My Infertility Story

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Hi I'm Ruth Crilly, I have two blogs and KZread channels; A Model Recommends (for beauty and fashion) and The Uphill (for family stuff). This is my infertility "journey" or story. I hope some people find it useful - please leave any questions or suggestions for future videos below. Thanks for watching!
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  • @CarolineHirons01
    @CarolineHirons016 жыл бұрын

    And what a dream family you have now. Love you. You speak about it all so eloquently, especially the miscarriage part. Resonates with all of us that have been there. ♥️

  • @lilypebbles
    @lilypebbles6 жыл бұрын

    Incredible video Ruth. You speak to beautifully and I’m sure this will be so helpful to so many people xx

  • @RuthCrilly

    @RuthCrilly

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Lily x

  • @jenniferestrada4934

    @jenniferestrada4934

    6 жыл бұрын

    It's helped me keep hope. I've been trying for 7 years too. But still unsuccessful and you are totally spot on Ruth its discouraging.

  • @gilliansteele2709

    @gilliansteele2709

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Ruth. I’m in the midst of it, it’s excruciating but nice to know I’m not alone x

  • @Lolee56

    @Lolee56

    4 жыл бұрын

    I’m confused, why did she skip iui to ivf?

  • @DoctorAnne
    @DoctorAnne6 жыл бұрын

    I had a miscarriage after trying for several years as well, and I remember I felt like it was a cruel joke on me, teasing me with getting pregnant finally and then having it taken away again. Now I have two kids, both conceived naturally, and I feel blessed every day to have them in my life. Yes, even at 3 am in the morning, but probably not as blessed as I would feel if they were sleeping.

  • @Jugscat
    @Jugscat6 жыл бұрын

    Vitamin D helped me stay pregnant. It's SO important to get your levels checked if you're struggling. I kept misscarrying then had the test and wow I was so difficient. 3 months after taking it I was normal, stayed pregnant and had my daughter. Glad you spoke of this. I tell anyone I can about vit D.

  • @laughsmilegiggleXD
    @laughsmilegiggleXD6 жыл бұрын

    You look fabulous in glasses!

  • @catherinevc

    @catherinevc

    6 жыл бұрын

    Glad someone else said it! I'm obsessed with these pink ones and they suit you so well! where are they from?

  • @ElishaLilie

    @ElishaLilie

    6 жыл бұрын

    catherinevc I have a feeling these are the same as my glasses. They’re Nicole Farhi ones from Specsavers, they’re beautiful!

  • @sian3475

    @sian3475

    6 жыл бұрын

    Manal A.

  • @Courtney6
    @Courtney66 жыл бұрын

    "Yeah right, no one ovulates on day 8. Shut up". I love you Ruth. I'm so glad your journey has led to your two beautiful children.

  • @alanad5577
    @alanad55776 жыл бұрын

    Hi Ruth thank you for sharing your story! I haven't had struggles with infertility but I had 3 miscarriages last year and it was so scary and heart breaking. After many tests to find out why I was miscarrying they found nothing wrong and now I'm 14 weeks pregnant and everything seems to be going well xx

  • @RuthCrilly

    @RuthCrilly

    6 жыл бұрын

    Oh that's incredible news, I'm so happy for you! x

  • @yeyatatiana2076

    @yeyatatiana2076

    6 жыл бұрын

    Your story gives me faith! I lost 3 pregnancies in total so far. Nothing wrong with either of us...i just turned 42.... so I'm hoping I get one sooner rather than later !!

  • @gailstephenson5400
    @gailstephenson54006 жыл бұрын

    This was perfect; informative but sensitive.

  • @alicewilson4274
    @alicewilson42746 жыл бұрын

    Infertility is one of the sadest and loneliness things I have been through. I think only people that under that void and feeling are those that have been through it. I was already a subscriber when you fell pregnant and I even remember the hint of sadness inside of me, as we were through 4 pregnancy losses by then and years of trying. But a hint of hope too. I learned few weeks before that video came up that I suffer from Leiden Gene mutation that caused the losses and my gyno decided to treat me with metformin as i could not use hormonal treatment to get pregant due to the gene. I fell pregnant quickly once I had that with improved diet. I was few months behind your pregnancy and following your journey make it easier. I was so scared that I would loose it again I dreaded every ultrasound scan, and gosh I had many 15+ each pregnancy, millions of blood tests and daily blood thinner injections. But actually apart from the careful approach from the medical staff it was fairly uneventful pregnancy (both of them).... Six months after Angelica was born my son came along and 16 months later we had another 😊 I think the one question I would have would be for Mr.AMR. How did he find it, how did he feel? Was it hardest to watch you in pain? Thank you for making this video....

