A lonely, unheard girl will gravitate to the first boy who makes her feel special.

@scottgiles3053

3 ай бұрын

Yep. Many boys are the same way...they will fall for the first girl that gives them the time of day. Having a connection with your kids is imperative.

@phattjohnson

3 ай бұрын

Or, you know.. girls and boys have been kissing since time immemorial.

@malhunt7

3 ай бұрын

Your comments are predicated on the idea that young love is inherently flawed. Like the only youth who fall in love or experience intimacy are "lonely and unheard" which is not true. In fact I'd say....if your teen is able to hold a LTR in high-school that shows a level of openness, trust, and vulnerability.

@thedog5k

3 ай бұрын

The heard ones too They all do it

@probablynot1368

3 ай бұрын

How old is the teenage boy? A couple of years older than her? Did he coerce her to engage in sex. OMG - She was 15 when it began; in many States, this is statutory rape.

Giving your child the silent treatment is cruel and childish as an adult. Dad needs to grow tf up too.

@alexdex9439

3 ай бұрын

Shush! You're not a parent so pipe down!

@flashthecorgi2053

3 ай бұрын

@@alexdex9439Delony is and he said the same thing. Do you have another rebuttal? Even the mom said it’s childish and she’s less than respecting of how he’s choosing to parent!

@ethan4048

3 ай бұрын

@@alexdex9439 i’m a parent silent treatment Is cruel, and the dad needs to grow up.

@WouldntULikeToKnow.

3 ай бұрын

​@@alexdex9439 how do you know I'm not a parent? You'd be surprised, huh?

@skincareceo

3 ай бұрын

​@ethan4048 Delony is basing that off his own behavior. Sometimes, people need time to process things.

The silent treatment for months over hair dye is insanely manipulative. Holy.

@Playingwithproxies

2 ай бұрын

Wonder when his youngest will open her OF page

@thefuck1742

2 ай бұрын

My dad and mom used to give me and my brother the silent treatment over getting a bad grade . And just over the smallest dumbshit

@c.mccool1123

2 ай бұрын

Narcissism.

@AK33M

11 күн бұрын

That's just plain crazy.

Being so strict on them makes them rebel even more.

@I_Lemaire

3 ай бұрын

Agreed. It is already too late for her.

@joimonae4090

2 ай бұрын

yeah untill they become a parent and have to deal with the same thing

@ghosted1690

2 ай бұрын

@@joimonae4090bro does not see the logic at all

@AmericanIdiotPolitics

Ай бұрын

story of my life lmao

@frosty65233

Ай бұрын

@@joimonae4090 and tmaybe then they realize "oh i hated my parents when they did this so maybe ill try something different"

5 years later: I don’t understand why our kids don’t want anything to do with us!

@doctorposting

3 ай бұрын

literally

@judyperri9496

3 ай бұрын

Well my goodness holding a kid accountable for her actions🤦🏻‍♀️

@landshark7684

3 ай бұрын

@@judyperri9496 there’s holding kids accountable and there’s this…giving a child the silent treatment is about as immature as you can get so remember that accountability starts with parents- set the example

@ollasdiary

3 ай бұрын

Exactly

@judyperri9496

3 ай бұрын

If that’s what it takes to get your kids to “ have anything to do with you “ , you failed miserably as a parent

No surprise that both older daughters rushed off to the military is telling.

@dovewhite7472

3 ай бұрын

Right!!!??

@Shessolostintheworld

3 ай бұрын

This was my first thought….. children who run to the military are running from something and it’s usually the parents

@Lipstickandchampagne

3 ай бұрын

@@Shessolostintheworld Yep. My Mommy. Nonetheless, she makes me proud ❤

@FogJWrestling

3 ай бұрын

@@Shessolostintheworld not saying you're wrong, that can certainly be true, but it's not always the case. I had great parents growing up who respected my boundaries better than I'd say 99% of the other parents of kids I knew. I joined because I was lost and kind of backed myself into a corner. My parents were one of the things I missed the most about being in. So it's not necessarily a red flag. If anything my parents gave me so much room to explore that I kind of took that to an extreme 🤣

@johnny9072

3 ай бұрын

Yes, BOTH older daughters joining to get the hell out of there is really telling. Also, the way the mother talked about past situations and how he just gives the silent treatment for months, god damn. Seems he lost two daughters already due to his childishness, what's one more?

Those consequences are BRUTAL. Taking away the door? That’s nuts

@k1ngzgaming757

2 ай бұрын

lol I got my door taken away

@ilil5626

2 ай бұрын

​@@k1ngzgaming757❤

@ajuister

2 ай бұрын

​@@k1ngzgaming757for what?

@k1ngzgaming757

2 ай бұрын

@@ajuister smoking weed in my room and getting caught like 60 times

@ajuister

2 ай бұрын

@@k1ngzgaming757 I'm team door staying on until the 59th time...sorry bud

The fact that she hesitated to say the older kids were not there is more telling than anything else.

@XtremeSportX247

2 ай бұрын

Nah... they just moved n in military... that's normal

@talathewolf6723

2 ай бұрын

@XtremeSportX247 most people don't go into the military that young unless they feel they have no other options in life. Means they lack the support that normal families provide.

@ompatel5570

2 ай бұрын

@@talathewolf6723the older siblings are prolly grown adult. my older brother is 10 years older

@talathewolf6723

2 ай бұрын

@ompatel5570 unfortunately your wrong in this case. She opens up about it just a little and they left because of the dad and the abuse.

@ompatel5570

2 ай бұрын

@@talathewolf6723 Damn

Not that I'm condoning her sneaky actions and I also think 15 is too young to be having sex, but often times when dads are "disgusted" with their daughters sexuality, it's pure projection because they were total dogs when they were young and treated girls like dirt. Now that the shoe is on the other foot, he can't handle that boys might be treating his little girl the way he treated other people's little girls. Maybe the person he should be truly disgusted with is himself. Some men truly only think of women as people when they're in someway related to them.

@jengoodwyn2715

3 ай бұрын

Whoa! That hit home! Good insight.

@mimimonster

3 ай бұрын

Sooo true!!! My fiancé was so upset when he found out my 16 yo daughter was sexually active (I had taken her to get on birth control). He felt like me giving her birth control was “giving her permission” but it was me choosing to be responsible since she was at that point. When I pointed out to him that he was having sex in HS when they were younger than my child was, it was really eye opening for him. Hard stuff… It also was a huge realization that his daughter was almost grown up also and close to being in the same place. Hard stuff for daddies.

@IrishFrank22

3 ай бұрын

You are projecting purple. Most girls are 304s and not innocent angels. Women control access to sex not men so how about ye act normal and stop being 304s

@IrishFrank22

3 ай бұрын

​@@mimimonsterYou failed as a mother and ye wonder why so many women today are 304s, single mom's and divorce rates are through the roof because women can't pair bond.

@Nikitajade08

3 ай бұрын

This is so accurate

If the father didn't talk to his daughter for MONTHS for coloring her ends, he'll never talk to to the one that had sex. It makes sense now why she's searching for connection outside of the home.

@jellymila7678

3 ай бұрын

Exactly this they don’t realize by pushing them away they are pushing their kid to seek attention elsewhere!!

@briskettacos

3 ай бұрын

Sounds like she's alienated from her parents and friends, and has almost nothing left to lose but housing. Congratulations, her runaway priming is complete.

@Chet_24

3 ай бұрын

I wouldn't talk to a purple haired woman for months either.

