My Ex - That Library Show

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Join us in the library for a candid chat with my ex, Lysi! We delve into the book of our past, discussing relationship hurdles, dating post-breakup, and even daring to critique our past bedroom adventures. It's a page-turner you won't want to miss! 📚
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  • @SpizNitrate
    @SpizNitrate3 ай бұрын

    "How to Apologise" and "No more Assholes". the book choices my gosh

  • @golden9131

    @golden9131

    3 ай бұрын

    i think no more assholes was also a reference to the last guest

  • @eypu999

    @eypu999

    3 ай бұрын

    @@golden9131why?

  • @hexxed4245

    @hexxed4245

    3 ай бұрын

    @@eypu999 the last guest was the woman who wrote no more assholes

  • @georgeratkowitz8023

    @georgeratkowitz8023

    3 ай бұрын

    'NO MORE BULLSHIT' Tim Heidecker

  • @oatmilkmustache

    @oatmilkmustache

    3 ай бұрын

    Sums up everything 😂

  • @nikolet365
    @nikolet3653 ай бұрын

    Y’all leave that poor lady alone she should not be back w him the whole ep is literally showcasing how bro has to heal a lot of his own things to even think of a relationship

  • @luwie2128

    @luwie2128

    3 ай бұрын

    real

  • @octopie925

    @octopie925

    3 ай бұрын

    Couldn't more agree

  • @-TK-

    @-TK-

    3 ай бұрын

    i mostly agree tho 3 years a lot of time to grow and reflect on yourself.

  • @h.w.4482

    @h.w.4482

    3 ай бұрын

    if he wants a relationship he should stop hooking up w random people constantly

  • @shesh2265

    @shesh2265

    3 ай бұрын

    "The whole ep is showcasing" is 1000 things, its actually so judgmental to say he shouldn't even think of a relationship as if you know him that well

  • @eepyegg
    @eepyegg3 ай бұрын

    everyone's going on about how he's fumbled or some shit but the man is putting some of his biggest insecurities out here just for us to be entertained by. massive balls. i'm so glad y'all are friends though and can laugh about it now

  • @jamary2252

    @jamary2252

    3 ай бұрын

    Best take on this video 🔥🔥🔥 fully agree

  • @Trustfuleevees

    @Trustfuleevees

    3 ай бұрын

    I agree. He’s brought her on to fuck his shit up, and he’s so self aware about it all. Great video

  • @StrangerToEarth

    @StrangerToEarth

    3 ай бұрын

    Yeah he’s definitely not doing this purely because he knows it’ll get attention and views… just to be huuuuumble and brave like a lil church mouse

  • @Trustfuleevees

    @Trustfuleevees

    2 ай бұрын

    @@StrangerToEarth you know these two things aren’t mutually exclusive? You have to be so dense to think he didn’t think about this beforehand.

  • @Trustfuleevees

    @Trustfuleevees

    2 ай бұрын

    @@StrangerToEarth like the reason this is going to get attention, like you said, is because it’s a compromising interview subject. It’s so obvious.

  • @meiyoou
    @meiyoou3 ай бұрын

    he's such a red flag but at least he's aware of it 😭

  • @user-cq3rz7pg6h

    @user-cq3rz7pg6h

    3 ай бұрын

    Very like omg 😭😭😭

  • @McDonaldsCalifornia

    @McDonaldsCalifornia

    3 ай бұрын

    Tbf he is also way more upfront about his issues and after all he edited that video.

  • @P4ndaBear

    @P4ndaBear

    3 ай бұрын

    They both are.

  • @uncklassboy180

    @uncklassboy180

    3 ай бұрын

    im generalizing but ppl like him will literally have this conversation then continue with the same behavior

  • @EarsBeEazy

    @EarsBeEazy

    3 ай бұрын

    I agree She definitely is

  • @banannaboat
    @banannaboat3 ай бұрын

    I think it’s so healthy to be able to talk about an unhealthy relationship later and laugh about it

  • @ypg5hunnid536

    @ypg5hunnid536

    3 ай бұрын

    Yeah samee

  • @H786...

    @H786...

    3 ай бұрын

    Please edit your comment

  • @michaeldavid6832

    @michaeldavid6832

    3 ай бұрын

    No it's not. Not at all. One person is almost always still in love. Only young inexperienced people can think this is a good idea. If you're the one who still loves, then you only meet because you're trying to link up again. There's no other reason to call such a meeting. If you're the one who doesn't love the other person who did, then you're giving them false hope, or you ensuring you're going to do it to them again.

