Yeah I can’t defend you this time. This is a repost under a different title.

@Telltales.

6 ай бұрын

Guilty as charged, But I believe this is updated since the last post i made :D (Also not me defending myself in the comments XD. So i will pin this :D)

@natemagill8624

6 ай бұрын

@@Telltales.at least your honest

@jodecisanchez8785

6 ай бұрын

@@natemagill8624 That's not being honest. That's called transparency after being callout out 🤷‍♂

@marcelinomoreno1092

6 ай бұрын

I knew it!!

@ZenoDovahkiin

6 ай бұрын

@@Telltales. Maybe change the title to start with "Update:" and show during the beginning of the video whrere the new updates start that you previously didn't have? I know that sounds like killing your retention, but it'd be better than the zero watch minutes that you'll get this way, where people will likely just leave the video immediatey because they don't care enough to painstakingly go through the single "updates" chapter to find the new stuff. Or you could just type out a short summary, do the update as its own video and link to the previous one for people that haven't seen it and want to watch the original post first.

I’m the youngest child and when I notice that my parents aren’t listening to my brother I make sure to say “‘brothers name’ wanted to say/ask something” I know what it feels like to be ignored by people you love and I won’t let that happen to my brother

@SomuaSomua

5 ай бұрын

I have a little brother he is 13 I’m 17 and he is the most arrogant and cocky kid ever it’s gotten so bad some of his own friend have come to me to complain about him it seems all he does it talk shit about everyone please don’t become like him

@LiterallyaDarkVoid

5 ай бұрын

Im a little brother by 4 years and i fully acknowledge the favoritism that happens in my family and try to make Up for It by being as good as i can to my sister so she doesnt feel sad or ignored

@coldhardtruth333

5 ай бұрын

@@SomuaSomuayou read what he wrote and assumed he’ll become like your brother ? Do they sound like they have anything in common? Smh

@mentallyiampushingupdaisie8925

4 ай бұрын

​@@coldhardtruth333*tells ppl how they have a bratty little brother* + "please don't become like him" You: HaAaHHH⁉️⁉️

@Rxctyd

4 ай бұрын

I agree

I can understand why people called out OP for “lying” but again this is a traumatic story for him and also one person proof reading a whole story is a lot. Even after I reread my own work somehow there’s a misspell or I didn’t get the point I went across clearly and didn’t realize in time. Some inconsistencies such be expected. It’s hard to recall all the information perfectly. Especially sadder ones. Our Brains want to protect us so they make you forget all the traumatic things. I hope OP can live a Nice live and find love. adulting is hard Omg

@NinjaTyler

4 ай бұрын

Honestly mistakes like that make it more believable as a traumatic retelling of a long story compared to a made up one, dates and ages being messed up and such opposed to a perfect made story with no obvious errors or contradictions

@ladyweasellou3367

4 ай бұрын

They're just arguing to argue. It never ends, the fact they have nothing better to do than argue over small mistakes and Grammer all flipping day is either not employed or they're very useless to their employers

@nofam7247

2 ай бұрын

The fact that you guys believe this is how real people act irl pretty much sums up reddit by itself lmao

@nofam7247

2 ай бұрын

​@@ladyweasellou3367so people calling out fake ahh stories are useless. You are special lol

I myself haven’t experienced this, however I have a good friend who (from the day he was born; till he was 17 when he moved in with me) had to put up with his parents favouritism for his twin brother. Needless to say he hasn’t spoken to them since he moved, and I can clearly see that the dude is much happier, and has no regrets about the decision to leave them.

With the little girl, she was nine and demanding a car? WTH man this is why you never spoil children.

@juliaboskamp9666

2 ай бұрын

That isn't even spoiling that is some whole new level of being entitled

@something21893

Ай бұрын

I’m late IK but SHE IS NINE HOW IS SHE GOING TO DRIVE

@DuskShadow235

Ай бұрын

@@something21893 an amazing question!! I didn’t even know the concept of driving when I was nine, I was still trying to figure out why the moon followed me everywhere I went lol

@AhmedDans-si9fb

7 күн бұрын

​@@DuskShadow235 me too

You know, stories like this remind me that I have a good relationship with my family, and that I should never let go of that. And that I feel bad for a majority of people.

@jayewrite1256

3 ай бұрын

Same worst I can complain about is that as a little kid it felt like I constantly got ignored, heck even now with me being 6’ 2” my family has a bad habit of forgetting about me and wondering where I disappeared even when I’m standing next to them. Or like one time a couple of years ago I disappeared on them by standing in the spot I told them I’d wait for the at while they looked at clothes while we were on vacation. My point is everyone has their own complaints, but their are definitely those who have much more valid reasons to complain then something like not being noticed.

No one should have kept telling OP they’d put the wrong ages etc.. out of everything that shouldn’t be what people focus on. There’s so much more to focus on. Get over the fact someone’s said something incorrectly. Whatever age it started at, it still started whether the OP was 8 or 10 or whatever age

I know all too well the pain of parental favouritism. My brother usurped my life, my family sacrificed my future for his luxuries.

