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No One Knew This Secret About Amish Dating

Here I explain what our dating was like in the Amish community.There are definitely some odd practices happening.
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Welcome to The Amish Potato’s Channel. My name is Cj Miller. I was raised Amish in Shipshewana, IN. I was Amish until I was 16 years old, when I started dressing “English”, drove a car and partied on the weekends. This is called Rumspringa.
I did this until I was in my late twenties. I then briefly joined the amish church, left again, and moved to Idaho where I discovered the truth of who Christ is, married my lovely wife and am now sharing my story on KZread.
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  • @kbc1883
    @kbc1883 Жыл бұрын

    I find this shocking! I grew up in the Finger Lakes of NY where we interacted and were friends with Amish and Mennonite families and saw first hand the huge volleyball parties, the buggies/carts coming and going from signings, watched the shenanigans of the youth which often were more wild than anything I was allowed to do. But these details are pretty shocking to me. I’d heard about bundling, but was told they were wrapped up and had a board between them and aren’t allowed to touch. These details reveal quite a different situation 😳. My parents were way, way more strict than that!

  • @lyoder156
    @lyoder1563 жыл бұрын

    😂 Amish dating explained quite well. Coming from a smaller community but having friends in larger communities, this kind of sums it up. Trying to explain it to people 🤦‍♀️ you realize how awful it sounds!

  • @lauraswihart4816

    @lauraswihart4816

    3 жыл бұрын

    OK - what state are you in? Love your name!

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah it definitely isn't the biblical way of doing things.

  • @joniangelsrreal6262

    @joniangelsrreal6262

    3 жыл бұрын

    As an “English” it honestly sounds abusive and totally out of “normal” Interaction… (If my teen age daughter packed her bag to spend a weekend with a male would be over my dead body) it would never happen….ever…. Sending love and light your way 🙏🏼

  • @marycurrier2251

    @marycurrier2251

    2 жыл бұрын

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  • @joniangelsrreal6262
    @joniangelsrreal62623 жыл бұрын

    Hark… do I see you blushing….? Too funny… my favorite Amish guru… Sending love and light your way 🙏🏼

  • @ReSearcherSusie
    @ReSearcherSusie3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you CJ. I can tell that talking about some of this is a little uncomfortable for you, but it’s really interesting. It helps to understand the different types of Amish culture, and allows me to empathize with their situations and struggles.

  • @laurakivlahan9111
    @laurakivlahan91113 жыл бұрын

    Bless your heart, I feel like you're turning red talking about dating...AWWWWW. 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you for sharing! I always enjoy learning about the Amish Community...

  • @albertraber5583
    @albertraber55833 жыл бұрын

    Our community allows bed courtship 😣but we hope to move out before our kids are that age. We think it’s horrible.

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    What community are you from?

  • @Freedom-nu5kp

    @Freedom-nu5kp

    3 жыл бұрын

    Are you related to Jeremiah Raber?

  • @albertraber5583

    @albertraber5583

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Freedom-nu5kp no we are not

  • @albertraber5583

    @albertraber5583

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@theamishpotato Knox county Ohio

  • @margaretporkolab7166
    @margaretporkolab71663 жыл бұрын

    This is amazing. My mother wouldn't let my date unless chaperoned at that age until I was 18 and out of high school. You would call me English. 🇨🇦

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    That is a much better method!

  • @pcmiller0324
    @pcmiller03243 жыл бұрын

    Something your viewers may find interesting. There are many newer, smaller Amish communities that were launched by people leaving the older, larger communities because they want to avoid things they disagree with in the older communities; dating methods and traditions rank high in the things that people leave because of. I was raised in such an Amish communities. The preachers in my community often used the Northern Indiana dating habits as an example of where even their own people can go wrong. Dating was very regulated in our community. Casual dating was forbidden, and what did exist was much like "courting" where the boy had to get the girl to agree, but also the parents, before even a first date.

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Very good point. It is a big reason they move out and start new communities. Courting sounds more like what I want for my daughters.

