The worst thing parents and or in-laws can do to a married couple, whether happy, divorcing or divorced: Getting involved. In any form.

Forward to my in laws , my husband never defended me for 15 years we finally moved a thousand miles away and I feel human again.

The best thing is to discern a mama's boy before marriage and steer clear of them.

@SnookOnTheFly

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. My daddy’s girl and the relationship that goes with that has devalued our marriage into a roommate situation

@chrissychris44

3 жыл бұрын

definitely. i am married to a mamas boy and i didn't figure it out until we got married. now i regret the day i got married. because of his mother my love for him is fading

@melissaweigh4508

3 жыл бұрын

I have a mamas boy and as a mil I don't and wouldn't allow my son to act like that. It is his marriage and his life and it doesn't matter weather I like her or not ( although she's great and I love her) I don't get in there business, finances , child rearing etc. But I'm there to listen to both of them if needed and my son feel like I'm more her mom than his. But it's there life and i wouldn't have it any other way. I'm not sure it's a momma's boy that's the problem more than a controlling mom. I think there is a difference here. I have had these problems I'm my own marriage and I wouldn't want it to be this way for them. I tell them I can listen but I don't likely have any answers y'all better pray lol.

@revans29

3 жыл бұрын

🤣❤️ amen!

@RJN8580

3 жыл бұрын

@@chrissychris44 That’s sad on all fronts. It’s that bad?

I wish I knew all of this before I got married

Most in laws problems come from that child badmouthing their spouse to their family of origin. Trust me when I say spouses talk to their families about their spouses and the family doesn’t like you because of what they were told.

@deanarjones9114

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. It’s manipulation

@amandathompson9960

2 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right!

My husband's oldest sister was the problem in our marriage. As soon as she moved up to the US I noticed a change in my husband's attitude towards me. She was the reason for the first major argument we had in our marriage just one week after she came to the US. I realized I had to stand up to both her and my husband and place some firm boundaries around my home life. This caused a lot of issues as well but I wasn't budging. I later realized how intrusive she is with all her siblings. I think she feels like she had that right because she's the oldest. Well, she met her match with me because she's since backed off even though that strained any type of decent relationship she and I would have had. Oh well!!!

@jericamcbride3659

Жыл бұрын

Wow! I am currently experiencing this.

@cd2612

Жыл бұрын

@Jerica McBride This causes so much unnecessary stress on a marriage. I pray God see you through this. God bless you sister.

Before getting married, it’s important to understand the family your husband is from. My husband is from an enmesh family where boundaries and dependability is a problem. I knew this, but didn’t know how to deal with it. I later learned that his stepmother ran everything through his older sister (who they see as high and mighty). When certain things became clear to me, I immediately began to create boundaries and let go of my expectations of that family. My marriage became better not prefect. We go through our own ups and downs like any relationship, but we’re learning to deal with our situation privately without involving a third party.

@LisaLisaCJ

2 жыл бұрын

I had this situation and when I tried to set boundaries he left us because his mother told him to

Amen. My wife and her father act like the married couple. He's been divorced 3 times and at some point gave up and groomed her to be his surrogate wife. They will praise god all day long until they hear this message. Then they'll give you the proverbial middle finger. They get nasty when you talk about boundaries and overstepping them. I've had to confront her dad directly and he calls me all sorts of things with my wife in tow to shut me up. 13 years of marriage counseling and seminars and podcasts and sermons that we've been to and heard the same message. After all these people saying the same thing, I'm the manipulator and asshole and need to grow up and so on and so on. One day I read a quote that sums it all up........people that get angry when you set boundaries are the ones who benefited from you having none.

@ivoryglass3589

4 жыл бұрын

so your saying...she carried his child? her dads child???????????????

@manichairdo6346

4 жыл бұрын

@@ivoryglass3589 no...you are thinking of a surrogate mother. Lol.

@melissaweigh4508

3 жыл бұрын

The word that comes to mind is narcissist and it's called emotional incest and I'm not working it it's what sadly I had to learn bc I'm dealing similar with what u are. I had no idea and didn't believe in secular psych but it is what it is and I let go and just let did for at least myself. Can't control or change someone else.

@SnookOnTheFly

3 жыл бұрын

@@melissaweigh4508 the marriage counselor says her dad shows signs of covert narcissism.

