Kudos to her for walking backwards and not falling over.

@jehdbrbjeirodofjdjebeebbsnaka

Ай бұрын

the whole video was filmed in reverse

@EnneaIsInterested

Ай бұрын

Walking backwards is so healthy!

@toppersundquist

Ай бұрын

@@jehdbrbjeirodofjdjebeebbsnaka David Lynch directed it.

@harrylane4

Ай бұрын

phone is taped to the back of her head

@Olliethemiscellaneousbird

Ай бұрын

@@jehdbrbjeirodofjdjebeebbsnakathat’s not even hard to believe bc I feel like that’s something he’d do just to troll us

this feels like your dad taking you for a walk and talk because you said something he didn't vibe with

@nuxanderen7245

Ай бұрын

I want to be that kind of dad one day.

@nicholaswoollhead6830

Ай бұрын

The shorts is the only thing throwing me off in that case but otherwise 100%

@Withing_

Ай бұрын

For me it feels like my dad talking to me about how other people act, and getting upset at me like I'm the one who acts that way lol

@nycbearff

20 күн бұрын

My own dad would have benefited greatly from getting a talking to like this one.

I stopped commenting on changes in physique when I complimented a friend on slimming down only to find out it was bc they were obsessively running to keep their depression at bay

@erzsebetkovacs2527

Ай бұрын

I had a friend like that. It is true, though, that part of the root cause of their depression was body dysmorphia, a firm conviction that they were just plain ugly and not performing their gender the way they wanted to.

@angrypotato_fz

Ай бұрын

So by doing that you provided them an opportunity to open themselves and tell you about their depression, to which you could respond with some comfort and understanding. Being on this depressed side, I think it's much better than just ignoring them or staying at small talk.

@crystallinecrisis3901

Ай бұрын

@@angrypotato_fz That’s assuming 1. We hadn’t previously discussed both their mental health and my own and 2. They wanted it brought up at the time it was. Neither of which are true.

@blarghblargh

Ай бұрын

@@crystallinecrisis3901 in case you need to hear it, now you know, and you know what not to do. which is the best that we can ask going forward.

@WhichDoctor1

Ай бұрын

a few years ago i started losing a significant amount of weight quite suddenly. The reason for that was because i had found myself in a profoundly abusive relationship and even though i was still eating normally, my body reacted to the 24/7 crippling anxiety by spontaneously losing weight. It was by no stretch of the imagination a good thing, or even something i wanted. Being complimented on it was weird. Although the complements did turn more towards concern after i fell below 60kg and started looking legitimately ill

I have severe fistulizing Crohn's disease. When I'm skinny I'm sick, when I'm fat I'm doing well. People are so weirded out when I declare with joy, "I'm fat and energetic!". I would be delighted to be slender and healthy but I've been dangerously and terrifyingly underweight for years and I'm convinced I'd be dead if I hadn't had resources to spare when I needed them. I suspect my body thinks so too. Exercise is so good for me, thinking about what my body can DO instead of what it looks like is mentally more nourishing. And right now it's capable of digestion! Not elegance. BFD. (Great video. Thanks)

@sinexus

Ай бұрын

I've got Crohn's disease too, and the things people say can be so baffling at times. Back in 2021, when my condition was at its worst, I lost around 15-20kg within just a few months. I couldn't eat anything without feeling like my entire digestive system was being purged immediately afterwards. I looked like a skeleton. As someone who had always been a fairly stocky guy throughout my teens and adult life, never tall but quite bulky, this rapid weight loss took a significant toll on me. What really confused (and hurt) me the most was my extended family's reaction - they praised me for my appearance. I couldn't wrap my head around why they would look at a visibly ill 17 year old, knowing full well about my condition, and tell me I looked better than ever. The same people would then go on to suggest that exercise and cutting out junk food would "cure" my Crohn's. It was so incredibly insensitive. Fast forward to now, I'm doing much better. Even though I'm in the "fat and healthy" phase, I've never been happier with my body. I'm the strongest and most capable I've ever been. Thank you for sharing your experience; it made me feel so much more understood. I hope you're doing well!

@connorking984

Ай бұрын

​@@sinexusdisease sucks and it's hard for er... non-wisened... people to understand that there's a context to weight. That and the fact that fat and muscle have been signs of health for as long as humans have had such concepts. To have fat is to have security, energy, safety, ect. Of course being lean is good for many things but surviving until tomorrow when that is not guaranteed is not usually one of them. All of that being said I am very ignorant on Crohns. Hope you're well homie

"I'd rather fix what's in my head than fix what's on me" I am on the skinnier side, 183 cm/65 kg or around 6'0"/130 lbs. I used to hate my looks so much I wore hoodies in the middle of summer to make sure I never showed my skinny arms and drowned in sweat as a result of that. I remember deciding to go to the gym and trying to gain some weight, watching the calories, drinking protein shakes etc. I started at 61 kg and got up to 65 kg in a month, there was a visible improvement in both my muscle volume and the weights I could carry. But I felt I was looking worse than before. Then I gradually stopped going there because university work was killing me and I stopped having any motivation whatsoever. Then I went to therapy. And I got meds. Do I like the way that I look? No, but I don't feel disgusting anymore when I look at the mirror. And there are certainly people who are way more into that skinny look than me. Do I look better than I did when I was actively exercising? Definitely not, but probably not much worse since I took a gap year and I'm working a physical job rn Will I go back to the gym to get jacked? Maybe in the future, when (if?) I go back to uni and have more time and have the right frame of mind. My point is, a ton of people treat gym and fitness like a band-aid for their deep-rooted problems. And I did that as well. It made me so frustrated when the progress I was making at the gym didn't correlate with my mental well-being. And the message "fix what's in your head before you fix what's on you" is, in my opinion, a very important one. Life got so much better since I did that, I can't even explain it Everyone should be able to be at least comfortable in their own skin. Also, if someone looks like trash to you, they say one man's trash is another man's treasure. Thank you for this video, Adam. I think it sends a very important message.

@mrcr33py

Ай бұрын

You poor soul I just melted into lava hearing your struggle and I can barely stay solid at room temperature.......

@d112cons

Ай бұрын

Extremely valid and important to say. There's a whole lot of (REALLY good things) you could do for yourself that might turn self-destructive if you're doing them for the wrong reasons. There's a whole lot of people who do what seems like the healthy things, but for extremely harmful reasons. Get your mind right any time you're looking to get your body and health improved. Important note: If you get your head to a healthy place, your body will generally follow suit. Mandatory to work on the mind. There's plenty of horrifying examples (numerous celebrities come to mind) of people who seem to have *everything* in order, yet they're still so miserable they elect an early exit from existence. Or to poorly paraphrase the words of George Clinton: "free your mind - your ass will follow!"

