Losing one's job can be devastating.

@kylecrisman9230

Жыл бұрын

So can keeping one

@reginasemenenko148

Жыл бұрын

@@kylecrisman9230 The caller indicated that her husband lost his job during COVID and my impression was that things started to unravel since that triggering event.

@firefly9838

Жыл бұрын

So can working one.

@ryankoonce999

Жыл бұрын

How can I pray for you?

@AaronNazzy

2 ай бұрын

I just lost mine still don’t know what to do or how to react

1 week into my marriage I was faced with the most confusing situation as I watched my new husband have exaggerated outbursts of anger and make irrational statements over a minor issue that came up. Fast forward three months into our marriage and during another outburst of anger he suddenly said that he was “sick”. I thought he meant he was having a physical medical concern and I asked him what his symptoms were and that he should get medical attention if he thought it was possibly serious. He replied that he was having a nervous breakdown and needed to go to a mental hospital. He then proceeded to refuse medical care and this cycle repeated for months and months until he packed his things and left me suddenly one morning. He came back and wanted to fix things and I was willing but I feel like I just can’t trust him anymore. To make matters worse, I spoke with his mother and some close friends of his and they all said that they knew he had struggled with mental and emotional health issues most of his life. I guess he thought it would be okay to hide it from me and then drop this huge bomb on me after we were married. We are currently separated and I don’t know what to do. I have seriously considered divorce but just not sure yet. I feel like he deceived me from the start and I don’t know how I can build a healthy marriage with someone who doesn’t seem to be concerned with honesty and integrity in our marriage.

@vaska1999

3 ай бұрын

I can understand that. You can't trust someone who deliberately concealed something so important from you. He's manipulative.

@dhibba52

2 ай бұрын

​@@vaska1999Or desperate.

@whitneyvaughan

2 ай бұрын

Hi, I would love to share notes. This exact same thing happened with my ex husband and me. He was fine until just after the wedding, then descended into psychosis fairly quickly. Like your situation, he had not disclosed his schizophrenia. I knew he had issues but not something so extreme. I think you can have the marriage annulled if he misrepresented himself and if you act on that sooner rather than later. With your husband, he seems sadly uncommitted to maintaining his health. Don’t be afraid to consider annulment or divorce, if you can’t trust him.

@janefalcone7852

2 ай бұрын

My mum's mental health issues dominated my dad's life and mine. We sacrificed so much of our own lives. My dad had no idea when they married, just what he had got himself in to. This deception by my mum and her family is unforgiveable. If you don't want to save your self, please think of the impact on your children.

@toscadonna

2 ай бұрын

Annul the marriage ASAP. Nobody has ever cured psychosis, schizophrenia, or narcissism. He will only get worse, and why perpetuate bad genes in your kids. Get out whilst you still can.

I hear this woman trying to answer the questions. One problem in Canada, they will not at ALL even have thought or have any sort of outpatient plan like Dr. Deloney assumes would be a given necessity. The care is not even basic. He was certified, which means he was put in a hospital and drugged up until he finally came out of the psychotic break and had a minimal amount of sense of reality so they could send him home. The drs don’t tend to help, there are generally no counselors, and extremely minimal follow-up if any. The advice Dr. Deloney is giving is very likely the most she’s heard by far, which is why she called in. I hope people who are commenting can have some grace to see this wife is actually answering the questions as honestly as she can. She also has a different style and tone because she is Canadian. We are not as “in your face” as Americans. Take it easy on her guys. She has been walking through a kind of personal hell right now and has the courage to reach out. 💝🙏🏼💝

@kathleenphillips7145

Жыл бұрын

It’s unfortunate that mental illness still carries a stigma for society in general but in 2011 my grown son that I care for was 51/50 then 52/50 when his psychiatrist at the time took him off his meds. He spent 4 days in a mental facility in Oakland California. All they did was give him drugs. When I visited him his eyes were dilated and his heart was racing. We ordered an EKG and I demanded to release him under my care. I’ve heard of patients who end up dying in mental facilities. Luckily I was able to connect with a better psychiatrist who was able to stabilise him with better meds.

@Mrs.LadeyBug

Жыл бұрын

@@kathleenphillips7145 I’m sorry for you and your son’s experience, and am so glad that you were a great advocate for him.

@kanienkehakaka

Жыл бұрын

They're harder to find- community resources are available for those experiencing unemployment. Most require a self referral and many will require a professionals referral. If he had been seen at any point by a psychiatrist within the last 364 days, they may not even need to see him in order to push the referral through- even with inpatient stay. Outpatient programs are being privatized, but many do take provincial health funding, especially those within the hospital he had stayed. If nothing else, there should be a big wall of pamphlets, with phone numbers and information for these kinds of services. Unfortunately, calling them all, expressing urgency, adding a name to a waitlist, accessing whatever supportive referrals, managing misplaced rejection about how the urgency doesn't magically create more therapists, and relapsing are often a part of it.

@pear_jules4013

10 ай бұрын

@@kathleenphillips7145Highland? I’m in the Bay Area as well. Kudos to you for being a strong mom for your son.

@skd7028

2 ай бұрын

Agreed. They should have either referred him to a psychiatrist or asked him to see hisGP for a referral and support until he can get one.

When my father started to act out, he lost his job. It was due to a tumor. He's no longer with us

@moreofawave

3 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss.

@maxaffe3195

3 ай бұрын

i am so sorry. gruesome.

@Michellee970

2 ай бұрын

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.

@Janelegant

2 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry for your loss

@nolusizodlalisa5573

2 ай бұрын

That's sad, I'm so sorry for your loss

Sounds like she is completely overwhelmed and in shock from what happened.

@brettforseth3276

2 ай бұрын

Try giving him a bj and a back rub. Maybe get a job too and help pull your weight. The freeloading parasite.

John’s deep inhale as she starts to respond to his question is exactly how we are all feeling listening to this. He’s such a patient man.

A family member had a psychotic episode years ago. It is the most terrifying thing to witness. I can't imagine how the person going through it must be feeling.

Have any of the commenters judging this woman ever been the spouse in this situation? I hope if you're ever in that state of shock and survival (and nerves) that you're met with kindness and not judgement. What happened to giving people the benefit of the doubt? I heard nothing more than a wife with the weight of the world on her mind trying to figure out how to help her husband in a situation she's never been in.

@krlady4703

3 ай бұрын

I’m Canadian and adult mental health patients’ privacy are fiercely protected by the mental health act of the province.

@lorrainem8234

2 ай бұрын

My husband had what appeared to be a psychotic break and he almost strangled our son right in front of me. Thanks be to God, I got him off of our son before he could have killed him, but he beat our son before the police arrived. He had a psych eval but they attributed his violence to low blood sugar. How do you strangle and beat someone, though, with a blood sugar level of 40 or 50?

@57andstillkicking

2 ай бұрын

⁠@@lorrainem8234 You don’t. That’s ridiculous.

I've witnessed psychotic breaks a couple of times. I really got that the human brain is nothing more than a machine. God bless this guy! My heart goes out to him.

@abbyxiong3931

Жыл бұрын

No. I disagree. People aren't robots.

@biolife3274

Жыл бұрын

It really is a machine. You place so much pressure on a system. It will break. And it's not always just psychological. Physically, your body will change in order to compensate for excessive pressure. It's scary.

