Navigating derealization and how to break the cycle

The more you fight derealization, the more you look for it. Michelle Cavanaugh and Aida Beco discuss how the fight is what keeps the cycle going and how to work through those feelings.
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  • @Justafayze
    @Justafayze Жыл бұрын

    “You’re engaged in somethin then just the thought of DP/DR triggers it” this is so damn on point, everything is normal then I think about it and it’s like it never went away haha

  • @MichaelClark-zc7ht
    @MichaelClark-zc7ht2 жыл бұрын

    derealization and depersonalization have consumed the last 7 years of my life. I am only just now making breakthroughs, by reorienting my thoughts entirely about them. They are protectors, nothing more. I can ignore them! I dont have to fix them! Fix the underlying emotional issues/fears and they go away on their own. Great post

  • @Qualitytap

    @Qualitytap

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great to hear. I’ve come along way and realized it’s just anxiety. I can call it DP/DR but it’s mainly anxiety. I’ve learned to not be so afraid of it now and allow it and I’m so much better off. I still have anxiety attacks and breakdowns but it’s okay. Life will always have problems. We just go through it.

  • @amdphen
    @amdphen2 жыл бұрын

    I didn't know aida suffered from depersonalisation too. Thanks so much guys- from the bottom of my heart.

  • @twillsJKZ
    @twillsJKZ Жыл бұрын

    “It’s like there’s no me to accept and allow” hits deep

  • @MichaelClark-zc7ht
    @MichaelClark-zc7ht2 жыл бұрын

    "the way youre trying to fix the symptom, IS the symptom" . The second you get caught up in trying to DARE perfectly, you're back in it. DARE is a a verb with your being, not with your intellect.

  • @ilovelucytheboston
    @ilovelucytheboston2 жыл бұрын

    I needed this message today so badly. Thank you ladies for making me laugh while delivering valuable information.

  • @OCEANCORA
    @OCEANCORA2 жыл бұрын

    A must watch for people with Depersonalization or Derealization.

  • @gs4640
    @gs46406 ай бұрын

    i think these two just saved my life

  • @scotchvelo
    @scotchvelo7 ай бұрын

    The observation that the memory of this horrid effing thing is what brings it on and keeps you in it is EXACTLY what happens to me. Then catastrophizing it in extreme terms, also exactly what happens to me: "I'll be trapped in his hell FOREVER. I'm being tortured." OMG is this me to a tee. Thank you. This is brilliant.

  • @produccionesdebajosrecurso7451
    @produccionesdebajosrecurso745110 ай бұрын

    This two girls GET IT. Great channel. The best videos on the condition are this ones and they are in so much fun which makes it better. Love you

  • @randynavarro6101
    @randynavarro61012 жыл бұрын

    Thank you guys for making these videos!

  • @Maydenne
    @Maydenne Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely. Like a radar. That's all you can focus on. I love progressive muscle relaxation practices, might help others. I've had to handle DPDR since I was a toddler. Gets worse as I get older; when I was younger I actually found DPDR episodes to be soothing and blissful because it gave some mental relief. I'm so used to the cycle of DPDR episodes as an adult that now I analyze it when it comes up which turns that radar on and the panic and anxiety ensues. I will say the constant overwhelm from having ADHD and ASD puts me at a disadvantage for experiencing DPDR in general and the frustration with my genetic disposition definitely triggers some anger behind my experience of life. I'll try to remember your sentiments in this video.

  • @chasetaylor8975
    @chasetaylor8975 Жыл бұрын

    Same to this person’s experience reaching out in the beginning of the video ✌️

  • @amandaellen444
    @amandaellen4442 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ❤️

  • @dansgamingchannel7023
    @dansgamingchannel70232 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your help!!!! I now have my finger tip anxiety under control!!!! 😊 you guys rock!!!

  • @another1bitesthedust1234
    @another1bitesthedust12342 жыл бұрын

    Never had thoughts like that b4.

  • @mrc.p8423
    @mrc.p84232 жыл бұрын

    Aida knows

  • @nikakarumidze1578
    @nikakarumidze15782 жыл бұрын

    ❤️

  • @spoonherr
    @spoonherr2 жыл бұрын

    It"s important to notice that people who say they have derealization or depersonalization could also have the continuous disconnected feeling from another illness like depression. I suffer from both and GAS, I also have the feeling of being 24/7 disconnected. The question makes perfect sense if you take depression into account. This person has the full time feeling of disconnected, which in my opinion is a fact and not a problem this person creates by thinking they feel disconnected or feeling fear. It's also very possible that in peak moments of anxiety this person expierences derealization or depersonalization and it mixes with the feeling of the disconnect from the depression. I also get the feeling the issue is being downplayed, because it could not just be anxiety this person is talking about. People in this situation don't check 24/7 if they feel disconnected or have thoughts or fear about being disconnect. So In my opinion the focus of this talk is on the wrong subject. It's not focused on the actual question, which in my opinion is likely depression, but more the general context of anxiety.

  • @marcelobauer5863
    @marcelobauer58637 ай бұрын

    5:50 nice moment 😂

  • @JustsomeSteve
    @JustsomeSteve2 жыл бұрын

    Sorry, but I whole heartedly disagree. I do have it 24/7, for 11 years now (thanks to a bad cannabis trip). It never disappeared since. not once, not for 1 second. I'm not alarmed anymore or think it can hurt me more than it does because I don't even know or remember how it would feel without DP/DR anymore. It doesn't even get worse or better. It really stays the way it is, no matter what I do. it's not like it's only there because I think about it. I meditate and even if think about nothing, I still feel like this . if I'm consumed by a good movie, sex or somethings else, I still feel this way. So, sorry but I really need to disagree.

  • @f1fanclips880

    @f1fanclips880

    2 жыл бұрын

    It shows that you still care. Or you wouldn’t be here complaining about it. Recovery happens when you really don’t care about it anymore. You feel it 24/7 because you’re too focused on it. I am someone who recovered and I thought I would never recover. Let it be there give it space and move on.

  • @JustsomeSteve

    @JustsomeSteve

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@f1fanclips880 with that logic nobody would get it in the first place. Because before we got it, we didn't even know that it existed. So if we don't think about it, because we don't know that it exists, it could not have started in the first place, right? There is research that suggest that people with DP/DR have bad blood flow in certain parts of the brain. That wouldn't go away just by not thinking about it. That's like saying to someone that's depressed: just think positive. But everybody (should) know, that's not how it works. And most of the time I really don't think about it, because it's the new normal for me. But of course I still recognize that everything is foggy, my eyesight is 2D-ish and I feel dizzy because that never goes away if you have DP/DR 24/7 no matter what you do or think.