Being an aupair is not easy... I'm so sorry you went through that 😢 I'm currently an aupair in Germany, but I'm South African...my host family became horrible and intolerable, they put me through hell for 2 weeks then i changed, now I'm with a new family in Berlin...i now have trust issues wen it comes to host families but i hope I'll have a great experience with them

I was married in South Africa was thrown out,I had no ticket no family,but God sent angels to get me an air ticket and am home starting again.. God has a way of taking care of his own..bless you

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you didn’t have a good experience in my country, but I’m glad you’re home safe with your family. God always find a way to protect us, and God bless to the Angels he sent to save you. God bless you and thank you for watching my video😊.

I was in the process of taking the opportunity in 2003, my soul said no. I had filled the forms with an agency in Cape Town, the thought of leaving my country became too much to bear. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

You're story telling is great, I lit literally waved goodbye when you said bye because you're so engaging

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊

Strength my sisi - standing up for yourself! Horrible manipulators will always take advantage of nice people who see them in trouble and try to help. Good job for standing up for yourself even when the consequences were dire.

I’m so sorry you went through this love. By the way, you’re stunning! And I love your voice & accent 😍

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊🙏🏾

@tangaicomrades4981

2 жыл бұрын

I tried to get a host family but still in vain😓😓😓😭

I am a Nigerian and constantly vacation in South Africa Honestly l wonder what South Africans are looking for in America. You have a beautiful country You just got yourself a new subie

@siphiwemkhonza9151

3 жыл бұрын

You only go to America for dollars

@zunaiandre2341

3 жыл бұрын

That experience

@pamelamakumbirofa8033

3 жыл бұрын

Exposure is very important

@yonaavraham9594

3 жыл бұрын

@@pamelamakumbirofa8033 A lot of Africans want to escape Africa and feel they deserve to be in the West.

@liveandlearn4762

3 жыл бұрын

So true if I was from SA I would stay in my native land, America is not all that but sadly Africans due to poverty they believe it’s the solution or the UK.

Thank you for you dedication and your openness in YOUR experience. Many blessings babe

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you babe and for your support❤️

@winniembabazi1966

2 жыл бұрын

hello i need am a au pair and i need a host family to take care am in dubai

@indefinitelyserge547

2 жыл бұрын

@@winniembabazi1966 you’ll have to look for a agency. We aren’t part of one she was just sharing her experience.

@winniembabazi1966

2 жыл бұрын

Can you help me with any agency please kindly

This video is so awesome girl! I'm glad I met you there ❤️💕

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

Mac P. Thank you girl, I’m also glad I met you and you’re one of the friends who were there for me during that time. I appreciate you! Thank you for watching❤️😊🤗

I’m an AuPair currently, second year with a different family, they are the best. Thinking about how nice they are and how they treat me makes me super emotional and super grateful . I’m sorry that your experience wasn’t great in Zulu we say mase kuzokhanya kuba munyama kakhulu which basically means that at the end of a tunnel there’s always light 💡. You seem happy and good which means you got to that light hun ❤️

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you sis😊❤️🙏🏾. I’m glad to hear that you are happy with your host family, the experience I had angiyfiseli muntu. That’s true, as hard as it was, it taught me a lot. I’m happy now and in a good space mentally.😊

@justinenakirya3407

3 жыл бұрын

I want also to work as A u pair any one to help me currently am working in dubai

@tsvakaishumba4781

3 жыл бұрын

Hie how did you travel to USA as Au pair are there agents who can help . Please if you can help me with how you did the procedure

@tsvakaishumba4781

3 жыл бұрын

Hie how did you go about the procedure to be an Au pair , are there agents who help please could you help me

@ibidapotoyin5566

3 жыл бұрын

@@justinenakirya3407 are you still interested in AU pair

The most depressing time of my life was when i was an Aupair. Living with strangers is hard and you hardly get alone time. I was so depressed and sad. I gained weight and was miserable.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

It’s really hard, I’m sorry you went through that. I lost so much weight😔

@GuidetteExpert

3 жыл бұрын

Did you check out your rights? You should have the right to get vacation days and see the country.