  • @janfranklin2114
    @janfranklin21146 жыл бұрын

    Oh Ruth , you are so brave to share this. My daughter is going through this now and my other daughter is pregnant . It is so hard to be over the moon for one and utterly broken hearted for the other. Total health is the key I know it!

  • @_JoyceArt
    @_JoyceArt6 жыл бұрын

    I’m still so very happy for you that you did end up having your beautiful babies. My ex and I tried for many years, including a couple of IVF tries. After the last failed attempt, I decided it was time to let it go. And I’m now at a point where I’m at peace with not having my own children. Not just because my relationship stranded, but also because the stress and disappointment month after month, including a miscarriage, was becoming too much. Can’t say I’m happy about it, but I do enjoy the absolute freedom I now have.

  • @becbec3541
    @becbec35416 жыл бұрын

    Hi Ruth, I don’t usually comment on videos etc but I felt compelled to leave a note to you. I can’t thank you enough for uploading this video and the timing couldn’t have been more profound. When I got the notification I was literally sitting on my bed in floods of tears due to lots of things including my own infertility journey but the trigger was the news that a close friend of mine had her baby last night. I’m so happy for her but it hurts so badly and I just needed to let everything out. I was in desperate need of reassurance and then your video popped up! I am trying hard to keep my spirits up and to do practical things to help (including acupuncture) so hopefully we will have some good news of our own soon. Thanks again xxx

  • @FelineRM

    @FelineRM

    6 жыл бұрын

    i dont usually read the comments of videos i watch, but for some reason i started reading yours and it really got to me. i hope you are allright and you will get your good news soon xxx

  • @Gracielooks

    @Gracielooks

    6 жыл бұрын

    I hope you will feel better soon and feel strong enough to enjoy your friend’s baby. Have you read any of Leandra Medine’s (manpeller) posts on fertility and miscarriage? They are raw and powerful and may (or may not! ) help you feel less alone. The comments too. Go gently x

  • @wildflowers100

    @wildflowers100

    6 жыл бұрын

    I don’t usually read the comments in videos either, but your really touched me. I’m in tears. It must be very difficult. I hope you get good news soon. Take good care. ✌🏼

  • @RuthCrilly

    @RuthCrilly

    6 жыл бұрын

    It is so, so difficult. And you feel like a bad person because it's hard to be happy. I know. Sending you love xx

  • @sarahamir434

    @sarahamir434

    6 жыл бұрын

    Just a quick one to say that it's OK to react like that to news of other people getting pregnant/having babies. It doesn't make you a bad person. You have to let yourself feel what you feel x

  • @mehwishowais3004
    @mehwishowais30046 жыл бұрын

    I remember i saw pixiwoo nic’s pregnancy announcement video and bawling...i was soooo happy for her and so sad for me and she had a similar story...and it gave me hope...and i conceived a few months later!

  • @suzanneb2994
    @suzanneb29946 жыл бұрын

    I know how it feels to recall every single detail of the most tormenting journey of your life. And yes the journey highlighted a significant thing which is depression that accompanies an infertile couple in the journey. WHich literally makes it unbearable. You said right, saying hope reraaly doesn't encourage any depressed woman. Constant disappoint doesn't do good to health as well as to a mind. It reminded of my journey and the struggles that were utterly horrendous. I felt you hun!!

  • @lizzclare
    @lizzclare6 жыл бұрын

    After having cervical cancer and being diagnosed with poly cystic ovaries they told me and my ‘then’ husband I was infertile. We had lots of tests very upsetting times and eventually had our two daughters now 18 and 20 years old with fertility treatment. I really think those years broke us. It was all my fault he could have done better with someone else ect ect. We lasted another two years if that. 16 years later after and trying to get pregnant with my second love of my life we eventually had our boy who is now 2 and we are weeks away from another baby. I’m now 44. It took us 14 years but no fertility treatment I started looking aftermyself. Bought ovulation strips and realised my cycle was 38 days and I ovulated on day 7. I agree I think I also was trying on the wrong days. But having hope, looking after yourself, reducing stress, drinking less all helped me