  • @louiserobinson6505

    @louiserobinson6505

    2 жыл бұрын

    9999999990990

  • @snapmalloy5556
    @snapmalloy55563 жыл бұрын

    You're a natural story teller man. You may not think so, but you are. I so enjoy your videos.

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @usmc_sunscreenqueen

    @usmc_sunscreenqueen

    Жыл бұрын

    He really is!!! I love his videos as well!!!

  • @helenhicks7542
    @helenhicks75423 жыл бұрын

    Hello from Southampton England, ive got my foot up from some surgery and was bored stiff 🙄, but ive been binge watching all your stuff 😊 so interesting im hooked, thankyou for making all this so interesting 👏👏👏👍🙋‍♀️

  • @everettmenard4834
    @everettmenard48342 жыл бұрын

    I can see your eyes at 6 minutes and then I can tell you were reliving some real memories. Some real fun, fond memories. So awesome. So real

  • @lucilledaub5991
    @lucilledaub599111 ай бұрын

    Thanks for telling us about dating in the Amish.

  • @freeatlast5499
    @freeatlast54993 жыл бұрын

    Oh wow. This makes me appreciate the typical first date in non Amish culture...meet for a coffee at Starbucks. How awkward to be stuck for 24 plus hours with someone when it’s not going well. 😜

  • @davidjones7503

    @davidjones7503

    2 жыл бұрын

    Worst case scenario if things aren't working out, it's like sleeping on an overseas flight. Lol. Ya wake up and respectfully exit forward.

  • @jeanholley5820
    @jeanholley58203 жыл бұрын

    Wow I really learned a lot thanks!

  • @janearcher999
    @janearcher9993 жыл бұрын

    Dating is pure hell in any culture, but the Amish you describe seem to have plunged the process into the deepest circle of hell.

  • @Ps114REXIVD

    @Ps114REXIVD

    3 жыл бұрын

    It's like they decided, "get it all out, get it over and done with, then we move on"...it might be the sanest solution of all others...parents trying to keep their daughters away from boys and so on.

  • @jean6061
    @jean60613 жыл бұрын

    I have a friend who left her Amish church, in part, due to what she called, "bed dating". How does such a custom find validation is a community that claims to abide by the Bible?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Simply because they hold traditional things as more important then scripture. Amish won’t admit this but they do

  • @carolbenson9659

    @carolbenson9659

    Жыл бұрын

    Explain the story of Ruth going to the bedside of Boaz.She Didn't really know him!

  • @natalijaasbjornsen8827
    @natalijaasbjornsen88273 жыл бұрын

    I would give the guys advice to make sure the girl "likes" them BEFORE they invite her. I used to be a Protestant( now I attend a Beachy Amish church), and I was invited to date 3 times by guys I "did not like". How about "FLIRTING"with her before that? The men who know art of flirting usually are more successful. When you look the girl in the eye, and if you feel response, that she gives you a green light, then invite her for a date. When those guys I did not like invited me I was shocked and surprised because they did not have an "eye contact with me, and have not even flirted'. But remember : Never flirt with married people!

  • @williambarr2698
    @williambarr2698 Жыл бұрын

    I have been around the Amish and plain people most of my life. In fact for a number of year my best friend is Amish. I stayed close to him even after he married and with his young growing family. My life was changing and he ended up in the lot and ordained deacon. Out of my sincere respect I allowed our friendship to grow apart knowing he had to learn his duties. He has always been sincere about his faith and me mine. I did not want him to have any conflict with how I believe and his duty to his calling. We still talk from time to time and I miss my youth and what he his and his wife's family still mean to me. He is sincere in his duties as a Deacon. I have no doubt he understands the New Birth and loves Christ. When he started dating Bed Courtship was so odd to me and still is. My question was and still is. How do a people that on the surface seem to be pure and have maintained a number of noble Christian values end up in what seems so foul? I understand how it conflicts the community and has even caused splits over the years. I believe I know how it started a few hundred years ago it was a part of the wider culture, the horse and buggy kept it alive. With all of the folks that use a driver to take them places for everything else why not a date that starts and ends at a appropriate time. Young people are a bundle of hormones couple that with drinking often then putting them in bed together is it any wonder that sudden out of normal season a baptism and wedding have to be held. Young people will experiment but why remove barriers. I will always love and respect the Amish I pray they read the pure word of God so that they understand and truly experience the new birth and become a new creature in Christ. It's a beautiful way to live on a narrow path with the light of Christ showing the way.