@CammiDred

3 ай бұрын

@@Chet_24please don’t have children.

@texan903

3 ай бұрын

​@CammiDred so, people should let their children do whatever they want? You sound ridiculous.

She doesnt need the silent treatment, they need to talk to her about safe sex, STIs, pregnancy, etc. Dad is childish and archaic. Grow tf up and have a relationship with your daughters! He prob treats his wife the same way.

How many boyfriends has this girl been having sex with? Calling her "promiscuous" because she had sex with her one boyfriend is just inaccurate.

@ghosted1690

2 ай бұрын

i know right! Like she's probably just deciding to do that with her ONE boyfriend at the time. I don't know how these parents (and many many others) are so dim about teen's lives.

@Brainjoy01

2 ай бұрын

I think its arguably promiscuous to sneak a boy in several times for sex a few feet from your parents. I don't think I could have sex in my parents house, period. So there's a sexuality component to it that she's really eager to be having sex.

@fullsendmountainbiker5844

Ай бұрын

I would call that promiscuous activity for a FIFTEEN year old.

@liamcolclough1617

Ай бұрын

@@fullsendmountainbiker5844what would you say is a appropriate age?

@fullsendmountainbiker5844

Ай бұрын

@@liamcolclough1617 maybe like 20, when people mature a bit more and realise how to be safe

I was her. This was my family dynamic. I packed my bags & left one night at 17. I never went back. Moved continents soon after saving up. That was almost 2 decades ago. He absolutely will lose his daughter.

@comment_account2343

3 ай бұрын

I am sorry to hear, thank you for sharing. This is why there are so many estranged families.

@ElevenElevenSaturday

3 ай бұрын

Either that, or this poor girl will be plagued with mental health and behavioral issues. I’m heartbroken that she doesn’t have more contact with her sisters. I am sorry about your situation. I hope you are in a better place. (hugs)

@sup_monica3597

3 ай бұрын

​@ElevenElevenSaturday her parents took her phone away so she can't even talk to her sisters. Her parents are making everything so much worse.

@Elise.9.9.9

3 ай бұрын

Same here, it started at 15 and I was out of the house and not speaking to my family by age 17 as well. It took nearly a decade to have any kind of relationship with my parent, and it’s still a work in progress today.

@I_Lemaire

3 ай бұрын

No excuses for the cruelty you experienced but scorched earth works both ways.

Any man who uses the silent treatment with his own kid is just projecting his own lack of ability to address issues. Incredibly immature, genuinely shameful.

@AmyAdams-es1tt

3 ай бұрын

Agreed. It’s a way to try and control. It’s abusive.

@JackMason-oq8lf

2 ай бұрын

Shakespeare and biology agree that at 14 Juliet was ready to have sex. Kids older and younger than that are having sex. Parents are too vapid to know what's going on with children these days. They have the Internet. 11 year old boys can tell you what the best porn sites are. Around that age, pre-teen, kids are mortified to be seen in public with their parents. That's because they are biologically programed to start being independent. They are going to pull away from you. Take it or leave it. Kids and Internet raise other kids. They teach each other about sex. Mom and Dad are sidestepped, their opinions do not matter. Don't put more distance between you and your kid. Teach the kids about intercourse and pregnancy, if you can. At least teach them about rubbers. If you don't, they'll get the information from other kids. Kids still need to know you are there. Don't threaten them for not being a carbon copy of you. Ogically

@sheilagilleland4312

2 ай бұрын

I don’t like the silence treatment, especially to a child. No mater what!

@littleme3597

2 ай бұрын

My mom always did this, while visiting my home! I was already in my 40-ties. I had therapy, found this behavior sickening, in my own home! She wanted to control the cooking, the LIGHT on my over head stove! Not allowed! They both ignored me, went out to eat, without me, didn't ask, then came home laughing, ignoring me. I got my courage up and said, Mom, dad, wouldn't you be happier someplace else? You aren't talking to me. They left in a huff, telling everyone, I threw out my own parents! My mom, was happy when she made me cry, with her outrageous behaviors.

@AmericanIdiotPolitics

Ай бұрын

any woman too for real....my mom. My mom exactly

I once heard “little girls start seeking kisses from boys when dad stops giving kisses”. My little 3yo girl gets 100 kisses a day from me alone, let alone her momma and brothers! Even my boys, 12 and 9, still yearn for my hugs and physical connection. Too bad this dad will miss those special moments if he doesn’t stop throwing a childish fit…

@VanessaMilton-vr3wz

Ай бұрын

This is really sweet, but I caution you against this dichotomy going forward. My dad is wonderful and always was very emotionally connected to me. However, I was still very inclined to have a boyfriend and to be somewhat sexually active with him from 15 onward. Your daughter becoming a sexual person isn’t like the antithesis to a healthy relationship with you as a man

@user-lg9qe9eg8v

17 күн бұрын

@@VanessaMilton-vr3wz real

@a.o.4584

7 күн бұрын

@@VanessaMilton-vr3wz I agree, but it definitely gives you a clearer head to think through your actions before jumping head first into a bed with your boyfriend. desperation is powerful, and it knocks all sense out of your system, especially at 15. all teenagers feel sexual urges... but its important to understand that they can be satisfied whilst being safe and responsible AND age approrpiate. sex is not the only answer. 15 year olds should not be having sex. period point blank. the psychological implications of a sexual act are not appropriate for a teenager to bear.

@VanessaMilton-vr3wz

7 күн бұрын

@@a.o.4584 a good relationship with my dad made me be critical about who I was allowing into my life and into my space, and it gave me a good sounding board. However, it didn’t stop me from being attracted to my boyfriend. I wasn’t having sex, but we did other things, and it has nothing to do with my dad

As someone who was raised in a home where dad used the silent treatment to control and manipulate and deflect his accountability, it is WRONG!!!!

@christinemiller8723

2 ай бұрын

I am 59 and still dealing with trauma in therapy...

@Yujiro945

Ай бұрын

Brother what is the silent treatment?

@Mangofruitbowl

Ай бұрын

@@Yujiro945basically ignoring them in every way.

" Increase connection, don't take it away " That was powerful!

@jessbarry856

3 ай бұрын

Yes!❤

@tpaige4890

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely this is what I craved in my childhood. Begging my mom till I cried to spend time with Me. She never wanted to. Even as a teen I begged. Then I would get in trouble for crying. So I'd cry in my closet. And now that I'm an adult I get to heat how it's my black husband's fault I have mental health issues.

@arreola891

3 ай бұрын

The increased connection should be within the family though, not the friends.

@williamseneka9959

3 ай бұрын

Powerful and works every time. It's awful as parents, but connection: love, reaching out to her, regularly and frequently for the right reasons works powerful..especially when faith, through "fatherhood," importantly is present.

@fiona6533

3 ай бұрын

Definitely my dad and knowing that is what that saved my daughter. My husband had medical issues from when she was 12 to 20 that put him out for several years and I was able to protect my daughter. 23 and she's amazing with boundaries and self reflection. In hindsight I'm glad he was out. He would have messed her up. Much more to the events than I can write here but she's good. I got in the trenches with her.

The same people crying their adult kids won’t talk to them

@gigi8528

3 ай бұрын

THIS!!!!! Very true

@davidteovogel3482

3 ай бұрын

💯

@brownbarrett6842

3 ай бұрын

LOUDER so the old folks can hear you.

@aleksandar5323

3 ай бұрын

I mean, I know taking away a teen's door is almost sexual abuse but... WHAT WOULD JESUS SAY!?!?!?!?!