  • @Gresaaa
    @Gresaaa6 жыл бұрын

    Great video and also I appreciate you debunking the horrific myth that you can get pregnant at any point in your cycle which is absolute BS. What a wonderful story! Also a note to some people out there that you can actually ovulate early so the tests can be super useful, and if you're not trying for a baby then it’s useful for general tracking of your cycle! Your cycle says so much about your health in general and can actually show signs of underlining problems

  • @michellezevenaar
    @michellezevenaar6 жыл бұрын

    So relatable! I desided I didn't want to do treatment and ivf, I had seen what that was like for good friends and I didn't want that stress. After years of just living life with my husband assuming we just would have kids I naturally got pregnant. I have 3 things that i think it might have been. I had a massage and we were talking about if I had children so I told her nope fertility problems so she also did some type of special foot massage for a few minutes. And I had just been on an antibiotic treatment. And the day I think we consived we had a flight, going on vacation. I don't know how I got lucky but I think it had to do with these 3 things. At the moment I'm 38 weeks and really feeling ready to pop! I'm hoping little one will come next week Monday, it would be fantastic for the little one to share a birthday with my grandfather.

  • @SoSallyo
    @SoSallyo6 жыл бұрын

    I never would have thought you struggled with infertility because you have two so close together. I too struggled but haven’t taken the time to film my video yet but it’s definitely something important I want to do to try and help others. Thank you so much for putting your story out there x

  • @dogberryandmoth
    @dogberryandmoth6 жыл бұрын

    Such an honest, open video. I'm so pleased that your baby dreams came true eventually. I was lucky to be able to conceive my two children easily in my late 30s, but I have friends who have struggled with conceiving and maintaining pregnancies and know the heartbreak they have endured. I hope other women in that situation can benefit from your experiences.

  • @stefaniemedina14
    @stefaniemedina146 жыл бұрын

    I appreciate how open you are about admitting things you have done wrong and what you learned from it. This is definitely a needed topic, I know many people who are struggling with this. I actually have the opposite problem: we get pregnant very easy but I cannot carry babies full term. All of our babies were delivered very premature.

  • @KathySeastron
    @KathySeastron6 жыл бұрын

    I got pregnant with my first straight away and my second took a soul destroying 4 years. My question is a slightly different angle - do you feel like you’ve recovered from it? I still feel a twinge when people get pregnant so easily, it feels so unfair. I think it’s amazing you shared your story, it’s not spoken about enough x

  • @jessicat9198
    @jessicat91986 жыл бұрын

    I got pregnant the month after I read the Gerad Kite book "The art of baby making". He's also an acupuncturist who specialises in fertility and I loved his book and how he laid everything out.

  • @laurawhite9972
    @laurawhite99726 жыл бұрын

    Its so consuming isn’t it? I used to think, if I could just know that I will eventually have a baby, I could get on with life, but the not knowing is the worst! I got my miracle after 4 years though 💕

  • @wildflowers100
    @wildflowers1006 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate your sharing your story. Thank you. You are touching many peoples’ lives by posting this.

  • @anndoucette4307
    @anndoucette43076 жыл бұрын

    A very candid and inspirational story, Ruth - so happy for you and your beautiful family. Many thanks for all of you posts - I learn so much from you and your graciousness. 💕

  • @racheybaby86
    @racheybaby866 жыл бұрын

    This is such an honest, generous and beautiful video Ruth. I think anyone who has any struggles with pregnancy loss or infertility will hear something they can relate to. Although most people mean well, it's incredible the amount of thoughtless things that people can say ("At least you know you can get pregnant" is such a classic!) in what I feel is often an attempt to skim over their discomfort rather than to empathise with yours. It's so helpful to hear or speak with other people who have gone through similar and I think you will help comfort a lot of people by making this video xx

  • @torcancraobhach3381
    @torcancraobhach33816 жыл бұрын

    This video is so heartbreaking but thank you so much Ruth for putting your story out there. Your honesty is breathtaking and I am sure that you will help a lot of your viewers that may be going through the same trials. So thankful that life gave you two beautiful children to cherish.

  • @sliwka0781
    @sliwka07816 жыл бұрын

    Very, very touching. Thank you for sharing your story, Ruth!