@KittyKat-ky5us

6 ай бұрын

❤️

@thecajunphoenix

Ай бұрын

I hope you went no contact with the whole lot of them because favoritism like that is what leads to those same parents being abandoned in a nursing home as their so-called golden children abandon them and their scapegoat children pretty much tell them to pound sand. May you build a far happier life that does not include those toxic blood relatives. I refuse to refer to them as your family because really family doesn't treat you badly.

@VirtualKnight64

Ай бұрын

@@thecajunphoenix If only it were that easy. When I was very young, my mother exiled me from my home town for a crime my brother committed and I was forced to live with my grandparents miles away. Because I defended myself against the bullies there, a therapist psychologically abused me, and a psychiatrist permanently crippled me. I'm disabled for life now, and I still have to rely on my grandparents to sort out my welfare paperwork. I live with my uncle near my hometown now. things aren't the best right now, but they're a lot better than they were after my brother framed me.

@thecajunphoenix

Ай бұрын

@@VirtualKnight64 I hope your egg donor's life is Hell because of what she did to you. You did nothing to deserve the abuse, and I hope your golden child brother did not get away with his crimes. That 'therapist' and that 'psychiatrist' both deserve to lose their licenses to practice because therapists and psychiatrists are supposed to support the actual victims and survivors like you and not support the abusers like your egg donor and your golden child brother.

the hitting her head on a wall is something i used to do when i was really stressed and was deppresed when i was being tormented by a girl in school (im a boy) and my family just said "oh she just likes you" so far the self harm has stuck with me when i get stressed or deppresed and i still remember the whole name of the girl that tormented me and its been around 3 years ( sorry for bad spelling im horrible at spelling long words)

@bintalmasood

3 ай бұрын

Hey kid, I hope you're okay now. Bad behaviour from anyone is not justifiable and if your parents cannot understand that then approach other figurative authorities in case you encounter anything as such (god forbid) in your future.

@MDLuffy1234YT

3 ай бұрын

As for me, I did this too, but I don't remember if it was out of shame or blackmail. I still do tend to beat myself up every time I'm confronted, even for the tiniest things, thankfully not physically.

@Sealanimations69

2 ай бұрын

If a girl like that shows up, they think ur an easy target

31:08 This is called a trauma trigger, my friend. OP definitely is making a good call to stay off reddit if it's going to pull him back to dark places.

@mazthebear

6 ай бұрын

Especially since reddit is full of borderline schizophrenic psychopaths

Man, i don’t understand people who damage their children and their future and everything by spoiling them. You don’t love them when you do this. They destroyed her, she is a victim and the parents should be in jail for child abuse. I hate these people

@elizabethbarajas4863

6 ай бұрын

Fr, I skipped to the updates because I've heard this story a couple times before and when i heard she was NINE my jaw DROPPED. She's doing all this as a nine year old?? And they've put her in boarding school, a psychiatric clinic, and imposed a strict diet on her?? Nah this kid was being messed up and still is. I understand the second one (though I've heard from friends who've been to some that they can be absolute hellholes) but sending their 9 year old to boarding school because they can't be assed to even try to be good parents is wild. And I hope the strict diet is only temporary and will be replaced with a slightly looser one soon-ish because that can *really* mess up her perception of food when she gets older. Just so much wrong here oh my god. I feel horrible for OP too ofc but I feel like no one's talking about the fact she's 9 going through all this. Shitty kid, shittier corrections.

@JellyMyst

6 ай бұрын

It sounds like - and I urge you to take this purely as the speculation it is - that the mother ended up seeing her daughter as herself due to the mystery childhood trauma. She ended up unable to deny her daughter anything, since it'd remind her of whatever happened to her, and the father was spineless enough to enable the whole thing. The family was similarly spineless - and probably too distant from the situation - to interfere until the whole thing blew up. None of this - assuming I'm not mistaken - excuses the behavior, but it might help you understand.

@FlamesAndShadows

5 ай бұрын

@@JellyMyst Interesting, but pieces ain't puzzling for treatment of OP then. Thougts? Because every conceivable trauma mom presumably tries to shield her little girl from (except fallout of the past year), I can nitpick out of this right now, she accidentally-on-purpose gives to her son. Including new ones.

@JellyMyst

5 ай бұрын

@@FlamesAndShadows I'm not quite sure what you mean, but I think you're asking how their treatment of OP fits into my hypothesis. I think he was more or less just caught in the crossfire. Mommy's little princess needed everything just so, and to make that a reality, OP had to give up more and more of what he had.

@artaizen1613

5 ай бұрын

some of these post made me realize how vindictive I was.... but damn there are people that I feel like literal saint, If my parent were to do these kind of shit to me, I won't even bother helping them probably even if they are dying, I would have like a dead heart inside , I mean probably I offed myself or something, these stories are just too unreal for me.

Shame on the parents, who let the Golden child sister have two birthdays instead of letting Op have a birthday about himself.