  • @ypg5hunnid536

    @ypg5hunnid536

    3 ай бұрын

    @@michaeldavid6832 hmm i see what ur saying, but i think it is possible tho

  • @HeyTommyTalks

    @HeyTommyTalks

    3 ай бұрын

    @@michaeldavid6832 Your not wrong that most of the time one person is still in love but, that's not true that it never happens I've known of multiple situations where two people are able to look at something retrospectively and laugh about dumb immature shit

  • @TheOtherOne7isBlueMaid
    @TheOtherOne7isBlueMaid3 ай бұрын

    the whiplash of going from "aw they should get back together" to "woah, i'm glad they can move on" was craaaaaaazy.......

  • @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach

    @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach

    3 ай бұрын

    Ping...

  • @donDanDeNiro

    @donDanDeNiro

    3 ай бұрын

    Na, they can still get back together. It just cannot be with the same conditions that got em to break up in the first place.

  • @RainbowJesusChavez

    @RainbowJesusChavez

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@donDanDeNiro I really don't think they should, he really has some stuff he still needs to heal/work on before actually committing to a relationship again. He's definitely grown from where he was and shows self awareness, but he isn't there

  • @dezmodium

    @dezmodium

    3 ай бұрын

    He says in the beginning that they broke up because he wasn't ready to be a boyfriend. I felt that. Reminds me of my first relationship. I loved her dearly but I wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship either. I had a lot of growing to do and it wasn't her responsibility to teach me.

  • @jeremynguru710

    @jeremynguru710

    3 ай бұрын

    @donDanDeNiro….correct me if am wrong…u going back is a red flag

  • @KnightMcflee
    @KnightMcflee3 ай бұрын

    I can totally see the issue they said she was having. When he asked her "how long did you wait until you seen someone else" and she completely froze and was thinking of not saying it. It was all strictly to protect his feelings. now imagine that as a whole relationship. every little thing you do... damn.

  • @FedPut

    @FedPut

    3 ай бұрын

    She was head-over-heals in love and then with someone else the next week. She's probably thinking about the feelings of her current of future bfs thinking of putting a ring on it.

  • @carsarthu

    @carsarthu

    3 ай бұрын

    It also seemed like she had fully written down a 4 for the sexual ability rating, and then felt bad for him and changed it to a 6 😅 23:28

  • @Mawyman2316

    @Mawyman2316

    2 ай бұрын

    @@carsarthu She did write a 4

  • @capitandonculo

    @capitandonculo

    2 ай бұрын

    yep yep yep yep das me

  • @anywallsocket

    @anywallsocket

    Ай бұрын

    Her careful nature is an issue?

  • @sandydelrosario6748
    @sandydelrosario67483 ай бұрын

    19:16 “it was you…” she’s so real for that. It was you she wanted to be with, no one else.

  • @maria22662
    @maria226623 ай бұрын

    This video is a very good example of why it is so important to communicate and be vulnerable in a relationship 😭

  • @janordanu2008

    @janordanu2008

    3 ай бұрын

    Shut up dude

  • @EarsBeEazy

    @EarsBeEazy

    3 ай бұрын

    No

  • @sylviejunkie

    @sylviejunkie

    3 ай бұрын

    what do you mean no??

  • @Markizas.Karabasas

    @Markizas.Karabasas

    3 ай бұрын

    @@sylviejunkie he means that when you start showing vulnerability she stops liking you

  • @Bedeemir

    @Bedeemir

    2 ай бұрын

    @@Markizas.Karabasas yeah sorry patrick bateman pp guy but when you have mutual trust in a relationship its not always end like that

  • @krsp1331
    @krsp13313 ай бұрын

    apart from the comedy of it all this is such a serious and intimate conversation and putting it out there to see how much you both have changed and grown is awesome

  • @sheepdog916

    @sheepdog916

    3 ай бұрын

    Intimacy belongs to two Persons, else it’s no longer intimate.

  • @krsp1331

    @krsp1331

    3 ай бұрын

    @@sheepdog916 its the nature of the conversation thats intimate dawg yes they chose to to put it out there but at the moment it was definitely intimate

  • @july.

    @july.

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@sheepdog916 man shut the hell up

  • @joongieluvs
    @joongieluvs3 ай бұрын

    "I had your feet in my mouth, all the time. I- it was great." STOP I CRIED I COULD FEEL THE EMBARRASSMENT FROM HERE

  • @XskiillzXx

    @XskiillzXx

    2 ай бұрын

    Normalize having your girls feet in your mouth 2024

  • @lucidx3655
    @lucidx36553 ай бұрын

    This is probably the rawest video ive seen in a long time. The maturity is next to the best ive ever seen. The acceptance, open-ness, the understanding and attitude to each other is amazing to see. Its not typical to see people who were once together be like this afterwards and to listen and accept the faults they had during the relationship. Its inspiring. such a great all round video. Thankyou.