  • @madelainem2
    @madelainem26 жыл бұрын

    Understand completely. I had 5 miscarriages in total. Unexplained. But now at 45 I have two miracles, one just turned 4 months. God bless to all trying. DO NOT LOSE HOPE. Have courage and faith. Love your glasses! What are they! I need new ones!

  • @katrinakhan7747
    @katrinakhan77475 жыл бұрын

    Great video Ruth , you were a great source of comfort to me through my own fertility issues. Thought I would share my story incase someone is reading through the comments and going through similar problems and are feeling hopeless. My son took 6 years with 2 miscarriages and failed ivf and he was conceived naturally 3 months after the failed ivf (best shock of my life!). And now I am pregnant with no.2 first time trying....totally baffling! I think some couples naturally take longer and in my case I believe stress was also a big contributing factor- I conceived when I gave up ttc thereby relaxing my body. Worth a shot ! Anyone reading this and feeling defeated by infertility- there may yet be light at the end of the tunnel , have faith !

  • @gabriellerose3609
    @gabriellerose36096 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video! It was really amazing to hear a woman talk so openly and freely about these parts of our lives.

  • @carlywelsh7919
    @carlywelsh79196 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing your story Ruth, I’m sure it will help many people. I have struggled with unexplained infertility too, have been trying for almost 9 years with one failed ivf. When I did my ivf I was very unhealthy, overweight, stressed out and drinking wine every night to get me through the stress, not surprising it failed. Then got healthy, lost weight, started exercising and stopped drinking and fell pregnant. Unfortunately it was an ectopic and I lost the baby and a tube, so only half he chance of conceiving naturally now but am still hopeful. I’m 39 this year so will try ivf again in summer if no joy naturally. Much love to you and to everyone trying to become mums, it’s such a hard thing to go through and puts such strain on your relationship. Xx

  • @vanessavermaak2711
    @vanessavermaak27116 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. It really does help a lot to hear others have gone through the same and that there's still hope ❤️

  • @LondonFan2010
    @LondonFan20106 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. As someone who is just going through that I can tell you that it is giving me a lot of hope and calming me down, so thank you so much. Also, congrats on your gorgeous babies. I’m so glad that your struggle is behind you and you get to enjoy your family 😊

  • @21hazel
    @21hazel6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Ruth, a practical checklist would be great. Very much appreciate your honest and unfiltered take on this deeply personal journey.

  • @annataylor4421
    @annataylor44216 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video, Ruth. And yes, please please do another video with things that were so easily overlooked. I have to say, my other half and I are like you, in your early days. I know stuff like this can be very personal but am happy you shared. And I am very happy that everything turned out for you. There are things that can only be seen clearly in hindsight and maybe your perspective will help others.this is the simplest way anyone could ever explain. Love you loads.

  • @jessicasmith2679
    @jessicasmith26796 жыл бұрын

    I appreciate you open yourself to us this much. This is really worth appreciating. This very informative and I really enjoyed it. Thank you very much for this video. Looking forward to more videos.

  • @victoriahales313
    @victoriahales3136 жыл бұрын

    What a wonderful video. I truly appreciate your efforts. I am sure people will learn a great deal from it. It is very informative. You were so genuine at it. I wish you a good luck. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @emiliasadler7707
    @emiliasadler77076 жыл бұрын

    Really lovely, straightforward and honest Ruth. I'm sure you'll help a lot of people. such a heartbreaking topic.

  • @fiammy1991
    @fiammy19916 жыл бұрын

    Thank You so much Ruth for sharing. So happy for your and Mr. AMR happy ending, Angelica and Ted are adorable.

  • @TaylorTiree
    @TaylorTiree6 жыл бұрын

    This is such an honest and interesting video Ruth. I’m going to show it to my daughter. A checklist video would be really helpful xx

  • @LabNYorkie
    @LabNYorkie6 жыл бұрын

    I chose not to have children because my pain medication is an anti seizure drug known to cause birth defects. It's not what I expected or wanted but, it's my life. I know the pain it caused me and at times still causes me to not have children. I can only imagine what couples dealing with infertility must feel, the strain on the relationship, strain on friendships. I hope that women hearing your story will help them. I wish them strength and that they have a family - be it in the more traditional sense, via surrogacy, via foster care, via adoption. I'm terribly, terribly sorry for the miscarriage and what sounds to be the crap people who should've shown compassion. I couldn't care less how busy they were. How much energy does it take show some kindness? Thank you for sharing this story and all you've shared. You, Mr. AMR, Angelica, Ted, Mr. Bear and Dexter make a wonderful family.

