That guy should be in jail.

@gaipa2006

5 жыл бұрын

Nope it's not his fault.

@sarubansukumar8307

5 жыл бұрын

@@gaipa2006 He ABUSED her. It was his fault that he wouldn't leave her alone. It's his fault she commited suicide.

@poetaetoe8833

5 жыл бұрын

Atem Yak sounds like what a abuser would say 🤔

@svckshinesunflower1959

5 жыл бұрын

@@gaipa2006 well, you are just like him. an abuser.

@sure8247

5 жыл бұрын

@@gaipa2006 IT WAS YOU EGGHEAD!!

That guy needs to rot in jail

Please bring that guy down! Chances are he will do it to another girl. 😡

@Hope-bn9xz

5 жыл бұрын

I totally agree you

Please take him to the court.

@zari2662

5 жыл бұрын

Seriously, her friends and family could take him to civil court

Some men just don't understand that women are not toys that they can play with, take apart and throw away once they have lost interest in them.

@TTTHC

5 жыл бұрын

Tell that to moose lamb men. Takbir!

@jasonbourney3869

5 жыл бұрын

Redeemed Serie A clubs had to wear lipstic in their cheeks last week to give awareness to people like you who thinks none-muslims are good to their wives... Smh

@jasonbourney3869

5 жыл бұрын

Redeemed any person that beats their wives can die in flames, and anyone who ignores it. Like you

@mynameisuju

5 жыл бұрын

@first last the difference is as women are getting more financially independent, they are able to and want to pay more for themselves. Somehow, alot of men still don't want to be different. Like ones who use abuse videos to equate domestic violence to paying for a woman

@damnmuggle

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

This could have been me. I'm glad I have strong support systems and I'm glad I was strong enough to run away that night. I'm glad I'm here. Meera's family and friends are in my thoughts.

@PHlophe

5 жыл бұрын

Putria her family wasn't there. They probably told her to put up and shush.

@Morganne

5 жыл бұрын

same here

my friend was in a toxic relationship with a gril, he changed and wasn't allowed to talk to anyone including his family. she emotionally abused to the point that they were arguing on the highway in the car and he jumped out .. he was brain dead and passed away a week later. So please when you see an emotionally abuse relationship with your friends or family, confront them and help them .

@xoticeyes

5 жыл бұрын

miss u sorry for your loss

@sheamink4085

2 жыл бұрын

🙏

@VioletMcBrideRN

2 ай бұрын

so sorry for your loss. Women are also psychological murderers. My son's wife drove her first husband and father of her children to take his life. Now she is destroying my son and he is in danger. Not allowed to talk to me, his family or friends. These predators can be female as well.

Suicide?? Or Murder made to look like suicide?!?! I hope the authorities thoroughly investigated this case to rule out murder!!!

Ladies, just put his name out there for the whole world to know. He'll get his.

I’m pissed for them. I’m pissed for Meera. They deserved better. Meera deserves better. Be there for your friends!!!

@spawnoftacobell1644

5 жыл бұрын

VNA Most people in relationships such as Meera’s are being controlled so they can’t be there for their friends because their boyfriend/girlfriend (etc) is too controlling or thretening

@yashny

5 жыл бұрын

It is also hard to contact your friends let alone telling them what's going on because the abuser will keep track of all of your communication and even isolate you from your friends.

@kso4068

5 жыл бұрын

@@yashny Yess absolutely Its very scary the control they have over their partner!

I resonate with this story so much. This was me.. I was her. I didn't see any other way of escaping him and I thought that death was my only release. I was lucky enough that my family was there at the right minute at the right time to stop me, and I was able to seek the help I needed. I am so sorry for these girls and for her family, and for Meera.

Language is important when discussing suicide. Thank you for pointing out that she died by suicide as opposed to committing suicide. The former gives respect to her choices, the latter equates it to a crime.

@eloisemarie5219

5 жыл бұрын

I'm struggling with the word -choice. I have heard the discussion around the language of "dying by vs committing" suicide and I can agree to change my language. But saying that the one gives respect to her choices??? She was in a desperate situation, pushed into a corner, and suffocating from fear. Saying that I should respect her choice to kill herself seems to miss the mark somehow.