@okami_6

Ай бұрын

As someone who’s also been struggling on the leaner end (125 pounds/57kg at 6’1/1.85m!) I feel you. People telling me that I should “eat more” (I eat a lot, I have a very fast metabolism) or that I should “workout”(I have been fit for most of my teenage life up until the pandemic, I’m 18 now and my body has had the same figure and weight) gets exhausting mentally. Thankfully despite this I’ve never had any dysphoria surrounding my current weight, but the comments do hurt overtime. Similarly to you, I have started going to the gym to get fit again. People keep asking me if I plan on bulking or ‘getting jacked’ but no, I too also get dysphoria if I look ‘jacked.’ I simply just want to be fit and have tone in my muscles. I’m glad I am content with how I look right now, and although the constant comments about my body don’t help, I’m glad I’m not as bothered as much as I could be by them.

@KaufDirGeld

Ай бұрын

Going to the gym is way less risky then taking meds. I would always go that route again first. Those meds can fuck you up in ways you wouldnt believe.

@KJ4EZJ

Ай бұрын

@@KaufDirGeld I, respectfully, think this... > Going to the gym is way less risky then taking meds. I would always go that route again first. Those meds can fuck you up in ways you wouldnt believe. ...is the exact kind of Internet comment that Adam's video is speaking to, and I say that as someone who agrees with the general spirit of your comment when taken outside the context of Adam's video and this thread. OP shared that medication worked for them, it just doesn't need to be said. It would be much better to volunteer personal experience using "I" statements instead of "you" statements. For example, I saw how SSRIs negatively affected my family and friends so, when I eventually went to therapy for depression, I shared what I had seen and explained that I do not want medication, I want to explore all other available treatment routes and will only consider medication as a last resort. My psychologist explained it to me like this. Climbing out of a hole you've found yourself in is hard, the walls are steep and you are fighting an uphill battle. It requires putting the work in on a healthy diet, exercise, and therapy no matter what. Medication is not a solution in and of itself, it is just a tool that one can use to put the thumb on the scale and tilt the playing field somewhat more to your own advantage while you put the work in on those other things and get past the steepest part of that hill you have to climb. We worked together and I found a drug (lamotrigine) that is not in the SSRI class and does not have any of the risks I was concerned about associated with it, such as weight gain. I was willing to try, and it did make it somewhat easier for me to put in that work and climb that hill. When I was feeling better, had my diet under control, and was exercising a healthy amount, we weaned me off lamotrigine. I think the only thing that needs to be said is that no matter what you are working on, it is important to work with experts in the relevant fields such as a competent nutritionist for your diet, certified trainers and your general care practitioner for your exercise, or a psychiatrist for your drugs and therapy to make sure that your strategy is safe and effective for your unique circumstances and goals.

The dad energy here is so powerful. I'm getting a dadness sunburn just by watching this. 10/10 video, pls keep making them!

@SacredDaturana

Ай бұрын

Even the "I'm not scolding you, it's a reminder for all of us". xD

adam, hearing an adult male say that you don't know why you want to be thin is so so SO healing

A friend and i was talking to our former teacher when a guy came over and complimented her for loosing a lot of weight. We just had to stand there and hear her thanking him for the “compliment” even though we knew she lost the weight because her husband died. It still makes my stomach turn just thinking about it!

By the end of his journey Adam is gonna start filming these in a speedo

@Ruhma.

Ай бұрын

never go full Jeremy...

@deathfrombeloved

Ай бұрын

One can only dream...

@jacksunstone8771

Ай бұрын

Those are definitely indoor shorts.

@LoremIpsum1970

Ай бұрын

Thongs? Mankini? Maybe?

@cuttwice3905

Ай бұрын

@@jacksunstone8771 I remember when that was normal outside exercise wear.

Wow, Adam's dog is looking fit!

@acidviper1

Ай бұрын

Are you saying they are a hotdog?

@vincevvn

Ай бұрын

How dare you comment on someone else body like that!

@kathykeener3523

Ай бұрын

Not a hotdog, a taco.

@n00dle_king

Ай бұрын

Adam's dog is looking thick, solid, tight. I hope he keeps us posted on his dog's continued progress with any new progress pics or vid clips.

@LoremIpsum1970

Ай бұрын

Is it ok to say he rambles on a lot...?

The trick that I use is that I don't say anything to anyone about their bodies, works great, highly recommend. Thanks for this video.

An older person I had not seen in years exclaimed, “So, when’s the due date?” From her point of view, I understand. She feels positively towards me. She was happy for me when she heard I got married. She knew I really want to have kids. Plural. And she comes from an older generation where this kind of question is not only accepted but expected, I think. Now flip to my point of view. I’ve now had three miscarriages. One of them would have ended my life without medical intervention. And one of them resulted in weight gain which I haven’t been able to reverse. And I have my own back-history of being shamed for my weight…including an aunt who bought me a lovely leather jacket…sized XL…when I reached size 8 (while my cousins were size 2 and 0). So that question just hurt in so many ways, regardless of the positive intent. I had to vent to my husband and a good friend and do a lot of mental/emotional exercises before I could get back into a healthy place. I don’t blame her. I know she just doesn’t get it and I have no way of changing her behavior. But if just one person out there might spend an extra microsecond before pressing “send” or opening their mouth, then sharing this personal story is worth it.

@MeanOldLady

Ай бұрын

I've had miscarriages too, but I take people as they are as we all tend to mirror those we're around anyway. They ask me what my due date is & I rub their belly & ask them what they're going to name this one. They usually replay with "pizza" or "beer" & we both get a laugh & move on.

@breadboard4538

Ай бұрын

@@MeanOldLady Username checks out lol Honestly though, even older generations have the saying: "Think before you speak". Just being a tiny bit more considerate before shooting your mouth off can make a big difference.

The pregnancy thing is 200% something people should hear. My partner put on a bit of weight due to significant health issues and multiple people asked if she was pregnant. She came home crying and it still makes her uncomfortable to think about years later.

@grimoire2491

Ай бұрын

imho if she is trying to be more healthy after that comment - it was not a bad thing to do

@KK-ef1ow

Ай бұрын

​@grimoire2491 then you missed the entire point of the video.

