A lot of you are confusing introversion with social anxiety...

@Rana-Ehab-Mohamed

3 жыл бұрын

There is an actual introversion type which is called 'anxious introversion' tho

@monkiram

3 жыл бұрын

I have social anxiety. I think that without social anxiety, I'd probably be an extrovert, but on all those "big five" tests, I rank higher in introversion because of the social anxiety and also everybody I know considers me to be very much an introvert. I suspect a lot of "introverts" are also only introverts for the same reason. I think it's kind of hard to differentiate whether somebody is an introvert by that whole "recharging" definition vs the social anxiety definition

@rizzerbrown

3 жыл бұрын

@@monkiram i'm not trying to invalidate your experience by any means, so i hope i don't come off that way, and it may be that way for you, but there are extroverts who have social anxiety too. introversion is gaining energy by yourself than with other people, it has nothing to do with social anxiety directly. that may be your experience, and that's totally valid! but correlation isn't always causation

@monkiram

3 жыл бұрын

@@rizzerbrown That's what I'm saying. I think I am one of those people who's actually an extrovert based on where I "gain energy". But that's not the definition used by most questionnaires or people's impressions of me. I promise you that no person with true social anxiety is considered an extrovert by the people who know them. So it kind of depends on what metric you use to decide whether you're an introvert or an extrovert.

@LadyMngwa

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that pisses me off a bit ... I am an 100% introvert, but not really shy or anxious.

The worst part of this pandemic for me wasn't being isolated, but being stuck at home with people that _never leave._

@rv292

3 жыл бұрын

YOU leave! It's their house too, not yours only. They like it, you don't. So YOU leave. The streets are free with A LOT of space. People need to stop bitching about being with family, specially when living at their parent's house. Be thankful that you're not homeless, or kicked out to go get your own place in these difficult times.

@beezzinha

3 жыл бұрын

@@rv292 Dude... chill... It was a joke... Besides, sorry to burst the perfect bubble you live in, but not everyone has a perfect relationship with their families :)

@Saturn-bf3cs

3 жыл бұрын

@@rv292 your definitely a Karen

@nulliverse1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@rv292 You don't understand do you ?, When there is always people in the house, you don't really satisfy the need of introverts which is being completely alone sometimes. "sometimes", it doesn't mean that I want to get rid of the people in my house. Why would I do that lol. If you are an introvert you will understand this feeling. And don't tell people to leave their house only because they stated their feeling, that's just rude

@estellalavender2399

3 жыл бұрын

Totally understand... 🙋

As an intervert I love being alone But I hate feeling lonely

@randomlymadeanimations52

3 жыл бұрын

O m g, true -~-

@bees2681

3 жыл бұрын

me: im lonely my extrovert friends: wElL jUsT soCIaliZe mOrE

@asexualbert7262

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. It's not the same thing!

@reznovvazileski3193

3 жыл бұрын

Yea that's nail on the head right there. Nobody likes loneliness but some people just can't bear being with other people for too long either. A nice metaphor I heard from a youtube vid today applies here. I love garlic on pizza, but I don't want a pizza with a giant icecream scoop of garlic. You gotta spread that over multiple pizza's and then every one of those individual pizzas will taste nice.

@randomlymadeanimations52

3 жыл бұрын

Loes Bentlage, too bad it’s not that easy

I am a introvert, I get incredibly uncomfortable around too many people, but hate being lonely to the point it makes me depressed to be alone. I agree.

@threeriversforge1997

3 жыл бұрын

You're only alone because you want to be. Get tired of being all by yourself, go to the bar for a quick drink. Just sit there, sip your beer and enjoy being around other humans for a few minutes. Once you're done... go home. Don't like the bar... go to the public library and read a book or some magazines that you don't normally see. Tons of people around you, but everyone being quiet and minding their own business. It's the perfect place for introverts to be because you can do the "public" thing while also maintaining some distance, and you get to educate yourself. You'd be surprised at how interesting those magazines can be, and how much your thinking might change, because you've been exposed to new trains of thought. And when you get tired of it... just leave.

@kittenmimi5326

3 жыл бұрын

@@threeriversforge1997 oh my gosh the perfect, non cliche solution. N while being understanding too. Thank you.

@threeriversforge1997

3 жыл бұрын

@@kittenmimi5326 Glad I could help, even if it wasn't very hard. I've been living the life, so to speak, so I know it works. The hardest part is finding a bar that's quiet rather than rowdy, and might have a few people to make smalltalk with. Of course, it's just as easy to simply sit there drinking a beer and talking with the bartender every few minutes. That's the more "social" option compared to the library where talking is frowned upon. All depends on what you need at the moment.

@trainosaurousrex4472

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, mate that is really good advice

@threeriversforge1997

3 жыл бұрын

@@trainosaurousrex4472 Glad to help. As much as I enjoy being alone, sometimes it does get old and I'm curious to know what's going on in the world. I can only putzy around in the smithy for so long before I start annoying myself, so I figure it's good to get out and annoy other people! ;-) It can be hard finding a quiet bar nowadays since so many seem to be catering to the young-n-dumb crowd, but there's usually a quiet time where they don't have many customers and it's perfect for sitting there at the bar to meditate and watch the goings-on. A bar offers the chance at actual socializing that libraries tend to discourage, so they both have their pro's and con's. All depends on what kind of mood you're in that day, and there's no rule that says you can't visit both.

This introvert isn't doing well because I no longer have solo time at home. The family is here all the time. ALL THE TIME. So no, it hasn't been some awesome introvert paradise. But I'll take it because I'm lucky enough to have continued working, and the ever-present family is healthy.

@raeganlady

3 жыл бұрын

Yup...this is how I feel.

@soundless_fellow_3327

3 жыл бұрын

Same sentiment~

@TheLovelymix

3 жыл бұрын

Relatable 👌🏻

@kimweidemann3563

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@dawne5139

3 жыл бұрын

Interesting. My living conditions as an introvert have not changed, so still doing well.

I actually love having an excuse to not go anywhere. The only problem is everyone wants to talk on the phone!!

@Isabella66Gracen

3 жыл бұрын

I know! I loathe talking on the phone for more than 5 minutes. Texting was a real life changer for me! And ordering pizza online so I can avoid the phone. Lol.

@vittoria6402

3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely hate texting calling and talking with/to others

@SylviusTheMad

3 жыл бұрын

I managed to introduce a glitch in my phone so it can't receive calls. It was unintentional, but I'm super happy with it.

@bellekoelzer4821

3 жыл бұрын

I use a lot of visual cues and body language(ie nodding) when I talk so talking on the phone is hell for me bc I’ll forget that the other person can’t see me and leave these long awkward pauses

@Jenny-tm3cm

3 жыл бұрын

Me wishing I had this problem 😭😭😭

As an introvert, lockdown has been killing me. I really only know how to interact irl, and most of the time that's because someone else started a conversation with me. Online I tend to never start conversations, which leads to me not talking to a single person for months at a time. Definitely starts wearing down your psyche after a while.

@idontknowagoodname3293

3 жыл бұрын

Buddy are you okay ?

@evelyn5199

3 жыл бұрын

Same :(

@AlejandroLZuvic

3 жыл бұрын

"most of the time that's because someone else started a conversation with me" THANK YOU, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, THANK YOU. You hit the nail in the head. With a missile. It's incredibly hard for me to start a conversation, IRL I kinda can get away with it because everybody is talking or there's an excuse to talk, but online? Opening a chat to say "hi" feels so alien to me. I'm doing therapy and last week, after months of pushing my anxiety away, I said hi to a friend I haven't seen in a while and yesterday I visited him (social distancing and all of course), it felt so liberating, so empowering to be me who reached out. But it took months of struggle. If you let me, I recommend you to start therapy and if you can't for whatever reason, start talking to family. It's easier and feels "safer" to say hi out of the blue to a sibling or parent.

@idontknowagoodname3293

3 жыл бұрын

@@AlejandroLZuvic thats awesome, I hope you'll get more comfortable starting conversations. And that therapy will help you further.

@danielpopadic4314

3 жыл бұрын

Well , being isolated sucks af, sooner or later you gonna realize thay staying home is no life , so you have stronge urge to go outside and hang around , but at same time you dont wanna help "virus" spread , so i found that its quite awesome time to learn to draw/paint/ get my life options or hesitations together while having lots of time to learn how to play piano (i don't have one but electric ones are under 200 bucks so its all good)

Honestly, I barely even notice the whole pandemic thing. It's kind of nice having an excuse to stay in my home.

