"Cause you just don't feel well" Brought tears to my eyes. Cause it's so simple and so true.

I feel like I can’t enjoy sex as much anymore. After sex I sometimes get thoughts that I would enjoy sex with whatever theme I have at the moment. It sucks because sex was something I used to look forward to and now I’m split on it.

Yes my sexual obsessions have basically ruined my sex life - actually having had a relapse recently after spending a week with my girlfriend. My guilt towards her, the pressure to resolve my ocd, and wanting to feel intimate but couldn't, made me feel like such a piece of shit...

@Nicole-yx8ms

2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now?

I can’t describe how much better I have felt since finding your channel, Chrissie. I’m not always doing well, but your videos help so much. Thank you for what you do. ❤️

My contamination OCD and ROCD ruin my sex drive in waves. It hurts so bad. I feel so broken.

@sheajohnson7037

3 жыл бұрын

did it get better? mine went away from ROCD too ):

THANK YOU! These have been enlightening and I feel like I'm seeing another alien life form from another planet and thinking, 'I'm not alone in the universe!" I REALLY wish I had found your videos BEFORE I quit my awesome design job, dropped out of two music projects, stopped composing music because I don't have the brain power left after ruminating for like all day long, broke up with the women I loved ...But seriously, after years of not being diagnosed correctly - general anxiety & panic disorder was the common go to, it got so bad that I just stopped doing things. Period. I started making mediation music and that was the starting point of getting out of the hole. Mindfulness and self-compassion. Your videos are like listening to a beautiful Bach piece - they make perfect sense, soothe my emotions and calm my mind. They really are powerful. If you need some music to meditate to, here is a track ambient piano piece I composed that will relax you when you are having a spike - its the least I can give back to you for the wisdom and the knowledge you have given me about myself & explains sooooo much of the why and how of my life. :) Track: The Moon In The Pale Sky Of Day kzread.info/dash/bejne/aJiM2LSbnai7f8Y.html

Fantastic Chrissie-a great help!!!😀

After going through my OCD thoughts, my sex drive has been all over the place. Some days, my sex drive is dead. Other days, I feel like I'm very in the mood. And other days, when I feel the groinal responses, it hurts like hell. Not always! But sometimes, it does really hurt. I kept thinking to myself, "What the fuck is going on???"

Thanks so much for all that you do!! Your willingness to talk about these tough issues such openly is truly amazing. I am in treatment now, long road ahead but I finally have hope. All of these videos have helped me so much.

@slomolex682

6 жыл бұрын

luke messina I would def like to get greater insight from someone who is going through therapy..and perhaps make a few friends along the way..if you like let me know more about your therapy sessions.. unfortunately I have never done therapy.would like to..but finance

Just curious, do you still experience symptoms of pure o that takes a considerable amount of your attention after years of CBT? :)

Some issues are normal; in fact most are normal. It's how we harness those thoughts. I don't have a "doctor" diagnosed issue that the doctor may suffer worse then me. It's all normal to "think sex" , but it's how our "souls" convict us. The Holy Spirit will keep us harnessed and in control. I know it's not a fix for all but just a acknowledgement that sex is a major role in all our lives

Hey Chrissie, Was wondering if maybe you could do a video or something about how lack of experience in relationships and or virginity contribute because I know that is something I get stuck on and have seen others get stuck on as well. You know the typical, but if I have never had sex or a relationship how do I know I will like it. I thought it was interesting and didn't know that you struggled with that due to your scrupulosity. ♥

@RiteshKumar-gq6vs

4 жыл бұрын

Please help me. I m suffering from severe pure Ocd. Please

Dr Claire Weeks book “Hope and help for your nerves” is excellent

Does anyone else have loss of attraction to women but there whole lives they loved them up until now do not have attraction to men

@comedybreak1206

4 жыл бұрын

Love Yourself same

@Nicole-yx8ms

2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now - are you still experiencing this?

i’ve had this for like 5 years and it just won’t go away

@sradanadam9952

3 жыл бұрын

Yes i have no sex drive for 5 years

@idrisnouar2829

29 күн бұрын

How you doing now?