@DulcetNuance

2 ай бұрын

@@aleksandar5323 Give away all earthly possessions including your door? lol

This guy sounds like a horrible father. Not only for punishing his daughter in such a draconian way for normal teenage misbehavior, but for not talking to his other daughter for months for dyeing her hair. People like this should not be parents. I feel so bad for his kids.

The consequences they chose for her will 100% enforce her sneaking around more. Stricter parents = sneakier kids. If you don't connect with your child and communicate, they won't tell you anything.

At 15, she is searching for connection and love. Dad isn’t doing his job.

@Ana-ot8lm

2 ай бұрын

This is truth!

@sunleo6161

2 ай бұрын

nope shes a normal teenager

@dylanhumphrey2479

Ай бұрын

How… is a 15 year old girl being sexually active linked to the father? What?

@airplanedude3103

Ай бұрын

​@@dylanhumphrey2479 Honestly idk what logic they're using either but then again I haven't watched the whole video

@brooooooooooooooooo______

Ай бұрын

WTF ARE YOU TALKING ABOut???? How tf is this linked to the dad you weird asf bruh just don’t have sex at 15 it’s common fucken sense. But thots will be thots🤷🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

My parents were experts at the silent treatment. They had no idea how much it destroyed our relationship!!

@judyjones2698

3 ай бұрын

I am 78 and it still hurts when I think about it!

@jwhite5396

3 ай бұрын

The silent treatment is a form of ostracism and emotional abuse. The dad needs new tools in his parenting box.

@Mushroom321-

3 ай бұрын

Yep.. 🙄

@jasonrodgers9063

3 ай бұрын

So very sorry for you. Hope you're doing ok now.

@comment_account2343

3 ай бұрын

same. My parents still ask why we don't have a relationship, but they deny it even happened and say that I am insane and that I should just be grateful they didn't abandon me (which they would joke about constantly growing up).

My dad treated me similarly. As if he owned me. Owned what i did, owned who I was, owned my body. I HATED him for it. I wasnt allowed to color my hair the way I wanted, wear my makeup the way I wanted, etc. As soon as I graduated high school, I ran away to another state with a guy 3 years older than me and ended up pregnant 3 months later. I just wanted someone to love me. This father is not only destroying his relationship with his daughter, he’s destroying her self esteem and driving her to do things like this. Not to mention, she probably feels disgusted with herself, and her dad is making it much worse It’s pretty telling that the older daughters rushed off to the military.

@oahts5906

2 ай бұрын

Ruined the relationship with your father because he was trying to keep you safe in the best way he knew how.. 🤦‍♂️ when men say they don’t want daughters, THIS is exactly why

@Ashly304

2 ай бұрын

⁠@@oahts5906it’s pretty easy not to treat another human being like property.

@aecet9652

2 ай бұрын

Treating a human being like property doesn’t warrant going off and getting pregnant in 3 months

@SuperMario-dx3vn

2 ай бұрын

I don't agree what your dad did, but don't blame him for your poor choices, you chose to move away another state to a man who you hardly know and open your legs and the result to is being pregnant after JUST 3 MONTHS Flip the gender roles, if a son move to another state cuz his mom was "controlling" just to find out he got a women pregnant just 3 months after, you would "feel" and think differently

@SuperMario-dx3vn

2 ай бұрын

Another example so you can see it differently would be saying a BF was to over protective, and since she can't stand him anymore she breaks up with him and has a H03 phase and gets pregnant and blames the Ex BF and hates him for it, like yes the Ex BF did you wrong but choosing to be a H03 phase and get accidently pregnant it's all your fault What your dad did was bad but the aftermath of your choices is all your fault not his, womp womp ik truth hurts but own up to the mistakes you did by your choices

Im tearing up a little bit because this is what i needed from my parents. I've been this exact 15 year old. And she desperately needing her father figure, she needs his love!

@steevo8754

Ай бұрын

Same. I felt I was damaged goods. When what I really needed was someone to walk me through my mistakes. It lead to a lifetime of poor decisions

@rafaellopez2162

13 күн бұрын

@@steevo8754accountability, love yourself wtf lol

@amitkriit

13 күн бұрын

Liar 😂

You’ve handled this terribly. She will be talking about this in therapy for decades. Your husband is the child here.

@dabaddestbarb

3 ай бұрын

im just like why is this on youtube for people to watch and listen to

@DuhAnimeProtagonist

3 ай бұрын

@@dabaddestbarb to learn from peoples mistakes for free xd there are THOUSANDS of parents in this situation who dont even try to listen on how to improve themselves. lets hope in this case the mom stands up and calls the dad out for being abusive and immature and so the daughter is still allowed to talk to her friends for gods sake! its really sad how common this is. and the fact the other 2 daughters left as soon as they could tells a lot too. these parents will have no connection with their kids someday once they get fully independent from them.

@JohnJillky

3 ай бұрын

​@@DuhAnimeProtagonistso real lmao. So many "what not to do" lessons for free online these days

@sparklesp9304

2 ай бұрын

​@@dabaddestbarbSo they can learn and not repeat the same mistakes? That's how we change the next generation for the better? Are you seriously asking this?

@dabaddestbarb

2 ай бұрын

@@sparklesp9304 girl Gn

"his weapon of choice is silent treatment". ugh... don't have kids with people like that.

@GameChanger597

3 ай бұрын

You don't often know how the person you married is going to act like AFTER you marry them.

@ChrisBlack-bi2jy

3 ай бұрын

So men shouldn't have kids with women then.

@olgac.h.1278

3 ай бұрын

Can't any of you have any sympathy for the father? I don't think he's doing it on purpose. He's angry and sad. Is he supposed to smile at her and say what? Hi? Maybe it's almost physically impossible for him to act differently. And the girl? Why must she run away from her parents after this? Do you take her for an idiot? She did something very wrong, but that doesn't mean she can't tell right from wrong. She knows she wasn't supposed to have sex with her boyfriend at all, much less on her own bed while her parents were in the house. And she knows her parents are right in punnishing her, and that they love her and want the best for her.

@TheHetaliafan123

3 ай бұрын

@@olgac.h.1278A 15 year old girl won’t know her dad loves her if he won’t talk to her. He can be hurt, but he’s also a grown ass man, he needs to speak to his children.

@judyperri9496

3 ай бұрын

@@TheHetaliafan123His child needs to respect her family’s home

This man is "disgusted" because he knows there are boys treating his daughter the same way he treated someone else's daughter. The only disgusting thing here is that "father" who ignored his daughter for months.

@thenaturalhuman9568

2 ай бұрын

Right!!

@gustavomartin3681

2 ай бұрын

Imma have to disagree I'm currently 23 still a virgin and I would feel disappointed maybe most likely disgusted if imaginary kid had sex at 15. I'm already watching out for my lil sister who is 14 and I just tell her to watch out for kids cuz at that age they just want to mess around and then get out. I agree his behavior is unacceptable and he should talk to her to prevent this stuff from going on but I disagree with your first statement it could go either or so you shouldn't judge that man harshly without knowing

@Bruh-Moment435

2 ай бұрын

​@@gustavomartin3681Him giving the silent treatment to his daughter is childlike and horrific. The father is the man a daughter spends the most amount of time with through her formative years, how her father acts and treats her may very likely cause her to internalize how men should treat her. Toxic parenting way too often leads to their kids growing up seeking out toxic relationships. Consequences are absolutely understandable, but a father cannot just neglect his daughter

@gustavomartin3681

2 ай бұрын

@@Bruh-Moment435 I said the dad's behavior is unacceptable because him not talking to her won't solve the issue and would just cause bigger rift between them. What I disagreed on was him calling the dad a hoe/messing around that was just uncalled for just cuz he was ignoring his child it's possible but u have no evidence for that

@fantasea114

Ай бұрын

@@gustavomartin3681 No offence my guy, but you being a 23 year old virgin makes you the exception, not the rule.