  • @MissLady-pq4hc
    @MissLady-pq4hc3 жыл бұрын

    Love listening to you.

  • @DancingThunderbird1003
    @DancingThunderbird10033 жыл бұрын

    Yes, I watched Eli's interview and am blown away with the "bundling" thing. Seems a bit to "English" like to me! Crazy it's okay to bundle, but not have a reflective triangle?!

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Makes no sense does it. When you grow up with these odd rules they just seem normal.

  • @gardenmusicnotebook2748

    @gardenmusicnotebook2748

    2 жыл бұрын

    I have heard about this custom before, but it was in colonial America. I can't remember if it was a specific ethnic group or not.

  • @Jess-xl1wd
    @Jess-xl1wd3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video. 💚

  • @bretgumpert5992
    @bretgumpert59922 жыл бұрын

    Right on great video

  • @diannachamp3888
    @diannachamp38883 жыл бұрын

    Wow this is interesting the dating process.

  • @louisedost8476
    @louisedost8476 Жыл бұрын

    Found you from Eli Yoder😇😊❤️‼️

  • @h.w.a.batterink1027
    @h.w.a.batterink10273 жыл бұрын

    Thank you❤️🤗

  • @Joseph88keyz
    @Joseph88keyz3 жыл бұрын

    When you were telling about how they would spend the night together, my mind went instantly to a girl in my youth and her very overprotective father. It made me laugh because I know there was no way under the sun that he would have ever allowed that. As much as I liked her it would have been awkward at that point of the relationship anyway.

  • @clynn3813
    @clynn38133 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like the “idea” may have been also -in addition to the time factor of using horse and buggy and possibly how it started - was to give the daters an idea of what marriage is and would be with the person they are dating.🤔

  • @kyrieteleison3009
    @kyrieteleison30093 жыл бұрын

    I can see you processing your thoughts on this as you talked lol. I’m covering my face in shock lol 🙈

  • @janelmpls612

    @janelmpls612

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’m glad I’m not the only one that noticed that lol

  • @gabriellejackson6327
    @gabriellejackson63273 жыл бұрын

    I know this is kinda off topic, but I just finished reading the book you recommended “behind blue curtains” and it was really good, but very depressing. Thanks for the recommendation

  • @lizzieturbeville4089

    @lizzieturbeville4089

    3 жыл бұрын

    Another book is recommend is "Plain Anna". It just came out and is on Amazon. I used to go to church with this woman when I was young. I had no idea of what she went through till years later. But I never went to school with their children.

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Your welcome. Yep it is depressing but thankfully she has found healing and freedom.

  • @rociinolte9473
    @rociinolte94733 жыл бұрын

    Very interesting.

  • @homegrown1015
    @homegrown10153 жыл бұрын

    Wow! What a crazy way to date...my parents would have had a fit. Just seems like a weird way of dating 🤔 It sounds like it works for some, which is great. Blessings to you❣

  • @GraceNcube
    @GraceNcube2 жыл бұрын

    How would those in Rumspringa in your community decide between the Clinton Youth and the Car Youth? Was it based on family being more strict/ conservative? Or was it to the individual in Rumspringa to be able to freely decide their preferences and comfort level of cars vs buggies & Amish clothing vs English clothing? Thanks so much for describing your community and culture.

  • @Quarton
    @Quarton3 жыл бұрын

    Good video! Long ago, I found a pamphlet that explained what "Bundling" was - what it involved. It explained that this was with parental permission, of course. But, the young couple, after they'd been seeing each other for a good while, and it looked like they'd be getting married - Then the guy would stay overnight. There would be a bed with a board down the middle, lengthwise, that separated the two overnight. This provided an opportunity to really get an understanding about what married life would be like together. After a period of time, over a few times bundling, they'd then announce plans to marry - or not. Anyway, that's it, simplified! (Yep! No sex was involved, . . . well, it wasn't supposed to!)

