Minimalism isn't about throwing out your stuff. It's about realizing most of the stuff advertised to you is for stuff you don't need. Only get what you really need, and don't buy things you don't. Buy quality that will last a long time. I have had one sofa etc for 30 yrs and it will last probably 20-30 more.

@notmebutyou8350

3 жыл бұрын

Great comment, and I couldn't agree more. I refuse to buy any more crap I don't need. I'm in the process of decluttering now, and it is such a great feeling to get rid of "stuff."

@justrenee2640

3 жыл бұрын

It’s just how old money tends to live

@lesliethomas8983

3 жыл бұрын

Would you mind telling me the brand of couch? Thank you. I would love a good quality couch

@jonnarogers1123

3 жыл бұрын

@@lesliethomas8983 me, too! Or is it worth having a couch forever?

@urbansurvivor360

3 жыл бұрын

I seriously need to.bear this in mind. I'm a extreme declutterer but also I have a bit of a buying addiction it doesnt matter if Its 10p but I must buy things. I dont use credit cards or anything so it's well.within my means. Thankgod I've just began selling on ebay. I also buy second hand on ebay now or upcycled if I need furniture. I'm.also someone that suffers from fairly extreme mood changes and style changes. I switch over night it's so difficult haa.

There are so many youtubers that are constantly clearing out their closets for the sake of "minimalism" but then the next video will be a shopping haul

@lilysgram5886

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@kuhelss

3 жыл бұрын

Consumerism causes death to animals and plants 😥

@notmebutyou8350

3 жыл бұрын

😀😀😀😀

@hotrox2112

3 жыл бұрын

- shop - buy - consume - die -

@tfpp1

3 жыл бұрын

Are they by the same youtuber?

I started minimalism by changing habits. I changed my job, my schedule, my shopping habits & limiting what was coming into my home. Then I started decluttering areas one at a time. I started with my closet because that was easy for me. I then did the rest of my bedroom. Then moved outward to other rooms. I have vigilantly protected the spaces once complete to make sure they stay decluttered & organized. I also did a no-buy 2019, a low-buy 2020 and am doing a no-buy 2021. I find this helps me really focus on how I am living, what I am enjoying and what I want more/less of in my life. Now when a space feels "wrong" to me, I tidy it and take a picture. I then look at the picture to identify what it is about the space that bothers me. It gives me a degree of seperation from the items.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, thanks for sharing your process! That's incredibly helpful and inspiring! I like your strategies!

@lunakat5763

3 жыл бұрын

Ritalyn I am so impressed that you did low buy, no buy. That is very hard for me even to do one month,but I think my problem may be depression.

@juliannehunter495

3 жыл бұрын

I love the word and idea of "protected" here.

@supercrazydesi

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your process. I must try this.

@tonypro3007

3 жыл бұрын

Going to try this whole method! Thank you for sharing.

Instead of aiming for "minimalism" I'm going to strive for "contentment-ism" 😉thanks to what you've said here at the end!

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Love this! Contentment-ism!

@rebeccaparsons2482

3 жыл бұрын

I love this. Since we started decluttering more (I definitely can't claim to be a minimalist yet) we have truly come to appreciate our home. Before, I was always thinking "I need more storage" or "I want to renovate" but now I just love it how it is! Gratitude is always the best attitude

@deirdreocarroll1975

3 жыл бұрын

@Marie Caldwell love it

@paperchaser_number_one

3 жыл бұрын

@@ElinLesser Contentment-ism is gaining happiness thanks to shopping ultra-abundance.

@journeyofatulip467

2 жыл бұрын

Brilliant

I'm disabled and minimalism helps me to look after my apartment better. Plus I like the way it feels 😌.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

That's awesome! Thanks for sharing. :)

@jennifermuchow2728

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed! I'm legally blind and have been trying to declutter and downsize for a few years. Clear pathways, less stuff and a home for everything makes life simpler and safer and helps me stay independent. I still love art, home decor and cozy rooms, but find I can have all that on a smaller scale with just as much pleasure and meaning.

@adrianasb4213

3 жыл бұрын

is comfortable amd chic

@bitrudder3792

3 жыл бұрын

@@jennifermuchow2728 - The habit of creating clear pathways through your home, to your windows, around your furniture… It not only creates a safer home, but it creates a Home that feels more spacious and is easier to clean. And I think it is a lot easier to say no to shopping by beginning with This end in mind: safe, spacious, easy to clean.

@virginiasoskin9082

3 жыл бұрын

I am somewhat limited mobility wise too. With less clutter, fewer items on display, you can clean SO much faster and you don't fall over, trip on, spill, knock over, or otherwise have "fights" with all your stuff. I also like the way more minimalism feels. Also minimalism is a philosophy and one is never "finished with" your stuff, nor do you finally "arrive at" a minimalist home. It is ongoing, so it is a habit and practice. If you bring one new shirt home, you let another go to donate or trash. That way you are never again going to be cluttering. But now and then an area overtakes you, so you clean out that closet shelf or that drawer or that shoe rack.

I started down the path of minimalism before I even knew there was an actual name for it. My husband and I lost both of our parents close together and we had the unenviable task of cleaning out 2 packed houses along with assorted storage sheds and work shops. It took months and was just so overwhelming on top of the grief. One day we came home with boxes and boxes of our parents “stuff” and it hit me that I was going to leave my children in the same situation if I didn’t change drastically. We started giving away to family, friends and charities. I have some sentimental things that I just can’t part with but my children will not have to deal with a mess when I’m gone.

@jumbalayaismisspeells3363

3 жыл бұрын

I've been through the same situation except instead of bringing stuff home, when we got home, my husband and I went through and got rid of a bunch of stuff. We cleaned out our house. Our kids weren't too happy with us. We had gotten rid of a bunch of their toys and now that they are grown, they still remind us. 😊 But when you go through the trauma of losing those close to you and then having to go through their piles, it changes your mindset. That was many years ago, and I'm still not a minimalist, but I do keep the question in mind of what am I leaving my family to have to deal with?

@kimhr1069

3 жыл бұрын

I have this problem to look forward to. I love my mom more than anything and she deserves to have whatever she wants. However she has a lot of stuff. She has sentimental items from at least 3 generations on her side of my family alone. For example, she can't bear to part with the dishes that were used when she was growing up, but she doesn't use them now. Also, she collects anything that she thinks she will use. I recently started my own minimalism journey and have tried talking to her about it, but it doesn't seem to be working. 😕

@jumbalayaismisspeells3363

3 жыл бұрын

@@kimhr1069 No. It probably won't work. Not only does it most likely seem a huge task, she likes her stuff and thinks she will miss it. She also probably doesn't want to see it go to just anybody, but wants to keep it in the family. When we cleaned out my dad's house, my siblings came home for the funeral. First, we decided on which items should be sold either at auction or privately - the house at auction, a valuable collection privately - and then I got each of us a different color of masking tape and starting with the oldest we took turns putting tape on anything we wanted. If someone was done before everyone else and didn't want more, that was fine; if someone wanted to keep going and take more, that was fine too. Everything that was left we sold at the auction with the house. If someone wants to take on the task of selling individual items separately, they will bring more money, but for us, we just wanted to be done, so we chose an auction. I hope you have a long time left with your mom, and when the time does come, I hope this helps.

@kimhr1069

3 жыл бұрын

@@jumbalayaismisspeells3363 Thank you for the great information and sweet thoughts. I hope I have a very long time with my mom, too, before I ever have to use your incredibly well thought out and organized ideas.

@mrsducky3428

3 жыл бұрын

When my dad died, mom bought a storage shed for all his stuff. When my mom died, each sibling took what they wanted, we took 5 trips to the dump, we held 3 separate estate sales, the veterans thrift store took 7 truck and trailer loads, and I still brought home enough stuff to fill a 38' box trailer!!! This is something I do not want to pass onto my kid. But here it is, 12 years later, & I'm still going through the stuff.

Me and my husband had to start minimalism. There was one time he was like I DONT HAVE SHIRTS TO WEAR! I counted all his shirts that night and counted 74 shirts and 8 pants. I told him afterwards, he was very disappointed with himself. We started to sort out his clothes, sold some and then donated most. Now he has 15 shirts and is very happy with it. He gets to wear all of them in 2 weeks (just in time for laundry) and we have so much closet space! IT is the way to go

@hotrox2112

3 жыл бұрын

Shame...is a hellava tool...?