@lisagd22

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I already worked from home before the pandemic, so my life hasn't changed all that much.

@restouler

2 жыл бұрын

I love not feeling obligated to go anywhere

@restouler

2 жыл бұрын

I love not feeling obligated to go anywhere

Introverts miss being introverts with their fellow introverted friends :(

@merlinjames5954

3 жыл бұрын

Imagine having introverted friends

@mysenseofhumourisbroken1204

3 жыл бұрын

@@merlinjames5954 Can’t relate. I don’t have any friends.

@nouraa.9958

3 жыл бұрын

i don't have a single friend lol

@SNinjaQK

3 жыл бұрын

I'm an introvert that has an introverted friend, which is my one and only friend

@chaoticbreeze6262

3 жыл бұрын

@@SNinjaQK I hope your friendship stays until you get old :)

As an introvert who lives alone, my life is completely the same before and after the pandemic. Not a single thing has changed for me.

@VL125

3 жыл бұрын

Perfect for me.

@ohwowitspau

3 жыл бұрын

Same! 😂

@DaidusIII

3 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@steventheo69

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. I love that stores are less crowded & people keep their distance

@luv4umin471

3 жыл бұрын

same here and my avoidant personality disorder is thanking this situation cuz i dont have to interact with people in real life lol

I'm an introvert but I do feel lonely quite often, pandemic or not. Even though I get irritated around noise, movement and social obligations, they do help me avoid thinking about my problems too much. Even if being alone is more my comfort zone, it hurts my mental health in the long run. The whole "introverts thrive in quarantine" thing makes me a little annoyed because it makes it seem like introverts benefit from total solitude, which is often not the case. It's not black or white. It would be like saying that chocolate lovers would thrive if veggies disappeared from the face of the earth. Immediate comfort =/= good.

@rrabiya.zz006.

3 жыл бұрын

SAMEEEEEEE

@jobee589

3 жыл бұрын

Often for me it's not so much the interaction with others (although I do need a little), It's the fact that my mind is racing to fast. It is definitely true that introverts have loud minds and so without and much work to do or people to share my passionate thoughts with or literally just ANYTHING I get incredibly bored and sometimes frustrated.

@AlejandroLZuvic

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly. Commuting or being surrounded by people is something we introverts don't really like, but the few "good morning" from co-workers, or having a few stupid conversations here and there are a release valve, we need to let pressure go somewhere. We can't live 24/7 with our own feelings racing without something that breaks the cycle. As an introvert, it's really hard for me to get out of my way to talk to people online or chat with somebody, for me it's mostly work chat and some Whatsapp group but not a real talk with anybody. Yesterday I took all the courage I had and visited a friend (social distancing and all of course) and it was very liberating to see a human face after a month (my parents visited me back then) and being me who said "I need to have a time with a friend, I need to get out for my own mental health".

@elizabethingalls4437

3 жыл бұрын

Actually going to work but not being able to see friends is what is killing me. I like my co-workers, but I am lacking positive, relaxed social interaction. Even my introverted roommate (even more introverted than me) is struggling and misses friends. Having to talk to customers drains me way more than it used to.

this pandemic has made me lonelier than ever, my mental health has been terrible, and i cant even bring myself to talk to other people without panicking and hyperventilating. i just realized that no one actually gives a shit about me because it seems like they just forgot i existed. my grades are failing and im so tired :')) idk why im venting in the youtube comment section im sorry

@janettereelibaumann6990

3 жыл бұрын

It's okay to vent, you don't have to apologise for it

@savannahdennis3902

3 жыл бұрын

In my experience people care but most people don't bridge the gap between caring and acting. Lots of people care but if no one acts it can be hard to see that. I've learned that if I want people to care about me I have to reach out to them first. Most often they are having just as hard of a time and needed the contact as much as I did.

@sarahberkner

Жыл бұрын

Interesting how you can't reach out to people because you have anxiety, but them not reaching out to you means they don't care. Hope you're doing better.

It's hard to introvert with all these annoying extroverts staying at home, disturbing the peace and encroaching on my territory.

@bardockojama3423

3 жыл бұрын

Bich we own that territory hahaaha

@saturnxx7109

3 жыл бұрын

Extroverts suck XD

@bardockojama3423

3 жыл бұрын

@@saturnxx7109 bish pls

@No-yr9rs

3 жыл бұрын

@@saturnxx7109 As an Introvert I do not approve of this statement.

@melancholygirl7793

3 жыл бұрын

@@Kian_0708 I'm an introvert and I know how to socialize, it just depends on the amount of social interaction because I can get tired of socialization pretty easily.

I must be an extreme type of introvert then, bc nothing about my life has changed whatsoever due to quarantine. Not one thing. Well, except having to wear a mask when I do go somewhere. I'm the epitome of the, "I'm made for this," stereotype.

@MikesGlitch

3 жыл бұрын

Same, I'm defo made for this as well.

@kritishrestha7471

3 жыл бұрын

I'm made for this. Because i used to wear mask even before the quarantine cause it looks cool and i don't have show my creepy expression while day dreaming. So, after covid started, everyone were praising my "fashion" as they wanna call it. Therefore, not a thing has changed. Not a single thing.

@razor27

3 жыл бұрын

Yes this is my paradise

@mariaradulovic3203

3 жыл бұрын

The same.

@laram5909

3 жыл бұрын

Samee! Honestly I'm not getting enough isolation. I'm stuck with my family.

It's about CHOICE, not introversion/extraversion. I'm definitely an introvert, but having my lack of choice to socialise or be at home, and my independence taken away is what's hard. Plus, I'm a musician and currently I am not allowed to do the thing I love the most due to social distancing rules and closed theatres. You don't have to be an extravert to realise how damaging this situation is to the Arts and those who want to participate in them. Though we introverts need our time alone, it doesn't mean we want our freedom taken away.

@ImORtalRAin718

3 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU. This is what I’ve been trying to say. There’s a big difference between wanting to stay home vs having to stay home because it’s mandatory. I’m an introvert and I like staying home but I also sometimes like just walking around and checking out the city when I have the energy. I liked walking around outside in the park during my lunch break at work and just chilling in the city after my shift was over. Now I’m just working remotely in my tiny apartment. The fact that I can’t really do that is quite depressing, especially when I have other things going on in my life. Going out on those little adventures were like an escape for me but now everything is stagnant. And what you said about the arts is so true, too. I have a friend who’s a musician and she said the arts and entertainment businesses have taken a huge hit.

@INFPinnerg

3 жыл бұрын

My sentiments exactly!! It’s abt freedom but most don’t value it so they don’t see that it’s under attack.

These are completely valid points but as an introvert who felt overwhelmed by school/work/family social interactions non-stop before the pandemic hit, this lockdown has been like relaxing for the first time in years. And I still have my family to watch shows, eat dinner and goof around with so really I feel just fine if not better. Not to undermine anyone having a harder experience, I just had a particularly difficult time getting my alone time before as opposed to now.

I hated those jokes. I was just coming out of my shell this year and conquering anxiety and then I was forced back into it for months. It hurt a lot. Introverts need people too. Edit: I am aware that introversion and anxiety are not the same thing and I wasn’t trying to imply they were. I happen to be an introvert who also has social anxiety. I’m sure there’s many other introverts who can relate.

@emiyuu5112

3 жыл бұрын

Same for me! When this whole mess started in march, when i was in new school, 9th grade, new class and people. I was trying to be more opened, and i felt like everyday i was doing better. When quarantine came, my anxiety was as big as ever :(

@mionnepallidare8116

3 жыл бұрын

Sameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

@_liala

3 жыл бұрын

Same! I started feeling better about myself and actually wanted to try and approach people even working on my anxiety. Making friends not being alone all the time. Now that's not possible.. not even because you cannot meet with people but even just talking with a stranger could be dangerous (it was before too but in a different way). You never know if the person you would be talking to actually has covid or is one of those people who do not believe in it. No thank you

@beezzinha

3 жыл бұрын

Same here! I was ready to do something about my social anxiety, last year I improved a lot (in the past, I couldn't go to a restaurant and order by myself, I always asked my friends/parents to order for me). But now with the lockdown, the only times I left the house I felt even worse, like "do I even remember how to interact with people?" Feels like all the progress I had was gone.

@indigo6485

3 жыл бұрын

Dude same now it feels like my efforts have crumbled to nothing 😍

As an Introvert, (INTJ) I surprisingly hated this whole pandemic ordeal. Yes, at first it was an excuse to not leave my house... at all. But it soon became an excuse to not do anything at all and I just wasted a couple months of my time. Sigh..