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    That seems so crazy to me! Thank you for sharing.

  • @Quarton

    @Quarton

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@theamishpotato That's exactly what I thought when I first heard about "bundling"! (No way would I allow my son, [or even less, my daughter!] to do something like that!) It's a different "custom" and that's for sure! My ancestors came over from Switzerland back in the 1700's, speaking that dialect of German. So, my family roots go back a ways to the PA Dutch.

  • @carolbenson9659
    @carolbenson9659 Жыл бұрын

    This is one area that I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole. Highly interesting though ! Crazy !

  • @sharinmythoughts2510
    @sharinmythoughts25103 жыл бұрын

    I am in the market for one of those campers or mobile homes whatever they're called.. 60 years old, I want to buy one so that I can be out in Texas and drive to Michigan. I am currently in Southern California but I want to know the best one that I should buy and I like the brand that you guys sell I really like that brand I like to cook a lot and I don't need storage for anything else maybe blankets but I just like cooking a food... Do you have any suggestions on a model that I should look at? Thanks for your help, you're a great guy.. I like your channel I like your subject I think you are awesome and the world needs more people like you! Live out your face, God has your back at all times He said he will never leave us or forsake us He has a plan for you and you are his child!!!❤️‼️

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    There are so many different models and most all of them are built as cheap as possible. I suggest just doing a ton of research before buying

  • @TheKkmoses
    @TheKkmoses3 жыл бұрын

    As a parent of teenage girls would you want them to date like some of the Amish communities? I’m not sure I would have let my daughter date. I guess all we can do as parents is pray God’s protection and wisdom over them. God bless you!

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Its a horrible tradition. I know my parents didn't like it but its just the way it was done. the words; "you have beautiful eyes....can I touch them"

  • @melindad180
    @melindad1803 жыл бұрын

    There is a little cake sandwich that is made all over Lancaster PA and I think it originated with the Amish, called woopie pies. Do "woopie pies" have anything to do with dating in the Amish community, or was my family (not Amish), unknowingly, just making jokes?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Maybe they do in other communities but in ours it was simply a delicious treat.

  • @AbenaAnima

    @AbenaAnima

    2 жыл бұрын

    This is a funny comment.

  • @terrysargent9193
    @terrysargent91933 жыл бұрын

    The Amish group i was friends with the boys and girlswent to the singing Sunday evening, after the singing the boy would take the girl home, they would go into the living room ( no light) so I personally don't know what they did, the rest of us would set in the kitchen...the fiunny thing was when I would leave to go home myself, I would hear a voice telling me good night coming from the boys buggy...he always had to take his old maid sister home from the singing, so made her wait in the buggy till he was ready to go home. There were night when it was a little cool... lol Must have worked the have been married for a number of yrs and have grand children.. this was in South Eastern Indiana.

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Haha poor sister.

  • @goldtopazasylum
    @goldtopazasylum3 жыл бұрын

    i agree, it would be awkward being with someone for two days and gosh what if it turns out you can't stand each other,LOL

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    yep, not fun.

  • @ruthiepooh86
    @ruthiepooh863 жыл бұрын

    Wow, strange custom. Rumspringa sounds like it appeals to the basest instincts, certainly not biblical

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yep definitely not. I have a few vids explaining it.

  • @yvonneschlemmer9897
    @yvonneschlemmer9897 Жыл бұрын

    I found all 9ff this very interesting,, please tell me I live in South Afrika, do we have Amish in SA

  • @joanrichter4718
    @joanrichter47183 жыл бұрын

    Hi, I think it’s absolutely crazy how in the Amish community they sleep together on their first date. Yes I realize it happens in the “English“ world but for some reason this just seems crazy. Is there any birth-control that’s practiced? And the parents know that this possibly might be happening?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    I don't think the parents always know and most don't like it. My mom tried her best to get my sisters to sleep seperately. Im sure most in my community are aware of birth control. I think most did not actually have sex on the first date in my time.