@ThePossumone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes well said

I don't go to church, and I'm not a Christian, but this guy said a lot of truths, I got to admit it! I'm not a atheist, I'm spiritual not religious.

@TheCourteousDon

7 жыл бұрын

Eliane Alves Jesus loves you.

@mysty0

7 жыл бұрын

Religion is superstition, Religion is praying Hail Mary's 100x and counting Rosary Beads, Religion is tapping on wood, Religion is the very antithesis of Christianity. Christianity is a relationship with Christ. There are many forgeries out there but there is no substitute for the real deal

@christiannash6802

7 жыл бұрын

Eliane Alves I'm not honest, but you're interesting

@pep590

6 жыл бұрын

Christianity is a relationship with Christ. Religion to some people are those things you said, that are not biblical. And there are many forgeries out there, but religion in it's true sense, is not a superstition. Christianity is a religion.

@parinazaz4044

6 жыл бұрын

Read the New Testament and ask the spirit of God(Holy Spirit) to guide you and give you revelations .... there are two kingdoms .. the judging of darkness (dark /unholy spirits) vs the kingdom of Light (father God,Jesus and the Holy Spirit ) ... Jesus said he is the way , the truth, and the life.. and no one gets to the father expect through him.

Wow! My life right now - interfering in laws and mama's boy. It's a lesson to learn in life.

@jhaorama19

6 жыл бұрын

Pahoua Xiong same for me... mama's boy.

@daimonpapoulis5041

5 жыл бұрын

Never put a Son between his mother, It's simply not fair no matter how much you dislike them. In return a parents should never put their son between his wife.

@lauratorno8850

5 жыл бұрын

Same for me . It’s so hard

@aulezusandrews6195

5 жыл бұрын

Pahoua Xiong god am learning

@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690

4 жыл бұрын

Make him tell her to back off. I wrote my mil a 5 page letter about herself . She's a covert narc. Always passive aggressive . Thinks she's better can't communicate wants to be in control

I need help god my inlaws get to involve in our marriage its really bad please pray for me.

@firstchancetryingboy4198

4 жыл бұрын

I have the same problem my wife parents keeps telling my wife that biracial marriage is wrong and telling her that it’s going to affect our kids and she shouldn’t have married a black man. I just want to move away far away from them

@TheDollhouse95

4 жыл бұрын

@@firstchancetryingboy4198 do it for your peace and sanity.

@jessicacorrea7221

4 жыл бұрын

It will get worse if your husband does not value you and put you and your children 1st. Remember becareful what you allow. You're teaching others how to treat you. I'm sorry he is not a man he's a boy if he can not know your worth or put you first he is not a man.

@kraftthisile9113

3 жыл бұрын

@@firstchancetryingboy4198 i hope things have gotten bearable for you.

I was dating a woman 33 years old who never lived on her own . Lived in Parents Basement. Sweet girl however she wanted me to sell my house and move in with parents and be under their rule basically . I’m a 37 year old man with a kid . I was looking for some signs of her wanting Independance from the family however when I asked about having future kids with her she said her dad would home school the kids which meant all her time would be spent in the future at the parents house instead of our home. Second when I asked if she wanted talk about my finance and money situation she said she will have her dad look at it . Wow! Talk about codependent … We broke up because I need to establish my leadership and can not live with parents .

My MIL is a narcissists, very abusive and over whelming ! Always in our business, try’s very hard to destroy all our accomplishments . From our wedding to having our first child to buying our first home . Absolutely has hindered our life no boundaries. We have had to go No contact.

I'm on the verge of leaving my husband. he's such a mama's boy and has made it clear that HIS family is his everything that I can't say anything about them . I have had past issues with them.don't know what to do please pray for me.

@mshuggabug2

5 жыл бұрын

I know exactly how you feel. I'm going thru the same stuff. And I am not supposed to confront anything. Just shut up and accept verbal abuse and overstepping boundaries. He couldn't stand up against his own parents so I'm not supposed to. It's real in these homes.

@gingeralicea7463

5 жыл бұрын

@@mshuggabug2 what's crazy is that it only gets worse 😔praying for you.

@FeliciaBerryVlogs

5 жыл бұрын

In the same boat! But I finally started setting boundaries.