  • @markvampirre
    @markvampirre3 ай бұрын

    dude that is a crazy ass intro

  • @burnt.norton

    @burnt.norton

    3 ай бұрын

    😭😭

  • @viperking299

    @viperking299

    3 ай бұрын

    Felt like I walked in on something fr.

  • @My1es

    @My1es

    3 ай бұрын

    she doesn't even have small boobs. pornbrain

  • @twinchromes3499

    @twinchromes3499

    3 ай бұрын

    ONG LIKE WTF WHAT

  • @nataliee5236
    @nataliee52363 ай бұрын

    Guys stop saying he fumbled. Good people move on from relationships. You don't have to be with someone just cause they're a good person.

  • @eypu999

    @eypu999

    3 ай бұрын

    Agree

  • @devonstoomuch

    @devonstoomuch

    3 ай бұрын

    & you don't have to be with somebody just because you love them. relationships are strange.

  • @jacobwheeler6136

    @jacobwheeler6136

    3 ай бұрын

    Exactly.. people have me shit for not taking back my ex when she gave me a kidney.. she's a great person and we had a mutual breakup. Also, she never tried to get back with me..

  • @jackiemoon00

    @jackiemoon00

    3 ай бұрын

    im shallow and I was just looking at her boobs :)

  • @raygunlynn5075

    @raygunlynn5075

    3 ай бұрын

    @@jacobwheeler6136thats fucked up tho. Did u use her for her kidney

  • @hopeangelica7971
    @hopeangelica79713 ай бұрын

    This man has the personality of Kuzco before he gets turned into a llama. 😂

  • @linontheinternet

    @linontheinternet

    3 ай бұрын

    🤣

  • @jackspinner4727

    @jackspinner4727

    3 ай бұрын

    Good anology

  • @serene4961

    @serene4961

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes

  • @tylerstraub1

    @tylerstraub1

    3 ай бұрын

    😂😂😂😂😂

  • @ridorock6

    @ridorock6

    3 ай бұрын

    Not as cruel but definitely has the ego part down

  • @dominiceh9702
    @dominiceh97023 ай бұрын

    Nothing hostile just human beings appreciating each other and raw honesty. This was a wonderful watch.

  • @n45hch2
    @n45hch23 ай бұрын

    'You're making everything about you' - brutal on your own YT channel

  • @macherfarfan1435

    @macherfarfan1435

    3 ай бұрын

    Literally on his little "all about him" safe place

  • @gabrielsyme4550

    @gabrielsyme4550

    3 ай бұрын

    When you have someone come to your space to "talk" then its not just a "yourself" space.

  • @Ez-ij7pe

    @Ez-ij7pe

    3 ай бұрын

    this is supposed to be an interview though, so it's not really supposed to be all about him; on his other videos, these supposed interviews would just end up with him talking all about himself@@macherfarfan1435

  • @donDanDeNiro

    @donDanDeNiro

    3 ай бұрын

    That's chill

  • @davibarberini8865

    @davibarberini8865

    2 ай бұрын

    The title literally says "My Ex"

  • @milliereeves2215
    @milliereeves22153 ай бұрын

    I've never really thought about how intense relationships must have been that were founded during covid

  • @davidearle7209

    @davidearle7209

    3 ай бұрын

    Bro I was in one and it was one of the most tumultuous times of my life, I was working damn near full time at an engineering internship, in school full time, and trying to keep my gf happy all at once. I was losing my mind lol

  • @masoneverlast1232

    @masoneverlast1232

    3 ай бұрын

    I’ve been in a few serious relationships, but the one that I got in during Covid went on the longest and ended in the most dramatic way possible and the courts had to get involved. It ended a year ago and I realized oh I didn’t even really like him I was just lonely during Covid and it probably shoulda been a one night thing 💀

  • @davidearle7209

    @davidearle7209

    3 ай бұрын

    @@masoneverlast1232 same for me bro, after we finally ended things I realized I didn’t even like her that much, I just didn’t want to go through all of that alone. I felt bad about it but in hindsight I really did think I liked her while I was in it.

  • @hughgeorgechannel

    @hughgeorgechannel

    3 ай бұрын

    Yeah also in the moved in with new gf at lockdown camp. Similar story

  • @donDanDeNiro

    @donDanDeNiro

    3 ай бұрын

    @@davidearle7209 Mine started right before COVID and it's been going. We even have a kid together!

  • @blakxhart
    @blakxhart3 ай бұрын

    "it's more like...you're so lucky to be with me". I LOVE this girl!!!

  • @niftyszn9469

    @niftyszn9469

    3 күн бұрын

    Bro that's so toxic...