@kristianjensen5877

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate. Even the things I used to do alone anyway I don't enjoy doing much anymore. It's like the will to action has been sucked out of me.

@noemirodriguez9137

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. I definitely feel like I just wasted half of this year -infj

@StaubZuStaub

3 жыл бұрын

As a fellow INTJ I agree; it's hard to lay your plans for world domination during a pandemic. *Sigh*

@wickedwonderland9831

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! And on top of it all I go stirr crazy rather easily, especially when I have no set goal. (I'm an INTJ as well). I expected to handle it much better then I currently do, which adds another layer of disappointment pointment.

@wickedwonderland9831

3 жыл бұрын

@Michael David Dixon Exercise helps a lot, you are absolutely right.

I am an introvert who has never been happier or more at peace. Of course, no one asked me!

@deborahm6036

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I was sure I couldn’t be the only one.

@BMLearning

3 жыл бұрын

I am an introvert too and lockdown hasn't affected my mental health one bit!

@deborahm6036

3 жыл бұрын

@@BMLearning Right? Thanks for your response!

@brendonsinger9859

3 жыл бұрын

You're one of the few with a strong will that isn't crying about being lonely. I'm so happy, it'll be hard to reintegrate back with people. I'm shy, quiet, and don't annunciate very well because I don't talk much. But, give of pen and paper or electronic device and you can't get of to stop writing.

@deborahm6036

3 жыл бұрын

@@brendonsinger9859 Thank you! We are all different. We all have our special super powers. So glad you know yours. I am fully vaccinated now, and I am being much more solid in my boundaries now and saying yes just to please others. We have the right to do that! This has been a very freeing time for me. I am not going to go back to the way things were. Best wishes!

Introversion is when you get so tired of socializing for a few hours in a row that your friends think you’re sad or that something’s wrong. I get so drained from human interaction that I literally can’t smile anymore for the rest of the day.

I have a theory that introverts did well with lockdowns initially because of their ability to entertain themselves. That ability is also the likely reason they aren't doing so well now. Even though I have continued to physically go to work like normal through this entire debacle, I now have fewer interactions with my co-workers, and when I do speak with them, it's at a distance and we're wearing masks. All the normal social cues are gone, and I didn't know how much the lack of subconscious social cues would cause anxiety. To compensate, I find myself trying to "recharge" by watching tons of KZread or listening to books or music but now I just feel like a cocaine addicted lab rat looking for its next dopamine hit. I could keep "entertaining" myself indefinitely and feel progressively worse in the process. I think extroverts see their need for other humans, and sometimes I can convince myself that I don't need anyone. So basically I need to stop entertaining myself and let other people do that. 😄

@giishaw92

3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely avoid spending time with people because I think I won't enjoy it, but when I force myself to hang out with friends, I always have fun. Why is being introverted so weird?

@miriamw.

3 жыл бұрын

@@giishaw92 I know, it's like our minds think they know everything without actually having to experience anything.

@ash.alnasseri

3 жыл бұрын

@@giishaw92 could not agree more! I always think that I would be just fine without others... but when I go out with them, or simply just talk to my family... I feel way better than I did before talking to them... but there is something even weirder.. we tend to avoid talking to others even if we experienced the positive effects of doing so on our mental health before! It's like we keep denying that we love & need talking to others (sometimes)!

@giishaw92

3 жыл бұрын

@@ash.alnasseri yes, for sure. I try to remember that we are a social species so it makes sense that we would get a bit of a dopamine rush from spending time with and around other people (I logic myself into accepting my need for people 😂). We all benefit from it, just in different amounts.

@noemirodriguez9137

3 жыл бұрын

@@giishaw92 I agree. I'm like that too

“Hips don’t lie and neither does data” -FJ 😵😂

@alexandruandercou9851

3 жыл бұрын

We need a T-shirt with that.

@rebeccagale2095

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexandruandercou9851 Yes! My thoughts exactly.

@sirbranwen

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@tsy7010

3 жыл бұрын

569 nicee

@indii4151

3 жыл бұрын

@Aaliyah Morrish ah you beat me to it

Dear fellow introverts, please don't take offense, I'm just trying to make sense of so many of you who seem to be thriving. I am happy for you, please keep being happy and healthy! I do however believe there is a big difference in the level of isolation that folks experience. If you still get to go to work, you're not really isolated. You get plenty of social interaction there. Those of us who have to stay home, because theirs was shut down due to the lockdown and then do stay home, like in an actual quarantine? We are not ok! Some of us simply don't have a choice (one we can live with), due to roommates, relatives or ourselves being "high risk". So it's shopping maybe once a week and that's it. I'm saying I AM NOT OK! I miss work, my coworkers, both the awesome and the terrible guests/customers. I miss coming home and feeling like I've made it to my save point! For me James was spot on with his recharging analogy. TLDR: This video applies to me 100%, we exist! Thank you James!

@matokaste

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting this. I felt really lonely when reading the comments since almost all of them talk about how this video isn't accurate at all. I usually get my social interaction at school, but since we are online I don't really see anybody besides my family members (and I don't really interact with them, only a couple words here and there). I just lay around in my room for 23h/7 and for that last hour I'm usually walking alone outside. None of my friends really reach out and if they do a simple text message isn't enough for me (most of them are also introverts). When I'm at home all the time it's way too easy just be in my room. I don't really seek social interactions, so the fact that there aren't any forced ones anymore really affects my mental well-being.

@ladykookosmile

3 жыл бұрын

Yess thank you so much for sharing this. I relate to mato who's saying they feel lonely reading these comments. it's wonderful that lots of people are dealing with quarantine really well, but yes introverts that hate having their regular easy human contact completely stripped away do exist.

@EnigmazGuide

3 жыл бұрын

Your an obmivert half introvert and extravert

@horstdraper4551

3 жыл бұрын

@@matokaste I can't say that I understand your position. I live alone, work from home, and I think I qualify as isolated about as much as one can be (and love it). However, I didn't interact with friends that much before all this, so I haven't lost much interaction. Maybe that's the key, the difference between the amount interaction earlier and now. I did have to go into work before, so I suppose I've lost that interaction. Anyway, that was just to define my situation for context. My reason for answering this comment is that you said your introverted friends don't reach out much or just send a simple text message. They're introverts; the fact that they're reaching out at all should tell you something. I had a conversation with my extremely introverted friend several months ago about me keeping in contact more. Only now do I understand what she was trying to tell me. Like I said, I can't understand your position, but it's probably similar hers. I think I'll send her a text and see how she's doing, even though initiating a conversation with no actual reason is foreign to me and makes me feel dirty somehow.

@AlejandroLZuvic

3 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU. All these people saying "I'm fine with my books, my KZread my...", ok I'm happy for you, but I'm in a point in my life where I'm an introvert who needs to go out a little bit, because I feel kinda lonely to be alone every single day. Before the pandemic I didn't invite people to my house nor I used to invite people to drinks because I'm shy and all, BUT friends and co-workers did use to invite me a few drinks every week, I was learning to be an introvert with the option to contact to people once in a while. Now that's striped away from me, I'm still shy but my weekly drinks with people or just the regular "good morning" at work is no more, and it's really hard to get out of my way to interact with people. I also think this is going to explode like a bubble once the lockdown is over. A lot of introverts who are happy now will crash hard when they need to go back to the office five days a week, they suddenly will realise staying at home 24/7 was never healthy and now they'll face more anxiety than before. I hope not, but I do think it'll be like that.

Introverts need to reach out to their introvert friends so they can feed off each other. Introverts tend to prefer meaningful and connected conversations. Both can relieve the pressure together. I do that with a couple friends.

Who else has been doing a little too well introvert-wise during lockdown and is genuinely concerned that they're forgetting 'how to person'? 🖐 Edit: Holy moly, thanks for the likes!

@191.

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so introverted I've not even seen the difference. Nothing has changed for me. 😆

@solus8685

3 жыл бұрын

I never knew how to person, so I don't think anyone is gonna notice a difference anyway

@emyf9197

3 жыл бұрын

YES! Even here in sweden we never had lock downs But I barely go out after I lost my job in march.. I dont have any friends bcuz its always been fake ones landing in my circles and I have just been pushin ppl away.. but I've been in door so much I dont really remember how to be in social places n function "normal". My anxiety has gone to be worse especially my social anxiety is really bad so bad I can't even talk on the phone unless its my parents or my sister. .. my dads an extrovert and I wish I was more like him

@191.

