thanks to a passage in the book "hell followed with us", i realized that i didnt have a woman's body, i have MY body, and what I am, it is with me. My body is my gender's body, because i'm my gender. Even if there are parts of it that i dont like, i also dont particularly like the shape of my nose either. Bodies are weird, but also is gender. (edit) sorry for the rant, kinda unrelated to the theme i guess haha

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Love this!

@alex_blue5802

2 ай бұрын

I relate to this. I just have a body. There are things I do and don't like about it. I've been watching some body positive content lately and I'm trying to learn to stop comparing myself to others.

I love how happy you come across :) its so sweet and it makes me feel better about my identity as a baby trans guy. Thank you for making this content and letting people like me see adults who are happy and proud of their identity.

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for the comment ♥️🥺

I’ve quite literally never found someone who’s life experience is so deeply relatable. I’m at an earlier point in this whole journey, but your videos (especially the rambling sections!) have been a lifesaver. It means so much to hear about trans joy and pride rather than dysphoria. I love being what I am, and it was hard to accept that I didn’t need to hate my self to be a valid trans person, you’ve helped me be okay with this. Thank you!

As a cis gay guy, I really appreciate you sharing this. Your ability to communicate these points (esp #1 and #5, and especially #6) helps me reflect these same ideas back on myself, for which I am grateful. You are shining, and I appreciate to see your happiness shared. You said: "This magical life, with this magical me is only possible because I am myself and I am transgender" really hit me hard, as by replacing transgender with gay, It is me. It took me 47 yrs to fully accept myself as gay and feel comfortable to live my life. In that 2 life window I led, I disliked my body (I became a chubby guy), became a software engineer workaholic, and did hookups on the side. In the last 6 yrs I am living a much more whole life, which has led me to being happy, grateful, and laid off (which, based on the drop in blood pressure, was a *very* good thing). I feel this magical life you speak of, and I too, am grateful. Thank you for putting this into words. Subscribed

As a transdude in mathematics, you made me realize that indeed being seen as a woman impacted me positively socially?! Imagine if I wasn't pushed to be more extraverted and empathetic, omg... Now I love organizing events and parties, have a bunch of friends, etc, I really value that part of my life ❤ I'm on a waiting list, I'll probably start transitioning early next year at 27 years old, I'm really excited for all the changes and growth that are to come!

I relate to the girlboss thing. I was always super proud of myself for being "the only girl" in masculine spaces because it must mean I was masculine too. I resented people trying to force me into feminist groups, though.

My favourite part is the community. I'm aware sometimes the trans community can be a bit exclusionary towards transmascs/trans men and we get a lot of erasure, but my local community is the total opposite. They've been such as incredible source of support, love and joy all throughout my journey. I knew that whatever identity I ended up being, even if I ended up detransitioning, they would always be there. Transfem/transmasc solidarity is such a magical thing to experience and I love my friends so much

Your perspective on being trans is very inspiring. Appreciate your take on it. Beautifully said.

I’m coming out to my parents as a trans man today with a letter… wish me luck🙏

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Good luck!!

@Alex-tr9zv

2 ай бұрын

Good luck, man. Speaking from personal experiences, if they're not 100% supportive from the get-go, given time it might very well get better as they get used to it. Either way, stay safe.

@Osher-ov6ej

Ай бұрын

It’s going better than I thought! I’m optimistic for the future… I was prepared for the worst reactions and I’m so relieved… it’s only the beginning but I feel it’s such a good start

@GhostofTheUchiha22

Ай бұрын

How did it go

@Osher-ov6ej

29 күн бұрын

@@GhostofTheUchiha22 it went really good, they said they understand me and accepts me unconditionally even if it’s really hard for them to adjust. Still dead-naming and misgendering me but my dad said he’ll try to call me by a nickname instead of the birth name… and I think time will help them adjust

Happy to say I’m beginning a PhD program in the fall and came out to my future advisors this week. I have greatly appreciated your perspective on transness, and seeing a possible happy trans future in grad school has meant a lot to me. Just wanted to say thank you again for the videos you put out!

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Yeah I was so worried about how being trans would be in grad school. Grad school has been hard and amazing, much like being trans, but largely for reasons unrelated to my gender. Good luck with your program! What an exciting time!

Thanks, this is really helpful to hear after a week where life has reminded me how hard it is to be trans. Your videos always remind me that there is hope!

