Comment below your biggest takeaways from this video 👇

1. Attitude 2. Avoid researching negative topics 3. Stop comparing yourself to others 4. Improve your bedroom environment 5. Stay hydrated throughout the whole day 6.Consume with caution, eg music, news, tv, online 7. Use the internet wisely Too tired for the rest…..

@christinagrant3252

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for writing these! Especially because you were tired. 💜

@dc4098

4 ай бұрын

Thanks! I started where u left off: 8 monitor your social media usage 9 let go of negative emotions 10 consider clothing impact

@janerowena4023

4 ай бұрын

8. Monitor your social media usage 9.Let go of negative emotions 10.Consider clothing impact

Thanks for this, I have been battling with CFS for over a year and used to be really overly productive and busy, its shitty. But watching this, its like going back to the basics, drink water, stay away from negative stuff, ie: news, and get out "out" of bed mode, I used to call it death by duvet days, the days Id lie flat all day. I am going to try these again, and thank you, simple and sweet

The idea about stopping negative thoughts in their tracks is so true! My bedroom is what I’m working on this week, it’s become a bit of a dumping ground during this particular energy crash so I’m going to declutter.

@sabinelloyd8532

3 ай бұрын

Yep, this is me too.

Clothes are huge. I took it a step further and put my active wear on (and sneakers) and it made a huge difference to my energy!

@cherise93

4 ай бұрын

I agree with this. I do same thing I put on sum sportswear n go to the gym 3/4 times a WK. I only sit in the sauna n have a cool shower n very rarely swim a tiny bit (body isn't tolerating exercise right now) but the fact I'm dressed like a wellness girly lol and am actively doing things that are helping my condition makes me feel empowered and like I'm moving forward even if improvement of condition is slow at the moment.

@yvonne3903

4 ай бұрын

Yes, if you have the energy to put on clothes.

@Milliemollym

2 күн бұрын

@@cherise93 What a lovely idea...using the gym as a spa....and plenty of good energy there for you to absorb

@Milliemollym

2 күн бұрын

@@yvonne3903I know that problem...but when you do manage to change...wear your best nightie/pjs or an oodie in a fabulous colour. You'll feel better even if you haven't managed a wash

Ive been wearing what I call my power shoes to work, haven't worn them in 20 months because they have a heel and was worried I might stumble in them. They have made such a difference in my mental strength, i feel good and confident in them.

Yes, I agree with all these points, but don't do them all at once as that would seem too hard, do them slowly and when you are ready move on to the next one that you think will help. I can relate and all these points do make a big difference to how you feel, thanks for sharing these points Toby.

I'd agree with how attitude is so important. But it's subtle. I find that when I do meditation it helps me find out what's going on in my head. A lot of it is fear. I'm doing so much at the moment, but today I'm in a crash. Consciously I know I just need to rest, but after coming up for 9 years, nevertheless the feeling comes back that I'll never get better. When it comes to things that piss you off, like people you live with being inconsiderate, noise etc, the best way is just to learn to let it go. I can only control so much. What I absolutely can control, with practice , is what goes on in my mind.

i used to dye my hair bright pink. I feel peoples energy and negative feelings are more common and normally stronger but when my hair is pink everyone i meet cheers up and feels happier seeing the bright colour even the people who think they don't like those kind of hair styles. so this is good for me because their negative energy is draining. I have been too ill to do it for a while and too ill to deal with hair dressers too but my niece is training a.t.m so i am hoping we can find a less draining way to get it done. Also anime's are great to watch they are normally about heroes and are really positive. One Piece is really uplifting.

@Milliemollym

2 күн бұрын

How lovely....pink is definitely my colour! I watched a Ted Ex recently where one day of the week a lady dresses up 1950s style.. complete with hat, gloves, handbag and a 50s hair do. Her motive is to empower herself, cheer people up and engage with them in conversation... Hope you get your Signature Look back soon. x

Jesus helps me so much with the fear, guilt and shame.

