Approaching 8 months of no contact. Most of the time they never come back, let's not try to sugar coat things just to make us feel better. Just focus on working on yourself and look forward to meeting someone new.

7 months NC and going strong. Don't think I'd ever want her back 100% narc after all the therapy I've been through.

may 4, 2023 - its gonna be exactly 3 months since we last had contact and since he broke up with me. to be honest and im not ashamed to admit that i still miss him and hope that he would message me saying he wants me back. but i’m losing hope. i’m tired :(

@terris7842

2 ай бұрын

Sending empathy. It’s tough.

@archangelelmo

Ай бұрын

Update

I spent the last 7 months after my 6 1/2 year live-in relationship (ended by her), changing myself, working out, eating healthier, learning new things, meeting new people and seeing my therapist. Well, the result is impressive, another amazing lady came into my life recently just like that, and we have been having the greatest time together. The work I have done on myself has allowed me to realize that in my past relationship, I was mistreated. I was always being insulted, called names, she would pick fights with me, cheat on me... Yeah, no, I don't even want her back. But had I remained stagnant and not worked on personal growth, I would still be moping and missing my abusive ex. Now she is missing me, but it's too late, sorry, she should have thought about that while she still had me. Now she is alone and broke and living miserably. Funny how that works...

But why do some people who NEVER do the so called inner work still have good luck with their relationship?! I just can't shake the feeling like some people are just damn lucky with relationships, and life 😔 . I mean I'm not saying I am that unlucky with life (no way), but I really wanted to be married eith a family back whe I was younger.. and I HATE my ex because of the shattered dreans he didn't want to build with me! . Just frustrating sometimes you know?!

I'm in under 100 views. WOW! Been following your channel for 2 years and I believe I will have another chance with my ex because we had 2 relationships with each other. Love you two, and love Margaret too!

Sometimes It is best to keep It as It is. I used to think that my ex wouldn't want me back. I got my ex back and now we are breaking up again. I knew things couldn't be solved, but I decided to try It again. I've been unhappy for the last 6 months. Unless It's something minor and easy to manage, move on. People hadly ever change.

@matthewisthebest8152

3 ай бұрын

Listen to what your saying lol you assumed they didn’t want you back then also assumed you would break up! Your negative assumption on the whole matter is the reason why you can’t be together. You have to see your partner in a loving positive way how can anyone show up for you when you think the worse makes no sense!!!!! It’s a reflection of your insecurities about yourself simple as that I would go into self love really shifting the beliefs you hold about you! I am not worthy I am not chosen I am not enough. To I sm enough I love myself it’s all energy lol 😂 Your partner is only reflecting your insecurity back to you work on you loving you. Then you can have the relationship you want nobody to change but self.

@dc-13258

3 ай бұрын

Self-fulfilling prophecy. Limiting beliefs. In your own words: you didn’t BELIEVE your ex would want you back. You BELIEVED things just couldn’t be solved. Therefore your relationship ended again. But you seem to be putting it on your ex that “people never change”, but what about you? Did you not change either? My hunch is that you didn’t do the inner work on yourself during your time apart from your ex. Combined with your negative outlook on getting back together, the result speaks for itself. Self-reflection, working on yourself, positive outlook on life and taking accountability are key to any relationship and/or mending one. Best of luck to you in the future.

@bouhaddikarim4810

19 күн бұрын

Same here

Craig gave Victoria the light

Maybe the books kids read while growing up, (especially girls) about Prince Charming and happily ever after has some bearing on our psyche when it comes to relationships

Take your time. It's taken me two years, to get new job, start losing weight. Healing takes time. It's my sons mom, now I realized I deserved better

I think I made too many mistakes for my ex to ever want to come back.