@virginiasoskin9082

3 жыл бұрын

It's like kids with too many toys. Too many toys causes the child to be UNABLE to settle down with one or two toys and play more deeply. If the child has five favorite sets of toys, say, Legos, matchbox cars, Lincoln logs, small doll house and little toy animals, he can be quite content for days on end. Add 20 computer games, six more Lego sets, 12 jigsaw puzzles and 25 board games and you have children who can't pick from all those choices, and when they finally DO pick they play a little bit, then are distracted by another toy and soon there are toy sets strewn all over the floor. Ask your child which five toys are his favorites and then slowly whittle down the ones he just never plays with. Instead of making this feel punitive, as if you are punishing them by taking away toys, look at it like a good deed, giving away the toys he doesn't really care about to kids who have nothing by donating to Goodwill or a second hand shop or church garage sale. Introduce the idea of sharing and charitable choices early in their lives. Most American kids have WAY too many toys, especially stuffed animals which just gather dust, leading to dust mite allergies. If a child has a lovey animal and two others that is sufficient. Launder all the other ones that have never been played with and donate them to a battered women's shelter. Hospitals also sometimes use them for kids who come into the ER with no lovey.

@elizabetharaujo1323

3 жыл бұрын

So relatable. Once you're able to see what you WANT to wear then you can build your time around it

@user-fk5jk9cn1c

2 жыл бұрын

I am sad to read about the disappointment. That should never be the goal. But, yes, when you can't see the few items you enjoy or love amongst the clutter, it's depressing. Clarifying what you really love, you get a better sense of identity and self, too. Because you get clear on what you need and what you don't, what serves you and what doesn't.

@crystalstar927

2 жыл бұрын

YES

Biggest tip from me🌿: Put everything you don't use daily/weekly in a box, hide it from yourself and take the things you miss from the box and find places for them. The rest are usually meaningless or can be reused, remade, donated or recycled.

@bitrudder3792

3 жыл бұрын

Linnea Mai - I know someone in the vintage resale business and sometimes she picks through massive piles of clothing at a warehouse to find those special things hidden in the mess. I’ve never been one to go shopping for clothes just to go shopping for clothes. I have more than I need you to body size change, but I have also donated a lot especially after hurricanes and floods. But now I realize that those leftover clothing pieces doubt always find a Home if no one wants to buy them. I do some sewing so… I will be ramping up my skills on knitted fabrics in particular by making things out of clothes that I don’t think anyone else will want to wear. In a worst-case scenario, I can at least make furoshiki, Cloth fabric pieces, hemmed, used for reusable gift wrapping. I wish I had done it years ago, because we no longer do a lot of giftgiving… Mainly because people don’t need more junk in their lives. So no automatic giftgiving at any time. It happens when it happens, when we are inspired by a need for an interest.

@Lindakaydevoe6

3 жыл бұрын

Great tip

@biblebeliever4570

3 жыл бұрын

I boxed nicnacks and put them away, months later took them out and donated what i really didnt want anymore. I continue to do this to declutter. This way i wont be mad at myself for giving away anything or regretting it. It gives me time to decide.

@Totalwellnessntravel

3 жыл бұрын

Great idea, thanks.

@staceykersting705

2 жыл бұрын

Yes...boxing stuff up works for me...even seasonal clothing. I look forward to opening the 'summer' clothes box, then wonder why I even hung onto most of it. I should tackle my kitchen again...too many cute cups and glasses!

every one starts out as a minimalist when they leave high school and get their first apartment. it is called being poor. but often people look back on their lives when they grow older and remember that that was often the happiest most freeing time of their lives. they did not have much but they felt happy.

@nicolebonnell

3 жыл бұрын

lol i needed this- i moved out a couple months ago & brought nothing with me except my bed, dresser, and bookshelf & i keep watching these videos like “i don’t have anything to throw out yet” 😂😂 it’s nice to see how open everything is in this little basement suite, though!

@sugarsugar475

3 жыл бұрын

Nailed it

@tomlambert915

3 жыл бұрын

exactly. I'm laughing at these people that think they just had an epiphany moment and figured out the secret of the universe.

@juliawashburn675

3 жыл бұрын

Out biggest problem is we buy stuff we don't actually need, either because it looked cute, it was on sale or it is the latest and greatest shinieest model... if we just stop buying stuff we don't actually need, we will all be such better shape...

@zakosist

2 жыл бұрын

I never lived in a minimalist home because I already had lots of stuff to bring into that apartment, majority were things I either have gotten as a gift or my mom bought to me, and maybe a little I bought on my own (but naturally didn't buy a lot of stuff myself, as I didn't have my own account and control of those money). When I think of it, my apartment was quite empty in the very beginning when I was still in the process of moving, but that actually made me feel uncomfortable (a lot) in the space and things got much better once I got a few things in and some color. I dont think I prefer any extremely minimalist look. But minimalism as a lifestyle is good for reducing your spending, both saving money and reducing impact on the envirorment

I’m in the process of getting rid of about 98% of my belongings. The only way for me to do this is moving and super downsizing due to empty nest, poverty and disability. It’s so liberating!! I feel so much joy to give away items that are useful to some one else. I’m keeping a few treasures and will be setting up a minimalist bedroom. My soon to be roommate is very minimalist. It’s exciting.

@NikkiFarmacy

Жыл бұрын

How’s the move? How was your declutterinf?

Back when I did FB I joined a minimalist group, but these folks seemed so hung up on numbers of items, near empty closets, "capsule wardrobe"... Some were throwing out, or actually burning perfectly good items. To me this was pathological, not minimalism. Never about numbers; it's about simplicity and not letting possessions possess you. Buying that new shirt may give a temporary rush, but you'll only wear one at a time 🙂

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

interesting insights!!! Thanks for sharing.

@av201

3 жыл бұрын

Valerie, that group sounds bizarre. Throwing away or burning items that could be donated to the needy seems wasteful.

@CastledarkDweller27

2 жыл бұрын

@@av201 bloody oath. thats disgraceful.

@RocketVet

2 жыл бұрын

That exactly my experience with FB minimalist groups as well. I used to run a blog as well but have since stopped blogging, left those groups. etc. I focus on my own life and how I want to live without any worry about being a "good minimalist" or anything of that stuff. Traded "Minimalism" for "minimalism".

@ritastutler1470

Жыл бұрын

I agree..won't watch people like that..probably items they have to rebuy

i think the hardest thing about minimalism is tackling the mindset that comes from poverty. when you're poor it's harder to let go of something because you have no idea if you'll ever have the money to buy it again if you ever find yourself needing it. we don't always get nice things so we hold on a little too tightly to the things we do have. i also think its easier for someone feel justified being a hoarder when a lot of things were free/on sale. even if you find yourself coming into some money its hard to shake that scarcity mindset. untreated anxiety, depression, and other mental illnesses add a lot to this as well

@jackiehamilton2738

2 жыл бұрын

That is probably the most important factor in this. A lot of these online "minimalists" obviously have a high enough income to replace things if they need them. A lot of people won't have that flexibility.

@gristen

2 жыл бұрын

@@jackiehamilton2738 yea for sure. plus they have the money to invest up front in higher quality items that wont need frequent replacement. alot of us have to just settle with what we can afford which often means things that will eventually fall apart on us

@LampWaters

2 ай бұрын

For real. Had struggled for a long time and even had a disease that eventually took me out of working. One income family and we decided to homeschool. My homeschool is minimalist but that actually means I have a full library of books and we use paper, pencil and books and every kids uses the same books eventually, I even print my own books. But minimalist in this area for us means packed bookshelves. I spend thousands less than my friends who homeschool and every year they might only have a stack of workbooks per kid and not need all the storage we do. But I own everything k-12 in all subjects and reusable. For years my weight changed from my illness and I had bags and bags if clothes because I got rid of Nothing because I had no money for clothes. I take hand me downs and mostly wore clothes from my grandmother. Ppl made fun of me at 30 dressed like a grandma but really I didn't care I had nice skirts for free that didn't fall off me. I'm learning to let go of things I really don't need and find my stability more in my marriage than in things I cling to. We talk of downsizing but the books are a none negotiable

“I’m not a perfect minimalist yet.” There’s no such thing as a perfect minimalist. Minimalism is a philosophy and a concept that is ever evolving.

