For an in-depth understanding of narcissism & NPD, watch the rest of this video series featuring Dr. Ramani HERE: bit.ly/2X4VLXm

@georgewashington3555

3 жыл бұрын

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@rainstriderstreamflower5645

3 жыл бұрын

Are you saying Narcissistic personalty disorder is only a personality disorder if the person who has it isn't bothered by it?

@sriroopamadapati5695

3 жыл бұрын

Did you guys do the video on the causes of NPD? I can't find the video on it

@WestCoast..

3 жыл бұрын

Ok got it but I don’t like only one thing because she didn’t say nothing about how can I help them? What I should to do? Why is it? The answer is too many homeless people on their streets

@blossomsteep9088

3 жыл бұрын

Are they are of type like either they want to do 100 or 0 for example like. ...they want to be like millionaire or poor ......when they spend money they spend over or if they don't wish they live hungry.....r they having this type...?? Plss reply is this also a sign? Ps:Sorry for my english 🙏😶

Narcissism is where everyone else ends up in therapy not the perpetrator/narcissist

@RapidBlindfolds

3 жыл бұрын

so true, the comment section on NPD videos is always full of the injured empath party

@sindhura1341

3 жыл бұрын

Damn true😂

@kanokkarnyoshihira3271

3 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@sarahm8775

3 жыл бұрын

You make it sound like narcissism is worse than narcissistic personality disorder..

@gerjaison

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn't stop laughing at this comment

At the end of the day if you feel bad around them that’s enough of a sign for me. ✌🏼

@Aseutester

4 жыл бұрын

That's not conclusive.

@olyguy9918

4 жыл бұрын

Ben O. Verbich go ask for a diagnosis from a professional and be honest with them.

@olyguy9918

4 жыл бұрын

Ase MacGyver, I agree, but I don’t have a qualified professional to give me a thumbs up or thumbs down for questionable people I encounter. I learned to listen to my intuition like many others...the hard way. ✌🏼

@LoveiDora

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@EMunaBee

4 жыл бұрын

@Ben O. Verbich how do you treat people? In what way do they fit into your lives? Have you received feedback letting you think you can be one?

I went here thinking my sister is a narcissist but now I’m listening and I think I might be one 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m realizing My life is going so downhill because of this and I blame everything and everyone around me but myself. Thank you for this video I will work on this.

@dallymoo7816

2 жыл бұрын

No darling if you have been abused it's ok to feel like that

@asunnywebb

2 жыл бұрын

Often victims of narcissistic abuse start questioning if they are the narcissist. Or you could be one. If so it's good that you're self aware because therapy is more likely to help if you have the ability to be self aware.

@fit4u679

2 жыл бұрын

Savannah it's ok to be self aware. Many people have narcissistic traits and it's important to get help. I use to blame people at times..and then I realised and took a step back and said no.......I am responsible for my won actions. WHY did I make these bad choices is a whole different topic. But positive affirmations and reassurance is important. Alot narcissists will never admit they are jerks. Everything will be ok xoxox

@larapalma3744

2 жыл бұрын

U are very rare lol Great work

@larapalma3744

2 жыл бұрын

@@dallymoo7816 know her personally?

So I recently became more conscious of myself and the way I treat others. Thank god for the shroom therapy sessions. I'm just gonna come out and say I'm a narcissist. Most likely the covert one. I always have these big plans and grandiose fantasies about becoming famous with music. I realized I show little to no empathy to people around me. To rephrase that...I don't know how to put myself in someone's shoes and feel what they feel. It's always been hard for me. I've had a few relationships that never ended well nor lasted long. I was never able to provide my partner the love that they needed. In fact they end up telling me that I make them feel like shit. Most of the time I end up forgetting I'm in a relationship and think about only myself because I get depressed easily and I have this "main character" complex that deludes me. I remember always telling myself that the world was against me when it really wasn't. I was just seeing the world through childish lenses. I admit the more I think about it the more I realize I just wanted attention for being sad all the time. I wanted people to pity me and say "aww poor boy". What a fucking manipulative way to seek attention. And even when I got the attention I dismissed all the effort people put into helping me. It sucks to think people actually loved me but I was too deluded to see. And that hurt them because they saw that I was nonchalant about all their efforts. I kept blaming myself and saying I was just irreparable. But in actuality it was just a fucked up narcissi tic scheme to get more attention. Learning all this about myself made me disgusted. I cant help but feel self hatred but honestly I think I shouldn't because I don't want to fall into the loop of hating myself so that people could take pity on me. Lets not even get started about the lack of identity I have. I have problems with refining my sense of self. This is all so overwhelming. I literally cried my heart out and felt pain like never before when I realized all this. I mean depression is one thing but this pain was different. I could finally feel what everyone felt when I let them down emotionally. It made me feel fragile and demonic for not understanding human emotions. My ego completely dissolved for the first time in forever. Almost like a veil was lifted and I could see things from the other side. I might have been making decisions based on childlike behaviors all these years without realizing it and thinking "oh its just me as a person, this is what defines me". Goes to show why I'm also impulsive a lot of the time. And now that I finally realized all of this the worst part is that this disorder makes you the enemy of the public. All the comments here are all about how narcissists are jerks and how everyone has had a bad experience with them. Like damn is there really no place for me to get along with people without being judged? I mean I totally get it though. But I just wanna say that not all narcissists are ignorant of their behaviors. Some of us wake up and realize what we are and we wanna change. We're empty inside but we want to be able to feel things normally like you do. We crave normalcy in a world where normalcy is so diverse. I don't really know how to end this but I guess I'm just gonna say-I WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER.

@TheQueensWish

2 жыл бұрын

The best version of human is the one equipped with empathy. In the Bible Abraham is set to sacrifice his son Issac to God. It looks like it will happen, but an Angel steps in and stops Abraham. Angels are there to help mankind to be better, to be endowed as they are with goodness, light, empathy and understanding. Meditate with images of Angels and they will assist you to discover one of the most powerful forces there is: empathy. This is what they’ve been trying to develop in humankind for generations upon generations.

@escalatorgoddess2078

2 жыл бұрын

This takes a lot of strength to admit, and for whatever it's worth, as a stranger who was raised by a narcissist, I'm proud of you for coming to terms with your past and making an effort to abandon narcissistic behaviors and deal with the underlying causes. It's not easy to truthfully reflect on the past, especially if it means acknowledging that you have hurt people. What's important is that you are more aware and you want to do better now, which is much more than I can say for the narcissists that I, and many other people, have known. You have hope.

@desireestanford-hiatt5688

2 жыл бұрын

Being able to admit and become aware of your behavior is a major step. Keep hope. You sound identical to my husband. I separated from him for two years because of it. We are back together and as long as I can see he is trying to work through his assumptions and back peddle if he lashes out to me. Seeing that pause on his face means he is trying. Because of our history and our children I found it was better we stick together. Continue to keep fighting you are not alone. Just remember the hurt you are feeling, the other person sitting with you is feeling it too.

@ondreatorrence4322

2 жыл бұрын

We are not monsters . Let's break the cycle 👏👏

@googleuser2609

2 жыл бұрын

Stop looking for sympathy. You definitely won't get it from viewers of this video.