  • @Laelin123

    @Laelin123

    6 жыл бұрын

    LabNYorkie you are so kind and considerate! Well done you!

  • @LabNYorkie

    @LabNYorkie

    6 жыл бұрын

    Laelin123 Thank you. 😊

  • @sophielove5860
    @sophielove58606 жыл бұрын

    This is such a personal story and it is so amazing that you share this with us as I assume it helps many women who go/went through a similar time! Your children are so sweet and I am so happy that everything worked out for you and Mr amr in the end 💕💕💕

  • @clarewalsh3601
    @clarewalsh36016 жыл бұрын

    Love you Ruth- your always so open. From a fello fertility challenged follower x

  • @kimberlynathaniel4273
    @kimberlynathaniel42736 жыл бұрын

    Hey. What a lovely video. Thank you so much for making this. It's going to help so many people. Having faith is so important. You showed that! P.S. You're beautiful!

  • @Gracielooks
    @Gracielooks6 жыл бұрын

    Ruth thank you for making this & for your honesty. I’ve wanted to hear your story since you started the uphill, or maybe when I started reading it, can’t recall exactly. So happy you have your beautiful family now. X

  • @maevedonnelly4112

    @maevedonnelly4112

    6 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️

  • @susanlaffan6934
    @susanlaffan69346 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful video Ruth , so honest and articulate xxx

  • @ezabellauris8749
    @ezabellauris87496 жыл бұрын

    incredibly beautiful! such beautiful perception of life you guys have. whenever I got to feel little-depressed something like this just popped up and make me feel that there is much good left to see in this world. such great humans you guys are. Though even I had IVF i guess took each and everything so lightly. I got to be serious about what I want, Thank you for this one.

  • @sleepyfairyprincess
    @sleepyfairyprincess6 жыл бұрын

    You spoke wonderfully about all this Ruth it will surely be what many will appreciate hearing so glad you have your little ones now x

  • @louisematlock2491
    @louisematlock24916 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful video Ruth. I'm so glad this worked out for you. Brought back lots of memories for me. I had a miscarriage and IVF but we have a wonderful 11 year old daughter now. I'm sure your experience will be hugely helpful to couples going through the same thing

  • @KasiaZ
    @KasiaZ6 жыл бұрын

    It is absolutely delightful to hear you speak so beautifully. It is a delicate matter and I am so happy you finally got your beautiful baby and then another one! Well worth the wait. I had a miscarriage as well and I knew in the back of my head it could still happen (I was around 14 weeks) and I had to go to hospital to remove whatever was left there and that hospital visit traumatized me really well to the point I do not want another child (mine is 2,5 - 3 in September). p,s, you look exceptionally beautiful in the video - this makeup and glasses looks amazing!

  • @AmeliaJArnold
    @AmeliaJArnold6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for uploading this Ruth, this has been so real to watch and so helpful and supportive to know that you have gone through the same emotions whilst trying each month. I am currently having acupuncture so i now have a bit more hope :)

  • @ammyalen7633
    @ammyalen76336 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your story. Felt every single word. You Spoke such effortlessly. Hope this could make people realize how much tough times we infertile person use to have, Each person here is absolutely right. You have such a dream family, I adore this. I could never imagine sharing my life such gracefully as you did. You are beautiful. May, you have a beautiful life.

  • @LondonBeautyQueen
    @LondonBeautyQueen6 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much for sharing this Ruth. I'm at the very start of my journey, but it's so helpful to hear such frank conversation. I've literally just returned from an acupuncture appointment to get my periods in check, so hope it helps. Much love to you x

  • @noraa.616
    @noraa.6166 жыл бұрын

    *Really informative video, with great reminders for those who want to have children. And as others have already stated, you express yourself in such a beautiful manner, that showcases your precious character wonderfully.*

  • @bettycooper4127
    @bettycooper41276 жыл бұрын

    It takes a lot of courage to come up and share your story with others. You have done an incredible job here. More power to you. Your story is very inspiring. The way you have explained everything is tremendous. This video will help many others. They will get hope and strength. Loads of love and best wishes your way hun.