@alexandram3122

2 ай бұрын

She expected a car at 10 too

@baroqueniBBa

2 ай бұрын

first world problems lmao

@thecajunphoenix

Ай бұрын

That's actually 8 birthdays the OP's DNA donors forcibly gave to his spoiled brat sister.

"I am bad at Math" I fell that bro, I really do

I've heard the first story, since then I've heard like 5 more stories of favoritism by one or both parents destroying the childhood of one kid by neglecting him/her and other kid by placing them at their heads.

@Olimar92

6 ай бұрын

It's like every Golden Child Story, and most of the time the parents don't change. I heard one where the GC was an adopted child.

My bio mom was the same way with my two sisters. She had abandoned me to live with my dad while she collected Child Support for me. Then only wanted something to do with me once she had to pay back the money and pay my dad Child Support. Later on in life she told me she wished she had an abortion.

@jackalzirson2631

5 ай бұрын

Im sorry you had to deal with that, my parents were emotionally abusive towards me, i know how much words like that can hurt, especially when its daily and treated as a joke

imagine this sister in court as an adult for a crime she commits… Judge: Ma’am, how do you plead? Sister (sobs): I’m innocent! My brother did this! Prosecutor attorney : Objection! She murdered the officer in his house for taking her car after speeding!

These stories are so sad and crushing to know when you have a good family and sometimes take them for granted

The Grandfather is a good man. He easily made the most effort for the lad

@herressen1271

4 ай бұрын

Depends like he let it happen till the sharade broke. Only god knows how much he really knew about the mom and her backstorry and his son enabling it. But even if we give him the benefit of the doubt he´d still be guilty of turning a blind eye. But he stood up for his mistake or neglegence so he is an honorable man, doesnt make him a good one necessarly. Depends on how you define it. But then who is free of sin

@christopherbull7856

3 ай бұрын

He really should of stepped up a lot sooner so thing’s wouldn’t be this bad and the sisters mentality would be easier to fix. Op is thankful but is annoyed how late everyone reacted

@thecajunphoenix

Ай бұрын

Only after the OP had reached his Rage Breaking Point over 8 years of blatant favoritism and tore into everybody with a bad-ass "The Reason You Suck" Speech for ruining all of his birthdays.

No matter how many channels upload this story, I never get tired of hearing it.

Really sounds like the mother just overly doted on the sister after the rough pregnancy, and dad didn’t put his foot down at all.

This makes me wanna hug him and tell him everything's gonna be alright and that if I was his friend through all this, I would make a mini party in secret every year just for him.

@rubyblaze7225

3 ай бұрын

Also, everytime I hear little miss sunshine, it reminds me the movie that goes by the same name.

Every child deserves a parent. Not every parent deserves a child.

The updates are definitely worth hearing. Sorry about the trigger, OP. I suspect my parents to both have severe PTSD from growing up through the Cultural Revolution in China, though they both refuse to tell me their stories. They’re terrible at emotional expression and it’s very difficult to have a conversation about anything with them without devolving into a horrendous argument if they feel they’re being told they’re wrong. They both have hair trigger tempers, and they regularly set each other off. Being with them is like walking on eggshells and it’s exhausting having been repeatedly told growing up (and even now) that “if [you] just behaved/did better, [we] wouldn’t be feeling this way.” I have no siblings to help alleviate my burden. Still, I’m not holding anything against them. Their only job was to survive the special hell they grew up in and escape poverty. To that end, they were successful. They’ve still done a lot for me on all other fronts. I have my own career and marriage now. My job will be to make sure their trauma does not pass down to my future kids.

Im shocked that OPs parents were allowed to stay as her guardians, in some places child services would step in and take over her guardianship, meaning they had the final say in when your sister was allowed out, with who and for how long

I didn't know about the last update too. But there is an story who is similar about an OP with his autistic a-hole brother and his enabler parents. The 1st story is how the parents cancel his 14th b-day and was get it again because everyone literally gang up on the parents. The good news is, different than the sister in this one, the brother realize how much of an a-hole he was and how much of the parents fault too. Yet, the mother was the one had to get admit into a mental hospital in the last posts.

@Renkencen

5 ай бұрын

Heh, I think it was this one you're on about- kzread.info/dash/bejne/kZ59mslwn8-7Zps.html

The ‘unknown disorder’ is likely something similar to BPD or other attachment/emotional regulation related disorders. This can happen with both spoiled and abused children due to the irregular ways in which they were raised, and never taught how to properly regulate their emotions in a healthy way or acceptable way. Considering the mom’s outburst and the physical altercation that took place i’m assuming that it may be BPD related to PTSD that’s caused such a strong and unhealthy attachment between the mom and her daughter which lead to her daughter exhibiting similar symptoms and behaviors. Also OP should go to a therapist to really talk it all out with a professional who knows how to help. I know how badly abuse from a mentally unwell parent and siblings can effect someone and if it all gets buried it’ll just come back up in larger and more detrimental ways later. Dealing with everything surely won’t be easy or fast but it’ll give you a more stable foundation to build on that won’t all come crumbling down on a bad night. I realized later in life that therapy isn’t just a one way road to medicating and dealing with the fallout but rather a chance to express everything in a safer place so you can finally work on moving forward in a healthier way.

