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My aunt always told me "When someone asks you what you are looking for in a man, Tell them I'm NOT looking, I'm supposed to be FOUND

@bernadette3239

4 жыл бұрын

Oh goodness I agree,one time a guy am dating asked me if I am looking for a MAN I told him NO I am not looking, but a MAN is looking for me...

@RMlux88

4 жыл бұрын

🗣 Issa word

@zuhoormahamed6845

4 жыл бұрын

sminno 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@ sminno YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@@bernadette3239 YESSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!

The problem is men want you to chase them nowadays. We have way too many feminine men these days. Smdh. But I refuse to chase a man

@littleblacklawyergermanbla2008

4 жыл бұрын

U are soooo right

@velvet123

4 жыл бұрын

Very true. One acquaintance female say that a lot of man cant keep a conversation. They think you have to chase them.

@san22931

4 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏YEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSS!

@tania0070

4 жыл бұрын

Now that is the absolute truth!!

@shelly8965luv

4 жыл бұрын

@Song Dress: I've noticed that with certain men too...and what's sad is that I thought that most men of a certain age demographic would not subscribe to doing that...but some are...smh

Imma die single before I chase somebody’s dusty son.

@Sunfl0w33r

4 жыл бұрын

A-MEN 😂🙅🏽‍♀️

@missmcintosh5316

4 жыл бұрын

That's right.

@YPM498

4 жыл бұрын

😂🤣

@kumbish1021

4 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha

@AMinnie

4 жыл бұрын

Rae This really got me 😂

I met my husband on a girls trip In Cancun. He chased me all over the damn resort. Called me when he got back to the USA. He drove from philly to nyc to take me on a dinner the next day I returned home. In our second date he tricked me into meeting his family lol he was NOT playing! He chased the helllll out of me. We are happy married and I thank God everyday For our union ❤️

@SeaFlower38

Жыл бұрын

Hahah he is something else then huh? That's awesome

@massageistherapy

Жыл бұрын

Great story😀👏🏽

@pondering-princess

Ай бұрын

This is literal chasing LOL

My mom told me when i was a teenager "never ever chase a man, ever! It's not your job. If a man likes you or wants you, you don't need to chase he will do the chasing himself" - best advice ever

@Debnath-ji

2 жыл бұрын

My father told me when i was a teen ."never ever chase a women" its not your job if a women wants you she will chase you.....😓

@sysye

2 жыл бұрын

@@Debnath-ji oh.. Poor little boy 😂 This is the most feminine comment I've seen from a man, seriously.

@Batman6544

Жыл бұрын

@@Debnath-ji here here 😅

Very well said. Real men hunt! I’ve been happily married for 27 years! Trust me ladies if he wants you, he’ll do the chasing.

@maxine6933

4 жыл бұрын

things have changed

@orokremagyar6580

4 жыл бұрын

Max ine that's also true!

@thesilentwarrior6769

3 жыл бұрын

Not chase He pursue her if he really wants her

@thesilentwarrior6769

3 жыл бұрын

When a man wants you he will pursue you .... Chasing someone is wrong !!! Doing that you have no respect for yourself

@lady_sits

3 жыл бұрын

@Scarlet Rose So True!

Men notice your absence more than your presence. I love the famous "How come you never call me? Lol

@YPM498

4 жыл бұрын

Loll if this isn’t true

@sonyab2u974

4 жыл бұрын

Most if them are very lonely but they definitely wont say it

@kaebaegotsnax1907

3 жыл бұрын

Omg I read this yesterday and later that evening my bf asked me this and fell out 🤣😂😭👏🏾👏🏾

@sj-lo4gl

3 жыл бұрын

what do i say in response to this?

@djgeronimomrmotivationalad6212

3 жыл бұрын

Hi men here....

Women who beg a man to stay will not get the best treatment he can offer. He will search for a woman with higher standards while he enjoys the conveniences a desperate woman offers.

@jadesiress3382

4 жыл бұрын

@@shea88barbie I know, sometimes it's hard to walk away and be single but it's the best thing in the long run if the relationship is toxic for you. Trying to stay with a narcissistic manipulator can totally destroy a sincere person too. Plus, being single opens us up for healing and a better future partner.

@epannellwsu1

4 жыл бұрын

Facts

@SO-oq7ky

4 жыл бұрын

Talk the tings girl

@lovejune22

4 жыл бұрын

Jade Siress this.☝🏾

@wendys8923

4 жыл бұрын

Jade Siress You said a mouthful!! SMH.....

I keep telling my daughter this, make them respect you by respecting yourself first and knowing your worth

@paulette904

5 жыл бұрын

Amen! Good word and great advice!!!

@sailorivo9659

4 жыл бұрын

What does she worth? By saying this you point that "man doesnt worth", right? Dont you think to be worth, someone needs to get a job, be self sufficent, then be a nice person and protect the people he/she likes? Your eyes are blind folded and you cannot judge without considering gender. Pathetic.

@rhyndawatson4173

4 жыл бұрын

@@sailorivo9659 Self worth and respect is pathetic? Maybe you need to reevaluate yourself and check your grammar.

@sailorivo9659

4 жыл бұрын

Rhynda Watson I said "pathetic" for your mindset. Males have self respect and worth too. *Maybe* more than ass shakin, money eatin, kid slappin, diamond ring wearin, self respectin women. But im not sure, who am i to judge.

@rhyndawatson4173

4 жыл бұрын

@@sailorivo9659 You are being very small minded in describing every woman in that manner, not all are out shaking their asses and slapping their kids, most are self sufficient, educated and strong trying to teach the younger generation better than what someone like you depicts us to be, very stereotypical of you to say and just to be clear I teach my son the same values to have self respect and know his worth, it was never about gender for me. I am done entertaining your comments, best of luck to you in life, well wishes, peace and love

She has him because HE WANTED HER period. She’s confident, intelligent and successful there are many women like that in his line of work. At the end of the day the Man has to choose.