@barbaraowens4617

4 жыл бұрын

In the same situation.

@almedinarogo9000

4 жыл бұрын

I was in exactly the same situation. And couldn' t do anything about it. Finally I left my husband. I was dumbfounded when realized that he was overjoyed when he got rid of me and could spend all of his time with his dear mother that hated me

6:24 Great advice. They need to respect you the same way our close friends would treat us

Husbands parents....constantly bailed him out...when he foolishly got in debt. Allll done behind my back. For yeaaars ¡¿¡¿ ....then finally God gave me the boldness to...blow them all out of the water. My husband said... it was like a great weight...was lifted off his shoulders. They are so unforgiving n resentful....but tho I forgive them...I have to stay away n they dont want reconcilliation...but when THEY want genuine reconcilliation...I will be here.

@shrineheart2666

5 жыл бұрын

i needed to hear that Suzesinger.

@RJN8580

3 жыл бұрын

Explain blow them out of the water?

@suzesinger6762

3 жыл бұрын

@@RJN8580 ..Hmm - nothing dangerous - trust me. After my husband disappeared for two days, without a word... I decided to go check out his 'squirrel cupboard'. Discovering piles of unopened bill envelopes and opened..final demand letters of all kinds. I went over to the inlaws home and knocked and rang the bell until they opened it. ( I was prepared to phone the police ...if they hadn't. ) I set down a carrier bag ..bursting with bills and was antagonised by the F-I-L ...that 'if I had come to cause trouble - he would have me removed from his property. ( I just kept sticking to my question regarding missing husband and the bag of bills. ) He ignored it over and over. He then attempted to challenge me with ... 'What has it got to do with YOU if we give him money' !? He seemed very unconcerned about the whereabouts of his son. !!? The M-I-L emerged soon after and hardly looked or spoke to me. When they realised my persistence was keeping me there - the F-I-L decided he had no other choice but to help me go through the bills. Confrontations - are what this family - never did until that point. ;)

Im so glad you enjoyed. these videos keep watching him he is giving the best advice ever than I have heard from anyone in my whole life out of any church. we can learn

A mama's boy and mama's girl are both equally bad. A daddy's girl is somewhat ok, so long as the father understands you are her husband and it's time to let go.

Lord, thank you for guidance!

This is such a great advice! Thank you so much!!

This was so good! Thank you for sharing.

I needed to hear this. My husbands mother is a drug addict and my husband a clean recovering addict. My mother in law literally said she will do whatever to ruin our marriage. In my husbands face she smiles and as soon as he turns around she mouth bad stuff to me. No matter how many times I tell him his response is I cant stop her, so I'll go see her alone. They are on the phone EVERYDAY several times a day. This woman has told my son to f off n go die. He still took her side and when I try to tell him how I feel he throws scripture in my face. My marriage is doomed and hes the only one who doesn't see it. He also feels like he HAS to take care of her but he cant take care of himself. Especially with an addictive personality. Hes like a chamillion. Hes whom ever the person in front of him wants him to be ....oh gosh, I really need help!

I enjoy these videos. Daily . Very helpful .

My father in-law and mother in-law, both are controlling my wife and it has lead to our marriage destruction..

I told my in laws that when I say no to something I dont need to explain why it's just no if it involves my kids or anything in general, feels like the question me or my reasonings. Was this wrong of me?

@LisaLisaCJ

2 жыл бұрын

No

WONDERFUL!!!!I AGREE WITH EVERY WORD.

Good advice. Praise the Lord!

I wouldn't allow my friends to insult me and yell at me if I tell them no about something. I wouldn't let my friends bad mouth me to my little children when they're mad at me. How do you honor that?

Love a guy with a sense of humor

@cheryl71000

2 жыл бұрын

Mee too

Great message! God bless you brother Jimmy!

I'm dealing with my mother in law right now. I'm getting to the point where she won't be getting a invite

Thank you for this! God bless you!

My husband a momma boy.he left two weeks ago haven't seen or heard from him. We have little ones. His mom lies for him. When we argue he runs to her. I hate it. Cuz makes her happy that she comes first. I'm tired of him. Been thinking of divorce he can keep his momma

@meganrose2091

5 жыл бұрын

That’s so bad. It breaks the Lords heart. Pray for your husband, God can change his life,his heart. You have beautiful little ones,they suffer the most when parents divorce. Pray for God to break your husband loose from his mommas grip,Loosen the soul tie she has over him. Ezekiel 11v19

@zelimarfin7932

5 жыл бұрын

Pray hard dear..