@chantheman2308

6 ай бұрын

See that’s interesting because I was thinking something similar, but my first thought was to go to RAD since it can also be in adulthood (although rare)

@mary-janereallynotsarah684

6 ай бұрын

I have Borderline too and it's a Rollercoaster. On top of being autistic and adhd and other problems... cptsd. Bpd can be caused by a difficult birth too. And trauma as an infant. I had an accident as a baby and it triggered a fear in me that the world is scary. I developed agoraphobia and social phobia from a young age that waxed and waned. I think a combination of horrendous neglect (yes enabling is neglect) and birth trauma the suster was set up for a life of insanity. I actually feel worse for her than OP. That said OP did well getting away from them. The grandparents did better and helped OP escape. The whole family needs therapy. But especially the mom and sister. Ur pain is valid OP ❤

@mary-janereallynotsarah684

6 ай бұрын

​@chantheman2308 what's RAD?

@chantheman2308

6 ай бұрын

@@mary-janereallynotsarah684 Reactive Attachment Disorder, look it up it can appear similarly to bpd but not exact

@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami

5 ай бұрын

Why can only people above 18 be diagnosed with narcissism?

Some people don't deserve to have children

@saint037

5 ай бұрын

the fact that the child they effectively didn't raise turned out to be a fully functional adult says a lot

That's one thing I hate about Reddit; the amount of people who go, "MnEeHh ThIs Is SoOoO fAkE" or nowadays thanks to AI, "ThIsSsS iS AI gEnErAtEd!". 8-9 billion people on this planet, you don't think something like that or this can happen to anyone other than in a story? As the late and great Andre Braugher, who portrayed Captain Raymond Holt on the sitcom Brooklyn 99 said, "Apparently that is a trigger for me."

Reddit hounding this kid so bad for telling his story they gave him a stress induced mental breakdown. Weird how they all become Sherlock Holmes whenever the victim of the story has a Y chromosome.

@snarkymoosesshack8793

6 ай бұрын

pRedditors really are the absolute worst trash on the internet. Friendly reminder that they almost got an innocent man killed back when they were pulling their sherlock holmes shit when the Boston Marathon attack happened, and had accused the wrong guy.

@user-kk6gb5tc7g

6 ай бұрын

What do you mean, what did they accuse OP of?

@justaroodypoo

6 ай бұрын

@@user-kk6gb5tc7g They keep asking him about his story trying to find holes to claim it was all made up. Asking questions about his age, his sisters age and the times of his parties etc. He spends a good portion of his update just trying to explain himself to the their accusations. They do this integration act with every male victim story that goes there.

@snarkymoosesshack8793

6 ай бұрын

@@user-kk6gb5tc7g OP went against the hivemind and the groupthink, is my uneducated guess.

@tek512

6 ай бұрын

@@user-kk6gb5tc7g Fabricating the story entirely, lying about key details to make himself look better, etc. The usual stuff, just more nitpicky than usual. Thing is, the accusations alone weren't so much the issue, I don't think. You had a bunch of posters trying to gaslight him into thinking his sister was right, he was to blame for her issues, etc.

Gummy bears on mashed potatoes....now i know the type of people that keeps making such food abominations like pickle cake....

Yk as the saying goes every child deserves a parent, not every parent deserves a child.

This is a lot more heartbreaking than I remember.

Hearing this, I became grateful that my parents are great people and don't discriminate me (oldest) with my brother(youngest)

I remember this story I really did hope for update. Thanks for them

Even if this story is false or real You can’t say that this situation doesn’t happen

>IQ 110 >Smart 😂

Trust me, ppl expressinh their trauma freely van be a way of destressing. That happen to me to. I have no problem telling my trauma

What terrible, toxic parents! My mother says, "You love your children equally!"

just because OP mom had a difficult pregnancy doesn't mean little miss sunshine is entitle to whatever she wants

bro i could not be a parent. Im tryin to put myself in the parents shoes having to deal with unspoiling a child and my first idea was to lock her in a room and giver her nothing but bread and water until she calms down. and each time she tantrums, back into the room u go! I'd never do that but i'd also never let my kid get to that point in the first place

I know two people who were treated like this and worse by their parents. So sad.