@Gwennie525

4 жыл бұрын

You just read my mind.

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@MissSJ Of course he wanted her!!! Yall missing the point. They have known each other for awhile. The man HAS TO WANT YOU, THAT IS A GIVEN, But if you don't allow a Real man to chase you and get you ( because he wants you, than he gets everything you have to offer and will very seldom marry you ( if marriage is what you want). Its the NEXT STEP AFTER TRULY WANTING YOU , the ABILITY TO DO WHAT IT TAKES (THE CHASE & ACTION) TO GET YOU!!!! THAT'S THE POINT OF THE ARTICLE. If a man does NOT WANT YOU WHAT IS THE POINT????

@laylalovely6190

4 жыл бұрын

Man chose woman for a reason lol it is what it is lol easy dusty woman will never be chosen as wife just a side chicken lol

@mimihappy4563

4 жыл бұрын

Part of this is truth however,at the end of the day the woman has the power. That’s why woman should always date multiple men until you find “the one”. You never want to feel like your competing for him even if you are letting him chase. Always have options.

@shannonpierre5322

4 жыл бұрын

Dominica Mitchell yes good advice!

Walking away don't always work. Some men will chase you and still not value you.

@zaharasikhosie600

4 жыл бұрын

So so soooooooooh true

@teresastrickland4061

4 жыл бұрын

I agree!! They will chase you just so they can control you. I have experience and it is horrible! I don't want any man that much !!😎

@brownskinblackbarbie2363

4 жыл бұрын

True so True. They still don’t want you after all this shit she talking bull shit

@---nj7hl

4 жыл бұрын

Teresa Strickland lol aka Stalkers

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

THEN THE QUESTION BECOMES IS HE THE ONE YOU NEED??? IF HE DOES NOT VALUE YOU THEN, NEXT!!! NO MORE COMMUNICATION CHASE WHAT I'M DONE !!!

I know so many women who look at me like an alien when I say I’m not having kids before I get a ring. Having a child for a man is a privilege, I’m not going to hand out to the first man that calls me pretty. Before y’all hate I am married.

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@Claire Joseph I APPLAUD YOU!!! i'VE NEVER UNDERSTOOD THE LET ME GIVE HIM A BABY SO HE'LL WANT ME THING. That ended in th 50's they (men ) just moved somewhere else. Now days they will live across the street from you pregnant and ignore you. MEN NEED TO LOVE, RESPECT YOU AND CONSTANTLY SHOW YOU BEFORE YOU GIVE HIM ANYTHING ESPECIALLY SOMETHING AS IMPORTANT AND PRECIOUS AS A CHILD!! STILL PERPLEXED ON THE BABY MOMA SYNDROME!!!

@sarahthuo5136

3 жыл бұрын

Spot on... I've always lived by that motto, "no babies until I get married ". Ladies, should stop being to submissive that they become slaves. You have the power, use it wisely

@klassycountryk

2 жыл бұрын

Every should be like that in my opinion 🤷🏾‍♀️ The pregnancy journey is expensive and could cost you your life. If a man isn't willing to show he's serious by marrying and setting up a foundation to grow a family, a woman doesn't need to have his kids.

@shannongray-chappell6082

Жыл бұрын

Smart ♀️👠

My hubby proposed after 8 months and wanted to get married right away. Ladies we just need to choose better men!! We can't choose bums and expect them to be what we need them to be. My husband is a provider, professes his love and provides.

@Syl182

2 жыл бұрын

Same! And SPOT ON!

I don't think walking away from an argument is the right thing to do in a relationship. However, walking away from a relationship that costs you your peace of mind is necessary.

@zeynand4039

4 жыл бұрын

Depebds on the person Some people need to gather their thoughts before shouting and not bringing the point of view across.

@87Lohan

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed, I think u need to pick ur battles wisely not every argument is worth entertaining but sometimes as a woman ur voice must be heard. Walking away from every argument is a form of manipulation imo passive aggression isn't a good long term solution in relationships, it builds big resentment.

@maureen_momo

4 жыл бұрын

Arguing with a man is a waste of your time. I’ve learnt this the hard way. Arguing with a man puts you in a masculine state OR puts you in an overly emotional state where you are unable to rationally contribute to the discussion. Walking away may seem like the wrong thing to do in a relationship (that’s what we are told- sit and fix it) but it’s the best thing to do.

@natalieosmond6647

4 жыл бұрын

Waithera, it depends on the man. Some men are just not emotionally mature to handle intense arguments.

@estherphillip

4 жыл бұрын

exactly, i agree @ Gourmet

as a man, if a women chase its a turn-off

@TheNewFeminine

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment.🎯

@timingiseverything8022

5 жыл бұрын

I need to hear dis and it is true cause wen I don't chase he chase and shows he cares.

@timingiseverything8022

5 жыл бұрын

Ephraim zimeuni thanks for writing dis comment as a man how to make a man chase u and really want u? As a man point of view

@kwameopoku3576

4 жыл бұрын

Soo true

@thebeautifulone3609

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you sir. I appreciate that comment.

Preach ladies!!!!!!!!! My daughter is 21 and she knows this already. I told her it’s better to be alone than with the wrong man. I have distanced myself from the man I love until he gets it. The love is still there but I refused to bend until he makes a move. Stand in your power!!

@Domeng09

4 жыл бұрын

Stand your ground sister

@happyholidays8230

4 жыл бұрын

Zina Lewis I like the way you think

@Nova-oi1ug

4 жыл бұрын

Zina Lewis amen

@graceibelegbu189

4 жыл бұрын

I soooo love Your comment! I've also distanced Myself from him, until he gets it! I still have affection for him but a lot of things have to be readjusted!