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Aw I'm happy to hear it 🥰

Arthur, thank you so much for another thoughtful video. I have my first doctor's appointment about starting HRT tomorrow, and this made me feel less desperate/scared and more grounded/hopeful. Also, in the vein of religious quotes with secular resonance, I'm thinking of this Julian K. Jarboe quote: "God blessed me by making me transsexual for the same reason God made wheat but not bread and fruit but not wine, so that humanity might share in the act of creation."

I'm so grateful I found your channel Arthur. Your video "how to know if you're transgender: a different approach" VERY MUCH resonated with me and brought me so much validation because I never related to "hating" my body or being extremely dysphoric, which is what I would hear the most often. It's part of why It took me until adulthood to realise im trans too. Anyways, I'm in early stages of transitioning now, I came out to most people around me and started T just a few days ago. Ive been so incredibly happy, and I love being trans too. It's been an overwhelmingly positive experience overall for me so far and I know it will get even better with time. Again, thank you so much for sharing so much positivity around being transgender. It is much needed and appreciated.

@markrussell3428

Ай бұрын

Can I ask how old you are

This is exactly what I needed right now. Thank you! ❤️✨🏳️‍⚧️

Arthur , you are one special person! I'm a guy in my 70s , bi, dealing with a changing and often painful body (a shocking occurance to me). I think I should change my attitude about my body to be closer to how you look at your life. Thanks for the useful life tips in this video. You are inspiring me to be happier in not only accepting , but celebrating what I have.

Is there any way to support your channel outside of liking and subscribing? Your videos hit home for me every single time and have opened me to so many lines of thought I hadn’t even considered previously. Thank you for your work!!

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Comments like this always motivate me 🥰Beyond that, for now, just liking and subscribing! In the future perhaps more... But I'm trying to get consistent about posting first!

Love the test story. Some great points I can relate to as a trans gal. I love hearing your experience!! 😊😊😊

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

♥️♥️

Thank you so much for your videos, they mean a lot to me as a young (16 y/o) trans person. I've recently been feeling a lot of shame and denial about my own transness despite knowing I am, and it has been hard for me to truly accept the extent in which I am trans. I have been figuring my gender out for 4 years or so and just recently I am realizing that I am transmasc and I have been really .. scared. It is hard to know if taking testosterone would make me happier, though I think it would, I get worried to come out of my shell like that. Your videos make me feel seen and safe and make me want to be myself more, they make me want to really love my transness, which I do, but it can still be hard at times and especially lately. So thank you for making my heart a little lighter and me a little prouder of who I am, you are amazing :)

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Aww I love hearing that my videos have made you feel seen 😭 Thanks for the comment!!

@Keith_online

2 ай бұрын

You put my thoughts into words.

@GhostofTheUchiha22

Ай бұрын

Same man. We are both 16 year old boys struggling with ourselves and the worst part is that we aren't seen as the men we are our whole childhood and teen years

@dazais_advocate

29 күн бұрын

@@GhostofTheUchiha22 I'm glad someone else understands me. But hey, childhood and teen years aren't our whole lives you know? The beautiful thing about life is becoming who we truly are, and we have so much more life ahead of us. It may feel like forever, but 16 isn't forever and neither is 20 or 30. I believe in us :)

this is an amazing video. alot of my transness i feel like it has been suffering, but as i move closer and closer to coming out(happening in the next few months) i feel excitement and fear. but i know that it will be better for me and i know that in the end its what i need to feel happy and confident. thank you so much for a glimpse into the positives of being trans

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

The coming out phase was so scary and thrilling! Good luck with everything that awaits you ♥️

@fruit_salad

2 ай бұрын

@@arthur_rockwell thank you so much for everything you do!

Its good to have another video from you, Arthur. Im glad to hear your positivity. Good luck in finishing your PhD!

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Thank you!!

Yeah!!! This video resonated with me so much, I'm currently at a more unsteady place in my life and transition (1.5 months on T as of today btw!) and a lot of things are scary right now regarding coming out and family and all that stuff, but ultimately being trans makes me so happy, transition to me is the pursuit of happiness and making my own choices and deciding who I want to be in the world and it is terrifying and exciting and I love living it.

Another beautiful video :) I am in a similar (though not as far) part of my transition where the gratefulness and joy are surpassing the dysphoria. This first year on hormones has been such a ride but so so worth it! Thanks for articulating all the joy so clearly. Congrats on the new apartment and good luck with everything, Arthur.

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Thank you!!