@nameless592

5 жыл бұрын

Fucking dickhead

@jaeent6074

5 жыл бұрын

It’s illegal in America though

@sure8247

5 жыл бұрын

It IS a crime and for a Reason.

@prathiuthappa2964

5 жыл бұрын

R.I.p.. Just no words.

Who's he ? where is his photo and what's his name ? So the public know who he is

@Sarah-eb1zq

5 жыл бұрын

ikr?

@SK-hd1yk

5 жыл бұрын

Is it because she didn’t press charges on him they legally can’t put his intro or pic up?

@manuchaudhary9218

5 жыл бұрын

Yes

@gli9129

5 жыл бұрын

Ikr, we all know what victims go through. We dont know the perpetrators though, need to public shame them.

what happened to Meera nearly happened to my sister, thankfully we got her out of the toxic relationship before something bad could've happened. In a conservative culture like mine (middle east / Asian), domestic violence is almost seen as something that comes with a relationship, everyone knows its happening but no one really dares to speak one on one with the abuser. Most of the blame goes towards the women in the relationship, I hope this really changes especially now that my family is one that stood up to jerks like my brother in law

@glenncoco8840

5 жыл бұрын

I hope she is doing well. My prayers to your family.

@rosequeen2461

5 жыл бұрын

Harun Daniel no it’s not ok

@johannapriyanair1999

5 жыл бұрын

Yes this is so sad in the Indian culture this is so common it's almost like it's normal and that's why people keep quiet and still stay in this kind of relationships it's so sad

@JC-yo5tx

5 жыл бұрын

You are spot on. No one talks one on one with the abuser. Almost never. Why is that so. When it’s a married woman esp, her parents, siblings, cousins, friends can never muster enough courage to talk about abuse. It’s considered as almost normal , just please him better. RIP this woman and it’s good the friends have addressed it here.

@SA-fn7du

2 жыл бұрын

More than that…in some cultures…the abuser is respected as usual by the society and the victim of domestic violence is avoided or cornered or bullied by the society. So the victim is forced to keep quite, accept the abuse and live that hopeless life. But each and every person is meant to live a happy life.

And that kids, is called narcissistic abuse.

@yashny

5 жыл бұрын

Yes. I was with a narcissist and he was just like the guy in the video

@sonalibarhate125

5 жыл бұрын

True

I was abused when I was younger by a boyfriend, it wasn't physical but I remember the mind games being eerily similar to what these girls described. When you're with someone whos that controlling you start to believe that they will find out if you speak out, my ex had my passwords to all my social media, my phone, you name it and he was there. His reasoning was always "if you've got nothing to hide why should it be a problem" I still to this day feel that eerie feeling in the back of my mind when I talk about him. Like he's going to be so angry with me, hes going to see this, I think thats also why she told on her friend. Because he would probably not hurt her friend but he will most certainly hurt her. Also how they described that he made her believe things is also just very typical (in my experience, I am ofc not a medical pro), I know that feeling too. You no longer believe in your own mind because if you listen to yourself he will be mad, you will only be safe if you do exactly what he tells you. The level of control he needs over you makes you not want to go out because then you KNOW he will be mad. It is easier to comply, if you ever do get away you don't get away from the power he holds over your mind. I can't speak for all abused women, but for me it was never that I actually wanted to stay, whenever I felt a moment of freedom from him and was certain he wouldn't hear me I wouldn't think twice about sharing how much I despised him. I stayed because he gaslighted me (made me think I was mentally ill) to the point where he would manipulate me into thinking I made all of the abuse up in my mind and that he was actually just so nice and I was the poisonous one, but he loved me nonetheless because he was just so selfless. It sounds almost impossible if you haven't felt it yourself, but it is truly brainwashing, like a parasite taking over your body and theres no escape. Its mindcontrol, I have PTSD from it, it changes you as a person when you're in it, your whole life suddenly revolves around your abuser and making sure he doesn't have reason to harm you. But then again, even if you don't give a reason, he will find a reason, it is a miserable existence.

