So, he needs to be available to talk with his X wife because she has problems but doesn't want to hear his wife's problems. Yeah, she's on her way out.

@hsteelemarrrealty

7 ай бұрын

Came to say the same thing. ASCON1

If women are still talking to you about issues, it means that they care. If they stop talking to you, they no longer care. She’s planning her out, she’s done with the relationship.

She probably is doing the "Walk away wife" thing. Slowly planning her exit. And since this was posted 9 months ago, my guess is that she's gone.

@bohemian_witch

9 ай бұрын

Thinking the same

Sounds like his wife not talking to him was working fine until he realized that she was having a good time without him. HE feels excluded, so NOW he wants to talk. Total brozo.

She’s 31. He’s 46. Please. It’s annoying hearing older men being “tired” of their younger wife’s energy for their life. Funny how he had the strength to listen to his ex complain about _her_ husband but was too TIRED of listening to issues his current wife had with _him._ Selective exhaustion? Get a wife who’s older than u, dude. She’ll be too tired to deal with _your_ issues.

@scarlet978

9 ай бұрын

And they have been married for 6 years so she was 25 and he was 40 when they got married. That to me is a pretty big red flag.

@kayjacoby290

4 ай бұрын

Exactly. He apparently used up all his listening to relationship complaints capacity on his exes, and has no bandwidth for his wife.

I went through a similar issue. EX HUSBAND said he was tired of me complaining about him not prioritizing our marriage. I stopped talking. He flipped out and called his mommy on me. I stayed silent. He moved out one day while I was out. Best day ever!!! OP got what he wanted. He even told her to get out his house. Shut up and enjoy the silence. He needs to be alone.

I feel horrible for his wife. He basically swept her feelings under the rug and cares more for his ex-wife's feelings than hers..... This woman needs to escape this marriage because she didn't marry a man. She married a child narcissist

My ex pulled the same crap. We both work. Any time id talk to him about anything hed say get to the point...can we talk about something else...shut up already... So, i shut up and it turned into why arent you talking to me anymore.. He also said if i didnt like something i could get the fukkk out of his house. So i did. He said if i didnt come back hed file for divorce. I said ok and signed the papers. He called me after upset telling me he didnt think id actually sign them. Buddy...when have i not followed through. Sounds like OPs wife is another one of his future exes.

Husband: I don't wanna talk anymore. Wife: Bet

OP wants to pick and choose what she wants to talk about. He has time to talk ex's but not her 😳

Obviously if she is having to tell OP over and over again, he obviously isn't listening the first time. I don't think she's trying to prove a point, I think she's done trying 😏

She's getting her ducks to march in perfect lines. She's been doing that since the pervious conversation, a year ago. his update is going to include a demand for divorce on the wife's end. You're right in that he's an idiot. I'm getting the vibe that this guy doesn't think things change when one gets married... like, at all.

He is basically a roommate now. She is definitely on her way out.

So his wife came to him like an adult to air her grievances with him in civilized discussion like a healthy adult human, and his response to her is basically "Keep Sweet?" Then wants to be all surprised Pikachu face when she gives him exactly what he asked for? I can't even. This dude got me so riled up, my participles are dangling.

Yes, I would say it's over.

He swept her feelings aside. She’s planning her exit. You don’t want to deal with the issues they won’t get solved. And hello, hubby, if you focus more on your exes then your current partner, guess what? Current partner isn’t going to stick around. And you have no one to blame but yourself.

Listening to this story really hit home for me. My husband does the same thing. And goes further than that. I get the wife. She's giving up on him but yet still holding on to a small piece of hope that he will change. Hopefully he does.