@azzurebleutarot5031

4 жыл бұрын

FACE - Absolutely!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t know about Americans But As an East African Somali born I was raised to never let him know that you feel for him. Chasing after a man is shunned upon in my culture African girls in general are raised to know their worth

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

Smart women

@reo9475

4 жыл бұрын

Sophia ATN I’m an addicted of Nigeria movies I know in general Africans have similar cultures, families values We are raised similarly💖💖💖

@pourladentelle

4 жыл бұрын

Wow that's an advantage if culturally it's embedded for u

@Nikki-ci5ze

4 жыл бұрын

That_Lid •-• yeah you’re not American you don’t know we are the same African or not...sheesha Africans always have to compare. So fauking irritating

@reo9475

4 жыл бұрын

Nikki Ross According to my passport I’m an American, but not by birth tho American as an non blacks I’m not sure what comparisons you are addressing. Why are you irritated?

Thats what i tell my nieces never mark yourself down for any man. Get the ring first. Move on from time wasters. This world is big

@Gnabaj02

5 жыл бұрын

Tony Quick stfu 🙄

@IcedLipGloss

4 жыл бұрын

@Steven Brown yikes...imagine being this much of an embarrasment to the black community...i hope yall know that you're not a catch lol

@rosebeautybarsc

4 жыл бұрын

@Tony Quick go catch aids already with foreign u hurt hurt

@chaneldiva8484

4 жыл бұрын

Thats right!

@inmeditatewetrust

4 жыл бұрын

So true

This is his 3rd wife. Let's not give him or her all the props...until 5 years of marriage at least.

@nyembsafric1

4 жыл бұрын

🤪 third

@TurpuiTozay_health

4 жыл бұрын

People over hype relationships when they don’t even know what goes on behind close doors ESPECIALLY in hollyweird

@swoosh3684

4 жыл бұрын

Facts

@jeanwroberts

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed, let's see how this strategy works in forming a successful longterm relationship

@Redd91ful

4 жыл бұрын

P_ Soulful exactly. She’s hella young too

Women think it’s ok to go after men these days, aka “shooting your shot” first. I will never go after a man. When a man wants you, shy or not, he will definitely go after you. This is so exhausting. I will like you forever but will never go after you...

@estheradao

2 жыл бұрын

Same

Truth...this is how I’ve gotten 3 different proposals in my 20’s. I wasn’t playing games, I just wasn’t ready. There is a difference... I told my hubs “no” to dating 3 times, he pursued and we eventually dated then got married. He is THE BEST man and I’m so glad he pursued. We have a WONDERFUL life!💜💜💜

@graceibelegbu189

4 жыл бұрын

T.K. Sweeney , congrats

@takayasweeney

4 жыл бұрын

Grace Ibelegbu Thank you💜

“You cannot call yourself the prize looking like a A dust bunny. Can’t walk around looking homely, masculine, haggard, & busted”- damn that hit me 😳😂🤣 5:55

Old school rule my mom and aunts told me the man chases you if he wants you that's a man job

@moumou1003

4 жыл бұрын

Valarie Ford Amin sista lol

@zsazsa4332

4 жыл бұрын

Yep mines told me 2

@fastlearner2568

4 жыл бұрын

Valarie Ford I doubt if it is an old school rule ..do your research very well . You will see how important it is .

@justify798

4 жыл бұрын

@Red Pilled Well, it needs to change back. 💅

@maxasante5206

4 жыл бұрын

@@justify798 then you need to go back to the kitchen right lol. it seems you forget that women were conservative and not boss bitches at those times lol

Wow I've never thought of myself as a prize. I was just living. Thanks for sharing. New perspective

@dianacalderon7733

4 жыл бұрын

True!!

@princessmayaharriete.omowe1656

4 жыл бұрын

The woman is the prize. She does t have to chase she chooses from her suitors..even the bible says he who finds a wife.

There's a reason God says in Matthew 19:5 that a "MAN will leave his mother and his father and be joined to his wife". MEN are the chasers. WOMEN are the prize!

@jennifertrinta43

4 жыл бұрын

Yolanda Mutesasira big facts🔥

@lysairakoze5249

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!

@battletestedcane8457

4 жыл бұрын

Blasphemy

@tracer073

4 жыл бұрын

Can't take anybody serious who trying to apply fairytale books into real life

@mcwxiiiwhite8676

4 жыл бұрын

There is no god; stop the BS

She’s gorgeous and seems very mature and confident

That's how I got my husband, walking away,

@shae5053

4 жыл бұрын

Me too, and we have been married 26 years!

@michelisrael2139

4 жыл бұрын

@@shae5053 22 years for us😁

@17yogabbagabba

4 жыл бұрын

@@shae5053 Married my whole life lol. That's what's up.

@moumou1003

4 жыл бұрын

Michel Israel can you give us a method?😂

@beelovey9112

4 жыл бұрын

Ok.. but how?!

I'm not chasing a man anymore...PERIOD. I did it when I was young and stupid...lol...thinking that it made me powerful as a woman. I ended up regretting it each time. I now position myself to be pursued. If they are too insecure or prideful to pursue...they just miss the opportunity, and I'm willing to walk away from the potential relationship. Men have gotten out of the habit of having to EARN a woman's favor. They are treating women like Dollar Store merchandise instead of valuable treasures that we are. We all have to start giving those kind of men exactly what they deserve...NOTHING! And after their asses get tired of getting NOTHING...maybe they will wake up and MAN UP.

@princessmayaharriete.omowe1656

4 жыл бұрын

They will not maybe

@shyg4525

4 жыл бұрын

What will you do to earn a man of means ? All I hear is what y'all want, what are you giving to earn that ?

@maturelovechatswithlaura6471

4 жыл бұрын

​@@shyg4525 Simply put...A REAL woman is not going to do A DAMN THING to EARN a man of ANY kind...means or no means. Because a REAL woman understands what her value is as a woman and as a person. She knows what she adds to a man's life, and is not interested in PERFORMING for men who do not perceive that value. The Bible says that when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. So, according to GOD, it falls upon the man to find the woman that he thinks is right for himself. His mission at that point is to convince HER that HE is the man for HER by showing her that she is admired, respected and cherished. IT'S NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. If her feelings for him grow to be mutual then what the man will get is a QUALITY RELATIONSHIP, preferably a marriage, with a woman that loves, respects and cherishes him in return. This kind of woman is a loving and nurturing partner that a man can be proud and QUITE content to spend his life with. I hope that answers your question.