  • @joanrichter4718

    @joanrichter4718

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@theamishpotato Thank you, CJ, for always being so great about answering comments!

  • @carltonthepug

    @carltonthepug

    2 жыл бұрын

    Birth control is forbidden in Amish culture. And I can’t tell you how much premarital sex exists in the Amish community. And the child sexual abuse. And animal (especially their horses) abuse, puppy milling, etc.

  • @kenpayne5776
    @kenpayne57763 жыл бұрын

    Hi CJ, you often use the term "Clinton Youth". Where does that term come from?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    That is a question I can’t answer. It’s only used in the northern Indiana community I believe. I’m assuming that group of youth originated from Clinton township in Elkhart County. Just a guess though.

  • @3941602
    @3941602 Жыл бұрын

    Looks like a setup for some serious butter churning

  • @kathrinsides2838
    @kathrinsides2838 Жыл бұрын

    I can’t imagine having a guy or guys sleep over or having a date always last overnight as a teenager especially with my parents being not just aware of this, but fully endorsing the practice & insisting that they not have sex. It’s one thing if they’re sleeping in different rooms-barely, but it’s another thing entirely if they’re sleeping in the same bed. That’s also too long for a date to last especially if it’s just the expectation.

  • @BAn-mu4qe
    @BAn-mu4qe2 жыл бұрын

    Dear Mr. CJ, Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and opinions about dating in the Amish community but I am a little confused. You mentioned cars....cars? And, the boy grabs the girls bag and takes it out of the house for her...and the parents allow this...? A girl sometimes tells her family to 'disappear'? And the father puts up with that? I know that you are giving an example from a small part of the community but it is very shocking. I am neither Amish nor Mennonite but I would never tolerate that if I had a 16 year old daughter. I agree with you 100% that the boy or man should just take her to eat out, talk there and he should bring her back home the same night. They will both know if there's any chemistry or if they even like being in each other's presence on the first or second date. Perhaps everything you described happened during rumspringa while she decided to still live at home? I notice that you were blushing and seemed so shy while you were telling the story. I find that quite sweet and refreshing. But remember, you don't have to share things that make you feel uncomfortable! May God bless you and your family. Take care. Barbara 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah check out my videos on rumspringa

  • @SantaFe19484
    @SantaFe19484 Жыл бұрын

    Whatever happened to the custom of the couple sleeping in bed with a piece of wood in between them?

  • @SydneySewerat
    @SydneySewerat3 жыл бұрын

    I'm astounded how quickly they get sexual so quickly. In Australia, conventional protestant Christian practices in dating seem almost puritan compared with some of these US Amish. Mind you, I like the system in The Patriot, sown in bags for the night!

  • @Ps114REXIVD
    @Ps114REXIVD3 жыл бұрын

    That's so weird...sleeping together in a bed...in our communities and how we grew up, a boy wasn't even allowed in your room...you would get a beating for that...but there's a lot of innocence in your story. Listening to you, I wonder about the parents...how did they deal with the sleepovers? I don't know about sleeping in the same bed...that's just weird! This is a very controversial subject! Could you show the words that were on screen as the video ended? The thumbnails were blocking it.

  • @snapmalloy5556

    @snapmalloy5556

    3 жыл бұрын

    "You have beautiful eyes, can I touch them"

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes a very bad practice. No boy is staying in our daughters room in our house! I don’t think the parents are a fan of it but it’s been a tradition for so long that they just go along with it. Most try to raise their kids to not engage in sex but they are teens so we all know how that works.

  • @Ps114REXIVD

    @Ps114REXIVD

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@theamishpotato kids will probably do it more when the parents aren't in the next room...probably do it somewhere else, than in the house, where everyone else is.

  • @louiseely5099
    @louiseely50993 жыл бұрын

    Coming from 16 yrs of male/female strict separation …. This is just weird!!!

  • @louiseely5099

    @louiseely5099

    3 жыл бұрын

    Fast forward … No way would it be OK for my daughter to have any male overnight guess in her room or in the same house for that matter!