Huh. This kinda reminds me of myself. "Mother" and father had seperated before I was born because my dad just couldn't stand my "mothers" behavior (she was constantly shouting at him for every small reason, demanded him to do all the household chores after coming home from work while she did nothing, that sort of stuff). When I was born, from what I was told, my life was at least somewhat alright. I did show signs of mild neglect, according to my Grandmother, but nothing too severe. Obviously my "mother" got full custody, because even nowadays it's hard for good dads to get their own children away from shitty "mothers" and back then it was pretty much completely impossible). Then, about 2.5 years later my sister was born. Fathered by the same man as me, as weird as that may sound. He was absolutely not interested in my "mother" of course, but, despite him trying to get her to have an abortion, once I was born he absolutely fell in love with me. One day she called him in the middle of the night, telling him that I was terribly sick and he should be there. So he got out of bed, and without even changing into regular clothes, he just put his motorcycle clothes stuff on top of his pyjama and rushed to get to where me and her were living. Once he arrived, I was sleeping peacefully (and probably was never sick at all) and she somehow tricked him into having sex with her, probably because his guard was down due to all the stress and worry for my wellbeing. Once she was born, everything went to shit immediately. She'd get literally everything she wanted. If there was a song in the radio and I was singing along, she'd scream and our "mother" would shout at me to stop because my horrible singing was "hurting her fine musically attuned ears" (or some shit like that) - fun fact: I was actually talented at singing as a child, even was taken into the school choir without really any effort of myself and that was appearently not easy to get into. Later I had lost absolutely all talent for singing and now I actually sound like shit when I try to. When asked about how that could have happened, a friend of my grandma - without knowing any of the backstory - told her that a child could lose the talent for singing (or any other talent) if it's consistently told that it's bad at it. Similarly, there was one incident my Grandma told me about (I can remember very little from that time, so most of what I know is through stories from when my Grandma or Dad were visiting - mind you, those were the days when my "mother" was on her best behaviour and at least somewhat tried to make my sister act normal - I myself don't even want to know how bad it was when they weren't there and I was alone with both my "mother" and sister). Basically, my mother, sister, grandma, and I were walking somewhere. There was a rather strong breeze blowing and I loved the feeling of wind rushing over my skin and through my hair, so I started to run ahead with a bright smile on my face. Then my sister started screaming, and our "mother" ordered me to come back in a very stern tone. When my grandma questioned her about it, she explained that my sister was actually faster than I was (which she obviously wasn't) so she wanted to be in front of me. My grandma obviously told my "mother" that if my sister was faster, she should just run to get ahead of me, but my mother said that my sister didn't feel like running so I had to slow down to walk behind her instead. Another time I got a pretty nice toy from my dad that I really liked and immediately started to play with. My sister came up from behind the chair I was sitting on and, while my grandma was watching, she hit me on the head, immediately grabbed the toy I was holding, let herself fall to the ground behind the chair, and started crying. Our "mother" obviously immediately rushed in shouting at me for hitting my sister, and only calmed down when my grandma explained what had actually happened, though it was obvious that my "mother" wasn't happy with it. My sister would also, obviously, break any of my toys soon after I got them, simply because she absolutely couldn't stand me having anything that she didn't, and if I even so much as told her to please not do it, I'd be at risk of getting shouted at or beaten again. I'd also often get shouted at or beaten for things my sister did, or sometimes for annoying my "mother" while she was busy drinking and talking to some friends on the phone just because I was hungry. I remember one time I tried eating cat food and it tasted actually pretty nice, much better than I expected (obviously it was the dry cat food stuff, even back then I probably wouldn't have ever touched the wet stuff). When I was about 6, after a particularly bad beating, things were so bad, that I actually rushed into the kitchen, grabbed the biggest knife I could find, pointed it at myself, and told my "mother" that I'd kill myself if she ever beat me again. Obviously she took the knife away, shouted and beat me some more, obviously followed by her manipulative af bullshit, like, her crying and telling me how sorry she was and that she loved me more than anything else and I'm the most important thing in her life and all that crap. All while this was going on, my dad and grandma fought tooth and nail in court to take custody away from her, but it didn't work out due to the "justice" system being the way it was (and, sadly, kinda still is). I ended up spending 12 entire years of my life with that so-called "person" that even now has the audacity to call herself my mother before my grandma finally managed to come up with a (probably not entirely legal) trick to get me away from my "mother" and then I finally got to live with my grandma until I was 16, at which point I decided to move in with my father. It is mostly thanks to my grandmas efforts that I am able to have any semblance of a normal life today, and I will forever be thankful to her for that. I consider her my real mother, since she was the only woman in my life who ever made any effort in actually raising me, and tried her best to give me as much of a childhood as she could to make up for the first 12 years that were completely lost. As for my so-called "mother" and sister, once I was out of the house and my "mother" didn't have anyone else to beat up and abuse, she turned on my sister. This, of course, turned my sisters world upside down immediately. For me, living like this was all I knew so it was normal to me and I wasn't really able to fully comprehend that this was wrong or even consider calling anyone for help. My sister, though, who was used to being treated in the exact opposite way, wasn't able to stand such treatment for long, and she ended up calling police and child protection service pretty soon. From what I've heard, neither police nor child protection services did much of anything, despite my sister calling them twice, but somehow my sister still eventually ended up in a foster family, which had a really good effect on her personality and now she's also able to live a pretty normal life and does not act like the spoiled manipulative lying brat that she was all those years ago. We're not exactly close, but we do talk occasionally, and I don't hate or even dislike her in any way because I realize that she was just acting the way she was raised, and she proved to me that she can be a better person than that with the way she started acting once she was taken away from our "mother". Needless to say, I've completely cut all contact with my "mother". It took me a long time to get to that point, since, for some weird reason, I still liked her and wanted to be part of her life and all that (maybe some weird form of stockholm syndrome?). I also wanted her to understand and feel true remorse for what she did and apologize sincerely. But by the time I had turned 21 or 22, I had given up hopes of that ever happening since all I ever got was more of her downplaying everything and trying to twist the truth to make it seem like my father was actually the bad guy (for which, of course, she was not ashamed to utilize my own very spotty memory against me - which she herself caused with her atrocious actions), so I just stopped talking to her entirely. From what my sister told me, she's also currently in the process of cutting contact with our "mother" so once that is done, our "mother" will be truly and completely alone (she also doesn't really have any friends left due to her highly abusive and manipulative nature). I gotta say that this brings me at least some small satisfaction. Due to this, I think OP is obviously right to never want to speak with his "parents" ever again, since, much like my own "mother" they are both an absolute disgrace for any human being and should be shamed and humiliated for even daring to consider themselves as parents. I wouldn't even treat a strangers kid as poorly they did their own, and that's despite the fact that I very strongly dislike children in general. I think they deserve absolutely no respect, sympathy, or kindness from anyone for anything. The only thing they deserve is to spend the entire rest of their (hopefully *very* long and healthy) lives completely alone, disliked and shunned by everyone they ever knew. There is still hope for his sister. She's still very young and there's time for her to learn to become a decent person with the help of people at the mental institution and probably some years of therapy afterwards. I hope that OP and his sister will eventually be able to reconcile and have an at least amicable and friendly relation with each other, like I do with my own sister. She might not be evil or a bad person, it could be that she was just acting according to how she was raised. I guess in the case of OPs sister, only time will tell.