The idea of trusting that you know what’s best when it comes to transition is so powerful, thank you for being so positive! When I doubt the path I’m on I just have to remind myself that it’ll all be okay as long as I never stop loving myself

You’re always thoughtful and well-spoken in your videos. Coupled with the enthusiasm it just makes it AHHSHEHJE

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Awww 🥰

This video came at the perfect time. It's incredible to see how happy you are in yourself and your life. It feels like I'll never get to the point where you are, so this video feels like looking at the impossible, but it is possible, because you exist and you're great and happy, so it gives me faith. Your videos resonate with me in a way I cannot describe, it's so enlightening to hear your personal experiences and I'm so grateful that you're willing to share them with us. Thank you Arthur. Hope all goes well with grad school.

Thank you so much for the positivity. I'm in a scary moment, and your videos are helping me a lot.

For me, gender euphoria or trans joy isnt like being excited or happy. It feels like peace, like comfort, like finally being able to breathe. Even though I’m pre-t and haven’t been through anything surgeries, sometimes i look in the mirror and im just so glad i have a binder. It’s a step in the right direction and it gives me hope. It makes things easy, peaceful, im enjoying the journey AND the destination.

I needed the ramble at the beginning so much, I had no idea. Just the perspective, that some things are hard but I will get to a point where I can love those things

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely! When my transness was causing me pain I would've been so (pleasantly) surprised to learn that one day I'd feel like this. The post-transition trans experience>>

i love the positivity of this video, i think i need more trans positivity as i usually see transphobia or dysphoria and that is really tough

I rlly love ur videos. Ur outlook on being trans is very particular and different to a lot of other trans men I’ve listened to. I relate to ur outlook a lot and ur channel has been a catalyst in my gender journey. Keep being u Arthur

@ThanhTriet600

Ай бұрын

His outlook is a positive one that myself and many other trans people share. It's a stereotype that we are all suffering from crippling dysphoria and sucid@l.

@sobers8105

Ай бұрын

@@ThanhTriet600 exactly ! I especially like his outlook because I had no idea I was trans from an early age. I started questioning later in life. His simple thinking that ‘I think transitioning will make me happier and so I transitioned’ is a breath of fresh air in comparison to ‘I transitioned to save my life’.

@ThanhTriet600

Ай бұрын

@@sobers8105 Yeah, I think that's valid if it's what some is experiencing. My own story isn't as dramatic. I called myself a boy at a young age and have had a good life and accepting family, all things considered. And my mindset now is similar to his. I'm glad I'm trans and also see my past as a girl as an earlier version of me and not something to deny and bury. Being told by some people in the trans community that I didn't have enough dysphoria is toxic af. Rather than gatekeeping, we should be trying to change things so more people have positive experiences with being trans. I feel that by framing things around life and death (and su!cide), people are implying that such experiences define being trans.

@sobers8105

Ай бұрын

@@ThanhTriet600 100% agree with everything u said. It’s unfortunate because I think the crippling dysphoria to the point of unaliving is what get ppl to take trans people seriously. Which is unfortunate and confusing for the other trans people that may not feel that way

Thank you so so much for your videos and sharing your experience and joy in such a thoughtful way. ♥️ I’ve recently come out to myself and my friends and family as trans. When I’m alone or with my trans or supportive friends, I’m 100% certain that this is the life that I want. But when I go out into the world and am often perceived as a silly stupid girl pretending to be a boy, I get so scared and question everything. I just go right back to wanting to put back on the costume of being a girl and forget the reason why I want to transition. Seeing the joy and inner peace you have has really set my sights back on what’s important. Thank you so much. This channel has been so wonderful and helpful. ♥️

This was great, and your point about female socialization was really relatable, at least to me. I'm transitioning significantly later in life (started at 40- hell of a midlife crisis to have), and yeah, I do think I was socialized as a girl/woman for a big part of it, or that there were attempts to socialize me in that way. And in a lot of ways, my past experience as a woman has made me the person that I am, and will contribute to the man I'm becoming, so while I wish I had started earlier, I also can't completely resent it, because frankly, I think I'm a pretty cool person with a lot to contribute, and maybe I'd be very different if my life hadn't gone the way that it did. I've also found, as I've started putting myself out there more on Grindr and elsewhere, that while I do have some dysphoria around my body and what parts I have, there are plenty of guys out there who are into it and excited about it in ways that excite me and make me look at myself through different eyes. It's been a really welcome surprise, actually.

I love listening to these kinds of videos because they're so personal and euphoric. Your impact will be momentous, and you so deserve all the success in the world! Keep the gratitude and self-love up!

I'm currently in a big crisis in my life, in other words, in deep shit. But your videos give me hope and inspiration! Thanks for your big brother advices 😊❤

I have trans guys as friends and even though we aren't super close, when we DO talk, they can be the people I am most comfortable telling about the most personal aspects of my life

Thank you so much for making videos, I love getting to see an example of a happy trans man. I’m only 1 year into my transition and seeing your experience and bubbly/happy energy makes me look forward to the future ❤

Thank youuuu 😘💚🙌. Love your videos. I relate so much to your journey.