@rishaa682

4 ай бұрын

Satan bless

@anjpayne2942

4 ай бұрын

God is Love. Satan is a liar. He will keep you and sustain you. Be blessed 🆙️💯

Thank you Toby for this video! I am nearly completely better but not quite. There is something holding me back from completely recovering. I have become addicted to watching u tube videos of the Royal Family and the news but realise especially of late that they are all negative!! I do a lot of mindset work but I think what I am doing by watching these videos is nulllifying this work and sabotaging my complete recovery.

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

Happy to help!

Thank you so much for sharing, Toby 😃👋 I resonated and vouch for all of your tips, but especially, I want to mention the one with clothes. The day I wear clothing I feel more comfortable in, than those which make me feel somewhat disjointed, the difference is HUGE! It's the strangest thing, and I can't explain it, though it is palpable. The colour, the fabric, the perception of self when you step into the attire - all matter. Once again, thank you for sharing and spreading wisdom and kindness. Wish you all the very best 😃👋❤️

Takeaways which I try and implement anyway are 1) seeing grey days as opportunities, we call it "grey day practise" in our house! To look at the positives, as you said. 2) Definitely get dressed in day clothes with some colour 3). The app deletion is really powerful & I benefited from hearing this again. You don't realise how foggy headed scrolling makes you until you cut it out/down. I think that's one of the most important things for me anyway. ALL of the points are things to work on, so thank you again Toby.

I really like these top 10 ideas. Thank you. One that has worked very well for me was as soon as I get up I shower and get dressed. I has made a huge impact on how I feel for the rest of the day. Even if I’m very fatigued it helps ever so much.

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

Glad you liked it, Thanks for sharing!!

Greed video! Absolutely 💯 Yea sometimes l so try to compare myself with healthier people, as if I have to try to function the same as others , who aren’t in the same position! I always wear bright colours and stick to upbeat music and affirmations! Visualisation practices. I have positive quotes in my home . I believe bright colours truly have an impact on us all! Even if some think our clothes are a bit quirky ! Ha ha! Much gratitude 🙏 beautiful soul . And to the lovely lady who forwarded me to you l owe her much thanks 😊🙏💜🦋

Hi Toby. I love and am so grateful for what you're doing. I am a nurse who has had Covid so many times - I guess you would say an occupational hazard. I first got it during the first wave whilst working on the Covid Wards. I was very sick. I have been left with Long Covid which goes on and on as I am getting the virus constantly or it would seem as though I am. It's so true and I agree with all the things you have mentioned. I do all of them. I started learning about them when I trained as a nurse and particularly about the colour and attitude thing. Really is so enabling to have the right attitude and colour is essential to life that mood. In the hospital, we have a drive to ensure that patients are dressed daily and sat out. These two concepts really do facilitate recovery and healing. I know when I am sick, I always get dressed and I have to have colour. I can't wear Black or grey without a huge splash of bright colours like Pink. I drink loads and watch love films. Some may call them chick flicks well I am a chick lol! Seriously everything you have said really has helped. Yes the tiredness is still there but I am not totally washed out and unable to get out of bed. I am able to go to work. So thank you for affirming and confirming all that I believe has helped me. Really appreciate what you're doing. That's the thing that I really found difficult during my recovery. There isn't much out there for Long Covid sufferers and there is precious little for healthcare workers. We're just expected to get on with it. A big thank you. x

Thank you for sharing this message. Morning routine out of pyjamas to casual day clothes. Delete social media app to stop unnecessary scrolling and do more productive things throughout the day that's relevant to me.😊

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

Wow. All 10 energy drainers are so true. I can resonate with them all. Thank you for sharing

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

I want to work on replacing my endless scrolling on my phone with something else. I'm not sure what yet. It's what I do when I don't feel like I can do anything else. So that might take practice. The last few weeks I've been sick with a respiratory virus and finding myself not getting dressed very often. I want to change that too. Bad habits are so easy to start!!