@thetessellation

Ай бұрын

@@grimoire2491 please consider rewatching the video you're commenting on if you're willing to say that to someone you don't know. it is a bad thing that jents' partner came home crying. there shouldn't be any argument about this. if you're so fixated on weight as a perceived signifier of someone's health and moralizing it to the point where it's ok to make someone cry over it, you missed the point of the video entirely.

@aimee9478

Ай бұрын

​@@grimoire2491Dude, she was most likely already aware of her health issues, and no, not every health issue can be quickly and aptly fixed by 'working out and eating well'. Most people don't need you, the Saviour who will remind them of their troubles. Like several people have already pointed out, it's almost hilarious how much Adam's point flew over your head.

@EmilyGOODEN0UGH

Ай бұрын

@@grimoire2491 DUDE, she gained weight because she was SICK. Even if she gained weight because she was sad.... smh

Good for you for going sober man. I used to be a massive pothead for over 20 years. Then I hit 30 years old and added drinking to that, things all kinda came crashing down for me around 36. Now I've completely quit pot and I manage to only drink some wine on the weekends, I still want to quit completely but I'm not ready. I'm single though and don't have many friends or a social life so I'm trying to work on that side now. I'm glad you have your wife by your side to help you through this. I've learned a lot from you and you are a rare force for good in this world.

@plat2716

9 күн бұрын

"My life fell to shit after I started drinking but I was a pothead before that so that was the problem" What?

I just had gastric sleeve surgery and I've been watching a bunch of testimonials about how people reacted to their bodies, the algorithm recommended this to me. Thanks, Adam. I feel genuinely a lot better with setting boundaries.

thank you for this video. i've dealt with eating disorders for most of my life. at first it was binge eating disorder, which then morphed into bulimia. for a good chunk of that time, i was overweight. the way people treated me was horrible (viewing fat people as gluttonous, gross, undisciplined, whereas at the time i was trying to cope with trauma). then i began starving myself and had a whole onslaught of health issues. i began fainting, dealing with severe brain fog, and any exertion made me feel dizzy and ill... but everyone was quick to comment on how wonderful i looked, how much better and prettier, "healthier" even etc... it felt like a sick joke and also exasperated my illness. i'm now recovered but i'll never forget how awful people can be.

I'm a fat guy who's recently intentionally lost a bunch of weight via discipline, eating intentionally, habit forming, etc. And previously, the time when I've visibly lost a lot of weight was when I wasn't eating much at all due to stressful and traumatic events going on in my life, and the fact that the responses to these two events are indistinguishable illustrates that we really just shouldn't comment on people's bodies unless they're inviting it or we know their desires and intentions, and even then we should approach it cautiously. "hey, you look so great losing weight" feels really shitty when you're doing it because you're not sleeping and you're miserable all the time. Great discussion, Adam.

@dtemp132

Ай бұрын

The time in my life when I lost the most weight was when I was scared I had cancer and was going back and forth with doctors and having tests done. I ended up being lucky and not having cancer. But being scared of it basically killed all of my appetite and I didn’t want to eat much.

@atuvera9021

Ай бұрын

Same experience for me: about 10 years ago i've lost so much weight due to stress and poverty but everybody was complimenting me. That time is stuck in my head when i workout and eat healthy but people insist that i'm not doing it "correctly" because i'm not losing enough weight

@InsertHandleHere968

Ай бұрын

I’ve lost 90 lbs due to a medical condition that makes me puke constantly and unable to eat. The number of people who have said they wish they had this illness so they too can loose weight is insane. Like no, no you don’t and also thanks for minimizing my illness or whatever. It sucks

@falconJB

Ай бұрын

I use to know a girl who had a medical condition that made it hard for her body to absorb nurturance from the food she ate, she use to hate it with people commented that she looked good because she was so thin because to her her thinness was linked with her medical problems and constant fatigue. It also implied that when she found a treatment for her condition that she would no longer meet their standards of beauty.

@lw8882

Ай бұрын

Well said.

I nearly died a while back and wound up in the hospital for over thirty days and after I got out I had lost eighty pounds due to dietary changes that were medically necessary and the not great hospital food. People kept commenting on how good I looked while I was unable to walk more than fifty feet without nearly passing out due to having a bum leg from surgery and deconditioning from having to lay in a hospital bed for over a month. Made me feel disgusting every time they did it, It really put into my mind that whatever I was going through, they just saw that I had lost weight and they considered that healthy. My health wasn't even secondary, it wasn't a part of the equation, they just wanted me thinner.

@nicoskefalas

Ай бұрын

Something similar happened to me. You know in the society I live in (Cyprus) random strangers would comment on my weight. And then I lost some kilos and they assumed I dieted even though I got thinner because I was hospitalised. I felt weird about it.

@PanagiotisPolitis-bl9xj

Ай бұрын

Totally understandable, most people who lose weight do it through dieting and dieting takes a lot of effort. They most likely assumed you dieted

@tophatv2902

Ай бұрын

I mean yeah that sucks but use ozempic or whatever it takes to keep weight off so you don’t die early again

@DeathnoteBB

Ай бұрын

@@PanagiotisPolitis-bl9xjExcept it’s been known for decades that dieting doesn’t work. They’re just totally misinformed and only care about how skinny someone is. Hence OP’s complaint

@DeathnoteBB

Ай бұрын

@@tophatv2902Bruh Ozempic is not good for you

After I put on a bunch of weight in the bad times of 2020 and 2021 I worked hard and lost about 50 pounds, amongst all the people congratulating me I had one person pull me aside and make sure it was intentional good weight loss and not something medically wrong causing me to lose weight. Having known a few people who have had medical problems causing them to lose scary amounts of weight I really appreciated that. Sadly I since shattered my knee and put all the weight back on while I was having a painfully long recovery, but now that it's healed up I'm working on getting back in shape again

I follow a streamer who, a few years back, got sick and lost weight really fast. People kept coming into his stream commenting on how he looked "lean". He had to keep explaining that no, it wasn't due to his commitment to the peloton, it was because of the double food poisoning... This situation is rather amusing (he's fine now) but as you said, don't just assume all changes in appearance are intentional or welcomed.

@Thesparten45

Ай бұрын

NorthernLion? I don't remember seeing tons of comments about weight loss, but he also had double food poison a year or two ago

@Escher99

Ай бұрын

@@Thesparten45 yea he lost like 30 pounds in two weeks. There are a few clips of him explaining the weight loss to uninformed viewers.