@pinkyfish6850

3 жыл бұрын

Feel you! I never been depressed before in my life but when I was au pair I was just so depressed.... 🥺

@ClaudiaKoniki

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate so hard .. 😣

@mdungethulile

3 жыл бұрын

Pick a number and joint the line... it sucked each and every moment of it.

Aww, I love your honesty. Much love ❤️

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

I hope it will help someone going through the same. Thank you for watching 😊

Never watched this one ..literally tear dropped 😔..I feel so sorry for everything you went thru💔♥️

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

I made it through, I’m strong now because of that experience ❤️.

hey new to your channel ,new subscriber .i'm currently an Au pair in massachusetts,boston from south africa,it feels so good to see south africans who were previous au pairs and to hear them share their experience and how they overcame .i'm loving your channel can't wait to see more content .

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Heyyy😃 welcome and thank you for subscribing. I hope you’re having a great experience, it also feels good to share and hoping it helps someone going through the same experience or someone who’s thinking of becoming an au pair. Thank you so much😊...more content coming and I hope you continue loving my channel ❤️.

@pearlyvalenciamlati

3 жыл бұрын

@@AfricanCalifornia so far I loving your channel and yesterday I slept late watching it .its very helpful for those who are Au pairs and future Au pair. Thank you for sharing your journey with us

@prettykhan

3 жыл бұрын

Can you pls share the link to join

@bouuaNdukii

2 жыл бұрын

@@prettykhan I really want to work as an au-pair how should I apply can u help me with steps

The music in the background😅 shows the effort♥️ Really sorry all that happened to you😪

Next time anything like that happen to you, take notes, write down dates and time such behaviors happen or record them harassing you and call the police. I wish I had you as an an Au Pair.

@gladysmoriku4326

3 жыл бұрын

I can be your au pair,its always been ,my dream

@raykamande696

2 жыл бұрын

Hello do you still need an aupair please

I’m so sorry you had such a negative experience in the USA. Thank you for sharing your story.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾

@kwalakwalaombito7967

2 жыл бұрын

@@AfricanCalifornia how can I get aupair plz I need help from you

I am from SA and was an Au Pair 20 years ago. Your experience seems like a story out of a horror movie compared to the experience I had. I doubt back then the agency would’ve even allowed you to stay with the family when the needs of the child changed. I was blessed to have had a support who was 100% for the Au Pair’s wellbeing. It was totally normal back then to have Au Pairs switching families 2 to 3 times until they find a perfect fit. I had a lovely Jewish family.

Your story really touched me. 🥺 I'm not even sure if I still wanna do this because wow

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching. I don’t want my video to scare you from doing au pair, it should be your guide and learn from it. Au pair experiences are not the same, I have friends who had an amazing experience and even after my own experience I would still recommend it to someone because from it I learned so much and it made me stronger as a person, I met amazing friends from different countries that had my back until the end. My advice to you, take your time to match with the family, when you get there enjoy the journey cos you might have a good experience, if it doesn’t work out it’s ok you have an option to rematch. If it doesn’t work out after rematch, it’s still ok because you gave your all and were brave enough to try.

Thank you so much for sharing your story I was an aupair myself And there’s nothing that can prepare anyone for the things that happen we just adjust but I commend you for your strength and doing what you needed to do to make sure that you were in the right place mentally and for your own well-being... and sharing your story so helpful ❤️❤️❤️

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊🙏🏾

Yah I stayed in a job in the middle east trying to be nice. Never again. Believe people when they show you who they are for the first time. Sometime God will be nudging you to leave, but you stay out of kindness of not loving yourself first.