@smb0621

5 ай бұрын

The brain isn’t a just machine. It is, but it’s also more. The brain is a piano and a pianist. If the instrument is broken, the music will be bad no matter how skilled the player. If the pianist is undisciplined, unskilled, or careless, the music will be bad even if it’s the most beautifully fine tuned instrument in the world. We aren’t automatons. We are more than our bodies. We drive our machinery with our agency. It’s both and, not either or.

@vaska1999

3 ай бұрын

​@@biolife3274 Organs are not machines. The brain is a self-organizing organ.

@Avogadros_number

2 ай бұрын

@@abbyxiong3931Abby disagrees. Somebody inform the president about her oh so important opinion!

“The sky!”😅 John:😐

@Price8903

Жыл бұрын

😂

@Mrs.LadeyBug

Жыл бұрын

That must be an Edmonton or Western Canada thing… It’s what most of us say. Lol.

@doctorposting

3 ай бұрын

@@Mrs.LadeyBugmy mom says that and she’s from the northeast america 😁

@jesssc402

2 ай бұрын

Last time i said something like that, i was like 15 lol realized it’s really corny and off putting

@Itsverano

2 ай бұрын

@@jesssc402yes it is 😂😂😂

I feel horrible after I had a psychotic breakdown. I still need to let go of the guilt I feel. I put my family through so much. After 20 years I’m still beating myself up about it. My family couldn’t have been any better to me afterwards. Their support, therapy and medication all helped me through it. Your husband will get through it. Especially because you care and want to be there for him. ❤️

@marymargaretlindstrom4381

2 ай бұрын

@terrilreece8050 It sounds to me like you are doing everything that you can to prevent this from happening again. I relate. Keep up on your self care. Utilize your tools for healing. Forgive yourself, work on yourself. Recognizing the issue was the first step. Love yourself ❤

@terrilreece8045

2 ай бұрын

@@marymargaretlindstrom4381 Thank you so much for your supportive and kind comments. You’ve made my day. 👍🏻

The comments are so harsh on this woman. Dang. Lady, take a notebook with you to his appointments or when you talk to his social worker. Its hard to remember what they say on a good day but you're probably stressed too! If the social worker or doctors use big words you don't understand tell them to stop and clarify, medical professionals have their own language and some can't translate it to English well (might be worth getting a different doctor if you can't get good, clear information out of them.)

@biolife3274

Жыл бұрын

The best advice!! She's struggling to put together the pieces of what's going on. But maybe she's looking for an out because the experience was too much for her.

I’ve been through this with my husband. He has bipolar 1. He was put on a hold at the hospital and then taken to a mental hospital for 5 days. They would have kept him longer but this was in the middle of a hurricane and the facility was over crowded… It was incredibly scary. My heart goes out!!

@skyeblu817

2 ай бұрын

I do not believe in bipolar I believe in trauma finally busting your mask

@merilleeRE

2 ай бұрын

​@skyeblu817 good for you, but I think that is an incredibly ill educated statement.

@57andstillkicking

2 ай бұрын

@@skyeblu817 Who cares what you believe? It clearly isn’t helping you or you wouldn’t write something so insensitive.

My bipolar mom has had 3 mental break downs (psychosis) in the last 5 years. Seeing someone deteriorate right in front of me sucks. It gave me and my sister PTSD and anxiety. This is no joke and I would NEVER wish this on my worse enemy.

@jamiepentz4682

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely since 2020, my husband has had to be sent to the mental hospital. Times are tough. He has shizoaffective disorder disorder with bipolar disorder. Scary the things he did. He still refuses to sign over his information to me. Over it!!

@Noname-wi8xp

6 ай бұрын

Same. My wife had a bipolar manic breakdown. Was released from the hospital a week ago. Shes was trying to come down & adjust to meds. Came out of nowhere. We didn’t know her entire immediate family, brothers, mom & dad have all had hospitalizations for mental health breakdowns. Nearly all of them in the last 3 years. All for a full month hospitalization. Only one is med compliant & all abuse drugs or alcohol. My wife never messed with either & hated them due to her family substance abuse history. She entered the heights of mania requesting a divorce. Now she feels it’s a spiritual/philosophical awakening that still end with her leaving me. She’s suddenly very transactional & has no romantic feelings for me over the 4 day breakdown. Like a light switch. It’s the most jarring thing I’ve experienced in my life & I was a caretaker for a paraplegic mother from 5 years old until she passed away. Its terrifying watching my wife be deliriously happy & at peace while she talks about “ego death, synchronicities, twin flames” & sounds like a shell of herself. I don’t know that she’ll ever fully come back to me. Just a word of warning, no matter how bad your family history is, keep a line of communication open with someone in some way where you can know about these things. We had no idea. She would’ve had help at least a week earlier if we’d known to look for it.

@joaocosta3506

2 ай бұрын

@@Noname-wi8xp did your wife practiced/followed any particular religion? eastern religions, like buddhism and hinduism have a lot of esoteric practices and beliefs that can lead people to psychosis, even normal/healthy people. If your wife had a genetic predisposition to this, these new age practices migh be a big trigger for this behaviour. These eastern practices are heavy on asceticism, ego death, not being attached to "material things" and love and so on. It might be interesting to talk to her and suggest to stop reading this kind of material, and try and open her up to new ways of looking at things, so those neural pathways and behaviours acquired might start to weaken.

@Noname-wi8xp

2 ай бұрын

@@joaocosta3506 we are pretty observant religious Jews, but the counselor she got infatuated with was into Buddhism & made a lot of slightly belittling comments and got a bit too personal, so she started reading into that more when hypomania started. By the end of Feb, she asked for her wedding ring back & started coming back after switching to a different med. Within a wk. By the beginning of March… almost 100% back to normal. Now it’s like it never happened, personality wise. just a little anxiety & depression, but she’s been consistent with mood journaling & asking for help with. I fill her med box weekly & help her keep up with Pharmacy fill dates, but she takes her meds & tries out different lifestyle things we talk about to see what helps. She’s reading several bipolar books & is committed to meds. I try to treat any health issue either of us get like we each have it individually as far as learning & working through it. I think that helped, along with always communicating well. I appreciate the reach out. After mania triggered, she was into new age stuff. Many seem toxic for bp, like no meds because they can see other dimensions. Luckily, she kept taking meds & hated feeling out of control like she couldn’t trust herself. Sorry this went outside the scope of your comment. I was lost looking for ppl that had a positive resolution from mania.I wanted to be sure some kind of positive story is out there.

@Noname-wi8xp

2 ай бұрын

@@joaocosta3506 We are religious Jews. She became infatuated with her counselor as mania set in. He was into Buddhism so she got sucked into things that “make reality squishy” as she puts it. So, yeah, it sped things up a bit. Mania started Dec & by Feb she wanted her wedding ring back. Completely back to herself now. has depressed days occasionally & puts everything in a mood journal. Keeps echoing a commitment to lifelong meds. She got scared with losing control like that. I searched for so long to hear something remotely positive when she was in it, & I found next to nothing so I felt it was worth updating.

If he is an older gentleman, it may be a sgn on impending dementa.