She was my Psychology Professor in college and I love Psychology because of her

@BirchWitch

2 жыл бұрын

Oh! You were blessed!!

@alexanderplatzberlin3940

2 жыл бұрын

I wish I was in Your place. She is so clever, outspoken and entertaining! (Besides, she is a beautiful woman too🧡)

@reyfin4922

2 жыл бұрын

You lucky freaking duck!!!!

@Shannon_Robbie

2 жыл бұрын

@@camerong5513 Why do you think Dr. Ramani is a Communal Narcissist?

@kimgordon3695

2 жыл бұрын

What a lovely Tribute. I also deeply love Dr. Ramani 💓

Explaining how you can’t diagnose someone for being a jerk is brilliant

@coles7811

3 жыл бұрын

Right? I wish this was a more prominent understanding because everyone these days wants to diagnose one another with it. And it’s like, naw, your friend is just a jerk.

@krystalrussell1783

3 жыл бұрын

We say," jerk," a lot then this sounds like,"i don't have that..."

@charlottewhite7065

3 жыл бұрын

brilliant and TRUE

@melberry7055

3 жыл бұрын

Considering they believe ALL the lies they make up in their own minds,,,yep.

@philcooper9225

3 жыл бұрын

@notsomeone special that's because survivors of narcissistic abuse use narcissistic tendencies to defend themselves from narcissists. We're all in prison now.

I was in a relationship for 15 years with a narcissist and it took me to the edges of addiction.. it took me down the roads of depression and on many paths of anxieties. Thankfully I was able to get away and now I want to try and help others who are in narcissistic relationships. For 15 years I thought it was me. Narcissists (in my opinion) are one of the most dangerous types of people to involve yourself with.

@brianlane9534

2 жыл бұрын

I'm just discovering this 'affliction'. It has me at my wits end. I understand what the term' walking on eggshells' truly means.

@dahliafiend

4 ай бұрын

Raised awareness about coverts would have saved me a decade of misery.

"They need galas, they need parties" My narc ex had four birthday parties for herself in a week.

@americahopeanchorslovemini4697

2 жыл бұрын

It's a spirit you have to cast it out: usually general comes down the blood line: needs Deliverance to break it and stops in her generation and not go further to her seed (children) Hallelujah ask God to bind them to Jesus feet and cast it out say all SPIRITS not aligned with the word of God binded cast out and never to come back in Jesus Name and to fill her after Deliverance with the power of the Holy Ghost Hallelujah then give All the Glory to God and thk Him over and over every day that will confirm those things dont come back :

@SpongebobsRippedPant

2 жыл бұрын

Was she diagnosed with the disorder?

There is no reasoning with someone who has NPD. There’s no understanding. They are very unpredictable and emotionally unstable. Anything could set them off.

@lisagavin3402

4 жыл бұрын

You are spot on!

@foxiefair123

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Narc Survivor! ❤️

@theshape7214

4 жыл бұрын

They are emotionally unstable but they are also very predictable once you start to pay attention to the patterns

@therealspixycat

3 жыл бұрын

So people with npd aren't real narcs?

@ronobrien424

3 жыл бұрын

You can't deal with these ppl. They are realy assholes

Narcissists rarely if ever seek help because, in their minds, there is nothing wrong with them.

@krystalrussell1783

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! My parents got mad when i said,"therapy." That word angered them more.

@menace2societies

3 жыл бұрын

Krystal Russell what happened?

@Jezebel066

3 жыл бұрын

It’s always someone else’s fault.

@Jezebel066

3 жыл бұрын

@@krystalrussell1783 I think is why my husband refused therapy until after he filed for divorce. He’s afraid of being found out. And all these years I thought something was wrong w me... trying harder to please him, & never receiving any love no matter how perfect I acted :(

@VectorCultistCaptainVector

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a narcissist and i want help , this isn't how a human is supposed to be

“You stand close enough to it, you’re gonna get sick”... this resonates. I just left my narc partner after a year of dancing around the idea. It finally made me sick. It’s only been 2 days. I hope this feeling goes away soon.

@rettawhite7675

2 жыл бұрын

I pray you handle this like a champ, I am going to ask him to therapy in order to save our relationship if he's not willing to go then the next step has to be taken cuz I can't continue living like this any longer. I'm a good woman to him, we are not married but been together for 12 years, don t have much fight left, I'm out of ideas...helpppp

@scribebing2043

2 жыл бұрын

U R WONDERFUL!

@WitchOnABroomstick

Жыл бұрын

@@rettawhite7675 Narcs can't change, im sorry to inform you about this, but you are really wasting your time by trying to save the relationship.... good luck to you🥰🤗

@ue2267

Жыл бұрын

@@Thee_Queen_Lee I assure you, it does get better!

@musaibbilal9051

11 ай бұрын

hope youre doing great

When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

@stephaniepiazzese2602

Жыл бұрын

It?

@musaibbilal9051

11 ай бұрын

@@stephaniepiazzese2602 what?

I didnt have an education cause my parents thought they knew more than everyone and wouldn't take us to public school, they were to busy to raise us but do not admit to any of it now. I missed out on my childhood, making friends, learning, schooling. All we had was the lds church and my siblings. I learned how to read at 7th grade, my parents always said I was dyslexic or had some kind of mental problem, but they never put me in school or showed me anything. I dropped out due to how I couldn't function in a social setting and getting in fights when I did finally get into school. Im 25 and I'm just now taking online classes for my highschool diploma and in almost done. I'm so happy I've made it this far and I'm finally healing from the past.

@blackmamba5380

2 жыл бұрын

You can achieve EVERYTHING you want... You re on the right way with the educational part and there s time for everything...its up to you... to STOP thinking the past and focus on yourself as it is!!

@teresacondon33333

2 жыл бұрын

I'm very sorry to hear you can achieve great things and I am sure u will I wish u lots of luck and joy ur story moved me ❤️💚💪✌️💯🌟🌈

@VAghahe1985

2 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear that, I can't imagine how hard it was for you. I hope you can recover from what they did to you. 🌹

@allykatharvey

2 жыл бұрын

Well done for surviving so well. You are clearly clever and strong. You deserve to succeed and I wish you well for the future!💖

@Sjb2077

2 жыл бұрын

Wishing you all the best in your studies and for your future. We can’t change the past sadly but we can decide our own future. Good luck.

People with NPD will not admit there is anything wrong with them and therefore, never seek treatment.

@neiljohnson3761

3 жыл бұрын

I think I agree with you but they’re just not diagnosed because they haven’t sought help. So I think her point was all people with NPD are narcissists but only the narcissist that seeks help for it can be diagnosed with the personality disorder. So from where I sit having NPD would seem to be better than just being a narcissist because at least when you have an PD you’ve admitted that there’s something wrong right? I’m confused

@ladybluelotus

3 жыл бұрын

Very true but my narc knew their was something wrong with him. He sought treatment but was continuously misdiagnosed. The unfortunate thing is that Western Medicine does not treat mental health issues communally the way they are treated in Japan and China. If we did a lot more people would be diagnosed with NPD.

@jessicamartin2658

3 жыл бұрын

The Clean Kitchen Not true in all cases. Some narcissists will see a therapist for the attention they get. They want to be heard and validated.