@joe__

Ай бұрын

sometimes, people lose weight because they intentionally changed their behaviors and environment. other times, a tapeworm called Lil’ Caesar gives you simultaneous salmonella and campylobacter infections and causes you to 💩 your brains out

@shawnsg

Ай бұрын

​@@Escher99I don't know this streamer but doesn't the fact his audience knows that he has an exercise machine presumably for fitness, down to the brand, no less invite comment on his physique assuming he's discussed exercising?

@maxenfelter

Ай бұрын

​@@shawnsgIt's for sure an understandable mistake on the part of NL's audience considering how often cardio is a topic of conversation for him, and he mostly took it in stride, but it still illustrates the point pretty well here. There was absolutely no need for those people to *guess* that he'd be pleased with an unsolicited comment on his body. As Adam mentioned, we should really be considering these things with the same logic as congratulating a visibly pregnant woman. Even if it's a female friend you know has been trying for a baby, you're still way better off letting them bring it up than making a simple assumption that leaves you looking like a total douche if you're wrong

I just think Adam is cool, articulate and informative.

@nicoskefalas

Ай бұрын

#lifegoals

@gabagoul67

Ай бұрын

i just think he's neat

@rileymckenzie6276

Ай бұрын

if you love him so much why dont you marry him

@SilkyThick

Ай бұрын

@@rileymckenzie6276 Wait, can I?

@user-no8yp1en9t

Ай бұрын

@@rileymckenzie6276man im kinda late for that since he has an entire family 😂😂 like bro what are you sayin

I quit smoking but I relapsed and I lost a lot of weight because i started again. I got a bunch of compliments and I got more social because i smoked with my colleagues. Clean for a year now and I feel way better despite higher body fat percentage.

"You look great! Have you lost weight?" "Yeah I have. Dying of cancer will do that."

@rqb6731

Ай бұрын

Atleast you look great

@michaelgoldsmith3534

Ай бұрын

Dropped three casket sizes! #GainsB4God

@mark-ish

Ай бұрын

​@@michaelgoldsmith3534😅

@roxxarus1809

Ай бұрын

Same, although not to that degree. I was asked "how'd you get so thin so quick?" so I, whose appendix burst at the time and was hospitalized on a liquid diet for 5 days, laid out the facts. She was visibly embarrassed and apologized quickly. Of course, anonymous KZread commentors from across the world might not share that empathy, but sometimes you just have to hope that they do.

@nycbearff

20 күн бұрын

Men in my family get fat faces as they age. It happened to my dad, it happened to me. But while he was wasting away with two different cancers, he lost so much weight that his face thinned down and looked young and very handsome, with great bone structure. He only weighed 70 pounds at that point, but his face was amazing. I would have loved to have seen his old fat healthy face, instead.

"Daddy Ragusea" is no longer a meme. Adam has been a solid father figure this entire time 🫡 Seriously though, thanks for this vid dude. Even hearing some people comment positively on other people's bodies uninvited makes me uncomfortable. This helped me articulate why I have trouble around it.

@rbdunne

Ай бұрын

I'm older than he is and he still feels like a father figure. 😊

@ChaseFreedomMusician

Ай бұрын

I believe the official moniker is "Dadam Ragusea"

@minghea2754

Ай бұрын

He’s like the Caucasian father I never had

I'm one of those naturally skinny folk and people have felt very comfortable remarking on my body in a hurtful way my whole life. Awesome video!

@FyerBear

Ай бұрын

Feel ya

One of the problems here is that we aren't willing to enforce these norms when the comments target 'bad' people or target people on the other side of a political dispute. That undermines the norm and tells people it's ok to comment negatively when you think the target is bad. I mean I despise the Trumps and like Colbert but when he mocks how Eric Trump looks that implicitly gives people permission to mock looks as long as they feel the target is bad -- and that makes the norm unworkable. For people to invest in a norm they need to feel it's applied universally. The second people feel a norm won't protect them or those they affiliate with they won't abide by it themselves.

@erzsebetkovacs2527

Ай бұрын

You're perfectly right, unfortunately. Self-proclaimed progressives sometimes comment on political issues in such a horrible style that they themselves would be right to protest about had self-proclaimed conservatives commented that.

@petergerdes1094

Ай бұрын

@@erzsebetkovacs2527 Yes, because progressives are people with all the flaws of anyone else and as such are vulnerable to being petty, biased and apply stereotypes just like as anyone else. What's important is that we don't behave in such a tribal fashion that we can't call out people on our side for bad behavior. And I think part of doing that is not thinking in pure black and white terms (good people can do bad things) otherwise it's too hard to gently correct people.

@lizcademy4809

Ай бұрын

I read a Tom Nichols piece in The Atlantic not too long ago about how, though he despises Trump, he would stop using any disrespectful nicknames for the man, and simply refer to him as Trump, Mr Trump, or Former President Trump. We need to treat everyone, including our political opponents, with respect. Fight them on adult levels, not by sounding like a 5 year old bully.

@petergerdes1094

Ай бұрын

@@lizcademy4809 Thats good, I'll have to look for the piece. But that might be asking alot. I think we can distinguish just generic disrespect, eg calling Trump "that jerk Trump" or whatever and mocking him for his physical attributes or pronunciation of whatever. You don't have to accord someone respect to avoid being cruel about their shortcomings (eg discussion about his penis)

@itsgonnabeanaurfromme

Ай бұрын

Yeah, but in this video, he also saying don't comment at all even if you think you're saying something good. I noticed it's very common for people who are attractive for people who know they're attractive to be uncomfortable receiving compliments about their appearance. Because they're just so tired of it.

I'm someone whose weight can fluctuate by 100lbs, and this whole video resonated with me. I agree with everything you said, but I also wanted to thank you for sharing your experience. In general, I think men need to do that more often. Basically every guy I know is struggling somehow, and desperately needs to know they're not the only one, and more importantly, it's okay to ask for help when they need it.

There’s definitely ways to extend the “fitness kick” without it being in spite of pains or discomfort. It lets you preserve a lot of the self-compassion that comes from how you choose to keep yourself healthy/happy. Like running shoes, meditation, incorporating quality time with loved ones (check ✅), and many others! ❤

I feel like you took all the scrambled thoughts in my head and actually managed to organize them into something coherent. This was a great video and a good reminder! I hope your health journey goes well, even with any little hiccups and setbacks, and that you can feel good about yourself inside and out. That's what matters at the end of the day

I saw the thumbnail and thought this was going to be a video about spinal compression as we age.