@eniko1237

3 жыл бұрын

Period

@Goddessvibesco

2 жыл бұрын

Love this comment 👌🏾

I hate seeing woman asking men to marry them. You made some excellent points!

@bunnyrivera765

4 жыл бұрын

They're really ruining traditional courtship Theres no way a woman that does that actually loves herself. It looks pathetic and sad I've seen videos of women doing that it seems desperate

@francisca4478

4 жыл бұрын

you women wants equality only when it benefits you, so hypocrite

@a.j.1819

3 жыл бұрын

@@francisca4478 we’re not raging feminists demanding quality here. You’re on the wrong channel sir.

This is why I been single for so many years I know my worth and keep my worth and value.

@boss_gaming6300

4 жыл бұрын

Lavenderlight1 you will be single forever, keep believe the lies she tell you

@brooklynbornxoxo

4 жыл бұрын

BOSS _GAMING I’m pretty sure she’d rather be single than be with a scrub like you... but that’s none of my business 👀👀

@terry-annfrancis1252

4 жыл бұрын

brooklynbornxoxo girl you’re exactly right 😂

@MillyRose539

4 жыл бұрын

Rriiiggghhhhtttt

@confettiRedPill

4 жыл бұрын

Lavenderlight1 are you above a 5?

I needed this! I've always been overly romantic and emotional when it comes to men. I worked with a woman that focused on her looks and would walk away in a second in a man that she was uninterested in. Men loved her lol.

@giannakim119

4 жыл бұрын

that is absolutely right!! I was like your fr 10yeard ago. I never care about men's feeling. I showed up 1 hour late but beautiful. They asked me to marry them. Now, I wanna marry and I'm being nice to them. Always on time......They walk away....... I tried to act or think back how I acted 10 years ago.....

@yahismyrefuge1983

4 жыл бұрын

Lol....your friend sounds like me.....i never chased a man and always kept myself up and still do .After 10 years of marriage, my husband says he can't wait to come home to see what I got on and how I'm fixed up and how he gotta step his game up to match my fly lol.....I gave him a facial last night & a happy ending😂just because I haven't done it in a long time and to show appreciation for how he takes care of me and the kids , he refused to leave the house this morning for work Bc he wanted to lay up with me all day( he's self employed) so no biggie.....but every now and then I'll throw in the treats like massages and facials but I never chase, that's his job!💅💋

@lilianadongo7326

3 жыл бұрын

@@yahismyrefuge1983 oh wooowww

@mariesmith504

2 жыл бұрын

@@lilianadongo7326 😂

@lovergirl________

Ай бұрын

​@@yahismyrefuge1983 Hopefully ure still happily married❤I genuinely hope I can have this some day🥹

Walk away. Be happy. Live your own life. Be your own person. Gont be available all the time

@vernellharris5278

5 жыл бұрын

I don't think so he married her!!

@coolboy-ty8kf

4 жыл бұрын

Vernell Harris Therefore, he's not worth it.

@samiraa3671

4 жыл бұрын

Also, people need to realize that it's okay to be single. There's way more to life than being in a relationship. I feel like a lot of people end up in bad relationships because they rush into it out of fear of being alone.

@vblacksugar7249

4 жыл бұрын

Samira A OR... their so called friends are asking them questions like....girrrrrl you’re not married yet? Just because they’re married and talking to you as if you have missed something alone the way. Being single is not a crime, when God sends him to you, you will know.

Whatever you chase,runs!

So true.. I too watched that Vogue interview. I did not get desperate, thirsty, attention seeking or starstruck vibes from Sabrina. Not to put another woman down but this was the exact opposite I got from K.Michelle. Sabrina seems classy, confident & self assured. Like she wouldn’t loose sleep even if they broke up. Idris bagged himself a real prize!!

@user-nq8nl4wh9w

4 жыл бұрын

AnonVocals you are right. And lets be honest could he really show up to an upscale engagement or a business meeting where he is in negotiations with a woman twerking, cussing and talking crazy? Nope and nope i think the class level is what eliminated k michelle from the running. Idris knew that she would have lowered his brand. She was good enough after dark its sad but true. Women don’t realize its the little things that can set you apart from the rest and remaining classy and poised retains your value.

@NoName-zi9st

4 жыл бұрын

@@WWEENETWORK 😂😂😂 I met him too, such a narcissist. He likes to speak really loud if you don't acknowledge him. Lol

@audreym.f9077

4 жыл бұрын

Reina De corazones True

@tracer073

4 жыл бұрын

Diamon. Besides sex what does a women offer, lol men are always the prize, only if these simps could understand it

@oEXTRA

4 жыл бұрын

@Diamon. So somehow an "alpha" male who is expected to be the provider, protector, leader, teacher, sexual and sensual pleaser, etc., etc. isn't a prize? Lol ok. Here's an actual tip for toxic, clueless people like you (men included); the goal is to be EACH OTHER'S prize. That's how real relationships work. Not by BS superiority complexes....

She walked away from the argument because she didnt want to say something that would mess up her lifestyle.

@a.k.williams9775

4 жыл бұрын

Oops

@godschild163

4 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@jasminelanders3177

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly there’s a difference

@michellesimms5372

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe👀 U Have A Lot Of Women Too Afraid Of Saying The Wrong Shit... & Hurt Her Man Ego👍💯

@victoriabells8671

3 жыл бұрын

Arguments are also a waste of time. You ruin your energy for what? Would you rather be happy or be right?