@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690

4 жыл бұрын

That's terrible . I don't like mil either she's a covert narc. I tolerate her but we're never going to be close .i don't like her or trust her. She wants control . I feel for you i understand and can empathize. I hope and pray things get better for you

@chrissychris44

3 жыл бұрын

that is exactly how i feel. i feel like leaving so they can have each other

My mother in-law is disrespectful, controlling, and completely overbearing. We lived with her for a short time and it was horrible. We have our place and it's the same thing, I'm at the point whereas I am ready to leave my wife

@pmbarro

2 жыл бұрын

Did you leave?

I appreciate this Sir..My momma is Spoiled and wants everything her way..

@melissaweigh4508

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a mom and a wife and love ur mother but don't ever put her over ur wife. I have a momma boy but brought up right lol. I do not will not and no way meddle I'm his life! If I'm asked that's one thing but I didn't bring him in this world to live for me, I want him to have a life. I don't do any of that and he has a wonderful girl. Ya k ow why shes great bc he picked her. I respect that. I would like her as a person anyway but he's happy. I'm happy. It would kill me if I acted the way some mil do amd marriage and family destroyed so I'm so careful and I tell them both if I'm doing something that u don't like pls lmk!!!!

@kivabolton4448

3 жыл бұрын

@@melissaweigh4508 believe me...They appreciate that 💪🏾💯

I'm no active Christian, but he gives good advice

Just wonderful

This is refreshing

@JyotiSharma-uz9yq

5 жыл бұрын

You are so good looking 😁😁😁

Great advise 👍😊

“Get a live” 😊I love it

I think ignoring them is the best thing to do.try not to be with her act like your busy.and let your husband deal with her.that is what I do and it works.

Amen been stuck w the definition of the mil he talks

I'm divorced today and mother in law is part of that. Controlling my ex wife. So call Christians. 15years marriage

@honestjohn783

5 жыл бұрын

Lisa Michelle why don’t you date the guy in the above comments

@manichairdo6346

4 жыл бұрын

@@honestjohn783 Lol. Good thinking...maybe an age gap issue though.

Is there a lesson for mama's boy?

I agree with you 💯

I have problems with my in-laws sometimes. They are living with us and at times it gets bad.

Thank you thank you thank you so much Sir 😊😊😊🙏🙏🙏

I left my boyfriend purely because of his toxic family and he was not strong enough to stand up for us. I pity them.

@salala7640

Жыл бұрын

Same! I lost all respect for his lack of boundaries and backbone.

My mother inlow very often ask my husband to do things for her even though she has her own husband( my husband step dad) and younger son to help. Every time when she ask him to do somthing for her It makes me angry. I don't know what to do. i confronted her but she told me that something wrong with me. Help! I need an advice.

@Hopeof7suns

5 жыл бұрын

Natasha Boyarkin hi Natasha, I suggest pointing out to your husband that this is hurting you. Try not to blame the mother, but instead make him understand that you are his wife and you need him first. Make him feel loved and needed by you. Help him understand that you feel sad and insecure (or however you are feeling) because it seems like he is neglecting your needs or whatever is specific to you both. This is probably also an issue with something inside you where you have a need that also is not being met. Try to look inward first, imagine if you felt completely whole and safe and were full of love, would it still bother you? Are you being selfish? After you really try to examine yourself, if you feel she truly is over bearing, then I would definitely talk to your husband and see if he can set limits with her... maybe he can set aside one day a week to go help her with things. Maybe he does things better than anyone else and this is why she favors him?? Idk! But he should set limits and find a way he can help but not neglect his own family in the process. Example, Tuesday’s after work is mom help day. Etc. and Friday night is date night w wife no kids! ;) good luck and remember Jesus is with you