@Amberthyme

Ай бұрын

Same! I would watch that video too but this one was definitely needed.

@TheShizzlemop

Ай бұрын

100% what i thought as well, weight never crossed my mind lol

I really enjoy these short Adam talks, especially about personal stuff like this. I love your recipes ofc but I also adore these more transparent vent sessions where you just share more of who you are and what you’re going through. I have Crohn’s disease and a lot of mental health issues so your recent videos about colonoscopies and depression and therapy has been really endearing to me, showing me that I can be culinarily successful even with all the other shit going on in my life. So thanks!

Adam talking about his internal feelings over these last few months has helped me grow internally in many ways

@chippsdubbo89

Ай бұрын

In what ways?

@isaa7425

Ай бұрын

@@chippsdubbo89 accepting that real people go through weight gain/loss depending on their situations in life. He also shown me a way to confident in myself no matter what weight. Also he show me how to loose weight and many other things that range from masculinity and emotional intelligence.

@chippsdubbo89

Ай бұрын

@@isaa7425 Thanks for sharing

@itsgonnabeanaurfromme

Ай бұрын

@@isaa7425 has helped who grow internally? There's something missing in your comment.

@amy_grace

Ай бұрын

@@itsgonnabeanaurfrommeEveryone else here seemed to understand it. Perhaps a skill issue?

As someone that is on a large weight loss journey for physical and mental health reasons, you raise a fascinating point around resolving body image issues vs resolving body issues. When I get to the "end" of my journey I will be phyiscally healthier and feel great for sure... but there's more work to be done on the mental side. Body dysmorphia after coming down to a healthy wait is a real problem.

Started following years ago for the cooking content, the content you have been putting out lately has been inspiring, the ammount of wisdom and self-awareness you have is insane. Thanks for these videos Adam.

Your honesty about your trials and tribulations, as well as your past internet comment malfeasance (great word!), is incredibly refreshing. Thanks for giving us the talking to we all needed. And congrats on your sobriety!

I am enjoying Adams new style of videos, about random topics even more than the cooking ones at this point.

@junkrider132

Ай бұрын

if he just werent a leftist.

@nicoskefalas

Ай бұрын

Oh I am here for all of it! He is just a natural talent. I’d watch him do anything I think!

@raraavis7782

Ай бұрын

Yeah. I've always liked listening to intelligent people just 'pondering' some question or problem. Not even necessarily in the sense of offering a solution. It's just interesting and intellectually stimulating, to follow someone else's logic and arguments and see where they arrive at the end. Especially if it's not done in a hectic, 'sped up' way or with distracting music in the background (like many videos these days).

@nicoskefalas

Ай бұрын

@@raraavis7782 I wish I could pull off such a relaxed and what seems like effortless video!

@raraavis7782

Ай бұрын

@@nicoskefalas Oh well, he has a background in journalism and even taught classes at a university at some point, if I remember correctly. So not your average dude, when it comes to presenting a complicated topic in a coherent fashion. But it never hurts to try and see how far you can improve at it!

Best of luck on your journey Adam. Thanks for all of your content.

I've been pushing my fitness kick hard recently and everything you said are things that have passed through my head. Hearing it articulated is great

I had no idea Adam was struggling with these things. This is inspiring and will help people overcome food and body things. Thank you!

"My existence being, kinda intolerable" - Ditto. Liked the video.

8:55 hit different... to someone who has been varying degrees of overveight for all of their childhood until I was 22, this was the most relatable sentence if them all. Love you Adam. Realy, if the persona you show us on the internet is close tot he person you really are, you should be proud! Take care

Hey Adam, thanks so much for sharing your journey so intimately. It's made me rethink the strategies I use to make myself feel better. But especially-- thank you so, so much for being so open about your sobriety journey. While substance use in moderation can be fine for many people, sometimes it helps to take a break (speaking from experience), and it can be really, really hard to start and maintain that sobriety (also speaking from experience.) Thank you for normalizing taking that break, and for normalizing the self reflection necessary to get there. Wishing you the best in your journey to the best version of you, whatever that looks like!

Love you Adam, thank you for being so incredibly honest with us and making it so educational.

I'm glad you included a section regarding videos that do "invite comments". My example was going to be your creatine video, but yours is a better example, and I appreciate that you included something like that in this video.

This is a topic that I've had to work with my mom over. I've battled body image issues for years, and my mom's comments weren't helpful. Case in point, the skinniest times in my life were NOT my healthiest either. The suggestion of "don't say anything unless it's necessary"? Yup, I finally had enough with my mom over a video call when she complained about some people she didn't think should've been wearing bathing suits and outright told her "you do that alot, and it's frustrating". Luckily, she took my critique seriously, and we're in a much better place because of it. All this to say thank you Adam for reminding us that sometimes the best thing we can do is zip it!

@nycbearff

20 күн бұрын

Two young relatives of a friend were talking about an old guy wearing a speedo at the beach, complaining that he looked gross, wasn't attractive, who did he think would like that, etc etc - I stopped them and pointed out that he was not at the beach to give them pleasure, he was at the beach to enjoy himself. They were so surprised at that idea! It hadn't occurred to them - they are always concerned with what other people think about them, so going to the beach in a speedo just to enjoy the sun and sea on your skin, purely for pleasure, astounded them. And, of course, since what people think is attractive varies so much, the old guy in the speedo was very probably being admired by some other people on the beach - people who weren't at all interested in the self absorbed young twits.

I'm a writer with all the same addictive and depressive tendencies, so this hits close to home. You're not alone, you're doing great, and stubborn thoughtfulness is the only way forward. Good talk.

Great video. I love that you can come on here & basically say out loud things that a lot of us are probably thinking, feeling, & struggling with. It is really comforting to know we are not alone. I hope you know that you are not alone. Also, I think your wife is great & even if it's just holding the camera, I am glad she's here.

“What happened to your basic sense of social propriety?” should be an auto-reply to just about every tweet out there.

So thoughtful. Like so many people here I’ve been through significant weight loss due to a medical condition. When people complimented me for slimming down I just felt even more disconnected and different from “regular people”. Suddenly facing my mortality at 25 was MORE than enough to make me feel different and weird. I didn’t need the reminders.

Honestly, your vids, vibe and place where you were taking a hike are amazing.

as a life/ health coach i think you are doing fabulous steps to help your mind body and soul. i would say continue to love it with good diet, exercises and having healthy conversations.