I agree! I’m old school. A Man should pursue a Woman. ❤️☺️

@estheradao

4 жыл бұрын

Queen Mia same here

@nukapuka

4 жыл бұрын

@outlawfly Man is the head. Women was made for him, to bear him children and to serve him. But he has 2 cherish her.

@cutlyfe

2 жыл бұрын

💅

If a man approaches you, he's showing interest...and then he makes the mistake of asking you to take his number and call him. First of all, he approached you, why should you have to take his number and establish contact... HIM: Take my number and call me. ME: I'm flattered by your approach, however, I'm turned off by men who want me to chase them. LOL, let him figure it out from there. Also, if he wants to take you out, let him plan the date. If he ask you what you like to do or your favorite food/restaurant, tell him to surprise you...this will give u insight on his character; it may also introduce you to something new and interesting... remember, he approached👉🏿 YOU!!

A man wants a challenge but he doesn’t want masculine attitude. There’s a difference. The point about Sabrina ‘walking away’ isn’t so much about the inability to work on arguments, it’s the subtle message it sends and it tells the man that you are not going to stay if he crosses a line. It’s the exact reason Steve Harvey married Marjorie. She was ready and willing to walk away from the relationship when she found him chatting it up on the phone with another woman. Steve immediately realized Marjorie takes no shtt. Don’t be a doormat but watch the attitude. Be kind with your words but ruthless with your actions.

This is why I don't contact first. Lol. I'm over putting the effort in...I'm not a damn man.

@tracer073

4 жыл бұрын

Lol so the man must put all the effort in lol, you all don't want men you want some simp. I'm not putting all effort in she gotta meat me half way, else I'm just gonna get bored and more on to someone else that put in the effort.

@427skies

4 жыл бұрын

@@tracer073 Oh shut the fuck up Tommy Sotomayor.

@emerypride7098

4 жыл бұрын

tracer073..PLz that crap doesn't work... a guy could be into a girl and contact her first one time. then she contacts him first on another day to show mutual interest and he becomes distant. Which I personally think it means he's turned off b/c she reached out to him first and now he expects her to do most of the work. smh these guys have no idea how to date women

@427skies

4 жыл бұрын

@@Mrs.T305 Okay? Your point is....?

@ConsciousProgressReloaded

4 жыл бұрын

Right! F it!

Sabrina is Somali and as a Somali man it is in our culture to chase women and pay all her bills, we don't expect women to chase us becasue her value will go down. I have never shared a bill with a woman in a date it is the responsibility of the man to pay the bills. If you invite a somali woman for a date and she will just show up without a wallet, because she knows you are the man who invited her for the dinner or date.

Ladies if it’s meant it will be stop worrying about doing the right thing all the time.... someone will love you for all of you and want more I know that for a fact !

Its been a year and I keep coming back to this video. I love you Chloe❤️, I can’t thank you enough for the amount of truth you’ve mentioned in this video. There are nights were I keep listening to this on repeat prior to sleeping. Every time I listen to this, I embody it to my core. It’s a beautiful feeling to come back home and know my worth. ❤️

@TheNewFeminine

2 жыл бұрын

💕💕💕🚀

It’s almost shameful for an African lady to chase a man . We are taught that we are the trophy 🏆

@estheradao

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

I think there has to be a balance. Let him chase you but some women be so hard to get and insist on always running away to a point that the male gets tired and leaves. You let him chase yes, but still give a little. There has to be a balance. Its always about balance.

@skssuccess75

4 жыл бұрын

Yes there has to be balance but you don't have to chase to do so.

Yes us as woman have to learn our VALUE and our WORTH u are the PRIZE not HIM.

@memz8798

4 жыл бұрын

Women think they are the prize and men think they are the prize who's right? Lol

@memz8798

4 жыл бұрын

@s 97 you really think so?

@coachmelech773

4 жыл бұрын

How are women the prize? If anything on a higher spiritual level I might say they both are the prize if they are in their right state of being. Other than that Men are the prize! If they are doing the protecting, guidance and leading, providing etc that would make them the prize.

Omg you nailed it “a feminine man wants to be a boy” “a feminine man wants you to fight his battles”. I dated a guy that I would describe as a feminine man. At first I appreciated that I could take the reins and utilize my independence. Until I realized he couldn’t STAND UP. He acted emasculated. He wouldn’t harness his masculinity, even in the face of a threat. He’d cower. I’d stand strong. I want(ed) a man to stand strong with me, BUT respect my independence and SEE and RESPECT my ability to make strong decisions, despite his strong masculinity. I won’t date a feminine man again. But I also won’t date a disrespectful alpha man who runs after every piece of pretty or beautiful tail that calls to seduce him either.

She’s somali and we are raised to be a wife and not be a baby mother who is bred and dashed by multiple men. Also being stunning helps as well.

Idris is more like an uncle to me. Women remember that you are always the prize. Do not chase any man. 🤷🏿‍♀️❤️.

@thisisHowHedidit

4 жыл бұрын

PERIOD!!

@tracer073

4 жыл бұрын

Only women and simps believe this

When you know you're worth. When you know your job is you. When you know you will live with or without them. You will achieve goals with or without them. You don't play games. You are a good person. You don't try to manipulate, trick, you dont do desperate, you take care of yourself. Then Chasing never crosses your mind. You are so unbothered. By foolishness.

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@Queen Empress YESSSSSSSSSSSS QUEEN, YESSSSSSSS!!!

@scorpionpam

4 жыл бұрын

Yeeeesssssss! #Confirmed

@estheradao

4 жыл бұрын

This is who I am rn...I’ve learned from my mistakes even if I have suffered too much I’m still young

@vblacksugar7249

4 жыл бұрын

Queen Empress Yes....this is sooo true.

Sabrina is part of the very few minority of women that the media won't show us. A black woman who truly understands her feminine nature and rests in it 🙃.

Sabrina never bagged him or anyone else for that matter. Have you seen how he looks at her and have you seen how he changed his mind about not getting married after he met her? He found a Somali Queen who is comfortable and confident with herself.