  • @sarah_hedges_creates
    @sarah_hedges_creates6 жыл бұрын

    This was such a lovely video Ruth, and will be so helpful to so many people. I had a miscarriage in 2013 and it was the worst feeling ever and something I don't think ever leaves you, you are also right in that there is not much information out there about miscarriage particularly when you go to hospital and no one really talks about it when it happens and it does happen more frequently than you think. I think it's important to talk about these struggles as it makes people feel less alone in their journey. I had a rainbow baby in 2014 a little girl :-) x

  • @victoriaturnbull1982
    @victoriaturnbull19826 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your story. We have just started our infertility ‘journey’ and this has helped me massively and also gives me hope for the future ❤️

  • @ceciliaoskarssonhilldor2689
    @ceciliaoskarssonhilldor26896 жыл бұрын

    Amazing video Ruth! Thank you for sharing! I got pregnant on my honeymoon after trying for almost three years. There is nothing ”wrong” with either of us, but it just became an obsession for me, to the point that it was all I could think about. But as I had the wedding to plan, and the weddingday came up we just forgot about babies for a while. I think that helped a lot, to calm down and than it just happened! Both Angelica and Ted seem amazing, I love watching your videos. Hugs from Sweden! 💓

  • @katieb6350
    @katieb63506 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for posting this Ruth. I’ve been ttc for a while now and relate so much to what you said in this video in particular the not being able to feel happy for others when they share their pregnancy news. I suppose what I struggle with the most is the feeling of failure as this is something we’re supposed to be able to do! And every month when it’s a negative it just chips away a little bit more. I don’t have a question for you but I really do appreciate the hope you’ve given me with your story.

  • @hollylloyd8706
    @hollylloyd87066 жыл бұрын

    You’re amazing Ruth. So brave xxx

  • @JadeGiggles
    @JadeGiggles6 жыл бұрын

    Please do another vídeo Ruth! My husband and I have been trying for 3 years but my infertility and gynaecology has been under investigation for 10 years. You’ve made me feel that I’m not alone. Look forward to seeing what else you share. Thank you x

  • @Rebecca-ow8pi
    @Rebecca-ow8pi6 жыл бұрын

    LOVE the glasses!

  • @ShehnazKhan1
    @ShehnazKhan16 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. It brought tears to my eyes. I am about to start a third round of IVF and it helps to hear from others who have been through this.

  • @lizfawcett2525
    @lizfawcett25256 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Ruth, I was hoping to one day see a video on your story.. thank you for sharing, some really interesting insights here Xxx

  • @cortneycynefin8009
    @cortneycynefin80096 жыл бұрын

    SO many amazing suggestions. THANK YOU SO MUCH for posting!

  • @isabellabrooks4662
    @isabellabrooks46626 жыл бұрын

    wow! such an inspirational and motivational story it is. It has really filled my heart with joy and hope. You have made my day dear. Well, ups and downs are a part of life. All you can do is to remain consistent and never lose hope. You have proved it! keep uploading such inspirational stuff.

  • @AnEmmeni
    @AnEmmeni6 жыл бұрын

    What a great video, i think u r wonderful and this will be so helpful to anyone who is experiencing the same problems xxxx

  • @w33burd
    @w33burd6 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing, Ruth. I now have two beautiful girls (13 & 11), however we went through our own fertility issues when trying to conceive #1. As a society we just don't talk about infertility enough, so thank you for being so open and honest. On a positive note, my fertility issues brought me together with an amazing group of women across the world who were going through similar issues at the same time as me- some of us are now parents, some are still trying, some have reached a point of accepting they will never be parents. Sixteen years on, these women are some of my closest friends, and we try to snatch meet-ups wherever we can. They are my tribe! To anyone currently experiencing issues ttc, I cannot recommend enough finding yourself a decent support group or forum - it is a difficult/ stressful/ lonely/ exhausting/ draining/ frustrating journey as it is, so it's great to have others to help pull the wagon and you can do the same for them in return. xxx

  • @milafarfalla9253
    @milafarfalla92536 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your story! On a different note, I absolutely love this look on you ❤️

  • @nvdp4269
    @nvdp42696 жыл бұрын

    I don't comment often but I'm a long time reader of AMR and the Uphill. I haven't tried to get pregnant yet so no experience there. However I just wanted to thank you for your honesty. It's beautiful. And I cannot even imagine how hard it has been. Thanks for sharing and I love your glasses, they look so good on you!😍

  • @jmwk6445
    @jmwk64456 жыл бұрын

    Thankyou for sharing your painful story - you are a very real person and your words will support others going through it - big hug - xxx