@JB-le9cd

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for explianing this, I am currently in the process of leaving my partner. I have been in a state of confusion for so long because he gas lit me and blamed everything on me and truly made me fear my mental health, I was so confused I would constantly break down and not know why. He would have moments of niceness contrast against the nasty which made me constantly confused. The film Colossal was also helpfull in showing how abusers don't just fit this all the time bad villain stereotype so helped me also recognise what was happening. PTSD is also commonly associated with a single event (like war) but the reality and majority of sufferers are those who had a serious of small abusive encounters which cut away at them and causes sustained trauma.

@pennyt2777

5 жыл бұрын

J B I wish you good luck and a life free from his poison, you deserve better and you’re not making it up in your mind. I believe in you, stay safe.

@sonalibarhate125

5 жыл бұрын

@@JB-le9cd I'm in a same situation at present.... Its too painful 😞

@sonalibarhate125

5 жыл бұрын

@@pennyt2777 thanks...God bless you... Thanks all those parents & family members who stood with their daughters and protected them from such narcissistic people

@JB-le9cd

5 жыл бұрын

@@pennyt2777 thank you for your support xxx

This tragic issue is all too common. Thank you to Meera's friends for speaking on this. It is really important to have conversations about this and to protect one another. RIP Meera

Thank you for this video... I hope it reaches out to all of us women abused or not.... it is epidemic

I’m so sorry for losing your friend

Yikes...he is gonna do that to another woman

This is so sad. What’s disgusting is that this isn’t an outlier story, I’ve definitely heard similar before.

He sucked the life out of her. God bless her soul. There are many people like him in the world who want to slowly destroy others and we all need to avoid those people as much as we can. They are murderers indirectly. God bless her beautiful soul.

Please prosecute this guy, for the sake of your friend!

Thank you for sharing a story that is related to mental health and discusses suicide. I also appreciate the sensitive language in the video as it further reduces the stigma surrounded suicide which is vastly important for suicide prevention! I hope Meera is resting in peace.

I hope this group can heal and I really really hope they don’t feel any guilt because it was out of their hands. I still feel guilty for leaving an abusive boyfriend because he made me believe it was my responsibility to keep him alive while he was harming me. All of my friends told me to get out but they didn’t understand why I couldn’t.

My old best friend is in this same situation, she keeps pushing me away, has even said some really hurtful things because of her boyfriend! I’m praying she’s okay

@canovwrms2684

5 жыл бұрын

Try to visit physically to ..so she has visual proof u care ...praying only goes so far ...meera's friends regretted not putting more effort into contact with her

@canovwrms2684

5 жыл бұрын

My friend almost died at hands of her boyfriend...she said of All that happened she knew I was her friend cause I didn't give up

@KushQueen9

5 жыл бұрын

Please check up on her. These manipulative individuals aim to isolate their victim. Don't let him succeed.

I hope she receives peace in janaat (I know they are not muslim, janaat is heaven) And may her family and friends be blessed with sabaar. This is truly heartbreaking... poor young lady. I hope there's a lesson we can learn from this unjustified passing.... Speak up and report abuse. One life is lost and hundreds are left with the pain. To meeras family. “Unki Aatma ko Param Gati mile'

@emaan7023

5 жыл бұрын

ameen

Sometimes I hear females talk about their new partner with comments about how they always want to know what they're doing or who they're with. They laugh about it. I'm always the first female to step in and highlight the fact it seems rather controlling. Afterall, why do you need to keep tabs on another adult or ask them to check in every 30 minutes?

Is it just me or is this a common theme with Desi guys?

@joel9137

5 жыл бұрын

Ffs where does it say that its a desi guy?

@aymannf7193

5 жыл бұрын

Your right

@veronica-

5 жыл бұрын

@@ANKET47 This video wasn't about a school shooting.