  • @brettwoodcock7997
    @brettwoodcock79973 ай бұрын

    “it’s been 3 years i’m sure you grew” “😬” LMAO- i’d consider that in itself some growth

  • @cf8415
    @cf84153 ай бұрын

    Dude fumbled astronomically, he was dating björk 😭😭😭🙏

  • @lonewaer

    @lonewaer

    3 ай бұрын

    A saint ? You mean a flight attendant with both nipples pierced. That's no saint.

  • @karstencarsten9964

    @karstencarsten9964

    3 ай бұрын

    Mfs back seating relationships but won't have the courage to go outside

  • @Kadz25

    @Kadz25

    3 ай бұрын

    Nah he made the right choice her face looks hella manly

  • @THZX-qk9fc

    @THZX-qk9fc

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Kadz25braindead

  • @THZX-qk9fc

    @THZX-qk9fc

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ImZykuincel

  • @markvampirre
    @markvampirre3 ай бұрын

    no but she seems like such a genuine, good person

  • @solarprogeny6736

    @solarprogeny6736

    3 ай бұрын

    i think she grew a lot based on her answers

  • @teka9676

    @teka9676

    3 ай бұрын

    @@KYLETISZAI how to spot superficial people

  • @fil_c7895

    @fil_c7895

    3 ай бұрын

    She Is tho​@@KYLETISZAI

  • @MrMekishiko

    @MrMekishiko

    3 ай бұрын

    @@KYLETISZAI What do you mean. Shes gorgeous bruv.

  • @lucaj8131

    @lucaj8131

    3 ай бұрын

    @@KYLETISZAI I say this in the most respectful way possible but I think you're gay brother.

  • @ThisisGlorious
    @ThisisGlorious3 ай бұрын

    From man man to man, thank you for being so open about your emotions and vulnerability especially online man, this really takes balls. And the fact that you are so honest with yourself really shows you’re a great person, regardless of what insecurities you might be dealing with

  • @avengedsvfdrcks
    @avengedsvfdrcks3 ай бұрын

    I recently went through a breakup of 3 years and this really hit home. Thanks to both of you for being mature enough to have this deep conversation, despite all the history, and post it for all of us to see. I wish the internet saw more of this side to a breakup. So many of us are so quick to post a roast over some minor thing that got us heated and then get lost in the instant gratification of strangers. This video gives me hope 💚

  • @0700andrea
    @0700andrea3 ай бұрын

    The way the self-centeredness revealed itself throughout the video 😂

  • @andrewoid4711

    @andrewoid4711

    3 ай бұрын

    From who?

  • @ssemiss

    @ssemiss

    3 ай бұрын

    Did you watch the video ?​@@andrewoid4711

  • @RoB-nc5ns

    @RoB-nc5ns

    3 ай бұрын

    Yeah i noticed that even in his other videos, the conversations will always circle back to him and his problems

  • @MrRmmk1

    @MrRmmk1

    3 ай бұрын

    Yea it definitely showed itself through out 😂😂 I think if he works out that aspect he would improve a lot for another relationship

  • @FullmetalGanon

    @FullmetalGanon

    3 ай бұрын

    but its his podcast @@RoB-nc5ns

  • @8BSJ8
    @8BSJ83 ай бұрын

    I absolutely love the raw honesty from her. It’s so refreshing. I definitely sensed the self absorbed nature from watching multiple videos, so I’m glad to know my instincts were confirmed. Bro definitely needs to be more selfless in order to have a more true bond with another person or else it will be a vicious, empty cycle. Nothing will be real or lasting if it’s all about one person & not both. ❤

  • @CrashHoax

    @CrashHoax

    3 ай бұрын

    It's the right disposition to get more famous, just not more happy.

  • @tilda754

    @tilda754

    3 ай бұрын

    I really like derek but I agree it shines through and he should work on it. But like even in this video and the couples therapist one he is honest about what he is lacking so at least he is self aware😅

  • @myaanson
    @myaanson3 ай бұрын

    i looooved this conversation! i’ve watched the majority of these videos and this one has got to be my favorite because of the sheer vulnerability. it’s so beautiful to honestly see a conversation reflecting on a relationship that has passed with such honesty and clear communication! and you guys are hilarious together and although you shouldn’t be together, the chemistry was off the charts

  • @anselm1243127
    @anselm12431273 ай бұрын

    Man this episode slaps! The chemistry, the honesty, the insights... Also really funny. I think we would all greatly beneftit from having these types of conversations with our past romantic relationships. Keep it up Derek, this video will pave the way for so many healing conversations!! (Also LOOOVE the book choices. So on point!)