I've got a phone lock box that has a timer on, I've started putting it on at night before bed and in the morning - so I don't go straight into my phone and doom scroll 😂

This is fantastic Toby. Thank you for sharing. I am going to watch it several times so it all sinks in. To start... going to clean out my bedroom and make it more relaxing . Thank you❤

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it

😊This is A Wise use of the capabilities on the internet! As I drop into a meditative space most afternoons ( whether I want to or not). Toby has a nice way of encouraging our thoughts and behaviors towards a healthier direction. Grateful for KZread and these kind of messages of hope!! Good 🍀luck with your journey to a Better You 😊

I’m going to work on getting out of my pjs and getting dressed! I may go buy some activewear as sitting around has made me put on weight and I don’t feel comfortable in the clothes I have.

Brilliant! I love how you share that to "get rid" of emotions that way you down, get support, because we can't just decide to stop feeling these emotions. I actually shared this in my latest newsletter because these are such great easy tips for people experiencing all forms of fatigue.🙏🏻❤

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

Thank you!

it’s a great idea with the clothes and colours

Thank you so much Toby….So much great advice,as always…❤

I haven’t watched the news for 2 years now. If there is something very extreme is happening my husband will tell me. Otherwise I stay away from it because it makes me more depressed.

These tips are so helpful, thanks Toby. Most of them I have been doing for a while - some days are easier, some days are harder, but the two I hadn't really thought so consciously about are the bedroom environment and the impact of clothes. How frequently someone says something and one thinks 'oh my god, of course! How did I not see that?' I've got to say the most powerful statement from this video for me is when Toby says 'You are digesting that in your mind, in your body and in your soul, is it enhancing your life?'. That crashed into my brain. CFS Health is the only place I have found such helpful advice and an emphasis on trying to move forward through ME/CFS, rather than concentration on the idea of condition management only, which as important as it is, to me feels like staying in the same place. Thanks again, so good to have a place out there to check in with on this journey.

Hi Toby I found your channel just now. 10 lit me right up. I am going to make some drastic changes to my wardrobe soon.

@CFSHealth

Ай бұрын

Welcome aboard!

Excellent video!! So true, especially about not comparing your current self to your former self, which I am guilty of. Interestingly, I have been giving my bedroom a huge makeover this week. I feel like I am reinventing myself as the styles I'm choosing are much more calm, modern and slick, compared to my love of super colourful, hippy, cottagey styles I've always chosen up till now. My partner is messy and I flipped the bed around to the other wall so that my side of the bed is closest to the door (and his mess is hidden behind his side of the bed!) What a difference, it feels calm when you walk in!! Plus he DOES seem to be tidier since I changed that! I agree, definitely don't watch the news!! Hydration is soooo important - I do sudoku puzzles and there was one I was stuck on for so long. I then had a day when I actually remembered to hydrate myself really well and I couldn't believe how much easier I found the puzzles (I solved the tricky one!) This video was a good reminder to get back onto that! I would also say, set up an anonymous Facebook account under an alias, don't add friends, just use it for pages you enjoy following, marketplace and events etc. It saves so much time and stress! My 'real' Facebook account is deactivated 99% of the time and I occasionally log on to it, realise what I am NOT missing, then deactivate it again!

Thank you so much

@CFSHealth

Ай бұрын

You're most welcome

Good tips

Clothes is a good one.. my day clothes include brighter tops....p js are fading... And the scrolling...that takes a good bit out of me...have been Watching cricket on t v instead... Heard alarm bells for other ideas too...will go over again amazing and THANKS❣️❣️

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

Excellent tips thanks. Guess what colour T'shirt I'm wearing now, Grey 😂

Attitude is important, I've learnt to stop comparing myself to what I can do when I'm feeling better Clutter... It can be hard to let go of stuff I've had forever, but I've gradually worked through it. I'm now feeling like I can breathe properly again. Colour in what I wear and around my home What my daughter calls Doom Scrolling... just wasting so much time schooling the internet in my phone. My daughter also insists I drink water regularly. Turns out she, and you, are both right. I don't watch the news, it is so depressing.