That “dad” has major control issues. I had a dad like this and it destroyed my self-esteem. I also searched for unconditional love from boys at a young age and my dad blamed me and just thought I was an awful child. I still struggle with blaming myself and feeling worthless to this day and I’m 36. I’m glad John called out these parents actions.

@charlesbell5500

21 сағат бұрын

I'm sorry but even if your dad was a pastor, you'd have still been doing that stuff. You're really beautiful and you'll always have so many opportunities and there's nothing wrong with that. You really think that if you had a loving and caring father that you'd still be eating dinner with him and the family on Saturday night at 18? LOL There's nothing wrong with hot people liking to have fun, that's great. Just own it. Women like you who had good dads could make the case that calling them "beautiful princesses" for 25 years would lead them to be entitled and narcissistic. So it's all about your decisions as a person which you can control, not your parents' words and actions from your childhood.

I was 15 and was forbidden to see a boyfriend. All my parents did was yell at me about everything. No real connection. It just made me want to see him more! I climbed out windows and snuck around with him for about 5 months. We just broke up on our own, without my parents even knowing... Terrible parents equal no proper communication.

@jones2277

3 ай бұрын

But if you got knocked up and abandoned you’d have trotted back home and expected them to take care of the mess for you.

@SaystheTruth3

3 ай бұрын

@@jones2277 lol! I knew better (even at that age) than to get "knocked up." and I didn't. My parents ended up getting divorced two years later.... So there's that. 😉

@phattjohnson

3 ай бұрын

@@jones2277 Acting like nobody's taught what CONDOMS do since friggin primary school.. lol.

@Votethepower

3 ай бұрын

Sounds like you were a terrible, disobedient kid too.

@PsychoMoFoGaming

3 ай бұрын

Terrible parents and a terrible kid. Agressive parents and a liar of a child. None of you are innocent.

I don’t get the connection between after school activities and having sex with a boyfriend. I think parents forget what’s it’s like to be a teenager. It’s definitely not right for the father to not speak to his daughter. Devastating for her. Dad needs to get over himself.

@skincareceo

3 ай бұрын

Studies show that kids with a lot of responsibility aren't sexually active.

@mle011

3 ай бұрын

As far as my experience, there was no time for sex with boyfriend when I was busy. School and then school sports practice, then home, dinner, homework, practicing piano for 45 mins, and by the time that was all done, it was basically time to go to sleep. I feel like the kids that were sexually active in HS were not in sports or music or any activities. They had nothing better to do.

@TheSecretPassword

3 ай бұрын

@@skincareceo and yet they took them away

@katieandnick4113

3 ай бұрын

@@skincareceosexual activity during high school is very healthy, as long as it’s within the confines of a healthy, committed relationship. It’s so weird and frankly, quite creepy, how eager parents these days are to prevent their children from growing up and forming connections with other humans. We’ve become so collectively insecure.

@skincareceo

3 ай бұрын

@@katieandnick4113 Sexual activity as a child is never healthy. You sound like a liberal pervert.

If you choose to give your kid a smart phone, please, please don’t let them take it to bed with them. That’s when all the trouble starts. Bullying, sexting, inappropriate pictures and more. I am speaking from experience because a smart phone and social media almost cost my granddaughter her life. Parents please realize nothing good happens when you send your kid to bed with their phone.

@dynamitelui

Ай бұрын

This is the truth….

my dad found out i had been sexually active at 15 also. he did not speak to me for 3 years. missed my high school graduation, missed me going to university. i moved out at 17, and had no contact. now i am 20 and have no sort of emotional connection with my father. sexual and emotional education is important to talk about before it’s too late. don’t punish a child for your faults as parents. not talking about it doesn’t mean it will not happen. it’s better for them to be educated on sexual safety and healthy relationships

When my husband was a teen and started getting in trouble and hanging with the wrong crowd his parents didn't tell him no or take his car away. His parents just kept him really really busy and it worked BRILLIANTLY!! He would come home after school and say "I want go with my friends" his parents would respond "oh sorry we already have plans to go do this really cool thing" then they'd take off to the mall all evening or to grandma and grandpa's or drive 2hrs to go eat supper somewhat cool or they'd all of a sudden need help building a shed at uncle's house! It worked out so well!!!

@reckonerwheel5336

3 ай бұрын

Great parents who wound up raising a great husband for you, I'm sure :)

@sb-fx6ll

3 ай бұрын

Now that's some wise thinking! Good on them.

@mikethemechanic7395

3 ай бұрын

My parents made me get a job at 15 all year long in HS. I was busy. But you know what? I would roam the streets and damage cars and buildings for fun. I was too smart to get busted. I was also lucky. Your kids will always find time to have sex. You can only educate your kids. I have 11 year olds.

@reckonerwheel5336

3 ай бұрын

@@mikethemechanic7395 I think it's about parents giving teens access to do the things they enjoy that aren't risky, and fostering new interests, no? It won't mean that their teen children won't ever have sex, drink, smoke, etc. while in school, but a full life will make those things less tempting, less of a focus. Less of a focus compared to the kid who's barely developed any interests, bored by school, and mainly finds excitement in getting drunk and having sex. For myself, I had my crushes back in HS, but I was a very artistic kid and spent my free time doing art-related activities that'd keep me up well into the night, saw no reason to be outside, practically.

@colleenmccann1190

3 ай бұрын

That's epic!

She’s searching for connection and you’ve cut her off from it and not allowed a safe avenue

@jellymila7678

3 ай бұрын

100 percent

@furryplantsandcoins9070

3 ай бұрын

Yep she sure is finding connection with the wrong person and the wrong position!! Sometimes it's just hormone related and not have anything to do with connections.. if they're hormone levels are way off which if she's almost 16 they're going to be.. And so is the boys!! Hormones usually rule their brain cells until they're in their mid-20s.

@nettiea9384

3 ай бұрын

Nope… she’s just got raging hormones and needs a reminder of whose house it is and what appropriate behavior looks like cuz that ain’t it!

@mrxw1ck842

3 ай бұрын

Going to be funny when that connection becomes a baby and now everyone has to “feel bad”

@nunyabizay9253

3 ай бұрын

@@mrxw1ck842 could have been sports and stuff, but now she’s trapped in a room with no door. She can’t even get changed in private

This was me as a kid. When you can’t talk with your parents, when you never have Voice, are villainized for being a person you instinctually seek out protection or connection. Her behavior is a symptom of something big missing in her life.

@charlesbell5500

21 сағат бұрын

But I also don't think it's a coincidence that you're beautiful too though. Like, at some point, we gotta stop putting the blame on the parents and start calling it like it is. You're hot and you get lots of attention, simple. That's great, but just own it. Another girl with the same father could end up being a serial killer. So, we can't just attribute the teen's behaviour to their father's parenting. It's the girl's personality that causes her to do the things she does. You're hot, end of story. And I guarantee the girl in this story is hot too. No problem with that, but we're putting too much blame on the parents.

