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Worst if your parent doesn't want to have a check up with a psychologist

@marlo2919

7 ай бұрын

Yep. I'm having a real problem, and my mother believes there is nothing wrong. I'm lost on what to do

@lynneposada8631

7 ай бұрын

Same happening here! My brother has my mom and changed her Will and POA removing me. My mom has dementia but he won’t let her get tested. He knows she will be diagnosed with dementia. He’s a thief that couldn’t split our inheritance. Will have to get a court order.

@jenniferfrazierlpc7171

6 ай бұрын

@@marlo2919Same here. 😢

@marlo2919

6 ай бұрын

@lynneposada8631 The same thing happened with my aunt's husband, and he also has to get a court order. His dad signed the new paperwork just 10 minutes before he passed. It is amazing that people's true colors come out when someone health goes down. I'm so sorry you have to go through all this added extra drama and stress. ❤️

@marlo2919

6 ай бұрын

@@jenniferfrazierlpc7171 ❤️

Thank you for this post. It's been so difficult dealing with my mother-in-law. Reasoning doesn't help. It's been so stressful. It feels like every day she has a mental health emergency. We're exhausted.

Thank you, it’s so hard. Thank you for Addressing this very difficult situation when you are the one being accused of stealing.

I actually cry and hurt inside to see my mom going paranoid and nuts. I feel sorry and bad for anyone going through this. It's just tragic to live like this. This is how it ends? Life is sad when the end nears 😢

My mom is constantly saying that some one has stole stuff from her

My grandma age 85 year is also suffering from this disorder she thinks that everyone in my family is trying to humiliate her and does not give her good food and do discrimination in food . She thinks that two types of food is made in home one for her and another for rest of the family. We try to understand her but all in vain. Some times their is quarrel in my home due to this misconception.. My family is really helpless what to do...

My father refuses to go to a doctor. He constantly thinks people are following him and trying to break into his house when it is him damaging the front door, staying up late at night moving all the furniture, walking around the house at night with a flashlight, he puts blue tape everywhere over all the locks. We had security cameras put up and he constantly moves them and even broke one of the cameras but he said it was someone else. He has called the police multiple times saying someone was hiding in the bushes or trying to break in or following him. I had to call them and tell them he is suffering from dementia. It's exhausting. My mom most of all is so tired. We don't know how much longer we can do this.

This is a great video and so glad I found it.. My mom has been suffering from chronic UTI delirium and it has been amplifying the degree of her dementia and paranoid delusions. She's been in a nursing home since the end of May. I go there most every day to help her with lunch. Every day is different and some more difficult than others.

My Mom lives in assisted living. She moans and screams at us when we visit. She has been diagnosed with Dementia. Noy sure how to handle her when she shows so much distress whenever any of my 5 siblings and myself visit. We believe she feels we abandoned her even though she gets several visits weekly. So hard and feel so quilty but we all need to work.

Picking up a loved one.. Elderly - from the hospital today.. Theyve been at the behavioral hospital for 2weeks. Very worried how things wilk go when they come to the house. Big changes for every1 untill we can find proper housing. Thank you for thia informative video

It's tiring and looks more like punishment for the care givers when they go on their paranoid rage. But everyone keep your chin up. Keep pushing forward as they're relying on you even though they're don't know it 😢

Thankyou - this is really heartbreaking and super hard to deal with. I will try this thankyou again

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! One day at a time!

Thanks my grandma is always accusing anything and all the bad stuff

I am so grateful for your video and your explanations they are heartfelt they are clear they are supportive and I wish I found them earlier with the advice to really find help. I held back as an only child with an 80 or 79 back then your old mother who suffered from medication disorder I would say plus COPD and diabetes and only certain broad parts of the brain that she used to train very strongly the business woman came out and then she forgot about her feelings and twisted everything around. But I love her very much I just broke my heart because I went under weight I’m 54 now and thank you for these videos I have different thoughts Again and it’s such a nice reminder that compassion is the way. Talking logically to my own brain does not help because it argues with it self but the compassion this huge amount of compassion and thinking of redirection is gorgeous. Thank you so much God bless you

This helps my fear of heart breaking further every time I see her , thanks!

Thank you so much! My mother in law lives with us and she’s 90+ years old and driving us nuts! Thank you so much for giving this information! Helps sooooo much❤️

@SofiaAmirpoor

4 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! I'm glad it helps! Thanks so much for watching and I wish you nothing but the best with you MIL.

@niloufersohal3315

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Sofia and God bless you for the work that you are doing 🙏❤️

Thanks. I'm beginning to go thru these experiences with my mother, now.

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 жыл бұрын

It's just the beginning, please follow along.

