрын

@@IDWWaspinator for someone who feels guilty about doing this enough to post on this subreddit, I don’t think she would actually have let him bring the dish to feed other people. And I think the dirty dish thing was valid. If he thinks he did a good enough job cleaning the dishes then it would stand to reason it’s good enough for him to eat off of. How he changed his ways after this, and also that he was capable of these things before hand makes me believe he was aware of what he was doing.

Story 2: Reminds me of a joke about a cop who had to tell a woman her husband died. He approached her and asked, "Are you the widow Peterson?" "My name is Peterson but I'm not a widow." "Wanna bet?"

For the budget story I'd give OP a NTA. He was just working off the information that the boyfriend refused to give. It is clear that the boyfriend knew his income would be too low for his girlfriend's liking. Either way the girl would have gotten scared off by changing her lifestyle. She wasn't in touch with the reality and that can't be helpped. If she wants to make it work with the boy it is her choice, not Ops. She was making a huge decision and now she is informed.

What if OP in the first story, ends up meeting someone and wants to start his own family, OP keep the house, tell your cousin and the rest of the family to foxtrot oscar, they never bothered to help granny, you did and got a house to cancel out the 1500 loan.

R/slash I literally spit my coffee out when hearing your "guess who" omg priceless.... as for op my heart goes out to her and her family. Husband EXCLUDED! Divorce that man.

I wouldn't even steal a piece from my own birthday cake, let alone another person's birthday cake.

Cake theif: I get Op's husband in a way. That cake wasn't for her, it was meant for his mother, and taking a piece out early suddenly changes the cake from being a surprise cake, to a here, I'll give you leftovers cake. The latter being just plain rude.

NTA in the budgeting story. He gave her a taste of reality and she didn’t like it. Girl was spoiled her whole life and didn’t consider how much things actually cost. He did nothing wrong. He didn’t intentionally set her up, she had no idea to begin with what it means to be cut off and pay for your own things

I get that the husband in Story #2 was trying to lighten the mood, but there are other ways of doing that later after your wife processes her little brother's death. I'd prepare for the next things to happen if I were him.

"the husband was in shock" that still doesn't make it okay to use someone's death as a guessing game.

I had an ex who took the first slice of my birthday cake that I made for myself. Didn't ask to have some, he just sat down on the couch with a slice. He didn't seem to understand that it was rude. "I thought you wanted it to be eaten. That's why you made it, right?"

Fourth story: NTA, it should be on r/pettyrevenge and r/maliciouscompliance

I wouldn't call budget guy an asshole at all, when I'm showing someone how stupid a plan they have is I go through it being as generous as humanly possible so when they accept it's kind of a bad idea I can remind them I vastly inflated the numbers in their favor.

"She *CHOSE* to have those kids, that's not *MY* problem." PREACH! 👍

Husband: Knock knock OP: Who's there? Husband: Not your brother. He's dead.

Op who gave the niece the budget is no where a butthole, or set up the niece in anyway. He literally gave her a budget with more money to show that even with that kind of money, she would have to make serious life style choices. Then she dumps her fiancé, because he don't make enough???? That Is completely on the niece

My guy, if the "rosy" picture, which OP said it was, then you're financially incompatible. That's fine but it's not OP being manipulative and it's not like those numbers are outright impossible, you'd just have to have two full time jobs (basically) and a LOT of people live like that. Long back to back hours and not home a lot. She thought about it and that doesn't make her happy. She needed to know that BEFORE that huge drop of quality of life. If you want to say anyone's the AH, make it her parents and frankly your parents too because wtf is up with that family and financial control issues.

Lol.. Mother in law didn't say anything because she was probably too shocked about the entitlement..also probably wishing her son had married someone else. 😂

Second story: Holy hell, the husband's attitude towards the situation is ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE. In fact, he is displaying a red flag. OP should run.

Listening to rslash while cleaning my room