@raxaweynroyalty4804

4 жыл бұрын

King Pins of course 😂

@reo9475

4 жыл бұрын

Raxaweyn Royalty He was chasing her bc she was raised to know her worth after all she is Somali🇸🇴🇸🇴💙💙🇸🇴🇸🇴💙💙🇸🇴🇸🇴

@aydam3735

4 жыл бұрын

Lol chill sis it is "bagged"* not begged lol

@raxaweynroyalty4804

4 жыл бұрын

Ray M Naa bax! 🖐🏾

@TW-mg3ld

4 жыл бұрын

I don't think Somalian women are such a prize. I think they're too arrogant to come from such a poor country.

Real men don't like you to chase them,let a man chase you that is what they suppose to do....

@tracer073

4 жыл бұрын

Curtistine Miller nope keep believe that garbage because it makes you comfortable and put all the burden on the men.

@curtistinemiller1560

4 жыл бұрын

@@tracer073 Facts! .

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@@tracer073 Its a BURDEN TO A BOY or a young man not ready and undeveloped. REAL MEN KNOW!!!

@ms.marion8431

4 жыл бұрын

I was told that we as women should not play to hard to get or we just might get left.

@curtistinemiller1560

4 жыл бұрын

@@ms.marion8431 :Men are the hunters....

-never chase a man -never control a man

Just stop putting men on a pedestal. Period.

A person who doesn’t care to argue all the time is always more attractive imo. Arguments usually lead to nothing but hurt feelings. Try discussions instead without raised voices or talking over each other.

I mean, he’s been married several times and a lot of women have dated him. I don’t really think it’s that deep. Divorced men tend to remarry pretty quickly.

@thisisHowHedidit

4 жыл бұрын

You have a point there...

@SpecialKel66

4 жыл бұрын

But he didn't remarry just anyone. He married a woman who did not chase him. He has his pick and he chose the one he chased.

@valenciamiller2928

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe he is finally learning and becoming the husband he is supposed to be. With the other wives he may have not been ready or experienced what it is to truly love a woman. Maybe he has it right this ttime. Doesn't mean the previous wives didn't do the same thing this one did. After all he did marry them...maybe this time he really gets it!

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@@SpecialKel66 EXACTLY!!!! THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT!!!!

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@Alana Weaver And if he really wants her HE { A REAL MAN WILL CHASE YOU TO GET YOU, IF YOU ALLOW HIM TO!!!L

I love this girl. She is bringing me and many women out there back to life

When it's your season you won't have to chase. The bible says "HE" he finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor in the Lord. Notice he did not say "SHE" who finds a husband etc.....

@my.0224

4 жыл бұрын

PAULETTE B reiterate for the people in the back.🙌🏽

@1obedience

4 жыл бұрын

Bottom line!

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@PAULETTE B TEACH AND PREACH SIS!!!! That.s because GOD knows WHAT HE MADE AND HOW HE WIRED THEM TO INTERACT!!!!

@SpiritOfOrange

3 жыл бұрын

@chichi chow Wow! Prideful much? 🤣

Also I think the fact that she walks away from arguements says that she isnt aggressive. So she is smart!

@rokanaakbanaduak6395

4 жыл бұрын

Fact she walk away don't have to mean shit that she doesn't like augument!! Can just b part of her strategy hence part of why his other marriages didn't work out cause the females baited n after marriage switched on him!!.

These videos are amazingly accurate. Young women really need to take this in. This is Feminine Game 101. Men are definitely using game on us. Don’t be so soft-hearted that you end up beaten down and broken. You better learn to play. Don’t just listen casually but really let it sink into your spirit. I wish someone had taught me this as a teenager or a twenty-something. I used to think back on my past failed relationships and wonder what went wrong. Now it’s like I’m seeing with new eyes. I know exactly where I messed up and where I was played every time. I was always doing the wrong thing. I didn’t know how to choose a man that fit me. I let them convince me that I looked good with the extra weight, that I didn’t need to get my hair & nails done or wear makeup. I didn’t know how to receive. I was too available and too forgiving. I chased. I was open about my entire life. I allowed myself to be trapped in situationships. I could go on and on but my point is......don’t be me.

A book came out 20+ plus years ago entitled, The Rules. It's a game changer, and gives women real guidelines to have better relationships.

Girl...you are PREACHING and TEACHING in these streets! I agree 100% and devote chapters of my books and segments in speaking engagements to this very fact. I absolutely love your channel, Sis! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Woman should never Chase men. And If he knows you are not going to argue with him, there will be less arguing & more respect.

I need to send this to my friend. She is chasing hard. I told her not to. She not listening. He just ignores her now after he got what he wanted

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

@@faa1412 SAY THAT AGAIN AND AGAIN!!!!! TRUTH!

My husband is my best friends and we were friends first. I never chased him, because we were friends who fell in love! And we are still best friends!! When you are true friends, you don't have to chase a man!!! I think people should always be best friends first this way you don't have to play the chasing game!!!

@survivingyoutoday8519

4 жыл бұрын

Very true.

@teddynkwabi4502

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@skssuccess75

4 жыл бұрын

You're the only one that makes sense! It would be great if you do a video

@bethshebaovercame9580

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. All these games are sometimes so toxic. So tired of hearing this same ole bull lol. Thanks for something refreshing.

@M3l155a

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! My fiancé and I were actually co workers first and friendly before he asked me for a date.

No she didn't say "He looks like he's packin'" haha

@TheNewFeminine

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao!

@lisaseward2704

5 жыл бұрын

Lord.. I believe that he do..

@nadiarobinson9479

5 жыл бұрын

There's a scene from Takers where he was in his boxers. Whew Chile...I don't think it was a sock...he packing some heat.... praise Jesus

@TheNewFeminine

5 жыл бұрын

🤪

@gina72916

5 жыл бұрын

@@nadiarobinson9479LMAO

Tbh most Somali girls are raised that way no shade

@wondroussoul5414

4 жыл бұрын

Libaxaad u just had to mention qabil, dadka videogan dawanaya they don’t know nothing about majeerten. Jahiilnimada mesha kala taag 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

@soleilantillean30

4 жыл бұрын

I would say most or majority of African women I come across are very aware of there femininity.