@lukapesun

3 жыл бұрын

some seek but do not accept the diagnosis.

@lukapesun

3 жыл бұрын

@@jessicamartin2658 often after no one else will listen to them

My ex mother in law is a grandiose narc. I remember one time when she told me ..."If only every one was like me this world would be a different place." I had to take a second look at her. Because I couldn't believe what I was hearing. This was in the beginning at my marriage with her malignant narc son. It was such pure hell being in that family. Thank God I'm out!!

Damn i feel so shitty now. I was a narcissist I have the traits, I was a very quiet and isolated kid, I remember imagining about talking with a therapist and what I would say is "I know that I'm different but there's nothing wrong with me". I had good intentions but I unknowingly hurt a lot of people and only realizing it now. I seriously wanna change. I never wanted to be that guy. I don't wanna be that guy anymore. I'm going to seek therapy next month.

@joseh3564

2 жыл бұрын

Rec: Seek God. His laws are perfect, anti- narcissistic.

@ElanaVital83

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe you have BPD

@SeamusOLepreachaun

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah whatever

@nicoleblake9266

2 жыл бұрын

I hope u do

@cyrushalfacre9368

2 жыл бұрын

how did the therapy go?

1) lack of empathy 2) Grandiosity 3)Entitlement 4)Superficiality 5) Arrogance 6) Tendency to manipulate/ exploit other people 7) Chronic seeking of validiation outside of them. 8) Real tendency towards rage.

@savannahsmith1041

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you this saved me time

@markharmon4963

2 жыл бұрын

Nice recap.

@christopherlethe2997

2 жыл бұрын

Dammit I tick all 9 boxes. The ninth being the lack of shame

@RenaWith

2 жыл бұрын

addiction

@dimitriosdesmos4699

Жыл бұрын

no you forgot the base..ANGER, and INABILITY TO LIVE ALONE.

I wonder how many narcissists are on here saying that somebody else is a narcissist.

@ErikisOfficial

3 жыл бұрын

😆

@cay924

2 жыл бұрын

@Frank McGovern Right? I'm not afraid to say I may have NPD or BPD, and I'm aware that narcissists cause lots of harm and toxicity, but the comments sometimes just make me believe people just hate their ex.

@OG_Bap

2 жыл бұрын

75% at least. I Thought I was super empathetic, but Dr. Ramani (and God most importantly) have helped me to stop being a narcissistic victim and realize there's areas that I can vastly improve as well. It doesn't minimize the pain others have caused, but we have to feel the pain without deflecting, to heal from it. Every single human has hurt another human before, intentionally or not. We're not perfect victims either. It's narcissistic to not realize that.

@joemann7971

2 жыл бұрын

The way she says things, everyone is a narcissist. I'm like... OK., so I'm a narcissist. My wife is a narcissist. My sister is a narcissist. My brother is a narcissist. My mother is a narcissist. My father is a narcissist. My cousins. My uncles. At this point, I can't think of anyone that isnt narc.

@OG_Bap

2 жыл бұрын

@@joemann7971 everybody has narcissistic traits, but not everyone is a narcissist.

Someone with narcissistic personality disorder might: Upset other people often Struggle to keep relationships Put themself first Think they know the “right” way Think about themself most of the time and talk about themself a lot Crave attention and admiration Exaggerate their talents and achievements Believe they’re special Set unrealistic goals Have wide, fast mood swings Have a hard time taking others’ feelings seriously Strive to win, whatever it takes Fantasize about unlimited success, money, and power

@iHateHandles2

2 жыл бұрын

I think, i check all the boxes. Welp

@ue2267

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like my narcissistic ex partner

Getting married and moving helped me so much after dealing with that with one of my parents. I didn’t realize how bad it was until I moved. That parent didn’t even congratulate me getting married and only contacts me to ask why I didn’t contact them first… 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

@zee-xf9gb

Жыл бұрын

i find it really amazing when people can break the pattern of their environment they grew up in. As humans, we can chose to remain in the same pattern of the environment we grew up in or break that pattern and turn it around. Congrats on your marriage :) and I'm glad this happened for you.

If you are dating a narcisist, they take advantage of your kindness. It's like they test you.

@jaimhaas5170

3 жыл бұрын

I feel it is more like exploitation...constant takers without guilt or empathy.

@joefitzgerald2762

3 жыл бұрын

everyone claims to have dated a narcissist.

@jaimhaas5170

3 жыл бұрын

@@joefitzgerald2762 I didn't but I married one. Go figure.

@Ecsa0014

3 жыл бұрын

I married a narcissist and my kindness is exploited constantly. EVERYDAY my wife issues a constant stream of "tasks" that serve nothing more than to "check" her position in the relationship. I could move the earth for her and it wouldn't be appreciated and I would still be criticized for not moving it enough or that she could have moved it further. My life is hell but thankfully, with the help of videos like these, I have finally started putting the pieces together and realizing what situation I'm truly in. Without a doubt counseling is in my near future. I would like to imagine my wife would join me so that we might possibly work this out but I am not hopeful.

@cncnextwave43

2 жыл бұрын

They are testing your boundaries! I've tested them! And i know for sure they are no good npd or demonic behaviors! They will make you sick!

My life changed from watching med circle. I now am seeking professional help because I realised it's not the people around me who have the issues, it must be me! I truly am grateful I watched these videos because I'm tired of living my life feeling feeling lost. Thank you med circle

@frenchthot

3 жыл бұрын

thank you for helping yourself. I was raised by a single mother who is a toxic covert narcissist hoarder and the emotional abuse I had throughout my entire life was not even acknowledged by the child support. Its very hard for everyone around you and im very happy to hear that there are hope for ppl with NPD :)

@Indusxstan

3 жыл бұрын

Oh you mean you have NPD?

@yangenigma9939

3 жыл бұрын

Man to man I applaud you Ryan. People with disorders may never be whole, it is a disability, but through therapy and support you can get a handle on things. NO ONE should project "their" circumstances on you in the comments here. You should be a symbol of hope. Love and be loved.

@drgloriareading

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you, Ryan. If this is a serious post, you are a rare gem. Good luck!

@drum-addict

3 жыл бұрын

I'm very serious, I finally found something that made it easy to listen to... The doctors on this channel make it feel like it's not a punishment to have a problem, they really helped me understand without making me go, "that's not me"... I said to myself, "holy crap that IS me"

After watching the video I realised that my ex was a covert narcissist...your description is so exactly what he is! He was forever saying that he was special and no one understood him...He had had a depressive breakdown 6 years before...He also used to have anxiety attacks and had to have marijuana all the time... he smoked it all the time, big time!! I told him he was addicted and he used to say he could stop when he wanted...I guess I found when he smoked, he was more chilled out and slept better...so it was better for me...I think I felt sorry for him, at times he was like a lost child and tried to "fix" him....When I found out what NPD was, and that he had probably never even loved me...I felt so used...I realised that the last 6 years I had been used and I had to get out... If I hadn't seen your videos Dr Ramani, I would still be with him.....Thank you...🙏

@xelestial_sky

Жыл бұрын

It's a tale as old as time... I feel you. The used never being loved feeling is the worst.