Kid made a mistake, but man the parents are doing everything they can to ensure their child won’t trust them

@troyspears6470

3 ай бұрын

Seriously, if anything they are driving a bigger wedge that may make the girl rebel even more

@dorino9057

3 ай бұрын

Good she needs to be punished and taught not to misbehave and lie actions have consequences children need discipline.

@kiki11974

3 ай бұрын

Teenagers cant be trusted

@lorannamoody7011

3 ай бұрын

@@dorino9057why does she need to be punished? Discipline is different from punishment.

@RG-hf4et

3 ай бұрын

​@lorannamoody7011 Letting anyone into my house after hours alone would get my kid grounded, even if it was a girlfriend. For me, this isn't about the sex. It's having people in my home without my permission.

Taking away a bedroom door is an inappropriate punishment for a teenager, in any circumstance. Forbidding her from any hobbies & connection with others is completely wrong for the circumstances too.

@dorino9057

3 ай бұрын

What is an appropriate punishment then?

@hideyable

3 ай бұрын

@dorino9057 - the driving privileges are sufficient. Taking away her door/right to privacy is a cruel & unusual punishment...particularly during adolescence when you're not necessarily comfortable with your body. She needs space to spend alone time & get changed without being exposed. Removing any after school activities isolates her from friends. It's not like she's going to engage in sexual activity at these after school activities so all you're achieving is reducing healthy outlets for non-sexual connection.

@AlabasterSkin

3 ай бұрын

@@dorino9057 Giving her a basic phone they monitor for contact with family only.

@winter_s_44

3 ай бұрын

No, it’s not. If that is what you do with privacy, then you now get the privacy we deem necessary.

@phattjohnson

3 ай бұрын

@@dorino9057 Punishment? She's 16 (assumedly, now). Therefore, the parents need to grow up. The only real 'punishment' should be some awkward discussions, INCLUDING maybe WITH the boyfriend! Could've found out what a genuine dude he was and that they've been in love since they were 10. What a mess this situation is, all due to the hang-ups of people like yourself.

As a former 15 year old girl who got in regular screaming matches with my dad until we talked about nothing more than sports; listen to him, please. I’m begging for the kid.

My dad was the authoritarian parent. Would get very angry. Remove doors, bed from the room, etc. he got mad at me about something (can’t remember what) when I was 16 and he gave me the silent treatment on my 16th birthday, no happy birthday, nothing. I’m 29 now and have a hard time talking to my dad about anything unless I know it is something that will make him happy. He will try to have deeper conversations with me about my life and I just shut down and nod my head and mentally/emotionally cannot have those conversations with him.

@robbklobb6501

13 күн бұрын

Same. I love my dad though. I give him credit, because he is better than his dad was. I hope to be better than my dad, and I hope my children become better than me.

Dad is not only making daughter distrust him with reality, her feelings and her privacy but also really damaging her view of herself in regard to sex. Mom admits dad is “disgusted” and read daughters intimate messages, I’m sure this “disgust” isn’t well hidden towards his daughter. I can only imagine how damaged this little girl must feel right no. Embarrassed for the situation, ashamed and exposed by them discussing her sex life with the rest of their family (siblings), looking through her texts, heavy punishment with no support, and a father that makes it very clear he’s disgusted by her. This girl will discuss this in therapy as one of the reasons she has a poor sense of self and poor relationship with her father in the future if he does not immediately adjust.

@careydepass130

3 ай бұрын

Did the Dad and Mom ever have sex before marriage? Were both of them always so chaste and virtuous?

@meganbailey6511

3 ай бұрын

@@careydepass130she says the dad remembers how he was when he was her age and I’m guessing he was pretty promiscuous and didn’t treat girls very well.

@maximillian1109

3 ай бұрын

Why did he read her texts?! Like...the parents don’t need to know the details about what exactly is being done/said! I feel disgusted by him!

@lorainefleeman6011

2 ай бұрын

​@maximillian1109 They sure do. What if he didn't, they made plans, and she wound up dead somewhere? If parents pay the phone bill, they can do as they wish. If the phone is in her name, and she's paying the bill, then no. There was a time when we were growing up that there was NO privacy on the phone. There was ONE phone, typically in the kitchen. Didn't hurt us a bit.

@sean4060

2 ай бұрын

Her “privacy”. She is 15. That is gross

This girl definitely needs some consequences: for the the lying, for the sneaking around, etc , but she’s not selfish or abnormal. Parents will NOT win a war against another human beings sexual desire. It can be guided, NOT beaten down. If dad is this “disgusted” he really needs to introspect on how he was as a teen and reevaluate how he though of the teen girls in his class.

@csx6910

3 ай бұрын

One of the things a couple parents I know did was have honest conversations on sex and the consequences of it, both physical(STD'S) and reputational(being looked down on for being easy). They talked about things boy and girls will say to have sex that shouldn't always be trusted, even if the other didn't think they were lying(I love you, baby!). It's an adult activity that comes with adult responsibilities. And then they made it clear what would happen if there was a pregnancy. Hopes and dreams die because they won't be able to go to school and be a parent, they'd have to drop out and get a job. And abortion means not being a part of the family because birth control is plentiful. So far, seems to be working but time will tell.

@kiki11974

3 ай бұрын

I disagree. If the daughter ends up pregnant of with an non curable STD; then her life is ruined

@sidni.d5989

3 ай бұрын

​@kiki11974 And that's why you educate your kids on safe sex and consent.

@reckonerwheel5336

3 ай бұрын

@@csx6910 Yes, a mother I know was very realistic with her teen daughter. Daughter had a boyfriend at 16, and the mother treated her so respectfully that her daughter told her, a few months into the relationship, that she wanted to start having sex with the bf. Mother was clear about the risks and asked if she trusted her bf enough, wasn't doing it because of pressure, asked for her to wait. But she knew her daughter would probably be sexually active anyway, so got her on birth control. No teen pregnancy happened.

@iamyourgod530

3 ай бұрын

I remember not having sex as a teen

as someone who is about to go off to college and didnt always feel that connection with my parents. i really felt this story. thankfully me and my parents have recently become way closer. ive never seen your show before but i could really feel the compassion you have and i feel the advice you gave was absolutely incredible. thank you.

This was me at 15 and my parents reacted the same way. Chastised me and isolated me for years, which was especially painful bc I was homeschooled. It was only texting and kissing also. My heart is broken for her and I hope her parents try to make it right.

Wow, that kids gonna leave you and never talk to you again

@TheDriller100

3 ай бұрын

good she can figure out how hard life is .

@gmoney1089

3 ай бұрын

I know a girl that was grounded an entire year when her parents found out about her and her boyfriend, when she was 15. She's now 40 and has been living across the country for over a decade, she might see her parents once a year...

@Lipstickandchampagne

3 ай бұрын

@@gmoney1089 An entire year of being grounded is insane.

@Sher7061

3 ай бұрын

She will run into the arms of the next boy, looking for love.

@zeal4god402

3 ай бұрын

​@@Sher7061 exactly. Stuff like this has made many kids run away first chance they get

As a former 15yr old girl this call hurt my heart because i know that girl feels shame and embarrassed so glad my dad didn't treat me like a street gal when he found out I made a choice to grow up. I was 15 also and had the same boyfriend for almost 2 years. So glad our parents still allowed us to see eachother we just werent allowed to be alone anymore

@HoneyHoops-ig9ws

3 ай бұрын

You’re a 304 😂

@K777angel

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for you're vulnerability.