I'm the one that always stayed with my mom even in the hospital. I was so hurt that she had said I had not done anything for her and her man friend that I had introduced her to, that the next time she was in the hospital I didn't stay. I remember her asking me if I was going to stay, I said no I hadn't planned on it. I feel guilty but she gave me such a hard time the last time I was there when I went out to my car and got locked out of the hospital because someone thought they saw someone with a gun. But it turned out to be false. I even asked a nurse to come back into her room and mention it so that she'd know it was true. At one point I lost the use of my left hand from trying to raise her up pulling the sheet. By then I was just so exhausted since my siblings were of no help. I was so sick myself from a previous surgery, given 18 months when my husband sprung on me that he wanted a divorce. My sister's boyfriend and our cousin both gave me a hard time for asking my sister to stay with Mom a couple nights on the weekend once in awhile. And she's their first born and only child until they adopted me and my twin brother then had a younger brother 18 months after we were adopted. But she waited till the last two weeks of my dad's cancer to help out but I thought it would be different this time because I waited several months after she retired to ask for help. My husband two advantage of the situation and for some reason begin to shame me for different things like using a sprayer for my mouth after I vomited. Due to the vomiting I had malnutrition and wasb98 lbs. He even accused me of going out to eat lunch every day when I was barely getting enough food at home and too weak to walk to a fast food restaurant. His daily sarcasm, hate, and ignoring me was the straw that almost broke me. I read a quote: "The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are stronger at the broken places.” I survived But I do not feel stronger, I just feel tired. We ended up staying together but those four years crushed my spirit. I will never be the same happy go lucky person filled with joy. Due to my illness I am still recovering. But I have made my own bedroom. I tried to do as much as I can by myself. I end up only getting the drunk guy that wants to watch TV at 9: 00 that annoyingly interrupts every five minutes.

This is my mom and she also suffers from thinking that her neighbor who lives by herself has another lady living there and she will say some lady came by and brought me some things the other day and it would’ve been me because I’m the only one that is there to help her.

I love you! Thank you for your reassurance and kindness. Thank you for taking the time and energy to share loving ways to care for our loved ones. Thank you so much!🙏 I am going to listen to and share your videos. Thank you so much!!🥰

What a great teacher you are. Thank you so much

Thanks, this is a timely reminder for me

Deeply appreciate what you're doing here. Thank you thank you thank you.

This is hard to watch. Thank you for sharing. I hope to be more understanding

This is a life changing video.. thanks for the precious tips

@SofiaAmirpoor

4 жыл бұрын

I'm glad that found it helpful! Thanks for watching!

Thank you for these great (& sanity saving) tips!

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! Anytime!

Thank you, Sofia.

@SofiaAmirpoor

2 жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome!

Thank you for sharing this video! I'm sending it to sibling because they're taking our mother's behavior to heart and won't go around her. Hopefully this will help because they do not listen to me.

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!! I hope it helps the family

@Sgaaleim4199

2 ай бұрын

May be your sibling is overwhelmed with providing care by himself as well .

Excellent information, thanks for the guidance.

@SofiaAmirpoor

8 ай бұрын

Hi there! I’m glad you found it helpful!

I appreciate you! Thanks for making this video

@SofiaAmirpoor

Ай бұрын

My pleasure! I'm glad you found it helpful! Thanks for watching!

Excellent video! Thank you very much!

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 ай бұрын

Glad you liked it!

Thank you Sofia for today's video on dilutions in dementia patients. My mom gets dilutions around me and hits me. I have mom's caregivers take over my role as caregiver to protect myself. I will share with caregivers what I have learned from you today.(I live in So Cal also) 🌻

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry Marta. That’s a heart breaker

My mom has been having a problem for many years thinking that her guy friend or neighbor is not them that it’s some one else acting like them . This comes and goes.

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 жыл бұрын

Wow Chris, that's the hardest situation!

Helpful.

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you thought so!

Thank you

It’s like you are in my household. 😢 Thank you so much for this wonderful information and video! ❤

@SofiaAmirpoor

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching Jennifer!

Thank you so much!!

@SofiaAmirpoor

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! Thanks for watching!

Thank you so much ❤❤❤

@SofiaAmirpoor

8 ай бұрын

Always welcome 😊

My former elderly neighbor falsely accused me of doing some type nefarious activity in the backyard at night. I proved this to be false with extensive security cam footage. We had our home harassed for years by their family, neighbors, and the police. The police had a personal relationship with the family and completely ignored our security cam footage. This situation caused our family much harm. Should the police have ignored the evidence and not informed my neighbor of the deer in my backyard that was setting off my former neighbor's motion sensors. Before my neighbor got motion sensors, she had been having extensive hallucinations of me in the backyard at night. I handle this situation very aggressive which in retrospect I wish I hadn't.

