What frustrates me the most is the general public seems to think you just. . .stop being autistic once you hit adulthood, so there aren't any supports for us in place.

@BliffleSplick

24 күн бұрын

Most supports are geared toward the parents, not the autist in question. From what I can understand, it comes from the misconception that autistic brains are inflexible (its the opposite - we overcompensate for the "anything could happen" our brains do) so they think that as the neuroplasticity of youth wanes and so does any flexibility, so autistic adults are just stuck. If they can't sell that they can make a change, they just... don't.

@MissMoontree

23 күн бұрын

What stood out to me is that culture matters a lot too. Direct cultures where schedules are more important can be easier to navigate with autism.

Me, an autistic person who speaks English, Spanish, French, Italian and Japanese, watching the first minute of this:👁👄👁

@KitKatKarnivore

22 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

I needed to hear that. Really. I'm autistic woman working 3 jobs and I still live with my parents. I barely show up at home and exhausted all the time. But my parents give me so much shit because I don't take proper care about our backyard or that I don't cook for the family anymore. I just don't cook even for myself. They just don't believe when I say that I need rest and to be alone for some time. I've had totally 5 days this year when I wasn't working. And they could just care less. And I think I work so much just not to be home at this point. I can't afford rent. Today I came home a few hours earlier from my second job of the day and was scolded again for being lazy, stupid, ungrateful and whatnot

@eyelovetheskyandthesea

3 күн бұрын

Why don't you move out of they stress you?or pay rent for your room so they won't think you just take.

@definitivamenteno-malo7919

3 күн бұрын

Uh... your parents are abusive as fuck. This situation isn't normal nor healthy, and a neurotypical can't endure it either

im really happy that you make these videos bc it helps me realize that i can be less ashamed of my behavior. most of my life ive always masked myself well bc i was undiagnosed until the age of 17. im 18 now and this channel has helped me love myself more and have a mature and thriving mindset about the struggles i face with. Thank you so much!

I always thought I hated cleaning/house chores. Come to find out I don't know how to organize and if or when I do clean I need to be completely left alone (try and do that with a house full of children). Once my children grew up and where home less often I'm able to do what I need to do. When they where home and would stop me in the middle of cleaning I'd get very stressed out. Found out from my brother that I am autistic but my parents refused to tell me because of the stigmatism behind it. I also need to be asked first before receiving a hug. Just don't be surprised if I say no. I can't understand what people are saying in a crowd. That can be three or more people talking simultaneously. I'm fixated on rocks. I love taking pictures of plants, rocks, bugs, birds, but not so much people unless it's my children.

I think autism makes one OVER empathetic.

@RutabegaNG

10 күн бұрын

I think you're right.

@unionunicorn6776

6 күн бұрын

Yes

Funny how you mentioned the sleeping habits of ADHDers. I’ve woken up scared that I cut off my circulation for good in my arm. lol It was passed the point of tingles and seemed completely dead. But thankfully it resolved rather uncomfortably. I hate that weird tickling feeling as sensation comes back when you shake it out.

@alexiswilliamsinc

21 күн бұрын

My hand started tingling as I watched this video because I had been leaning my head on it. 😂 This comment made me realize what was happening and move my arm.

@IaneHowe

17 күн бұрын

I do that all the time

@lilyachernik942

16 күн бұрын

Ooh I remember the first time I fell asleep with my arm up over the head. I couldn't move or feel it for a few minutes. Scary

@internetcancer1672

11 күн бұрын

Look up Saturday night palsey. You can cut of circulation enough to damage nerves. So be cautious to put you limbs somewhere safe. Fortunately you're most likely to not have an issue unless you're messed up on substances.

I hope Hollywood does bring more movies like this to life, showing what struggles autistic people, their family, and loved ones have. We as a society, need to understand these people more so that we can learn patience and help support them in any way that we can. Thank you for sharing this movie. I’m going to try and find it now.

I don’t like being touched, I remember a time I was in hospital I was in the psychiatric ward and another patient wanted to give me a hug and kept getting closer and closer and tried to hug me and I went into defence/anger mode and shouting don’t touch me, I don’t want a hug. Even with my own kids I struggle. My eldest we fist bump as a way of hugging and my youngest does the same but she does want cuddles too which is fine but I do struggle with it. I can’t handle loud noises. I freak out and put my hands over my ears when I a fire engine with a siren on goes near me. I also have trouble sleeping, my brain goes into overdrive and doesn’t shut up.

Thank you, I feel encouraged to try better. I will probably listen this a few times more tomorrow. Glad you showed up in my suggestions. I am 55, Dutch. Got my diagnose only 3 years ago. I was a "brilliant" masker. I have a strong body, despite of my many unhealthy habits😊. My parents and majority of my environment drilled me to be obidient, sweet and suppress my oddness. Several burnouts, followed by psychosis and deprssion. Lots of my experienced trauma makes sense now. Better now than never. Your kind way of speaking is heart warming. Thank you.