You are loved and beautiful and be glad that you learn from the experience.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊🙏🏾

You’re so brave. I admire you.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊🙏🏾

So sorry you through the worse. I was an ua pair in 2021, I had an amazing family. I'm also from South Africa durban. I've been here over decade now. Sometimes pleasing others before yourself can put you at risk. You handled it with so much wisdom. Just know that I absolutely understand. I love you girl. All the way from North Carolina Charlotte

@AfricanCalifornia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊🙏🏾

I love how you say ‘situation’

What a touching😭 experience sister...thank u 4 sharing with us 💕

Man I’m so glad I had a good experience, thank goodness and sorry to hear how bad your experience was

I’m so sorry about your experience z☹️

Very interesting and useful experience you shared. I wish you the best in the world ❤

Sweetheart, I’m an American and my heart goes out to you. 💗

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊🙏🏾

@sarahnasri4098

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t blame you for prioritizing your mental health. Not everyone you work with will empathize with you or see how much you’re going through. I’ve gone through something similar, except in an academic setting. We both left for good reason. The future is replete with opportunity. You’re such a strong person!

Thank you for sharing. Hope you are okay now. God bless you 🙏 💫

I‘m so sorry that this had happened to you! My first host family lived in Chicago too. I left them after 3 weeks because they were just weird did inappropriate things and treated me like an employee. When I left the family I had a horrible time. After 3 weeks and many many horrible things they had done to make it as hard as possible for me to find a new family, I rematched and moved to a new host family in the Washington State. I can just say that they are the best thing that has ever happened to me! They call me their daughter and I know that they love me. I truly enjoy my experience here and I’m thankful every day for my miracle (that’s what like to call my 2nd host family). Especially since I also know how horrible being an au pair can be. I’m so sorry that you didn’t find your miracle in the US 💔

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

I’m glad to know that you rematched with the best family. Some families just don’t deserve to have au pairs. Crazy that after I left they were given another au pair that stayed with them few months and left, she reached out to me asking why I left the family. Things they were doing to me, they did it to her too. Me and that au pair didn’t even know each other to make this up.

@jacquelinegrayden4706

3 жыл бұрын

You were an employee

@odrunnkolltveit2773

3 жыл бұрын

@@jacquelinegrayden4706 She was probobly just a student, and not an aupear .

@michelliwelli9134

3 жыл бұрын

@@odrunnkolltveit2773 no, I still am an au pair

@michelliwelli9134

3 жыл бұрын

@@jacquelinegrayden4706 of course I work for them and they pay me. But other than many other au pairs I just work 12 hours a week. They pay for my riding lessons and call me their daughter. They tell me that they love me every night before I go to bed. So I am way more to them than an employee. They are truly my family and they tell me every single day that I will forever be theirs.

This made me so sad! So happy God was with you throughout that journey

Woah that's heKtiK. Yahweh is always with you❤🌻. 🇿🇦

Au Pair is the worst job in the world. I am glad you left.

@maryannedelaney

3 жыл бұрын

I’m glad you had a good experience and I am sure you are great with children, but Au Pairs often are mistreated or taken advantage of.

@engelabezuidenhout8610

3 жыл бұрын

I think there are good families who just need help due to their work schedules, but there are many who abuse their staff.

👏👏👏great Video,so sad what u hd to go through,my thought is they take advantage of pple aupair kindness...was aupair too n Germany n l went through tough times with my family too but thank God l was wise enough

deary, this video helps a lot. Currently in belgium feeling depressed especially in a time like this.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry to hear that, yes this time is really hard and I really hope you get better ❤️. I’m glad this video could help.

@laurakok6255

3 жыл бұрын

Hope you're feeling a bit better ❤

I’m so sorry this happened to you):

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾, it was not a good experience but now I’m glad to share it for someone going through it to be strong.

I am glad that you were strong and that you finally left. People can be so mean and make the most out of you when you are a nice person. I have been learning this the hard way especially after I left home and stayed by myself. I am still learning to be strong but I am so much better now. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I know that you are more than successful. Thank goodness you ran away from the misery. No one deserves that!

This is so sad 😢 so sorry you went through this...

@elizabethletsoso2558

3 жыл бұрын

Yes shame so sorry too babe ❤️

🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️😢😢😢😢 My goodness Thank God you came out of this stronger

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

I’m glad I went through that😢, as hard as it was it really made me strong🙏🏾.