@Tiarys

9 ай бұрын

Sending hugs *hug* I'm sorry you're going through that, too =(

If a woman has stopped talking to you.....about ANY of this? The relationship is officially over. She's not happy anymore. Well done 👏👏👏👏

It's a hard one. So, I get he was becoming annoyed by all the talking, but it seems the wife was dissatisfied by the state of the relationship and trying to get it to a better place by talking it through. From the letter it does not sound like he was willing to change any of those parts, though It's hard to tell how in depth they actually got in their discussions. So he's fed up because she's coming back with the same problems again and again and she's fed up too, since he does not seem willing to work on the relationship much. Sounds like the "I don't want to talk anymore" was the last straw for her, she accepted he'll never be willing to change and has mentally checked out. I feel the time to find a marriage counselor would have been last year. I'm actually kinda impressed to stuck the situation out a whole year!

Oh man we need an update to this one when it becomes available!!

She’s preparing to comply with her husband’s request and will soon be gone. You can’t fix a problem if no one talks about it.

If he loves her, he needs to attend marriage counseling for couples. I would not be happy if the X'es were hanging around. The spouse is suppose to be number 1. OP is so clueless his wife would be better off without him.

As soon as I read the title, I thought to myself, "you f*ed up! that's what you did!" Then proceeds to watch the video and listen to all the things this Brozo had done. I'm surprised that she didn't do as he suggested and get a divorce because clearly there are a lot of things this Brozo was doing wrong. I would have divorced this Brozo straight away

Seems narcissistic to me. He can hear about marriage problems when it's not about him

Everyone in this story are horrible at communicating and this couple needs to go to counseling to figure things out. Yes, couples need to be able to share and talk about problems so they can work through them together. However, everyone has a limit for how much venting and sharing of problems in a single direction. If OP reached that limit then it's more then fair for them to say that they can't handle anymore and the wife should have respected that. I think that the wife's response of completely cutting OP out was over the top. Backing off a little bit to let the other person's limit reset is one thing, completely stopping communication is an other. There's clearly deeper issued on both OP and their wife's part at play and they need to start addressing them and working them out.

@testaccount01336

9 ай бұрын

Thank you. Seems Dusty opinion is totally controlled by his relationship and don't have an unbiased opinion or fair one.

The big issue here is that she’s quiet. That actually means that in her head she’s already out the door. I don’t think he can repair this and being emotionally there for his ex and not his wife is just … I would have left before that, for sure.

How dare the wife not want him to spend so much time, mental & emotional energy on his 4 exes that he has none left for her? She can't tell him who to spend time with. Also, how dare she do things without him? Either he's going to have fun living in "his" house by himself; or is in for a rude awakening when she gets half the house in the divorce. Oh yeah, she's hit Candy Thunder's 'Indifference" stage and is readying her exit.

When she comes an ex, maybe he’ll start to listen to her. 😂

He wants to talk about him, his interest, his other women

One of the best benefits of marriage is having someone in our intimate space to point out our blind spots. To help us be better people, however painful the process. OP, you stuck your feet in cement and gave her an ultimatum: shut up or get out. Be careful what you wish for.

You're giving him two? His wife tried to talk to him about their relationship and he told her she could get out of his house and get a divorce. If she didn't like the way he does things. That's straight to one. She's got one foot out the door. Dude could have had a successful wife, 15 years younger, who just wanted nothing but his companionship and to be with him and to be a team and he tossed her aside like it was nothing.

His wife knew he talked to his ex's before she married him. Why didn't she say something before they got married?

@alyssat7809

9 ай бұрын

We don't know she didn't

@Laurelin9222

9 ай бұрын

But we definitely know she brought it up repeatedly after marriage. Which means he should have stopped.

I just looked up the account this came from and he still hasn't posted an update after a year. She probably left him

No further updates? She has left him. He should be happy, and cuddle up with his exes.

It didn't even occur to this OP that he might be SUCH a problem, his wife has little else to talk to him about. I stopped speaking to my now ex husband when he behaved similarly, but I also left him altogether. I don't know how this wife stayed for any length of time after that.

Is it at all possible that he had a point that ALL she wanted to talk about was what he was doing, what she felt, was wrong? He is definitely an AH for talking to his ex about her issues, but she might be an AH for making him feel like the only time she wanted to talk was to tell him all his problems and issues.

