Sir m apni family m akela kmaane wala hu, mummi papa b nhi h, zomato delivery boy ka kam krta hu, due to social pressure muje apni bhn ki saadi m 20 lakh spend krne pde, meri jameen bik gyi h or ab b 5 lakh k karje me hun, byaj bhi nhi de pa rha m.din rat food delivery krta hu or maximum salary udhar utarne m chli jati h, m civil services aspirant tha but ab mera sb kuchh piche chhut gya.bhut pressure m aa chuka hu. Karja kbhi mt lena bhut gndi chij h

@sitaba936

5 ай бұрын

Bhai tension Mt lo jyda pressure bhi Mt lo God ji sb this kr denge don'twery

@Viky0414

5 ай бұрын

May the almighty bless you bro.. hope everything will be fine very soon..

@millind69

5 ай бұрын

Bhai Sab theek ho jayegaa bas khud ki health mt khraab hone dena🙌🏻

@editingamarnath3817

5 ай бұрын

Kyu kyaa aisa , kya Mila aapko bhaai

@codingiscreativity

5 ай бұрын

Kaunsa social pressure tha aapko ke Karj lekar behan ke shaadi karna pada ?

Simplicity is the best for everything including marriage too. At last u be in the mental peace, that's why .✨️

@ArjunSharma-yo5od

5 ай бұрын

Phle ki Tara mandir me shadi tik thi

@nitinchelani724

4 ай бұрын

Right

@lifegamerpro4033

4 ай бұрын

Jo kamzor hotay hain o aksar Dhan ko moh maya kahtay hain 😂... Yeah aag kab buje gee

@agarwalaankit2

4 ай бұрын

You are perfect ❤

this video should be viral on every social media for the sake of middle class and poor family 😢😢😢

If rich does simple marriage then it is called simplicity. If poor does simple marriage then it is called misery.

@ImRajdip

4 ай бұрын

Being poor is worst

@vlexical

4 ай бұрын

@@ImRajdip Yes, It is hard to born as a human, it is harder to born without ailments and it is extremely hard to born as rich guy.

शादी के लिए लडका- लड़की की आपसी सहमति और एक-दूसरे पर अटूट विश्वास सर्वोत्तम आदर्श है न कि तथाकथित अमीरी का दिखावा ।

@tannukumari4023

5 ай бұрын

It's damn true 👍

@upgk-vj4hm

3 ай бұрын

Aapne kaise kari shaadi ????😂

Lucky couple who married in COVID pandemic.

@sitaba936

5 ай бұрын

Mein bhi yhi chahti hu ki jb Mein sadi kru mere priy covid 19 ye especially gest bnakr Ay and my wedding very very simple no camera wala no dj wala ak DM simple😅😅😅

@Dd_12348

5 ай бұрын

Aisa kuch nhi tum kabhi bhi. Simple marriage kar sakte ho covid kyu chahiye tuze sab apne upar hai

I did engagement in temple without much spending .This step ,I have taken only to change mindset of my village people. Hope ,everyone is motivated to do something unique in this way.

@smitaliskape8867

5 ай бұрын

👍👍👍👍

@abhaysoni926

4 ай бұрын

Mai khud chahta hu meri shadi ekdm simple ho temple me.. lekin mere relative's aur ghr walo ko mere shadi me nachna hai koodna hai mza krna hai aur badhiya arrangements chahiye lekin sara paisa akele mere dad kharch kre phir koi Mtlb nhi hai aishi shadi ka mai nhi chahta mere dad apni mehnat ke paise shadiyo me befizul kharcha kre..

Aagr aap amir hai to maut se khelna aapka sauk hai... Aap gareeb hain to maut se khelna aapka majburi

A true message to the society ,,iss pressure se Kai paribaar barbad ho chuka hai ,, Thank you so much Sir 🙏🙏 aap iss tarah ki mudda ko saamne laye aur ham aspirants ko motivate kar rahe ki samaj me sudhar lane k liye steps liya jaa sakte hai👍

A very essential message to the society...lot of families are suffering from this problem....

Thank you so much sir for guiding everyone. It is a serious issue in the society, so many families stuck in debt trap due to costly marriages.

Thankyou so much sir for bringing this topic. It's a very important issue that should come to light and should be discussed. People need to have awareness on issues as such.