3 жыл бұрын

@@Zerhapy Agreed. The only time I get reminded about the quarantine is when my dad switches on TV and I hear the "news". It's nothing but COVID. It's starting to get pretty borring.

@191.

3 жыл бұрын

@@emyf9197 It's better to be alone than with fake and low quality people, isn't? Anyway.. I never knew "how to person" either. 😆

The ambiverts are either going insane or they just chillin'.

@pumpkin3881

3 жыл бұрын

Saaame, duude

@MegaOgrady

3 жыл бұрын

Or maybe... Both

@orbweaver9750

3 жыл бұрын

A little bit of both.

@meherinmouly

3 жыл бұрын

A bit of both, probably

@everythingperidot2144

3 жыл бұрын

Both

I'm introvert, and I'm having such a shitty time, even when I go to work everything is so constricted and making my anxiety so strung up that I'm just always emotionally exhausted. I'm a mess.

@ReneGrays

3 жыл бұрын

I get you, it might be shitty advice, but breathe, just breathe and take one day at a time. As long as you can still go to work, it's gonna be okay. We're all in this together, however overused that sentiment is, it still applies and I believe it, so you better do too. You can do this!

@KelvinWKiger

3 жыл бұрын

Keep it up! Keep it up! Go go go!!!

This is true as an introvert i have lost my will to talk and not doing well nowadays😢.

@spacebanana5000

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry.

This makes sense. Now introverts have an excuse to be even more withdrawn. As an introvert I know that being alone is what I prefer but it isn't always what's healthy for me.

@413smr

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I'm fine staying home but now it's harder to leave it. I think it's feeding my (facetious) hermit instinct.

@villamiles

3 жыл бұрын

😮 Then I'm stressed but saved from activating my hermit instincts because my family is always there, with me 24/7, everything has their pros and cons 😮😮

@SnowKat-mn9qh

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I feel the same, I don’t always want to hang out with people, but I know I need to in order to keep myself healthy.

@painteater

3 жыл бұрын

Yep

@Riteshkrpanda

3 жыл бұрын

true

Im an introvert and its actually not that bad.

@pmiro5952

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@Mrpopperer

3 жыл бұрын

+1

@shvm6154

3 жыл бұрын

+1

@thetiredworm2100

3 жыл бұрын

Ya same, I have lots of family members sooo I’m all good, not only that I can literally talk to my friends via the phone or text if I want to lmaoo

@yonelamatshini566

3 жыл бұрын

Actually I am enjoying it. No need for excuses to dismiss myself from social events, because there aren't any waahhahahahhahah 😅 And besides because I used to feed so much from other people's energies I tend to loose myself in the midst. The pandemic has been therapeutic for me because I had to spend more time with myself and discover things about myself that I did not know, I could say thanks to the pandemic I am more confident on who I am now more than I was before the lockdown

I feel like being an isolated introvert is like being a person who has a low appetite in times of famine. First you're like "Oh well eating is a chore anyway, this is my super power! Eating is overated haha" and then suddenly, after almost never eating for a long while, you're like "OMG I feel terrible WHY".

@martijnalblas1761

3 жыл бұрын

Im gonna be using this analogy, thank you

Apparently these "introverts" are way less introverted than me.

@Anobluu

3 жыл бұрын

Or they just have at home extroverted family like me =/...

@itsdomd0misticn00b7

3 жыл бұрын

It feels so sad when everybody in your house are ambiverts and extroverts. Im the only introvert inside our house

@coping.nonessentials

3 жыл бұрын

You make it seem like a competition :/

@incogniftoar3943

3 жыл бұрын

@Alexander Stockman because the OP comparing his introversion as if there is such thing as "most introvert" and "least introvert"

@SylviusTheMad

3 жыл бұрын

@@incogniftoar3943 My point was that the video seems to think introverts need human interaction, and so far the pandemic really hasn't gone long enough to feel the lack. My threshold for minimum acceptable rates of human contact has yet to be reached.

"Hips don't lie, and neither does data" I'm a teacher, and I'm sooo gonna use this in class 😂

@cinnamoroll

3 жыл бұрын

please don't. students will cringe

@Vitoriadls

3 жыл бұрын

@@cinnamoroll I'm not gonna. 😂 this is only funny in English, and I live in Brazil, where people speak Portuguese. Besides, teenagers don't even know this song. But I really wish I could use this in class 😅

@alterego24122

3 жыл бұрын

@@cinnamoroll that's the point

@Treviisolion

3 жыл бұрын

@@cinnamoroll ehh, that was going to happen anyway, at least this way they’ll remember the phrase

@creampuff966

3 жыл бұрын

@@cinnamoroll I would LOVE IT if my teacher said this

I'm not just introverted, I also have social anxiety and depression. Quarantine is heaven, but going back to work is the worst. It's like I forgot how to deal with people. I feel like I've taken a few steps backwards with my SA. It's currently the worst it's ever been since it's so easy to make excuses to stay at home now.

@moonshine2639

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! I forgot how to have a conversation outside my head haha

@MrKillswitch88

3 жыл бұрын

Ireland just went back into lockdown so chances wherever you are probably will in a month or so.

@_HappyRadio_

3 жыл бұрын

yess its the same with me. My social anxiety has gotten worse over the lockdown, it's like I started being too used to being comfortably alone and lost my "training" for when it comes to social situations.

@NataliaPessoaXOXOMAKE

3 жыл бұрын

Same. And I def ruined all my progress with Agoraphobia.

@littlebird3495

3 жыл бұрын

Me too, definitely feel my SA is worse when I do interact. And then I have a lot of alone time to ruminate on how awkward I was🤦🏼‍♀️😔

Honestly, as an introvert I am kinda feeling alone in a way that I have felt just a little bit before. Before, being out and about even if it might have been forced actually felt good, well with the right people, or if it isn’t for too long. Now it does feel kinda lonely, then again I forced myself into social isolation and it just feels kinda depressing. The other unhealthy thing I’ve been doing is bottling my emotions because I feel as though I’m bothering people, however they do keep telling me that I’m not annoying and enjoy when I talk to them, I guess it’s just my self-esteem telling me I’m not worth it to anyone. I’m gonna open up to my friends soon about what I’ve been bottling up.

Am I the only introvert who is actually starting to....miss...people? Idk this has never happened before, I have actually started talking with my family BY CHOICE What is happening to me No but seriously I have been feeling very alone and depressed :(

@danielolugbodi6504

3 жыл бұрын

Same I don't know what to do what anymore I'm at my breaking point

@brendonsinger9859

3 жыл бұрын

You must be a social introvert.

@boodgie934

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way, fellow introvert...

@luisasoares6961

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I feel the same way. When I’m alone I miss being around people and I feel terribly lonely, It feels nice when I call my friends but when our “meetings” are over and I spend more time on my own I start to feel sad again, despite being an introvert

@boodgie934

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way :

I figured it would be worst for the introverts who live with other people. When the other people are home all the time, there is no longer time to have the house/apt/etc to yourself. Even with the favorite people in my life, there comes a point where it's like, okay, you need to go away now.

@june5831

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@alinakorovina681

3 жыл бұрын

Big time.

@pinlight97

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. I lock my bedroom door and my husband and/or youngest want to come. I say I need time to myself and every family member checks in on me. I lock the bathroom door and it turns into Grand Central Station. I worked in my backyard and got found there too. I hike to clear my head...in my area, though, everybody and their uncle has taken up hiking now. There is literally no winning.

@Tinyfurball

3 жыл бұрын

Well...

@No-yr9rs

3 жыл бұрын

As an intorvert I can confirm this message (not generalizing tho)

The short of it is that introverts would probably have been fine, thriving even, had the pandemic not gone on for so long. A month or two of isolation is the ideal introvert's vacation. Six months is just depressing.

@laura.bt83

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I’m thinking.

@bean2216

3 жыл бұрын

Mhm, it doesn’t matter how much introvert love being alone, if your stuck in the house/lonely/isolated for a long time, that’s a problem. It doesn’t matter how introverts love being alone, they still need someone to talk to/ have by their side/ be with.

@ani-so1uk

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@LuddyFish_

3 жыл бұрын

That definitely describes how I feel being isolated. I love the idea of being alone. But when I'm alone for too long, like months, then it becomes sick and boring. I guess it could be that too much time in isolation "overflows" our energy capacity and makes us feel really bad because we don't have a way to release that energy.