My dad suffered from one in his early 40’s. He wouldn’t sleep more than 4 hours and stay up for 3+ days. Turns out he had underlying mental health issues that went undiagnosed. He never got the help he needed & developed many other illnesses due to this. He passed away a year ago as a vegetable almost. I pray he gets the help he needs and learns his value does not lie in what he can produce but instead it is inherent. I also pray for the caller and admire her strength and spirit to ask for help when she herself needs it too. She took the first step & things will only get better from here.

Canadian health care is so different from USA health care. Trying to call doctors and ask questions is near to impossible, you are lucky to have a doctor. I am so glad I now live in the USA

@brightpage1020

Жыл бұрын

Welcome!

@jessm2560

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to medical debt

@Raegoul

Жыл бұрын

@@jessm2560 You don't get medical debt in canada but it's frustating to get help and wait times are terrible. People that can afford to go to the US to get treatments/surgery.

@brightpage1020

Жыл бұрын

@@Raegoul careful, that's changing. Even up to 2-3 years ago you could still get an appointment that week. Now, it's a 2-4 month wait depending on how many docs or how rural the area. People who suspected they were pregnant often went in right away to confirm (I worked at an OBGYN's office) as soon as possible, but now the OB's won't even schedule you until 2nd trimester. For prenatal care. Go figure. You're best finding out early and on your own these days, anyway. Try a midwife birthing center if you're not a high risk case.

@johnsradios484

Жыл бұрын

Calling a Doctor in the USA has disappeared, I get a Secretary or sometimes a RN. But it’s almost impossible to speak with a Doctor now. Corporations have taken over and the Family Doctor is long gone.

As a canadian who is married to someone who has a mental illness. Get the 211 or all the community ressources and subscribe to all of them. The system is broken so you might have to wait but dont hesitate to fight for the urgency of the services.... Ironically, what help my husband alot more than anything were those community organizations because they give you concret tools to work with.

@kanienkehakaka

Жыл бұрын

2-1-1 saves lives. All of their volunteers on the other end are Mental Health First Aid Certified. This resource will help you find *anything* you need.

@supernova11711

Жыл бұрын

I’m lucky that my husband’s parents are so protective about his disorder (bipolar). I do my best, have learned a lot and he and I have really developed good communication about it which has done wonders. He hasn’t had an episode in quite a while. No matter what though, I know if the worst happens, they’ll know what to do and won’t hesitate to take action. If they think he’s a danger to himself, all they have to do is make a call and he’ll be picked up and taken to hospital. I could do it too but since I’m the one he’s typically running away from while manic, I really don’t know what I’d do without them. It’s also hard making decisions for others so having someone else step in and not be scared to make the hard calls really helps. Guess I’ll have to toughen up at some point but I just really struggle with feeling as though I’m taking someone’s choice away, especially when it’s someone I love. I’m getting better at separating him from his disorder though so that really helps…knowing when it’s him telling me what he wants and when he isn’t actually there. No community but a good family support system.

@supernova11711

Жыл бұрын

@@kanienkehakaka Ew what?

@supernova11711

Жыл бұрын

@@kanienkehakaka It was scary at first. I thought of leaving. I met him after he was passed the worst though. His younger years were chaotic and it was pretty constant. By the time we met, he was finally on a good medication regime. He hasn’t had to go to the hospital in the last 5 years. He hasn’t had any emergency situations since we met two years ago. I just did my research and wanted to be prepared in case it ever happened again. I know to contact his parents because they’ve been through it and know what to do, that’s all. If it was a regular thing in our life, I know I couldn’t deal with it. He has ups and downs and has had a couple “minor” episodes so I am learning to get a sense of what to watch for but, for the most part, we actually have a pretty peaceful life together. We’re happy. Meds are everything. I know it’s possible for people with bipolar to find stability. I have no idea what might happen in 10 or 20 years but…that’s just life. He’s a good man and deserves love just like everyone else. He also gives it back 10 fold. Life’s all about choosing your risks after all. There’s no guarantee with anything.

Sad thing is, sometimes when people have a psychotic break they don't ever come all the way back.

@thatsthejobbb8587

Ай бұрын

They absolutely lose a piece of themselves with every episode! Sad!

@daniellewardd

12 күн бұрын

I’ve never been the same since my psychotic break. It happened to me twice and sometimes I wonder what my real personality/identity is.

Sounds to me like he was in a psychosis... However that doesn't mean he will actually be diagnosed with a mental illness due to the DSM5 ( the diagnostic book) bcuz there are certain criteria n lengths of time the symptoms have to be present in order to be actually diagnosed... But regardless if he was diagnosed or not they can still treat his symptoms with anti psychotics and mood stabilizers.. my wife has been thru this with me... I'm very blessed to have a medically smart wife that helped navigate my treatment plan Thank God!! God Bless you all n your family

Praying for them. So hard. Being the man and programmed to be the provider makes it hard to process stress and failure. All of us have a breaking point. Let's hope none of us get past it.

Our bodies are swimming with chemicals. If you stay in a state of trauma and or stress for long periods of time it can definitely happen. It happened to a best friend of mine i knew for 30+ years. It is scary to see my "sister" turn into someone who could harm me or herself. 😢

@mmp495

Жыл бұрын

😢

This is very a very helpful show. 4 years a ago I had sycosis break. I had mania one. I ended up in hospital for 4 weeks. In it there were people who had in tougher than me. My family wanted to hold me close, and never really let go. I did evenutally talk to them in the hospital. I wanted to heal from it, and get on with life. I wanted to trust myself, so I went to learn how to ride horses. I still get triggered by my family, and have recenly let them know. I am now married, on meds, and having a baby boy this october. My thanks to John Delony, for this episode, not only will it help familys, but it will help those who have had Pyschotic breaks in the past.

@lyndaslocs

Жыл бұрын

Wishing you the best!

@naelyneurkopfen9741

5 ай бұрын

So you created another life that will have to deal with this? Not cool.

@moreofawave

3 ай бұрын

@@naelyneurkopfen9741 You really saying that when you see the countless stories of people who don't have mental illnesses mess kids up all the time? Mental illness doesn't determine anything; it's having a support system, good management of your illness and having a supportive partner that determines the outcome for you and the kids.

When I cracked up many years ago, I spent 2 months in a hospital. I can't imagine being let out after 2 weeks! I'm not sure what would have happened to me in that case. It took me over a year just for my hands to stop shaking. It was like being reborn and I had to learn how to crawl before I learned how to walk again. It was the worst and the best thing that ever happened to me. And I made it back to the other side with a lot of therapy and help; and also my own determination. Find a good psychiatrist to help you through this, take your meds, and take it one day at a time. My best to this young husband and father. You can become whole again. P.S. My trying to control every aspect of my life is what cracked up up. On the outside, people thought I had the world by the tail. Inside I was falling apart. I even fooled myself until the facade I'd built all came crashing down. The best lesson I learned through all this was that we all have very little control over anything. I had to learn to let go and be at peace with myself.

@kmb5678

Жыл бұрын

Wow. This is so very honest and quite beautiful. Im sorry for your struggles but happy you made it to the other side. Im 7months down....ive a long way to go but you have given me hope

@9liveslisa

Жыл бұрын

@@kmb5678 Hi Gemma. I'm glad I gave you hope. Take life one step at a time. One second at a time if that is all you can handle. Surround yourself with good people. And never give up. Also, I think it is important to own your situation. You have to walk the walk. No one else can do it for you. One other thing that helps me a lot. I count my blessings every single day. I think sometimes it is easy to forget to do that. Counting my blessings always brings me back to center. I wish you all the best.