  • @Ps114REXIVD

    @Ps114REXIVD

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@louiseely5099 my mom wouldn't allow any boy within a mile radius of the house, let alone, in the same room.

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yep no boy is going to be in the same room as our girls in this house!

  • @megangreene3955
    @megangreene3955 Жыл бұрын

    I , unfortunately, did share a bed sometimes with my then fiance. We didn't have sex, but it was still very wrong. We would take naps on the same bed at his parents house. We would also spend the whole night together in my apartment talking and playing video games. I would make him breakfast 🥞 in the morning. So, some of those Amish dating practices were something I actually did even though I was never Amish. Looking back, I detest the fact that we spent so much time alone together. I don't think that courtship should ever be conducted alone for hours at a time. I wouldn't allow my kids to do what I did in courtship. They wouldn't be allowed to have their boyfriend over all night. Yet, despite all of this, I was still a virgin when I walked down the church aisle on my wedding day. I don't believe in casual dating. I believe in courtship to find the right spouse. I also don't believe in kissing on the lips before marriage because it was too much of a temptation. I also don't think that couples should embrace until they get engaged because physical affection makes it harder for people to keep a clear head about whether the other person is a good match for them. A certain amount of objectivity is needed in order to ascertain whether you would be a good match or not. Sadly, I found that out the hard way. 100% would not recommend the way I dated my husband.

  • @jasonthatjason1912
    @jasonthatjason1912 Жыл бұрын

    Some of this sounds a lot like the culture I grew up in in Indiana among mostly Baptists and Catholics but also Lutheran Episcopalian and Mormons - we all got along pretty well. I definitely know what it's like to sleep in the same bed with a girl when be both knew to keep it PG-13 even without parental supervision. On Bundling in particular, - I have come across several variations on this in history and sometimes recent history. It involves the boy and girl in the same bed but separated. It may appear a little odd today but they were usually prevented from touching each other in some way - often sleeping in what we would call their underwear. It could be done by being literally sewn snugly into a blanket "cocoon" made for that purpose or with strips of cloth bandages. Sometimes a plank of wood would also separate them but the idea was they could sit there and talk with no danger of anything undesired happening. It also doesn't appear to be a strictly Amish thing - or even dependent upon one's faith. I'm somewhat familiar with a modern version practiced by non Amish folks in the midwest (Central Indiana) with the prospective couple each wrapped up in about 20 Ace bandages. After dinner and some activities, they would change into something like a bathing suit or unitard (something a little more than modern underwear) and they would have both legs wrapped individually and then together and arms wrapped down to their sides. (The boy and girl were totally separate) Chastity was absolutely guaranteed. Sometimes this was done in the girl's home or at a church youth group overnighter. Picture a fairly dark gymnasium with pairs of individually wrapped mummies laying on their backs and quietly talking to each other till they fell asleep. They were advised to not drink a lot of water after dinner. There were always parental chaparrones watching over. It makes you put the physical aspects on hold and get to know the person inside first. And you get to find out who snores.

  • @FacelessJanus
    @FacelessJanus3 жыл бұрын

    Going to the girls room. Two questions who opens the door ?? And if you just asked her out for the first time, how the x would you know which room is hers ??

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    I can’t remember anyone opening the door. Just knock and wait a second or two and walk in. Someone might yell “come on in” from somewhere. You just head upstairs and hope you get the right room. Sometimes it takes a few tries.

  • @dianeroe1848
    @dianeroe18482 жыл бұрын

    How did you have enough money to buy a car and did you have to hide it from the younger siblings while you were dating?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    2 жыл бұрын

    Check out my rumspringa videos

  • @holsen2
    @holsen23 жыл бұрын

    A bit off topic-Amish hygiene: do they use deodorants? Do the girls ever shave their legs?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    The girls in our community did. They were very clean. We used deodorant and showered every day. Not all communities are like this though.