@Asenueh

3 жыл бұрын

Not all introverts live alone and have that kind of control over their social environment. Some of us introvert have spouses and children and the lack of solitude from being exposed to their unceasing banality 24/7 depletes us even further.

I believe it. I was just starting to make progress in life, coming out of my shell so to speak, and then the apocalypse happened. Almost like I wasn't allowed lol

As an Introvert, I agree- the Pandemic has legit made me want to just... poke someone in the arm to confirm that the other people are actually real because I’m genuinely beginning to feel like I need people

As an introvert, I HATE QUARANTINE because I have to stay with my family for 24/7 !!!! In normal days, I used to have a Lot of "me-time" during the traveling hours in college bus. But now.... I don't even have my own room... Our house is soooo little... And I feel soooo trapped with my family 🥵🥵🥺.

@AN-cr9cy

3 жыл бұрын

I feel that soooo much! And it’s even worse when people are like “well why don’t you just move out?” 🙄

@vvantae_1903

3 жыл бұрын

Sameee

@yaserafandi5231

3 жыл бұрын

sameee, I want a me-time as my birthday present

@silicabraille

3 жыл бұрын

@@AN-cr9cy ikr they really don't understand us TvT

@EnchantedStardust

3 жыл бұрын

Holy shit same, I can't go back to USA because of this fucking pandemic, I have to share a room with my mother and I hate it, I don't enjoy sharing a room at all with her, my behavior even deteriorated too lol

Here is my view on this: As an introvert, I don’t go to many social events, so normally, my social hunger gets fulfilled by the daily activities that involve just everyday social interactions, such as commuting, going to school, shopping, a walk in the park etc. Nothing extraordinary, no parties, but it is enough for me. Now, this pandemic took away commuting, going to school and my trips to the shops also had to be limited, not to mention wandering around just for the sake of it. So basically, as lock down came, my days got empty and it suddenly felt like the purpose of my existence got lost. I’m so glad to see that I’m not the only introvert who didn’t enjoy quarantine as much as everyone thought introvets should.

@auroradlg154

3 жыл бұрын

This describes me too. All the introvert memes were about how they could stay all day long watching shows and playing videogames and I just couldn't relate. I am a designer and hobbyist artist and I'm mostly inspired by people and nature. My daily routine, casual conversations, commuting and wandering both fed me new ideas and served as the little interaction I needed. I fortuntely have my husband (and houseplants, lol) but I still often feel the need to literally just leave the house and take a walk.

@blessing291

3 жыл бұрын

same! that energy that you want to release just by "doing" stuff on your own but bcoz of the pandemic it glued you to your home and it is just bad...very thankful i get to go back to work and also had some alone time doing the groceries/shopping and walking the dog 😂

@minegamerpro1308

3 жыл бұрын

Dude, this is exactly how I felt

@lisahands5083

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! In the beginning, the idea of working from home was so exciting to me, and then after a couple of days, I was like omg my job is just the actually work now without my fellow coworkers. I don't go to parties or chill that often with people so I got really depressed when couldn't go to work, and i NEVER thought i would ever say that. Also missed just stopping by a coffee shop or something after work if i wanted, or picking up food and stuff...

@bentegerritsen1952

3 жыл бұрын

legit me

you're never really alone when you have an imaginary friend

@Anobluu

3 жыл бұрын

That's right 🤔...

I agree. It's so overwhelming having family home all the time. You are never alone.

Being honest, I’m an introvert and I’m doing fine. It’s honestly crazy to see everybody going insane due to a lack of human connection.

@TheYangnyin

3 жыл бұрын

Same here lol

@RakiOsrez

3 жыл бұрын

Same. I actually feel like I'm going to have a hard time once things open up fully. At the moment, I don't have to interact with too many customers at work. It's very chill and I love it. Everything else is the same for me.

@wendyberrios5957

3 жыл бұрын

IXTP?

@thereadingqueenp

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah i love quarantine

@holymoly9903

3 жыл бұрын

I would say I am doing great, but I do realise that slowly my friends are drifting away.

THIS is my connection with other humans lol.

@TheWaterlily2012

3 жыл бұрын

I know the feeling.

@miirasaika6437

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! I get my human connections through KZread comments too lol

@Christina-CA

3 жыл бұрын

@@miirasaika6437 there's a nice community of people here 😊

@chaoticbreeze6262

3 жыл бұрын

True :) it feels very good and comfortable to talk to people here. Not only to find people with interesting perspectives but also that there's no fear of being judged.

@Krizlyyy

3 жыл бұрын

@@chaoticbreeze6262 No worries you re being judged

ENFP here! He’s so right. I just made it my mission to answer most of the questions in the “Help Biochemistry” group from my university and became a tutor (via zoom). We also created an online bib on discord, I write there with a bunch of people I don’t know 😅 just to stay sane But on the other hand all of my best friends are introverts and I have to give it my all to pull them back into life (via zoom and phone calls, not easy, they hate that kind of stuff and I don’t blame them), some of them were actually on the verge of depression, so here’s something I came up with, that we all enjoy and do every now and then (you are free to try it out yourself!): we pick a recipe, cook, call each other if we don’t get something, or mess up, then we pick out a movie and start it at the same time, chatting via WhatsApp - food plus TV plus group chat ?? I love it, they love it, everyone’s happy, and afterwards we call each other shortly and say good night 😴 Stay healthy and sane ☺️❤️ Greeting to all of you INFJs and INFPs by the way, I adore you 😍

@r.o3943

3 жыл бұрын

You are so sweet. Stay healthy too!

As an Introvert(tm), I luckily live with my family, which keeps me from ever lacking human contact or wanting more. I also spent most of the lockdowns while still in school, which meant regular online chats and being allowed minimum access to school, because I was in a finishing grade/class/year. The only change I've apparently made in my human interactions is commenting way more.

Here's a new realization for ya: INFJ = I'm Not Frank James

@sarah52292

3 жыл бұрын

You crack the code!!! 😵😵

@juliandiaz2133

3 жыл бұрын

I’m ur 100 like just to let you know

@joshuawoodfolk8202

3 жыл бұрын

@@juliandiaz2133 haha thanks dude!

@tashaunafroklahoma6250

3 жыл бұрын

LOL! INFJ I'm nearly Frank James💡😂

@ninoevans

3 жыл бұрын

Hahha

You can't be introverted when literally everyone in your family is in your house and also can't get out

@creativestudiovvv

3 жыл бұрын

guess that's why i'm kinda losing it XD

@aliceimwunderland652

3 жыл бұрын

but here i am haha my family dont care bout me lol

@cheuthao7624

3 жыл бұрын

lmaoo true

@yazzyxx

3 жыл бұрын

i am an ambivert who is heavily introverted. Texting my friends has been satisfying my need to contact friends, and then also just doing all virtual school and t=staying at home has been good. my family being home sometimes is okay, but they generally allow me to do my own thing so I have been really happy during quarantine

@Corvaric

3 жыл бұрын

@@yazzyxx Good for you-- My house is rather small and I can't live for 1 minute without a conversation getting started Where can I learn this power?

Actually for me is that my mom moved back with me and there is nowhere she can go. Her trips to the supermarket are bliss to me. But I do think is gonna be super hard going back to normal

Lol im an introvert and i love being on lockdown

I think you’re forgetting that many introverts live with other people and now those people are always home, causing chaos and bothering us. My husband and three kids are the major source for my introvert craziness the last six months. I used to leave the house every week for a few hours to hang out at the coffee shop and crochet, but now I can’t do that. The last month or so, I’ve started taking that time, but spending it in my car crocheting instead, but it’s not the same. It doesn’t help that my basically all of my closest friends have moved away this summer because our oil town is tanking. Yeah, I’m not okay.

@mariem264

3 жыл бұрын

Hey, good luck to you Laura!

@vicioushummingbird7102

3 жыл бұрын

This x1000, I spend a lot of time sitting in my car or out in the garage.

@rebekahmontesdeoca565

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that, I hope things get better for you! Good luck and God bless!

@dcardigan13

3 жыл бұрын

I hang out in our bathroom from time to time, actually. Sometimes just outside on the porch since the street isn't near to our porch anyway

@micaela5461

3 жыл бұрын

YES I record music in the car and sometimes even study in the car just to get away and my family think I’m so strange lol but it’s best for everyone’s peace if I’m not around people 24/7 😂

I think introverts are naturally more inclined to introspection in normal times; with the pandemic we inordinate amounts of time to indulge in that introspection to an extent that leads to existential depression/crisis.