@Raegoul

Жыл бұрын

I know someone who was in hospital for an attempted suicide and while in hospital they attempted suicide again and one week after that they were released to their spouse. Canada's health care system is a joke.

In the US, what shocked me was that my husband can’t even access my psych records at all. Unless I’m there, he can’t get them. What happens when I’m unconscious or in a break? These are unnecessary barriers.

@rpstgag

2 ай бұрын

Have you attempted to arrange a medical POA and Advanced Directive?

This is the same personality that says you need sleep BUT you gotta work 2-3 jobs to pay off debt 😂

The Canadian system is “free”, but it doesn’t work. Also it’s not free, we are one of the most heavily taxed countries in the world.

@aprildanae7487

Ай бұрын

This. I know ppl up there and it took them so long to get appointments and surgery.

@fremontpathfinder8463

27 күн бұрын

It works just fine. You have been taught propaganda. I visit Canada often and most Canadians are happy with their healthcare system. Most Americans are ignorant about Canada.

@fremontpathfinder8463

27 күн бұрын

​​@@aprildanae7487What people? It took me months to get surgery here in the states. Stop bashing Canada which is a far greater country than the USA. USA is the only developed country that doesnt provide healthcare to all their people.

Im from Australia. Its been 10yrs since I recieved a call from the sunshine coast police informing me that my partner was running frantically thru traffic in a very distressed state. This was the day he mentally broke down and he hasnt been the same since. Not to get to personal but he was dealing with some intense emotions from some bad choices he had made that lead to this breakdown. Insome ways he has gotten better in other ways its not. He cant work, little to no personal care or grooming. He lives in his own distorted world and paranoia. He voluntarily signed a mental health order so not to be detained in a mental ward. He was released into my care and had out patient care. All free. He is no longer on the order. He lost a part of himself that day and its taking time for him to find his new self.

@alibali193

4 ай бұрын

I have a very similar story 😢

WOW, I can relate! I had 4 major depressive episodes, ALL brought on by STRESS! I left my job(now on disability), and on medication and in therapy. I haven't had an episode in over 17 years! Hang in there!!!

@taghazoutmoon5031

3 ай бұрын

how were you able to get on disability after quitting your job? i quit my job but living off savings due to depression. feeling pressure to go back to work. disability benefits would be great, but i don't know how to go about it

@sylviamey

3 ай бұрын

@@taghazoutmoon5031 you go back to work because that’s life. the government doesn’t need to pay you to stay home because you’re “depressed.”

@taghazoutmoon5031

3 ай бұрын

@madisone9929 I've worked 20 years, paid taxes, never used any government benefits. Even now that I can't work, I am using savings. But if you're going through a rough period in your life, why add financial burden? Can't really recover from burnout if you're under pressure during your time off

@sylviamey

3 ай бұрын

@@taghazoutmoon5031 have an emergency fund. don’t rely on the government to pay you

So many holes and unanswered questions here. Makes me feel unstable listening this. 😮

As an adult child that was traumatized by a mentally ill father and sister. Please do not raise your children around him… It scars their frontal lobe and their world is terrible.

@EdgarStyles1234

3 ай бұрын

Moron

@patricianyandoro5606

2 ай бұрын

Please explain./ elaborate

@justanotherAA

2 ай бұрын

As a child of a BPD who was hospitalized multiple times since I was a child I could not agree more. It is terrifying.

@justanotherAA

2 ай бұрын

@@patricianyandoro5606elaborate what? It literally terrifies children to see their parents deteriorate and detach from reality. They are literally at war within their own brain and body. It is exposing the minor child to trauma.

@ez2u1

2 ай бұрын

@@patricianyandoro5606 what do you mean? Elaborate? No

Dr. John states " I don't know how the Canadian system works." Simply put, it DOESN"T. Having friends in the health care system here, they say BEFORE the pandemic : "Our health care system itself has been on critical care for decades: Now, it's flatlined." We are left on our own, with no referals (it takes up to 2 years to see a Psychiatrist), wait lists for a social worker, etc..and bascially nothing for 18 and under. I'm a Canadian citizen who's mother was a Psychiatric Nurse for 15 years.

I’m so sorry they have had to go through this. I have seen this happen to people and it I’d truly terrifying for all concerned.

Comparing USA healthcare to Canadian healthcare is not fair. If you got money and I mean plenty of money the USA healthcare wins hands down. Our healthcare is expensive and many many people in the USA are either without insurance or underinsured. Try buying prescription at least three times what you pay in Canada.

Great chapter. I wish people was this open to learn more from each other

In Canada they protect adult mental health patients privacy. They do not share anything with family or friends. Adult hospital patients can appoint someone to be their point of contact who the medical team can share medical information. I have gone through this with a family member. BC has a good early psychosis intervention program once an adult patient is discharged. However, the privacy kicks in again and the medical team cannot share anything unless the patient, medical team (psychiatrist & case manager), and appointed family or friend are in the room together. It’s frustrating because if a patient is fighting treatment and doesn’t authorize info sharing the medical team is bound by that decision even if it’s not in the best interest of the patient. We are fortunate we do not have to pay for hospital stays or doctor appointments. We can choose to pay for extended benefits/medical insurance that cover prescription costs. Most have to pay for prescriptions if they don’t have extended benefits. So healthcare is not 100% covered here in 🇨🇦.

@vaska1999

3 ай бұрын

Well explained. Thanks.

I almost had a breakdown listening to this woman dance around the questions

@rachelgooden9981

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. She’s not ready to get help

@GageReed

Жыл бұрын

I did have a breakdown.

@elinmoftedal

4 ай бұрын

Are you without empathy or crazy? She is terrified and grieving

@stevendavis5095

4 ай бұрын

@@elinmoftedal no most people are just smart enough to recognize a lack of accountability

@doctorposting

3 ай бұрын

she didn’t dance around anything. she answered what she knew. there were times where he took off from the house, is she supposed to guess what he was doing lmao???

Canadas been beyond difficult the last few years. I was laid off in a mass 800 person layoff. I had a well paying office job. All industries are having mass layoffs and the market is flooded with over educated prospects who can not find work, myself included. I benefit from being a dual citizen of the UK and after a year of not finding work, moving back to my parents house and renting out my own, I was able to find a great job in London in less than a month. I count myself blessed because not many are so lucky. But suffice it to say, that yes…. Canada is a mess.

"so she could be an advocate for me"..... well played John - dropping ques, but I don't think this lady will truly get involved.

What she’s not saying is how deplorable the healthcare system in Canada is. Dr John is approaching this as if you can speak to his team and that anyone in the system is even spending time with him. Good luck getting seen or heard.

@lot2196

Жыл бұрын

They'll offer euthanasia. Socialism sucks. Evil.

This caller was frustrating to listen to, if my work life is chaotic and I can’t talk to my wife about it either, I’m not surprised about the husband mental breakdown. The extent of the mental breakdown is what’s surprising more then anything.

@djpuplex

Жыл бұрын

Love how she made it all about her as well. You her this a lot with ex wives who's husbands self delete. They use it as the opportunity to get attention.