  • @DosyRosie169
    @DosyRosie1696 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so so much for sharing this, for being brave, for being honest. I'm so sorry to hear that you had some bad experiences during your NHS care. I'm a student midwife, and have definitely noticed (from conversations with women who've experienced miscarriage in previous pregnancies) that the care provided for earlier miscarriages is often lacking hugely. At my hospital trust and many others, we have specialist bereavement midwives who support families going through late-term miscarriage and stillbirths, but I understand why women going through earlier losses feel like they're being churned through the system, not really supported. I'm of the opinion that any loss has the potential to be heartbreaking for a couple, so definitely think better support should be offered and training given to all staff who care for couples going through infertility and/or loss. I'm very thankful for people like you, sharing videos like this. Not only to let others going through it know that they're not alone, but also to educate - the general public, and people like me, who want to be in a good place to provide the best possible care, with empathy and compassion. Thank you!

  • @sarahn944
    @sarahn9446 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your honesty and being open. It's very reassuring x

  • @alixsmith7503
    @alixsmith75036 жыл бұрын

    hey there, I am really happy for you. it is such an amazing story. this is very nice to see this video. there is nothing happier than to this to be a mom. you are speaking so beautifully and politely. I wish for every couple to have a family like you. thanks a lot for sharing this video.

  • @carlayoung8137
    @carlayoung81376 жыл бұрын

    So amazing and comforting to hear your story. Checklist would be great to compare notes! Thank you so much xxx

  • @georgiananeculau1545
    @georgiananeculau15456 жыл бұрын

    You look absolutely stunning and those eyeglasses are gorgeous!! They suit you really well x

  • @ilovemrjames
    @ilovemrjames6 жыл бұрын

    I can’t even imagine how difficult that time must have been for you, it’s so good that you’ve made a video talking about, I’m sure it will help so many people that are struggling with this, but also even not struggling with infertility I found this so good to watch just becuAuse it is something that is never talked about, weirdly it seems like a taboo subject because it’s so uncumfortable for people to talk about and it really shouldn’t be. People shouldn’t have to feel so alone going through something like this just makes it worse. And I’m so glad for you that you were able to have 2 beautiful babies in the end xxxx

  • @Lozza2301
    @Lozza23016 жыл бұрын

    Love love love you and your personable ways. Don't ever change!

  • @meezee7179
    @meezee71796 жыл бұрын

    I'm experiencing precisely the same right now and for the most part attempt to abstain from watching things about barrenness as to not get excessively fixated.. Be that as it may, discovered this extremely supportive really. I think the conundrum is that it takes a ton of wanting to get pregnant, yet I evade excessively arranging as to remain normal!? Exceptionally befuddling, would love an agenda! Much thanks to you such a great amount for sharing.

  • @MsAimee86
    @MsAimee866 жыл бұрын

    Such a beautifully done video Ruth xx

  • @isabellabrooks4662
    @isabellabrooks46626 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing such great information. This will definitely help the miserable ones to cope with infertility. I totally agree with you. I appreciate your efforts in this regard. You are such an inspiration for the disappointed ones. Well, surrogacy is definitely something that gives fruit. Wishing you very best of luck!

  • @sarahshaw4823
    @sarahshaw48236 жыл бұрын

    I needed this video now more than ever. Thank you hun!

  • @Nattyr1234
    @Nattyr12346 жыл бұрын

    Aw ❤️ glad everything turned out for you😉 lots of love 💋 xxx

  • @hihomatey10
    @hihomatey106 жыл бұрын

    A checklist, please!! This was such a wonderful and comforting video, thank you

  • @sophieelwatson6702
    @sophieelwatson67026 жыл бұрын

    I'm really glad you made this video Ruth and I'm sure it will ring true for so many people. We had a difficult time for about 3 years with one ectopic and a few positive tests that quickly ended, but we now have a two year old and a 6 month old. It's all consuming when you want something to happen so badly and like you said we just expect it will happen but for one reason or other it isn't immediate for all of us. Great advice as usual. It's so stressful I think taking that time to take care of yourself can make such a difference. I was an early ovulator as well and I'm sure that's partly where we were going wrong!

  • @summ3rnightfashion521
    @summ3rnightfashion5216 жыл бұрын

    So proud of you for sharing your story! I’m sure it will psychologically help a lot of people out there who have been trying for years.