@vlastelin4k

Жыл бұрын

it's stupid to leave a person because of his disorder if he didn't harm you. I have a NPD and I can't love, but there is a great person in my life to whom I am insanely grateful, and even though our relationship began with getting benefits, they melted my heart. everyone should have a chance at love, even love with NPD. he definitely loved you only in his own way. I wrote this comment with the help of a translator because Agli is not my native language

WOW, you hit the nail on the head for me......... My mother was diagnosed with depression when I was two, had grandiose NPD and when I was 14 she was diagnosed with bipolar. It was no picnic growing up with her and my enabling father.

Best advice for dealing with narcissists: run like hell and stay away as much as possible.

Omg my ex is a mix of all these narcissistic types I feel like. But regarding the communal narcissist, people will say "he's the most polite person I've ever met!" Yes. He's polite to PEOPLE THAT DON'T MATTER. He's psychologically abusive to those with whom he has a close relationship.

@godandsarah1306

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. I've suffered from that

@caitm8209

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I remember asking my ex's friends about have they noticed his strange and aggressive change in behavior when he started becoming especially verbally abusive (at least more so than previously) and they did not notice a single thing. He was still the charismatic, fun loving person they always knew. That was when I realized something was really off....

@danielavallejo7306

3 жыл бұрын

@@caitm8209 This sounds very simmilar to my experience. I was in a relationship with someone from a different country, therefore, different culture and language. Long story short, when we were on vacation in Greece, he always wanted to be nice to people he just met during the trip, talk to them, be charismatic with them, while I was waiting for him to stop speaking to them, because, I did not understand the language (dutch). He said to me, well I cannot force them to talk to you, he didnt even care about how I feel standing there, he just wanted to be liked by others, sad.

@jackielaurin8692

3 жыл бұрын

SPOT ON WITH A CHARM BRACELET

@hopeahooper

3 жыл бұрын

Yo my dad is like that to my mom...

This was amazing.. My mother has severe narsasistic disorder. Hence I went through narsasistic abuse syndrome. The struggle is real. I pray for those going through this

Thank you so much Dear Dr Ramani and Med Circle! I am so grateful! You have opened my mind as always. Thank you so much! I enjoy your content so much on KZread! I love learning all about how disgusting people are and I am done with them and need to get rid of all these toxic people in my life. I am defiantly healing and getting stronger day by day! It has been a crazy journey! Taken such a long time and patience, I am a survivor and I am really also so up for helping people like you do!! You are a true inspiration!

This doctor is one the of the best if not the best in the industry. It’s incredible to listen to her speak.

@ElanaVital83

2 жыл бұрын

@ching chong Says who?

@ElanaVital83

2 жыл бұрын

@ching chong What's that got to do with anything? What are you, Amish?

@ElanaVital83

2 жыл бұрын

@ching chong Lmao You're a kidder. I get it. Cute satire.

@noralove3401

Жыл бұрын

@ching chong bruhh wearing makeup does not make you a narcissist were u watching the video blindfolded

@marygavin3203

7 ай бұрын

Amazing woman

I’ve never considered myself as a narcissist, but I feel like social media is a contributing factor since it’s all about maintaining an image and you can get really sucked into seeking validation from others even though you don’t necessarily need to be validated like a person with npd!

@poWderSmak

2 жыл бұрын

everybody in the world need validation........who doesn't want to be told they're Gorgeous/Handsome or to at least be recognized for "something" which is still attention seeking in the end.....

@Alphacentauri819

2 жыл бұрын

@@poWderSmak that’s superficial validation though…that’s like eating cardboard when you’re malnourished, it’s an illusory source of sustenance. As I’ve healed from my attachment trauma, I don’t need that sort of validation at all. True validation is the kind that parents give children (in healthy relationships) through eye contact, responding to needs, supporting expressions of self and boundaries from the child…providing a safe place to be seen/known/understood AND accepted. As an adult that child would know their intrinsic worth & is less likely to go to superficial aspects to get empty validation that is rarely lasting…as they go back for more and more. Too many people don’t feel worthy, good enough, because they didn’t have the healthy validation, connection, growing up. They then seek out ANY way to feel “ok” for a minute, outsourcing their value (and power) to someone else’s momentary perception. Social media is filled with super insecure people seeking this out, over and over.. If a person truly sees their worth, they don’t need that empty validation. They know there are valid from the inside.

@RenaWith

2 жыл бұрын

it's easy to know if you are narcissists, how do you treat your loved ones (what's their feedback of your character providing they are not narcissists) and how much empathy do you feel for others. You can be narcissistic but not actually have the mental disorder or NPD...

@johng8560

2 жыл бұрын

its been referred to as second hand esteem, rather than self esteem. there is no end to seeking the approval of others. but once u feel esteem for yourself you dont care what anyone thinks. you already know u have value.

@5DNRG

2 жыл бұрын

For narcissists, social media is a great tool for fuel.

She explained covert narcissism so well. This describes me 100%. I've wound up alone and hit rock bottom and now I realise I have to accept that I've done it all to myself and I am 100% motivated in changing my ways and getting the help I need to change 🙏. Thank you for all of your content Dr. Ramani, you're my saving grace. ❤

Thank you med circle. I had always thought everyone else I had encountered was with the problem. I just realised now that I was the one. I've heard of narcissism before but always believed it must have been others but when I hear this, every single traits and doings are exactly my doing. I feel bad.

@johnrainsman6650

2 жыл бұрын

Don';t feel bad. no ones perfect. youtube joel osteen buddy

@elizabethsohler6516

2 жыл бұрын

That is to your credit . It means you have a conscience.Can you get counseling? Good luck'

My narc parents only had me so that there would be someone that they could rely on when they get old. Fun times are ahead for everybody I guess

@lumbiwemwanangono8954

3 жыл бұрын

This sounds like every African parent. These people are so entitled to our taking care of them when they are old😢

@natexOG

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's sad. Never taught me how to take care of myself but now that I'm old and have Brain damage among other things all they do is talk about death and where they want to be and how family is so great. It's fucking sad.

@ziadatedla7082

3 жыл бұрын

Omg same

@Killermon23

3 жыл бұрын

@@natexOG oh yeah they love talking about how great having a family is. Even if the so called family is dysfunctional and don't get me started on the guilt trips.

@thelessimportantajmichel287

3 жыл бұрын

Mila Spasova I recognized and noped out of that situation in my early 20s. I don’t think you need to be beholden to their expectations in your middle age

The more I learn about narcissists the more I realise what tormented souls they are. 💔 It's all an act

@alcudiababe1

3 жыл бұрын

An act because they can't bare their real selves

@jimmyj4044

3 жыл бұрын

@@alcudiababe1 Sounds like you speak from personal experience. You hate yourself too?

@dianecfranich

3 жыл бұрын

Tormentor

@themaggattack

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I can see it in my mother. She is TERRIFIED to look at her real self. Or anyone else's real self, for that matter. She has a story in her mind and we all better live up to it... yet, nobody can possibly live up to it. It's so cold, lonely, and destructive. It's relentless hell on everyone.