Thank you for sharing your story. Glad you are okay, you are very beautiful btw.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊

"Please take time to get some mental help", just not those pills the doctor prescribed, or time off, or any sympathy from us. Yoh some of these families neh.

It is so shocking to realize how many young girls have gone through a similar experience. What you are told to expect there is far from the reality. Even when you've done the research its still not the same as when you get there. Don't be fooled by others, most of them have no choice but to stay there. @African California I'm so happy that you left and made it back home alive. You're strong and after that experience you will survive anything!

Just found your channel! Love it sisi. I'm so sorry this happened to you. How did you get back on your feet after the whole experience? Did you come back home to SA or?

As a au pair I did meet wonderful people,traveled and most of all I meant my husband but the experience I had with a family was hell would not want someone to go though it. Great vlog

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊, and thank you for sharing your experience with me. I’m happy to know that even though you didn’t have great experience with the family, you had a good time out of the program. Au pair is really not easy, I also always say I wouldn’t want anyone to experience what I went through. I’m sorry you had a crazy family, but we are strong now because of them.

@siphesihlemncube5316

3 жыл бұрын

How did you find love in America?

@sandiedamps

3 жыл бұрын

Can you help me with a reliable website or link to applying to become an au pair. Its good to know you had a good experience. Not all experiences are the same for everyone.

I was also an Au Pair and went into rematch. I have to agree that at the end of the day the agencies aren't that concerned about the au pairs. Sometimes it felt like we were just cheap labour. But I had many friends who had host families who just treated them like cheap labour and it was all about the families taking advantage. I still think au pairing was the best experience I could have done for myself. I learnt so much about myself, but its not as whimsical as the agents make it seem when you first apply.

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

I agree, when you apply they promise to protect you and you gonna have this amazing experience, you’ll feel like part of the family but that’s not how families treats us. I was feeling the same way too, cheap labour. The only thing we can appreciate is how it changes us and we learn a lot about ourselves. When I started, I was shy and couldn’t stand up for myself but I came out strong and now I can speak up if I’m not happy about something.

@lailayakiti1201

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry which agency did you use? I also want to try

@laurencottle3966

3 жыл бұрын

@@lailayakiti1201 I used cultural care

@laurencottle3966

3 жыл бұрын

@@AfricanCalifornia I completely agree

@prettykhan

3 жыл бұрын

What agency did you use pls share

Omg sorry you had to go through that , i had an au pair from the saint Vincent honestly she was not my au pair she became more like my sister the bond was strong, fortunately she could only stay for 3 years as she wanted to train to be a teacher which i will continue to fully support when ever she decides to come back to the uk she always has a home and a family that continue to love her. I get scared to get another au pair i case she is opposite to what i have experienced .Glad you got out of there babe

@marionkantengwa4824

2 жыл бұрын

Please get me...i applied but still waiting.

@ntandowetu3733

2 жыл бұрын

@@marionkantengwa4824 where abouts are you my dear

@marionkantengwa4824

2 жыл бұрын

@@ntandowetu3733 ...in Uganda

@ntandowetu3733

2 жыл бұрын

@@marionkantengwa4824 oh ok how can I get in contact with you

@metrinekanaiza6266

2 жыл бұрын

I'm interested too , if you don't mind

Sorry about your experience. Many years back I wanted to do aupair but I didn't get placement. That must have been a blessing in disguise

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾

Was an au pair in back in 2013 but I’ve come such a long way, god has carried me through a lot.

200 hundred a week with a special child? That special child needed a trained nurse or a home health care provider.

@teresayeates3437

3 жыл бұрын

And both were medical professionals.

@teresiawachira1034

3 жыл бұрын

@@teresayeates3437 I don't understand. They k ow better.

@teresayeates3437

3 жыл бұрын

@@teresiawachira1034 You would think so. And that they would pay better.