@dunya4754

4 жыл бұрын

So true,

@sena-qn2il

4 жыл бұрын

@lavidavi not true about ethiopian women.example in the UAE lots of ethiopian ladies are marrying West African guys ie Nigerian and cameroonian guys.

@amandamcgee609

4 жыл бұрын

She's of Somali descent. She was born and raised in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. Her parents are from Somali

If you will also notice, she is affectionate, complimentary and supportive of him. But at the same time a bit in her own world. You can tell she thinks of herself an isn’t overly concerned with him. There is a video of them arriving at a premiere together and it was raining; he held the umbrella over her as they walked. He looked so protective and adoring.

We do not have to many role model today. Thank you for reminding us of how powerful women are when we respect our self.

You better preach.. I say this all the time don’t give to much even in a marriage..the women that do the most always get played..he supposed to like you more than you like him..com threw lady with the word

@tracer073

4 жыл бұрын

GlowNaturally 247 I feel it's the reverse for a man, and the man that does the most always lose the most and she must like him more than he like her. Feminism and biased divorce court will destroy men, so glad I got red pilled and most men are learning about red pill.

@assiabenslimane2589

4 жыл бұрын

My mother told me the same thing at the time I was 19 didnt understand the concept .when I got married and learned my lesson got divorced ...ur message is 10000 percent true ...always have the mystery and let them chase u even when u re married ...

@teresacray2133

4 жыл бұрын

tracer073 She got played from the beginning she is his third wife so he knows exactly what to do and what to say and she is young and saw money and fell for it all hook line and sinker

@crwnofenlightenment

4 жыл бұрын

You are so sad to make such a statement. You are supposed to love each other unconditionally. There is no one person liking the other person more. It's about unconditional love. You ladies get played because you chose the wrong men and overlook the average looking guy. This comment alone shows you dont know how to properly love a man.

@ilysaportax33

4 жыл бұрын

Gavin Expose men don’t respond to love, they respond to respect. Bending over backwards for a man is the surest way to him disrespecting and devaluing you. Don’t hate the players, hate the game. Also, why the entire hell would anyone settle for an “average looking” person if they don’t have to? You men feel entitled to bombshell porn star maids but God forbid women want to be attracted to the men we marry? Lmfao

Your single most important video you've made. Its sad how many of us women were taught the opposite of this after our parents divorces and disappointments. Women brought up to be strong, to do whatever a man can do... to dull down our femininity to become "smart" workhorses and career driven winners. I came up in the 80s and 90s as a young women and you better believe I won when it came to money and career and smarts. What I didn't win at was men! I see now that while I was a prize in a smart/successful cute way never ever got me a ring and a wedding. I wanted a real alpha successful man so I was real picky. But those men weren't picking me. I didn't understand it until channels like yours gave us the hard truth and the tough love of how men REALLY think and what they are REALLY attracted to.

You hit nail on head, masculine men chase. If he ain't chasing two things could be going on, either he ain't masculine or you ain't a queen and he ain't interested. Update! After learning, I think masculine men pursue not chase. There is a difference.

Learned this the hard way 😞. In the past, I'd find myself calling the guy, initiating texting to the guy, waiting by the phone for a guy to call me, smh. My self-esteem was shot to h3ll back then and I was a broken young woman 😞. Now that I thought about it, the guys that I was chasing, I viewed as "the prize" and these men were bottom shelf men, broke dusties, and low value men that I deemed as a prize, smh.

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@tijannywright2990

4 жыл бұрын

Bless sister;that is so true;its a man job to shase not d woman.

@tijannywright2990

4 жыл бұрын

Great; I'm d price.

@girlsruleVII

4 жыл бұрын

I just purchase it, thanks

@brownsugar1301

4 жыл бұрын

The book isn’t available

@anastasijaviolin9397

4 жыл бұрын

All the love to you girl

I don't care how fine he is, how alfa he is, how rich he is, how smart he is, etcetera..all men are annoying and no matter how much you love them you can't let them drain your energy...peace, ladies!!

@gabriellew.1094

3 жыл бұрын

Speak it!!!🗣

@farahnursingserious585

3 жыл бұрын

ding ding

I think your advice may be great to "catch" a man, but misses the mark to form a long term partnership. I defer to Michelle Obama, who has far more successful relationships than Idris: "It’s so important to marry somebody that you respect. It’s important to marry somebody who is your equal, and to marry somebody and to be with somebody who wants you to win as much as you want them to win. My husband is my teammate. If we are going to win this game together, he has to be strong and he has to be okay with me being strong. I do not want a weak player on my team, nor does he. But sometimes, we accept weak in one another because it feels easy. And be cautious of the man or woman who wants just the easy person."

@scorpionpam

4 жыл бұрын

Yeeesssss!!!

@MulitSeeker

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, getting them is the easy part but keeping them is what needs to be taught. I'm 53 an still don't know.

@edwardsgregory5287

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! This is an underrated comment.

@Miranda-gi9fx

3 жыл бұрын

I think what you fail to see, is that it's one video with one topic. It's just the subject of the video and it doesn't mean that it's the only thing needed. Nice quote though.

@kathyalex778

2 жыл бұрын

That sounds like building with a man or struggle love. Yuck. If you build with a man, he will always leave. I don’t know Michelle and Barrack all that well, but I definitely do not like that quote.

My mom always said if he wants you, he will pursue you. There will be no need to ask or beg.🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

This is the very first video I watched of Chloe’s. This found me in the midst of a terrible break up. Two years later and I still thank God for your wisdom and mission. I hope you know the impact you’ve had on the lives of many. Thank you, Chloe💕

The day you find ur match you'll realise that u wont have to play a game ur whole entire life

I don't think EITHER of them is all that. Just a basic couple. They're popular. The end. BUT, I do agree with everything stated in the video. A feminine woman knows she's the prize. Everything else is chemistry and vibration.