@ArmandoGarcia-rt8vw

8 ай бұрын

How much time did you do

Thank you for this. My Mom hides EVERYTHING under her bed and then says someone has stolen her things. She also constantly takes things that do not belong to her. When I try to take the items from under the bed, she begins to yell at me and get irate. I can deal with this part. However, How do I help stop her tendencies to take other people’s belongings?

@SofiaAmirpoor

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Bo, thanks for your question. I'd ask you if there is a theme in the items she is taking, such as always keys, checkbooks or something else. If so, try to find the underlying need or significance that these items represent. ie, if it's keys, then maybe she's showing that she misses driving or there's somewhere important that she wants to go, in that case, you would want to validate her loss of the ability to drive and try to re-direct her to some other activity. If there is a theme, then maybe you could leave "fake" keys or a checkbook from a closed account around, then there is no harm if she takes them. I'd recommend that you and everyone else in the home don't leave keys, wallets or valuables laying around, you should keep them with you or keep them locked up. It might sound harsh, but it's better than her being locked up! There may be no way to keep her from this habit, unless you emptied the home of all it's contents, or had eyes on her every second of the day....and even that might not help! So my advise is to secure the things that you absolutely cannot have her take, leave benign "fake" items around that she might feel the need to take, and if needed, have someone take her out for a walk while you peek under the bed, if possible take your item, and replace it with a "fake" item. As always, validate and redirect. I'm sure it's not easy, I wish you well.

@vimalvinayan9534

11 ай бұрын

Mam , I have a question . How could I reveal an unpleasant situation to a patient with paranoid delusions. For example a sudden demise of his father

How do you deal with dementia parent who refuses to eat because they think you are putting poison in their food?

@nanolight4337

Жыл бұрын

I prepare meals and have a key word "present"; my son then presents the plate to grandma and she takes it with a smile and thanks him. Everyone gets to eat and we avoid her shaking like a leaf and crying because I put her dinner in front of her. It is insane but it works. having someone else there is sometimes a challenge. we have a table where all food pills breakfast is at her eye level. I put the food there and go into another room for a few minutes. it gives her time to notice it go to it and eat. my silence and zero eye contact with her helps her dillusions be less severe.

mom Thinks I am poisoning her. So I prepare meals and have a key word "present"; my son then presents the plate to grandma and she takes it with a smile and thanks him. Everyone gets to eat and we avoid her shaking like a leaf and crying because I put her dinner in front of her. It is insane but it works. having someone else there is sometimes a challenge. we have a table where all food pills breakfast is at her eye level. I put the food there and go into another room for a few minutes. it gives her time to notice it go to it and eat. my silence and zero eye contact with her helps her dillusions be less severe. going into the other room reading Bible quietly causes her to leave me alone instead of seek to fight with me. if she is whispering evil things towards me, I go out in the back yard out of her view where she will not follow due to her belief it is "cold" out there. We hung blankets over the locks way high on doors. helps her believe it is cold and stopped her figuring how to escape. out of sight helps sooooo much. I really appreciate your honesty and help with these videos. Helpful!

@SofiaAmirpoor

Жыл бұрын

Wow, you are doing an amazing job under these circumstances! I admire that so much! Thanks for watching 😊

This was a good video but my parent doesn’t have dementia just paranoid delusions and won’t have help

I live with grandma and she's been doing this she's the only one I live with we have no transportation I'm 18 and I haven't really had a life becouse I have to take care of her and she's driving me crazy I thought about sucided I went out with my friends and she called the cops becouse she thought I was kidnapped I'm 18 and can't even go for a walk I haven't hung out with my friends actually lost them all iv been trippin and loosing my mind with her I'm sorry but it's driving me crazy and she wount take medication Everytime I talk to her about it she says that shes getting on my nerves so she wount say no more and shake her hands and I try to explain that's not it I just feel like she needs medication to help her out but she wount listen to me or the doctors even they said she needs something she drove them crazy when she went to the hospital for her copd she stresses about everything and has a burst of energy and just always seems like she's having a panic attack and nothing is wrong there nothing to do or worry about I'm going Insane and I'm the only one around her I can't afford to go insane

@Christina.Farley

23 күн бұрын

I hope and pray things have gotten better for you. I know this is frustrating but understand you have a whole beautiful life ahead of you. This too shall pass.