I have a weird story for you all on no contact. I dated a gal (DA) last year that ended after 3 months. We only saw eachother every other week so there wasn't a tonne of time to connect. When she walked away she cited every DA excuse on the planet. I gave her the breakup, didn't beg didnt chase. Last November I started seeing another gal from a mutual friend who we fell head over heels for. It was amazing for 5 months then her BPD and issues came out. She walked away a month ago after blaming every excuse in the book. Well a week later the first gal messaged me and wanted to go out with me lol... no contact does work, she said she missed me, respected me for not chasing and thought of me often. She actually took the time to heal and work through her DA attachment. She's pursuing me now. In no contact with one ex and talking to another.... keep strong NC does work they do come back

@CeeP211

3 ай бұрын

Have you been doing any work on yourself during this time?

@ApostleThe344

3 ай бұрын

​@CeeP211 always! I have a great life, great job, family friends, I go to festivals, concerts, I love love my life. Her loss and the other one that came back saw my life and re thought her choice. My recent ex has a horrible life anything she does is a downgrade. She has so much work to do, a month later I don't think I want her back now. She fumbled her loss

So true, but not easy, easier to get depressed instead. I gained weight, the contrary of my best self, so getting back on track, gotta believe it is possible, if not one can stunt the personal growth.

Even though my relationship was only 6months long. It hurts like one of years. And thank you for your videos coaches, on these dark days you bring peace to my mind.

@ahmadelshbasy3222

Ай бұрын

How it’s going?

He will move to a different city in two months for work. I donot have any hope. I’m going to work on myself nevertheless.

It’ll be a few years. I don’t know. Just kinda numb by now.

Hiii you two!! ❤ you both look great this morning! x

@e.l.l.y.

3 ай бұрын

It’s afternoon here already (Europe).

@dabest444u

3 ай бұрын

@@e.l.l.y. oh cool! I live in the US…. Now it’s 12:40 here

My ex and I broke up after 3 years. She reached out after four months, and we got back together. After being together for another 7 months, we broke up again. I did the work at first, but didn’t keep at it. Just like Craig and Victoria say, if you don’t keep doing the work, you’ll go through another breakup. People can change if they want to. You have to believe in yourself and your attractiveness. But we can always level up.

@archangelelmo

Ай бұрын

Update

@douglasrichter5702

Ай бұрын

Still in no contact and working on myself. Been hitting the gym and doing the workbooks. Been about a month and a half.

My girl moved outta state for her job and after 2 years she told me she doesnt feel the same and that she loves it up there , she said she would come back after a year, obviously i know that its over and shes done but theres no chance of her changing her mind correct?

Hi Craig this break up of mine isn't your normal break up what if you and your ex from 7 years went into a temporary LDR and her mother dies during that time. And your ex after 3 weeks changes the way she see life and because of her father he made her leave me. This girl was crazy about me before but after all this grieving she believes she is happier being single she blames the country differences for the break up she thinks she will be better by herself can these types of break ups be saved. This happen in January i did a bit of begging but not an extreme outcomes. And it's been 7 weeks now with No Contact.

I’m trying to book a slot online with Victoria but can’t see anytimes available before booking? How can I do this so I know how long I’ll have to wait

Can you do a video about trashing your ex/stop looking at them through rose-tinted glasses to help with moving on? My ex was a DA and she had everything from mental problems to drinking issues to even sanitary issues. I thought about breaking up with her before but she beat me to it. I have an anxious attachment style and all I want is for her to reach out so that I can tell her that I moved on. I begged in the beginning and interrupted the relief stage but we been in no contact for little over 2 months now. For some reason I feel very protective of her but I know she is not the one for me. Thoughts?

