My wife always gets mad at everything and yesterday she left with our child and guess what? I've never had a better rest than today.. she is always angry and see the negative of things idk i try to lead her to Christ but she doesn't care about that...

My situation, I don't have a job, I just finished nursing school. (Note: a career that I just pursue because of my parents whim. I hate this career field with passion. But I just can't leave this undone. I am a veteran and spent 8 years just to acquire funds for this nursing school, and in the end, I don't like becoming a nurse). My wife is working with a high paying job. She's not driving and I take her to here job and spent at least an hour just to get to her work and back. On top of that, I do all the house errands, laundry, house cleaning, cooking, budgeting, and taking care of two dogs that she adopted. She constantly nagging at me to take care of my review, but at the same time, she's always petulant, and when I do things that l am supposed to do. She seems to raise her voice, and looking to a fight for no reason. I don't wanna be in this kind of marriage and I feel like a failure losing all 5hose years just to end up in a career that I despise. HELP!

@DexterGospelChurch

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, that sounds like a really rough situation. :( Of course, we can pray for you, and if you're in our area, I'd invite you to come in and talk about it - there are always things we can do and things God can do to change both ourselves and our situations. If you're not in our area, I'd strongly urge you (and if she's willing, your wife) to get in touch with the pastor of a Bible-living church where you are. He may be able to counsel you about some of this, or refer you to someone else who can help you sort through everything and make the best decisions. We all sometimes need someone who is outside of our situation to look at it objectively and give us good counsel.

@TSnowy23

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Dexter, interesting video. To Mr. Raiyu, she's easily angered because biologically they're hypergamous. That's why no matter how good you both are, if you're not the man of the house, if you're not constantly entertaining her, she will subconsiouly resent you. IF you want to try and make it work, try taking her to a place she really likes but hasn't been to in a long time, e.g. the ocean, or hiking up some mountains, something like that. IF she refuses or doesn't acknowledge your good deeds, then the marriage has ended, cause you can't work with someone who has no intent on fixing themselves. Her being the breadwinner means you'll get alimony and maybe the house. It's in her best interest to try, but if not, cut your loss and become a bachelor; and I say bachelor, cause you're unlikely to find a good wmn in this world, unless it's a dude in a dress LoL, but seriously, many guys have searched for the elusive good wmn, Eliot Rodger, George Sodini, so, don't even try, you'll flip your s... Finding a lady who respects you, and likes you for who you are, they don't exist, unless you go to a remote viliage in africa or asia.

@snowyowlz5992

Жыл бұрын

Could you go into being a Physician Assistant or branch into Nutrition? Consider remaining Single for life. BTW welcome home fellow Veteran. I’m Vietnam-era Army.

Her genuine desire is gone. “Communication” at this point will make things worse. Read rational male by rollo tomassi, esp chapter on genuine desire. But I recommend the whole series

I'm interested in your thoughts on Colossians 3:19 "Husbands love your wives, and do not be harsh with them" and the correlation to Proverbs 21:19. I think you addressed this by stating that bad husband behavior does not excuse bad wife behavior. However, I would be very interested in your input on how these two passages interact. I believe that it is imperative to understand both passages and what roles both husbands and wives have simultaneously and how the lack of fulfilling these roles can impact your husband's or wife's ability to fulfill their own role. My interpretation of Colossians 3:19 is that it is the responsibility of husbands to not cause your wife to be bitter. Men have a tendency to be harsh. In this context I believe that it is a husband's responsibility to guard his wife's feelings. It is his job to make sure his wife does not feel bitter with his leadership. If a husband is harsh with his leadership and causing bitterness in his wife he is not loving her well. Above all else you're supposed to put love. Husbands are supposed to be the epitome of the love Jesus has for the church. So a husband needs to live that out by not being harsh and not causing his wife bitterness in his leadership. So could this contentious and angry woman be actually caused by the lack of true leadership in her husband? Could this be caused by a husband's harshness with his wife? I am not saying that this excuses her contention and anger however I do believe it's important to understand the cause.

@DexterGospelChurch

Ай бұрын

Good question! Throughout Scripture, there is a balance. We are held responsible for the effects of our actions upon others, but we can never blame others for our own actions. In Christ, we are each capable of following His commands regardless of whether other people make it easy or not. Obviously, a marriage works best if both people are doing what is right; it's still better to have one person doing right than no one doing right. The Colossians passage gives neither husbands nor wives excuse; he can't say that he's failing to love his wife or is being harsh to her because she isn't loving to him, and it also gives her no grounds for failing in her role because he isn't executing his correctly. It's simply a command to the husbands, and they will be held accountable to God for their obedience.

What if your boyfriend of 8years sent you this- what am I supposed to do when I’m not even been given the opo to me a virtuous wife and source of peace ? I never wanted to life secularly but I never wanted to judge others for it or be ostracized for wanting to do this the right way (Gods way). I wasn’t harsh with him about my religious beliefs and values and now he is sending me this because I have been regularly losing my temper and wanting to break up over the past two years. I want nothing more than to be a virtuous godly loving wife to a virtuous godly loving husband- it’s what I know my heart was made to do- but I can’t seem to understand why I haven’t been given the opportunity to. It’s like I’ve know him since I was 16 years old and he is still deciding on if he wants to be with me. What do I do pastor. I need instruction

@DexterGospelChurch

3 ай бұрын

I'm really sorry you're going through this challenge; dating situations can be really hard and complex. There are a couple elements to this. The first is to humbly and graciously receive critique; if you know you're losing your temper, that's something you can work on and the Lord can help you with whether you're married, single, in a relationship, or not. Whether the person who points it out has good motives, bad -- it doesn't matter. The second is the relationship issue. That's a long time to date without a serious commitment. But those situations are too complex to usually get good advice on from a simple KZread comment. The best solution is for both of you to find a church that truly believes, preaches, and lives the Bible, and sit down with the pastor or a counselor there. Someone who can talk with both of you personally, honestly, and wisely can often be the greatest help. If you're in the Ann Arbor, Michigan area, I'd love to do that with you guys; if not, I hope you can find a similar church and the help you need there.