Hello, Your video just popped up on my KZread, I used to be an Au Pair and now I’m a CC working for an AuPair Agency. I’m truly sorry what you went through and how your CC and Agency handled the whole situation! I would have done the same thing! You stayed longer than the family deserved it! I hope they got kicked out of the program!!

@faustinaaniwe2662

2 жыл бұрын

Hello

@essietapewa9044

2 жыл бұрын

Hello how can i reach you kindly

@rachealray4465

2 жыл бұрын

Hello how can i register plz

@viivienhorvath8078

2 жыл бұрын

@@essietapewa9044 hello. Sure, you could just email me. viivihirvela@gmail.com

I would never do it again. I am from Northern Ireland. And did one year . It was awful. But I met my husband .

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Me too, I would never do it again. I’m sorry you went through that.

@icebox9339

3 жыл бұрын

Audrey lucky you! Sometimes bad times produce great results. Love it.

@sylviaj270

3 жыл бұрын

Something good came out of it.

Sorry for that experience, so sad💔

Omg what a horrible experience..i hope you feel better since you left

The host dad had a lot of nerve considering the way he treated you!

Love u nd just subscribed ❤💔 what a bad experience,I wanted to be an aupair overseas a long time ago eish what a bad experience

I'm happy things are good with you now wishing you many blessings

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾

You were right not to wait the two weeks. They can not force you to stay anywhere. Hope you learned to put yourself first. You should have let them know from the get go that you weren't comfortable taking care of the child that now had special needs. The family thought of themselves and tried to find another caretaker behind your back. You have a good heart , but some people don't deserve your generosity.

am so sorry for your experience, but we learn in life, but you really look beautiful.

hurdy my girl thanks for sharing be strong

$200 a week to care for twins and a 12 year old 😲. I paid my nanny a lot more 20 years ago, a lot and I am not rich but it is not fair to exploit others.

@indefinitelyserge547

2 жыл бұрын

That program is beyond abusive in how they gain cheap labor

@nomfundosangweni2866

2 жыл бұрын

Especially people working well both

@raykamande696

2 жыл бұрын

Hello and would you need one now or you're occupied

@hoptrinh5753

2 жыл бұрын

The pay is not high but in return there are opportunities open for au pairs. It also depends a lot on the host family to have great journey or not. But mostly, it’s also your attitude and your way of life too.

@indefinitelyserge547

2 жыл бұрын

@@hoptrinh5753 where I agree with this if you hear her story and knew my wife you’d understand the situation was very toxic and degrading to her

As an employee you were entitled your time off. Your agency should have notified you of your employee benefits before you left your home country. What the host dad was horrible but please remember this situation with men of the household is not limited to employee it also happens to female visitor and family members. The host dad action was criminal and against the laws of the USA.

Her skin 😍😍😍... You are so pretty

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊🙏🏾

I was also an aupair in California San Francisco at first and rematched with a family in Newark a neighbouring town there, my experience was the hardest thing that I have done in my entire life it was not at all what they advertised it to be yoh guys BUT I'm so grateful for the journey and experience it really trained me for life I came back a different person than I was in a positive way I'm so glad I did this while I was still young and single with no children I needed it alot and you see that in the end of the journey, ngoba ngempela ukuthi wenzan that was big and out of your comfort zone and you learnt from, there were good days bad days and really bad days I also learnt that money and fine things dont equal happiness but I'm so glad I did it so glad...

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾that’s true! You appreciate the experience in the end, as hard as it is but we grow a lot from it.

@queenfelb4500

3 жыл бұрын

Nonhle its Fel from Cleveland

@nonhlezama5476

3 жыл бұрын

@@queenfelb4500 Hawu kodwa sthandwa sam😊😊😊😊❤❤❤ how have you been sis wamiiii?

@queenfelb4500

3 жыл бұрын

@@nonhlezama5476 I'm good and you?

@queenfelb4500

3 жыл бұрын

@@nonhlezama5476 ❤️❤️❤️OMG sis wami it's been too long I'm shookth 🤞🏽🤞🏽

Omg your skinnnnnn....is so beautiful. Can I borrow it lol....👍

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

😂thank you, i wish it was that easy.

