this is embarrasing but yikes, this is me. like I DONT HAVE ANY REASON TO LIE but i still do it, even before realizing what i'm doing

@kjsfl386

3 жыл бұрын

Then stop.

@aidenbradford4440

3 жыл бұрын

@@kjsfl386 not how it works..

@kjsfl386

3 жыл бұрын

@@aidenbradford4440 Adult people can monitor the words they say. If you begin to speak an untrue word...stop and just be quiet. We can Restrain and reteach ourselves

@user-nt6gt6yf9l

3 жыл бұрын

@@kjsfl386 bruh as someone who legit lies for no reason it’s not that easy. its literally natural for me and i hate that but it’s not as easy as you’d think it is. i don’t lie to hurt people but it happens sometimes and I’m assuming you don’t lie constantly you wouldn’t know how hard it is to stop 🤦🏽

@kjsfl386

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-nt6gt6yf9l I’m sorry you are compelled to lie. You must be a special person to admit your fault and that you want to stop. I can only encourage you to ask God to help you. You seem to have a strong conscience and a type of honesty of self to build on. You can change. We all have things we need to work on. 😊

As a recovered pathological liar I used it as a defense mechanism. I lied to everyone up to and including myself on the daily. Looking back I realize just how much it took out of me to keep everything in order and the stress of someone possibly finding out the truth was unbearable.

@nadyaclarkson6412

3 жыл бұрын

Im just starting to face this in counselling I hope I can recover like you one day

@Stephen-px4eg

3 жыл бұрын

Or are you lying to yourself that you are recovered?

@juliusdv6657

2 жыл бұрын

What did you do? I think I understand what you mean by defense mechanism. I utilize it as a way to prevent people from seeing the real me but I also believe there's a bit of perfectionism complex involved with my personality that has this need to lie. I try my best to stop, and sometimes it works, but there are just these moments where im dishonest with myself and others. A simple act of leaving things out or allowing people to see only what I want them to see.

@HenryGreenEngine3

2 жыл бұрын

@@juliusdv6657 More or less what you said here. Put on a show and no one can hurt you.

@Sarablueunicorn

2 жыл бұрын

What's with lying with no apparent reason for lying? just for the sake of it? no one gains or loses anything with it? Or insisting on a lie when it clearly has been proven and shown that it's a fact, and that fact still will cause no harm or good. Unless to the other person who will start to feel fed up. I honestly believe this behavior comes from people who were never told that lying was bad or experienced consequences for lying, actually they've been encouraged to lying and even get benefits and praising from it. I realized this in chinese culture. While i came from a catholic background where "kids who lie go to hell" and "God sees and watches everything" and big punishment would come if ever caught lying, it was like a capital sin. But chinese kids aren't taught that lying is wrong, actually they are taught that if they have to lie and deceive to get better advantage they should and they watch their parents do this. Kids do something wrong and instead of getting punishment parents will come and say "my kid never did that right" and make the kid agree with the lie, so kid learns that lying is always safe. They turn into patholigical liars in adults, lie, deceive, scam and will have no remorse or guilt associated with it. Also they will lie for the sake of lying like it's their second language..no big deal. I've noticed this behavior in russians too but for them it was more like adding up to stories, making them bigger, more fantastic. One western case is Casey Anthony, she never experienced consequences for her lying so she killed her own daughter, told nothing but lies from beginning to the end and still was considered innocent.

I am just here trying to educate myself more on Pathological liars after watching the "who TF did i marry"series on Tiktok😭

@devynmari8919

2 ай бұрын

Literally😂😂

@anirakezz8438

Ай бұрын

Same here 💀😭

@rosella1066

Ай бұрын

Sammme, especially cause im a psyh major haha

My sister pathologically lies all the time but shes also a very genuinely caring person at the same time. Call her out on an obvious lie and she will spin it until you give up. People are weird. Just make sure you avoid the ones that use lies to harm you for their pleasure. Ive met a few of those in my life

@Bonzi_Buddy

2 жыл бұрын

I know a pathological liar who is now on a "I'm depressed" kick. Nothing annoys me more than some depressed loser posting repeatedly about mental illness on social media. Jesus Christ. There is real harm in that too because of the risks of a self-imposed self-fulfilling prophecy.... It makes her insufferable though. I have no clue how any guy would deal with her crap. That stuff wears thin on me real quick.

@AFFTFOMSICHTS

2 жыл бұрын

She’s probably either very insecure or a ppl pleaser. She sounds like me. I lied all the time bc I was a ppl pleaser and hated saying no to ppl but didn’t want to go at the same time so I’d lie

@rachelsimbhu3965

Жыл бұрын

Same , my half siblings are like that

@meritorioustechnate9455

Жыл бұрын

My ex lies all the time and wants to be back in my life. She told me that she’d lie to keep me around: sick!

@AwakenedStars

Ай бұрын

It’s for good reason… did she give you the gotta protect brother at party story? ​@@meritorioustechnate9455

Regular lying is when you catch them in it and they come clean to what they've done. Pathological lying is when you are holding *proof* via pictures and texts in front of them only to have them say that it's *inaccurate* oof

@LisaMaryification

3 жыл бұрын

Kind of like that song that goes 'It wasn't me'. lol. My mother lied to everyone for years about a) that my brother was born 7 months into my parent's marriage like nobody knew how to subtract 7 from 9 and b) that she smoked pot on a daily basis. She even had the nerve to get angry at my father for smoking it on rare occasions. She brought my dog down to the dog licensing office and somehow convinced the clerks there that it was, indeed, her dog and registered my dog under her name. Unbelievable. The damage it does to a child with a pathological liar as a parent is immense. We tend to not develop an internal lie detector and so attract conmen and liars throughout our lives. It's not that we are stupid or even gullible, it's that we ignore FACTS even at our own peril because our entire childhood was a lie.

@seyeploeg2486

3 жыл бұрын

Been there!

@ElanaVital83

3 жыл бұрын

@@LisaMaryification You were trained to believe lies

@ash0500

3 жыл бұрын

My brother. he does such obvious and unimportant lies for no reason, it always feels like an insult. He thinks I'll believe them like I'm stupid. Lying sucks.

