That story about the man who was waiting for his wife to come to bed every night made me cry!

We should always have the heart to serve one another. As a man myself, it was not an issue doing chores, all of it(cooking, dish washing, cleaning, laundry, repairs, and etc). Focus more of what she is doing for you not on the things that are missing. And thank God for the love and energy to do good things for your spouse.

Awesome sermon! Great start to the Sunday with my wife. I do feel for the person asking the question because Grace clearly misunderstood it. The person asking didn't call her husband a child, she was referring to how it feels to be keeping the home while working a full time job. Also a clear lack of context when referencing Titus, in regards to how much women worked back then. Hoping that the couple is able to navigate this busy season together.

@mama.ashley

3 ай бұрын

I agree. Grace was the one who sounded critical.

SINGLE AND IN THE WAITING , THANK YOU FOR THESE TEACHINGS!!!

When both couples are working and one spouse is clearly putting more time and effort into the tasks at home, that may be called serving in the beginning but over time that is called being taking advantage of. (It’s different if one spouse is ill or physically unable). If concerns are brought up and things are not at least somewhat more equal, over time that’s when tension leads to resentment and a potential fall out. I do not believe in gender specific roles, per say, but believe that doing things together will bring you closer together.

I can actually relate with the woman asking the question. I don't think she's necessarily asking out of a critical spirit, she's probably asking out of sheer frustration. My husband grew up in a filthy hoarder house while i was raised by the King and Queen of clean. I stay so frustrated with my husband for his mess making and absolute refusal to help in any way. His messes are huge and disgusting, yet he gets angry with me for cleaning them up. Any time i voice my frustrations to him he tells me i need mental help. Just for wanting a clean and orderly home. We've been married almost 13 years now, and our home is a constant source of frustration, anxiety and embarrassment to me because of its state of chaos no matter how hard i try to keep things clean and orderly because he fights me every step of the way. I have compromised pretty much everything for him to make our marriage work this long, but I refuse to live in filth. That is something I will never compromise for him on. And he will never understand that. I was hoping for an actual solution from the two of you.

I wish my husband could talk to me, our marriage is dead & he doesn't even know it.

Great sermon as always but I disagreed with how Grace heard the question from the woman. It seemed to me like she was just hoping for practical advice or ideas from a couple who had been married longer than she had. She said it felt like she had a child (based on the cleaning she had to do), she didn't call him a child and I think there's a difference. It doesn't necessarily mean she's bitter towards him, and the response felt harsh.

@tional5266

11 ай бұрын

Husbands should check themselves be a partner not a child draining on her

@mariatyler2742

3 ай бұрын

She was spot on.

@JP-ll8iy

3 ай бұрын

I liked Mark’s reply best lol. They both work so they can afford to hire a maid if she feels such. But Grace’s reply was right on point.

@mama.ashley

3 ай бұрын

Agreed. I don’t think the woman had a critical spirit at all. It was an honest question that many wives have. Grace sounded like the critical one!😬

I heard this last night on Spotify and just had to watch it! Thank you Mr. Mark and Mrs. Grace for what you’re doing ❤

So loved this. .God has you in our life right now for such a time as this... And yep... I scrub the dishes off before putting them in the dishwasher too....I want to avoid ants in dishwasher and also as much as possible not have to deal with chucks of food in the dishwasher or back up dishwasher from food that gets through a filter ... Love your a Sheppard fan

Love this!

Awesome video. Thank you .

This is so good! I didn’t know how much I needed to hear this.

for what it’s worth , I’m with Mark on the dishwasher .. but I’m also with Grace as they’re much easier to pack back in if you don’t need to soak again and scrub the crustiest stuff 😂❤

I don't know what a dishwasher is I'm the dishwasher

How do you handle stonewalling as a wife ?

Jesus was late too 😂

The term help mate in the church NEEDS TO BE LOOKED AT CLOSER! ….please Absolutely please deal with heart bitterness I know you are a stay at home mom…. I was as well …. Not anymore and I work hard physical labor so I know what I’m talking about …But if you both work full time there is no way she should do it all alone….. it will eventually grind too much in one person Doing a prayer life, kids care, the house work, a full time job, and a wife…. She needs help. When a woman becomes a wife, she becomes a helpmate her working outside of the home is extra and that’s a part of her helping her husband to pay the bills and I feel like in the church when a woman works full-time, Sometimes the term helpmate is abused…because there is only so much a human being can do before they start mentally breaking down and physically breaking down so because she’s helping outside of the home all of the other family duties need to be reevaluated….. Empathy must reside within marriage….so if he has a really hard labor job and she has a desk job…. Or vice versa that must be put in the equation too. Help mate means help…. NOT take more than a persons ability to handle (don’t use the term fair share because sometimes life is not fair and one person may lose a job and somebody might get sick or whatever is in the equation …fair is not to be used) but if you got an overload that you can’t deal with and you need help that’s what I’m talking about). The Bible talks about that the woman is the weaker vessel that means physical capacity a man can work circles around a woman, physically he just has that in his DNA and we should not as a church, think that the woman can take on a man’s load and a woman’s load and it be OK and the man just look at her and say you’re good you’re my helper…No no no no that’s wrong. That is absolutely 100% wrong.

Wow way to completely disregard the actual point of the question that woman asked. Shame on you. “It shouldn’t be equal, sorry.” Said by the woman who is a stay at home wife, most likely. “Easy fix. Just hire a maid” when the couple can’t afford for the wife to stay home, she mentioned she works 40 hours too. “Don’t speak to your husband that way” she wasn’t - she was anonymously asking you for advice in a moment of complete honesty. The response was unbelievably tone deaf. To that wife: seek professional counseling/therapy for practical help, not cookie-cutter responses from untrained pastor’s wives who are unqualified to give a productive response.

The way Grace responded to the woman's question was dismissive and critical. She needed help and guidance feeling like a team with her husband and Grace came in with "it doesn't matter, stop being critical". Just ew. Grace you dropped the ball hard on providing support and advice to a younger wife.

@minasnyman5317

2 ай бұрын

I heard that woman's plea as well. I get that we as women shouldn't go into derogatory terms when we talk, but it was n knee jerk😢 to hear Grace's reply. The whole sermon was about "we" , not me vs you. To protect and cherish the relationship. If one spouse is starting to feel neglected, taken for granted and overwhelmed , the couple should be taught the ways in renegotiation, how to compromise together, work out a plan. Feeling like you have to work like a man for 8 hours and then work like a woman for 10 more is a little fox that turns into n killer lion in no time.