@Elketjeable

3 жыл бұрын

I call it the worst anxiety disorder one can have, a coping/survival mechanism gone wrong.. If they have a moment when their original hurt and broken self comes at surface, ansd you come to close, they act like a deer in headlights and their narc side comes back to hide the vulnerable self.. My exes took revenge on me when I came to close.. They can't even receive love, this ego-image stands in the way of their vulnerable self, so it can't even meet anyone, let alone heal.. Still never again, you cannot save them if you stand too close, you'll die inside yourself.. It's like Dr Ramani said; an hour, maybe 2.. but not any more time.. She is so right, these energy vampires suck you dry if you don't watch your back..

100% a fan. I dated someone for a year who I loved and cared for very much but ultimately there was too much volatility and insecurity in her part. I had to walk away cause I felt there was a limited amount of consistency and no matter how much we discussed it the relationship kept getting argumentative and we kept facing the same issues. I wish I would have seen these sets of you tube videos because it helped put closure to my relationship with this individual and get over the unresolved issues and questions I had.

for a year i've been supporting my cousin with her narc mom only to reason today that my mom (her sister) is probably a narcissist too. it feels like i'm finally caught up with what the universe has been trying to tell me all my life. so validating.

That woman is amazing!!

@1loyalking811

3 жыл бұрын

And sexy!! ❤💘🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯👏🍻

@savannahsmith1041

3 жыл бұрын

BARD!!!

Mental illness is truly the worst illness on this planet. At least with everything else you could kinda live a more normal life but mental illness is a life of suffering.

@alejandramarquez6804

3 жыл бұрын

You need to read the life style of previous civilization before medicine .

@SevenRiderAirForce

3 жыл бұрын

I think it's worse than people think, but there are definitely a lot of physical ailments that are pure hell. ALS, ebola - anything that really deeply compromises your ability to interact with the world is horrible.

@marianlyons5130

2 жыл бұрын

I think what a lot of people label mental illness sometimes comes from all the shit that people have put up with. It's time to heal generational cycles and get away from the narcissist or asshole.

@JackyHeijmans

2 жыл бұрын

I've been told I have a mental illness. Maybe I do. As I see it, the world out there has a mental problem. And it often looks at everybody as "sick" one way or the other. I somewhere started asking "what is normal?". And wonder or I want to be that way at all... I study this, at least I learn a lot over it. Make it work for you, and not against you. Doesn't always work out, for the world still thinks I am a nutcase. I am fine with that now. I try not to bother anybody, and I like who I am. Much love!

I attribute the only reasons my dad stays with my mom to her being a communal narcissist and he being so incredibly introverted. It works. He's frustrated often, but he's not unhappy

Dr. Ramani, I inadvertently discovered you a week ago and you have changed my life. I now know why my partner of 24 years behaves as he does. I would like to leave, but I cannot. It will take me a while to learn the best ways to respond and react (or not react) to his abuse, but I'm already making adjustments and I see that your methods work. After only a week I feel so much more free and I'm gaining peace of mind. Thank you and bless you for sharing your knowledge.

@solfh

2 жыл бұрын

You always can. You don’t want. And you are not going to win or feel good no matter what you think you are doing right. Been there done that so i speak from experience. I wish you all the best to leave him. No one deserves that.

@katkat5020

2 жыл бұрын

​@@solfhPlease, don't tell people what to do. Even therapists don't do it. In her videos Dr Ramani gives a lot of tools one can use to survive in such a relationship, to better take care of yourself. And she admits that people may not have the possibility of leaving, you never know what country someone is from, what is their mental background, family and financial situation. Giving advice that is not doable for the advicee is not giving advice at all. I am glad you left, I left too and I love my life more than I ever did before now. But at the end of the day everyone has their journey. Cheers

@tobytopaz921

2 жыл бұрын

You Go Girl ..!!!💜🦋💜🦋 I just read about it 4 days ago ,, 30 years in ..in March ..and finally realized it.. try remember how you used to be... all your thoughts and dreams ..! stay strong and safe ..!🥰

I think everyone has narcissistic tendencies because of the society we live in, is good to talk about it and recognize it. People say it’s treatable but can’t change it. I say we can if we want to we just have to recognize it. We gotta have hope!

@Kingtutt414

10 ай бұрын

Best apology is changed behavior

@gn4886

5 ай бұрын

​@@Kingtutt414yes,but people with NPD wont realize it,they will mad at you for making "false accusation"

@Kingtutt414

5 ай бұрын

@@gn4886 man I know a lot of people who does that

One thing people need to understand about narcissists is that they cannot be alone. In fact, they have to bring people or someone close enough to them so that they can ignore them. It is the best thing I have learnt is that they are never ever happy alone, they need an audience to see that they are alone, without an audience, they are dead. It is so sad. But when you are away from it, it is the best thing ever.

@roxannebennett5809

2 жыл бұрын

thats my ex, always new gf, cheats on her, get bored quickly...

@reginaldbowls7180

2 жыл бұрын

@@roxannebennett5809 might just have adhd

Listening to Dr. Ramani speak so passionately and intelligently about this subject is so pleasing.

To have FELT something all along about my ex and find out the explanation into his personality disorder is comforting. I thought I was being judgmental and unfair.

It's really great to see everyone learning.

@erinkayeozga9947

3 жыл бұрын

Andy Skiles It’s liberating 👍🏻

'Deeply deeply SUPERFICIAL'... That's poethically paradoxal really!

Wow, thank you for all these videos!! Knowing that you understand and hearing you speak so clearly on all of the issues around Narcissism gives me a sense of hope, that I am not making this up in my head, that what I have experienced/continue to experience with my brother is real! I appreciate each and every video and the tools you are providing to get through situations with my sibling!

I love the way Dr. Ramani talks about these people. "They're fun to have at a party, but don't turn to them for advice"

The main characteristic is "personal gain"

@SuedeStonn

3 жыл бұрын

The main characteristic is admiration. Praise. Without these nothing else matters, they would wither and die. In the relationship its all about "control", power, they have to be the one calling the shots or sayonara. Going back to the first, this is actually the weird part... eventually the "supply" or "fuel" becomes stale from the source, so all the admiration and praise in the world doesn't matter, new sources must be found. Why? IMO that is a lynch-pin to unlocking the psychology of the NPD. Is "personal gain" a main characteristic? Yes. I just don't think its at the top of the list though. ;}

@OffTheWagons

3 жыл бұрын

TRUTH

@OffTheWagons

3 жыл бұрын

Everything they do is somehow for them in some way even if it seems selfless

@menace2societies

3 жыл бұрын

and ENTITLEMENT

@VictoriaWonders

3 жыл бұрын

seriously they tell you you dont deserve shit because you are not oriented on personal gain so weird. u have a heart the will tell you you only use people, its something they do and they do not have a heart it is very unsettling, always highly educated types gross they act like 4 year old children but are completely robbed probably at that age from their personality

Half the comments are just people seeking validation that their ex were narcissists

@dudebro0481

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely seems that way, if they already know what the problem is why the hell are they here. Shouldn't we be asking how instead of what?

@eliza1826

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@reallyhappenings5597

3 жыл бұрын

more like 90%

@tonyromano6220

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, we have to be honest about our own flaws.