भारत में सामाजिक ,धार्मिक सुधार आंदोलन 2.0 की ज्वलंत आवश्यकता.......🤐🔥

सच्चाई दिखाने के लिए हृदय की गहराइयों से आभार आपका परमेश्वर सबको सद्बुद्धि प्रदान करें जिसे गरीब की लड़की के भी हाथ पीला हो सके

Great Sir! This is true, If we want to change the society, Firstly, We need to change the thinking of People's. And we start changing from our families

Costly marriage is not a sign of successful marriage other side of coin is that India have largest number of domestic violence cases and fastly increasing divorce so, In my thoughts convergence of ideas and thoughts and understanding must become the centre of marriage.

@smilehappyg9654

5 ай бұрын

Yes

@gurkiransandhu8832

5 ай бұрын

Absolutely right 👍 I was about to say this. Moreover people who are in the court for divorce, no oneof those guests of marriage are with them. Nobody.

This issue was highlighted by Kunal Shah, founder of CRED many years ago... Although it's a very personal choice, but it would be really great, if we could shift our perspective towards luxury weddings and show off and focus on more important things in life... And it can be reduced if we stop copying Bollywood actors and their extravagant and bad habits...

@abhaysoni926

4 ай бұрын

Sare relative's family members ko nachna hai koodna hai mza krna hai shadi me agar paise na kharcha kro shadi me toh kanjoos bolenge kya kre btao.. mai khud nhi chahta ki meri shadi me mere dad befizul ka Paisa kharcha kre lekin mere sare relative's mere shadi ka wait kr rhe mze krne ke liye .. mza unko lena hai nachna hai baraat me lekin sara kharcha mere mom dad mujhe krna padega jo mai krna nhi chahta un paiso ko befizul ke decoration expensive marriage halls ki jagah simply mai ek mandir me krlu usme zyada Khush hu lekin society hi aishi hai ki agar shadiyo me grand party type na arrangement rkho toh kanjoos pta nhi kya kya bolne lgte hai even khud ke relatives tak yhi bolne lgenge ki paisa bcha rha hai kharcha nhi krna chahta

A very powerful message sir...u should make another video taht inexpensive marriage are not taboo.. salute

@riscnx

5 ай бұрын

Well it is. I mean if someone can not spend at least Rs25L on marriage without any debt or burden, then he is unlikely raise kids with decent standards in future.

@kdentertainment9706

5 ай бұрын

​@@riscnxyou didn't get the point The main point of this video is that people do marriage for show off purpose only People spend so much money on useless stuffs like Pre-wedding shoots, destination weddings & honeymoon trips

@riscnx

5 ай бұрын

@@kdentertainment9706 Yaar Ab Wo to generic hai. Not specific to marriage. Jo Ladkiya Apne Shadiyo Me Pagalo Ki Tarha Kharch Karwati Hai, Wo Shadi Ke Pehele Aur Baad Me Bhi Karwati Hai.

@psitiveeliver4303

4 ай бұрын

​@@riscnx kyuki wo berojgar h khud 😂 saxh yhi h

@subhrajitm94

4 ай бұрын

​@@riscnxwho says that? It's my choice whether i want to spend money and feed people whom I don't know. How can it be a taboo?

Shadi jo ek bot hee personl cheej honi chahye thii...srf society se forml permission pane k liye maa baap bchpn se hee books ki ahmiyat sikhane se jyaye shadi ki ahimyat sikhane me lg jate hai... This is so harsh truth

@FactsCountdown

4 ай бұрын

We live in complete corrupt and bullshit system

M v costly marriage k against hun bcoz shadi k baad nobody cares about that family ki wo financial problem face kr rahe h karj me h ya or koi pareshani h... And thank you sumit sir ye topic hum youth tak pahuchane k liye kiu ki us society ka hissa to hum v h humari soch badlegi to society ki soch ko v gradually change kiya ja sakta h

Instead of spending so much on make up, dresses and lavish dinner just for one night... I would rather like to spend on myself and family and invest in my financial growth. Normalising these standards are beyond stupidity. Normal and simple weddings should more recognised and appreciated

@vineelakaja3138

4 ай бұрын

100% true

@nikitafernandes461

4 ай бұрын

True 💯💯 weddings should not be too show off it should be simple

Sir thank you so much for raising this issue.. सब ने मिल के रिश्तों की बोली लगाई है भुगतना तो पड़ेगा सबको। इंसान पैसों के पीछे पागल हो गया है।