@anashappydays

3 жыл бұрын

So true 👌

@DrLewsyorkies

3 жыл бұрын

It’s absolute always evolving. Over the years, I have practice this philosophy. It’s never really a constant practice. And things change - your ideas about what makes you happy. ❤️👍🏽

@lynnbegley9174

3 жыл бұрын

Decluttering comes from Feng Shui its one aspect of it . Simplifying and organizing to have less "yin" which can create illness and more "yang " energy in ones space . Gives you more energy or upliftment . That its only one aspect . is think minimalists are lazy ones who want to decluttering but not want to understand Fung Shui which is an entire system of placement , colors , lie lines of energy movement that changes. Nasa conducted a study proving 85% based on science Feng Shui works . Its symbolic what we see we program into our brain subconsciously - art , colors items and their representation to us ; as well as how they energy of the planet is moving ... Not too mention decluttering . But I agree its much better to focus on what you do love , want and can use rather then having items that are u need unloved just sitting around . I think in terms of what I want to create in my home , what I love... I want surrounding me and giving myself permission to have that n let go of the rest

@sandysmom100

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness, I can relate so much to exactly what you're saying .But now I've changed my mindset .I've donated now 60 - 70 % of my clothing and knick knacks ect. ...Yes ! Yes! Yes ! You're 100% correct !

@sandysmom100

3 жыл бұрын

I have more then 30 % in my wardrobe, I buy with more intentionality now.

I totally had to tell my neighbors and family “I can’t take any free gifts right now, I’m decluttering for my mental health!” Sometimes people don’t get it, and they kept trying to give me stuff they thought I needed. I just needed them to understand that my cup runneth over already. I don’t want anymore!✌️😄

@craftyhobbit7623

9 ай бұрын

We had a friend who kept giving us stuff a couple of years ago which neither of us really wanted. In addition to not wanting it because you have enough already, it's usually (in my opinion), ugly stuff. I feel bad for rejecting it in some ways because it's nice to give folks stuff but it's only a burden if people don't want it or don't like it. Many years ago we had a neighbour give us a lawn mower on the basis that they didn't have room for it at their house and she wouldn't listen to me when I told her we didn't have room for it either (at the time we were in a flat which only really has two rooms - a bedroom and a living room combined kitchen, in addition to the bathroom and a narrow hallway. We ended up leaving it in the garden because I got fed up of moving it when I wanted to shower and it got stolen. Then there are others who dump unwanted furniture on you - they would be better donating it to a charity if they want to get rid of stuff than offloading it on friends and neighbours.

Love this idea! I fell in love with minimalism in 2011, with 5 kids and lots of chaos! I had to give myself permission to move slow with thoughtfulness and intention. One day I would take everything of ONE shelf of my book case, and evaluate each item. Some things I returned to the shelf, or re-homed, or donated. But that one shelf felt beautiful to me when I was finished. I did that for each individual surface in my house over time. Then, one drawer at a time, then one box at a time. Decluttering can be emotional and exhausting, so allow yourself small victories!!! They add up! ❤

@melissakalloway1916

2 жыл бұрын

True.

@auroraborealis13579

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. It can feel so overwhelming.

@6hZCBpMy

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your comment!

When my uncle died years ago. The whole family had to clear out his house. He had boxes stacked to the roof in his two room house. He had only enough cleared for his bed. It took us a whole weekend with more than 15 family members. I remember my other uncle saying they had no idea he had all this stuff in his house. I noticed all the un opened packages of books and anything else. I took a lot of books and read them. My brother took the old records and sold them. Lots of new clothes my uncle never wore. I thought of how much money he spent on things he never got to use. Till this day I remind my older relatives to start clearing out there belongings. It sounds mean though and I try to say it in a way that remember when we had to clear out uncle's house several years ago. It stays with you when you have to go through all those boxes of their belongings and sadly the life they just boxed up and forgot about.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing. This is such a good reminder.

@andiduperron9150

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this story. I read this randomly but it really resonated with me. I have a hard time letting go of momentos. The last part you wrote..."the life they just boxed up and forgot about" stuck with me. I go through my things now that I've kept in boxes and think to myself why is this in here where I dont see it, use it or enjoy it. Then I realize that I never really needed it in the first place. So I thank you for your words of wisdom.

@pinkmagicali

2 жыл бұрын

There’s a name for that, it’s known as Swedish Death Cleaning. You clean out stuff that you don’t want to leave your family to have to deal with. I’ve heard people say that half of what makes a death so difficult is having to work out what to do with their stuff. I try to remember that. I don’t want to cause a burden to my family if something horrible were to happen.

@lindajohnson1873

2 жыл бұрын

The same thing happened when my aunt passed away a few years back. She had so much stuff, that it took several trucks to get it out of her house.

@kathryntrusty4062

Жыл бұрын

My mom always kept what I thought as small things like boxes of cards and letters but when

I've been decluttering my home for about 6 months and it feels so good! I found stuff I forgot I had! I have quit shopping and decluttering has taken over that "obsession" to the point I really don't want to shop and waste money on items that won't bring value to me or my home.

@vl6741

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way. Decluttering helped me find clothes that I was planning on buying, but already had. It's like shopping through your own things. It's great!

Some years ago we moved to a smaller house and I got rid of a lot of stuff and have never missed any of it EXCEPT for my books. Be careful getting rid of your books! I had thought if I ever wanted to re-read a certain title I could just check it out from the library --- not true! Books are my friends, and a lot of my favorite ones are old and have been out of print a long time, and many libraries have done their own de-cluttering and tossed them. Sometimes you can't even get it on WorldCat, and to buy a used copy is prohibitively expensive. I wish I still had my books that I got rid of.

@elizabethking7615

3 жыл бұрын

Agree, I'm just going to pass on the airport books and keep the classics that I like to re-read and search the charity shops, when they open again!

@kathryntrusty4062

Жыл бұрын

Very true, you will know how much you love it when you keep rereading it just for joy!

At one point I was overcoming a shopping problem. I finally learned to say “I have everything I need today.” That helped me calm down and quit dragging home Stuff. I also take pictures of things I think I want to buy. If the item stays in my head and still looks good in the photo after a week or two has passed, I might consider going back to buy it.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Love this little mantra! Thanks for sharing!

@JC-uc1nb

3 жыл бұрын

Great idea!

@meisjeViv

3 жыл бұрын

I do that too, with taking the pictures! I do the same with online things, they go on a list and that list gets revisited every now and again, everything I totally forgot about or feels 'meh' gets taken off of it. Delayed buying is a great way to make sure you only get what you really need/like!

@agood1

2 жыл бұрын

i have started saying this too: I have everything I need. I do not want gifts, I do not want more stuff!

@thornprick2645

2 жыл бұрын

I love the mantra, too! And I do that with pictures!

Take photos of before and after. I didn’t think I was decluttering “enough” and I have much more to do but when I look at my “before” photos, I’m impressed at where I am compared to where I was.

@trumax33

3 жыл бұрын

That's a great idea!

@kathleensaenz4717

3 жыл бұрын

@Wendy W-B. You're right! Photos do help...puts things in perspective!

@KG-gg8rl

2 жыл бұрын

I've just done this - the difference is massive. Seriously. I can't believe I lived liked that - no wonder I was so anxious all the time!

Influencer minimalists are just competing over who can have the least quantity of stuff. Minimalism is not a number

@nickorange4881

3 жыл бұрын

The final countdown.

@rebeccaparsons2482

3 жыл бұрын

The correct number is 3 black t-shirts and 13 houseplants. HAHA just kidding.

@marlorenee4193

3 жыл бұрын

Also, influencer minimalism isn't minimalist, it's an aesthetic. Who can get the most wooden items and stone plates. Basically influencer minimalism is actually elite consumerism.

@DatingInterviewQuestions

3 жыл бұрын

@@marlorenee4193 Well said

@susanlansdell863

3 жыл бұрын

@@marlorenee4193 this entirely!xx

If a room is making you crazy, empty it. Then put back your favorites until it feels right. Get rid of as many of those leftovers as you can.then pack up the few pieces that your unsure of. Put them in garage or basement or wherever. If you get through the year. You can get rid of those too.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Good advice!

@CastledarkDweller27

2 жыл бұрын

holy crap...i SO wanna do this!! its sooo clever!!

@ThriftyDivasCloset

2 жыл бұрын

This hit it for me. I believe this will definitely be the cure for my overwhelming closet. I have way too much but find it so hard to just get rid of most of it. This will be a great way to determine if it returns back to the closet or gets donated or given away after a year. I’m certain i won’t even think about it after a year. Thanks for sharing this 👍🏽👍🏽

"be content with what you have", minimalism explained. You have a good voice. very articulate.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@adrianasb4213

3 жыл бұрын

I agree, I think of it like "to love what it is"

Your voice is relaxing. Thanks for not yelling at the camera. 💕

@pinklady3885

3 жыл бұрын

I also appreciated the soft tone of voice. 👍

@cassettetape7643

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it was very soothing😌

@alannahopkins2041

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@VxV466

2 жыл бұрын

Right. I find so many youtibers scream to the fkn mic. Like chill sis.