@rafaeldiaz5009

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly looks like they also have narsisist tendencies

Thank you so much for your videos, I can't thank you enough, I was married to a covert narcissist for over 25 years, I didn't even know about narcissistic behavior until a few years ago, I'm still in the healing process, and probably always will be. There are no more narcissists in my life now, and I'm breathing a sigh of relief. It's amazing how I could go for decades not recognizing this behavior, I had no clue, I thought narcissistic people were just loud and overbearing people, it goes so much deeper than that, my ex wife was your textbook narcissist. I know there's no such thing, they come in all flavors but if the was a stereotypical narcissist, my ex wife would be it. Also the family that raised her, I could go on about it for hours,cI still have AH HA! Moments remembering things she said that were so toxic, 25 years is a long time in a toxic relationship.

I wanted to say thank you so very much for what you are doing, It is making a difference. My life will forever be changed because of The information I just learned. This narcissist information is fairly new to me but I have been married to a covert for 20 years and I'm starting to understand the devastating effects it has on my life. Something you said made a huge impact. When you were talking about cognitive dissonance and trauma bonding, It really got my attention , But what really made the most impact was when you explained that the longer you're in a relationship with a narcissist the more harmful it is, And I can see how that is true from my own experience. Then you gave examples of what one's life might look like after years of narcissistic abuse I, And I cried because it was so Sad and I felt so sorry For anyone who has to go through that, And then I realized that is exactly what has happened to my life. I think you get so used to living a certain way that you become numb to it , but to see it from someone else's perspective Can be truly shocking. Anyway I just wanted to say thank you and that you are making a difference in people's lives and I am forever grateful. God-bless you.

You will NOT feel sorry for the covert narcissist after being married to one for 17 years! It took me a long time to figure this out but thanks to Dr. Ramani’s videos and books, I finally gained the wisdom and courage to leave. I am so much happier and feel sane again😊 Thank you MedCircle!

@glenphillips9068

3 жыл бұрын

Bridget A Johnson I'm guessing he's better off without you.

Different patterns (not subtypes) of narcissism: 8:03 Covert narcissists vs. depression 11:30 Malignant/toxic narcissists 12:27 Grandiose narcissists (most common) 13:05 Covert/vulnerable narcissists 15:16 Communal narcissists 16:47 Benign narcissists

@delideri3518

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏻

@iwackadoodleyourmarbles9220

2 жыл бұрын

ELLEN is a communal narcissist.

@gymather3097

2 жыл бұрын

@@iwackadoodleyourmarbles9220 yes!

I also disagree that the narc has to acknowledge that it’s “messing up their life”. No. A narc blames others. So they’ll say that others are messing up their lives. My husband has been “blaming the devil” for the past few years.

@aprilgonzalez7893

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. They never take accountability for their actions. It’s never their fault.

@cinnawhat8797

2 жыл бұрын

my mom blames the devil too 😂😂😂

You said it all DR Ramani. "A person who is self confident doesn't need to constantly share their accomplishments" I've always wondered. If someone is comfortable in their own skin they don't need the constant validation. Thank you!!! Love your videos

@SPCH0

6 ай бұрын

Note: Some recent trauma/catastrophe/war victims might need some validation at some point... There's nothing wrong with that... Depending of the 'context' & depending of the 'individuals'.. Overdoing it would reflect a problem - and if the problem should be addressed... So be it.. This is why Medical Staff & Psychologist/Psychiatrist do exist and talk about it on.line...

I have watched a couple of videos and it somehow feels like unraveling a covert narcissist is like realizing its a wolf in sheep's clothing

@humblewonder3260

3 жыл бұрын

Literally what it is

@VictoriaWonders

3 жыл бұрын

this yo!

@islamismyway8485

3 жыл бұрын

covert is like that. appear like victim then sudden attack!!! i thought he was depressed then just a covert showing up his true color wtf

@camerong5513

3 жыл бұрын

@@islamismyway8485 sounds like the first word of your screen name

@islamismyway8485

3 жыл бұрын

@@camerong5513 looking for supply online? u must hate ur desperate n miserable self lmfao

4:57 Dr Ramani’s description of self-confidence would describe me. I don’t need to announce my achievements from every platform. I don’t need to talk over others when they’re talking of their achievements. I don’t need my achievements be front and center and ahead of everyone else’s. I can stay quiet about my achievements and be perfectly fine with that. I should be having a healthy sense of self-confidence. But I feel very insecure regardless. Even when people are praising me for certain things that I do well or praise me for certain things about me that they consider admirable, I still have low self-confidence in that area. I know I’m good, but I also know I’m not great. It may stem from my narcissistic father constantly telling me my achievements weren’t good enough. There was always something I could have done better. My less than perfect achievement might as well have been a complete failure.

@jimmyj4044

3 жыл бұрын

Says the person announcing themselves on youtube.

@buddyrollrandoms8855

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes i feel guilty if i get a compliment i would always say stop that or nah idk why i just always have done that

@hammadisntreal

3 жыл бұрын

but...u just did that

@humblewonder3260

3 жыл бұрын

@@hammadisntreal 😂

@humblewonder3260

3 жыл бұрын

You may not be narcissistic, but you still have a desire to be accepted, approved, and good enough. I think people automatically assume that anyone who seeks validation or approval of others immediately assumes they're a narc. While that is a key trait of a narc, it is also a trait of people who suffer narcissistic abuse. And it is not a narcissistic fleas. Whereas a narcissist may want constant validation to feel superior and be better than others because they truly believe they are better, someone who seeks acceptance and approval to be good enough simply wants to be good enough, not superior. It comes from a different mentality. One is hostile and one isn't.

i recognize my narcissistic tendencies, these videos of outside perspective are very helpful to recognize how i need to change.

Kyle is such a great and humble interviewer. I’d love to have someone like him as a friend or person in my life.

@Toomi9617

2 жыл бұрын

I bet he is a narcissist lol the way he is nervous around the doctor and how he acts when responding to her is like he felt caught 😭

More like its abusive, not just toxic, abusive.

@ladybluelotus

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯

@eltoro969

3 жыл бұрын

I started to notice that whenever I challenged my friend who actually have been diagnosed with NPD (although he does`nt accept it) he liked the battle until he realized he is wrong. Then he got abusive very fast. He would also get abusive if I didn`t challenge him. He almost made me leave my girlfriend as he didn`t like her. It got pretty bad after a while and I started getting depressed by all self doubt and chaos. But then a friend of mine who has studied psychology gave me a book about narcissism and psychopathy and I realized I was a victim of abuse from a person with a high level of NPD. So I had to cut him out of my life, and even though it`s sad I had to do it for my own piece of mind. So if you have a person who puts doubt in your head, wants you to cut out people close to you etc. Get the fuck out of there as quick as you can.

@sylviatshingwanda4942

3 жыл бұрын

100% correct

@privatedanceparty3571

3 жыл бұрын

@@eltoro969 I've definitely had this experience as well. I've also had the experience of your partner as well being partnered with someone who is like your friend. I grew up in a family with an Aunt who was a narcissistic and when my mother remarried she married a narcissistic.... I'm sorry that you had that experience. I basically can smell a narcissistic now and find it problematic that we often use toxic in place on abusive. I definitely think it's important to know the difference and to choose the correct language for ourselves and to also know the difference between the two. Also to recognize when we are a victim of abuse v.s. just experiencing a toxic person and how with narcissistic they use toxic behavior to test your boundaries and create a fertile ground for their abuse.