Amen i totally agree. It have to be separation...Leave. and Cleve

How about if you're the one who's taking care of housing and the only request you have is your privacy to be respected and then your in laws intrude your marriage, intrude your parenthood, lie about you all around, when you confront them play innocent and a victim and continue to turn people against you... And then between the lines demand more, since they handle their money as if the pile never ends and expect you to pile it up for them, like it's your duty and responsibility to take care of them - especially emotionally apparently. I'm on the brink, because I've been very hurt from the past and I'm doing my best to process my past to be ok... I'm most hurt when anyone does me injustice (since nobody ever believed me) or when they keep pointing it out I'm not good enough. I can't rise above that much, I'm only human. I followed an advice in which I prayed to be thankful I have them - sort of the advice - and see only the positive side. Well... I did that, I was let's say ok, but then I saw they kept gaining ground, doing more damage. Now I'm bitter beyond... My husband supports me, does his best to keep repeating and enforcing even boundaries, but whenever they cross it and I get mad, he hisses at me and I'm done... I'm too tired, drained, not happy at all, bitter beyond imagination, pregnant, and ready to pick it all up and move out, cause I never want to see them again. I'm so destroyed I'd need quality anti depressants but cannot just do it cause of pregnancy and breast feeding. Please, if anyone reads this, I'm in great need of prayer support.

Yep... that’s my mom...

I can't say anything to my mother inlaw because she's bipolar. Before any one gets mad at me they actually told me I can't let her know when she's doing something that bothers me. I need to let her get into my pantie drawers rearrange everything. Also she just came in when I was induced for my first born. Idk about most women but I don't want my mother inlaw there when someone is feeling if I have dilated yet. My relationship is going well but this is messing it up. Because my husband won't support me in this issue.

@c.b.jersey7304

4 жыл бұрын

Get marriage counseling. If he won't go then you go by yourself.

@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690

4 жыл бұрын

I agree . I hate my mil . Yours is using her bipolar as a way to be in control. Don't allow it. Tell her off anyhow

@sailorpotat5757

2 жыл бұрын

Yall need to talk about it I had 2 bipolar friends... its doesn't get better...key word "had".... it doesn't get better with them just much much worse...especially if they don't have medication

Quote: Truth shall outlast everyone lies

This is why your kids don't come first, your wife or husband does.

Amen!

My SO wants to marry me but his parents want them to choose them over me. We're both divorced with kids, so it's tricky. I want to get married, but their parents won't let their ADULT child have a relationship with me. I wish they could hear this.

@Hopeof7suns

5 жыл бұрын

V. Ready that’s beyond ridiculous!!!

@krissigoestousa

4 жыл бұрын

But the REAL problem isn’t your parents in law. It’s that your SO does what they say. He should be the one to marry you if he wants to and not wait for his parents blessing. If they are okay with losing their son because of giving him a ridiculous ultimatum, that’s on them, not your SO.

@melissaweigh4508

3 жыл бұрын

I'm telling you don't do it.

@RJN8580

3 жыл бұрын

SO? What?

My MIL is just ruining our lives and keep telling my partner to listen to her and not me. Now today she said she would live with us forever . She tells me I stole her son. What the hell!

@michelleg2880

4 жыл бұрын

Thegame8686 I’m going through this same thing. She has been in my house for over a year and I’m the bad one for wanting my house back.

@manichairdo6346

4 жыл бұрын

Did she steal her in law's son? Sounds like a stupid airbag to me.

@manichairdo6346

4 жыл бұрын

@@michelleg2880 No, you're the sane one. Don't let them drive you crazy.

I don't want a closeness with my mil she's a covert narc. She treats me like crap And is emotionally abusive . Very passive aggressive. I can't be close to her and i don't want to

@melissaweigh4508

3 жыл бұрын

So what did ya do? I'm curious nc I have same prob an sit has all. It destroyed my marriage.

@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690

3 жыл бұрын

@@melissaweigh4508 put your foot down and snap on both husband and mil. She does that because she feels she is superior to you and looks down on you, call her out in front of everyone in a group setting they hate that

But do you respect them if they’re verbally abusive?

@suzesinger6762

6 жыл бұрын

I believe.. that our motives are the most important. God knows our hearts..n how we try/tried ...to honour them..n how impossible - they made/make it. phEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEW !?!? ;) x

@Hopeof7suns

5 жыл бұрын

Ciara, we should be respectful. But if someone is verbally abusive the best thing to do is RESPECTFULly remind them that you love them, but you can’t tolerate being spoken to that way, and just walk away. Leaving an abusive situation is the best choice. And when they want to speak normally or apologize then we can talk!