I love how you mentioned accepting the risk that you might get rid of something you want or need... as in: giving yourself permission to make that mistake, that it's part of the process and that it is worth it for the overall peace of mind. That is such a key reframe to be able to get over the "what if" and "maybe I'll decide about this one later... (aka never)"

You're absolutely right. I am 63 and have SO much from relatives passing on and friends buying gifts over the yrs. I have saved items for my sons to save them money like their baby cribs, etc., but they do not want it. Younger ppl want less and less items, not grandma's antique stuff. I browse in shops for something to do, but rarely buy. I just have too much, chipping away at giving away or selling.

@carolsailer1395

3 жыл бұрын

My adult kids are Minimalists even though they don’t follow that...I’ve talked with my kids, they are not interested in my stuff. My mom passed away 5 1/2 years ago & I still have barely started to get rid of her things. I’m hoping this spring & summer I will finally start to declutter. I wish I would have started years ago. Realizing I don’t want a lot of things.

For me it helped to start with decluttering. It made me realise how many things I spent money on, that weren't bringing me any happiness. And I felt bad about having to get rid of it. This made me determined to spend a lot less money on buying things, and to create more space for the things that matter to me.

@LivingWellMedia

3 жыл бұрын

This has been my experience as well!

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Good point -- maybe sometimes decluttering can also motivate you to spend less. And it sounds like you've found a system that works for you, which is awesome!

@paperchaser_number_one

3 жыл бұрын

For me things matter most. no things = no happiness

Ive given away over 3k books before i moved and another 1k to downsize and move again. Still going through more and donated another 1k since ive lived here. All the previous books i never got to read. I used to live in a 5 bedroom home, now in a 1 bedroom apartment thats full. Ive donated 3/4 of everything. No longer have a bed set, no couch or entertainment center. All the big furniture is gone. I only wish i had all the wasted money back for unneeded items. The reason i got rid of big items is if i can't move them by myself then they are history. Ive been disabled so thats the other reason. Actually wanted to declutter and not leave a mess to younger family members when i die. Years ago i gave to family. 2 years ago gave more to family. Now this year i boxed up 20 more boxes to give to family. Been donating much more again. Sold a few items, not much since no one is willing to pay for brand new in the box items. From a 5 bedroom to a 1 is very difficult, even the last ex took things i owned before i met them. Believe me im still struggling. I dont have much income to buy more yet it seems the more i dig out to give away the more i have. Its never ending. You wouldn't believe it, but i donated 55 lawn bags of clothes in the last 15 years. Half these clothes were never worn, too small now. I keep moving it out and still have plenty. I try to think back and wonder when i had so much time to buy all these things and clothes, most were bought from 15 to 25 years ago. I do regret things that have been stolen and some given away, would like them back since i cant afford to replace them. Some day i may be forced out of this place then the book shelves go, the kitchen table and chairs and microwave with stand. Its getting down to bare necessities. Ill be left with all folding furniture. Im not happy where inflation is going. Rent went up twice since ive been here. One more time and i may be booted to the curb not able to afford any place. Id rather live in my truck than a rat or bug infested part of a city.

I noticed as I went along that my “clutter threshold” changed and I came to appreciate more open space and breathing room in my home. That helped me stop bringing things in, and helped me put things away right away. Your brain literally changes. Thanks for this- great advice and I love your place.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this insight! Really interesting!

@hennahannnah

3 жыл бұрын

I’m in my 60s and found at one point about 20 years ago I liked seeing space and baseboards. Since then I’ve wondered if I entered a different phase of life, switching from acquiring to create my young adult life to refining and curating the life I’d built.

@neonkitty6366

Жыл бұрын

Ahhh….putting things away right away. This makes me realize that I have so many things that don’t have a home in my house. They sit all over the place! Thank you. I must find them a home or get them out of here!! 🥰🥰

Everything same for me. I had to slowly discover for myself that nothing was going to change until I stopped WANTING things, shopping, etc. I wish someone had told me!

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Glad I'm not alone! :)

@azhotmom

3 жыл бұрын

@@ElinLesser why is this aspect rarely ever talked about I wonder?

I found that not going into the stores helped me. Now I order things online (it's mindful shopping- no more impulse buying) and do grocery pickup (where I order groceries from my AP and pick them up from the store) has stopped so much impulse and recreational buying. Now that less stuff is coming into the house, I can keep on top of things.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

So smart to figure out what specific ways of shopping leave a person less vulnerable to impulse buying. It's so true, if we affect our environment, we're more likely to have success. Thanks for the comment!

There´s the real minimalism: being intentional about what we buy and what we keep, and then there's the social media version: wearing the same t-shirt for one year, confusing "minimalist homes" with nicely decorated homes, presenting the idea that to be a true minimalist you should purchase more stuff to help you in your journey (a smartwatch, an expensive notebook for your journaling, an expensive laptop for posting on social media about how you've changed your lifestyle).

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

SUCH a good point. :)

@debbiemohekey1509

3 жыл бұрын

Look at the Amish if you want to see minimalism.They don't seem to have anything thats not necessary, no extra pieces of furniture, clothing, no gadgets, kids don't have ten tons of toys each, minimalist homes are so much easier to clean and of course its easier to find things and that cuts out a lot of frustration especially when you have kids that are always misplacing things.

I unknowingly started minimalism journey by changing my habits. I was learning about if for years and I always thought that it's crazy to live like that. Until I realized that the crazy one is me, with my shopaholism and hoarding tendencies. So I started by buying less and using what I already have (cosmetics) and organizing, because I wasn't ready to declutter and let go of my stuff. Then I read Marie Kondo book and I felt like I can do it and I did. I declutter using her method, change my habits even more and now minimalism is my reality. It took me 7 years to get to this point, but it was so worth it.

I tend to agree, I did the same thing I started downsizing prior to changing my mindset then got frustrated when it felt like nothing was changing. But when I took a step back and took a long hard look at how I viewed my possessions my perspective changed. In this life you can either own your stuff or your stuff can own you. Are you working a job you hate to buy stuff you don't really need to impress people you really don't like. That was me for years, no matter how much stuff I bought it wasn't enough, I had to have the latest toy the newest gadget, I would prowl the internet for what was coming out and how it would change my life. Then something happened that made me realize that the insanity had to stop. I lost both of my parents in under a year with two households I had to sort out go through and figure out what to do with all their stuff. That is truly an eye opener, when you are surrounded by chaos and insanity while your heart is breaking and having to make long term decisions on what to keep and what to get rid of. I think of those as the darkest days of my life but also the beginning of a new mindset. I realized when I die I don't want to leave this chaos for my loved ones to deal with. They are going to have enough emotional baggage to wrestle when I am gone. Which also leads to a more profound am I truly happy conversation and what needs to change to make that statement true. I think we all get to a point in our lives when we realize that we are no more than a hamster on an exercise wheel unless we figure out how to stop spinning and start moving towards our goals. And we often have to adjust our perspective and our actions to match our goals if we ever dream of obtaining them. When I changed my mindset on shopping the rest became much easier. Now if I shop it is with purpose. It is to replace something I wore out and I do allow myself to try something new occasionally but I usually limit that to one item per 3 months to give me time to truly try it and see if it fits me personally and my own unique style before deciding it if is a long term addition to my life. I went from having to have two closets full of clothes I never wore to half a closet that everything in it I love and when I fall out of love with them, they are donated to a woman's shelter to help others with a fresh start in their own lives. I used to have an entire wall of shoes but realized I had most of them because they were pretty but not very functional or comfortable. Now I only invest in shoes I will truly wear or use on a regular basis. Do I have my one or two pair of I love these I just don't wear, yes of course but it brings me joy and the memories involved in those pieces justify their space in my home. Being a minimalist isn't just about owning less stuff it is about the thought and care you take with the items you have in your life. It is also about streamlining the decisions you must face on a daily basis so that you can concentrate on what is truly important, you happiness and joy in this world. Think about it, If you take one year of your life how much time does it take every day to pick out an outfit for the day, if you took that time and combined it for a week how much time could you have saved? How about month or a year? If you put all those chunks of time together that you don't spend searching for an item lost in the chaos or having to second guess what you look good in what else could you accomplish with your time? We all complain we don't have enough time and that becomes more and more evident the older we get. That is why I try to be a minimalist. It saves me time and stress because I am no longer sweating the stupid stuff, I am no longer searching for what I need in chaos and I am no longer fighting for a moment to sit back and enjoy my life because I am no longer working to buy stuff I don't need to impress people I don't like and I have for the first time in my life gotten my priorities straight and my life in some sort of order.