@GhislaineMutombo

Жыл бұрын

​@@djpuplex she's trying to empower herself to help him, let's not start blaming suicide/mental illness on wives, that's careless. Mental illness is not caused or inflected by wives. This is also about her though, her husband just lost it after going missing.

@Mrs.LadeyBug

Жыл бұрын

I actually don’t understand what you are actually referring to.

@yeilyn24

Жыл бұрын

@@Mrs.LadeyBug I’m not surprised.

@djpuplex

Жыл бұрын

@@GhislaineMutombo As a man I can tell you women play a huge role in male suicides. Don't be so naive.

It’s so frustrating that John doesn’t get how awful the medical system is. He probably has great connections and assumes good care is easy to come by. It’s usually not worth it for the average person. Wasted money and time out of your life that yields no results and adds more stress to your pre-existing problems you’re trying to get help for.

Its like pulling teeth to get info from this caller. Unless the long pauses before answering even the simplest question & the vagueness are embarrassment. Or just an incredibly passive communication style. She needs to be more assertive with any medical staff involved, to get the necessary info, because her husband is in no condition to help himself.

@wendybarnett4037

2 ай бұрын

It's not that easy. It's not like going to the doctor with a person with cancer. I can't even make an appointment for someone who asked me to...much less discuss a diagnosis.

The system in Canada sucks - there is a 1 year wait to see a psychiatrist in the community. Hospital staff don't continue care once the client is released. It is not unusual to require multiple emergency room visits to get any kind of care because of this - people have to go back again and again and are sicker and sicker as a result.. There are community mental health teams but their caseload is unbelievable - like 75 to 100 clients per worker. There are no outpatient plans because people are often discharged because there is a backlog of patient in the ER waiting for a bed. So people are often discharged in the evening or weekend when the need for beds is highest and the least sick have to go. Drug induced psychosis is one of the major problems - along with homelessness. The system is broken - they are focusing on free drugs and a "safe supply" - rather than treatment. - because (IMO) they think it is cheaper. But the homeless encampments are everywhere now - there are even in the suburbs - thousands and thousands of drug addicted (often psychotic) unhoused people. It is a health emergency and a national crises and a national embarrassment. The government is now also pushing for assisted suicide for mental illness, it is downright dystopian at this point.

@04beni04

2 ай бұрын

It used to be better. I saw the system first hand 7 years ago and then again in recent times, and it was night and day. 7 years ago I saw so much to be proud of and thankful for. Now? After seeingsome of the ways the provincial and federal governments seem bound and determined to destroy it all until nothing is left but a 2-tiered system (with our taxes going to support and subsidize corporations) I'm seriously questioning whether a lot of the leaders should be where they are. It's definitely become a national emergency.

In Canada health information is private don't matter if she, his wife. they won't tell unless the husband says out loud that he ok to give his medical information. Maybe he not even sicks maybe he trying to get a divorce.

MAKE SURE HE GETS A HEAD CT SCAN, as tumors can sometimes present as behavioral!!!

@krlady4703

3 ай бұрын

In Canada they do CT and MRI scans early on in the hospital stay in the diagnosis process.

Technically the social worker would not be able to answer medical associated questions completely. The provider and the nursing staff in the hospital during his stay would be more appropriate to ask. Social worker would refer PHP providers to her husband. He needs a round about care - a primary, psychiatrist, possibly a med management, and yes, a therapist. AND, he is to follow through. They both need psychological support to understand his psychological condition. However aftercare appointments is the primary role of the social worker and understanding his psychological state with collaboration with the medical staff. Hospitals are crisis settings and to stabilize, he needs to follow up with his primary provider asap if he is out already and back home. But if he is there, absolutely ask the medical staff for recommendations about things to avoid.

This family was in dire need of external authority giving guidance and expertise. The wife seems like she wants to help, but doesn't give the impression thst she's capable of leading the family out of the crisis. There's comprehension, organizing and directing skills that she clearly doesn't doesn't have, hence why she can barely give a coherent history or current status update. This is someone used to being in the passenger seat rather than driving the bus from what it sounds like.

Sounds like he’s older. Psychotic break would be very unusual as these illnesses start at a much younger age. I agree with some of the other commenters…check for other issues such as tumor or dementia.

I don’t recommend energy drinks, it can cause a psychotic break. I had one can and had an anxiety attack. 😢 I am not sure about the wife, she sounds to calm.

It might be because they're Canadian, but the caller has a hard time giving a straight answer....

@Raegoul

Жыл бұрын

In Canada especially with mental health issues they really do keep the spouse in the dark. Her inability to answer the questions are based on a flawed system where the people that need to be able to help their family are left in the dark.

@krlady4703

3 ай бұрын

What an ignorant thing to say about Canadians.

@vaska1999

3 ай бұрын

​@@krlady4703 It's not "ignorant" or rude. I'm Canadian and I find nothing offensive in what s/he said. He/she was simply wondering if the caller's way of expressing herself was culturally coded. Cultural differences among nations are normal, to be expected, and some cultures prefer an oblique style and subtlety while others favour directness. In this case, as explained in a comment above, her apparent vagueness is only a reflection of how little information is available in our broken health care system.

@patriciat5323

2 ай бұрын

Totally right? Im Canadian and have never heard anything so lame and hurtful too.​@@krlady4703

Dr. John is amazing and kind and soooo empathetic ...love his show .. and thanks to his team. I produce, moderate, and broadcast webinars for a huge financial company - it takes a village to make things happen .. Well done Dr. John and HIS TEAM ...

I had a psychotic episode and my husband said depression are not real and I am just ungrateful 😂( we are divorced) it's hard to go and ask for help if your own spouse judges you for it.

It's true, I'm in CA and at it's worst one of my motivating thoughts was "at least I'm not in Canada (or Australia)"

I live in America and we can’t afford help. We have 4 kids under 7, I was very abused my entire childhood physically and mentally in the name of religion, I was molested a lot as a older teen and young adult and then raped by two men. I have been isolated because of my husband’s jobs for 7 years. I need help so so badly, loved ones have their own problems. I can’t afford help. But you know, first world problems.

@Gabster1990

Жыл бұрын

There has to be resources available to help you. I am sorry you went through that. 🙏🏼

@Raegoul

Жыл бұрын

Same with Canada. In Canada if you want to speak to a psychologist it's $220/hr and you have to pay for private insurance (on your own or with your job) to cover it and usually the coverage is only for $800-$1000 depending on your plan, which doesn't last long.

@mystiquevening

Жыл бұрын

@@Raegoul yeah it’s insane… I do the best I can with observing how others find my interactions with them and how I feel after their interactions with me. I’m not a desperate person so I will cut out those who I find to be unhealthily clingy or demanding fairly quickly (I’d rather be isolated than deal with another abuser ever again). Also therapists on KZread have been helping. Theramintrees on KZread is amazing. But getting actual medical help is impossible… I’m “healthier” figuring this out on my own this way than being in extreme debt. But yep, the way it seems to all work really sucks…

@loverules5118

Жыл бұрын

Does your husband job not offer free eap? Almost all jobs do for the employees family. The kids school can offer free resources ..free help is out there and you deserve to get it

@mystiquevening

Жыл бұрын

@@loverules5118 I’ll look, I’ve tried to research it but the costs on what I found were too much even with my insurance. But I’ll look into it further, perhaps there is something I’m not catching.