Reassurance doesn’t work ! Losing your temper happens ! I got accused the other night of stealing her big lotto win and my Mom spent the whole visit time not speaking to me for something that’s not even real ! It’s a regular occurrence! It’s always something bad too like stealing, being accused of drug taking etc etc. I’m a qualified lawyer and guidance counsellor and I’m on my own trying to look after my Mom. She’s got psychosis with dementia and refuses to get out of the bed. She says she’s under doctors orders to stay put and she’s wasting away ! Trust me reassurance doesn’t do Jack Shit ! I want my Mom back !

@jenniferfrazierlpc7171

6 ай бұрын

I understand how you feel. It’s very difficult. I am going through the same thing and have similar background as you. I wonder if you need additional support, like a Case Manager? I am getting my mom’s set up next week because I just can’t take it anymore. I wish you and your mom the best moving forward. ❤🙏🏾

thank you!

Thank you Sofia - this is such helpful information to know about. I have been dealing with this problem with my MWD for a few months now. Even other siblings don't understand or believe me when I'm accused of stealing & or bringing awful people into the apt. we live in (her delusions). Well - I think over time they are starting to believe it is not all true but it is still not any good/ sturdy support from them. I am so often at my wits end & still contemplating whether I should turn her care over to the sibling that is my mother's health care Proxy?! It has even affected my physical health & wellbeing. I feel so badly that it becomes difficult even to take th steps to move out. Does this make any sense or sound familiar to you or anyone here reading this?

@SofiaAmirpoor

3 жыл бұрын

Isabel, yes, it sounds very familiar! Please take a look at this video about what to do when you can no longer care for your parent, it might help. kzread.info/dash/bejne/p4B1wZqxoNqvd6g.html

My father is going nuts. Telling us he’s going to kill us. That we are stealing from him. That we are opening stuff. He’s angry and acting hurtful towards us. It’s starting to get scary.

@SofiaAmirpoor

6 ай бұрын

@MM-qo4to I know everyone wants to take care of their parents, but sometimes I really ask people to reconsider, and this would be such a situation. If not already done, have dad evaluated by MD/psych. But if his mental status does not improve, and quick, there is a big risk that he could hurt someone ; you or someone else in the family....children? Please know when it's more than can be handled at home. You can still love him when he lives somewhere else. Hugs

What about the flying monkeys?🤷🏼‍♀️ I'm sick of being attacked by well-meaning Know Nothing Know-it-all!😡

my mother started this behavior in her 40s, could this still be a form of dementia at this age--shes 59 now?

My mom wont go to the doctor. She thinks the neighbors planted devices in her house and are spying on her and planning to kill her. She hearing ful on conversations and i dont hear anything. She hearing voice from the toilet all the vents. She called 911 and fbi on the neighbors. She has plumber coming to the house because she thinks the neighbors tapped into her water line. Im scared i have nobody and just in this alone.

@Christina.Farley

23 күн бұрын

This sounds exactly like our situation with my mother in law. I’m sorry you are going through this, has it gotten better yet?

@marlo2919

23 күн бұрын

@Christina.Farley no she did go inpatient for mental health for six weeks and she made some improvement on meds. She wont take the meds and now she just as bad as ever. Everyone saying I put her in memory care but they want 10 thousand month latterly don't have that.

My 78 Father is paranoid about me taking his junked up skunky stoner hoarder house he's paying $$ to some dude to watch over his fugly house title repeatedly reminding me"You're not selling my house putting me in a prison nursing home." Etc

I don't know if my mom has dementia, but I need to find out how to get help for her. She is suffering with delusions. She believes she is not worthy of life anymore and she thinks the Devil is coming for her. She is calling us crying for help and my father is not giving her support I think that he is in Denial and overwhelmed. My sister believes that my mom is dealing with schizophrenia, but she is not a doctor. I just want my mom to get the help that she needs. It's been three years. If anyone here has advice, please can you comment on what to do.

@Christina.Farley

23 күн бұрын

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Has it gotten better?

A cousin is violent and hits caregivers because he puts on multiple layers of clothing, can’t get them off to go to the bathroom, then thinks the caregivers are attacking him when they try to get off a layer of clothing. He hits them… meds haven’t helped so far.

At the end of the day, there’s nothing that helps ! NOTHING!!!

@Christina.Farley

23 күн бұрын

Why do you say this? In your experience did the elderly person take medication or did cognitive behavioral therapy? We are currently dealing with this and it is very frustrating because the individual is argumentative and mean

Paranoia or only trying to be funny according to others who are only at the time watching on?

10:48

Can someone around the age of 50 also be having these symptoms? I have a family member that is showing these dbelisuional paranoias.

@SofiaAmirpoor

2 жыл бұрын

@evakassandra It could be several things. Some possibilities could be from medications, early dementia, brain injury or mental illness. A thorough evaluation from a doctor is in order. No matter the cause, your response should be the same.

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