@denisea.9033

3 жыл бұрын

Brilliantly said!! 👏🏼👏🏼 So glad you discovered what really brought you peace. I came to the same discovery when we would go camping in our RV with almost none of our belongings and yet the most peaceful and freeing feeling every time, not missing any of our stuff at home. Then we had to move to the other side of the world and were only able to take 25% of our belongings with us; after going through the painful and time consuming process of selling and/or donating 50% of our stuff and putting the other 25% in storage (much of which I quickly forgot about anyway) - I decided it just wasn't worth it to have so much stuff. I never want to feel prisoner to excess stuff again.

@parikaamma

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to share. Felt that!

I recently tossed/donated every clothing item I didn’t wear and also the ones that didn’t fit well. And made the investments i needed to do in order to gain a better wardrobe without being overwhelmed by the amount i own. I’m glad and happy i did it so mindful. ☺️

I got really interested into minimalism in 2019. And for the past 1.5 years I have decided not to buy any stuff and have been enjoying the ones I own. I felt this is the actual way of minimalism just like what you have thought. My plan is to use everything I own completely and then buy new ones only if I need one. Actually, I have felt a lot happier with this method. I would have hated and spent a lot if I had done decluttering and bought new stuffs.

@TheHappySensitive

Жыл бұрын

Same here! I am "using up" everything I already have and not buying anything new until the old is used up. Some things I really don't use I will sell or donate. I also think that if I "force declutter" all my clothes, I'll end up buying new ones. Because it's nice to have that variety, even if some things I rarely ever wear. Now I feel like I have one item of everything I might like to wear, so I don't feel an urge to go shopping. And by slowly using up what I have, I may slowly thin out my wardrobe and get used to that anyway. Letting the minimalism sneak in if it wants to...

Something I realized in flipping my mindset is instead of seeing it as 'letting things go', I decided to ONLY keep the things I wanted ..in my various spaces. Then you really LOVE everything you decided to keep.

The title doing minimalism backwards made me believe the message was to decide what you want to KEEP then get rid of the rest.

Really useful thank you. I started doing massive decluttering and ended up buying back some items of clothes on eBay after realising I missed them in my wardrobe and they were items I really loved. I got a bit hooked on watching influences and trying to replicate their style rather than realising what truly suited me. X

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Such a good insight. It's so easy to get swept up in other people's style--I've definitely done that. Thanks for sharing!

@bitrudder3792

3 жыл бұрын

Once you know your style, once you know what is truly becoming in terms of color, pattern, texture, sheen, structure, line - it is incredibly freeing and simplifying. You can walk past nearly everything in the store and pick out the few things that are possibilities, try them on and make a quick decision. Or you know which pattern to pick, which fabrics to pick.

I've come to minimalism gradually over about 10 years, during which I moved house 10 times. Each move involved packing things away and making a conscious decision that I wanted this object to stay in my life and that it was worth the time and energy of moving it. This, coupled with becoming more environmentally conscious (and therefore feeling guilty every time I threw something out) caused me to really consider every purchase and think about "if the time comes when I need to throw this out (e.g. if it breaks and isn't fixable), what impact will it have on the environment?" My partner and I have just moved into our first owned home, and many people were surprised with how quick and simple and stress free the move was because we just didn't have a lot to move (genuinely didn't start packing until the day of the move). In addition, we both work full time and comfortably save about half of our joint income, which meant we were able to increase our deposit and so afford the home we bought, and has also meant that 6 months after spending almost all our money on buying the house, we've now saved enough for a pretty decent wedding.

@HeronCoyote1234

2 жыл бұрын

Have you thought of doing a blog or channel? I love your philosophy on minimalism.

I find that not enough minimalist influencers don't talk about this trap that when you have decluttered it can feel tempting to buy a new piece to fill up that empty space ! Thank you for reminding me of that! 😊

I do like the practice of having less and I am doing a lot of decluttering. I stop going with the flow tho in some of the kitchen things. I like my red keurig coffee machine to sit out. I like my red salt and pepper shaker to sit on the counter. I like my air fryer/toaster oven to stay on the counter as it gets used multiple times a day by my family with two sons who eat at other than regular meal times. I like a bowl on my dining table with my table runner. I think you should get it to where you feel comfortable, easier to clean but still decorated with what you like.🤗

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Such good insights! We all need to figure out that balance that works for us. Thanks for sharing!

@denisea.9033

3 жыл бұрын

Very true!! 👏🏼 As much as I love the look of a sparse kitchen, I love having what I need, where I need it, when I need it - even more. Not only do I not have much cabinet space but my family uses things like our Keurig and toaster several times per day, not practical for us to be putting that away after each use just to have a minimalist look. Love the idea of to each their own, instead of one cookie cutter way of doing "minimalism".

@bitrudder3792

3 жыл бұрын

So true - I love my gracefully curving Saladmaster machine, a manual slicer-shredder tool, right on my kitchen counter for making short work of vegetables as I fix dinner. It’s like a work of art that’s functional, it doesn’t have any ugly wires sticking out. Depending on the produce I have on hand, it’s either sitting in a graceful wooden bowl or basket on the kitchen counter, ready to go. Right now, I love my arrangement of aloe vera in a pale green ceramic pot and some pussy willow in a small curved white vase and some aqua candles as my kitchen table centerpiece arrangement. The absence of other clutter makes it a fun ritual to just mess with a couple of things and indulge in a little artistic home keeping.

Agree. I actually was decluttering and sending things to sell and it was “hurting” and instead stopped that and started my three month no buy and enjoy what I have. So very similar to what you’re saying.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

That's awesome! A 3-month no-buy is impressive :)

@nae4830

3 жыл бұрын

@Greyson Francis good luck!! When I was tempted I started writing in a journal... why I wanting the thing-with details, followed by why I had committed not to and where that money could go.

@nae4830

3 жыл бұрын

@@ElinLesser thank you!

@nae4830

3 жыл бұрын

@@ElinLesser thank you!

@nae4830

3 жыл бұрын

@@ElinLesser thank you!

I knew minimalism was in trouble when it spurred a whole new industry, like yoga has fashion clothes and jewelry now.

@rochelleharris4280

3 жыл бұрын

What industry has it spurred except how to let go?

@sofiarodriguez6768

3 жыл бұрын

@@rochelleharris4280 entire aesthetics, buying specific brands of minimalist clothing and furniture, the entire industry of influencers as well as people selling books, tv show ideas and other media dedicated to this. Not even touching on all those people who will come into your house and help you get rid of everything and those weird minimalist retreats with seminars.

@Kelbel5995

3 жыл бұрын

To be fair, capitalism always, always makes an industry out of popular/trending behaviors/ideas. (See how "sustainability" has its own industry now.) IMO, I don't think "minimalism" as a concept is in trouble--people just need to avoid getting sucked into these faux-minimalist cottage industries and understand minimalism as a lifestyle (not something you can buy).

@sofiarodriguez6768

3 жыл бұрын

@@Kelbel5995 ofc not! Minimalism is a fantastic idea and not the problem itself. Like the OG comment said they knew it was in trouble when it got essentially highjacked. You're so right we have to work hard as consumers to not get sucked into these often times scam like scummy industries and products.

@ELCinWYO

2 жыл бұрын

Yoga has had fashion for decades. Capitalism co-opts everything. It'd co-opt Socialism if they could figure out how.

I guess I am the weird one who has "missed" some of the things I threw out while decluttering. However, I have never missed them so much that I had to re-buy them. I am more aware of what I own now and have been able to find substitutes around the house. (which is almost kind of fun 😊)

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

I totally think that can happen -- missing things... but that's a good point that the missing didn't outweigh the other payoffs (or at least it sounds like that!)

@Amy12358

3 жыл бұрын

I miss books the most.

@michellegordon456

3 жыл бұрын

@@Amy12358 I have gone down the road of one book in and one out, this way I keep books and don't overload my shelves but am quite choosy of what I buy. I have a book basket of books borrowed, to read and if this is full no more books are borrowed and I need to read ;-) best wishes to you

@jossykerflossy915

3 жыл бұрын

I have really only missed books. I thought I could get them at the library and sadly, they were no longer there.

@bitrudder3792

3 жыл бұрын

@@jossykerflossy915and @Amy- I feel the same way about books. And seriously, anyone who loves reading their books could have a hard time with the one book in/one book out method. I literally sold for pennies or donated 50 boxes of books, and I have missed a number of them. And no, they are not available at the library. And since the pandemic, they want an appointment to go to the library. At least say will take book orders over the phone and gather them from the different branches for pick up. But that’s not the same as browsing and touching and feeling the books. I still have more than I physically want to care for, (i’m thinking about how all of the bookshelves have to be emptied and moved for new carpet to go in), but… I miss some of my old friends. And due to a pipe burst, some of those bookcases had to be emptied, with boxes of books and bookshelves moved down into the hallway. It’s feeling a bit cluttered right now.