She really isn't asking people questions but waiting for people to tell her. And they aren't being very helpful. Or she isn't a reliable reporter and they are telling her things she isn't processing.

@vaska1999

3 ай бұрын

None of this is on her; it's on our appalling health care system.

Dated a narcissist with personality disorder and a substance abuse problem. Actually had to go into in patient rehab for a couple months. Let's just say I'm not in that relationship anymore. Very sad and disappointed.

@kmb5678

Жыл бұрын

Im sorry this happened to you

@Okay182

Жыл бұрын

Wow I’m actively going through a breakup with a guy with an alcohol problem, bipolar and a touch of narcissism. It makes me so sad to see him crumbling but also so angry for how he’s treated me. He’s also about to go to in patient therapy.

@firefly9838

Жыл бұрын

Learn to pick partners better

@jackiemyers2773

2 ай бұрын

​@@firefly9838I'm sure you always pick perfect partners. Oh wait nobody is perfect. People hide their flaws until they're good and comfortable and you can't tell. I'm glad you have the perfect partner and you have always picked perfectly.

My neighbor who is like relatives of ours had a mental breakdown a few months ago. Then she fell, hurt her shoulder and had surgery. It was almost like God said Ok I'm going to hurt your shoulder enough so you deal with the breakdown. She was doing too much for her 1 year old granddaughter and now she can't. She was trying to do too much. She's 65 years old and she's had a tough life. A former alcoholic and her daughter is post heroin addict who has lost her mind from the drug use. Her brain just couldn't deal anymore.

Losing job is a sort of a death to most people specially if they are the breadwinners in the family. People live paycheck to paycheck and greatly depend on that source of income and when that is no longer available many go far as commuting suicide happened to a great guy who was let go committed this horrific act and left kids and wife behind.

Overwhelmed not crazy that’s all. As a man it’s hard everyone pulls but no one ever gives. When a man can’t provide we’re rendered useless in our minds and to the people around us. Idle hands are the devils playground. However everyone has something to complain about. Sometimes your home is worst than work.

@supernova11711

Жыл бұрын

You just said everything when you said “in our own minds”. You can’t blame other people if the issue is just that you’re unhappy with yourself.

@jeromehenry4484

Жыл бұрын

@@supernova11711 Did you even listen all the way through this video? Wife clearly stated her husband only slept 1 - 3 hours/day for 2 months and was drinking massive amounts of stimulant drinks (like "Monster"). Where in the world did you get the idea a man has a psychotic break just from being unhappy with himself? Caller's husband's psychosis was chemically induced. Many people that consume these products, like Monster, have no idea how dangerous they really are, especially if consumed in large amounts. It's possible to have cardiac arrest, stroke, anxiety attacks, psychosis, etc. I didn't hear anyone trying to "blame" psychotic break on any one person, more likely chemicals/overdose, compounded with repeated job loss.

I had a mental breakdown in 2018 and I feel like I have never been myself since but I keep as positive as I can for myself and my family sending prayers to everyone who is suffering in silence

She’s talking without saying anything

@annbaker2950

2 ай бұрын

Should be a politician.

36 years of marriage and then whammo! You just never know where life will go. I hope you make it through.

Get him checked for Lyme disease.. have him get the different types of tests!

@VanDGrrl

Жыл бұрын

Happened to my son at age 16. Antibiotics , TMS , Hyperbarics and he’s coming back . Brain injury from lyme is real

Not sleeping for weeks on end is absolutely terrifying, I've been there and I almost lost my mind. Being in psych wards is equally terrifying because u get treated like a criminal . And you don't get any sleep in those places either because they shine a flashlight in your face every 10 minutes. Please also check for Lyme disease if u found ticks, this disease can cause psychosis

38 years of marriage and this woman has no idea what her husband was diagnosed with, his stressors, etc. detached is an understatement. No wonder he had a breakdown. His own wife has no empathy

@Cyblps

3 ай бұрын

She circumvented John’s questions. Hard to follow her narrative.

@vaska1999

3 ай бұрын

She cannot get his diagnosis under the rules of our health care system. I'm Canadian and understand perfectly where her vagueness comes from. You can't imagine how frustrating and disappointing dealing with our health care is.

Omg this brought tears to my eyes. This is my life right now! My husband had a psychosis episode in January of last year. he had 3 hospitals stays and all three stays were 96hr holds court ordered. Before this, he NEVER showed signs of schizophrenia. the first episode he had I had to call 911 because he kept running out the house without clothes on in the middle of the night. After the 96hr hold they released him but when he got home, he blamed me for having him committed and he started saying some really hurtful stuff. well 2 weeks he had another episode; this time his dad was there when he run out the house. this time we caught him walking in the middle of a busy street. unfortunately, when we arrived, the police already had him and they were taking him back to the hospital. the third time which was about 2weeks later he ran away from home around 5am with no shoes on. he wouldn't answer the nor talk to anyone. later that evening around 8ish I located his phone and it ping at a police station 10miles away from our house. I called and I explained to them his condition, they as well called for 911 and they had him committed. So from January until April we were in and out of the hospital. I was always by his side! I made all the Dr, appts and even tried to encourage him to take his meds. well fast-forwarded to July. this is where it got physical! The Voices in his head told him I was being disobedient and that I needed to be dealt with. He beat me in front of our 4 daughters to the point my oldest called 911. the police came and all I wanted to do was get me and my kids out the house. we left for a month and stayed with my sister. I came back home in September so the girls could go to school. since the altercation last summer, my feelings towards him changed completely! There hasn't been another physical altercation since this, just mean and abusive words. I feel bad because I know he is sick, and he needs help but on the other end I just want to run away from him...FAR FAR AWAY! I even seen a change in our daughters after this. I rehearse my vows in my head over and over again "IN SICKNESS AND HEALTH" but what about abuse? before his psychotic break he was dealing with job loss and severer childhood trauma. He always had a positive attitude, and everyone loved being around him. Very sweet person before this! he is literally the love of my life! but know Am I wrong for wanting to leave? I'm now worried about my mental state! Oh by the way, they never diagnosed him with schizophrenia because they said the symptoms needs to last for more then a year! they said its severe depression. ( we are 38 and 36yrs old)

When things started to spiral for me my girlfriend left me, and I got laid off, and it has not gotten better and I cannot make any connection to humans and I live alone and most people are afraid of me and the feeling is mutual. it sucks when you need support and its not there and you can't make people help you.

As a medical professional trained and working in the USA and who has also worked medical missions in too many countries to name including many socialized health care systems like Canada, let me say that the experience and vagueness that this woman and her husband have after him spending weeks in a hospital is exactly what you get in a socialized system. Not even knowing the diagnosis is common. No follow through from beginning to end is what you get in a socialized system. A privatized system isn’t perfect but it is LEAPS and BOUNDS above socialized systems. There’s something called the “trigon analysis.” Basically there is no system in the world that offers all three: quality, affordable, universality. The best we can hope for is two of these and hope that charity hospitals and local governments fill in the gaps. Anyone who is a proponent of universal health care or socialized medicine has either never been to a country who has socialized medicine and experienced first hand this type of system or they are clueless and have been brainwashed. I have compassion for people who come home from weeks in the hospital and don’t know their diagnosis nor their treatment plan, but then this is almost every single sick person in Canada, UK, etc.