@nameless592

5 жыл бұрын

Nope their are dickheads in every culture. Ever heard of a Yoruba demon. Exactly lol 😭

@awesomeirlable

5 жыл бұрын

nvm nvm Ok but I’d rather be cheated on than abused

Awwww my heart hurts for her family and these girls. Obviously you get mad at the boyfriend but my heart can’t stop hurting for her family. People will never understand abuse until they experience it. Awwww bless

This is unfortunately not an isolated story

Good for her. I know what it's like to be abused since I was a baby until now 31 and be desperate for the right help and not get it. It comforts me to know someone is strong enough to end the suffering.

I think meera never spoke about her relationship bc she was too scared of the consequences and/or was trying to protect her loved ones. Plse don’t feel that you have to do everything by yourself and/or put sole blame on yourself bc he was the one who deceived you, not bc u were too blind/stupid to notice his abuse. Strength in numbers will defeat him in the end. He also must’ve had compromising info on her bc she went to the police only when she had signs of physical abuse. Who knows what else he might’ve had on his hands?

I spent years hiding this kind of toxic relationship until I couldn’t no more. These guys crush every bit of your self esteem but you should find strength to stop it and end it. I am now married to a wonderful man and I am grateful to God for the life I have! I don’t comment much on youtube but this topic breaks my heart!

I think it is great that you guys were able to come forward with this story and be open about it!

this is real, it happens, and thank you for the awareness.

This information is so important for people to hear. Especially from the perspective of a victim's friends. Abusive relationships are like drug addiction and cults. Just as isolating, painful, complicated, and deadly.

this is awful

This is so sad. RIP Meera. Your friends are brave to speak out on this

Where do you find friends like this? I was physically abused by my birth mother as a child, and no one stood by me. I wanted to talk about it, ask people to help me, and everyone ignored me. Even some college friends now don’t want to talk about it, and “just be happy.”

I’m so sorry for their loss , prayers.

The exact same thing (Sweettalker, cut her off friends, would keep track of her on phone, obsessive control, jealous, suspicious, gaslighting) happened to my sister and friend. It is scary how the behavior is this textbook but we aren't taught how to deal with people like this in school. My friend died at 34. But the woman said when someone asks what happened to her, there is always a piece missing in the answer. Cops say they can't prove anything. So here we are. I miss her so much and feel so bad about not being able to do something about what she was going through (secretly) and not so secretly. We all thought he would hit her one more time and she would break up. :,( Thank you to Meera's friend for making a video about it and bringing this up for public discussion. If we share stories, I think we can identify signs of these progressions in other relationships and warn them and be there for them even when they move away or are pulled away.

@redwoods7370

5 жыл бұрын

God bless your sister.

Please reveal his identity before someone else become victim

The (distinctive) *behavioural patterns* of the *personality disordered* (all *abusers)* must become *criminalised* because *they will not stop themselves* or *seek continual, long-term therapeutic help* on their own. They *KNOW the life-long damage* they're executing on their *victims* before they reach their teen years. They are self-servingly controlling, even if seemingly sweet, kind, gentle and easy-going, and make notoriously bad decisions that are dangerous and in some way or other *damaging* for all in their life, (not only their *specific targeted victims.* They should *never* have access to those who are in ANY WAY *vulnerable. OUT THEM, protect all others!*

This is so horrible that people have to go through this😫😫😭😭😢😢

Get that bastard and charged him! Don't let him off the hook! He will do the same thing to another woman and it will be just as tragic.

What a controlling guy 😨

This is truly heartbreaking. Nobody deserves to go through that.

Oh my goodness. If I had a friend that was going through this idk what I might do honestly, I'd just remind her that if she ever needs anything that I'm here and remind her that she's perfect the way she is. But alas I know that kind of support only goes so far when someone is in an abusive relationship, and I'm scared to go after the bf because he might come after me! And it's hard to go to the police if I don't have any evidence of physical abuse. Even then it's her decision to press charges. If you have any advice or have gotten out or helped someone get out of an abuse relationship please comment below. I never want someone I know to go through this knowing that somehow I could've stopped it.