@TaharkahX

2 жыл бұрын

Dude! Been there.

I would call my husband on lies and he would say, “What difference does it make?”. It made a lot of difference to me.

Parents of lying children... Get that problem resolved ASAP. My older sister lied CONSTANTLY when she was a child. Our mom actually grew to dislike her. All that lying made all of our lives miserable. As a child, I barely wanted to talk to her. Every time she opened her mouth, she would tell lies and sometimes, she would LAUGH as if to mock our exasperation. She would ditch school and lie about it. She would throw food out and lie about it. She would hide ROTTEN food under her bed and lie about it. She's forty now. No friends. Two cats. She lives alone in some sort of small town in the south. Supposedly, she might be homeless soon? Parents, TALK to your kids. You don't want them to be like her. No one likes a liar.

@vintage_peace

7 ай бұрын

leave the cats out of this, they make great companions 🤣

@sasp4455

6 ай бұрын

I needed to see this!

@leez9394

2 ай бұрын

Ever considered why she’s like this?

@Maziko_Lee

2 ай бұрын

​@@leez9394 Gee. I wonder why someone would go out of their way to lie about everything??? She's going to be forty-one this year and she needs to get a grip. Sooner or later, she will have to wake up. She might hold onto excuses and labels, but honestly...no one wants to deal with excuses and labels. Excuses and labels don't pay the bills. They don't make people like you. They don't make anything easier. (If anyone's wondering about an update, she is living with a distant relative(?) A relative who obviously doesn't like her. Maybe she's helping her out of pity? One cat died (sick?) and the other one was put out; the husband hates cats. She has no job. She insists, "I'm waiting on a call from the Dollar General." It's been almost a year. They are not going to call her. I hope they will, but...)

@rosella1066

Ай бұрын

@@vintage_peace I think cats are autistic

People, if you have this problem... please get help for it. Pathological lying is scary. I have a sibling that is a pathological liar and they have hurt so many people by doing this... even ruined a life. It isn't right, this is a problem that needs to be addressed more often in our society.

I was a "victim" of a pathological liar, and being a trusting, gullible person, it took me a very long time to put two and two together. Even when the "stories" were unbelievable, I wanted to trust this person! They lied 98% of the time and just for the sake of lying! Voluntarily lying with far-fetched stories. When questioned, this person would talk in circles so as to confuse me further. A circle talker. I was so ashamed and disappointed in myself that I "fell" for it. It also made me feel insecure about my judgment or lack thereof of people. I have thought about writing a fiction book based on the fabricated stories I was told. It would be quite entertaining!

@lucakat9262

3 жыл бұрын

Don't feel bad. I had a good friend who introduced me to her boyfriend. Soon after, they started living together. I and my friend, Lisa started hanging out with them. Going to lunch, to the movies, ect. Anyway, he started telling some very interesting stories about his life. And, as time went by, these stories became more intricate. He was obviously very intelligent. He said he grew up around dictionaries and encyclopedias and he was very adept with different languages as well. And if he couldn't speak these languages, he could copy the accents very well like an actor. Anyway, at first myself and Lisa thought possibly these stories could be true. I mean, some people live crazy lives. So we gave him the benefit of the doubt. But, soon afterward, the couple split up and his lying got worse. I honestly think, in his situation, he was very insecure and he felt like he was an important person by telling these fabrications. Also, I think he lied so much that he even began to believe his own lies. Myself and Lisa caught him in a few of these lies. And she was afraid to call him on it but not me: I called it and he got extremely angry trying to not only defend himself, but to also back his lies up one way or another. I just decided it was better to let it go than to start an argument. However, Lisa started to fall for him romantically. Even though he never showed any interest in her. And, btw, he still doesn't show any interest in her whatsoever and he even told me one day. So Lisa began believing his stories again. She believed him so much that when he split up with our friend, he got Lisa on his side and then Lisa would no longer have anything to do with her. He convinced Lisa that she was an absolutely terrible person. Which I never believed and still don't. He used to tell me that someone should write a book about his life since, of course, it was so outrageous. He even wanted me to write the introduction to it. And I thought, you know actually I really don't think you would want that because, frankly I wouldn't make him out to look so good and to look so important. So I know he's definitely a pathological liar. There's no doubt about that. It's a shame Lisa can still not see it. However, I just got to the point whereas I just couldn't stand all the lying and I considered it a toxic relationship. Not just because of the lying. But because he started trying to get stuff out of me and Lisa that he shouldn't have been asking for in the first place. For instance, he'd say they messed up his check at work and he needed money. Or that he had extreme back pain and 'would we please give him one of the pain pills we (me and Lisa) were prescribed?' It was really getting to be too much. As for his biggest pathological lying, an example would be that he told us he had a mafia hit out on him. Somehow, to this day, the mafia have not made good on their supposed promise. He also tried to lure us in with stories that part of his family was in the mafia and he even went so far as to say that they made him kill someone and he felt guilty about it. Oh, and at that time, he asked for a xanax. Sorry, but I just don't buy any of it. He really did not act like he actually murdered someone. I think he actually wanted a xanax and a pain pill. Which he got from Lisa and he proceeded to squash both pills and then take a straw so he could snort them. Luckily, I got away from him. But, also to this day, he still is in touch with Lisa and she still thinks he's a great friend to her. I asked her recently, "do you really see him as that good of a friend?" Unfortunately, she said yes. So please don't feel bad. I have to admit this guy somehow really sounded legitimate. He is a wonderful con man at lying and getting people to believe his bs. For my own mental health, I felt the need to get away from him. Frankly, I have enough of my own problems and I don't make the time anymore to hear his lying problems. So just think of this as one of life's lessons. And, yes, be cautious of people like that. But don't let it bother you so much that you don't let new people into your life. Just be careful. That's my advice. I hope it helps you to know you are not alone and this can happen to anyone. Be strong and be safe. My best to you.🙂

@patteegee9506

3 жыл бұрын

@@lucakat9262 Thank you for sharing your story and for your supportive words. I have become bitter since my experience. But you're right that I should view it as a life lesson and be more cautious in the future. I'm glad you ended your toxic friendship and I hope your friend sees him for who he really is and gets as far away from him as possible.