@arpitkumar4525

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@niamhha9014

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I had no idea how to put this into words before.

@gallicus

3 жыл бұрын

arpit kumar yup!

@lunacouer

3 жыл бұрын

THIS!!!

I'm not sure I agree with the study because many people mistake their social anxiety or depression for being an introvert. My friend is one of those people, she assumed that she was an Introvert because she didn't like crowds and felt nervous if she has to talk to a bunch of people. She seemed surprised when I pointed out that she's actually very social. She loves to be around people just not engaging directly with them. I'm not an Introvert because I'm shy (I'm not) or afraid to be around others. I begin to feel tired and drained if I'm around people for long periods of time. Introverts restore their energy by being alone. Extroverts are energized by being surrounded by others. You can be shy and an extrovert. You can be a bold and confident introvert. I just don't like when people link mental health issues with being introverted.

@elizabethingalls4437

3 жыл бұрын

Jokes on you, I'm an introvert with anxiety and depression. And germ phobia and possibly agoraphobia. It's a living hell, but mostly because I'm going to work.

@sarahberkner

Жыл бұрын

Very true, I'm a shy extrovert and socially awkward although I've definitely gotten better. I don't mind crowds but I do have a "bubble" and don't like public speaking (who does?)

I am fortunate to say that as an introvert I have been doing quite well during this pandemic. I have used this time for self care and to heal. I’ve become closer to the friends I already had. I actually find myself talking to strangers more. I’m very lucky to have my little dog to keep me company.

Me, an introvert in March: oh, this will be easy Me, an introvert in *October* : I have no one to talk to, I’m alone af, I wanna *die*

@letsdomath1750

3 жыл бұрын

Reach out to people. Make new friends online and in-person. Meetup events with social distancing are starting back up.

@jacel987

3 жыл бұрын

@@letsdomath1750 it’s easier said than done.

@letsdomath1750

3 жыл бұрын

@@jacel987 It is easy, but it's uncomfortable at first because it's new and requires conviction. If you want a few practice runs, use this as a visualization aid: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ioyGmqejc7C3qM4.html

@bridgetjones8339

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same honey

@astoldbynickgerr

3 жыл бұрын

@@letsdomath1750 how do you even make and keep friends?

the reason it sucks for me,as an introvert, is I'm always in my head and if i get one negative thought,it lingers and stews there. being at home all the time doesn't give me that chance to clear my head once a week like i used to. My negative thoughts tend to worsen the longer they stay.

@llybirdey

3 жыл бұрын

Because we have so much time to think we tend to overthink these negative thoughts and that really doesn't do us good. Like, at all.

@nimzi4479

3 жыл бұрын

@@llybirdey I agree 100%.

@Danjuw

3 жыл бұрын

I feel this, i distract myself as much as possible during the day. However at night I have to watch/listen to stuff while falling asleep, otherwise the thoughts creep back in and I'll be fully awake in a sec...

@ArcaneGinger

3 жыл бұрын

🐔Have a random chicken emoji! Because you weren't expecting it and maybe, just for a second, it will help you get out of your head and away from negative thoughts.🌻

@mckennahenderson3450

3 жыл бұрын

As an extrovert I feel the same way. Being with others makes me live in the moment and get out of my head, make me not allowed to hang out with my friends and this exact thing happens

I’m an introvert and I gotta tell you I really enjoyed the space, it was like a breath of fresh air

Haha, as an introvert, this pandemic has been INCREDIBLE for me! I actually look forward to going in public now! My social anxiety is nearly gone now too! You have no idea what this means for all of the nasty comebacks I've been storing up over the years XD

@theintrovertedaspie9095

Жыл бұрын

This pandemic started the year after I graduated high school. I was 20 at that time. And I didn't realize I was an introvert until 2021. I didn't even know about that. But it did make a whole lot of sense to me. I really gotta say this pandemic,ic really made me reevaluate my life, my values, and goals. And my worth. There are a lot of others around my age who feel the same way. According to my research natural introverts tend to get more introverted as they age. Especially then they reach adulthood. I guess this pandemic has made that less painful and more excepted. My mom is forcing me to go to Disneyworld even though I don't feel safe or comfortable, but mostly not comfortable. She says I need to get to of my cave, and stop isolating myself from her, the family, and the world. She says I need to "snap it of it," even though I told her all about introversion and all that jazz. She probably still thinks its the same as being shy or socially anxious. That is just BS. My mom is always getting on my case about going to collage and getting a regular job. But there are obvious problems with that logic in this generation. Rising costs of living, salaries that don't keep up, benefits or opportunities no longer being offered, climate change etc. Besides, I already decided my life plan. Im gonna be a self publishing author.

@sarahberkner

Жыл бұрын

So are you sure you're an introvert or just dealt with social anxiety? Just curious because it took a long time for me to be sure I was an extrovert because I'm very shy and socially awkward and tend to spend too much time alone, but I do get energy from being around people, specifically working with people (as an ESTJ).

Since I am an introvert and I have problems trying to talk to people even by chat, I end up being alone with my thoughts and imagination and oh man that place ain't pretty most of the time

@arielaehrens2695

3 жыл бұрын

Meditation might help Going outside too

@em3605

3 жыл бұрын

READ BOOKS (Not like the inspirational and real life problems books-unless you like those things) but the good, imaginary, dystopian, fantasy books that just let you escape to another world,

@melmel7011

3 жыл бұрын

I actually enjoying thinking...

@diamondtear7952

3 жыл бұрын

@@melmel7011 Yes, I get so many ideas for things that will never see the light of day due to my age( too young) or lack of skills in an area required for that idea. Sure, I could write a short story or a short book, but the ideas that I get are more for, maybe 500 page books and I don't really know how to make a book in terms of the layout/outline🙁.

@melmel7011

3 жыл бұрын

@@diamondtear7952 😂😂😂😂I get you, but isn't it fun getting lost in your thoughts and thinking of all the great things you could do? I love it, I love living in my little bubble 😂😂😂😂. I hate it when someone interrupts me while thinking

As an introvert, I can say this has been the best year of my life.

@hyperN3725

3 жыл бұрын

because you live alone

@tatianachernigovskaya5399

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed! 100 % true!😅

@noname-ld9md

2 жыл бұрын

same

@Torombolo9696

2 жыл бұрын

Same man. Same. In fact I want to stay at home even more now!

@anweshanayak3426

2 жыл бұрын

Yes.....I m also enjoying

When I first saw this video I was like “haha yeah right” but i came back now and watched it because I think this is true :o the battery analogy is spot on; I now have even less endurance for socialization.

The Pandemic made my introversion spiral out of control and now I am having a really hard time to get 'back' at it. I have always been an introvert, but I did socialize... I socialized in the gym, I went out to bars and clubs in the weekends. Ofcourse it did drain me and I retreated afterwards, but I enjoyed it and felt happy after social events and stuff. With the pandemic, that all fell away and the introvert side of me took over.. I enjoy being a introvert and solitude but I notice I am happier with the occasional social event so I forced myself to engage in these things now and then. Then that was gone, and now I am really, really having a hard tough time to get back into that. Even back in the gym, I don't want to talk to anyone, and I have a hard time getting my ass back into bars and do stuff with friends because I just don't want to anymore - despite knowing and realizing it WILL make me happier. I also havent spoken to most of the people I interacted with in bars etc in almost a YEAR, and can't find willpower to contact them again. Even just the thought of getting back into that life completely drains me xD Damn. Guess I just have to get back to that slowly, and step by step.

@theintrovertedaspie9095

Жыл бұрын

Introverts do socialize, but they do it at a different complicity than extroverts. They are rapidly drained from social interaction. They always know when they've had enough. Edit: Happy New Years day by the way. 2023.

"Introverts are feeling worse with the lockdown" Me, an introvert: Well... Yes, but actually no

@ruthhaumba7647

3 жыл бұрын

This just about sums it up

@dereckaragao9686

3 жыл бұрын

Lol mam, me too.

@skael1258

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely feels worse.

@malinet3203

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@zeemonrollin8340

3 жыл бұрын

Agree

They should take into account whether these introverts can recharge with alone time, or whether they are being driven crazy from being constantly surrounded by roommates/family members in quarantine with them.