@HippieInHeart

6 ай бұрын

Also, "mother" obviously also spent some time in mental hospitals and stuff - I believe that was actually how people ultimately managed to get me and my sister away from her - she wasn't aware until the very last moment that she wouldn't be allowed to bring us to live with her in the mental hospital. She did allegedly have various traumata and bad experiences, but judging from how much she always kept manipulating everyone and lying about everything, it's hard to be sure what is truth and what is another one of her lies just for her to get sympathy from others and an excuse to continue doing what she does. With someone like her, it's probably best to just consider absolutely every single thing they say as a lie until they can show you concrete undeniable proof (that can't be fabricated by just manipulating psychologists and psychiatrists into giving her whatever diagnosis she things would be the most beneficial to her). I remember one time, when we were still living with her, she told me and my sister that she had breast cancer. Another time she allegedly had leukemia. There were a bunch of other very severe and often incurable and deadly diseases too. Of course, all of those always magically vanished or "got better" (despite her never recieving any actual treatment) once the illnesses stopped being convenient or people were getting suspicious about the lack of physical proof. I think that's probably how she ended up going down the "mental illness" route eventually. It's much easier to fake - especially for someone who's as good at manipulating others as she was - and there's never any need to explain any lack of physical proof of treatment or illness.

@quitenerdy1

6 ай бұрын

Holy novel Batman.

10:18, yes, One good party doesn't undo 8 years of favouritism. Absolutely. But you can't tell me that your entire extended family throwing a full on party hiding it from you didn't get ya slightly emotional. Honestly speaking, the extended family proved to be better people than your parents and sister. (Let's not blame that entitled brat yet, its the parents fault for the way she behaves at this age)

holy fucking shit, this is gonna give me a mental breakdown, oh my god, oh my fucking god, bless this poor poor soul, what did he ever do to get that little demon as a sister

Heard this story before but yea terrible parents that’s wat happens when u spoil your kids or in this case one child and black sheeping another one.

The parents and the brat should've never been invited to the 19th bday party or any other party again.

the mother sounds like the type that if the sister killed someone she bail her out being like my baby didn't mean it or something

24:19 You don't get Baker Acted because of a diagnosis - you get Baker Acted because of specific behaviors. NPD isn't just being extremely self-centered. Someone with NPD is manipulative, self-interested, and constantly seeking validation. If they can't get validation, suicide threats are absolutely on the table, and this is one of the surest ways to get Baker Acted. Anyone who says "this seems unlikely because of x diagnosis" is an idiot. That isn't how you assess psychiatric holds, not short-term, not long-term. Your assessment is always based on your behaviors, specifically relating to the likelihood of harm. It's also worth addressing the actual diagnosis, since it gets brought up later. The way that we diagnose children for mental disorders is different from the way that we diagnose adults, this is because there are some symptoms/traits that can be socially reinforced. You don't want a kid growing up being told that they're a narcissist, because many of the traits they have they could grow out of with the proper social supports. So, most personality and mental disorders (except for disorders with neurological components, like ADHD) will have a counterpart with similar symptoms for people under 18, almost always defining symptoms that existed prior to 15 years of age. Basically, you don't start really collecting data for things like NPD or APD or BPD until around 15 years old, and an official diagnosis can't take place until after 18 years old.

My nephew and niece are just like this. Spoiled and will hit and bite. They made me reconsider if i wanted kids then i relized my kids won't be like that.