@abbysworld05

3 жыл бұрын

Yea, I think it’s an emotional type of abuse since it’s harder to spot just like gaslighting

@14:07 Narcissits are good at creating awkward moments.

@TheQueensWish

2 жыл бұрын

Yes they are disruptors. There is one in every family that reliably shows up and ruins Christmas, the wedding, etc. They disrupt.

@herbs7482

2 жыл бұрын

Brooo my dad did that to me on the weekend. Said to look at this Dam whilst he was driving then straight away goes " alright don't listen to me" I fucking snapped

@SarahArtist82

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheQueensWish yes I have just realized this. After 20 years! This close relative has proceeded to be dramatic, be the victim and cause issues at all special occasions. That includes my wedding, baby shower, and family vacations. At least I have woken up. Good grief!

@TheQueensWish

2 жыл бұрын

@@SarahArtist82 Exactly. A reliable disruptor. You can take away the locus of control from this person by preemptively knowing this will happen and planning for your timing to any event so that you’re never there at the same time, never at the same table, never in the same room, never in the same car. And also they are never invited. Just never, never, never. Taylor Swift had an excellent song on this! “We are never, ever, ever .... getting back together” is what she sang.

It is hard to accept the fact that some of us are narcissist. And all we doing is hurting the one that we love. It was hard for me to accept that I was a narcissist but time and dedication we can fix this problem, I was hurting the love of my life and she left me, I was so mad i could not understand what was going on that my soulmate was leaving me. After I was doing a research on my life I understood everything that she was doing to me! . She was trying to help me, she was trying to fight for us, and all I did was just nothing been my self. Now I think different thanks to this videos so thank you 🙏 for making this videos

Thank you for your very professional, and accurate definition of NPD. It is helpful, and I will take it with me, to avoid toxic relationships.

For years I’ve hear people jokingly and insultingly call my father a narcissist. I was always conscious my dad was different and didn’t do other things dads did or said. When I finally went into treatment for my bpd I had a lot of doctors tell me my father showed traits of it. I’ve been researching NPD for a while now and I cried because I finally felt like someone understood. It felt like people were describing my father. My dad doesn’t believe in doctors and says people are making up illnesses to justify being mediocre, he gaslights A LOT, over exaggerating achievements, never having maintained long term friendship, lacks empathy and a shit ton of other things. I finally have closure and I feel so good.

@juliadixon8465

3 ай бұрын

Your dad may be autistic. Look into it. Of course, it's possible to be both. Also, women on the spectrum are frequently misdiagnosed with BPD...for decades

my dad has a narcissistic personality and i've always knew something was wrong with him now I finally know what it is

She's great ! Clearly knows her stuff and is really relatable. The impressions she did were unexpected from a clinician but made you think ' Oh gosh, yeah I've seen that in people ' haha. The bloke interviewing was good too.

Wow I love this break down! My step-dad is definitely a covert/vulnerable narcissist. Literally, even the image of him hunching over the laptop and having all these "million-dollar" ideas he felt wasn't being appreciated.

Your info has been so helpful for me to finally walk away after 5 years of abuse. Im so broken, but I know things will get better the longer he is out of my life! People dont realize what a relationship with a narc can do to your health. Ive been so sick this year, have gone through several stages of losing hair from stress. I am realizing these health issues come from my relationship. Im done, im free!

@brandonpinto5290

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr. I dumped my covert Narc abuser gf of 2 years ,yesterday ,for good. Every single day was a struggle . The physical signs are showing with my beard greying prematurely fast and I'm only 26👎. And to make it worse I might be having acute border PD from all the trauma.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Kylla Olsen,you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you, this is so true on categorizing, I’ve dealt with close people who have shuffled between the 5 types, the worst feeling is when they are identified as role models and being quite is looked at as being low in self confidence, and the grandeur as high self confidence

I don't have npd myself but I am SO grateful that I'm educating myself on a topic like this. I have to deal with a narcissist and I kept feeling so bad bc I thought I was thinking people with npd are bad. Spoiler alert he doesn't have it.. In reality, I just didn't know the difference between being a narc and having npd. Npd is so poorly understood by the general population, so my heart goes out to the people who actually have to deal with this.. Along with people who have to deal with a narc/someone without npd who's just an asshole. Seriously, y'all deserve BETTER. 💖💖

Mad respect for the person doing the interview that mention their coping mechanisms and how this is a deep topic. thank you for keeping it real

I can not stop replaying this program. I have learned so much from it. Thank you Dr.Ramani and thank you MedCircle. You are amazing!

The last relationship I had, he had all those features. Sometimes he told the truth about who he was. He said he walks away from relationships without problem, never loved any ex, and doesn’t care about looks(just wanted something from these women) yet overly concerned about his looks and criticized my looks. All the games, criticizes and gaslighting and very entitled. He went through a lengthy divorce and blamed that cause she had a better lawyer or he would be further in his life goals. Very cold and heartless individual.

@officialbismah

3 жыл бұрын

I need someone to talk to about my narc aunty I need help I didnt know sl

@ashash6076

3 жыл бұрын

My narc ex said they didn’t care about looks but 90% of what they spoke about was other people’s attractiveness and bullied me for my looks.

@officialbismah

3 жыл бұрын

Ash Ash hate that they love lies

@jackiemoore791

2 жыл бұрын

my ex husband to a tee..after 16 yrs he left me for someone 15yrs younger even tho he admitted he didnt love her or wasnt attracted to her but she wouldnt question him.he insults her and is nasty to her which i wouldnt allow

@JessMariaDwyer

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! This sounds identical in my instance

wow, Dr. Ramani is someone who really knows! As good as, in a different way, as Dr. schlessinger...love your strength Dr. Ramani😍

I like listening to her talking. she is so eloquent and appropriate.

On a side note, Dr. Ramani is very attractive for someone in her mid 50's.

@stormofconquest

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for trying to compliment someone but that was not a compliment.

@yagotwrektm8244

3 жыл бұрын

Gordon, I understand what you're saying. I can see how your comment could be misconstrued as a sugar covered insult but I get it. She is amazingly beautiful. Almost makes me wish I had NPD so I could seek her treatment.

@jakel3574

3 жыл бұрын

Very

@jaimhaas5170

3 жыл бұрын

Just don't love bomb her!

I love Dr.Ramani,its always a pleasure to watch her,we get tons and tons of information which is really helpful.

10:58 In all narcissism we tend to see: 1) a lack of empathy 2) grandiosity 3) entitlement 4) superficiality 5) chronic seeking validation outside of them 6) arrogance 7) a real tendency towards rage 8) tendency to manipulate or exploit other people. Those we see in all narcissists across the board, in varying degrees. Whew! Just when I thought to examine myself just in case, I hear this list. Glad I don’t suffer from any of these. I have some other issues to work on, but not these. Overall, I like who I am.