@vaska1999

3 ай бұрын

The French, Italian, and German health care systems, all socialized, don't have these problems, though the French one has just introduced a procedure for contacting one's physician that's guaranteed to create problems for patients.

She doesn't say what he is saying..... Everyone is just saying he has problems... It sounds like he is not being heard.. "He doesnt feel safe." nobody is getting to the root of why he feels that way.

Here in Canada, someone who has attempted suicide, serious enough to put them in intensive care for weeks, can be released with absolutely zero outpatient follow up program.

@cherylvisconti

2 ай бұрын

Same in USA

It’s simple, follow up. Start with regular Dr. or find the psych Dr.

Honestly... I'm still on the tail end of preventing a break. I told my boss I needed at least two weeks off work or id quit. I didn't care if I was fired. I'm half way through it and think I should've said a month because Im still in a mindset of wanting to tell everyone to eff off (I don't but I want to). I don't consider it that I've snapped, but for some reason I just have worked for so long getting no where, having nothing to show for it, that I just don't care.

Not to minimize this woman's real and valid pain - which I get, deeply because we recently escaped California to move our family across country... For better policy, of all things. Even with a downgrade in home value, academic school performance (kids we're in private in CA), etc. And having to move a budding business along with it... You can imagine... Well worth it to get out of CA, USA with our tails proverbially intact. That place was lunacy. And it affects you. You can't help it if you're human. But I have to say, my fave part of this call was when Dr. D. acknowledged how cruddy Canada has become and how difficult it is to live there lately by saying, "If you thought California was bad..." That made me laugh, because it is and because I know, sadly, of Canadians who are suffering their government's... "Col-lash" was a good way to put it ;o) We are safer here. And it is better and less stress. It's still USA but the problems and issues are much more manageable. And we went from paying $22,000/yr home insurance to $1,200 - $1,400 *PER YEAR* for home insurance. It's like a miracle. The medical is the same and just as frustrating but at least the docs still live and work here that we need our kids to see. The one's with the quals for our special needs kid allowed away a year before we did in CA and our kid couldn't get support he needed at school without their checking the boxes on the forms. Literally all of them moved out of state - anyone who could afford to moved a year before we did! We tried changing insurances or getting supplemental but the wait list for the 1 plan that included support was 2 years long already. Dude, can you move? Would you? It's tough but so much better. It's like a band aid, rip it off and deal with the intense pain but your cut is healed underneath or was anyway. So the pain goes away. Can you move somewhere more manageable? Comfortable? Would it be worth it to take the risk?

@y04a

Жыл бұрын

I'm 31, single female with dog. I am Canadian. I had a severe mental breakdown in 2015 after years of Adderall and a bunch of other drugs I was prescribed plus bad experiences etc. I just turned 23 and I was involuntarily committed for 6 weeks and 3 days, drugged beyond belief and told I'm bi polar type one. It's taken years but now I'm an electrical apprentice with the IBEW which is in the states and Canada. You have me thinking maybe I can move away from here... Idk I had another incident after the hospital. Long story but I was charged with something but not convicted. Any idea if that makes me less likely to be able to immigrate?

@y04a

Жыл бұрын

P.s. I take no prescription drugs now and haven't had an incident or breakdown since 2016.

@brightpage1020

Жыл бұрын

@@y04a no place will be stress free - that's life - but if you can choose a place where stress might be more manageable for you - or support more abundant, might be worth it. In our new state there a number of docs with the qualifications to support our special needs son and so he got to go to school for K this year. And he is doing so much better! Is it problem-free? Certainly not. That's life. It's not supposed to be comfortable. It's supposed to be challenging and mysterious, but it's more fun to meet the challenges where we can be empowered to do so by the community of support. Back in California, all the docs with those specific qualifications to check the "he needs a school aid" box had moved out of the state during the start of the exodus out of there. We couldn't get support and he had to skip his last year of preschool (we "homeschooled" to try to keep his habits and learning up as much as you can with a preschooler. His regular doc had him checked for other stuff like seizures and all sorts of other stuff our insurance could charge us extra for and luckily they all came out negative. That alone is a load off. And we have family closer here. So we can help each other out more. It's nice. The move was like taking a giant financial enema but now the dust is settling. At least we didn't have to pay Newsom's desired "exit tax". Got out before that went to Congress... Hubs got a new job pretty easy - the place has a labor shortage we moved to. He could take his pick. We got more land here for the money, a little farm, nothing fancy, and the kids are helping take care of the hens we now get our eggs from in the yard. It's mellower, not as busy but we were looking forward to slowing down. The crime and homelessness where we lived was crazy making. We bribed a homeless guy off our driveway in the morning with a warm breakfast, and put him on the grass so we could take our kids to school without driving over him. Few months before we moved, one of the kids got in the car with a stranger who simply drove up, said, " where's your mom? Get in". But Mom was chasing them with phone camera on the plate and little siblings waved down motorists to call for help. So the potential kidnapper let him go. We got lucky. That call was close enough. We hightailed it out no holds barred. Found a safer hood, chiller people, small town...friendly vibe. It helps. We keep expectations realistic, but it does help a significant amount.

@brightpage1020

Жыл бұрын

@@TJCVT no worries. Personally, I moved from California, USA to a different state, also in the USA, Michigan. So what I know of Canada is fairly limited, but I have visited there and have friends there. I moved from the Palm Springs / Coachella Valley area which typically gets a lot of Canadian tourists in the winter. Now, in Northern Michigan, it's like being in Canada's armpit. So... 20 years ago, I majored in International Relations at the University of Denver's Korbel School for Globalisation. Comparative economic security policy was the curricula, along with courses on terrorism / antiterrorism (I was studying there over 9/11/01), Organized Crime, Human Trafficking, modern slavery, Genocides of hisory, Drug War(s - that covered both illicit as well as pharma styled medicating as an act of warfare or population control)... Politics... And global economics based on sociology, demographics, etc. Plus some classes on international business (it was a big business school). We had to study different... Types of transitional governments, let's say... All the methods used to transition them. One of the Specifically Canadian (but also British and American) recent policy changes, for instance is one called MAID in Canada, assisted suicide. When you see policies devolve from supporting life to the opposite, it's a big red flag in case the orange or yellow ones slipped by. Infrastructure changes, banking policies like political dissenters not being able to utilize their personal checking accounts... News stories that have made it through the sieve of censorship in American media... After college I worked for a nonprofit delivering medical missions to developing nations. Many of those have socialised health care - so what did they need medical missions for? To make the leader look generous. Because in one country for instance, the doctors' work in surgery is free to patients, but they might have to pay $600/night for the hospital bed or $350 per day for food in the hospital while they recover... So the fees had simply been recategorized. That was not Canada but we'd heard of medical wait times there for years, and folks coming to US for surgeries from there and stuff is not uncommon and has been happening at least a few decades, no? Like the Kidney wait list is too long, right? The US is on the same trajectory as the rest of the West. The only difference is we staved it off a smidge longer but that won't matter soon. Also the censorship of actual events happening in and around our country and the world is so bad here that most Americans have no idea it's happening here still or are only starting to catch the clues. I was taught to read many different sources of info, not just one or 2 mainstream options. I don't have special knowledge particular to Canada but I understand how the west got on a trajectory because I remember the Bill Clinton administration and the policy decisions about keeping the internet unregulated then as well as the one that gave corporations the rights to vote and own property, legally equating them with citizens, essentially pitting them against US citizens for control over Amerca's defense system... No matter where the corporate entity was located or who owned it, provided it did business exchanges in the U.S. Blah blah boring... But it opened a door... And funded them with corporate property values skyrocketing after that. What I mean is: the US is not in any better a position than Canada or even all that different but our constitution held out longer before being completely usurped so far... And our medical still isn't as bad as yours, especially mental health. What I mean is, when government supports people instead of the other way around, as compassionate an ideal as that is... People can get expensive to maintain long-term and as an investment, might have a shelf life, let's say. Some governments previously, elsewhere so far, have been known to incentivize the business of death by culling the populations typically too steeply priced to invest in: The elderly, disadvantaged, sick, mentally ill, young... "Unproductive" folks without much potential economically... I actually heard it's worse in England than Canada so far... Nothing against Canada specifically... The West is on the slide together, we're approaching the dropoff.. How long will it take and how many it may take is - nobody's got a crystal ball, but we do have lenses of global history we can learn from in general..