@lucakat9262

3 жыл бұрын

@@patteegee9506 you're welcome. And yes, I hope my friend will get away from him too. And you know what? He really hasn't got any friends left. So maybe that is why he has latched onto Lisa so much. Idk exactly. But I know he has burnt a lot of bridges with his friends. For instance, he was actually in a rock band at one time. And since they broke up the band, he has lived off all of the band members at one time or another but they always seem to literally kick him out. So I'm sure they're most likely, sick of his lying too. He's living with his mother now and he hates it. So, to get away from her, he's been going over to see Lisa a lot. Plus, I think he still uses her for her prescription drugs.🙄 I hope she'll see the light one day.😳 But, of course, it's up to her if she wants to keep him around or not. She still tells me about him and his current circumstances. But I just avoid him.😏 Good luck to you! I sincerely hope that you will find someone who will be really good to you one day and not lie. But I know what you mean in the fact that it gets hard to trust people and, yes, one can certainly become bitter after knowing someone like that. But at least we can learn from our mistakes and to be careful not to make the same ones again.🤔Anyway, I wish you all the best life has to offer.🙂

@Bonzi_Buddy

2 жыл бұрын

If a pathological liar subjects someone else to significant lies, they are not just a pathological liar but probably a highly manipulative person with a personality disorder. They were probably gaslighting you, not just lying to you. Most pathological liars are very annoying but rarely as harmful as it seems the person you have dealt with. They're similar to a hypochondriac really.

@patteegee9506

2 жыл бұрын

@@Bonzi_Buddy Wow! I read a bit about gaslighting and you're absolutely right! I was being gaslighted. The psychological trauma has been very damaging to my mental health. I can't even begin to understand why someone would do this to another person. I guess it's like narcissistic supply. It's empowering to the gaslighter. They take great pleasure in watching someone squirm.

I used to be really bad about pathological lying and it was because I hated myself and hated my life and it was a form of escapism from my reality to tell all sorts of lies and many of them were wild adventures and creating an alternative reality for myself. I never meant harm in them, I just wanted to create a different reality and be someone other than myself. However time went on, I got diagnosed with Autism and found a community of people like me. And that enabled me to accept myself and love myself as I am and be with people who are like me. Before my diagnosis, I felt like I was a total freak. I knew I was very different from those around me and no matter how much I tried to fit in, I always felt like an uncover alien observing the world cuz I was so socially clueless. But being with other autistic people, I feel “normal” and i embrace my quirks and weirdness now. I have no more need to invent an alternate world to escape from myself. Every person I’ve ever met who does pathological lying, i find there is a very shattered sense of self and deep self hatred and it’s a form of escapism. So my suggestion to fix it is to work on the root issues of self esteem and self concept.

@katiehinkle2395

Жыл бұрын

This is how I feel. I just need some therapy

@tinawalker5335

9 ай бұрын

Being able to identify this in yourself is major, there is hope. My kids dad is a pathological liar and it’s extremely annoying.

@BarbaraStevens-ps3gi

4 ай бұрын

It is very frustrating to be a friend to someone who tells lies. I use my strength in God to forgive them as God has always forgiven me.

@restlesspotato

3 ай бұрын

I could’ve written this myself, I actually scrolled up to your username to see if it was me who wrote it lol! The alien part hit me so hard and I actually said the same thing in a post I made after being diagnosed. I’m happy for you that you’ve found a community and doing better now! Life without insane amounts of masking is so much better 🥺🩷

I was British for two years. I had a quite convincing accent. I said that I was from Bristol. Every day, I told people that I was from Bristol but had moved to the United States during my high school years. I felt dopamine every time someone thought I was from England. Unfortunately, dopamine isn't a lasting sensation, so I had to keep doing it in order to maintain the pleasure I was receiving from my deception. Because I was so good at lying, I also pretended to have an England degree that I never had. I was on the verge of receiving this degree but being on the verge and really having it are two different things. I was a professional copywriter all my life, but with this degree (which I didn't truly have), I received better employment as a copywriter. Finally, I became an advertising copywriter, which seemed so natural since I was professionally manipulating people. I suffer from both Bipolar 1 and OCD. According to what I've read, around 15% to 20% of individuals with Bipolar also have OCD. A manic individual desires goods and will typically go to any length to have them. I wanted money and a well-known title at a large corporation, so I devised a plan to get both. I want to know whether there's any evidence between bipolar disorder and pathological lying. The problem with dopamine is that it isn’t a very deep happiness. Pleasures are shallow naturally, which meant that I had to keep lying to keep the dopamine and the pleasure. Too much dopamine may actually deplete serotonin, which is responsible for a far deeper level of happiness. Our stomach contains around 90% of our serotonin. Serotonin deficiency has been linked to both depression and anxiety. Dopamine is linked to all addictions, including social media and lying. I had been from England for so long that I began to believe my own lie. By the end of those two years, it was easier to believe in these illusions than it was to accept responsibility for anything I had done. At the end of my second year, it got harder and harder to keep up with my lies, and I eventually lost everything. My actions caused me to lose my job and fall into a deep depression. I now have a TBI (traumatic brain injury), and I had to relearn everything I know, including relearning English (aphasia). I finally saw that I needed to change. During the years I spent learning English and all the other skills I now have, I also paid attention to my mental health. With the help of cognitive-behavioral therapy, I was able to slow down my mind to the point where I could see my manic thoughts and choose not to use them. I still have manic thoughts daily, but for years I've been able to have them without acting on them. Because of this effort, I'm more stable, peaceful, and contented than I've ever been. Thank you, Dr. Tracy Marks, for this video.