I wish people would just stop with telling others they have to be extreme minimalism. If you love something then keep it and stop telling others that they should get rid of everything. Everyones idea of a peaceful home is different.myself i hate clutter but love a warm inviteing space. Someone else may love and empty room. I believe it is wrong for influencers to tell everyone they can only be happy if they live this lufe. The oranganal meaning was not a completely spare empty space.

@Jana0821

3 жыл бұрын

Your wish is granted......stop watching you tube videos on minimalism.

@ruthgoddard6539

3 жыл бұрын

@@Jana0821 not all minimalist are telling others they have to fit in there nitch. Dont worry i wont bother with this one again

@freedomisthechoicesyoumake8594

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!! I totally agree. I've stopped watching a long time ago

@ruthgoddard6539

3 жыл бұрын

@@freedomisthechoicesyoumake8594 😌

@flamingofan5411

3 жыл бұрын

Minimalism is natural and fine for some people. But, more than likely overall it’s a scam. A way to get people to get rid of everything so in a few years maximalism will be back in style and then folks buy all over again. Not saying the content creators are aware of this. I’m sure most are being honest. But, fashion, whether home or clothing is a trap. Just like they change up colors, shapes, styles often. This is to keep us dissatisfied and consuming. Me personally, I’m not either. I’m a middleist! Lol! I try not to fall into the whole buy, buy, buy, trap but also feel more comfortable with a few more items around. Honestly, we do need to spend a lot less time on KZread, Pinterest, Instagram and the like. These all make people yearn for something different or something more. For me I just want to enjoy the days simply, enjoy living my real life, not some Facebook one! Being thankful for each day cause we only get one go round!

Living your life with a minimalist approach is a mindset, it has nothing to do with the physical stuff. Physical stuff is just energy. As soon as you are in your right mindset, the wrong stuff will disappear, and good energy will appear. And then the strength to say no thanks when it's needed. Hiking alone for 2 months taught me a lot about me being enough and living with only is on my back. Great video Elin!

That thing about gratitude is so wise! I heard something similar from Marie Kondo, who said something like “of course your screwdriver doesn’t fill you with joy, but if it works, you can be grateful to it and so you should keep it” (ok, she didn’t say that, but something along those lines). This also reminded me of a challenge Debt Kicking Mom does, when she doesn’t buy new stuff (for financial reasons,not so much minimalism), but tries to find new appreciation for the things she has.

"a deep contentment" Yes! Fairyland Cottage is a good channel for slow, content living.

So many comments in such a short time! I'm a 68 yr. old man living in a ~250 sq. ft. senior apt. Known I've needed to "clean house" for a long time. Feeling on the brink of jumping off that cliff. Thanks for your videos. Also absorbing experience from the "Nomadland" folks. ---- On the cusp of change, I think.

@melissakalloway1916

2 жыл бұрын

Go for it! (:

Girl your so on point with wanting to buy more after decluttering, I’ve gotten trapped in this mindset of buying after getting rid of things. Glad to know that we can change our mindset to not need to keep bringing excess things into our life.

I totally agree....STOP the buying and STOP things coming into the house (my life), then declutter and declutter ruthlessly ! :) freedom from clutter=peace of mind.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

yes!

I have a hard time stopping the incoming stuff. I am constantly getting rid of stuff but I do feel like I’m replacing those items so it seems like my inventory hasn’t changed. I love the way you worded it! Thank you!

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it's definitely a challenge! I'm with you! And thank you!

At the end of their radio ads one of the businesses in my town would end with a saying or proverb. One of them was "Happiness isn't having what you want but wanting what you have". I don't own much other than books but I have too many for the efficiency apartment I live in and for my peace of mind though I want to read all of them. I'm having a book ban: no new books can come in for six months and I've also donated a lot of books I never read, choosing to have a little more peace and space over what the books might have brought into my life---and most if not all were just fiction. Most of what I finish reading is given away. I'm not buying any clothes and I wear my clothes until they actually start unraveling. This winter I've been wearing only two sweaters but yesterday toward the back of my closet found a very nice one (Salvation Army purchase!) I'd forgotten about as it was out of sight, out of mind.so now I'll wear three sweaters. I'm moving toward a pared-down living space mostly through attrition, using up or donating what I already have.

"...focusing on what you are enjoying now rather than the future and what could be better" Excellent takeaway! I would also add that being able to let go of who you were and what your interests were in the past is a great help too. I have found in my minimalism journey that I hang onto things longer than I really want to "just in case" my interest for something is sparked again. I know I go through phases, but also there comes a time when I realize that I probably am NOT going to take up a particular hobby again and it is time to part ways. In truth, if I DO want to take it up again or read a book again or whatever, I am content with the idea that I may spend money on some supplies again, but that is a lower price for me to pay than having those things take up space in my life when they serve me no purpose for possibly years!

@rosekahika7636

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!! I heard the phase called ‘fantasy self’ I had projects I was going to do when I retired lol nope!! Not happening, different interests now and minimalism IS the best way forward for peace and joy for me 😊

The biggest thing I learned was when my father was moving to assisted living. He was a “hoarder” and I was several hundred miles away. Instead of focusing on what to get rid of, I had him focus on what to KEEP. I bought bins for him to pack with his most treasured things and favorite clothes etc. it’s so much easier and brings more clarity. I try to do the same. Clothes-hang everything in your closet with the hangers backwards. Re-visit in 6 months and donate everything that is still hanging that way. The only exceptions are for season and special occasion. It will work if you do it!

Absolutely agree! There is no right or wrong way to "do" minimalism. I strive for living an intentional life with my children and myself. Keeping only things that bring me happiness and value. I got so tired of the stigma that you can only have 5 things in order to be a "real" minimalist. Thanks for bringing this conversation to the table- it's so important for people to hear!

After the unexpected passing of my husband I am overwhelmed by decluttering. Not only am I trying to let go of his things, I have an attic full of inherited sentimental boxes. I appreciate your grace of understanding it can be quite difficult. I do believe I need someone to help me. I'm not young & simply making boxes for donation I have to have help getting them down stairs. I just subscribed to your channel & look forward to your soothing voice. 😊

@melissakalloway1916

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry, Catherine. How painful. Do a little bit for five days out of the week. Break over the weekend and pick it up again on Monday. Ask yourself 'is there anyone who would want this'? 'Do "I" still want it, or am I keeping it out of guilt'? If you think any of your things have value, some on here have mentioned using an auctioneer. Only make sure a trusted family member or friend is with you when the evaluation takes place.

@cstevens8788

2 жыл бұрын

@@melissakalloway1916, thank you for your condolences. I have been trying to think of special people who may like this or that. I have much that I have found to be valuable. I've been watching Dr. Lori on KZread & she is helping tremendously. I want to simply give everything away. However, I could use the $$ to make repairs on my home. Lots to be done. Haven't even gotten up in my attic yet. 🙃 Thank God for the friends/neighbors who are more than willing to help me. I have to be very patient. They have family, homes & jobs of their own. But, if something happens they will drop everything to come to my aid. I love them so much. ❤️✌️

Honestly I never mind my mess, in fact I’ve always felt comfortable with lots of things around me so my goal with learning about minimalism is more to just focus on the things I enjoy most. I like what you said about focusing on what you collect first and enjoy what you have. I’m not stressed by having a bunch of stuff but my main goal is to focus on avoiding impulse buying and finding joy in what I have.

I started my journey to minimalism recently. I’m starting simply by whenever I go shopping before I check out an item I ask myself a couple times “am I actually ever gonna wear this” or “how often am I gonna wear it”. It’s really tempting to get more things but it’s help me a lot

Just found your channel while clearing out my 1k+ long "watch later" playlist and love it! Mindset is really so much more important than technique. Once you get your mindset straight and know why you're doing it, the how becomes almost self evident.

Despite the clickbait title, this is the best minimalist video I've seen. It's spot on. Stop bringing stuff in, change your mindset. Contentedism.

Yes! I've ripped stuff away from myself for various reasons, and I litterally have more stuff now, but not the several things I miss.

My wardrobe policy is that everything I own needs to fit on my one closet rod and in my medium sized dresser. If I get new clothes, I have to get rid of some that I already have in order to make the space. I'm converting to organic fair trade clothing a little at a time and that's been a fun process.

Great video. I'd add that we need to face the reasons WHY we are compelled to constantly buy stuff we do not need (and sometimes, don't even really want). Until we face those reasons and patterns, we will just repeat the cycle: purge/buy/guilt-chaos/purge/buy etc. ad infinitum.