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I find it interacting that he is hell bent on defending his relationships with his exes who come to him with their issues and need someone to talk to, but he can't be that for his own wife. He has a more connected and emotionally intimate relationship with his exes than with his wife and doesn't see an issue with that. I've been in a relationship with a man who "didn't realize that his gf was upset and wanted to spend time with me".... he wasn't an idiot, he was a man who liked the term "technically". He didn't TECHNICALLY lie, he just didn't think I needed to know. He didn't TECHNICALLY cheat, he was just sexting with another woman. Neither my ex or OP understand what a functioning relationship is. A partnership. You and me against the world.

Is there any update on this? I haven’t been able to find anything anywhere.

Was there ever an update for this one?

He's Ascon 1 I think

you are a huge red flag 🚩 and you still don't know why

They both need to communicate better, listen better, and get marriage therapy. Anyone would get tired of conversations being only about things they are doing wrong. Seems like she hasn't had one kind thing to say about him. And she decided to be petty about it when he finally spoke up about it. I know some people who are like that, taking things to the petty level in a "that'll show them" way and they think they are getting back at the other person. All it does is damage things farther until those people end up more miserable than before. OP's wife isn't 'proving a point' and the pettiness isn't cute. Put on your big girl panties and communicate or get therapy or move on.

He said he doesn’t want to talk anymore because he felt he was the problem. So she goes completely opposite and stonewalled him. They’re both wrong.

Dusty Thunder is the asschonut for this biased opinion. All the wife wanted to talk about was his faults. Who tf wants to be belittled every day. Clearly, she is a child with dependency syndrome. If he doesn't meet her needs she needs to put her big girl panties on and leave, like an adult or verbalize concerns.

@sallyjopatriot

9 ай бұрын

male much?.. do you REALLY think this jerk is giving an honest account? Really? Once he said 'I" provide every thing, but yet SHE had the big celebration at work.. that right there is tell you something about his vearacity. I'd say he is NOT providing everything financially OR emotionally.. and instead of saying 'lets just not talk then'.. why didn't he say, I feel like you are always saying everything is my fault... or.. you knew I talked to my exes before we were married.. Instead he slammed the door on his marriage, and hopefully caught his willy in it at the same time.. women do NOT want to have sex with s man they don't feel connected to. she told him she had one foot out the door.. y'a know what's halfway between her feet and her head, right?

@ebbss4

9 ай бұрын

@@sallyjopatriotI’m a female and I agree with the other person. It sounds like she settled for an asshole who she thought she could change. And failed miserably at it.

@sallyjopatriot

9 ай бұрын

@@ebbss4 well, I agree he's an asshole, but I married one, too.. he just hid it well. so, until/unless we hear from her, we won't know..

@karri8998

9 ай бұрын

@@sallyjopatriot So why are you presuming that was a man commenting, just because they didn't agree with the wife. That is bullsh*t. OP & the wife both need to grow up and have an adult conversation and if they can't come to an agreement of what will work for both of them they will need to walk away. He is being a pr*ck and she is nagging the crap out of him regardless of who is in the wrong. Not good for a marriage. Let's be honest she is waiting for him to walk out on her first. In the end it is sad that a marriage is pretty much over and it could have been fixed so easily with him starting first by no longer talking to his ex's, so simple. And yes like you mentioned her heart is broken and in need of care.

@sallyjopatriot

9 ай бұрын

seems to me she DID try to... and since she said she had a foot out the door, and he also admits that it was MORE THAN ONCE... maybe she was trying to give him a wake up call.

She is giving you exactly what you wanted.

"I did this and now she is doing what I said... I don't like it"

@testaccount01336

9 ай бұрын

No, he said don't berate me every day.

@michellenowlin6037

9 ай бұрын

@@testaccount01336 "I don't want to talk"....... ok she's not talking