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My husband would rather not create conflict with his parents to stick up for me.

Of COURSE !!! .n what you find is that they cling to you - cos they are unhappy with eachother and do not expand their tiny socia/lfamily circle. Controlling the finances - cos the husband can't - BUT ...behind the wife's BACK !?! I don't think so. ;)

My hubby also mama boy n he always against me because of taking his mother word. Even thou my mother in law try to divorce us. I am a house wife as well as pursuing my professional course I finance myself no one support me. They only want me to do house whole work only. Pray 4 me to overcome. My hubby never listen my word when his parents abuse mentally by words etc he think I am a worse wife 4 him n 4 his family.

@sailorpotat5757

2 жыл бұрын

Keep your head down and seek counsel from the lord..create a plan for yourself so that if you need leave you'll be OK and keep this all to yourself...he is not being a godly husband...move in silence and prayer

Would if I don't have parents and my husband does. But he has his mom his dad passed away.. So I only have my mother inlaw. But I have no parents at all.

@shanekaervin6733

5 жыл бұрын

Allow the Lord to be your mother and father, but respect your in-laws and have boundaries. James 1:27, and Psalms 68:5

Ugh everything he said is spot on. My wife doesn't get it.

My mil and pil wrecked the first 2 marriage of bil..almost his 3rd one. And almost hubbies and my marriage...we moved to the other side of the world.

So, because my FIL pays rent, he gets to tell me what to do? I could afford to live without him, but I can't afford to support him without his contribution to the household. He cannot afford to live on his own. I also have to loan him money every month. If I don't do what he says, he has tantrums. Sometimes he doesn't voice what he wants, but still has a tantrum if I don't do what he wants. Sometimes I don't know what I did wrong.

@KatherineJetton

3 жыл бұрын

He can apply for government housing.

❤

Whew!!!

Please pray for me. I am currently living with my In laws. I asked my husband to move out he refused.it is very toxic in this house. Which we by the way own, but I am fine to leave everything to them and go live separate, but my husband doesn't want it. He is very attached to his mom. I need Gods miracle. 😢

@Chataine91

2 жыл бұрын

What is your problem for goodness sake? Did you not know all of this before marriage?

@ST-xg8bf

Жыл бұрын

@@Chataine91 Your response heartless

@Chataine91

Жыл бұрын

@@ST-xg8bf No. My answer is appropriate.

Honour your father and mother - give weight to their role and place in your life

@jericamcbride3659

Жыл бұрын

Leave and cleave. The spouse trumps parents.

go Bingo

What about in-laws ( husband’s parents) and sisters in -laws, calling their son’s wife “ DEVIL” SMEARED her her and wished DEATH? By Amelia

I don't like loss so I've decided not to loose my body mass.

What if they live with you and dont plan to leave! Its been over 10 years.

@vimbayi2makanza521

4 жыл бұрын

Yoh you are strong.

@ritamuradyan5507

3 жыл бұрын

I am in the same position. I don't know what to do.

What if they have an abusive spouse?

@mygaffer

8 жыл бұрын

Then get a divorce.

@pep590

6 жыл бұрын

He has discussed that before. Yes leave, get out. These sermons assume that you both are Believers.

@jimcole6423

4 жыл бұрын

The partner that is being "abused" must leave immdeiately. If that individual does not, then that person is in agreement to be abused. Volunteering and enableing the abusive behavior and therefore has no right to complain about the abuse. Very few are truly abused.

Si

Yes 😂

What do you do when your mother in law commits a crime against you?

@Simplyme530

3 жыл бұрын

What kind of crime?