  • @vickybarber1
    @vickybarber16 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing, I have been on a similar journey and yet to fall pregnant but it is so nice to know you are not alone but also that there are sometimes happy endings x

  • @achrisjones
    @achrisjones6 жыл бұрын

    Wonderfully said Ruth you truly spoke from the heart. I too can relate to the feeling of not being important at the hospital when you are bleeding and worried about your first pregnancy. It was terrible and they made me feel worse by making me wait to see anyone and then having to come back the next day for the ultrasound. I experienced bleeding at the end of my third month with all three of my babies and I did lose one of the twins from my second pregnancy. I had three beautiful babies and treasure them all.

  • @linettelow
    @linettelow5 жыл бұрын

    Bless you, Ruth ♡ I shed tears whilst watching this video, and I totally empathise with the struggles of infertility. I had lost my period for what seemed aeons; been to countless endocrinologists, ultrasounds, etc.. And behold! the only thing to come through was also traditional Chinese medicine techniques of re-harmonizing the body. If only we'd knew to take better care of ourselves. But experience, too, is its own gift :) I wish you health, and most of all the happiness you so truly deserve. Thank you, sweetheart, for instilling hope in all who journey with you. *HUGS & KISSES*.

  • @niamhswan
    @niamhswan6 жыл бұрын

    Love this Ruth xxx I, like you have had loads of tests everything came back ok but in the end I did have ivf and have my gorgeous nearly 2 year old. Was told my 1st pregnancy might trigger something for baby number 2 but still waiting 🙁 we are lucky to have 5 embryos in storage so I’m hopeful that 2019 will be good for us xxx so happy u have your happy ending with your 2 beautiful babies xxx 😘💗💗

  • @beccaraynolds7908
    @beccaraynolds79086 жыл бұрын

    Hey. Thanks for sharing your story with us. it must have taken a lot of courage. You are so brave. I'm glad things worked out for you. Congratulation. Looking forward to watching more videos from you.

  • @StephyLocas
    @StephyLocas6 жыл бұрын

    You hit the nail on the head with your miscarriage experience. It’s such a taboo subject. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, I’m a midwife and I can’t even tell you how many people at work (on the labour ward!) said to me ‘at least you can get pregnant’...people’s awkwardness and misunderstanding because they haven’t experienced it can produce the most awful reaction. So happy you got your lovely babies. I’m 38 weeks pregnant with my first now. Thank you for sharing your story and shedding light on this subject xx

  • @afrantz714
    @afrantz7146 жыл бұрын

    Ruth thank you so much for sharing!! This is so similar to my own story and I so so so greatly appreciate you sharing.

  • @strawberryheaduk
    @strawberryheaduk6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video Ruth. I agree with every sentiment you expressed here. I too had major struggles but am now so lucky to be 21 weeks pregnant with our IVF baby. Xx

  • @mirandajames9459
    @mirandajames94596 жыл бұрын

    Hey. Thanks for sharing your story with us. You are so brave. You dealt with this so well. It is so hard to open up about something like that. Congratulations to you. I'm glad to know that things worked out for you.

  • @selmizabeqa4406
    @selmizabeqa44066 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing this Ruth, I know stuff like this can be very personal but am happy you shared. 🤗 it’s good to see that other people experience this (sorry if that sounds bad) and I was not the only one going through this! Finally expecting my first 👶🏻😘😘

  • @oliviadent970

    @oliviadent970

    6 жыл бұрын

    Congratulations, I'm so happy for you!

  • @endlesshappydays8139
    @endlesshappydays81396 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for taking the time to speak about this. I would love to know what steps you took to improve your general health (diet, exercise, supplements etc). I know we're all different, but I would love to know whereabouts to start. I think I have been guilty of the same thoughts as you: that my body will just do what it is supposed to without a thought for whether or not it's actually in good condition enough to follow that through. Thanks again. Your babies are beautiful x

  • @kerstinr8940
    @kerstinr89406 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your very honest and open story! I did not have problems having my kids, but „failed“ breastfeeding them. It was a struggle but I simply understood that I did not fail. It is not failure when you have struggles with whatever, it is just life and what happens.

  • @annataylor4421
    @annataylor44216 жыл бұрын

    Hey. How are you? I want to tell you that its the incredible video. One of the best video I have ever seen. You speak so wisely. Thanks for sharing such a breathtaking story. So happy for you. Sending you positive vibes.