This triggered so many emotions. The first guy I dated from 16 to 20 was an absolute psychopath who continued to ruin my life even after we broke up, I had to leave uni and it only ended after he got a scholarship to a different country entirely. Aside from feeling like I broke my life just when it started, that psychological damage he caused felt irreversible and it took so much time and love to heal and thank god for my family and friends and therapists. Even after many years it still haunts me and the trust I have in men is definitely affected by it. On a professional note it took me a few years to really catch up to where I wanted to be but I managed it. Be strong ladies, listen to your instincts and please don't wait too long to get help and if you see that your friend might be in an abusive relationship then please insist they get help. I'm so sorry for Meera and her family and friends for their loss, RIP sweetpea 💛

Absolutely heart breaking 😥 xxx

For all women, guys too weak in front of you that's why we show our physical power to hide it. keep struggle, tell anything for your family and friend just stand up and face bad guys.

I was in the same situation with my ex, I’m glad I left but the pain is there I’ve tried to commit suicide myself and it hurts to know that this happens to a lot of us. Please talk if you went or going through a abusive relationship. Just because we escaped doesn’t mean he aren’t in pain don’t judge just sit down and listen because you might be the person that can help out before some thing else happens.

Poor girl. Sad IT'S common too. Bless them.

This is so sad

Ladies, repeat after me "Never let your partner control you and dominate you."

This is why I'm afraid of a relationship going bad even though I know what to look for and I know there are genuinely good guys out there. Being in Meera's situation is my worst nightmare and I hope I'll never have to experience it. The guy's name should absolutely be revealed so he'll be shamed forever for what he did to her.

I was on the verge of tears for half the video but the thing that broke me was the photo of her at the end of the video... She looked so happy and young and free and it just broke me to know that she had to deal with what she did that lead her to her tragic end. Whoever that man was should face justice for what he did to ruin such a beautiful life.

My heart goes to each member of Meera’s family, and friends. Thank you for sharing this video, opening the viewers eyes on domestic violence. Live single, if you have too, life is very precious such as Meera’s. #Stop abusing women.

obviously not great enough circle of friends if she couldnt discuss her problems with them!

It made me cry...

I've never been In a relationship but my fear is that when I'm married to the person I "loved" and suddenly I see a monster instead.

Wow - what a sad story.

That poor girl she was so beautiful . 😭

sad 💔

anyone suffering with self harm or suicidal thoughts just know you're worth more than negative emotions consume your life and happiness please seek help and God Bless

i too had an abusive boyfriend who use to control over me but through my friends i could leave him and take a break.

Rip Meera I hope people have found the monster that harassed her

I understand and it hurts. You never know what someone is going through.

*how fast does a soul travel? can I get to her in time to tell her she wasn't alone before it gets to this point? how I wish we could turn back time for this very reason, she didn't have to go, there was hope but she felt hopeless. that's the power of manipulation and brainwash, I hope that no one else has to suffer at the hand of that putrid being and that justice meets him in his darkest hour.*

I know someone who'd love to meet him .. I can guarantee he'd never be heard from or seen ever again..!

I plan to end my life as a way out of an abusive relationship. I don't see any other options.

unfortunate awfulness with what occurred, but this video is a great demonstration of the power of friendships. We should all feel empowered to trust our our friends and loved ones with the truth.

So sad and I hope her friends aren’t blaming themselves.

i couldn't help but to be brought to tears while watching this video. i was in a toxic/mentally abusive relationship with a guy i met at a shisha bar last febuary, i myself was like Meera, miskeen, kind-hearted, and easily vulnerable to wolves out there. he took advantage of me, used me for my money, would make comments about my physical appearance, downplay and bash me infront of his friends... would threaten to hit me at times, and emotionally and mentally manipulate me into thinking that i was wrong. that i was crazy. i feel for this girl, i know her pain. God bless her, rest in peace angel

@glenncoco8840

5 жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing okay now. Thankfully you could escape the toxicity. It's very sad that so many people fail to do that and succumb to the abuse. I lost a distant relative last year who was strangled to death by her husband but he didn't serve any sentence because he was too rich and powerful and bought his way out of the case. It's disgusting to even think that he roams freely today,

@dottedlines

5 жыл бұрын

Don't date people you meet at shady places like bars and strip clubs.