@lakehairdontcare3398

3 жыл бұрын

@@Simplyme530 financial. My husbands boss (a friend of his families) broke into our home, sexually assaulted me in bed, while I was sleeping he attempted to rape me-our 14 year old son was awake(husband was gone that night) he grabbed a knife and in order to protect him I grabbed the gun...anyway the man was run out of the home unharmed...year long devastating trial. My mother in law, after he was criminally convicted, wrote me a letter, interfering with the 2nd trial (civil suit) by telling me I was actually to blame and needed to drop the civil suit, which it’s a crime to work on behalf of a criminal to get the victim to drop the civil suit. She literally worked with and defended the man criminally charged, who did this to her son and his wife/child. This was just the largest thing done; we are talking 9 years of every kind of narc tactic in the book pulled-all while she sees herself as the victim-I mean I healed many things spiritually from all this-but she will still tell my husband he’s ignoring her if he doesn’t pick up the phone immediately when she calls. I had to go to her for an apology from all this; and she behaved like what has happened was really no big deal. She’s so disgusting to me, but I wish her no hate I just want to be far away from her clutches. Working on that. It was done bc she tries to keep her son codependent on her-and if I succeeded in taking the man to civil court-he’d have zero reason to ever need $ from her. We lost everything our home, my sons specialty school, bc he’s disabled mentally, my husband lost his job. It was the worst thing I could ever imagine a human doing to another, much less their own child. All bc she has to compete with me.

I live sin and evil free

My fiancé's Mother is very manipulative and spiteful. My fiancé's brother & His wife has been living with their Mother to help her out with bills because she made poor financial decisions. Long story short they are tired of living with her, bought a house and will be moving out and starting a family. Well now that his Mother knows she will no longer be able to collect their Money she has been trying to bully us into moving with her so we can help her pay her bills. Now why in the world would we do something like that when we have a house of our own, and will be married. We are a young couple and need our privacy. His Mother is acting as if her son is her boyfriend. I made it clear that I will not be moving in with her.

You dont have a clue how mothers andmother in law have Business with their son or sun in law many husbands are married s With themselves and with them

Money goes both ways, if your in-laws/parents need handouts you have the right to question their spending

What can be done with a husband whose PARENTS and Sisters SMEARED HIS WIFE CALLED Her DEVIL and WISHED Her DEATH?. By Amelia

Is it fair daughter in law invites her mom to bday parties, soccer games, etc but not her mother in law? Why is it ok for her parents to be included not her in-laws. That’s what hurts the most. 😢

@kcx2678

18 күн бұрын

It’s because they’re her parents. It’s natural she’d do that. She feels comfortable (not judged, micromanaged, etc, by them). If you want to be invited, you should have A) had your own daughter or son and bonded with him or her when s/he was young so s/he’d invite you when s/he became older OR B) treated your daughter-in-law better so she feels safe around you. Respectful boundaries. There can’t be 2 queens in one home.

@colorguardmadeeasy4739

15 күн бұрын

@@kcx2678or maybe she’s jealous that I do more for for my grandkids than her own mother does.

@colorguardmadeeasy4739

15 күн бұрын

Every situation is different. Honor mother & father for both sides. Include them bc your kids need support. You can be nice and see them as loving not intrusive. You will be a mother in law one day! It will come back to bite you! There are narc. parents that you need to handle it differently.

What do you do if you are ready to start a family of your own with your spouse but you know you don't want your in-laws to be a part of your life at all because you can't trust them, what do you do? My husband wants them to be a part of our life because they are family and that's the way he's always pictured it, he can't give me reasons as to why he wants them in our lives now except those listed above.

In India, the wife should live with the husband in her husband's parents' house (patrilocal) I hate this!!!

My thoughts are Satan free

They are passive aggressive and I am disliking them.

I pity all men and women with parents like this.

Quote: Satan has nothing new or nothing true

Why bother having kids at all if when they grow up and leave and you don’t become a part of their lives anymore? Why. Bother

@chrissyprice7483

2 жыл бұрын

To pass genetics for the future generations. There are healthy ways to have relationships with adult children and their families that don’t involve enmeshment.

This is why religion should not be a thing.

Bible: Jesus is harmless and undefiled

Jimmy lost me at 0:17. He is a preacher, not an expert on marriage. Man has got to know his limitations.

@ashleyperkins2711

6 жыл бұрын

Well he has done marriage counseling for years so I would say he is qualified to give wisdom om marriage.

@jeffreykelly85

6 жыл бұрын

Jimmy Evans has been a marriage counselor for over 30 years. Get the facts right before you criticize.

@Hopeof7suns

5 жыл бұрын

Deer Birch if you didn’t watch the whole thing you have no reason to comment... this was so good and you quit too early.

@cheryl71000

2 жыл бұрын

He gives good advice you don't have to agree with it. And he is a marriage counselor

Si