@Kapoios111

2 ай бұрын

Hi that’s such an interesting story and I truly hope you feel better. Actually kudos to you to such a great self awareness and big effort to get better and change. Your story really rang bells with me. I had a friend (in my heart I still have friendly and caring feelings but for my sanity I had to distance) who I realised she was a pathological liar after one year of not so close friendship telling me suddenly about a supposed degree in IT she had, I mean till that point she could tell me she only finished high school doing a vocational program and all of a sudden she was a degree holder? My smart, not too interrogative questions really helped me to understand she was lying as she hadn’t prepared the story well at all for my level of knowledge (as a degree holder myself) so she gave some not so solid answers pretty convincing though but I knew that moment. Still I kept friends with her hoping she would change. Made me wonder for other things and stories she had told me and I remembered a very extreme story she told me the first 5 minutes she had met me , it was like a script perhaps she was using around the time a lot! She was forgetting some of the lies and had changed a few stories, I open pretending I hadn’t caught her out. Anyways she told me eventually in the 4th year of friendship that her grandma was diagnosed with bipolar (manic depression called back then) and they all got to get checked (all females of the family) and dr confirmed they all had it in different severity, more mild. She also told me she has ocd tendencies with cleaning tidying and having to keep everything in order and minimalistic. She’s the most materialistic person I know as I’m not so much buying too many things (she likes few good things but also some simple things if practical and cheap) but to save save save! She likes to say money, convinced her husband to get the most expensive package of life insurance and speaks with such confidence about how well off she will be with her kids if he dies. She would forget her wallet card etc trying to micro-taking advantage of me and others, she’s especially please if she got treated and would treated back the cheapest way possible, if that. Very greedy of money. I got hurt though because I realise she’s very shallow, we might have deep conversations and show compassion but she would ever do that extra mile for me and also I got tired of her supposedly not liking anyone but being friends with anyone and spend time with them and I supposedly her favourite person was always last in her list for doing things but first to call for gossiping, chit chat and throwing some stories in occasionally. She had it easier to lie on the phone and was smart enough to never text and write. I could feel it was very impulsive, coming out as storytelling. Looking back I do feel hurt as I was sincere, generous and honest and I also felt manipulated as she affected me with some observations and comments she made about some people from my circle and I took them from granted, she affected me negatively so much that relations broke down. But herself maintained relations with many people she had spoken bad about them, very strategically, changing the narrative overnight that they weren’t so bad etc.

Fantastic video! My ex partner is a pathological liar. He lies as he breathes. It's extremely difficult to have a relationship with such people

@WhitneyDahlin

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I agree! Lying to someone is a slap in the face. Even when you justify it as claiming you do it to protect them. When you lie you are basically telling the person #1 I don't respect you enough to tell you the truth, #2 I think you're stupid enough to fall for the lie, and #3 I don't think you are capable of handling the truth. It's very condescending, pretentious and disrespectful. I really wish pathological lying would have more study done on it so those people can get treated. I have had one of those people in my life and I HATED her. She was in my circle of friends in high school there's about 10 of us made up equally of boys and girls. And she would literally make up something to cry about every day for attention. Every single day. And everyone in my friend group would fall for it. Except me. I could clearly see she was doing it for attention because when anyone else was getting some attention because their parents were getting divorced or they got a good grade right after that she would start crying and needing attention and comfort. I f**king HATE her to this day. She drove me nuts. No joke she's crying every single day and every single day my idiot friends would fall for it. Like I would get angry on my friends behalf that she would suddenly start crying when my friend was trying to vent about how hard her parents divorce was. She was so irritating and cringy and I hope she has gotten over it or faced some serious consequences for her behavior by now.

@charleslee1862

2 жыл бұрын

They have something defective with them bc they will think their lies are truth

@Sweetjunglequeen

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂 he lies as he breathes

@deecee4529

2 жыл бұрын

I've recently split up from my partner and your description "he lies as he breathes" is spot on!! 👌🏻 I've had 3 yrs of it & it's mentally draining...

@desireebryant9523

Жыл бұрын

It’s draining 😩

Pseudologia fantastica. Sounds like a Harry Potter spell

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

Ha ha I hadn’t thought of that! I guess that’s why I like saying it. 😃

@lizannehein1561

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks doctor I never been ill befor I drank overdose and that symptoms made that they diagnose me as a schizofreen am I schizofrenic just because of pills reaction. Please can you just clarify this to me please.

@lizannehein1561

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks doctor can tablets cause schizofrenia.

@lizannehein1561

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks cause I have the same symptoms as a schizofreen

@y.rivera2828

3 жыл бұрын

In Spanish, fantástica means fantastic/wonderful/ amazing.

I had a friend that I stopped being friends with because of the lies. Insane stuff like buying her house at 15, she lived in a relatives spare room. Saying she had been places she hadn’t. Making up really bad accidents that she or a member of her family had been in. That she was adopted, that her house caught fire and was being rebuilt. That she is in the “British mafia”. It was just too exhausting even to just ignore it. Latest I heard is she is telling people she is a doctor.

@bobthegamer1880

9 ай бұрын

Have a friend like that right now he lies so much it’s just frustrating because they know you know they are lying and they still continue to tell their stories 🤷🏻‍♂️

@abcsfjajk

8 күн бұрын

What’s that former friend’s first name if I may ask? Those stories sound awfully familiar with a person I recently cut ties with.

Every time I hear "pseudologia fantastica" I think about Georgina in "Girl, Interrupted".

@symoneb382

3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing. My fav mental illness movie

@onlyright2162

3 жыл бұрын

Bangali Ni beh???

@felin_de_la_nuit

3 жыл бұрын

I was just watching that movie and that's why I ended up here lol

I'm involved with someone who has a history of pathological lying. He used lies to manipulate, to tell tall tales, to appear higher status, for personal gratification, to garner sympathy and so so soooo much more. He lies over stuff that can be easily verified. The biggest struggle/ frustration is when i have to get a 3rd party account by him - and rely on his testimony, account, story. He's not trustworthy, I really can't believe anything that that comes out of his mouth. Most or all of it might be true, but his track record for lying is so bad, you have to remind yourself this could be a bunch of BS. He has a history of heavy drinking, which made it easy to lie. Dr what's a good resource to protect yourself from their lying if you have to live together. What's the best boundaries and precautions can I adopt to protect myself. Thank you.