Every one need to promote this type of ideas..to our society ❤❤

Aise mudde par hum aspirant ko motivate karne ke liye thank you so much ❤❤❤

बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद कि आपने इस मुद्दे पर बात की, यहां तो किसी को यह दिख ही नही रहा है सब के सब भेड़ चाल में चल रहे हैं।

Thankyou so much sir iss issue ko itne ache se highlight karne ke liye

सर ,श्रीमान ..महोदय आपके चरण स्पर्श करने को दिल चाहा रहा है.. केंसर है ये समाज का..सर जिस पर आपने अतिविशिष्ट विवेचना की है, 50,000 + students ne abhi तक देखा है ये वीडियो मात्र 9 घंटेमें..शायदा अब बदलाव आए... बहुत बुरी दुर्दशा है लोगों की.....

@SS-qs5vq

4 ай бұрын

Ekdam sahi kaha .....Sumit sir is the best we have....❤

Salute aapne aisi baat uthayi .....sachme sir ji .....

Ye social pressure wali baat hr middle class bnda feel kar rha hoga ❤ is video ko dekhne k baad 😮 tnq sir

And thanku sir ek or new thought develop or right face show krne k liye You are the great mentor for everyone ❤❤

Absolute important and very serious topic for every family...

Absolutely sir hum sabko bhi apni or apni family ko samjhana hoga ki yeh bahut serious decision hai thanks sir ji

यह होते कौन है society वाले, इनको दूसरों की जिंदगी में दखल दिए बिना चैन नहीं पड़ता । मतलब पढ़ाई में दखल, करियर में दखल, family में दखल, financial management में दखल......

@JustNews-or3zp

3 ай бұрын

Tum bhi toh society ka hisa ho

It's a huge social pressure. Very difficult to understand because apart from all desire is more important than needs...

Thank you sir 😇🥰🥰🙏🙏🙏 aaise section lete rahiye bahut achha knowledge dete hai hamare life me iska use karenge 😊😊❤❤🙏🙏🙏

Sir aap ne mere mn ki baat kah di pr kitni buri baat hai ki log fir bhi nhi samjhenge that how serious is this problem.... Ham sabhi ko khud se promise karna chahiye ki hmare ghr me jitni shadi hogi un sabhi shadi me hm sir ki baat ka dhyaan rakhe....

This is extremely true ❤

Nice information sir.. It is reality...As youth, we should raise our voice against this ostentatious culture... Thank u sir... You hv great thought sir🙏🙏👍👍

Gajabb k topic pe gajab bole ho sir... much needed info for ppl who plan weddings like lagan, shagan, anguthi, etc etc etc

Thankyou so much sir for aware us... because simplicity is royalty itself in everything...and ye bhi batane ke liye ki humko ek as civil servant kaise reform karna chahiye.....again thank you sir🙏🙏

Thank you so much Sir Sir it is clear that everything is depend on show of in community especially the main problem is coming from social media platform.

Thankyou so much for providing this type video to aware mass society 🙏🙏🙏

बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद।कास अमीरों के समझ में यह बात आ जाती ।जो लोग अपने धनवान होने का प्रदर्शन करते हैं। बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद ❤❤

Sir, this message is really good and logical. But what society has developed the norm of expensive wedding culture, it is very difficult to change. We have to take stand for accepting simple marriages.

@kshitijverma25

5 ай бұрын

Start by your marriage❤

I salute Sumit sir ❤️🙏

Super session sir🎉❤ Really eye opening video.

That's amazing information...sir please provide more videos on ...such topics...so everyone aware

🙏🏻 sir, and Team. I completely agree on this conclusion.