@roberttruman8444

3 ай бұрын

I recognise your predicament mate.It sounds like your own insecurities are doing a couple of things that are detrimental to your wellbeing. 1. You're placing her on a pedestal and putting her above yourself. I've done this, it sucks. 2. Your ego is bruised. Self esteem was already struggling a little, thanks in part to your anxious attachment style which automatically sets you at a disadvantage when up against a DA. Your rational self can spot some genuinely unflattering aspects to your ex, and a more confident a reassured version of yourself may well have ended it sooner. But the fact that she ended it first can't help but make you now believe that you were wrong in the relationship and create a bias in your mind. But guess what? Dismissive Avoidant's can sometimes tell when their partner is thinking of ending it, or they just always expected that outcome and will often end a relationship early rather than risk being dumped. Thing is eveb if you had been the one to break up with her you would most likely not feel any better for it, in fact you'd probably find yourself riddled with guilt instead. You might be seeing her now as the one who got away which makes it harder to trash them. Trashing an ex usually indicates that you miss them and have regrets. You'll know when you've reached the point of complete indifference and acceptance of the breakup without anything other than respect and best wishes for your ex, because it'll probably be when you are in a relationship with someone else and feeling genuinely happy. Until then you something in your life that is bigger than her. Ideally that thing should be you. It's not easy at first but you have to keep going, and finding a purpose makes all the difference. It's those people commenting on these videos about how God fixed them and now they go bowling together. Pah! Unfortunately I don't believe in God, but for the people that do it's far easier to heal. Why? because they don't need to worry about the reasons for any breakup because they can sooth themselves by saying that it's all "Part of God's plan", and this can stop them taking any criticism as a major insult. Because in their mind God is the absolute greatest, no ex partner can ever top God. So this limits the pain of the impact and the duration of the pain and make it all much easier to accept aand move on from. If you can't find God, then you need to find you.

Been on NC for 3wks & he kept checking my stories frequently. Yesterday, his mom called to talk, told her I was going to call her back that I was busy. Not sure what to discuss with his mom

@archangelelmo

Ай бұрын

Update

@Korra939

Ай бұрын

@@archangelelmo Ofcourse, he reach out asking for a second chance after 5wks of No Contact but already got disconnected & didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore, I didn’t respond back & did blocked him

I feel like this too with my ex at times I tell myself he will never take me back because I made mistakes, I cheated on him with his cousin and one time he told me he wanted me but that I go with everybody, I felt like he views me as a hoodrat a hoe, I cheated when he left out of state then I find out by his co worker that he came back to Los Angeles, I saw him in February when I went shopping to his job, he works near my house now and he told me he is dating his co worker and Indian chick, he was sick one time and I brought him medicine at his job now I'm back to no contact, I'm latina, it's going to be almost a year we are apart, he left me in 2023, after him unfortunately i did sleep around

How can do a. no contact if we stil live together.She mentioned about divorce today and I told her when it’s time I will sign.

Focus on personal growth

So I get what you guys are saying. Can't possibly do one legged spins. But then you wake up one day and realize you're a karate brown belt and can do spinning crescent kicks while in mid air. Or that you can actually learn Japanese: Hiragana, Katakana, and Kanji. But ya gotta analyze your beliefs and see what holds water and what doesn't. If you flap your arms fast enough you're not going to fly no matter how much Confuscius says you can. ありがとうございます

My Ex cheated with baby momma but says he can’t let me go. He goes NC for 3 weeks and then comes back around and says he misses me but he can’t leave her. I try to move on and he still come back. Bby momma cheated on him with his friend and also while she had a new BF. Thoughts?

@ginger96963

28 күн бұрын

Why would you even consider or want this situation? You have a lot of work to do to love yourself so you know you deserve better.

3:46 Rip Margret

Isn't NLP just psuedo psychology? I see ads for 3 day courses which provide an 'accreditation" for people wanting to coach.

6:48

5 years No Contact but let's just say things are about to get interesting.... Lol

@bhello99

3 ай бұрын

why so? is he/she back ?

@meleciamegan

3 ай бұрын

Tell us 😂

Mine never came back, so these videos are copium.

99% of the times the will never come back, so you should make yourself a priority and move forward.

@user-uh9ut7uu9c

3 ай бұрын

99% is crazy by you

@user-uh9ut7uu9c

3 ай бұрын

99% is crazy by you

7:32 In our unconscious? Didn't you mean "subconscious?" Cause if we were unconscious we'd be in a coma.

@CoachCraigKenneth

3 ай бұрын

No I did not. Freud called it the unconscious.