  • @holsen2

    @holsen2

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@theamishpotato thanks! I wasn't sure if it would be looked upon as worldly. I originally came from Fremont, MI and the Amish has really taken over the town. It's a very rural town of 4 thousand people and the Amish population there has exploded like crazy. They seem to be less conservative though still very perplexing to me. If they look at "English" as living in the devil's playground, why then would it be okay to ride in our cars and purchase things like Mountain Dew, disposable diapers (adult and baby) and TONS of Cool Whip? These are just a couple of things I noted when I lived there. Your first video, and also the Breaking the Silence, My Amish Story, cleared up a lot of my questions. I just never realized how different each community was. In fact, the ones back home we used to joke saying that they must be the outcasts from the PA Amish because they are a lot less strict than what we thought all Amish are.

  • @bobbybooshae8720
    @bobbybooshae87202 жыл бұрын

    What part of northern indiana ? I’m in northern indiana !

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    2 жыл бұрын

    Shipshewana, middlebury area

  • @gwainknight4907
    @gwainknight49073 жыл бұрын

    Would an Amish guy be able to marry and live with an "English" woman? And vice versa, an Amish woman able to marry and live with, in the Amish community, an "English" guy? Would the "English" have to convert their faith, learn the language, give up everything outside of Amish rules as well? What if no dates are available in a community - Will the bishops waive the rules and allow a Amish female to date outside the community in that situation? or would she be expected to live a single life?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    If an English person married and Amish person the English person would have to live the Amish life. An Amish spouse wouldn’t be allowed to live in an English home.

  • @gwainknight4907

    @gwainknight4907

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@theamishpotato Thanks, i saw a Schwarzentruber girl who had no date because her community would not allow her to date anyone outside her community, that's why i asked if she would be expected to live a single life, i would not blame her at all for leaving the Amish.

  • @carolbenson9659
    @carolbenson9659 Жыл бұрын

    What is the difference between a cold winter date in a car and a cold winter date in a warm bed? What wicll be will be . Let your conscience be

  • @cadet_corporal_no_name_509
    @cadet_corporal_no_name_50923 күн бұрын

    Can girls ever ask guys? From what I'm hearing I'm guessing not. I would like to know about that though.

  • @DerekVuong7799
    @DerekVuong7799 Жыл бұрын

    That sounds more fun than modern dating. Because there isnt any sleep over. Lol

  • @allenbyler5743
    @allenbyler5743 Жыл бұрын

    I'm amish 17 years old and I've had a gf for a year and 3 months and we already have a 4 month old boy 😀😀

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    Жыл бұрын

    Ohhhmmm. Do wash loppich 😋. Get married and have more! Children are a blessing

  • @mrsmeedz
    @mrsmeedz2 жыл бұрын

    Are you from goshen?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    2 жыл бұрын

    That community, yes.

  • @peachy4713
    @peachy47132 жыл бұрын

    I mean no disrespect but I find this super odd and weird how they gave you guys so much freedom to have sex and make out … I would think they would be more strict? It seems that way especially if it was just first date and nothing serious like marriage related I would prefer regular dating but with respect. my bf asked my dad for permission to date me when I was around 19 lol I liked it alot

  • @enikofarkas7176
    @enikofarkas7176 Жыл бұрын

    Oh my goodness! Spending night together awfully bad idea😳. That should be a big NO NO especially if we talk about Christians

  • @benjaming7850
    @benjaming7850 Жыл бұрын

    ''such a horrible way of dating'' >Meanwhile tinder

  • @chivone21
    @chivone212 жыл бұрын

    Ugh. Not to be rude, or sound like a jerk, I mean, it was very informative.....but I fell asleep at 13:00 and don't remember anything after that. Just a side note...I wonder how many secretely depressed Amish woman there are hidden/packed away "doing their duty" and going through the motions. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong, but I feel so sad. Oh, and I'm definitely not into that whole "partying scene" I'm quite reserved or "traditional", but I just got a very sad feeling here...

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’m sure there are some. Maybe many

  • @cajuncraftysue
    @cajuncraftysue4 ай бұрын

    Anyone that wants an idea of what bundling is. Watch the movie Patriot. Heath Ledger is bundled for the night in the bed with this girl he’s in love with. It’s funny. A date for 24 hours?! What if its not going well? Longest date of your life! 😅

  • @onrycodger
    @onrycodger Жыл бұрын

    Heeey girl! You're gonna sit on my lap ALL night while we boogie down ruff country roads. Then, you kno what? After we crash, YOU'RE gonna get up a fix me breakfast, lol.😂😃😂 You kno that's gonna go over well with Papa!