Yah Video apne App me ek initiative hai , Dhanyawad Sir I hope ki log ki log apne khud k Management ke hisab se kuch kre n ki dusro ko dek ke

Simple living high thinking... save that money for your future and stay happy together and save also for your future child and parents also

Respect for you sir .... thanks

भारत में तलाक भी बहुत तेज बढ रहे हैं ।

@RajeshSrivastava-fr7qz

5 ай бұрын

पहले शादी करके करोड़ों लूटाओ फिर तलाक देकर Alimony देकर पीछा छुड़ाओ फिर Single life का मजा लेते हुए घर परिवार रिश्ते नातो विवाह संस्था को बेकार outdated बताओ

Sir aapke ye video Dil ko chhu gayi

This is a real issue in our society. 🙏👏

Highly analytical information Thanks team only IAS

Beautifully covered❤

Sir .. Bahut pyari videos h ... Nikkah Ko Jitni sadgi se karo wo utni hi pyari aur khubsurat lagti hai l Aj samjh me aya ki Social Pressor kya hota hai l Social Pressor ka Sikar Meaddile class family aur Garib Family Humesh hoti hai l Sab se pahle Hume Apni zingi me ye badlaw lana chahiye ki hume dekh kar aur Dusaro ko me badlaw ana chahiye aur samaj Ko Behtar aaina dikhana chahiye l tavi Humara desh v behtar Hoga l

Sir aapki soch bhut aachi hai I agree with you 🙏🥰♥️

Absolutely right sir ...i tried to talk about this to my friends ...who wants big fat wedding ....all credit goes to social status ,showbusiness ,nd bollywood influence ... doesn't matter that marriage breaks in several years .,true nature of love and respect is no longer exist ...

@normybaaadie7173

5 ай бұрын

​@@NandanSingh-my5voHe is worried because he cares about his friend. If you have enough money to spend than go on do it with happiness but the problem arises when the financial condition is not that great and yet an individual goes for a huge wedding and for what reason? To showcase society and to seek validation. That's wrong on so many levels that the person has to do these things unwillingly cuz he too knows at last he is the one who will be in debt and can go to extreme conditions(homeless). And if you r happy doing an big fat wedding even if you have to borrow money than i can't imagine level of your unconsciousness. God bless.

Sumit sir realy great this vdo .i also thinking always bt i have no words how explaining...bt apne bohot achha smjaya❤❤❤❤

I salute you Sir .MERI SOCHA BHI YAHI HAI

बहुत अच्छा मुद्दे पर चर्चा की आप ने सर।

Fabulous And very sadful for all Indians Is Desh me Devi Lakshmi or Annapurna ki Pooja ki jaati hai Or ek trf hum Na paison ki izzat kr rhe hai or nahi khane ki 😢 It's worst reality of the India.

बहुत ही शानदार एनालिसिस सर ❣️❣️💐💐

Thank you so much sumit sir....

I want Goverment to bring a bill to stop dowry practice not only government Employee but also simple people..

@murksha

5 ай бұрын

😂

@itsakingfisher4354

5 ай бұрын

Dowry is illegal now

@anantsoren6143

5 ай бұрын

जब मैंने ज्वॉइन किया तो एफिडिफिड देना पढ़ा दहेज नहीं लेने का। वैसे भी हमलोगो में दहेज डिमांड का कोई कल्चर नहीं है।

@IDIOTPANDA...

5 ай бұрын

And also to stop alimony instead that victim can take some money to learn some practical job skills...

@mobilesuniverse

5 ай бұрын

Ladkiyo ko bhi ladke ki income, salary aur property puch kar shadi karna bhi crime list me add kr Dena chaiye.

शादियां जितनी भव्य हो रही है रिश्ते उतने ही कमजोर हो रहे। रियल में शादी भव्य होगी जब एक दूसरे को समझा जाए। भारत के प्राचीन इतिहास में जो भी गिफ्ट शादी में दिया जाता था, वो सब लड़की वाले अपनी मर्जी से देते थे!

Aap ke jaise hi teachers is shaadi ke culture ko promote krte hn . For e. g Aapke partner Alakh Pandey Sir.

Very powerful message 🎉

Great Thinking❤

sir aap ne meri soch badal di thank u

Great sumit sir.. Ek dm dil ki baat kar di aapne❤ Thank you for raising this type of issues

Mere vichar bhi yahi hai ....thank you so much iss bohot topic pe video banane ke liye .

