J Mills the hair is supperrr cute 🥰

Thank you ladies for addressing this... I have had the same conversation with my wife. I told her how I felt when I was a young child & I was approached by men as though I was an adult. I clearly looked like a child, even though I developed early. Many times, I was fully covered, but it didn’t matter. My wife, on the other hand, is judged based on her masculine presenting clothes. Many times I have watched her go into a store to be followed by people who stare at her or literally point & laugh at her. Bottom line is we, as women, are constantly being judged on what we wear and don’t wear & for some reason, people feel entitled to comment on our dressing- either positively or negatively. Not only is it insulting and unfair, but it makes some of us question ourselves on what others may think or perceived about us.

Whew! Jamillah boo you brought it home when you said how a woman dresses doesn’t depict that they are offering a service‼️ 🙌🏾

This is why I love these sit down videos!!! Amen Jamilla!!!! I totally agree with y'all.....I agree with dressing to be comfortable.

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

We love taking it to the table! So glad you like it! Thank you ❤️

No lie! I’ve been watching you guys for years and I think this is the most important issue brought to light!

*7:50 Come on Pastor Mills you better bless somebody tonight 🙌🏽🙌🏽

Some of us, as women , have not been taught correctly, but Respect is respect. And your body should be respected. Cover up or not it's yours.

Unbelievable that this women had this opinion and kudos to this young man for checking her!! 👏🏾

As a boy mom I definitely teach them to respect women. And they are only two and four.. my boys will respect ALL people. I love this channel I love how real you guys are! Much respect and luv!!

Agree with you all wholeheartedly.

I agree with you 100%. Also as a curvy woman I wear things that just fit .not tight..not big because either way this body poking through. Far as what the woman said, it was very triggering, and I do wonder what brought her to that point

I totally agree cousins!!! But I also think we have to be aware of the double standard and not put ourselves in danger or know the type of comments that will come if dressed a certain way… BUT I do think we have to educate men and women and the topic at a young age. It takes all of us!!! It was surprising a woman saying that though and then the brothers speaking out!! That’s what we need!

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

I think if you teach people respect of others’ bodies, it won’t matter what you wear. Because I am curvy, a suit can look different on me than someone who is not curvy at all. I had no hand in that and have no control over it. I think it’s just another way to control women’s bodies

@mekamc9591

3 жыл бұрын

@@JamillaandQue I absolutely agree cause I am curvy as well… I just see both perspectives. I know I’m curvy so I know when I wear certain things I may get comments and I have to prepare for that… I also think we have to teach respect cause I shouldn’t have to worry about comments or getting hurt for wearing certain things.

Love ya Jamilla! 😘

Wholeheartedly agreed with you both. I have a Daughter and even though I encourage her to dress however she feels comfortable , the real deal is that the wider world won’t see her as a teen dressing however she wants, it will attract comments and grabs. So I always remind her that she has to be ready to unfortunately deal with the negative comments that will come. She has had to run away from a stranger whilst walking by the park for heavens sake!! Keep doing these vids Ladies, we need more enlightened convo🤗🤗

Great conversation! You should do more reaction videos!❤️❤️

This also perpetuates that when our black boys wear hoodies and are walking around at night, should be addressed as dangerous people or criminals.

So very true.people need to stop judging how someone looks, what they're wearing and look at whats in the ❤

Yeah when I heard that it was super crazy to me. She should be treated with respect at all times. Anybody should. Period.

Great conversation. I agree 100% with you ladies.

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kecia!!

Whew Chile the ghetto 🤦🏽‍♀️ she speaks for herself only..... it’s the Che’ Che’ for us 🥰

As black people esp women, we have stop buying into the ideal that we have to abide by the rules of the world that keep changing to keep us from the reaching what the others tell us is the end goal.

Great discussion and points

I agree !!!! we always treat girls as though they must act, dress, walk etc a certain way. We all as a SOCIETY to learn to teach our Boys to respect women. Men must learn to keep, their, comments, hands, to them selves

Amen to Jamilla! Love that!

I agree with you, the lady in the video was comparing apples and oranges. I also feel like we can wear what we please however, imo there is a level attention one seeks with some of the clothes. For example "club clothes" but men overdo it big time. What do you think?

See I'm glad y'all touched on this topic. Especially black women speaking on it because no lie I felt the most disrespect from women. My Aunts judging me because I have also always been curvy. Women outside saying shit because they are insecure etc. So I do believe it is all of our responsibility to check the people who do this and educate them.

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely think you have to educate in spaces where you feel space! Definitely!

But if the house is not for sale then don't put the for sale sign on it. You guys are correct in what you are saying but the reality is the way you dress does speak for how you see yourself or how you respect yourself.

Educate with respect, educate with love,, educate with out bias period

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!! Yes!!

Whew this one is hard for me, because as a person who was violated and I was wearing “appropriate” clothing I just don’t get it. Address people with respect period no matter what they have on. I hate that thought process of if you just provocative you asked for whatever treatment you get. I have two sons and I teach them to treat people with respect. I really loved that you all covered this topic. I can relate a lot to what you all said in this video, I love the content.

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dyshema for sharing your story. It makes me sick to my stomach to think anyone has to go through that. Thank you for being the change you want in the world by raising amazing sons! Many blessings to your family.

Whew! The fact this is still a topic of discussion... like srsly. What we choose to wear and/or do doesn’t define who we are.

Great video!!

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

This was a great topic.