  • @jake5130
    @jake51303 ай бұрын

    she is literally so beautiful

  • @Phatal001

    @Phatal001

    3 ай бұрын

    She looks like violet starr

  • @woahhhh3kw

    @woahhhh3kw

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Phatal001what the fuck

  • @niftyp2320

    @niftyp2320

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Phatal001 This is outright degenerate

  • @lorenzopiscosi9566

    @lorenzopiscosi9566

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Phatal001touch the grass

  • @pineapples234

    @pineapples234

    3 ай бұрын

    bro @@Phatal001

  • @jesse-ys3gl
    @jesse-ys3gl3 ай бұрын

    this is one of the most painful things i’ve ever watched, liked and subscribed

  • @franyalberttorrealba4647
    @franyalberttorrealba46473 ай бұрын

    I like that you two are so confident talking about these difficult things, and the way that it seems like you have gotten over all this and just enjoy remembering those moments. Amazing. Thank you for sharing the experience with us.

  • @_renatachan
    @_renatachan3 ай бұрын

    Even having taken separate ways, I can see love and consideration in this relationship and made me happy to watch this conversation! It's so hard to talk about many of these things when you are dealing with a breakup, so having this "post mortem" type of discussion seems such a good way to learn from each other. Derek you also showed yourself more authentic and vulnerable, thanks for sharing

  • @blackglow7764
    @blackglow77643 ай бұрын

    bro spawned the unthinkable

  • @mortenrl1946

    @mortenrl1946

    3 ай бұрын

    forbidden content

  • @soniadiaz7424
    @soniadiaz74243 ай бұрын

    she seems so sweet i think she slightly resembles Björk so pretty

  • @iloveelliottsmith2821

    @iloveelliottsmith2821

    3 ай бұрын

    TRUEEEE

  • @chairmandiego

    @chairmandiego

    3 ай бұрын

    HONESTLY REAL 😭

  • @deadislander

    @deadislander

    3 ай бұрын

    yuuuppp BJÖRK

  • @zan6585
    @zan65853 ай бұрын

    I love how emotionally vulnerable and honest both of you are, it's really difficult to be that transparent about the way you view things and feel.

  • @ghostlyy8639
    @ghostlyy86393 ай бұрын

    The book choices 😭

  • @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach

    @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach

    3 ай бұрын

    Hola ;) By Chantal Heide

  • @kalynesfuneral
    @kalynesfuneral3 ай бұрын

    “the 1” by taylor swift is a BRUTAL song for yall to both feel about each other

  • @shay648

    @shay648

    3 ай бұрын

    Like fuckin OUCH 😭

  • @aeas09

    @aeas09

    3 ай бұрын

    Like fucking insane tbh. I could not handle that.

  • @aphrinth5433

    @aphrinth5433

    Ай бұрын

    i was looking for a comment like this bc "the 1" to describe it is CRAZY

  • @-AnweshaDas-
    @-AnweshaDas-3 ай бұрын

    This was so freaking raw. THANK YOU for making this

  • @annmichellesalas
    @annmichellesalas3 ай бұрын

    I love the placement of the books. Derek "How To Apologize". His Ex "No more A-holes" 😂😂

  • @beckwilde
    @beckwilde3 ай бұрын

    The self centered conversation was amazing self awareness on both ends, wow. LOVED this convo.

  • @MstDreamer
    @MstDreamer3 ай бұрын

    I love how the thumbnail implies it's going to be an angry episode but the video is actually one of the sweetest things I've seen in a very long time

  • @arthurdragihop
    @arthurdragihop3 ай бұрын

    They both are so mature to talk about everything like adults with honesty, it makes it so interesting to watch

  • @samorasenti
    @samorasenti3 ай бұрын

    This was such a pleasure to watch even with the small tinge of discomfort that came from reflecting on the past. Thanks you two for being so vulnerable. Also, she’s beautiful. 😍

  • @dee7519
    @dee75193 ай бұрын

    not the betterhelp sponsorship :(

  • @moonlightwaster

    @moonlightwaster

    3 ай бұрын

    bros gotta eat

  • @manolakios

    @manolakios

    3 ай бұрын

    fr.

  • @anoukk_

    @anoukk_

    3 ай бұрын

    probably still in a contract

  • @7sahez

    @7sahez

    3 ай бұрын

    How else u think he’s gonna put food on the table

  • @manolakios

    @manolakios

    3 ай бұрын

    @@7sahez another sponsor maybe? the harm this sponsor is gonna do to hundreds of viewers is NOT worth one person's "food"

  • @constanzanavarro821
    @constanzanavarro8213 ай бұрын

    As a person that has been dumped in truly awful ways I’m always excited to see exes that have a good relationship 😊

  • @x0myspace0x

    @x0myspace0x

    2 ай бұрын

    If you can talk like this with your ex then that means you did something right. To me a bad breakup means that there was always a hostile element in the relationship to begin with. This kind of communication shows that on an emotional level it was a good relationship, even if there were difficulties.

  • @ruthlessjones8220
    @ruthlessjones82203 ай бұрын

    This is such a brutal watch because it’s very raw. Hoping you guys are doing better.