As someone who used to constantly pathologically lie, I think that when I started taking adderall, stopping became significantly easier-there wasn’t really any urge at all.

Some of the “big” lies ought to depend on whether you’re dealing with narcissists etc.

@Bonzi_Buddy

2 жыл бұрын

Ding ding ding! Absolutely. A narcissist will lie often to manipulate, but they're not considered a pathological liar. They lie very specifically to accomplish their manipulations and will blast people with rude truths to manipulate them as well.

Who tf I got marry to brought me here

When I was younger I pathologically lied because I was scared and mentally abused by family member... Now it’s ok, I try to remove this trauma and live my life in the best way (Sorry for my English, I am from Poland)

@ritikaraj9646

3 жыл бұрын

How you are able to remove this.....?????

@phillipjohnson4156

Ай бұрын

liar, notice how nobody cared? Did saying that make you feel better? Looking for empathy or attention? Need a hug? You still lie these days?

I have to say Dr. Marks, your video quality has really improved! I love the new editing style and I really appreciate all the time you take to make educational and well made video about mental health.

My mom has a habit of lying and it's very annoying. When you start to doubt her words she gets very angry but if you manage to make some really good points about what she said she goes quiet. Most of the time I don't even react to her lies and pretend I believe them because I can't be bothered to listen to her yelling.

I love your robust description with the references. I’ve been enjoying your channel, thank you for being so thorough!

This channel is so interesting!!😍 You explain everything so well. (In every video) You really are such an unbelievably intelligent woman... Just wow!! hope you're keeping safe and well 💕🇮🇪☘️

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Bea! 😊

@novastariha8043

3 жыл бұрын

“Real Talk “ you rock and this junk all way Fascinating!!!

@sandranatali1260

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely very interesting. Another thing I'd like to point out, this is a very beautiful woman.

@Apostleaisha

2 жыл бұрын

Ik she is awesome at explaining...

Thank you Dr. Tracey This is right on time. I needed to hear this. Have a good day 💙

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome glad you enjoyed it

@nobibabe

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks 😊💙

@secondopinion53

3 жыл бұрын

A LIE IS A LIE...

Dr. Marks, I love your energy. You have helped me so understand so much with your videos which are just as entertaining as they are informative and well researched.

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

Oh awesome Kathryn. Thanks so much for that I appreciate hearing that.😊👍🏽❤️

Thank you, Dr., that clears up some complete bewilderment on my side. I appreciate your simple and easy-to-understand explanation.

Wow! That was excellent! I appreciate you way of explaining things so clear, I finally understand the difference!

Covering for someone who stole 500 dollars doesn't seem like a small lie to me... and pretty unhealthy behavior to say the least.

@Rei-tm3so

Жыл бұрын

Fr there's no one in the world I would cover for someone who took that much money

@adh3247

Жыл бұрын

true and i feel like lying about liking someone is a little lie, not a big one

@blackwolfmane4532

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree

I lie almost 20 times a day. It’s gone to the point where I don’t know if anything about myself is real or not. I don’t know if anything I say is even true. I have no idea how to stop

@pavan151

3 жыл бұрын

You can seek professional and slowly work your way towards a life of honesty and being truthful. Sometimes speaking to a stranger and coming clean and being honest can be the first step you need to make things right 🤷🏽‍♂️

@felipeakira5621

3 жыл бұрын

See a professional, now that you are aware you have to deal with it. It also helps to feel what you say, like, immediately after saying something try and feel how that makes you feel and stay away from the bitter and sad ones

@mavisleblanc663

3 жыл бұрын

Right they just slip out my mouth

@blubayou4654

3 жыл бұрын

Cry out to Jesus to help you

@mikkiminach9539

3 жыл бұрын

May I ask what type of things do you lie about?

Thanks Dr Marks, something is concerning when prolific lying overcomes an individual's need or ability to cope or distinguish with the truth. Those filters people apply to incomming information often make an obvious distinction for their compulsion to lie, when and what they are compelled to lie about, what they hope to achieve. Yet as you get to know them it becomes less distressingly, less of a dissapointment (like someone didnt care or continued time and time again to let them get off the hook) and that is usually rooted in the conditions or failures in their upbringing/social networks. Development missed in trust, esteem, accomplishments repeal the integrity of the person, they might no doubt use it as fun or to deny/evoke feelings of shame and betterment. Being clever and outfitting, some might thrive over lingering feelings of betrayal. Really looking forward to your analysis of Pathogical Lying, it might be bigger but in a real teany weeny way 🙏

Dr. Marks, You are simply terrific. A much needed explanation.

My ex was a pathological liar. He created a story from the very start of our relationship up to the end. I began to realize he was lying when 8 years later, it finally came out based on my questions. I was upset with myself for believing it for so long. It was then that I realized a lot of his stories were lies. I broke up with him the following week I couldn't trust him anymore.

@dkaur454

4 ай бұрын

What can be the symptoms?

@abcsfjajk

8 күн бұрын

I feel you on that one. It sucks being on the other end. But hey we learned from it.

This was so interesting! I loved learning the 3 types of lies :)

Thanks so much Dr. Tracey. It ‘s so interesting. And besides, your English is so comprehensible to me.!

First time watching your channel in my opinion, simply amazing! I appreciate your hard work Dr.

She always seems to upload just when I need it.

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

So glad we’re on the same page. 😊

Lying, when the truth would serve them better. Constantly. Great information. Makes me look at me.

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome all Iknow. Self-reflection is a great skill to have.

i’ve only started actively trying to stop lying very recently, and it’s insane how much lying intertwined w my relationships. i’m better off now and much happier being honest to ppl

Thank you for the definitions and examples.

When I was younger sometimes my mother would ask me the question "How do I look?" to which I would answer "What am I going to do, tell you the truth?" And I like saying PSEUDOLOGIA FANTASTICA too. Anyway, thank you for another excellent video Dr. Marks.