@beigelover95

4 жыл бұрын

Idris is definitely better looking than the average african 'older' man.

@MozzieMutant

4 жыл бұрын

S M because he is dark skin right?

@tracer073

4 жыл бұрын

TheAudraverse and a masculine man is not the prize??

@SM-fj4kz

4 жыл бұрын

Moses Ssebandeke no because he’s just not, lol I’m Somali and I like darkskin Somali boys I just don’t find idris attractive cuz he’s old and not my type

@Elidicious

4 жыл бұрын

yeah. I'm afraid all this is chemistry. Sure, the explanation in this video is logically right but I don't think she did all these calculations to keep him.

Sabrina is raised to know her worth that is all normal to most of the somali girls we know our worth we are the prize 😊

@shakur2567

4 жыл бұрын

Naya. She go him because of money. She don't really like him. What Somali woman price for. I am from Somali. I know what is going on to. Man are the price. 4 wife's. Money take care you. What are you price of. You know how guys but money to money to get her. Is not mean she is price. Man are the price is this world. Don't let dam brainwash this video. Is all Lai. Woman are not price. Merried is business anyway. Guy is the price... God created man first in this world. Man is leader. Shut fuck and learn. Somalia are not price

@lindawilliams2164

4 жыл бұрын

smart culture. I am African American and was taught this. It used to be taught to us as well.

@fai602

4 жыл бұрын

@@shakur2567 what are u trying to say abowe

@sagalduraan3489

4 жыл бұрын

@@shakur2567 dude are sure you somali because last time I check women were the price and men from our country put enough effort to marrie them maybe you don't know what is the meaning of been the price if the man is the the women is chasing him and taking caring of him financially and we never saw that in our country. four wifes is the religion not the culture and the man who can marry 4wives has to be provider to all of them and they are getting most of the benefit .

@nanahthesparkle9705

3 жыл бұрын

Is nobody else laughing at that comment, man wrote it in an accent and everything. Read it more than once 😂😂

Chloe, just came back to this video to thank you for all your unfiltered advice and tips. I just turned 24 and i found your channel at 19 years old. I don't know where my life would be if I didn't listen and advise this into my life. I am single, childfree and loving it. You are the wise aunty I never knew I needed. My mother literally threw me to the wolves when it comes to dating and living life.

THANK YOU, CHLOE! I NEEDED THAT REMINDER ON ALL THE LEVELS TODAY.

Unrelated but Sabrina is soooo GORGEOUS 😩 Great commentary as always Chloe ❤️

I once told my friend who is also a pastor that I am praying for a husband and he said I must stop right there because a man looks (chases) for the woman and not the other way. He said I must just prepare myself to be a wife and the right guy will come along. I changed my prayers after that.

@briana14333

3 жыл бұрын

ooh I love that! YES! Thank you for sharing.

@farahnursingserious585

3 жыл бұрын

lmfaooo we cant even pray im-

@arrucinanataliahugo4988

2 жыл бұрын

Damn girl...thank you for sharing this 👏👏👏👏

Another much needed video! Keep schooling us, sis!

The real gems are in these comments!!! 👏🏾 Keep it going Queens, I love the dialogue 😌

They appear to be a very matched couple. Both down to earth. I think Idris and Sabrina made a good choice in each other. Best wishes for them.

From a male perspective I love your channel. I love your delivery and tone. Very intelligent and articulate. Some of your content also shows me myself and areas I need to work on as a man.

Never chase men.. I prefer to remain old school.

Thank you Chloe. I needed to hear this and will be listening to it again!

Oh sweet amazing Chloe, I absolutely adore you!!!😍😍😍 you’re so incredibly wise and you’re really helping people make the best of themselves, including me!! I’ve been binge watching all your videos, can’t stop, won’t stop!! God bless you 🙏🙏🙏

Gurl, your description of Idris is 💯 Yaaasss!

Amen, well stated! I hope the masses will listen and receive.

You videos really provide a different perspective. I grew up experiencing aggression and witnessing arguments. I’ve learned a pattern of meeting aggression with aggression in an attempt to stand up for myself. It never occurred to me, until this video, that walking away is more productive than engaging in that negative exchange. Walking away is an exercise of control over my emotions and behavior. It would allow me to conserve my energy and avoid the physical stress response that arguing places on your mind and body ( self care ). Arguing is mistreatment of yourself and the other person. Walking away says I respect myself and the other person too much to engage in destructive behavior. Now that this video revealed this perspective to me, I’m going to work to break old habits and walk away. I thought arguing was normal. It’s actually abusive. From now on I expect all disagreements to be respectfully resolved by a civil conversation or I’m walking away.

Great advice!!!

After less than 1 minute into this video and looking through your other video titles you have a new subscriber. Black women(especially the young ones) need more bw like you to spread knowledge. Much love 💗

@jennifertrinta43

4 жыл бұрын

Kelli I just discovered her channel and I am overjoyed 😁 because she is spitting so much knowledge 💯 I am a 20yo black girl ✨and i feel like videos like these will groom me into being a strong black woman someday🌻

@kelly-ann6805

4 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Trinta Awww I’m so glad to hear that I’m 2 years older but we’re still on the same boat. You are a strong black woman right now because you are being proactive and seeking the knowledge for yourself. The lessons that you are learning will only make you stronger ❤️

@jennifertrinta43

4 жыл бұрын

Kelli ❤✨👑

@jennifertrinta43

4 жыл бұрын

Kelli ❤✨👑

You better preach!!! I was just talking about this today!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

YESSSSS!!! What a great topic to bring to the fore...I have been discussing this in groups a long time. Masculine / Feminine energy is something we must tap into to draw him in ~