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

❤️❤️❤️

Hey Jamilla & Que! I really love your videos! Recently I found a website that sells iPhone cases. The products are sooo beautiful, I want to send them to you. But unfortunately, I have no idea with your phone model. So plz tell me that, and I will pick some cases for you.

I think 🤔 women should 👗 the way they feel comfortable , they should not be judged by the way they dress,

I teach my grandson no means no..but on the other hand I tell my granddaughter you can wear what you want but there maybe consequences, because everybody don’t have self control so you got to be able to handle whatever.. it’s like driving a car you drive your car but you have to drive for everybody around you also to be safe.. but yes you should be able to wear what you want go where you want and be comfortable and safe but at this time in the world we live in it’s just not like that sad but true

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

And honestly you can wear anything and be disrespected. It’s just so sad.

i got a whole drink poured on me by a dude bc i pulled MY arm away from his grip

I agree what a grown women wears is their choice no judgement masculine or feminine, tight or loose! But what I don’t like to see is young children in inappropriate clothes for their age!

This is why sit down videos are important. Regardless, what I wear has no effect of the amount of respect I should receive! I really can’t believe a woman made that comment. But I’m with Jamilla; what has she gone through to make her have that opinion 🤔

Hey Cousins. 💥

"Dress how you want to be addressed"- I dress masculine cause I hate makeup and dresses. I am still a woman and bisexual but I am not a man and don't want to be one

Yeah, ol girl was on that bullshit.

🤣🤣

I’m NOT shocked a woman said that. My grandmother was the one who gave me the issues I have around my body. Because unfortunately she thought if she covered me or tried to hide how curvy I was at a young age that she could protect me from sexual predators. So as I grew up they was I internalized it was “if you dress this was your beckoning the male gaze/sexual attention”. It wasn’t until college that I was educated and my views changed to understand no matter what I have on it isn’t an excuse for inappropriate, unwanted malefuckery. So this woman unfortunately is still functioning on that mindset that what you wear has something to do with the sexual harassment.

Was Jamilla in Between Women?? Cause I swear I’ve seen her before lol

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I was ❤️

@DiamondTierra

3 жыл бұрын

@@JamillaandQue I knew I recognized you from somewhere lol. You have a beautiful family, I’ll definitely be subscribing & tuning in for more videos ❤️

We have to do Better💯💯

Hey Cousins!! I don’t think you should be address how you dress .. I agree everyone should be addressed respectfully. Women should be able to dress sexy , masculine, professional, or feminine that’s crazy ... if my shorts are short do not touch me unless I approve PERIOD !!!

I’m being slow, I thought the title meant y’all were going to react to the first video y’all did on KZread! 🤦🏾‍♀️😂 But as for the topic, I think women have been programmed to Shame other women and we need to change that for the next generation.

This was a great topic, and this is so true !!! We have to do better .

This subject is challenging because I understand, what the young lady was saying, but I also understand what you guys say. So I’m a little torn. When it comes to the way that Que dresses is classy. She doesn’t dress provocatively. I pray I don’t offend anyone.

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

I really think society polices woman way too much. There have been so many instances of women getting disrespected while fully covered. The root cause is that women are still seen as property. As less than a man. Clothing honestly has nothing to do with treatment. If you go into communities/cultures/countries where women are fully covered when they leave their homes, there are still high levels of violence against women.

@11226keena

3 жыл бұрын

What do you understand about that? Why does it matter to you?

We say this to our girls because so much of society does not conform to basic common sense! This world is definitely upsidedown and we need to do better, teach better and stop being so closed minded. #respect........ However..... Most likely if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck then guess what 🤔.... On the other hand each situation should be treated differently. Que you dress masculine but nothing about how you move says that you want to be treated like a man. Some women look masculine dress masculine and move masculine, therefore I would treat them in that way. Bottom line is I'm going to mind my damned business, if we make eye contact I will say hello and keep it moving... 😂

I’m late but I have thoughts. I remember seeing that clip and sending the lady a mean side eye cause while she has the right to her opinion, she’s spuing this asinine idea that women have to be on some respectability mess in order to be seen, heard and validated. This whole ratchet vs respectful thing does nothing but harm and further divide women. It was very disappointing to see a woman uphold and defend patriarchy. Women already have to fight to dismantle bigotry but when a woman participates in it it hits different.🤷🏾‍♀️

What does a virtuous woman look like????? Hell, in this world you almost have to be covered to earn respect. Can't just be yourself without being judged. Someone will find fault and your flaws in everything and everyone. Just focus on copyright being YOU. And let God are the most high judge us.

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

It’s just such a shame how many perimeters we put around women!

COUSINS!!!!!!!!!

@JamillaandQue

3 жыл бұрын

Heyyyyy

That is so true I totally agree with you both my job looked at me crossed eyed because my body is curvy I have breast and a big rump I had to tell them you all are mad because your body isn’t gorgeous & curvy like my body is and I would wear professional alphits is just the way God made me period not my insecurities it’s there’s period!!!

You should carry yourself as a woman or how you want to be addressed. Don't get me wrong, check out the church......how would you dress there?. Some clothes are not made for ever spot... I am a woman, daughter, mother, sister, niece, cousin. And I carry myself as a lady, but I've got a backside that gets lots of attention. J'mill. I correct all day long. Why? Bc I want what I want. RESPECT, if you don't do it nobody else will. A man will be a man, just piss me off, bc I respect you , respect me. And if you don't I call you out.