@kimbo3468

3 ай бұрын

@@HoneyHoops-ig9ws been with my husband 13yearsn👰 the correct title is wife😉

@gmarie3053

3 ай бұрын

I was so scared of my mom I didn’t do it until 21. I’m so glad I wasn’t a child having sex but not sure what I would do if I caught my kids 🥲

@HoneyHoops-ig9ws

3 ай бұрын

@@K777angel thanks for letting us know your parents failed you.

Dr. John is quite a lovely guy, love his knowledge on these things and how respectful he is.

"Why do you never come to Christmas anymore ?" Is gonna be the future for that daughter.

This father is acting like an immature man baby. Ignoring your daughter will only push her away, and teach her that she cannot trust either of her parents.

@sellmav

3 ай бұрын

Something tells me he didn’t just start ignoring her.

@Of_Mail

3 ай бұрын

@@sellmav?

@alexatedw

3 ай бұрын

Right. Teens have sex. Grow up

@meganbailey6511

3 ай бұрын

@@Of_Mailhe’s probably been ignoring her for a long time

@joimonae4090

2 ай бұрын

and when she ends up pregnant the parents would be responsible because their daughter is still a minor its irresponsible a s an older sister to my siblings i always tell them to sit down and think ! think about your actions if you are still relying on your parents to take care of you then you do not need to be having sex gtfoh america has really lost its marbles

Teens having sex?! You don’t say 😂 How are they shocked by this?

@FatiFleur-jn7ky

3 ай бұрын

I am just as flabbergasted as you about this 😂

@mimimonster

3 ай бұрын

They’re like “we shouldn’t taught her better not to have a sex drive…”

@jones2277

3 ай бұрын

This is only normal to Americans.

@simba8665

3 ай бұрын

Broken western society, anything goes

@jones2277

3 ай бұрын

not shocking for Americans.

As a parent of a 20,18,17,and 11 year old. You have to remember your kids are PEOPLE with hormones and feelings. Communication is key and not shaming them is key.

it is so calming for me to see how the Dr. spots the abuse, and where is coming from so quickly.

The wife sounds like she’s had to go along with the husband to keep the peace.

@ChelseaSB

2 ай бұрын

Exactly, he sounds like he’s abusive.

@IloveJesus777j77

2 ай бұрын

​@@ChelseaSBJesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.

@alphapablo3514

2 ай бұрын

The dad is a narcissist, but it’s not uncommon for narcissists to pair up.

@therambler3055

2 ай бұрын

Sure she did 😉.

@Brainjoy01

2 ай бұрын

she sounded like delony was supposed to agree with her because shared christian values but toms pretty progressive

Honestly wouldn't be shocked if the other two daughters deep down joined the military to get away from him

@CCBBAA1

3 ай бұрын

I bet he's military and super strict.

@LSSYLondon

3 ай бұрын

100% they fled

@Ruthbaby175

3 ай бұрын

Yeah no woman ever joins the military because they love their country or want an adventure or wants to earn money for school.

@thedog5k

3 ай бұрын

Join the military where they end up rax bunnies All women are the same

@probablynot1368

3 ай бұрын

Whoa! Maybe they got full-ride college scholarships to one of the military academies. Maybe they’re following in dad’s footsteps if he’s a retired military officer.

I so agree with you Dr John, thank you so much for your wonderful advice. I wish you could have given this advice to my parents 47 years ago, when I was 15!

As a 65 yo grandma I love the advice given in this video. I was divorced when my kids were little and over the years found spending MORE time together to be the best recourse for most things ("The Proximity Principle"). All throughout high school they were both required to have Friday night dinner with me (afterward they could go off and do their thing). That consistency was the secret to raising happy well adjusted kids - we talked about everything. They understood my values and why I had them. I understood where they were coming from. As they grew punishments were appropriate (and by the time they entered high school unnecessary). My kids are in their 30s now and we still have hard conversations sometimes. They know I will always have their back (and have never questioned that). Every parent should listen to this video. Great advice Dr John!!

after school activities (school related) are teen pregnancy kryptonite. forbidding them is not a good move. sitting in the house bored all day isn't going to make someone follow rules more closely. you just find better ways to skirt around them

@carlahoag7154

3 ай бұрын

What if the boyfriend is involved in those same after school activities? Maybe the father is concerned that she's going to sneak away with the boyfriend?

@2okaycola

3 ай бұрын

​@@carlahoag7154 depends on the activity. Most of the time, there is supervision. I do understand your point tho

@samiam2088

3 ай бұрын

💯 My dad was very clear that he wanted me and my brother in after school sports because “I want you too tired to do anything other than homework and sleep when you come home.” Did entirely stop me from sex as a teenager but kept me out of the majority of trouble.

@skincareceo

3 ай бұрын

​@@carlahoag7154It's irrelevant. Studies have shown that kids with a lot of their plate have sex later.

@WouldntULikeToKnow.

3 ай бұрын

​@@carlahoag7154 if the boyfriend is at school they could sneak around at any time if they really wanted to.

they are in danger of losing their daughter. She is not a criminal or deserving of being treated like an alien. They should separate what she did from how she did it. As a human she deserves to have her door on the room and have friends outside from school.

@kylmj

3 ай бұрын

Yea they should be reflecting on their behavior as parents and what got them there.

Mom has just been sitting in the passenger's seat, being a spectator in her daughters' lives.

This is some of the best advice I have ever heard for parenting. Raising children is not about you and you need to put aside how you feel sometimes to do what is good for them.

These are the kinds of parents who are gonna call back in twenty years asking why their children don’t talk to them. Just utter lack of self awareness or the impacts their actions have on their children.

@mimimonster

3 ай бұрын

Yes! My siblings don’t talk to my dad and he is oblivious.

@hillarybillary21

3 ай бұрын

Narcissism

@excitedaboutlearning1639

3 ай бұрын

I don't believe it's narcissism. I believe it's people that follow societal scripts and scripts that they grew up with WITHOUT stopping to examine whether or not the causal relations are actually true. People grow up with beliefs such as that punishing a child will lead them to learn. (The child actually learns to fear and avoid getting caught rather than understanding the morality of their action). When a certain script is widely believed in the society, people don't even "see" the script. They don't realize that they're following a script and that there are alternatives. When you do things only based on intuition (that is the scripts you've grown up with), you may make fantastic choices if your parents were fantastic parents, but otherwise you'll probably repeat bad scripts that have been passed down for generations.

Her laughing made me so mad. I feel bad for this young lady.

@dorino9057

3 ай бұрын

She is a child if it wasn’t for her parents she would’ve become a single mother by now

@Rico401Prov

3 ай бұрын

My younger sister told my mom she was sexually active when I was a senior in high school. A year later, I joined the military and found out she was pregnant while I was in boot camp. I’ll never forget how hurt I felt because I loved my sister and wanted so much more for her life. Even though the parents here may be going about it wrong, they are trying to save her

@KarriSimone

3 ай бұрын

❤ It is a nervous laugh ❤ don't judge 😔

@michaelcoletta4547

3 ай бұрын

The girl that invited a total stranger into her parents home routinely, without their knowledge or permission?

@mwhe3111

3 ай бұрын

Yes, completely inappropriate.

Everything hes saying is spot on! This is so similar to the way i grew up and it just pushed me further and further away

This Dr. Is teaching!!! I love this channel❤

Someone once told me how they took the doors away from their rebellious daughter among other punishments. His daughter ended up a striper, at blackout parties, alcohol, sleeping around, etc... it just doesnt work.

@Batman78488

Ай бұрын

Facts what it probably is is they need a way to realise how that stuff can hurt them instead of being told what hurts them

Trouble is: dad isn't on the phone.