Digging the RP shirt. Your podcast with Dr. Mike got me into the RP Rabbit hole and subsequently into fitness. Thank you Adam for being a positive influence in my life in particular.

This is definitely a thing I've run into. I _like_ being a little overweight, it's a shape I've always found attractive and always wanted for myself. I worked really hard in my 20s to actually eat enough to put on some weight. It's less of a struggle now in my 30s, but back then if I wasn't putting effort into gaining, I was a twig. So after having an extended bout of depression and not eating very much, getting complimented on how "good" and "healthy" I was looking was kind of an oof moment. It wasn't intentional, it was the opposite of what I wanted, and it was implying that I don't look good normally.

@PredictableEnigma

Ай бұрын

Exactly this. Especially because unintentional weight loss is almost always a health problem, not a sign of being healthier.

no idea how long ive been subbed but with each new video im only more and more glad i am. thank u past self and thank you adam for being you!

Adam i wish the best for you. You make amazing videos!

Even out of earshot I don't make catty comments about others, it's a bad habit that internalizes the worst in me. Instead, I think the comment thru and ask myself why I am thinking this and how it is my business to even say something out of earshot. I finish my thought process by imaging the other person as a wonderful soul who is dealing with life as best they can. The next time I see someone who I might make a snide or catty remark about I can quickly get to the wonderful soul. It's about me, when I can look at others and see just their soul, I am a better person and will treat others through my soul, and not my bigoted mind.

@joylederman4501

Ай бұрын

What a beautiful way to behave.

I quit alcohol and cannabis around 26 years ago, I've essentially been dry my whole adult life. Whilst choosing that life does isolate you from a lot of people, and bizarrely it also upsets a lot of people too, for me at least it has been the right choice. You do what's right for you, Adam.

Adam. I am so amazed at your thoughtfulness and your openness to talk openly about personal issues. I am sorry for the jerk comments I see below.

This is why I/we love you Adam, you're real, honest and have such great EQ. Your ability to self reflect evaluating your own thoughts and share with us has always been the best part of your videos.

This video covers things really really well. It’s getting easier and easier to comment/remark without thinking of the consequences of our actions. I hope more people will see it

This is fascinating content because I have been online and participating in discussion groups since Win 95 came out and made getting online accessible to the average person at home. From the moment I started talking to people online, I brought my "real world" sensibilities with me. I understood that there was a human at the other end of the modem and have never spoken to anyone online in a way that I wouldn't in face-to-face conversation. It never failed to surprise both me and my ex-spouse the way people would talk online. He called it "monitor courage" because he's a 6'4" guy who people don't say shit to in real life. Anyway, that's a long way to say that it amazes me that people still need to be instructed on how to remember that you are talking to humans online. Good reminder, Adam. On the body thing: a few years ago I did a harsh carb restricted diet and dropped 30 pounds pretty quick. I had so many people comment on the weight loss and yell me how great I looked. Which, all I could think was, "so, you think I looked like shit before?" (Sidenote: covid hit and I pushed the fuckit button on carbs and am back where I started) So, yeah. Don't comment if someone doesn't invite it because odds are you are trying to be positive but come off sounding like an asshole. I'm sorry you are going through it Adam. But good on you for introspection and honesty. Hugs to Lauren because being with someone who is going through it is difficult. ❤

@orchardhouse9241

Ай бұрын

"Monitor courage" is a very good term for that. Thank you!

just so you know "hey you've gained some weight" and "hey you've lost some weight" are amongst the most typical greetings in many Asian countries.

@KazeNoTaniFarmHakuba

Ай бұрын

Living in Japan people comment on me gaining and losing weight ALL THE TIME. I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing, it does get you thinking about your overall health. I have to respectfully disagree with Adam here in that I think the American hypersensitivity to any mention of weight might be one of the most unhealthy and unhelpful ways to approach these issues which absolutely everyone will deal with. (In case you’re wondering I grew up always being the fattest kid in class so I’ve had more than my fair share of unpleasant comments directed towards my weight, but not every mention of weight is necessarily unpleasant, it’s possible to be thoughtful and caring when talking about this stuff..)

@gigachad3925

Ай бұрын

@@KazeNoTaniFarmHakuba Friends and family mentioning your weight in a considerate way when talking to you is not the same as the type of public shaming Adam highlights in this video. And even if words from friends and family genuinely mean well, the authority on whether you actually NEED to lose/gain weight should always be a medical professional. Some people just naturally shift in weight throughout their lives without ever going into truly unhealthy ranges (on either end of the spectrum). And if you want to lose/gain weight for aesthetics, that should come from intrinsic desire, not outside pressure for seemingly no reason other than conforming to arbitrary social norms. If it makes my argument more credible, you should know I'm also a former fat kid who's currently in amazing shape.

@AlicedeTerre

Ай бұрын

Yes and it still contributes to body dysmorphia. Working out is not as common in East asian countries. Imo the disordered eating is worst there bc of how blase it is to comment on weight.

@KazeNoTaniFarmHakuba

Ай бұрын

If what you’re saying is true we should see significant effects by country but average BMI is relatively low in east asian countries even though Body dismorphia and eating disorder rates seem to be no greater than other similarly developed countries Do you have some evidence that I couldn’t find with a Google search?

@Almost_Made_It

Ай бұрын

American obesity has been out of control for years. The worst thing we can continue to do is to “politely” ignore it. Acknowledge the problem. Identify the causes. Enact and encourage the solution. It’s not hard or expensive to be a healthy weight. Or do people really think everyone pre-1960 were starving themselves to get their fit physique?

I know i'm late to the video, but I just wanted to share that you, Adam, have been pretty inspirational for me to change my outlook and relationship with food. I've always been obese even since I was a kid, and watching your videos on food, the science, and exercise has been very informative for me. I have since then begun my own journey of changing my outlook on my image and weight issues, and I know that you are at least partially why that is. I'm sorry that you still struggle with the things that you struggle with, but I hope that you know that, at least for me, you have helped a lot.

i really appreciate the vulnerability you've shared with us in this video. you shouldnt have to reveal so much of your life history just to stop people commenting on your weight, but i know that you were going for a much broader message than just "stop doing this". sometimes it takes real vulnerability to open people's eyes to the effect theyre having on others. you're doing great work guiding your community to be a respectful, supportive place 💛

So many people view weight change as a solely moral thing. As if they're saving your soul or something by giving unsolicited comments. I won't call it advice because it isn't helpful nor does it come from any genuine concern. While I can attest to how discipline and dedication have helped me get more fit and more towards what I would like my body to look like, the most most drastic changes in my weight were always due to extenuating mental circumstances. I was trying to stop binge drinking for a time, but I just replaced it with binge eating. That technically may have been better for my health, but seeing myself get more and more out of shape definitely sent me into a little spiral. Somewhat ironically, I recently lost like 15 pounds in like two weeks because I was massively, massively stressed to the point where I couldn't eat and couldn't sleep multiple nights in a row. My mom complimented how I was looking, but what was I gonna say to that? I wish it were enough to tell people that you end up being much more helpful when you're kind than when you're cruel, but I think the cruelty is the point for a lot of people. I have my own fatphobia that I have to deal with, but some of the things people feel free to say out loud is astonishing.