@govegan562

29 күн бұрын

@@idrisnouar2829 more or less the same...it got better for a little and then it got replaced with another ocd and rumination of thoughts...it’s like a prison i feel ill never escape, but just have to deal with it

You provide me more relief than my prayings to Virgin Mary.

Ive had HOCD for a while or at least i think so and I keep thinking of sex with the same sex or kissing the same sex and makes me want to vomit but when i think of kissing a girl or having sex with them I feel normal and relaxed but then the gay toughts come and mess it up I dont want to turn gay I have liked girls since i was 3 i remember my first crush was a girl her name was julie and it was in 2nf grade! Or in 6th grade me and this girl touched each other sexually and I loved it but now I have these horrible toughts and it feels like im paying for my sins i was always messed up towards gays i discriminated them now I have this. Is this HOCD?

@thetreasurer7531

4 жыл бұрын

yup

let me ask everyone who is scared of this, if a crocodile was chasing after you do you think you could start getting horny as fuck? HELL no, you would be trying to fucking survive. that's the same thing here, your scared as fuck because of these thoughts so there's no reason to be aroused. your brain responds to every fear the same, to it, your fear of bugs (or something else) and impending death in front of you are mostly the same. arousal and anxiety cannot coexist

@skylarmalone8380

9 ай бұрын

So how do I stop the anxiety from ruining things I love? I always feel immense anxiety even thinking about getting the thoughts when I don’t want them

But what if your intrusive thoughts are gone (disclaimer idk if I fully understand what an intrusive thought is basically I don’t get random thoughts that pop up and tell me hey you’re xyz after the initial thought that’s started the theme (I don’t want to trigger anyone so I’m not going to say what sexuality my ocd is telling me I am)) BUT whenever I fantasize only then do the thoughts come up and ask well why are you fantasizing when you’re xyz you’re kidding yourself you aren’t enjoying it anyway? Then I feel disheartened and basically just try to shift my focus onto anything else other than sexuality. So I don’t get any random thoughts that pop up and also my anxiety’s gone down so I feel almost normal BUT the only thing that hasn’t returned is my sexual attraction to guys idk sigh I really miss (and sometimes forget) what it feels like to genuinely feel attraction, lust, and all the other wonderful feelings towards a guy...I hate ocd it has to ruin everything of value to you

@KT-sl4js

4 жыл бұрын

purplefire5 Exposure therapy applies the same as it would during when you have fantasies, and when you don't. Allow yourself to have the thought and see it as irrelevant- just a thought that is automatically triggered when you fantasize. It will become irrelevant over time. As it pertains to sexual OCDs and sexual drive, Dr. Phillipson says not to focus on confirming whether or not you are still attracted to guys. Just go about life, don't check around guys, and your libido will return naturally. Basically forget about sexual attraction, so you don't force it, and the natural attraction will return. Much easier said than done but Pure O is beatable!! Best of luck ❤️

@Nicole-yx8ms

2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing?

Do you provide service to India

Whenever I am having sex my mind just gives me urge to say another person name whom I hate..i just feel so guilty and don't want to have sex after that because I feel I might say the name out loud because of the urge.. It gives me immense anxiety

I wish to talk to you..I am pure o sufferer ..as well..and we both had a Christian heritage...Chrissie hodges

@Mel2023.

6 жыл бұрын

slomo lex contact her, she is an amazing pure support therapist. I have been talking to her for about a year and it has worked been amazing!

@slomolex682

6 жыл бұрын

Melinda Hardy I did email her I believe it went through..unless I made a typo..how soon did she emailed you..is there another way to get in touch with..Chrissie ?

Does your libido come back???

@naveedshabir8896

3 жыл бұрын

Of course

@sradanadam9952

3 жыл бұрын

İt doesnt come back

@naveedshabir8896

3 жыл бұрын

@@sradanadam9952 troll alert

@sradanadam9952

3 жыл бұрын

@@naveedshabir8896 mine hasnt come back for 5 years. İm hopeless

@mekeliawilson1920

2 жыл бұрын

@@sradanadam9952 you took ocd medication and you're saying that the medication has prevented you from having a sex drive for over 5 years?