The recommendation from Dr. Delony is exactly what I needed when I was a pre-teen. I sure hope this family implements his counsel to draw her closer to them both!!!

Thank you for sharing, I was in a similar situation when I was 15 almost 16…currently married with two small children…almost 28 years old…I needed to hear this…I had no clue.

I was this girl, and John could not be more on point with this one. This was what my parents needed to hear. Our relationship wasn’t good to begin with, but they lost a piece of me that they will never get back when they reacted like these parents did. Their heavy-handed attempts at discipline made me more sneaky and drove me permanently away from them-what they didn’t do was change my behavior. These parents need to be very intentional about their actions.

@GAFB1122

3 ай бұрын

Seems like you aren't taking responsibility for your bad behavior. You say that your parents lost a piece of you for how they reacted, what about your bad behavior?

@alexdex9439

3 ай бұрын

@@GAFB1122 I was literally about to comment this. Spot on! No ACCOUNTABILITY whatsoever. Western civilisation is quickly losing grip of the sense of the word, especially for "protected victim groups".

@hmmm2564

3 ай бұрын

Girl, you were running fast for no reason

@johnweinhandl8890

3 ай бұрын

Panicked boomers racing to the KZread comments to shame a minor (at the time) as if kids are smart enough or mature enough to take responsibility for their actions. … genius comments from panicked boomers

@meghangantt717

3 ай бұрын

@@johnweinhandl8890 my exact thoughts lol

I was that 15 year old girl. My parents trying to cure me by going scorched earth on me made everything in my life 1000000 times worse. Thank God the next man who came into my life was my husband. He saved me… but my parents tried to destroy that relationship… not keep me from him, but try to poison him against me. God help this young girl whose parents are very misguided.

@Nan-59

2 ай бұрын

They are sooo incredibly misguided. It’s UNREAL!😢

Oh man, silent treatment is abuse. I'm a 37 year old grown man and still have residual issues from my childhood regarding yelling and silent treatment. The daughter WILL go No Contact when she's able if these people don't take Johns advice here, Today.

seeing stories like this makes me glad i have a good relationship with both of my parents

It would be nice to see a follow up video to this to see him talk to the father, or see what ended up happening through their conversations with their daughter. I hope the best for the family, John has great advice.

She's not promiscuous. She's 15. Talk her through it and talk to her. Don't draw away! She made a mistake. Help her deal with it and deal with why she felt that she needed to do that. They need to look in the mirror. It was her choice but she is a product of her environment. What isn't she getting at home?

@lucianaromulus1408

3 ай бұрын

Right ? If its just with the bf i wouldn't call that promiscuous lol

@JourneyDestination

2 ай бұрын

@@lucianaromulus1408Sicko!

@Brainjoy01

2 ай бұрын

@@lucianaromulus1408 sneaking in a boy several times to have sex right next to your parents sounds promiscuous because I love sex and was a "busy" teen but I would never sneak a boy into and bring that around family, its desperate and promiscuous

@Plantaemaven

2 ай бұрын

Also people who think 15 is too young don’t know anything about teens.

@Brainjoy01

2 ай бұрын

@@Plantaemaven spoken like a true pedophile

Some parents are just infuriatingly unaware. Now she has to explain to her friends why she’s persona non grata? So her sex life is now potentially public? Then dad withdraws love? He (dad) doesn’t deserve to have the power over the heart of a young woman. I bet he’s a proud ‘Christian’ too.

@hmmm2564

3 ай бұрын

She is 15 with a sex life

@samiam2088

3 ай бұрын

@@hmmm2564She’s about to be 16 and the age of consent, legally there won’t be a damn thing her parents can do about it.

@jessehudson1318

3 ай бұрын

@@hmmm2564 we all agree her behavior is unacceptable. That’s not the point. This kind of parenting drives kids further away. You can discipline and have standards and still show love and connection. Also - if your 15 y/o is this sexually active you’ve likely made some pretty big parenting mistakes along the way.

@woodysbarndominium

3 ай бұрын

@@jessehudson1318 👏 dead on

@brendahall5658

3 ай бұрын

Birth control is needed as the sex doesn't stop.

100% correct. Connection is integral to repair and restoration.

Hits home. So much to be learned in parenting. Parents I hope you’re listening, I am.

I don’t understand how she can even stay married to this man. He’s a child

@hillarybillary21

3 ай бұрын

She doesn’t want to be alone which trumps her children’s well being

@comment_account2343

3 ай бұрын

@@hillarybillary21 probably some sort of co-dependency. Sounds like the dad has obsessional compulsive personality disorder, usually they end up matching with another personality disorder.

@ekaski1

3 ай бұрын

Sometimes it's terrifying to think of joint custody with cases like this, because then you have no control/say with his parenting, and you can't help your child.

@outdoorluxuries2887

3 ай бұрын

Divorce over that would be selfish. No man is perfect, and his behavior is miniscule and can be corrected

@ekaski1

3 ай бұрын

@@outdoorluxuries2887 I mean, it is abuse of course. But if the husband is willing to accept that, apologize to the daughter and wife, and correct it, then ok

"Take care of my daughter because I won't do it." Wow.

@Mushroom321-

3 ай бұрын

😲👏👏👏 dang !!!

I told my kids "I'm sorry" all the time. It's a great way to get them to open up if tempers flared and reactionary decisions were made on my part. I felt it was more important for them to talk to me than be dominated by me.

It's about time we really call out all of these neglectful father figures. And talk about how the dad is just as important (and responsible) as the mom. Give your kids validation, love and deep connection cause otherwise they will seek it in all the wrong places and have to live with that shame and regret for the rest of their lives...

Dr John is 1000% correct. I stay very close to my 15 year old daughter for this exact reason. You have to spend alot of time with them and keep the lines of communication open. And you have to get ahead of it by teaching them your beliefs about it before the issue pops up. Like teaching them about the only thing that 99% of guys are interested in. And to be non judgmental whatever they tell you. And most important of all is that they are loved no matter what.

@phattjohnson

3 ай бұрын

99% of guys and like 40% of women, by today's standards. Overbearing parenting is probably why there are so many bi-curious kids these days :P

@TheSecretPassword

3 ай бұрын

@@phattjohnson nah, that’s just because men and women are both sexy.

@ellen9354

2 ай бұрын

What random stats are you both spouting out?

Mom paints herself as the hero here because she's not giving her the silent treatment, but she's gone along with the scorched earth consequences. And the giggling is...odd.

@Lemarcus03

3 ай бұрын

Well yeah but giggling can be a sign of nerves. And she is seeking help here

@texasrodeogirl3814

3 ай бұрын

She’s picked her husband over her kids.

@Lemarcus03

3 ай бұрын

@@texasrodeogirl3814 If that were true, she wouldn't be out seeking Professional advice.

@amethystfeathers7324

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely and saying her daughter is behaving in a promiscuous way is disgusting. There's more to this in regard to the Father.

@karenmonson9893

2 ай бұрын

​@@Lemarcus03I agree and hear it alot on his calls. It takes courage to call in and ask for help like this.

Thank you for your show . You give great advice .

This is something you have a heart to heart conversation about your child about.

I couldn’t listen to this whole episode . The parents make me sick. Taking her daughter’s privacy away is insane. I hope the parents aren’t surprised when she cuts them off completely for doing this.

@dorino9057

3 ай бұрын

This is the consequences for her bad behaviour. Children need discipline before it’s too late and they become a single teenage mother.