@denisea.9033

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! 👏🏼👏🏼

A game changer for me toward minimalism was Marie kondo " THE ART OF TIDYING UP" instead of decluttering by room declutter by category. Keep what gives you joy

It's difficult to move into minimalism when you have been broke for a long time. When you're poor, you have to buy cheap clothes that don't fit great and don't last long, and wear them until they turn to rags, and you have to keep replacing all the junk you have. Being poor also turns you into a pack rat: What if I need that down the road...getting rid of it would be like throwing money away! It's really hard to invest in those few high-quality things that you DO like and value when you don't have the upfront cash or you can't afford the time to look hard and find that perfect vintage couch that's still in really good shape or those jeans that are made to last.

I love the editing of your videos! I found what you said about gratitude for what you already have & not buying MORE new things especially valuable. Whoever reads this just remember there is NO such thing as a perfect minimalist. Minimalism is finding what works best for YOU! Thank you for making content Slice of Light!

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this thoughtful comment! You are so right -- no such thing as perfect minimalism! :)

Thanks for a great video!!! I knew something had to change when every time we moved (which was often for a while), we LOVED the feeling of the empty new house before all our stuff arrived, more than having our belongings with us. It was always such a light and stress-free feeling (sleeping on air mattresses, eating on the floor and playing card games), without our creature comforts and luxuries.

"Don't collect. Change your mindset." - Loved this video!!! Thank you for making it!

I just stumbled across this video and even if it's old, I resonate with it a lot. When I renovated my apartment a few years ago, I felt the need to free myself of a sort of pressure I felt. The pressure of constantly buying new decorations, pieces of furniture, clothes and make up. I kinda went down that path without even thinking about minimalism. And for the most part it worked out like a charm. My wardrobe still isn't quite there yet but that's due to my struggle with finding my true style which is just settling down. When I went through my make up a few months ago, I was actually quite surprized by how tiny my collection has become in comparison to what it was before. I definitely put more attention to what I really like and use instead of constantly thinking about missing out on new stuff that gets thrown at us all the time. I don't care about limited editions anymore, I don't care about following trends anymore and don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. I even start seeing me leaning into more timeless clothing styles and more versatile pieces that can be styled in many different ways. That also just happened without even thinking much about it. I guess if I'd tried to force this, it wouldn't have worked out at all.

I feel the passion for myself to become a minimalist. I was not born naturally organized, but I have lived with minimum stuff and I really enjoyed that when I moved to a city in Asia for a year. I went with one suit case. When my step mom passed away years after my dad passed away, my brother and I had the task to empty their home. It was packed with so much stuff and things that were there even back from the 60s. In a way I was fascinated and got to read things that they wrote and see things that got me to understand them better. It was both exhausting and fascinating. I think what I want for myself is to have the minimum of stuff that is the practical stuff, but at the same time, have memories that my kids can appreciate and cherish, whether albums or things I wrote. But definitely not clutter.

Yesssss! Granted, I think minimalism is inextricably tied to sustainability, but IMO "decluttering" without changing your consumption habits (and never intending to) is just a vanity project. It signals your "cool" minimalism to others, but you still remain beholden to stuff. Just having a "one in, one out" rule where you are constantly buying and getting rid of things is not minimalism.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

good point!

I always enjoy going through my closet and making new fun outfits to wear! 🖤

It took me 8 months, but I am so glad I found this video! I have been asking myself all of those questions for 2 years. I have decluttered so many times and struggle with changing the way I shop and manage my time, so nothing has changed long term! I am ready to put this all into practice!

This was fascinating insight, because I'm a maximalist. And I also live with gratitude. Over half of my furnishings I have found on the streets of my city, and I have gratitude for each and every item. They all bring me joy and comfort.

@fishmut

Жыл бұрын

So your an opportunist and hoarder , i think most of us get to point when enough is enough , especially if things turn into clutter and don’t get used and become dust collectors, at that point decisions should be made i really think, I’m getting rid of so many things , just thinking about makes me feel better .

@Hawthornefae

Жыл бұрын

@@fishmut being a maximalist doesn't mean hoarding. Sounds like you have some personal baggage to declutter.

@mollyflayer13

Жыл бұрын

@@fishmut as someone who was once a maximalist and is now a minimalist, that doesn’t automatically mean hoarder. hoarding- a persistent difficulty discarding or parting with possessions because of a perceived need to save them. maximalism- a style or technique that embraces excess and extravagance. do research

So true ❤️ I started minimalism 10 years ago with a year of not expending on anything but necessities. That changed my way of thinking about wanting < needing. I really think that minimalism is a state of mind to want to simplify your life in every single one.

You have really hit on true core of Minimalism with your suggestions. Too often Minimalism is conflated with or, worse, treated as a synonym for decluttering, when in reality, decluttering is really just a practice that is more often than not necessary when pursuing Minimalism. Minimalism at its core, however, is a mindset, and your suggestions are practical, realistic steps to help cultivate that mindset.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

could NOT have said it better myself! You're totally right--that's what it is at its core.

I love the focus on being content with what we have! That's such a good reminder. Thank you so much.

I am in the process of decluttering and so far your advice on stopping first the influx of new things makes so much sense. Thanks for your tips! It helped a lot 😊

If I just declutter my space I won't maintain it unless I have an organizational system in place. I agree that you have to really concentrate on not "replacing" the items you get rid of with other items. It's very tempting to fill that space back up with new clutter.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Good point - some organization is important too. Thanks for the comment! :)

My friend said “ Why are you still decluttering? You have been doing this for years! “ What I was doing wrong was more shuffling things under the name of organizing. My solution is now to declutter the space to hold only what it will hold and take away the rest. Stopping the flow of stuff from the living space to the basement and back again. I also tried to do too much at once, now a drawer at a time, etc. If I exceeded my energy then stuff just got piled around and added to the clutter. Declutter first then reorganize is what I am doing now and no more need to bring in organization storage etc. I now enjoy most of the process.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for all these insights! It's so true that it's so easy to just keep moving things around--I've totally done this, too!

So glad I saw this video! Thank you for sharing your experience and your thoughts. I have been decluttering for a few years now and I would tell people that I am a minimalist but my spending habits did not change. Esp recently while I am going through stressful times, I noticed I look at the websites of my favorite brands more often and end up buying random things I like but don’t need right away. I knew I wasn’t truly embodying minimalism so I started to seek out videos/books about minimalism again and saw your video. This helped me a lot! Thank you so much.

I am 100% agree with you !! Let's do the minimalism base on our own style/way, because each of us having different kind of clutters problem, what works to other doesn't mean match to solve our problem

You are absolutely right in your analysis! I did some declutter first a massive one for books as I had books lining everywall of my spare bedroom, it became overwhelming! I decluttered also a lot of clothes as I was finding my "style" and getting rid of the ones I hardly wore! But I was still buying clothes as I shop 2nd hand and it is often very cheap! So now I have to stop going thrifting and accumulating! The pandemy helped!!! I am definitely going to shop more intentionally and stop the flow in!!!

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome! Also glad that others are having similar experiences to what I've had -- makes me feel not alone! :)

I completely agree with you that decluttering or purging doesn't do much if we don't makes changes to aquire less. I've taken steps to aquire less, but still have a lot to go though in the purging process.

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it definitely takes a while! I kind of think maybe it just becomes a habit rather than a final destination--I'm working at it, too. :) Thanks for sharing!

I love this mindset. As I’m researching this, it’s so helpful to hear all what you said 👏🏽

Yes!! You could not have explained minimalism any better. The change of mindset has to come first and is at the heart of minimalism. I trained myself to reflect before I buy: "Do I need this?" or "Do I want this?" Also, just because something is beautiful, cute, or could be worth money one day doesn't mean I need to buy it. I love how airy and cozy my home feels. My nighttime routine is so much easier and waking up to a clean, straighten up home allows me to drink some tea and listen to my sermons without being distracted about things I need to get done before my kids wake up. It is a huge blessing. I'm not the perfect "minimalist" but I found that I am more content with less. :) By the way, your kitchen is absolutely gorgeous!!

I love your take on minimalism! To be content is where we should start. Then start decluttering and be mindful of what you keep. Love it!