@astralwyrm3787

3 жыл бұрын

Yes exactly; stuck with extroverts who can't stop talking to you or commenting on their programs and expecting you to have an insight on something your not watching. No privacy or alone time because someone is always around. x.x

@karinacarvajal9919

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, took me a while to get used to my family always around me x.x

@sweetprincess213

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I have a roommate and I'm wishing I had a single right now

it also doesn't help that when the only people you're stuck with (parents in my case) have absolutely no desire to learn how to communicate with you, to check in with how you're feeling my parents just berate me, criticise me, mock me whenever i try i communicate with them and so i gave up and locked myself in my room

Alone living Introverts live in constant fear of the pandemic being over already, introverts living with others live in constant fear their flatmates might never leave. 😂

Pre-shutdown was literally the happiest time of my introverted life. It was the culmination of three years of growing out of my shell and shedding my anxiety and depression. Now it feels like I'm regressing so much. I'm not doing physical school this year, either. I'm so scared that by next year I'll be back to not speaking more than a sentence a day to my peers.

@rosieloosemore6859

3 жыл бұрын

Magpie don't give up! You can still do this!

@neomehollow1391

3 жыл бұрын

The less you say the more value your words have, there's really nothing wrong with speaking only when you feel nessessary so long as you know when that is (don't want to emotionally isolate as well)

@artisticsword

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe it would help to schedule a voice chat? Scheduled chats rather than unsolicited calls can be good because then you can get yourself into the right mental place to talk to people. Checking in with people you like will help you retain human connection, and will help keep you from completely regressing. Think of it like a regular work out for your mental and emotional health - it might tire you out in the short term, but in the long term it's good for you. Plus, if you're planning conversations with people you're comfortable with, it can be something to look forward to.

@suor_ij

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. I also feel like I'm losing all my social skills that I worked on so hard all these years. Like I'm relatively ok mentally, but after this pandemic I will need to relearn these social skills in order to build a successful career etc. And also just because I'm introvert, it doesn't mean that I don't need friends. Isolation hits really hard. Though I think after pandemic everyone will be damaged in some way regardless of their personality type

@neomehollow1391

3 жыл бұрын

@@suor_ij how's about trying to start a group video chat with friends or family? Or even both? Try and set one up every other day or so it helps build your confidence keeps your communication up it shows independence and a go getter done attitude and great flexibility plus when this pandemic is over u can go to any job with great computer skills as you've been honing them all pandemic

I've been doing awful. I isolate myself everyday and i've lost motivation and ambition to do anything. I used to get so much done and now it takes so much effort to even do something small. And all of the disappointment feels even worse considering the high standards i hold myself to. i also hate the current state of the US and i've honestly lost any hope that things will get better.

@its.jasminesmith

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@anushka.narsima

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you get better and find happiness ♥️

@Jyudee

3 жыл бұрын

Ah same. I’ve lost all motivation to keep going on with life. I wish I had someone to talk to to keep me going. But I just talk about the negative stuff that happened in my life with my friends

@laurendurkin2571

3 жыл бұрын

Noooo don’t think that! Losing hope is a hard mentality that I struggle with too, you’re stronger than that! Just know that there are people there for you and a lot of them are going through a tough time too. I have hope for you! Don’t give up :)

@WhoSAnnaa

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

I actually go to work every day, but what I figured out is that if your workplace and home are the only places you visit for a long time, you can never really get a rest from either of them. I'm an introvert too, but I definitely feel the effects of this lack of recharge, sometimes you do need to go to places you don't go every day and see people you don't see every day.

this is so true for me. its not terrible cause I don’t have to pretend I have to do stuff at home to get out of events but I really needed my cuddles and hugs from my special people

*During Covid-19 Pandemic:* Extroverts suffering and Introverts happy: ❌ Extroverts happy and Introverts suffering: ❌ Everyone is suffering: ✅

@prysrek8858

3 жыл бұрын

Or everyone suffering except IXTPs:✅

@kasei4023

3 жыл бұрын

@@prysrek8858 No ✅

@prysrek8858

3 жыл бұрын

@@kasei4023 yes✅

@letsdomath1750

3 жыл бұрын

Nah, I finished with suffering back in 2019.

@todayonward

3 жыл бұрын

@@letsdomath1750 same

No, it's the fact that we introverts are stuck at home with family that DOESN'T EVER LEAVE! I love my family but man, can't they at least go outside for five minutes?!?!

@countryroads260

3 жыл бұрын

It’s Brutal.

@Gor1ockBlah

3 жыл бұрын

I lucked out. I deleted all my social accounts and cancelled my cellphone plan. Only way to contact me is by email only.

@emilyc9240

3 жыл бұрын

Lol i actually feel the same about my partner... our relationship is really being put to the test. Can't i just have a day alone?!

@courtneycherry5582

3 жыл бұрын

I lucked out got a job and moved out with my bf because I couldn't be with my family anymore.

@irenesam8363

3 жыл бұрын

Finally someone understands

It seems like the consensus is that introverts living alone or with people they like (supportive family) are doing fine and can still choose how much they interact with people. Introverts like me, who are stuck with asshole family who nEVER leave for work are the ones suffering.

@alanasimionato7931

3 жыл бұрын

i have to agree that it's the same for extroverts, because non supportive family can make you don't want to do anything too and it sucks

@lisagd22

2 жыл бұрын

That's how I used to feel when my ex and I would go spend a week with his parents or they would come down here and spend a week with us. When it was just the two of us at home, I could find a quiet place, but the in-laws needed to be entertained. And at their house, they didn't understand why I wanted to go to a different room to read my book; why couldn't I just read it sitting with the rest of them? Even when I'd want to drive to a different town to go to a particular shop or do whatever, they'd tag along and then keep asking if I was done yet. So frustrating.

I’m a social introvert, I’m loving this pandemic

Me as introvert at the beginning mid pandemic I was like this is ok.... totally normal, but after all these months is starting to affect me not having social interactions, I never thought I'd say this but I miss people 😥

@akshatjain3354

3 жыл бұрын

Same with me😭

@mithranmuthukumar9566

3 жыл бұрын

I agree dude, I miss socializing. Can’t believe I’m saying this as an introvert.

@evasmojang

3 жыл бұрын

Same. Plus, the pandemic is making me more introverted or something. Going back to school today was WAY scarier than it should have been.

@azure4631

3 жыл бұрын

I know, I can't even talk anymore :((

@chibi_okami

3 жыл бұрын

I'm an introvert and I can't even focus when online school... And I became dumber and I have downgrade so bad... I can't focus while not having classmates around me even tho I'm not close or talk to them much and there's no teacher in front of me... Only on the screen, it so much harder than I thought :") (sorry for my bad English)

As an introvert, WHAT!? Am I the only one, whose been having the time of their life during this pandemic?

@WiseGuy02

3 жыл бұрын

Nope, it's been great not having to think of an excuse to not go out.

@bestboi2945

3 жыл бұрын

I am an introvert and a gamer and besides all of the negative news about companies and the pandemic. This has been the best vacation ever.

@enterxx12

3 жыл бұрын

No I'm having the time of my life too

@Kyle_2776

3 жыл бұрын

@@WiseGuy02 personally i don't really understand why you need an excuse to not go outside, idk if your family forces you to or whatever, cuz i literally just dont go outside if i don't want to (unless it is actually necessary obviously), for example, if someone invites me to go somewhere like a party or even just a simple friends reunion to maybe watch a movie together or somthing like that, if i'm not feeling like it i just tell them i'm not going, if they ask why i just say that i don't want to or don't feel like it, in general, i don't need excuses other than just the fact that i don't want to, BUT then again, i don't know whats your situation and how is your daily life so... i might just be saying dumb shit idk That aside, yeah i've been having the time of my life too

@brynpookc1127

3 жыл бұрын

You are not alone! I’m 69 and this is the VERY BEST life has been. (Just wish people weren’t getting sick and dying to make it this way.)

Maybe I’m selfish, but pandemic was the best time in my life. I’m an introvert, i guess online school is a big social interaction for me and I don’t need to meet anyone

I feel lucky to live with my husband, an INFJ. I am an INTJ woman. We can go most of the day not talking to each other and we're both happy. Once in a while we'll have a long conversation, but we've been together for thirty years so we know each other very well. I have a friend who's an extrovert and they do not understand how two people can sit twelve feet apart working on their computers all day without talking. To us it's bliss.

As an Autistic woman, and an introvert, I can honestly say that this whole "social distancing" thing was a dream come true. I have my husband and kids, and they are all the social contact that I need. This pandemic, staying home all that time, was business as usual for me. My life didn't change at all. The only that that maybe changed was, I couldn't send my husband out for snacks or anything past a certain time since no store was 24 hours anymore (aside from gas stations).