@ytatranslations-bz9ug

Жыл бұрын

9) not accepting criticism and expecting only worship

None of the many therapists I saw seemed to notice that I was coping with craziness not causing it. One psychiatrist suggested I had borderline per. disorder. Again I wasn't the one in Thailand cheating, that was my husband. Everyone was more that happy to pathologize me. I was trying to cope with absolutely crazy behavior that my husband and all the therapists were happy to blame on me. I can't describe the relief I felt when I realized I was not defective.

The fundamental problem is the fact that (Most) narcissists will NEVER admit to having a problem. Hence We continue to go round and round together in relationships and personal (so-called) friendships, until we finally chose to exit that amusement park ride, once and for all, never to return again into the same counterproductive BS. Once we begin to heal from that 3-4 decade downward-spiral, we start to understand what it means to be Truly ~Blessed~

It is so cute to see the two you interacting, and probably more importantly, LOL, to get some help to see myself and to deal with loved ones.... Thank you you so much!!!

Thank you for being who you are . I celebrate in gratitude the humanity of true professionals .

When I felt the leaching of, thats why I began to find my distance. I wasn't me anymore and people were noticing. I thank my life long friends that knew and know who I am. And these video therapy sessions.

Thanks Dr. Ramani ! I really needed to hear this. After the abuse I feel like nowadays everybody around me has NPD. I have this urge to call those with narcissistic traits a full blown narcissist. You definitely will feel the difference thought!

An old English series "Keeping Up Appearances" You need to see this.

@mylove9860

4 жыл бұрын

That's a good one Mrs bucket She is the mother of all narcissist

@kellyl.8944

4 жыл бұрын

Richard!

@celticmama98

4 жыл бұрын

"It's that Bucket woman" Hyacinth's eye twitches

@mylove9860

4 жыл бұрын

@@Oceans780 The kaka dishes is the USA modern narcissist personality disorder in a family

@professorr.5427

4 жыл бұрын

I hated that program. Who could watch spouse abuse and call it entertainment? Richard should have bailed out after the first episode.

I have bipolar and I had to learn how to be high functioning, and honestly ditching the mania is hard when going off your meds is like a drug, and it can drag you to a dark corner of your mind where you are maybe not your kindest. The goal setting thing really resonated with me in this self care approach to my health, and I learned how to set simple attainable goals and avoid telling people most of what I do unless they ask. I prefer to learn about people, but take me off my meds and I'm worse than most schizophrenics you will meet and the grandiosity leads me to be impossible to be around. I only like who I am when I am on those medications anyway, so I'll not go back to that pariah lifestyle where I am irritable 24/7. Thankfully I have had opportunities to pay it forward to other people going through it with their own lives and I think anyone with bipolar who lets the demons run amok can get back on track. The medications of the last 5 or 6 years are wonderful for their acute mood stabilizing and antipsychotic properties. You need to elevate yourself by admitting you are toxic in order to break that cycle. I was definitely toxic when I went off all my medication like 4 years ago... Have a great day :)

I love how fast and confident Dr. Ramani is in her answers, such a sharp mind ❤

YAAAS! My current situation is a covert narcissist and ALWAYS say “....yeah, but you don’t care...” but the crazy thing is he realizes that he has an issue and doesn’t like that he treats people this way

Covert narcissist sounds like someone who was bullied but instead of getting depressed with a hope for getting better they develop dark triad traits and want the world to apologize. They want power, success, because they don't have it.

@stephdotexe

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. This is my ex to a tee. He used to be more private about it but he came to be more open with saying things along the lines of "I hate everyone now because I was bullied in school", "I act like a c**t because everyone wants to hurt and take advantage of me", and "I have an ego because no one else is in my corner" (even when they are, and put their mental health at great risk by doing so). The sad thing is, so many people validate him for these things - including myself, once - because as Dr. Ramani said, he just seems sad and insecure. Whenever I tried to leave him after months of emotional abuse he did the whole "woe is me, no one cares for me" shtick to get me back, which worked more times than I'd like to admit. Had to change numbers and block him on all social media just to get the nonsense to end and after that I found out through others that he was saying I was the worst person in the world, that I used him and ruined him, and all these other things I'd supposedly done to victimize him. One of the funniest things Dr Ramani mentioned in this video was the part about the depression - he told me he was diagnosed with severe depression (probably not even true; he told more lies than truths) but was "cured" a year or two later without any medication or therapy because he was just thaaat good.

@GnosticMindTrain

4 жыл бұрын

Well I only suggested this because I'm still a dark person, I'm 25 but I never got anywhere in my life. I'm not a bad person. I'm not even labeled a narcissist by the mental health field, but I'm just sick of what life did to me, but again, I'm not a bad person. My revenge is distancing myself from people, even made a song about it called Revenge, that's my revenge. I've been socially isolated ever since 2012, at first I got kicked out of school, then I went to another school, didn't like the people, then dropped out. I support the bullied. We always get hated on whenever we act edgy by society, it's not fair, because normal people don't get it. We act edgy and angry because society did this to us. Maybe just listen to the kids before you put them in time out.

@ItsMe-mw1ds

3 жыл бұрын

right on point. you're describing me.

@islamismyway8485

3 жыл бұрын

covert is appear to be a victim and always seek ur pity then attack u intimidate u control u and most attack is unpredictable

@alexafiretv6367

3 жыл бұрын

@@islamismyway8485 bingo a wolf ina sheep’s clothing

"The pattern of narcissism is awful! They may be fine with it but-" Uh, narcissistic people are also negatively affected by their disorder? I don't enjoy being extremely prone to jealously, feeling inferior, feeling worthless and not being able to have a stable self-image

@savannahvisperas159

2 жыл бұрын

This !!! I wish I didn’t get hot headed and sad so easily

@googleuser2609

2 жыл бұрын

Then go to therapy and stop complaining!

I dealing with the pain until today! It is very hard, after a life with a narcesstic mum! It tooks a lot of time, to understand how long she could manipulate me! I thought I was always the problem, but in the end I woke up and saw how much I lost time! The self struggle are pretty hard! If I look back, how much more could I be successful, If I would have a loving kind family!

The list of characteristics and the description the doctor gives from 11:00 to 12:22 about narcissists and malignant narcissists perfectly match the personality of 129.

I wish she was my lecturer and my therapist. Dr Ramani never ceases to amaze me!

we need to educate young ones to prevent this from being passed on it took my whole family i passed it on to my kids without me even realizing.

As someone who has benefitted from therapy immensely, it is so sad to realize that other people around me just don't have a real chance to benefit from therapy because of narcissism. If there was a way to break through, it would help so many.

This video is spot-on, totally. Thank you for the information, powerful.

My ex-wife ... despite being diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder by two Forensic Psychologists after full Psych Evaluations, having disagreements with coworkers (firings and disciplinary actions), raging against neighbors, children, and strangers, and having legal issues, believed she is right and everyone else is wrong. If your significant other has these characteristics, please don't think you can fix them. You cannot. RUN.. Period .... run. They are evil.

I feel like you’re going through all my family members, including me!! I pay it forward maybe too much. But it’s also a cultural transition, I’m seeing; as, my ppl are that way, as with many immigrant families. I think that makes it more challenging. May y’all do a series on ✨🔥narcissism and racism✨, please? How are they interwoven?