Very important video... Have shared as much as I can

आपका जो विचार है सर वह विचार बेरा भी है आप सही हैं सर आपने जो जानकरी दी वह बिल्कुल सही और सौ प्रतिशत सही है और यह सब हमारे समाज को विचार को अपने अंदर अपने अंदर लाना चाहिए

Big fat wedding is todays harsh reality and court marriages are seen as derogatory but change can be brought on personal basis sir so we all should take oath neither to take nor to give dowry no matter we are rich or poor and direct that money for a better deed

@kshitijverma25

5 ай бұрын

Correct I am against dowry but my family giving dahej for my cousin sister marriage

i m very lucky to have in such a genorus and educated family of bihar . mere bhaiya ki shadi gonna happen in march 2024 wo delhi me 25 k ki teacher ki job krte h but still wo meri hone wali bhabhi se dowry ki koi demand nahi ki im so proud .

@awwfluffballs7070

5 ай бұрын

😂😂😂25k ki job 🤣 ye kya mazak hai isse jyada expenses to mere dogs aur horses ke ho jate hai monthly aur dowry lo ya na lo agar divorce hua to alimony to deni padegi hi 😜😂

@awwfluffballs7070

5 ай бұрын

@ScintillatingX 😆😆 vo to naseeb ki baat hai yaar but dowry na lene se kya fayda hai ❓❓ divorce agar hua to alimony to deni hi padti hai

@awwfluffballs7070

5 ай бұрын

@ScintillatingX aajkal ki ladkio ke dimag kharab ho gye hai ya to pati inki unglio par nache warna false allegations laga ke andar karwa do yahi ho rha hai har jagah

@awwfluffballs7070

5 ай бұрын

@ScintillatingX ladkiyo aur unke gharwalo ne part time business nikal lia hai aajkal shadi karo divorce lo aur alimony ke paise se moz karo

@awwfluffballs7070

5 ай бұрын

@ScintillatingX mai to shaadi karunga hi nhi vaise kyuki mujhe meri property aur paise me se ik rs bhi kisi ladki ko nhi Dena Aram se akele jee ke udaunga maze karunga 🤣🤣

Thank you sir for being with us 🙏

Thank you sir aapne bahut achcha explain kiya😊😊😊😊😊😊

Thank you so much sir

Finally seen you sir. Your voice is awesome

Thank you sir ❤.. Hands up

Thank you sir😊😊. You open my eyes😮

Sir u r my favourite....well said sir

Very important video, sir. Loved it.

Sir I'm agree this topic and I follow this concept in our weeding after becoming an IAS officer you are the best and your idea like ka weapon in our society thank you so much for this new topic 🙏

Great info thank you sir

❤kafi deep tak gaye hai ap, nice

Court marriage is the best and any marriage that organised in a temple, that's also good

फैशन ऊपर से नीचे की तरफ जाता है ये simple बात समझने में देश को दिक्कत है सबसे जरूरी है जिसके पास है उसको रोकना

Good afternoonnoon sir and your thoughts are absolutely right...

Sir You are a Great Soul 🙏🏻

Good job sir thank you ❤

A great video! Thank you Sir!

Nice thought, this types of thought really helps in development of India ❤❤❤❤

Wow such a humble person

Sir aapka is topic par Jo bat kahi Hai wah ekdam Sahi hai is video se badlav AA sakta Hai hamare Gujarat me bhi esa Hi hai

Sir a day is incomplete without ur session

Sbse pahle to ye sun kr bahut dukh hota hai ki smaj kesi Rasta chun rhe h jisase log khush hone ka dikhawa krte h pr oo khus nhi rahte

Its harsh reality of our society sir..people showing off like anything.. i have seen this too closely in my village, our parents s income in Haryana like rural villages,is just through small landholdings which is hardly 3 to 4 lakh annual but in marriage ,middle class families have to take loan of min. 20 to 30 lakh for marriages which burdened them their whole life and due to pressure of lavish spending plus dowry ,girl child and her parents feels a mental pressure throughout their life,dowry is like birth right of groom s family,they literally demand like our boy is earning 1lakh monthly so you have to give dowry minimum of 60 lakh ,otherwise dowry is decided through acre of landholdings that groom possess, like 1lakh dowry per acre .a girl has to carry this burden as long as she is not be able to financial independent..so literally it is a big issue which is not talked about by anyone.This cycle of lavish show-off wedding should end by boy or girl themselves,if they are so mature to be married off then this maturity should also be shown by them for a simple wedding pledge ,no one else will come and stop it,govt can only make acts but responsibility lies on both girls and boys to stop this.And thanku sir for highlighting this hidden but sensitive issue in our society.