I have severe sleep apnea also contributed

@aqua6613

Жыл бұрын

Lack of oxygen

My ex had a psychotic break and broke into my house through the upstairs window and I woke up to him beating me up...i became disabled after that with disabling panic attacks

What is she trying to say? She's giving so little info.

I’m really thinking that the reason why she couldn’t get too much information from his counselors because even though he signed the paperwork to give her information, he probably told them that he didn’t want her to have some information about his illness and told them that he would decide on when to tell her The problem with that is if he should hurt himself or hurt her or other people, she would never know what’s in his mind because he doesn’t tell her I pray for that family.🙏

Is it possible he could have been on drugs?

@omgurheadsgone

Жыл бұрын

Likely, especially if they from Edmonton lmao.

@Treebranch_

Жыл бұрын

ihe went to the hospital directly following the incident, so she would have known - as she would have been told what was in his system

@112887db

Жыл бұрын

@@Treebranch_ well according to the show she doesnt even know what his diagnoses was, so it could be possible when she contacts the facility to see the paperwork that could be in there.

@Treebranch_

Жыл бұрын

@@112887db oh gotcha. I think I must have been distracted during that part of the show then!

@KeraJaay

Жыл бұрын

It sounds like it too

I would be a mess if I lost my job.

I had my psychotic break last year and was diagnosed with Bipolar one. I disagree with most of whats in this video just because Im different in that I dont like talking too much about feelings. My wish is to be treated normally and not like my wife must tread on egg shells around me. Things I do like are to be greeted nicely when i come back from work with a bit of excitement at the door with a hug and a kiss. If there is something troubling me I will talk to my wife about it. From the different people I have spoken to I have learnt that everyone is different and every case of bipolar and psychoses affects people differently. The medications also very considerably depending on the doctor. My meds have kept my mood level for over a year. I barely ever get angry angry anymore.

@taghazoutmoon5031

3 ай бұрын

what meds do you take that helped you? how did they know it's bipolar? i know i struggle with depression and anxiety, but wonder if there is something else. anti depressants don't help me as i can't take them at all...side effects too bad. xanax has helped, but doctor doesn't want to prescribe it long term. apparently, could cause brain damage long term.

Shes probably the cause. She has no idea about anything. She keeps talking in circles.

Yeah... The sky is about all thats up in Alberta. Big one.

@kanienkehakaka

Жыл бұрын

Stars and northern lights❤

1-3 hours a night, living on caffeine and energy drinks… sounds like the US Navy diet.

so either chemicals...drugs or demon possession ..none of those are good ans yes lake of sleep is like a awful drug...ive seen family do that and they change a lot

I have a suspicion she has contributed to his issues. She just reaching for excuses.

@elfascisto6549

4 ай бұрын

You displayed signs of misogyny on this same comment section, that might be why

@djpuplex

4 ай бұрын

@@elfascisto6549 I call em as I see them I also provide numbers to support when I can.

So she knows absolutely NOTHING about what happened to this guy??? WOW!! 36 years and she is blaming this on some Redbull and Mountain Dew. Poor dude.

@TheVoiceTalk

Жыл бұрын

Eh at least she's calling in to figure out what to do. Her head was probably spinning when this all went down. For some people, it's hard to think logically when under pressure.

@starrjohnson1327

Жыл бұрын

It's a psychotic break. He's never had one before. She was trying to help him before it happened. So many people are sleep deprived but won't/can't relax.

@Jane5720

Жыл бұрын

She didn’t say that! She never said that Mountain Dew or Red Bull caused the break.

@funnygaming2672

Жыл бұрын

i live in Canada ,medical personal cannot give information unless they have the OK of the patient itself ...In Canada health information is private don't matter if she, his wife. they won't tell unless the husband says out loud that he ok to give his medical information. Maybe he not even sicks maybe he trying to get a divorce.

@Mrs.LadeyBug

Жыл бұрын

@@funnygaming2672yes, and even when full permission is granted, the med team doesn’t give much (if anything) more than the medication list. And, if the patient is not considered “competent” and they don’t have a previous history with the pt or spouse, they are very leery to provide info.

I don't understand. Could it have been a medical issue with the tics? My mom got brain cancer and had situations that were out of the normal. Turned out to be medical, not mental.

What kinda pics did she see?? I can’t hear what she said.

Americans rarely seem to mention the Province. We would say ‘Edmonton Alberta Canada.

I’d have a breakdown too living with that level of humor.

Yo… when I heard, “Uh the sky..”, he’s innocent.

You are not addressing his new job and their need for him to work I am assuming? You are addressing her like they are retired and can just sit back and smell the roses and I don't think that is their reality, hence, more stress.

Caffeine? You mean meth. Lol

I had psychotic break from alcoholic husband I shot him and hallucinations 3 weeks

@djpuplex

Жыл бұрын

Wow and your out free justice was served.

I'm Canadian and I take offence to the broad brush statements made regarding the Canadian Medical System. In Canada there are some areas where there are shortages of physicians. Our family has never had a problem with our medical system, it has been top notch. I'm able to have an appointment right away if I have an urgent medical concern. Do Americans feel that their medical system is better? I think not. American costs will break a family. The Canadian system is available for everyone. This lady has experienced a traumatic event with her husband's mental breakdown. She has been blindsided with all that there is to know about his illness. How is she supposed to know what questions to ask and how best to be an advocate for him? She is trying to understand her husband's needs as well as her own needs. She is in a traumatic situation too! The suggestions given were very helpful and I am impressed with you Dr. Delony, but I do take exception to your comments on our medical system.....look at your own broken system!

@valeriebroersma1033

2 ай бұрын

You are fortunate then. Also Canadian and have had terrible experiences with our medical system and I even have a family doctor.

Why can't she just answer the question? 😅 He asked her twice what his diagnosis was when he left the hospital and she dances around the answer. She called him for help but isn't helping herself 😂

LOL! Just one?

How you know someone has psychiatrist break down?

First!