I wish I have friends like hers ...I have no one to share what im going through 😥

I don't get it .She had a very good support from family and friends and yet she turned around and hurt the ones she loved but yeah the guy needs to be in jail.

I have lived this life the panic the control and accusations it’s emotional abuse run away from such men

RIP MEERA

She was lucky to have such loving n understanding friends

It's too bad that her friends were not close enough to share boyfriend problems with each other.

This is how my mother died, she was too loving. She saw the good in everyone, my father was so controlling, as a kid I didn't know, but she wasn't allowed to see her family, when she was a warm family person. He put her through so much mental abuse, she didn't leave him for us, her daughters. She died on night, suddenly, within a day, a stroke.

My husband constantly abuse me mentally and emotionally I have a 13 months old boy and whenever I feel like ending it all by suicide it makes me think about my kid... Till today before watching this video I don't know what to do? But I think now it's high tme I open up to my dear ones because as one of her friends said life is not perfect for anyone... Thanks broadly.... I am so grateful to you...

@imnasenlalemdor5635

5 жыл бұрын

your friends, family will be there for you. Please approach organizations that support women's rights. there's always people who are ready to help, you just have to be brave enough to step up and open up to them. all the best.

@KushQueen9

5 жыл бұрын

Anuradha do not give up. I'm here to talk. God loves you and you need to get out of that situation.

@flow1465

5 жыл бұрын

You better take action about it. He's not going to be good for your kid either as he will see this, her mother being abused by his father and maybe in future he will turn out to be a narcissistic or abusive person like his father. Take action for yourself and for your kid. I know in India these things are repressed a lot (a change is indeed happening but it's slow).

They knew all this yet they couldn't give her the courage and the talk she needed? I think everyone failed her, including herself.

I've heard this exact thing before, He's a narcissist and she was his narcissistic supply. He fed on her until there was nothing left

Watching videos like this makes me grateful that I'm single.

So sad really. Did not have to b this way. So very very sad!!

The thing about this though is that i don't have friends. I'm dealing with this alone.

What should one do when a guy (like described in the video) is too possessive to let go of you when you want to break up with him?

@miras.586

5 жыл бұрын

Call police

@Tera-cg6pm

5 жыл бұрын

I had my dad come over when my ex was out of the house. We packed all of my stuff and went to leave... Ex showed up angry but my dad was there to protect me. When he started yelling I called the cops to watch while I moved everything into the car. Cut off all contact and a few months later he was arrested for beating up his new girlfriend.

At the first he started showing his true side daring leave him he is not the ☝🏻 one he will never going to change you are more important than him in your life she was beautiful had great loving friends

My brother told that me that my friend was being abused and she showed him that her parents were giving her weight loss pills and I felt bad

They should let everyone know who that guy was so no one else suffers.

rip meera

The biggest lie we tell ourselves is that "no one will understand what I'm going through", truth is, there's always someone going through a similar situation and you can and should always ask for help, Meerah didn't have to die 😪

Never trust anyone who is good with words or have a seemingly charming facade-

You couldn't save her.

For educational purposes only, as these women are all clearly lovely people. Look at the perspective difference between some of them. Some of them are asking "what could I have done differently?" others are stating "what she could have done differently". I know which perspective is the change that is much needed right now.

why they didn't show up the bastard who caused her to do suicide. He is still free out there and he might be get another woman to be tortured.

This is really sad bec this gal lost her life for her love ... no one in her shoe to feel the pain and hurt she have gone through .. Not easy to escape such brutal mental torture ...we may think why she didn’t leave him ... when you fear for your love ones lives it’s hard to take that step.... suicide is the painful and devastating to everyone who love that person to died from suicide .. ending of A beautiful soul bec of some arsehole .. Hope that guys is serving time and pray that he rot in hell ...

Abuser never stop abusing . It only gets worse never better . Anyone out there if you experience abuse from an intimate partner Call the cops immediately . Abusers DO NOT CARE about you.