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

I like your answer to your mom 😊 thank you for showing up and watching. 👍🏽

My sister is a pathological liar. She just likes to talk, and when she runs out of true things to talk about, she'll talk about little made up stories that are believable, just to fill the silence. I can always tell when she starts lying because she has her "tells", but other people wouldn't notice these things.

@perryh.5306

Жыл бұрын

Your sister sounds awesome!

@vitaminhead1465

Жыл бұрын

I have a sister like this too, but she has dark traits so she’ll make up stuff to embarrass me around cute guys or friends or family.

@simfamr.

Жыл бұрын

That’s so sad

@kelcasey4095

5 ай бұрын

The guy I was dating did it 24 hrs a day🤯🤯🤯

@1L1KEP0TAT0ES

4 күн бұрын

I do that as well. Only recently I have learned that people hate liars, and lies in general. I assumed it was normal never knew one c I ld feel guilty in the moment of the lie, oh well

Thanks again it helps me to understand the types of people I know who will not tell the truth

Youre amazing!! Thank you for investing in us.

My ex was like this it got to the point she lied about having cancer. Its a serious issue that needs looking into

I'm a recovering pathological liar and I get SO much anxiety when I slip up and tell a random lie for no reason. I'm trying so hard to stop, and I have done for the most part, but I still slip up every now and then. I never lie about important things, I'm actually painfully honest even when it makes me look bad or hurts my interests or when I could have hidden it and nobody would have known but somebody else would have been blamed, I only lie about stupid stuff that has no benefit to me or other reason to even justify it. When I slip up I beat myself up about it so much and get anxiety for days about it.

@tinawalker5335

9 ай бұрын

How did you stop?

This was so interesting and fascinating. I didn't know there were so many different types of lies.

I found this very informative. Thank you

I was married to the love of my life for 20 years. He was also a compulsive liar and cheater. I finally crawled away and created a new happy life on my own. I wrote a book about it anonymously to heal and pay it forward. *Quiet Little Mouse: How My Lying Cheating Huband Awakened My Inner Warrior by Mali Ponday* I'm not looking for fame or riches. Peace and love❤️

@MoneyStrategiesSOULutions

2 жыл бұрын

That's so great!

@phillipjohnson4156

Ай бұрын

do you miss him? how did you get past that part?

No matter what it’s lonely living with someone like this. They never ever really care about anyone but themselves.

Wow, such a timely topic!

Thank you for sharing this wisdom which is holy to me!

That was very interesting. I have several people in my life who just lie all the time. it seems to come from a place of entitlement. They lie to get what they want, to control people, and to put forth a certain image of themselves.

@muezzathestray750

2 жыл бұрын

@@grandmastermario3695 your a liar! Lol. I've never been dishonest to my children

very informative! really loved the video! Also turns out that I am a Prolific Liar. I'm gonna try and work on it, cause I feel really bad after I lie, but I still end up eventually doing it again. its like an addiction.

I'll admit I used to be horrendous with lying, reflection allowed me to see the endless damage it did.... but, lately though I just don't socialize, simply clam up or internally remind myself nothing is worth lying to any person for or about. My new personal reminder "Remember. You gotta call a screw a screw, not a nail."

Thank you for the info as usual and I love the red!

Thank you very much, I've been online platonic friends with a woman for 5 years, all she's ever done is lie - make up stories and read/hear what she wants to believe. She literally lies and/or fabricates stories over nearly anything, even when people prove to her how she is lying, she refuses to take responsibility. This sounds insane, but she literally lies more than any human being I've ever known, thank you for posting your video.

The most common "normal" lie: "I'm fine."

@eurekamreum5458

2 жыл бұрын

But is that a big or a small lie?

I don't know what I'm talking about but I'm gonna continue like I'm knowing what I'm talking about. Good job.

Thank you for the information!😮

I knew someone like that. He did have some mental health issues and brain damage from drug use but man he could come up with some windies! His name is James and he earned the nickname Scatter brain James because of his lying. I love your videos Dr. Marks. They are always so spot on. Are you accepting new patients? :) I have major depressive disorder with psychotic features but am being treated with Fluoxetine and that is really working great for me. I had tried so many meds prescribed by my doctor but nothing was working. It was looking like it was treatment resistant. But Lo and behold, My doctor introduces me to Prozac. I now have fantastic relief. I mean the depression is still there (I have suffered from it all my life) but it is so much easier to tolerate. For the psychotic features, he has me on Rexulti. The two medicines work fantastically. Sorry to ramble on Dr. Marks. I just appreciate your videos and your wisdom so much. Cheers from New Mexico.

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Scott thanks for the compliment. I’m so glad Prozac is working for you. I use Prozac a lot it’s still pretty tried and true. However I’m sure that Rexulti is doing some heavy lifting as well. I am taking new patients but I can only treat people who live in Georgia. Now that your doctor has your good combination, looks like things should be smooth sailing for you.

I liked the video, thanks. I struggle with this on some level. One thing you didn’t mention, and I’m not sure whether it would fit in with low level, or high level....telling a lie to avoid a certain situation. I have GAD, and Social Anxiety. I will make a commitment to attend a party, for example, and then at the last minute, find the thought of going so anxiety-producing and overwhelming, that I will make up something, such as a fictitious family concern, or a migraine, I always feel guilty afterwards.

@gabemelendez6258

2 жыл бұрын

I be feeling the exact same way

@tinawalker5335

9 ай бұрын

I think this would be considered pretty normal. You’re only lying because you don’t feel comfortable explaining your emotional well being. That’s no one’s business anyway. Now my guy… is a big ass liar!

Thanks, this is a valuable information.

Great Video Dr Marks. Also love your necklace

Thank you for the video. Would like to see your take on the connections between narcissism, NPD, neurological malfunction, confabulation and lying. In short, confabulation fills in the memory gaps caused by the malfunctioning (delusional) brain of a narcissist. Therefore, they never believe - nor are they capable of believing - they are lying at all. Your professional opinion and research could probably expand this into an interesting topic. Thanks again.

I am kinda like a pathological liar, but I always wait for the reaction and then I few seconds. They then say: Really? And I say: No, but it would have been cool. And everyone laughs.

very good explanation! thanks doc

Sooo helpful . Thank you 🙏.