The mentality of "Ack! Too much stuff! Can't keep it clean! Must Purge!" has taken over as the most common starting point for many, and it's completely the wrong starting point. The right starting point is to ask oneself a series of questions about a given space, and work toward the answers. "How to I want this space to look and function?" should ALWAYS be the first question, with the following as helpful means to reaching the answer: "What is here that I don't need, or don't need here, exactly?" "What changes would make this space more visually pleasing, using primarily what I already own?" "What would I need to change to make this space easier to keep tidy? And to keep clean?" "Would the plans the answers to the previous questions triggered be easy to maintain? If not, how should I adjust those plans?" Purging one's excess belongings is a tiny portion of having a minimalist home, not the main point. The main point is to have a home filled with only things you need or love, making it a peaceful, restful place that isn't constantly sucking up more than its share of physical energy to maintain or mental energy to live in. That's where the freedom to put more of your financial, physical, and mental resources elsewhere comes from, not from the number of trash bags you haul out.

@bitrudder3792

3 жыл бұрын

@LucyLynette - I think that way a lot, also, but with a twist. Depending on the kind of room, I may ask myself first “how do I want to feel in this space?“ Because everyone has a different personality type, different questions are going to resonate with different people. My testing, and my instinct, both show that I am sort of equally divided between a preference of making decisions based on logic versus feeling. Most people seem to lean more in one direction than in the other. My husband has an urge to just get things done and zero urge to creatively visualize, although if I take the time to walk him through the visualization process he realizes that he is influenced more than he thinks by what is going on in a room, and why different colors and textures and patterns make him feel a certain way. More often though, I need to show him pictures and help him explain to me what he really likes or doesn’t like. Personally, If I don’t visualize and use that visualization to register how a room or space will make me feel, I feel sucked dry. So we both approach this in different ways.

@LucyLynette

3 жыл бұрын

​@@bitrudder3792 Actually, we have more in common with our individual approaches than you think. I posed those generic questions above to be just that: generic and basic, to be workable/adaptable for the maximum number of people without the hyper-specifications that would make the list long or the questions themselves too unwieldy. Those questions weren't an exact representation of how I work, either. Merely a rough draft for people in general to start from. My personal approach is to visualize everything. Furniture arrangement, foot traffic flow, compartmentalization of things for multi function rooms, to do list of decluttering projects for the space, throw pillow placement and styles, everything. It's not uncommon for my partner to walk into a room and find me just standing there, staring at the space and its furnishings. "What's up?" "I'm rearranging the furniture." or "Trying to see what options will open up for this room once X decluttering project (or Y planned purchase) happens." He's dealt with this enough years that he knows part of the process of me improving a room is staring at it until I have a firm vision of its future, complete with back up plans for any aspect I think might not work out when I get into the project practically. It's extra fun when we're apartment hunting. I pregame it, figuring out how the spaces will work for our stuff and our needs, based on the online floor plans. Then when we go to see an apartment, I work it again in person. Leasing agents get a little creeped out when you just stare at an empty room for a couple of minutes, but I always walk out knowing how live-able the place will be once we're in it, and their reactions are amusing. As for how I feel in a space... Feelings are expensive, so I try to avoid them as much as I reasonably can. How I want a room to feel is the subtext to all the work I do in a given room, but I never give that priority unless I'm prepared to spend money on items to get there. Too many years spent grasping on the edge financially have instilled in me a deep (probably fear-based) frugality. Old and/or secondhand furniture is still heavily intermixed with newer items I've chosen for myself, and a lot of those things are the cheapest thing I could get to do the job in a color/style I like, not actual investments in my home. I work with what I already have and carefully plan upgrades, so getting the feeling I want comes in bits and pieces, usually over the course of years. I'd love to design a room and its functions around how I want it to feel, but for me, look and feel are very intertangled concepts, so I shy away, because I don't want to spend unnecessarily. And I don't just mean furniture styles and colors. I also mean storage methods. "If I thin out X storage thing, how will that help Y living space? Will that allow me to move A to B, and not have to buy C storage container/furniture piece?" Example: Soon after I switched from a desktop computer to a laptop, my mobility problems got worse. So instead of sitting at my desk, I bought a lap desk and relocated to my favorite spot on the couch and an ottoman. My desk soon became an abandoned clutter magnet, and it was already holding a bunch of crap I didn't need before that. In preparing for our last move, I got rid of my desk entirely. I have a nightstand with a drawer, a shallow shelf, and a deeper shelf just right for holding file folders. I no longer have an actual desk, and I replaced it with something I already had... Something that also forces me to keep a handle on my paper clutter, because its capacity for garbage is so low. Because I tried that first, I'm unlikely to ever buy a proper desk for myself again. The dining table will do just fine if I occasionally need a proper work surface. ACK! So Sorry I wrote you a novel! If you've made it this far, thanks for putting up with my rambles!

@blondego56

2 жыл бұрын

Your statements are condescending & haughty. "Purging ones excess items" is the main point. That's how people start. ...and Learn. 🤔🙄😒

Loved your video! Especially the thought that every item you are looking at is reminding you to do something about it, take care of it, repair it, dust it... that’s so true and exactly what I’ve discovered as well. Such a thoughtful way to approach the topic of minimalism!

This is such a brilliant video - its nice to hear a new perspective on this as someone who is also struggling with this. Thank you for this.

For me the best way of being minimalist is to use everything as long as I can and only get stuff that I really need. Especially for clothing. Most of my clothes are well kept for a long time and honestly I'm deeply attached to them.

I really like your honesty about your journey! I am on my on journey and it isn't easy, but I won't give up!

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

You got this! (And thanks!)

I lived in a tent for a couple of years...talk about minimalism!!! Then I moved into a refurbished Garage for 13 years and accumulated "ALOT" of stuff Now I'm in a small house and when I moved I down sized so much that my dwelling place was empty...hollow....devoid of any personality at all. It had no character without "MY" handprint, heartprint, headprint.....I hadn't put "MY" mark on the space; the things that bring me joy and tell others who I am through my life space. After 2.5 years I've found some balance between what I had in the Garage, and what I had when I first moved where I am now. I added lots of fabrics in many textures, colors and styles....I love changing my environment often, and fabrics are perfect in a rental. I added back some basic furniture...like storage pieces for my supplies that I use in my publishing business. I am not a minimalist...but I do like order and efficiency....I edit my space quite often, and I'm constantly playing with the contents of my home. I'm an aesthetic artist and home maker...so I enjoy the process of displaying my passions, but not just random collections. Everything has substance and usually "works" in my space...nothing is simply pretty to look at...it has to function as something too...be useful to the whole system in many ways. My definition of minimalism is to have just enough in my possession that I'm living in pure love and joy....I want to feel "full" because the pieces are rich in color, texture, flavor, aroma, sound...all my senses are stimulated on a regular basis, because I have some sense of emotion about my belongings. Home making is a beautiful balance between the pragmatic/practical and the warm/comfortable/beautiful. Every person has their own perceptions of what that means, and if you "LOVE" an empty house...then have it. But I don't think we need to define Minimalism as just ONE way of living....Perception & Emotion define things in many ways.

This is the first video I have watched on your channel, and I have to say that this is the best and most satisfying video I've watched in quite a while. I love your style and how you format your videos; keep it up!!

This is such an insightful video! I’m glad you talk about how everyone’s journeys are different, I can’t agree more! I’m beginning my minimalism journey and haven’t had access to my things (I’ve been quarantined out of the country for the last year) and it has really changed my mindset and I can’t wait to return and apply what I’ve learned to ALL of my things. I really enjoy your videos, thank you for sharing your journey :)

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, I'm sure that will be an interesting process returning to your stuff. And thank you so much!!

Absolutely. If you are buying all the time, it's counter productive. I am trying to pair down my stuff so I can appreciate what I really like to have out. I hear and agree with your approach.

I really enjoyed this...initially I was put off at some of the terms, as I don't believe there's a "perfect" or a "right" or "wrong" way to do something so diverse and deeply personal. But I found your perspective helpful and I agree, if we don't shift our mindset or goal it can be all about a number or color of things, instead of contentment! Which is really what got us to be consumers in the first place lol! I had this issue with constantly 'editing' my capsule wardrobe, which was minimalist I GUESS but I was never happy with it...I was chasing this image of a perfectly curated closet not being present with what was actually there or being appreciative or creative as you said. So this is such a good reminder even now as I fight a similar urge with kitchen organization 😂 tysmfs🙏🏾

@ElinLesser

3 жыл бұрын

I totally relate to the urge to chase perfection -- thanks for sharing! And so glad you enjoyed!

I love your video and the idea of not bringing new things in and reducing the collections is something that I have always thought to do first. So I’m glad I got a chance to see your video today. You have helped me quite a bit in my struggle. My biggest question is, where do I “get rid of things to“??. I don’t always trust Salvation Army, because I believe the workers take takes many things or buys them themselves. Therefore, the people who may need to shop there may never see any of it. I have expensive things and I don’t want to just give them to Salvation Army.