  • @raquelkassandra8682
    @raquelkassandra86823 ай бұрын

    Can we appreciate the communication here ♥️ the fact that they can conversate and still have a friendship. Very mature, great job guys!

  • @irresistiblebowelsyndrome
    @irresistiblebowelsyndrome3 ай бұрын

    she is cool as hell and looks like an amazing friend

  • @kabakone7645
    @kabakone76453 ай бұрын

    show amazing but I'm starting to think he's the problem

  • @ThatLibraryShow

    @ThatLibraryShow

    3 ай бұрын

    i definitely am

  • @kabakone7645

    @kabakone7645

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ThatLibraryShow real

  • @theawsomestbanana1232

    @theawsomestbanana1232

    3 ай бұрын

    Girl starting 😂😂😂 he’s always been the red flag he’s just hot 🎉

  • @brettwoodcock7997

    @brettwoodcock7997

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ThatLibraryShowreal

  • @samantitaf6063

    @samantitaf6063

    3 ай бұрын

    💯. He’s the common denominator.

  • @jmeleej
    @jmeleej3 ай бұрын

    This was refreshing to hear two people have an elevated self aware conversation drenched in honesty. Not everyone is capable. You two are beyond your years❤ wish you both love & happiness

  • @nebula_Mage
    @nebula_Mage3 ай бұрын

    the emotional intensity of this conversation, this video was really very striking and it is beautiful to see the depth of their perspectives and how they deal with their own emotions

  • @josicawood721
    @josicawood7213 ай бұрын

    "do you think it´s fair to blame me for that" 🤣 that is the most self-centered gaslighting question i´ve ever heard

  • @Momaske

    @Momaske

    3 ай бұрын

    can you explain how it is? i thought it sounded like a reasonable question which invited self reflection from derek’s part

  • @nicov6383

    @nicov6383

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Momaskehonestly I agree, I feel like it was more trying to probe if she had actually thought it through fully than to shift the blame

  • @mobtime6021

    @mobtime6021

    3 ай бұрын

    On the surface sure but I don’t think he asked it in that type of way at all, just wants to know her thought process

  • @sugarbirb5145

    @sugarbirb5145

    3 ай бұрын

    ⁠@@nicov6383do you not hear yourself 😭 why would you probe whether she thought her answer out thoroughly if it isn’t in an effort to shift blame? The assumption that she didn’t think her answer out is in itself a shift of blame

  • @Spidr-Man

    @Spidr-Man

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Momaske Because that comment was probably written by a woman, which basically means, *everyone else is the problem, not me.*

  • @mela2448
    @mela24483 ай бұрын

    LETS GOOO ANOTHER LIBRARY SHOW VIDEO

  • @dominicbadal5680
    @dominicbadal56803 ай бұрын

    Bro this is probably gonna get lost in the sea of comments but. I recently broke up (6 months ago) with an ex who I thought was the love of my life, kids, marriage the whole shazam. And A part of me watching this made me hope that if we never do get back together that I can have a convo like this with her. But the biggest part, and dont take this the wrong way... It made me realize how much more she has healed and worked on herself than you have. And Seeing 2 sides of the coin in 1 video. It really does give as a viewer perspective , and I am already working on myself, but again hahah, not to shit on you or anything, its really cool you did this, but healing and working on yourself isnt easy, but its nessacary, and I realized that and I realize that even more now with this video. thanks for doing what you do man. It does help alot of people.

  • @yoru_sxe
    @yoru_sxe3 ай бұрын

    Broo this video was so good, it was so interesting to watch. I think it’s really cool how Derek just opens up about his flaws. You both sound so mature tbh

  • @yesno3016
    @yesno30163 ай бұрын

    this was so healing to watch

  • @brandonpost3448
    @brandonpost34483 ай бұрын

    This is my favorite interview. It was so honest and cute.

  • @WhatNameShouldiType
    @WhatNameShouldiType3 ай бұрын

    Can’t believe I watched the whole thing. I loved this episode and I realized that I have more healing to do. It’s so nice being able to see a more honest, representative picture to a relationship.

  • @iloveelliottsmith2821
    @iloveelliottsmith28213 ай бұрын

    what a mature and genuine interaction that reflected some of their qualms in their past relationships and I hope they find happiness in their future relationships

  • @lalalalalalalaalaa
    @lalalalalalalaalaa3 ай бұрын

    i had 'the 1' playing low in the bg while watching this after they said that was the song and damn vibes were vibin (i'm crying)

  • @podagee4
    @podagee43 ай бұрын

    I love how open you both are, so healthy😌

  • @andersonmoraes8177
    @andersonmoraes81773 ай бұрын

    I didn't know the existence of this show but thank you Derek I got addicted to it, your honesty and simplicity talking to the others is an example for me

  • @bjjuaro5712
    @bjjuaro57123 ай бұрын

    I appreciate how raw this video is. Enjoyed watching it and made me reflect on my own relationship and recognize places that I’m coming up short and what I can improve on.