@endofcentury7077

Ай бұрын

It's actually insane how much weight is moralized in American and net culture. When you actually think about it, it makes zero sense.

@nicoskefalas

Ай бұрын

You know that even anthropologists have compared “healthy” eating and slimness to a religion. I wrote an entire PhD thesis on “Healthmania”. Fat did become a moral or intelligence “deficiency”.

@OmniversalInsect

Ай бұрын

People don't realise how much our eating habits are dictated by things like hormones, metabolism and childhood environment. No one chose to have any of these things, they were born with them. When that isn't taken into account, people justify shaming because they think the person isn't trying hard enough.

@zncon

Ай бұрын

@@endofcentury7077 It makes more sense when you consider that every major religion has some version of the sins, and three major ones are all related to behaviors connected to weight and fitness. Gluttony, Greed, and Sloth. So yeah, a lot of people are going to have moral opinions on the subject.

@scoutbane1651

Ай бұрын

@@OmniversalInsectThis is so true. I have struggled to get my weight to 70kg again as I am 182cm and keep falling down to 60kg, or even a kilo or two below. Started on HRT two months ago, suddenly I've gained most of that weight and I didn't change anything intent or method-wise (and I suspect there's more to come considering I need extra fat for tissue growth like boobs).

When in doubt, you can also ask. When I ask my friends what they've been up to, I look for things they can brag about, that I can compliment them on.

I very much appreciate this video. Thank you so much for posting it, it has helped me.

I love your vibe, Mr. Ragusea. I've followed your channel for years and have always thought you had insightful commentary on all sorts of things, not just food science. The whole video has an important message, but the parts about trying to improve upon the "somewhat intolerable baseline existence" by working on some angle really resonated with me. I hope you're doing well on your journey. Great video, great content. As an aside, I subscribed to Renaissance Periodization right after your video came out. Loved that vid too, and have come to love Dr. Mike's channel as well.

Eddie in Blackshear GA here! Thanks for this one. I'm going through something like you seem to be. I'm all muscly when people are used to me being so lithe and twinky. I feel a bit of dysphoria from it, but boy, do I feel strong!

oh adam, you gentle bastard it is a delight to watch such a normal man become shocked & appalled about how much of an abnormal place the internet is, even if its not a delight for you to live through that realization. this strange place somehow awakens a dark part of our psyche that is always there, and it is no doubt unpleasant, but its just the way of the world here and its simply never going to change.

@Jmpwfdpdl

Ай бұрын

You know, this is awfully pessimistic. You don’t have to live this way. I certainly don’t, and wouldn’t want to.

im getting sober at the moment while also trying to tackle an eating disorder, and ive watched your channel for years. videos like this, and the info shared so openly and honestly, are so important. thankyou for this, Adam

this was a great video dude, this mirrors a lot of shit i have going on atm, and you voicing all this stuff in such an eloquent way just is really supportive and awesome. dude, you rock.

My litmus test is "Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said now? Does it need to be said by you?" I disagree with your assertion that we should never comment positively on people's bodies unless they bring it up. Body image is a stubborn thing. I once lost 80-ish pounds and didn't "notice". In my head, I was still a big fat guy. No one said anything positive about my weight loss (no one said much positive to me back then anyway). One day, I walked by a window and saw a skinny guy inside before realizing it was my reflection. Sometimes you need outside reinforcement/encouragement and if you prompt it, you can never be sure that it's genuine. On the flip side of that, I don't want to go around my entire life censoring myself because of some edge case. Most people who lose weight don't have cancer or eating disorders or mental health issues related to the weight loss, and anyone who does shouldn't hold others at fault for not knowing it. Just like it is our responsibility to not be assholes, it's also our responsibility to be charitable with our assumptions of others' intent. Unless you have reason to believe the comment came from a place of malice, you should treat it like it didn't. If someone compliments you, you shouldn't then bite their head off because they didn't know that compliment would hurt your feelings. And don't think we don't see what you're doing there telling us not to comment on things while walking around in vintage 1970's basketball shorts. You can't bait people like that, Adam! It's not fair!

Adam, so impressed by your ability to share all of this. It's great that you're able to do this and speak to your feelings and thereby inviting others to feel comfortable in feeling theirs. I'm enjoying the new non-food videos, though I love food ones too, please continue to be a genuine you!

Good luck on your journey Adam. I am right with you. It’s a life long journey where the search is as important than the destination. Been listening to you for a long time and this one pushed all the buttons.

You are terrific. Thank you for your honesty and this video 👍❤

I think an important aside to this conversation is that internet comments, as a kind of public forum, are not necessarily perceived as having different social norms whether they are attached to an individual creator or a faceless organization. If Warner Brothers drops a new movie trailer on KZread today, I'll feel pretty comfortable saying something harsh if I think it's crap. However, if someone with 200 subscribers posts a short film they made, I'm much more likely to treat my comments as a direct conversation with the creator, and be polite. A channel like Adam's can be a weird middle-ground, because he is an individual, but with 2.5 million subscribers, there are enough of us viewers that we have a reasonable expectation that he will not see every single comment... so arguably we're talking more to each other than to him- and we have no real way of knowing when he might be "within earshot."

I don't understand why the two introductions comment thing is bad? The assumption with no body comments is that people know what their body looks like, but people don't know what their art looks like. That's why we have editors.

Love the RP shirt! Two of my favorite channels, I hope you are doing great!

Wow. I appreciate the honesty about your head challenges and substance use. I can identify. Life is a challenge and I feel it is helpful when people can talk about it.

"i'm getting pain in my feet and ankles" he says as he walks for long distances with flip-flops.

@killzone866

Ай бұрын

I did that once and i thought i was going to have to lay on the ground my feet were killing me.