This was so wholesome! Subscribed

I look forward to your videos every month

Hi my name is Sarah i like watching your youtube videos . My favourite hobbies are reading comics and doing art . My favourite singers are Adam Lambert, Sam Smith , Boy George . Hope to hear from you soon

I’m soon to be starting T and am in a place where my transness is very much a burden to my life. These videos genuinely bring me so much joy and hope for the future and force me to think in ways that are challenging. Your optimism and passion about your life inspire me to not give up, thank you for this channel :))

You explain this so well!

You deserve 1M followers.

Lovely video, I feel similiar about many of your points here 😄

Really enjoy your videos! Well thought out and always a pleasure to watch. I’d love to hear you talk about trans representation, but specifically in “prestigious” typically male dominated fields. I feel like there’s a tremendous amount of trans representation in the arts, advocacy, influencing, etc but I almost never see trans people in careers like economics, law, medicine, finance, etc. I think there’s certainly a “need to see it to be it” aspect of this, and anecdotally I feel like most of the trans people I have met in those fields aren’t visibly trans/out as trans.

So much positivity, I love it!!! Thank you so much! I love that being trans kinda gives you a new perspective on gender that society doesn't expect people to have. So that makes it easier (sometimes) to realise how a lot of society's gender norms and stuff are complete nonsense. Also really appreciate you saying that KZread is like third or fourth, refreshing to hear ^_^ Good luck and have fun with all the way more important life things! :D

This is so moving!

This is so meaningful

Yes! Trans joy. 😊 Thanks for sharing.

Thanks, fun video

im only a minute in watching this but i already feel so validated hearing words ive never heard another transmasc say before i am trans because i was a girl and now im not. the cause doesnt matter, if something changed within me that made this specifically happen doesnt matter, how many shared trans experiences i relate to doesnt matter. i am trans, and that is it.

I am not there yet but I am so happy for you I wish one day though

Hi it's so verey nice to see you how did i miss you and how are things going for you and your partner and have a great happy pride mouth by robert

@arthur_rockwell

2 ай бұрын

Happy pride month to you too!

Arthur awesome as always. I am really interested if you have ever commented on the idea of a trans-child. You are pretty settled but you waited. Should 5 year olds be playing with pronouns and gender-non conforming

@EmmettL

10 күн бұрын

There is no harm with kids experimenting with this stuff. It's better to play around with it when youre young (we are always growing and allowed to get it wrong) than wait until you're old enough to be negatively effected by the pressures of society 😊

@markrussell3428

9 күн бұрын

@@EmmettL Are you sure about that? The reason I ask is 100% because of what I have learned here, from Arthur. He seems like the most well adjusted trans-person on the planet. He went through a thoughtful process and arrived at a decision to transition in his 20's. My point being, he had the capacity to appreciate fully, every aspect of his decision and what it would mean for a life going forward. He clearly appreciated issues of sexuality, sexual function and fertility. What I appreciate is that for him being trans was NEVER the destination. It was simply part of a full life which he could put into perspective at the time and place where he was. I am not sure if a 13 year old can grasp these decisions. I am sure he is fully aware of the life of complications he has ahead including risks for urinary tract issues , urinary incontinence and atrophic vaginitis (phenomenon similar to what occurs in postmenopausal cisgender women). He is wise enough to monitor his hormone levels to moderate the riskds.

A woman who thinks they’re normal lol

Being a man is not a costume. We have specific specific challanges we cant put on, or take off.

@kyliecohen6303

2 ай бұрын

How are you viewing this video so early if you don’t even like trans people? Are you subscribed to this channel specifically to comment thoughtless takes whenever Arthur posts, or do you just watch so many videos of trans people to keep your hate boner erect that you found this video minutes after it was posted without even having a subscription? I mean, either way is sad af so I’m just wondering.

@posicide

2 ай бұрын

Bruh…… you can’t be serious with that comment

@mikeymullins5305

2 ай бұрын

You know, at least for women, this argument makes sense, even though it's dumb.

@66seattle

2 ай бұрын

@@mikeymullins5305 no it is true. Rehardless of the surgeries some things you will never know. How can u speak on prostate cancer when u do not have testicles. How can u speak on a male orgasm when u do not have the equipment to have one. Well at least a biological one. Etc etc etc

@Alex-tr9zv

2 ай бұрын

@66seattle What specific challanges? Genuinely asking.