@matilde_5

3 жыл бұрын

Ahh, if only some specific people or even just my bf lived with me I’d be completely fine staying like this forever too! I love it, and I mean, if I need air I can still go out on the balcony. -Other person on the spectrum

@SylviusTheMad

3 жыл бұрын

My immediate family is way too much social contact for me. I need the pandemic to end so they'll go away and leave me alone.

@bradsuarez2683

3 жыл бұрын

I feel exactly like you. It has been great.

@vestigex

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. Finally someone who understands. If I had a GF i could relate even more

@litchtheshinigami8936

3 жыл бұрын

exactly i have Autism and ADHD and i'm quickly overstimulated and done with social contact.. now i still live ay my mum's because of the housing crisis around here. and i also have two younger brothers and we have all kinds of pets.. those pets for me are more than enough social contact alone.. and if i really need anything more i'll look in discord to see if anyone fun is in a server

Me, an introvert who couldn't understand why my depression seemed to be so much worse during lockdown: yep this checks out

@sarasvobodova5987

3 жыл бұрын

same :)))

@MegaOgrady

3 жыл бұрын

And don't get me started on anxiety.

Discovering this video 1 year later but it really helps to explain the depression I’m experiencing right now. Thank you so much for this

Tbh at the beginning of the quarantine I honestly loved how comfortable it was to just stay at home but now i realized that my whole life literally went downhill without noticing as I compared the life I had before the pandemic and the present. It felt like it completely ruined me or that I wasn't improving enough holistically. I got even worse compared before, I couldn't sort out my thoughts in the same space for a long time, and a lot of misfortunes arrived. I'm an introvert and I hate social interactions a lot but I tend to learn, grow, and reflect things somehow from it. Staying at home for too long, is ironically, physically and mentally exhausting and this is why this pandemic is just awfully depressing for me.

I really thought it was going to be a joke about introverts being stuck indoors and unable to escape the extroverts

@bakerfritz4681

3 жыл бұрын

Being unable to escape the extroverts is no laughing matter.

@animesoul479

3 жыл бұрын

I think it just depends on who they're locked in with. I have a few extroverted friends but they understand my introversion well. I value my alone time and don't care to socialize too much. Just how I am. They respect that and give me space. Instead they use text or facebook to get in touch as that doesn't really interupt my flow. I'm free to reply at my own pace assuming the message isn't urgent.

note: introverts and having anxiety are completely different. im an introvert and im doing just fine (lol i kinda love it) but im sure people with anxiety are having a really hard time.

@anxioussmurf2057

3 жыл бұрын

I have anxiety and I'm missing the opportunities to do exposure therapy. I can't even do video therapy because zoom stresses me out so much.

@Emil-lf3no

3 жыл бұрын

actually my anxiety is having a party no longer having to interact with ppl (except for my shitty mom but what can ya do ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ ) my introvertion is what makes me all shakey because I miss my close friends

@nilasyalshabillah6741

3 жыл бұрын

Well I think this anxiety get more worse than before, especially during this pandemic 😓

@elizabethingalls4437

3 жыл бұрын

Germ phobic, introvert, horrible anxiety, works with the public. Save me.

@bubbleteabeatboxx

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

Omg this is happening to me!!! I love being alone with my books!!! But I just realized that my social anxiety is really high all of a sudden because I haven’t really talked to any people for a few months!!!😅

As an introvert, i live by myself for now so the pandemic is like a blessing

I'm an INTP and I feel like I'm going crazy in this pandemic. I'm never alone, I don't even have my own bedroom. My family is always here and I really need my solo time to recharge my batteries. I don't hate them but they are too much human interaction for me.

@creativestudiovvv

3 жыл бұрын

And for me, all these years i'm trying to be less or an introvert.. all that hope just crash in one pandemic. Don't have a sense of humor anymore, find it hard to communicate with others and so on

@renatamiron8095

3 жыл бұрын

It is hard

@sainttress3770

3 жыл бұрын

I'm also an intp and can't stand it when my family is constantly home. I love them but something inside me just needs to be "alone"

@NerdyCatCoffeeee

3 жыл бұрын

as an INTP, take a walk. Just seeing people doesn't necessarimy make you interact with them. Just sit in a park for an hour or two

@scaredsapphic

3 жыл бұрын

If people are annoying or extremely idiotic, I hate them. That's why I hate being with my family.

As an introvert, I would disagree. Life got better.

@artimishra3787

3 жыл бұрын

Same best time of my life

@lorainer1263

3 жыл бұрын

Mine too until about the last 2 months.

@MelB868

3 жыл бұрын

No it hasn’t

@patbluetree4636

3 жыл бұрын

Totally 100% agree.

@believewomen165

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! I never want to work outside the home again, I really dislike racist white people, so it’s best to just stay away for now.

you're right with that laptop battery metaphor. since the beginning of pandemic ive been dealing even worse with talking to people for a long time :(

It effects the introverts stuck with extroverts pretty bad, so true

I miss saying “no” to a social event 😭😂

@ArcaneGinger

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Clooni Doo there is a "Social Event" next Saturday, loads of people you don't know, you wanna go??? 😁

@cloonidoo2374

3 жыл бұрын

@@ArcaneGinger Oh, sorry next saturday I have a lot of work, like feed my cat and stuff... but thank you! 😄

@ArcaneGinger

3 жыл бұрын

@@cloonidoo2374 oh maannn I know how that goes.. Maybe next time ok?? Lol!!

@KS-cz9qc

3 жыл бұрын

Best comment thread! 😂🥳

@ArcaneGinger

3 жыл бұрын

@@KS-cz9qc Thanks! I'm just trying to help others. ^-^

I actually have been less stressed because of the lock down and social distancing. Im an introvert and im doing fabulous.

@AlejandroLZuvic

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry to burst the bubble to you but that's exactly the problem: when the lockdown finishes and you need to get out the stress will be higher than ever because you lost tolerance.

@k.m.5824

3 жыл бұрын

Same ... My stress level is low due to this

@Iden_Elihio_1999

3 жыл бұрын

@@AlejandroLZuvic I think we will be alright 🤣

@royepic3504

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@royepic3504

3 жыл бұрын

@@AlejandroLZuvic damn, didn’t think about that

I have a microscopic social battery, and I’m the only low energy person in a high-energy household. I live in my room now, and only come out to use the bathroom and eat. And it’s awesome, I think I’ll keep doing it after COVID.

as an introvert i was so happy to hear all my coworkers joining discrod. I was like "welcome to my turf"

FJ: “dont just leave your laptop plugged in all the time because having it charge constantly will make the battery wear out” **immediately unplugs laptop**

@MrKillswitch88

3 жыл бұрын

Actually the laptop's bms stops charging the battery and runs off the charger with some exception to a rare few gaming laptops.

At first, I was one of those "I was made for this" kind of people, but after 6+ months, I'm not doing so well. I do call people now and then, but it's just not the same. I need a little face time. The energy isn't the same over the phone. This is a bit of an exaggeration, but talking on the phone vs in person is sort of like the difference between looking at a dead person in a coffin and looking at someone who is sleeping in a bed; their energy, their spirit isn't perceptible.

@er6730

3 жыл бұрын

I agree so much with that morbid analogy! I used to initiate zoom gatherings, but it was just too depressing, because it was more of reminder, "oh yeah, I really liked being with these people" rather than feeling like I was actually with them. ENFP

@_sam_ddn

3 жыл бұрын

I'm INFP and let me tell this- I prefer being with people than talking to them through video calls. It feels like I'm trapped inside a virtual reality, thanks to technology and online classes. I absolutely hate it.

@jasooogle4043

3 жыл бұрын

@@_sam_ddn oh let me tell you, virtual reality is much better than our depressing zoom meetings one ☝🏼 (also oculus quest 2 just came out, 299$ all-in-one VR)

@stickk6066

3 жыл бұрын

I hate talking to people via Zoom or other virtual thing. Ironically, I feel very disconnected from the other person... and I didn't realize how much it affected me until this pandemic. Your analogy is totally correct Also the mask thing has a similar effect. It feels like a barrier.

@rossusarnulfus7552

3 жыл бұрын

I began to drop out in social network conversations even before quarantine but after months locked inside I started to HATE it. I need to talk and spend time with people in person. Other way is too fake for me to bear it anymore.

All of my family are introverts. I’m living the dream!