@TheWallProductions17

Ай бұрын

Long distances? Its a 16 min stroll around his neighborhood lol

@paperbeatsrock_

Ай бұрын

Walking for 16 minutes in flip flops, which require your toes to sorta pinch the strap in order to lift them off the ground properly, can get uncomfortable and even painful, yes. Definitely a lot less comfortable than shoes.​@@TheWallProductions17

@JaMaMaa1

Ай бұрын

@@TheWallProductions17 the distance you feel when you walk in flip flops is multiplied by 7. It's like dog years. That's almost 2 hours worth of non-stop walking

@peabody3000

Ай бұрын

@@JaMaMaa1 thank you for providing that totally made-up data

I completely agree, Sometimes those comments about losing weight can really drive it to becoming dangerous. My family were always awful but as soon as a dropped a few stone they started treating me like a person and saying how good I looked. It really made me believe that my only value was being skinny, it lead to an extreme case of anorexia that almost killed me and has permanently damaged one of my legs some days I can't feel it or lift it properly at all and some days it's enough I can walk around fairly alright, but even after getting that sick my family still didn't see this as a bad thing. I'm sorry that people are commenting on your body in any way and it's really good that you've realised working out obsessively or dieting can be as dangerous as any other addiction before it got to a point of becoming that for you.

thank you for talking about this, it really resonated with me. i lost a noticeable amount of weight as a direct result of depressive and disordered eating behaviors that i fell into as a direct result of my mom's death. i keep getting comments about how much better i look now and they are absolutely unbearable, even though they're meant to be compliments. i'm glad you're setting this boundary and calling people out, even though this really feels like it should be common sense. it's so easy to just... not give unwarranted comments about other people's bodies. i never write youtube comments but i had to say something here. i'm really glad you're speaking up about this!

You seem to always try to be a good person, even if just sometimes retrospectively cause no one is perfect - and it makes me feel proud of myself cause i also try to do that as much as i can

I've been dropping weight quite quickly, because I'm a diabetic struggling a LOT with food issues. (Not just that damn it I like bread, but because bread is CHEAP and my budget shrinks with every month.) And yes, yes, portion control, habit forming (in the good sense,) all those things. BUT if someone tried to tell me "gosh you look like you've lost weight!" ... I think I'd probably bite their heads off. What *I* care about is that the people around me are happy and doing okay emotionally, mentally, and only THEN do I maybe worry about their physical health. And absolutely NONE of it is something that I have a right to comment on in a way that shames or praises them. Ask me for an opinion, I'll give it, but like bowel movements, I'm not airing that opinion without that request.

It was weird realizing I would likely never think of myself as not-fat. I'm not really anymore, I'm pretty fit and strong, and can run multiple kilometers at a time. But it doesn't matter. People commenting on my weight in general is uncomfortable, I don't know how to receive it if it's good, and I just take it if it's bad. I still feel like I deserve to be mocked, to be informed, and I project that sometimes. I don't say anything, but I'm most assuredly thinking it. Being a fat kid really fucks you up in North America, most places really, I didn't even get mocked much when I was young, family didn't help, I did most of it by myself. Maybe that's worse. I don't know. I talk to a counselor about it but it's so deeply ingrained that I'm not attractive due to my weight that it's not a fact issue anymore, it's just an embedded reality. Anyways, staying healthy is good, and this video is good too. Thanks Adam.

@kianadavisrodell3300

Ай бұрын

I feel you. We live in a society that places way too much value on "attractiveness" and, by extension, weight. I used to (and still do sometimes) think the same things about myself and yeah, it definitely feels like something that's just inherent to how your brain works. I dont know if you need to hear this, but you are valuable and worth knowing regardless of who does or doesn't find you attractive. Also something that helped me was trying to see myself from a stranger's perspective. I started asking myself, "If I saw someone who looked like me out in public, what would I think about them?" I realized I probably wouldn't give their weight or body shape a second thought. I'm not saying this is a perfect solution, but it has helped me be less critical of myself. And if it helps, a stranger on the internet thinks you're doing a good job. Glad you're getting counseling. I hope it helps. Keep going 😊

@Ontariosaurus

Ай бұрын

@@kianadavisrodell3300 Cheers bud, appreciate it.

Thank you so much for this video, Adam! (And Lauren!)

Thank you so much for this thoughtful and transparent discussion.

As someone with an eating disorder, this is a conversation that makes anyone uncomfortable but also precisely why it's needed more. So thank you Adam for this video.

Love this video. Just a genuine question, why did you feel bad about asking why the video had two intros?

Thanks for this Adam, been a fan of yours for a long time, have made dozens of your recipes. As someone who is 2 weeks away from my wedding, and concerned about how I'll look in photos (yes guys worry about this too). I want to thank you for helping me take pause, and give myself the permission to release the pressure of social gaze. Mental health has its ups and downs, I've been all around myself. I hope you get back to feeling Up & Adam soon!

ngl you must have a great community, getting this invested in what random strangers who you never met and don't know if they are being serious are saying will lead you down a dark path on the internet. they could very easily be kids or trolls

Hi Adam! Good Afternoon!

"...suffice it to say that I find my basic, baseline existence, my baseline experience of my well-being in the world to be kind of intolerable in some ways..." Well, I just found a better way to articulate my state of being to my therapist. Much appreciated Mr. Ragusea!

This is an incredible video and really puts a lot of my previously indescribable internal feelings into words. Thanks Adam :)

I genuinely think that you're one of the most insightful people on this website. Thank you for making your videos.

My friend and I both were in deep in on our restriction problems (ED) but weren't ready to admit it. Until I told her she looked good (her size got smaller) and she said "thanks, but actually I have anorexia." It clicked immediately. Never say anyrhing about someone's body. There's no reason. I'm now in treatment for restriction and doing my best but I'm fat. And people tefuse to believe that I fight with bulimic behaviours and restriction nearly every single moment of every day. To end on a happy note, two great things about gaining weight is i dont feel faint when I get up anymore and it doesn't hurt my butt bones to sit! I love my new butt and my cats love my belly😊

The way you're handling your "sarapocial relationships" is very healthy, good job.

Thank you for being open and realistic with the way that you feel and the tendencies you have. More public figures need to speak on this; it helps us the audience realize that we're all the same in one way or another and that it's okay to have questions about one's own well being without having the answers.

Adam, I really respect your attitude toward self-improvement. Of course you have stuff that you want to work on, and you acknowledge that and accept yourself as human and therefore imperfect, while still trying to improve. That's a mentality that I strive for, and I think you do a wonderful job of displaying jt