one of my favorite things about this song is how the second time “all day every day therapist, mother, maid, nymph, then a virgin, nurse then a servant” etc line is sung its by a group of young girls in the background. i think thats such a brilliant and empowering choice on her part.

@aeri_taylors-version

Жыл бұрын

empowering and heartbreaking all at once

@Cote-uh8by

11 ай бұрын

@@aeri_taylors-versionfr

@sierrabird2460

5 ай бұрын

Those where actually young adult women not children.

@anicaputo6289

2 ай бұрын

@@sierrabird2460​​​​⁠​⁠genuinely curious if you have a specific reason for needing to clarify that the accompanying chorus of voices were produced by “actually young adult women” rather than “children”.

@sierrabird2460

2 ай бұрын

@@anicaputo6289 do you have a specific reason for being upset over misinformation being corrected? Kinda weird that you are pro misinformation.

The thing is, most lyrics have double or triple meanings depending on who listens. "So he never lifts a finger." So he never lifts a finger to help, but also so he never raises a hand to harm her.

@danae8112

Жыл бұрын

Also "it's not an act of love if you make her"

@stormthescarred2211

Жыл бұрын

That line has a third meaning as well. So that he never lays blame on her, never lifts an accusatory finger pointed at her

@KassieKalena

4 ай бұрын

@@danae8112to me, this line, it’s about sexual coercion. 😢

@cheyennawebb9684

4 ай бұрын

A hand is not the only thing that hurts women.........

Another layer: the capillaries in your eyes can also burst during labor

@Cees91

Жыл бұрын

It can happen crying too. Lifting heavy things. Capillaries are sensitive.

@lilykins2954

6 ай бұрын

Where's the girl with the list

@sierrabird2460

5 ай бұрын

My 5yo did this during a meltdown @@Cees91

@AvaBeeDee

18 күн бұрын

​@@Cees91not to that level and we both know it, cute attempt to undercut the seriousness though, clearly you're the target of this cutting read of a song lol

Have you noticed the candles? Her candle was half lit and she still lit it as she sat at the table. While he had his candle 'unlit' and unused. The camera pointed to her lighting her candle while he did not. In my opinion her candle represents all she has done for him and the leftover strength of what she still has left and still tries until there is nothing left. As she left, the candle was out and gone while his was still full and unlit. She also ate a pomegranate which symbolises women so she ate the 'fruits' of her labour. 😆

@stormthescarred2211

Жыл бұрын

Also pomegranate juice looks a lot like blood, which to me also symbolizes what part of her wants to do to him in her anger

@miew8204

Жыл бұрын

You do see her candle get smaller rapidly. while his barely do. In paintings deceased people would sometimes be potraited with a blown out candle near them. to show you that they are deceased. i see it as her candle burning out for (because of) him. Either by his abuse or by childbitrh. which might be abuse in this angle? seeing she is adement on doing too much " labour" (childbirth?) She is gone at the end and the candle burned out... somehow it points towards a tragic ending for her. It also seems that she wanted to drown herself in the beginning of the song...

@16poetisa

10 ай бұрын

I believe those are wedding candles, so it also shows how little he contributes to or values the marriage. Plus he's toying with his wedding ring.

@catbeara

2 ай бұрын

Also could be referencing "burning the candle at both ends" to mean overworking, meanwhile his candle is unburnt

my favorite symbolic symbol is the pomegranate which represents feminity which makes it more special.

@purple66666

10 ай бұрын

Add "forbidden fruit" (because it realy was considered ro be the true "apple") , and "fruit or labour" / hard work.

Her devouring the pomegranate at the end reminds of Persephone. Especially with the dark and burgundy color scheme

Some fun stuff you may not have noticed is two lines with double meanings. "so he never lifts a finger" refers to household labor AND physical abuse. "it's not an act of love if you make her" also refers to sexual assault.

The very open resentment in this song gives it a sort of venomous quality that I really love

If you plan to listen to this song again I would recommend that you listen to the cacophony version. This is a woman's movement song. This is why women choose the bear over the man in the woods. This is about the subjugation of women and how we as a collective are done. This song is something that the B4 movement understands. Seriously, if you truly want to understand what this song means to 52% of the population then check out the cacophony version. This is a lot of Paris' fans who sent her video covers of the song. She was so overwhelmed and impressed by her fan base that she re-recorded the song and included a bunch of those fan videos.