I think all that gummy bears made the OP's sister a bit ko ko from the head💀💀

@thecajunphoenix

Ай бұрын

No, the gummy bears alone can't do that. For this one, blame it on the OP's DNA donors for choosing to spoil and enable his sister.

Sometimes i'm just glad not having a any sibling for experience this kind of torment.

Something I always say: DO. NOT. let the first consequence your child faces be a cop. Kids learn how to handle disappointment as an adult by microdosing it as a child in age appropriate ways. If you don't feel comfortable with an "adult no", find a "kid no" instead of saying yes. "No honey, you can't blow the candles out on your brother's cake. How about we go light the scented candle in the bathroom and you can blow that out?" Great way to calm a toddler that's having trouble understanding what's happening and why. Then as she gets older, the no gets more adult. You tell her it's not her birthday and she doesn't always get something because someone else does. Then more adult still to calling her out on being entitled and selfish. You don't have to be hard-nosed about saying no, but you do have to say it.

Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child

Oh wow, that's a really tough story. I hope OP finds help, he desperately needs therapy to work through all this crap. I'm glad for OP that he had the rest of his family on his side, unfortunately that's often not the case. I wish him all the best for the future and hope he will find peace with the situation and also hope that the sister, who can't help her messed up upbringing, gets better at some point.

Your sister is slowly becoming Azula. You know the crazy girl from Avatar

Yeah if i was OP i be keeping low contact on the sister. The sister sounds really dangerous, on top of being violent she’s also very smart. It doesn’t sound like she’s going to change anytime soon and will hold on her resentment towards her brother into adulthood.

Wow, that was hard to take. It kuat be horrible as the OP, but I do think the dad is wrong to keep Sunshine's conditions private. Basically, throughout the story, OP felt ostracized and betrayed from how his parents coveted their daughter... and now to "fix it," the dad is repeating the sins with the diagnosis, reaffirming that he doesn't care about OP.

Guy didnt get to celebrate his own birthday for years. Did you really expect him to remember any of them? It's no wonder he's getting confused with dates. Parents can really do stuff like this and congrates to people who dont think so because that means you lucked out with decent parents.

Why wont the sister learn her lesson!?

I'm aware that i myself am a spoiled princess but even this little miss sunshine scares me to be around 🥶🥶

Dang.... 22:26 hit hard... I thought she was like 13, with the story having progressed over the years, but no... how horrible.

Whats funny is that i have read both this post and the post op(1) mentioned about their cake being cut the night before, in which the father even told op(2) to fuck off when op(2) asked father to pay him for ruining the cake.

I feel you there, OP. This is because there was a time when I didn't want to celebrate my birthday either since people at school/ college (UK version) insisted on saying "Happy Birthday" to me when it wasn't my birthday, regardless of how many times I told teachers about it and told them to knock it off myself. In some ways, that was 1 of the few times Covid did me a favour; it made my birthday easier to ignore while did some work around the house instead. Also, despite being slightly more inclined to celebrate it now, I know that I won't be forgiving the people who started that nonsense (you know who you are) any time soon since they don't deserve it. As such, you have my full sympathy and support.

Hope this dude really does move forward; best thing for him now.

It’s nice to hear the updates

Shout-out to the grandparents

If a post gets too big Reddit users will start saying it’s fake. I’m sure there are plenty of fake ones but why are they so afraid to believe some random family drama? It’s like they can’t stand being outsmarted or something. Chill, it’s a family drama, whether it’s true, slightly true or false, you can only give your opinion and hope for the best.

@jackalzirson2631

5 ай бұрын

What makes me mad is that you dont even need to have an accurate opinion on if its true or not. Just dont comment or downvote if it seems fake. It also enrages me that people care so much about real or fake when its a single individual, but will believe whatever their side on politics tells them to believe.

I'm glad the rest of the family finally did say something. Still cruel.

some people just don’t understand that homicide is justifiable in some circumstances, like story 1

32:30 I've heard this post too. Feeling sad for that boy.

These people fucked up big time on parenting. Yes, it is tragic what happened to the mother during pregenacy and afterwards, but to take golden child favoritism to the extreme is not a good look or way to raise a child. Their daughter turned out like this because of their enabling, doting, giving never take, spoiling, etc. The way how it looks, she may never grow out of that mindset the parents implanted in her from day 1. Everything should be hers? B-days, cars, apartments, phones, money? This girl is just gonna take everything without remorse nor regret. Sending her to boarding school may not have been an idea as for how she is now, that pretty much made it worse by endangering other kids around her age. The only time they actually are doing right is when they got called out by the entire family, after like what 8yrs of hell for their oldest. Now they see the fk up they created into this world, they have to double everything they paid for her from the beginning of enabling her and spoiling to using to help this child. If they arent able to set and help this girl before 18 years of age, its gonna get worse from then on. She'll be an adult, she can easily leave her parents and not go to wards or seek medical help unless it is KNOWN she is a danger to others or herself. And to add onto it, if she cause property damage and assault someone just cause they said no to her, guess who gonna be behind a jail cell and whos gonna be crying and pleading for mercy. All honesty, I feel bad for both kids as its not their faults, its the parents. They started this, now its coming back to bite them in the ass.