  • @aishwarybhat5673
    @aishwarybhat56733 ай бұрын

    Watching this makes me wonder what my ex would be thinking of me and I wonder if she would be wondering what I think of her as well.

  • @philipshumway9943

    @philipshumway9943

    3 ай бұрын

    You should hit them up

  • @moody7788
    @moody77883 ай бұрын

    Watching hard conversations and taboo topics navigated well is so good, I wish everyone was capable of talking like this

  • @jennamills914
    @jennamills9142 ай бұрын

    Man I loved watching this. It reminded me a lot of the mature people in my life and I’m so grateful. You guys are lovely.

  • @TheBaddieBunny
    @TheBaddieBunny3 ай бұрын

    This is by far the best video I’ve watched in 2024 so far 💗 so raw and unfiltered

  • @alejandroayala1354
    @alejandroayala13543 ай бұрын

    First time watching, and honestly good episode. I like when people can be vulnerable and honest with a hint of accountability!

  • @marcy_933
    @marcy_9332 ай бұрын

    this is the first vid im seeing on this channel and i genuinely can only say that the communication style of this conversation is something i wish was a way WAY more common thing. direct, and vulnerable, but with a high level of maturity and understanding, as well as the acknowledgement that feelings about past situations and interactions arent an attack on the present character of a person. i LOVE this so much, notis on for the channel for sure.

  • @amritahanna4472
    @amritahanna44722 ай бұрын

    The clearance and understanding you bring to each other is touching my heart deeply. You both reveal each others weaknesses and yet they seem to be superficial, cause all that conversation is really about in every second is the willingness to be united and vibrate in the depths of it all. Here now, in love. Thats all that is. If you would take away the story of each other and the label of ex, it would be even more obvious. Only love left

  • @nanaminish
    @nanaminish3 ай бұрын

    I don’t know why, but watching them feels like watching an 80s film

  • @andrewferguson6901

    @andrewferguson6901

    3 ай бұрын

    It's the combination of dialogue and French accent

  • @monimoo5777

    @monimoo5777

    3 ай бұрын

    its giving breakfast club vibes

  • @BrinK-s

    @BrinK-s

    3 ай бұрын

    for me it felt like a very hot, humid sunday

  • @Fantasy_Subs
    @Fantasy_Subs3 ай бұрын

    the chemistry is immaculate bro, i loved it Derek :))

  • @ugurdogan1154
    @ugurdogan11543 ай бұрын

    dude this is pure gold

  • @lanadenina2242
    @lanadenina22423 ай бұрын

    beautiful conversation, i could relate a lot to what she said in the beginning of being so focused on how her partner felt and trying to be the best partner that she lost herself in the process.

  • @bouzz4840
    @bouzz48403 ай бұрын

    I think its so cool how you actually do a lot of self discovery by doing these episodes. You constantly get confronted with your past mistakes and analyse what you did/do wrong. Great opportunity to become a better person from this.

  • @doumigirouard2424
    @doumigirouard24243 ай бұрын

    OH SHE'S FROM QUEBEC!!!

  • @brandoboe

    @brandoboe

    3 ай бұрын

    I was thinking she was German or something.

  • @DasAlena

    @DasAlena

    3 ай бұрын

    @@brandoboesame

  • @noneyabizsnatch

    @noneyabizsnatch

    3 ай бұрын

    Gang gang

  • @kmercier123

    @kmercier123

    3 ай бұрын

    thats what i was gonna say i know a quebecois accent when i hear one 🫡

  • @laur7910

    @laur7910

    3 ай бұрын

    she literally spoke french in the video 😭

  • @foxylee88
    @foxylee883 ай бұрын

    Love that you two didn't work out but are still able to talk and laugh and assess the relationship my ex moved on maybe 3 days after we split and we were together almost 5 years lol all my exes can burn 😭 glad you two have that connection still it wasn't wasted time ❤️🙏

  • @wbsimps
    @wbsimps3 ай бұрын

    It's always the one that you could be so real and honest with that ends up not workoing out beacuse of some odd situation or personal life. Its so bittersweet because you always have good opinions of each other but its just never gonna happen again.

  • @linds1986
    @linds19863 ай бұрын

    My only complaint with these is that they're too short! Always goes by so fast and I want more!

  • @Vanktum
    @Vanktum3 ай бұрын

    holy shit dude. a reading break for a sponsorship... is genius, W gateway. and good stuff on getting sponsored! you're making it.