@crimsonjennifer

19 күн бұрын

The cacophony version is the superior version, in my opinion. the video for it is good too.

its not an act of love if you make her- this is an anthem. Women love each other and stand up.

The escape plan and diving into the waves beyow reminds me of the movie Sleeping with the Enemy. In the video, it seems to me that he gets all the fruits of her labor and she gets nothing until she grabs the pomegranate. This also reminds me of trapped Persephone.

@PopAt50

2 ай бұрын

im certain this is exactly the point

She writes songs for all women’s pain and anger. This song isn’t just for wife’s, it’s for daughters, sisters, mothers. It’s for all women, it descends the labours all women go through daily from the moments we are able to form words.

Just about how every woman feels, so tired

It's a post-Roe world, which gives "it's not an act of love if you make her" a whole new/old, ugly meaning. Also makes me wonder about the connection between the rope he's trying to keep hold of that she's hanging from and the capillaries in her eyes bursting- very dark.

She is pregnant, isn't she? "If our love died" might be an abortion plan, so the child does not share her fate if it was a girl. She is a 24/7 baby machine except for when she is pregnant. During that time there is silence in the bedchamber. And she told us from the start, this is an escape plan. She wants to escape to either have an abortion or have the child somewhere else.

@valentinailie4451

6 ай бұрын

Have the child someone else "If we Have a daughter"

So much to unpack... First, the song is catchy and she sings well but that being said, did you even listen to the words of the song? how this isn't labeled misandry? If a man would write a song with the roles reversed that dude would be canceled onsite! Provider, Protector, ATM, handyman, Father, man-slave, just a long appendage, so she can live out her wedding dream... Just imagine. Now I being to understand why marriage and birth rates are dropping and men and women cannot stay together anymore.

@kixmix2450

Жыл бұрын

maybe because misandry and sexism doesnt exist in a vacuum, and this song represents centuries of past of women being oppressed while what you mention are expectations *created by patriarchy* which women had little say in. Birthrates are dropping as a result of industrialisation and inflation not correlating with income so young people can't afford having children, plus that we no longer force the expectation of having children on women as much as we used to, not your incel coded fantasy of "we cant get along". YOU cant get along with it. YOU are the problem if hearing a women singing about a shared experience of abuse makes you instantly react by crying about "b-but if a man". But it's not a man singing about it because men hasnt been the oppressed sex throughout history. You'd live such a happier life if you stopped victimizing youself for a second and taking everything as a personal attack on you instead of systems.

@eefaaaa8045

Жыл бұрын

this song is literally about the constraints and labels given to us by men thousands of years ago, that to this day still haunt our society. why would a man create a song with ‘role reversal’ when none of these things she sings of has or ever will happen to a man in the way that ideals like these have clung to women for centuries. idk if you’re trying to be devils advocate or what here, but men never do write songs complaining about what opportunities on a silver platter have been given to them. why? because to be seen as powerful in these roles you list, will never be seen as a negative in the grand scheme of things, because men made it so. not to say that this structure should be this way for men either, but it was created by them. to benefit them. to serve them. and that’s why no man would or even could write a song like this and paint women out to be the ones in control. this is obviously just referring to women vs privileged men. hope this helps 😎

@casperthenotsofriendlyghos8968

Жыл бұрын

Her lyrics are no where near misandrist. Everything a woman talks about pertaining to men is not misandrist. Men are using that word Incorrectly all the time and It has to stop! She is sharing her experiences and there is actually history on the oppression of women and how we are viewed. And the past still has lasting effects to this day. It would be misandrist if she said men were only good for money. It would be misandrist if she said she hated men. But she did not 😒 there would have to be contempt for it to be misandrist. Look up the definition. Just because you feel attacked doesn’t mean that’s what it is.

@xanecho

Жыл бұрын

This is a song about an abusive relationship, very very very obviously. If all you got from that is misandry then you have horrific view of both women and men

@Marie-uj4ot

Жыл бұрын

Because this has been the truth for women for most of history. Women were an oppressed group for a very long time. It’s just a song telling that story about what women went through and sometimes still do, not misandry.