  • @lucilledaub5991
    @lucilledaub59919 ай бұрын

    Bundling !,,, That sounds like you’re letting anything happen in bed.

  • @tracyfisher3435
    @tracyfisher34352 жыл бұрын

    They should get to know each other first

  • @Thu_Gringatoriana_593_Xsiempre
    @Thu_Gringatoriana_593_Xsiempre Жыл бұрын

    Bundling is when you are tied up in bed with like a board or something between you and you talk all night in bed that's as far as what I know it to be

  • @hannaliesel876
    @hannaliesel8763 жыл бұрын

    As much as we want the "ideal" situation for our kids, God gives them free choice. You may warn them as a parent about different situations in life, but they still have to make their own mistakes. I have spent many times on my knees praying for my child, since you and your wife are parents as well, I'm guessing you know about worry and all the prayers you pray for your children. Its a rite of passage - all the worry and praying! LOL But seriously, I believe "courting" is the way to go. There are Christian books out there on the subject of dating, maybe you and your wife might enjoy reading one together? I will remember you and your wife's girls in prayer. Hope you all have a wonderful 4th of July!

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @noonereally4798
    @noonereally47983 жыл бұрын

    That actually sounds really nice.

  • @ginasantos1219
    @ginasantos1219 Жыл бұрын

    Me likey 😍

  • @natashapeeters988
    @natashapeeters9883 жыл бұрын

    Maybe 2 weeks because the girls want to choose? ?

  • @BloodNote
    @BloodNote2 жыл бұрын

    I wonder how many kids were born out of wedlock to these teens. This type of dating just screams for it to happen...🤣

  • @darreljohnson5416
    @darreljohnson54163 жыл бұрын

    What about being gay in the Amish community?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    It is non existent. If any are they don’t tell anyone. They would have to leave to live that lifestyle

  • @dancub926

    @dancub926

    2 жыл бұрын

    ?

  • @dancub926

    @dancub926

    2 жыл бұрын

    '

  • @ryananthony4840
    @ryananthony48402 жыл бұрын

    Lmao that shit in the movies is not reality

  • @darlaballenger2357
    @darlaballenger2357 Жыл бұрын

    Wow! I do not agree at all with the dating. No way is any of my kids unmarried going to be sleeping together in my house. I fill sorry for y'all on this one. Lol

  • @JesusIsMyFirst
    @JesusIsMyFirst3 жыл бұрын

    Well the Amish cant resist all sins, despite what they think.

  • @JesusIsMyFirst

    @JesusIsMyFirst

    3 жыл бұрын

    Oh it gets pretty bad.

  • @lauraswihart4816
    @lauraswihart48163 жыл бұрын

    Doesn't seem all that bad - I was not allowed to date ! I started dating at 21 ! And that's not good- 😩

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    I agree. I think its great when people are marrying at that age.

  • @iamanapachehelicopter
    @iamanapachehelicopter2 жыл бұрын

    What crime do you have to commit in a past life, to get suck with the name "shitler"

  • @extraterrestrial4287

    @extraterrestrial4287

    Жыл бұрын

    Combination of Hitler and Shit.

  • @deerslayer9point
    @deerslayer9point3 жыл бұрын

    What is the Clinton youth?

  • @theamishpotato

    @theamishpotato

    3 жыл бұрын

    Youth that didn’t drive cars or drink. Check out my first rumspringa vid.

  • @maranathacomelord7115
    @maranathacomelord7115 Жыл бұрын

    The main thing I've always wondered about the Amish is why they get away with pulling kids teeth with plyers, Not having mandatory vaccines for school. Living off grid without having to have electricity. The list goes on and on. I am left to believe they have a well paid for agreement with the Police and Government.

  • @jaemeh09
    @jaemeh09 Жыл бұрын

    I thought it was called soaking