There's a workmate of my wife's and she's constantly lying. Big lies like her being accused and arrested for murder and little lies about her lifestyle. She has told so many it's unbelievable. It's hard to socialize with her because of her constant lying. She forgets her lies too. An example is when she said her dad poked the eye out of an ex boyfriend and then her dad gave it her as a gift. She forgot that lie and went and shown a recent photo of her ex with both eyes fine. When confronted she gets really angry when she's found out to the point where she's threatening violence.

You can easily tell if you are dealing with a pathological liar by their answers. They will literally have an answer to everything you question them on because unconsciously pathological liars don't think when they are being put on the spot. It's that simple. In order to save face a pathological liar will have an excuse or answer for everything because they are ashamed of admitting the truth thus by providing an answers to all your questions they believe they are convincing you that they're right.

@justvibe4804

Жыл бұрын

Damn

@dkaur454

4 ай бұрын

I need the help on this?

This video deserves million of views

Due to my constant masking, I'm sure I do a lot of the tiny lies whenever I have to deal with/talk to people. Usually just stupid stuff, like, "I'll have to see if I'm available that day," because I need time to process their request, invite, or suggestion first, but mainly I need time to come up with a polite but assertive way of saying "no." Which is usually another small lie, because "I just don't want to" or "I really can't stand you" would likely just cause more problems than it would solve.

Hey Doc, excellent video (as always!) Where you mention people whose lying has more of a compulsion / anxiety aspect and thus may be alleviated or assisted by taking an antidepressant similar to those that would be prescribed for OCD... I became curious as to whether there might be any benefit for people whose lying stems more from an addiction with regard to impressing people / storytelling / enhancing their own perceived self image / mental stimulation, and who might feel dull, bored, restless, depressed and empty if they DON'T lie...like maybe ADHD meds or the meds that can target issues relating to addiction (like the meds that seem to stop people having cravings).

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Lady Baa Baa. That’s a good thought. I don’t think we have enough understanding about what drives the compulsive lies enough to target areas in the brain with medications. Addiction is a different mechanism and therefore we target cravings with medications. But compulsive lying can be personality-based versus brain injury. And even in the people where it stems from a personality issue, The reason behind the lies still may be too complicated to target with a drug. That’s just my raw thoughts. it could be that someone is trying to find an addiction model for it. It’s still fairly poorly researched though.

Fantastic presentation! My brother is a pathological liar. He will tell stories that go on and on, with him being the tough guy, or the hero. It gets exhausting, and at times I get offended that he thinks people are actually that stupid to believe him. I know he is trying to give the impression of being important and, the odd thing is, he has accomplished many impressive things in his life. Military, impressive career, volunteering, yet he still lies. I have, only a few times, called him out during these stories because I just can't take it, and sit through his epic bs. I feel that his overbearing, manipulative wife makes it worse, and he feels like he needs to over compensate. Anyway, I try to be patient, but sometimes I just have to walk away.

@M_SC

3 жыл бұрын

He’s a danger to society

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah that has to be really hard just listening to that all the time. It really is a compulsion though that people just can’t seem to break away from. Your brother is a great example because he already has accomplishments, so the lies don’t really serve a good purpose.

I have so much trauma from my past and have PTSD and bipolar, and I struggle with lying. Sometimes I don't even control what I'm saying, it just comes out. And sometimes its fun to see if people believe me - I have been referred to a new psychiatrist as my doctor wants me on medicine. Wish me luck, its taken me years to admit the problem and seek help. I feel like because I'm so traumatized, I create my own reality and believe my own lies

Thank you doc . I absolutely love all your videos ...very warm + inspiring . " Fantastico"

@DrTraceyMarks

10 ай бұрын

Thank you! 🙏🏽

Sometimes I feel like not saying anything is better than lying about something that you don't want to say anything about.

Can you talk about the relationship between lying and bipolar disorder? It’s not definite in the DSMIV but anecdotally seems to have a very strong correlation. Is this related to delusion/reality distortion, substance abuse, or something else? Thank you!

5:58 this is so true😀 You are awesome, doctor. Thank you for this video.

Thanks doctor Tracy for this video!!

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome friendly soul 😊

I met a guy who lied about everything. I mean everything! His name, his nationality, his family. But it was funny because he didn't remember his lies. He told me his brother was a plastic surgeon in LA but then didn't remember telling me. He lied about his name 3 times. Then, he lied about changing the colour of his eyes. Or that he broke his leg in the military when, in actuality, he was in a car accident where the driver (perhaps him) was drunk. I also met a girl in university who claimed her father was a neurosurgeon just so that she could boost her story that a professor of ours was 'crazy'. Then, she introduced me to her father who managed a discount bookstore. I thought, either he's really down on his luck or she has two fathers. She told other people he was a neurosurgeon also. I had to correct them citing that she did, indeed, introduce me to a bookstore manager as her father. This seemed innocent at the time, until she became president of our university culture club (which she had no actual ancestry to tie her to) and used it to get a $10,000 donation that she would later use to treat herself and her friends to a trip to Europe. My brother in law at the time recognized there was something wrong and made sure I, as vp of the same club, took my name off as signing officer for the club's bank account. I'm glad I did, otherwise I would have been the fallguy for sure.

I know someone who lies, then expects you to be onboard with them. They insist you back them up. The strange thing about it is there is no reason or threat involved to lie in the first place. It's almost a normal way of life. I had to distance myself because I refused to be a part of it.

Thank you for your person on this planet. 🌎

Thanks for the video. Lying is going to ruin my relationships and I’m tired of disappointing my dad and my friend. It’s something I don’t even notice at times. I hope eventually after learning how to improve my memory I can catch myself when I’m lying and stop it

I've been lying about having a father for the past 3 years to my friends...what kind of lying is that?

Living for that hair!! Rock it, gurl!! 😍

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Jacqueline!😊❤️

Hey that was an entertaining vid. Thankyou for bringing it to us.

@DrTraceyMarks

3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Jeff thanks a lot 👍🏽

thanks for the video!