@coureenlawrence4915

3 ай бұрын

So what? She is 15, and if she wants privacy, then she can leave. Parents need to stop giving in to their children. If she wants to get pregnant at that age, then she can suffer the consequences.

@AlannahGardener

3 ай бұрын

​@coureenlawrence4915 These parents are the ones who will be confused why their kid doesn't come see them when they are adults but won't self reflect and notice how they over reacted majorly

@dorino9057

3 ай бұрын

@@AlannahGardener no this girl lied and is completely in the wrong

@AlannahGardener

3 ай бұрын

@@dorino9057 This girl is 15 and needs her parents to be there for her to show her the right path. Not to alienate her from everything in her life 👍

My father didn't speak to me for about a year when I was 14. I can't remember why. We had loads of rows and he just stopped speaking to me. I didn't realise it was cruel until now but I knew it was wrong. He was the adult.

I think it's important to remember as parents we make mistakes and we need to be honest with our kids and admit when we make mistakes and apologize. No screaming, no pouting, no judgements. They need to feel safe. I'm trying so hard to be a better parent for my daughter.

This is such a great call and well handled John. This mom and dad need to come together and do a better job. Also that dude is crazy sneaking into his girlfriends parents house when they share a hallway 💀

You can’t protect your kid from being how you were at 15 all you can do is be open and guide the choices through openness. You gave her a smart phone that amplifies everything x100 for these teenagers. Parents are so dim they don’t understand that at all

@an67481

3 ай бұрын

💯 %. And rn it’s time for remediation and close conversations

@renarich4942

3 ай бұрын

The mom seems ok just need guidance

@angelatandfam9308

2 ай бұрын

Not everyone has sex in their teen years. Some people say no and wait.

@suggestagoodnameformeplz1035

2 ай бұрын

​@@angelatandfam9308 most people I know who weren't are people who didn't have it available to them😂

Damn. So she basically has no one rn.

@zdavidzz

2 ай бұрын

Yeah and now her dumb mutha just took her story worldwide. There should seriously be an iq test for people that decide to breed.

@jasonboche

2 ай бұрын

She has her bedroom. Albeit without a door.

@bakedbrotato3556

2 ай бұрын

​@@jasonboche a bedroom isnt a person tho

This is exsctly why there should be widespread public service seminars about parenting.

I want to hold and hug this 15 years old girl. By her actions she is telling you more than she will ever be able to express herself and you are pushing her away. She needs you and your kindness more than ever. What you are doing are not consequences, these are punishments. Don’t fool yourself.

She'll never tell you anything again. Get her back to you gys as fast as you can.

@gemmeldrakes2758

3 ай бұрын

She didn't tell them she was having sex. She snuck her boyfriend into the house. She lied to her parents and disrespected them by breaking their rules. If you are seeking a good relationship with your parents, disobedience and disrespect are not the way to go about it. I always wondered at my school mates who would disobey their parents, get punished and then say their parents hated them. Umm... they broke the rules, of course their parents were upset.

@suggestagoodnameformeplz1035

2 ай бұрын

​@@gemmeldrakes2758you gotta think about it outside of this 20 minute video though. WHY do you think she felt she had to be so secretive and lie, usually falls back to the parents. When I first became sexually active I told my mum (live in a single parent household) she spoke to me calmly about it and made sure I was taking the proper precautions because people who aren't lost with their head in the sand realise if teens want sex and have someone to do it with, they'll do it, no 2 ways about it.

@gemmeldrakes2758

2 ай бұрын

@@suggestagoodnameformeplz1035 She probably lied about it because she knew her parents' position on this matter, but wanted to do it anyway. It may not be anything more complicated than that. I think people sometimes act as though children defying their parents is always a manifestation of some sort psychological issue, but I not sure that is always the case.

I thinks more telling she didn't feel safe/comfortable enough to be open with her parents

@sidni.d5989

3 ай бұрын

Bingo!

@RG-hf4et

3 ай бұрын

Baloney. What +5 year old girl is going to say my boyfriend is coming over tonight after you go to sleep so we can have sex?

@14elvira14

3 ай бұрын

Well teenagers don't just announce to parents they're having sex.. kids sneak around for less

@dakotasikes6690

3 ай бұрын

@14elvira14 yes but from how the wife is talking doesn't sound like her husband is someone you can just talk to he sounds cold

@phattjohnson

3 ай бұрын

Some things are just feel little bit taboo when you're young and you're not comfortable getting them out in the open even IF you know your parents would be cool with it.

Such a great response 👏🏼👏🏼

I agree that laying the hammer down doesn't work. I lived with my grandmother in adolescence and I kind of went down a bad path, and she just absolutely laid the hammer down, and it made me rebel even more unfortunately. Our relationship got really sour for many years. I was acting out because I was going through something emotionally that I didn't feel like I could talk about cause I feared reprimanding.

In my opinion, the consequences should be like: free babysitting for a neighbor or extended family member. Scare her straight lol

@Smith1Sim

3 ай бұрын

Right, I completely disagree with the social isolation. That is cruelty. Where was the conversation of birth control and education, and spending more time with the child to ensure you have more influence on her?

@athomewiththemrs9410

3 ай бұрын

Or better yet free mothers helper for a week to two weeks. After school you’re there until bedtime, and on the weekends you’re there all day until bedtime.

@jengoodwyn2715

3 ай бұрын

That's a really good idea.

@LSSYLondon

3 ай бұрын

And then they end up childfree and never have kids!

@AlabasterSkin

3 ай бұрын

@@LSSYLondon It's a wonderful life!

K guys, she was less than a week from being 16. Do you remember being that age? Way to make your daughter feel traumatized, dirty and terrible for her first sexual experience when it’s completely natural to want to do those things at that age. Husband being disgusted? How extreme and awful. Make her realize how it’s normal to want to do the things she’s doing, but give her the tools to navigate these things in a responsible manner.

@skincareceo

3 ай бұрын

She is a child with no capacity to care for another child. Of course, he is disgusted because sex at that age has nothing to do with love.

@hmmm2564

3 ай бұрын

It is not natural. It is disgusting at that age

@ethanlculver

3 ай бұрын

Yep. Girl is going to detest her parents forever now because of this.

@samiam2088

3 ай бұрын

⁠@@skincareceoThat’s entirely untrue, sex at this age is often connected to “first love.” Being “disgusted” with your child for a natural human desire and behavior is so far overboard. It’s one I still abstinence or waiting until marriage and giving the child tools for that course of action and quite another to shame and degrade a child for having age appropriate feelings and desires.

@reckonerwheel5336

3 ай бұрын

@@skincareceo I think you're gonna have to be real, and know that a lot of teens experiment because their hormones are all over the place and their assessment of risk isn't fully developed yet. It's completely normal to want to try things out at that age. It's tricky -- no parent wants to encourage sexual activity at that age, but they have to take the steps to provide condoms and some other type of birth control, or else risk their child getting an STI or becoming a parent. And what Dr. Delony is saying is right -- It's up to the parents to foster a good connection with their child, so they don't feel such a powerful need to find connection elsewhere, in risky ways.

Her Dad is shocked and angry but is behaving like a 15 year old himself. His silent treatment will drive his daughter straight into the boy's arms. Taking the door off just means they will find somewhere else to have sex. Communication , quality time, support and LOVE is what is required from her parents. What does Dad think silent treatment will achieve?

My mom didn’t speak to me for four months when I was 15. I’m 41 and that still hurts me. I hope the caller reads this.