  • @TheVOYD16
    @TheVOYD163 ай бұрын

    Bro.... you fumbled. This girl is angelic I mean holy fucking hell my guy.

  • @Mboogy

    @Mboogy

    3 ай бұрын

    They both thought fondly of each other... neither of them fumbled one another, I think. They just weren't right for each other at that moment and that's how life played out for them... We both watched the same vid, right? In life, you'll often encounter someone you don't even realize COULD possible be your best match as a significant other (I'd use soulmate, but it holds a bit more weight and I don't think it's needed) , but the circumstances; ie time, place, situation, etc... can often change your perception of someone you find attractive... or something. Don't let appearances uplift someone to a place they themselves don't want to be put up, we're all just humans! We are all equal, I guess.

  • @dbradford259

    @dbradford259

    3 ай бұрын

    I was thinking the same thing.

  • @youssefhachicha-nj6wf

    @youssefhachicha-nj6wf

    3 ай бұрын

    101 simp here

  • @DefinitelyNotAutumn...

    @DefinitelyNotAutumn...

    3 ай бұрын

    Yall act like you know the whole story I'm crying😭

  • @Pardonmydust

    @Pardonmydust

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Mboogyyeah I agree with a lot of this. Right before the plandemic came around I had rose in love with someone that maybe body attraction wise I would not really pay so much mind to but her soul was something ethereal I could not resist. I saw her beauty right within her eyes. The covide era brought a lot upon relationship dynamics and just people in general which caused issues some never repaired. We really never know what we have/had until it is gone and the people that surprise us the most are the ones who end up being the one or the one that got away. May she await me in the next.

  • @alianag9190
    @alianag91903 ай бұрын

    they way they were communicating and describing their feelings but listening and being mature is omgg i love

  • @ifoundaim
    @ifoundaim3 ай бұрын

    this is my fist time viewing this channel's content. This is a really beautiful & vulnerable conversation, I feel privileged & thankful to be able to watch it.

  • @kyhxx

    @kyhxx

    Ай бұрын

    . etc likewise. prfct inno¢May convo in 2°24- open honest conv-

  • @berry2662
    @berry26623 ай бұрын

    LETS GO DEREK KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK AND I LOVE THE CONTENT

  • @WillyAd11
    @WillyAd113 ай бұрын

    Best episode, we want more !!

  • @rileypartington
    @rileypartington3 ай бұрын

    I loved this. I didn't want it to end. It's also been 3/4 years since my first and only relationship. I am still looking for closure and am hoping the conversation will go something like this. This definitely inspires me to seek that closure.

  • @Literallywhateverahhhhh
    @Literallywhateverahhhhh3 ай бұрын

    She's literally the one that got away because the wasn't at his best and this is so beautiful. The respect and tension that's still there while also both of them knowing they care about themselves and eachother too much to go there again is just *muah*

  • @seadevilfan
    @seadevilfan3 ай бұрын

    mhmmm so it wasnt just a coincidoink that we had a dating coach last episode

  • @HelloHello-uu2ze
    @HelloHello-uu2ze3 ай бұрын

    I usually hate how KZreadrs do ads but the way you did the better help ad was really good.

  • @grizzlygaming4592
    @grizzlygaming45923 ай бұрын

    Bro, just want to say this video is very powerful. thank you.

  • @mckamy4711
    @mckamy47113 ай бұрын

    I love how even after breaking up 3 years ago they're laughing together so much. Seems like a healthy breakup that shows you don't need to have any beef with your ex and they clearly are compatible even if that's platonically

  • @Safs67
    @Safs673 ай бұрын

    She’s so sweet omg 😭

  • @yourfavfairyhanna
    @yourfavfairyhanna3 ай бұрын

    the thumbnail/intro scared me but this was so refreshing to watch hahhahha

  • @RebDalpadado
    @RebDalpadado3 ай бұрын

    Best ad break. I actually watched it 😂

  • @reesestrawsburg
    @reesestrawsburg3 ай бұрын

    This was such a productive and honest conversation wow

  • @Clamp7777
    @Clamp77773 ай бұрын

    this one really tugged at the heart strings

  • @nope5657
    @nope56573 ай бұрын

    Bro fumbled a baddie.

  • @calius3578

    @calius3578

    3 ай бұрын

    She kind of seems like more of a goodie ;0

  • @BlackLightning47
    @BlackLightning473 ай бұрын

    At least he is aware of kinda how bad he was in the relationship. Self-awareness is important. She also recognizes how she wasn't herself in the relationship and enabled him. That's huge in personal development.

  • @Sandra-hy3wi
    @Sandra-hy3wi3 ай бұрын

    This really feels like a healing moment for her. I don't know for you.. but what a mature conversation to have. ❤

  • @hannahmeas7157
    @hannahmeas71573 ай бұрын

    this is so human u guys are both great