Being related to someone who is a pathological liar & having to deal with it on a daily bases, I feel it on so many levels

@reneekelley4279

3 жыл бұрын

My husband and i got Married last year and we have been living happily for a while. We used to be free with everything and never kept any secret from each other until recently everything changed when he got a new Job in Texas months ago, we have been in a long distance relationship for some months, he has been avoiding my calls and i got suspicious of him cheating.I asked my husband about it and he told me that he is always busy and working ,We had a big argument about it, this went on for long until one day i decided to notify my friend about this and that was how she introduced me to Mr John a PI/Hacker who helped her when she was having issues with her Husband. I never believed he could do it but until i gave him my husband’s Mobile phone number. He proved to me by hacking into my husband’s phone. where i found so many evidence and proof in his Text messages, whatsapp,instagram and other social media including pictures that my husband has an affair with his co-worker. I have sent all the evidence to my lawyer. I just want to thank Mr John for helping me because i have all the evidence and proof for my lawyer, You can contact him on Gmail (ultimatehack003 ) or WhatsApp +17202954268, i Feel so sad about infidelity.

@shivanitripathi2507

2 жыл бұрын

I can feel you

lmao I felt personally attacked about the calling out for a “mental health day” part

Thank you ever so much, very helpful,I'm married to an narc and alcoholic,in the process of getting a Divorce, the mixture of narcissistic and alcoholic was so hard for me to live with, I'm a victim of spousal abuse,have been for the 2 years of our marriage,he now has a felony for the abuse.again thank you from Eileen 👼

Hi, Dr. Marks. I adore your channel ☺ you're really helping a lot of people with these videos. I have some ideas\ requests for future topics. If any of them appeal to you, I'd be so grateful if you could make a video 😊 -Learned helplessness - "control issues", what makes a person become a "control freak" - flashbacks & "emotional flashbacks" -body memories - Somatization, especially with depression - Repetition compulsion (i.e. why are victims of trauma more likely to be drawn back into situations reminiscent of their past trauma) - When does anxiety begin to veer into the territory of delusions or paranoia - is depression caused mainly by a chemical imbalance or by painful life experiences and circumstances - I'd love to hear your thoughts on the "chemical imbalance" theory of mental illness in general as I personally believe that a lot of mental illness stems from childhood issues or trauma, but it seems this view has fallen out of favor, with more people opting to use medications instead of therapy and insurance companies being unwilling to pay for long term therapy sessions. Nowadays mental illness seems to be viewed largely as an imbalance in the brain that needs to be resolved with medicine. As a psychiatrist, I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you!

I would say I unfortunately fall into the pathological lying category, but I do it out of fear of being judged or to save someone’s feelings. Also, sometimes to get my own way. I’m not too proud to admit it, but I guess it’s easier to do in a somewhat anonymous setting. I hope one day I can fall out if this category.

@awayoflife44

Жыл бұрын

I hope you’re doing better, I need to work on this as well

@SatoshiFibonacci

11 ай бұрын

You better because pathological liars are annoying and y’all ain’t tricking anyone. We’re just respectful but we all know you’re lying

@supervert1491

11 ай бұрын

@@SatoshiFibonacci I’m working on it, but I wanna ask you this. Why do y’all condone it? Please, it these call these mofos out! I lie a lot, but lowkey I am someone who fears confrontation. Although I hide it well

@supervert1491

11 ай бұрын

@@awayoflife44 I don’t think I am. When I drink I’m more honest. I like me when I’m telling the truth, so I’ve been having more than I should. That’s been my new demon 🤦🏽‍♂️

@SatoshiFibonacci

11 ай бұрын

@@supervert1491 I call it out respectfully. Plus, you just said it yourself. Pathological liars are soft and will cry or get angry if you call them out. Stop pathologically lying. It’s annoying

This is me. I don't really know where the lying stems from but I usually lie to impress people or to keep the status quo within my circle. Sometimes I lie when a situation becomes extremely uncomfortable to save myself and others from further argument. I'm in my 30s now and in a very bad state in terms of my mental health... the lying doesn't stop especially when it comes to my family and friends. It's eating me up and the whole situation has gotten out of hand where telling the truth would destroy me and I don't know if that's something I can take. Anyway, I hope more people learn the value of telling the truth and more families accept people for who they are. Whether or not they become successful or unsuccesful, I hope the metric for acceptance becomes attainable for every person. I hate myself so much and I really feel like a monster. I'm not an addict and I do love everyone around me to the point where I'm like a doormat at times. I just hope things normalize, whatever that means for me.

Hi Dr. Marks, Thanks for this video! What's the difference between pathological lying and delusions? Is there a tendency for pathological lying among individuals with a psychotic disorder / schizophrenia / schizotypal traits? Thanks!

You're looking great dr Tracy :)

Sigh, my best friend of 7 years just lies non-stop. He lied a little when we met. It increased over the years until the only two friends he has, and his own family, don't even know him. He definitely even believes some of his own lies. Digging deep, those tend to be the ones where he knows he did something so horrible, he knows he can never let anyone know what he really did. Even he's afraid of the truth. So, he just recites the lie until the truth is gone. He's even told horrible lies about me to get attention from other women! It's really ruined his life and relationships. No one trusts or respects him anymore. Now that I know to look for lies, I've realized he really does lie so often, easily, and automatically that he does not realize he's lying before he does it and he does not think at all after to catch the lie. There's no filter process and no thinking over what he just did. Just lying and sticking to the lie no matter what. I know he has some signs of OCD, anxiety, depression, and codependency, and he's very insecure. I don't even know how to bring him back from the dark hole he dug himself into. He's put everyone in danger and lost tens of thousands of dollars from lying. This video may help a little. I can look for herbs that would cause similar changes in the body to the medicines used for OCD and anxiety. Beyond that possibly working, he will end up ruining lives forever and never be happy.

@versiewlw

2 жыл бұрын

Same here I feel you man.. and I feel great after cutting her out of my life completely

I wish she gave examples of pathological lying like she did with the other two types

Thanks I think I have BPD While I watch your video I feel comfortable Good job

Thanks Doc