Something people are starting to understand, Autistic spectrum is more of a pie chart than a line. Support needs are seemingly too often based on what behavior inconveniences other people rather than what you actually need. A person's special interests and co-occurring diagnoses can also affect how it presents. For me, AuDHD, one of my special interests happens to be human psychology. I devoured my mother's college psychology textbooks when I was a kid. I still seem "odd" to a lot of people, but looking back, I have tailored my behavior to fit in specific situations by quickly analyzing the group I'm in. I knew I did it. What I didn't realize is the degree to which I do that compared to someone who is not trying to hide their ”weirdness". I'm glad you started talking about these things. I've seen you for years on FB, and you've helped so many recognize themselves and those they love.

As someone with ADHD (and having trouble getting to sleep 😂) thank you so much for this video. I really needed this today. 🤗💜

This helps me understand my daughter, my grandson and myself better! Thank you so much!🎉❤😊

I don’t need to be kinder to myself. I need other people to be kinder to me. 😭💔

Not agression, frustration. Thing is girls actions or reactions might very different and a lot more quieter. Because of that it took 52 years to even realize i was autistic. Even tho throughout my childhood people could see I was different and combination ADHD ( also diagnosed as an adult) made harder to realize. But thanks for the exposure.

I look around, but I still don't know what I need to do to be accepted.

@SydSync

20 күн бұрын

I know it’s easier said than done but all you truly need is to learn to accept yourself if you don’t already and those who love you will accept you as you are. ☺️

@jewelweed6880

20 күн бұрын

@@SydSync I'm not talking about changing the quintessential "myself," I'm talking alternative behaviors that I could do if I chose to do them. What exactly are other people doing that I'm not doing, so then I can make a choice to keep doing what I do, or do something that serves me better. Like, there are behaviors that are considered rude. If I am doing something that is perceived that way and Iknew what it was, I might go, "ohhhh, I understand how that comes off, I can do something differently and still be myself." Or, "Yeah, if I was in the hospital I would want to see close friends and family, not coworkers. I'm going to keep staying home and be kind when they return to work." Or in that last case I could go, "Well, I'm sorry if her friend thinks I'm being rude. I don't know why my specific visit is that important, but I could make a card and give it to her friend to give to my coworker."

@jewelweed6880

20 күн бұрын

@@SydSync like, I don't know how other people in this group I'm in end up hiking together but no one takes any of my open invitations. It used to make me feel sad like similar childhood experiences. Now I just go by myself and I'm content doing it alone. I don't have to think about a weaker buddy keeping up and being OK, or trying to keep up with a speed demon buddy. I can take whatever breaks I want, talk to myself, make weird lyrics to a song, I don't have to coordinate schedules, I can stop sooner, or stay later without consulting anyone else. Just for safety reasons I let my husband know if I'm going further or staying out longer. There are worse things than being alone, and I actually enjoy my own company. Just, I'm on the edge of things most all the time and I don't want it like that ALL the time.

@SydSync

20 күн бұрын

@@jewelweed6880 Oh ok I understand, so do you have things that you are aware of that takes the edge off?

@smol-one

19 күн бұрын

​@@jewelweed6880Stim. Honestly, it sounds like social anxiety. Like there are rules everyone seems to understand and you just don't. And it puts you on edge. Realistically, you probably won't ever understand the rules. And stimming can help get out that nervous energy. Though, be careful and try to find harmless ways to stim.

Me: he doesnt like the metal because he can taste it Also me: OH THATS WHY IM PICKY WITH CUTLERY

Thank You 🥹🖤💕🪽

for the last one theres also different kinds of support too.

How do you _do a stanky leg with your feet?_

Thank you, it’s all making sense as I learn to navigate this late. Almost 64, who knew. Adhd and ASD. Learning and growing, hopefully find my tribe 🫶🦋🌌🫧

Hope your July 11 show was great 👍

You* are a very nice man~* ✨

Large pupils.

Thank you for the taking the time to curate and cultivate a more compassionate perspective of how hard it is to live like this. Our systems keep our peace, and most people take for granted that because they don’t need systems, they aren’t needed. Thank you for highlighting how realistic the struggle it is to live with this communication issues that we are always struggling with. ❤️‍🩹🙏🏻✨

I don’t like being touched, I remember a time I was in hospital I was in the psychiatric ward and another patient wanted to give me a hug and kept getting closer and closer and tried to hug me and I went into defence/anger mode and shouting don’t touch me, I don’t want a hug. Even with my own kids I struggle. My eldest we fist bump as a way of hugging and my youngest does the same but she does want cuddles too which is fine but I do struggle with it. I can’t handle loud noises. I freak out and put my hands over my ears when I a fire engine with a siren on goes near me.

@prncessbaby16

24 күн бұрын

I struggle with touches from my toddler also. She's EXTREMELY affectionate and always wants to kiss/hug me and it's a struggle.