When my autistic little brother was 5 he hit his head on the floor to get his way, he did do other stuff but I won’t talk about for privacy

Don't call her Cartman, she's nowhere near that smart.

I'm picturing Veruca Salt. Terrible parents.

It sounds like she may have NPD/HPD. (Narcissist personality disorder/ histrionic personality disorder). My ex has both and while he behaved differently, he physically hurt our son after i fled (abuse situation and our son lives with his parents)

You know it’s gonna be a fire story when you wanna punch a character so badly

Honestly, it feels a lot like the parents doubled down extra hard on the daughter as a scapegoat for the family

He was born at the end of july? Me too What a strange co-incidence

He forgot about manipulation as well as the 2 he mentioned

Grandpa like a mob boss fr

Gummy bears on mashed potatoes 🥴

So this is the thing, based on what I’m hearing of that girl and what she may be diagnosed with later in life: Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Acquired) Borderline Personality Disorder (Acquired) Histrionic Personality Disorder (Acquired) Antisocial Personality Disorder (Acquired) She shows narcissistic tendencies in that she cannot fathom *not* being the center of attention. Borderline cases have self-destructive behaviors that are aimed at getting their way or getting attention from others. Both of these disorders have a common factor in which the person suffering from them cannot fathom how their behavior is an issue. They simply view themselves as better than others and believe the world should bend to their whims. Histrionic patients tend to be overly dramatic, they have some hallmarks of NPD and BPD but to a slightly lesser extent. They tend to be overly dramatic (screaming, fussing, pouting, feigning) and use exaggerated emotional responses to get their way or to get sympathy and attention. The APD part was the hardest for me to pin point, but the sister also has a very clear lack of care for the rights and dignity of others. She views everyone else a tool to be used and does not care about rules, doesn’t like having to follow rules, doesn’t like being “second best” at something, hates being ignored, and is willing to harm herself or, if she can, others to get her way and is willing to shatter relationships if that’s what it takes to get her way. The way this is being described here, because of how young she is, the diagnosis would actually be marked as a Conduct Disorder, since APD can’t be accurately diagnosed until the late teenage years (after the age of 17). So, for the OP, yes the sister would have more than one co-morbid (simultaneous) diagnosis. NPD cannot be diagnosed until the age of 18, neither can BPD; HPD; or APD. For that time period, the all-encompassing disorder she’d be diagnosed with is a sweeping case of Conduct Disorder.

@novanic7769

5 күн бұрын

Good lord praise this man

if narcism leads you to be a danger to yourself and others then yes you could be put in a psych ward for it

What a crazy path of enablement and parental neglect. Mom enables sister. Dad enabled mom. And everyone’s enablement were paid for my OP

awwww poor baby i feel so bad for him.

@Snowflakegamerchild

12 күн бұрын

I am honestly crying while listening this

Imagine being diagnosed as a Narcissist at such a young age, not to mention as a kid as well. Those kids in these Reddit stories take entitlement to the extreme!

who cares if the baby cried over those candles, babies cry all the time, this is the moment that everything went bad, i kinda feel bad for her, she never wanted to end up with such a huge ego

Bro's sister is Veruca Salt

You'd think it would be the other way....that the fact the sister nearly killed everyone

Omg those parents hurt her daughter even more than OP I've seen spoiled children growing up. They weren't as extreme as her. But still, adulthood was really difficult for them, they can't regulate their emotions, unrealistic expectations and are soo difficult to be around.... life will teach them what theit parents didn't. And sometimes life is cruel. I wonder what kind of disorder OPs mother and Sister have. Not telling OP looks to me that they don't see them as family at all. I understand the thought of his father. OP shouldn't concern himself with it, but I do think it would bring him some closure. They are bad parents. It sounds to me like sociopathy. Because mother and daughter are constantly acting really bad.

I've watched this video before but not the entire thing. The dum sister really got sent to a ward because she threaten to harm herself if they didn't give her candy and let her leave! The parents really messed her up. She even got the parents fighting to the point where the father was sent to the hospital and the mother in a ward and therapy! At least now, she's in a place where no one give a dam about what she wants.

Why was she allowed to go to ops 19th birthday?

I amtge youngest of 14. My Mothers b-day was 3 days before mine and a sisters 5 days before. We always had so much cake over that week. I was never forced to share

Honestly salvageable, also the way he described the sister made me think she was older 💀

Bro shares a birthday with Harry Potter

OP is an adult, but if this story is true, OP's parents should be paying for his therapy.

Too many corrections, one or two mistakes sue but this is like when I kid gets caught and has to retell the whole story.

Isn't there a shorter version of this from several months back?

@Telltales.

6 ай бұрын

Yep this is updated. If you feel like not listening to the story from beginning i put up a timestamp for updates :D

@definitelynotarickroll

6 ай бұрын

Thank you!!! I’ll rewatch it because I quite enjoyed the story but thanks for the gesture

I hope she gets better, I want to know what she would be like as a normal person.

17:15 don't think about the ban too much. Reddit mods will ban anyone for no reason