Thanks Toby..That was very helpful. :-)

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

I’ve followed you for a long time and so have incorporated all these into my recovery. I can’t tell you how much they helped. At my worst point, I couldn’t watch any high drama or suspenseful or scary tv shows / films but watching feel good comedies really helped. I used to be a big news and politics junkie and have 24 hour news in the background all the time. I deleted the news apps and never play the news channels now and will never go back. Biggest thing was comparison particularly to my past life. I stop my self spiraling into a negative pity party if I think about my past life now. I have accepted where I am and I haven’t got energy to waste thinking about the past.

Great video toby ❤

@CFSHealth

4 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it

Thanks Toby that was helpful. ❤. ❤just wanted to add, while I understand that it’s important to get out of PJs/ nightwear *as much as possible*, there are a number of days I have to choose between getting dressed or getting food. For me it uses a huge amount of mental and physical energy. Are you allowing for people with e.g. vertigo / dizziness for whom any kind of movement would r decision making can be challenging and often exhausting?

1:14 am. I'm going to start reading more of your subjects.

Great video. Thank you. Is there a possibility of actual recovery from CFS? Or only management? Even with implementing these 10 things (& I've never been on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok etc) and additional techniques, I have not recovered. It is an ongoing daily journey. 🙏🏼

My kids are my energy drainers 😅

@Amethyst_fairy81

4 ай бұрын

Same lol 😂😂😂😂

There is good meditation scanning your body for the feel of your clothes, warm, cold, soft, harsh and where parts of the body are placed and leaning on.

I do notice that it's better when I get dressed. I get dressed everyday. And for years wear colour. One that I could help is to make my room brighter with positive stuff on the walls. I do need to watch the amount of stuff that I get passionate about... Social justice issues but they don't lift me up. Like Gaza etc. in a good to know what's going on. I'm watching the world go by so yeah I need to be more disciplined. When I could be doing my art. Yeah negative emotions ... Sad the way my kids are finding how I stuffed them up... But ya know most I these things apply to me.

@Milliemollym

2 күн бұрын

I'm the same... haven't watched the news in decades... only had a TV to watch DVDs mostly period dramas....but when I met my fiance he has all the channels imaginable. I go on You Tube to watch Art but end up watching. .well depressing independent news channels reporting on the things that are happening in our country that the BBC doesn't tell us about.... Not helpful as it makes me so upset and I feel unsafe....I wasn't the only creative person who was ill for several months when the war in the Ukraine started....it's sad but I've had to make myself numb to the pain of Gaza..... Maybe we can send some of the good energy and love we create doing Art over the these unfortunate people..? Like a prayer, but sending energy and healing to those we care about....but only when we have some to spare as we do when engaging in creative pursuits

If I change my clothes , I don't have capacity to wash it 😅🙈 definitely don't change clothes often but I do move from bed to lounge

I’m having a little set back Worrying about my sleep is causing me not to sleep and feeling crap the next day lol

Yes! Messiness is draining, overwhelming!! I can't stand it

I have a problem with doom scrolling😅

I find reading the comments on any CFS video the most draining of all. People just love to drag others down with them.

With respect. You're right. But it takes money to eat an organic diet. And when family and friends are passed away,. You have no transport. You're really struggling. I do a FXXXX amazing job with my illness. With so little money or help. I'm 55.been ill for years. I think dying would be easier. Sometimes. I meditate long periods everyday. My life's so difficult, I choose to NOT be there. There's no joy. Only when I meditate and sleep is there restbite

I live in workout clothes. Makes no difference. What a bunch of BS.

Silly boy, you’re wearing black ;)

@janerowena4023

4 ай бұрын

😂

This is just basic psychological advice for ALL people. Has zip to do with CFS. Kind of rubbsh video

@Milliemollym

2 күн бұрын

Having had ME 46 years...I can tell you that these things have EVERYTHING to do with healing from CFS and keeping on your recovery journey instead of giving up ...and if it also benefits everyone as you state...why knock it?