@jeaninepetty4923

3 жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing

Me and you both babe I experienced the same thing it’s really hard being an aupair I went through 2 families in one year . I have to pay for my ticket rn leaving in a week or so , the pay isn’t that good we are really sold dreams .

My God your Accent is so soothing.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊❤️, this comment means a lot to me and motivation to continue doing more videos because I usually get negative comments about my accent.

@siphiwemkhonza9151

3 жыл бұрын

@@AfricanCalifornia You Proudly An African what dialect do they want...... Some ppl are psycho's

@milktoastandhoney8646

3 жыл бұрын

@@AfricanCalifornia I love your accent. 😀

@unathimfazwe5834

3 жыл бұрын

Please don’t use God’s name in vain 🥺

@miaa.4086

3 жыл бұрын

So true! Absolutely lovely accent and as well as a warm demeanor. You'd be perfect a Asmr Artist or making audiobooks. I'll bet you are a wonderful singer. 😊 Thank you for sharing your experience. Your video is very informative and thoughtful. How I wish I could've taken care of by someone like you, I was left with whoever she found and I was badly abused. I'm quite old now but the damage and mental anguish is still very fresh. 🥀🥀

I also went without a goodbye. The family I lived with was from California, I had just moved fro Washington state because of the weather and decided to go to a two weeks annual camp meeting. While at the camp meeting I met a family that I shared my situation of wanting to get a job and settle down. They were trying to sign up their aunt for Medicaid so she could pay her caregiver. I waited the time they had given but nothing happened and I could not be paid if she hadn’t been approved. I called the social service (inhome supportive services)since I had my provider no and their aunts case no and I was told they couldn’t approve her. I had stayed there for like 5 months no money but a roof under my head I used to buy my food. I dint feel right since my life was at pose not working and not in school but just taking care of their aunty “as we I wait for her approval by the government Medicaid” I decided to just live and look for work, I walked in at the Salvation Army lancaster and the fact that it was Christmas season they were hiring the bell ringers (kettle donations) the people who stand outside stores in Christmas outfits wishing everyone a merry Christmas rigging the bell 🛎. I shared my living situation to the Salvation Army managers and they found a need to host me till I get enough money to rent a place even thought they aren’t allowed to since the houses they live are company houses. Still while ringing the bell a sweet lady approached me after she detected my accent she asked if I was in school I told her I dropped my schooling and I was trying to enroll to a new school since I was still new. She told me she was and ELS teacher in the neighboring city. I also shared that I dint have somewhere to stay since my Salvation Army host are never allowed to host people but had decided to give me a roof. She offered to take me the college she worked, offered to help me look for work and stay with them till I get on my feet. In short I don’t wana waste more time since the family I live with kept telling me that their aunts social worker told them that she was getting approved soon!

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story, I’m sorry you went through that. You did what was best for you, 5 months was too long not having an income. You’re strong and God bless those who were able to help you.🙏🏾

Can relate. to everything, you are saying. You are right, choose to leave and don't stay cos you feel guilty and you want to help. You will regret it. Also got a similar email like yours and an American girl I met gave me a room to stay. Would've slept in the streets if it wasn't for her

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you also went through this experience. But we learn hey, I hope you’re doing well now.

Ive been an au pair many years ago. Europe was great. I wanted to go to the US but many girla had such a terrible experience with their host family. Even the agency which placed me was very reluctant to place ladies in the USA. Europe is a great place to be an au pair.

@pilscilamaina9744

3 жыл бұрын

Please how can I apply

@moniquedefranca5759

3 жыл бұрын

@@pilscilamaina9744 you do this through an agency. You will find a few on the net. Get your passport ready. Hope you get a great host family.

@antokerubo2542

2 жыл бұрын

Hello i have a passport how can i apply am from Kenya

YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL SIS

Mama please do asmr, your voice helps me sleep 🥺❤️

Nice story I understand you very well. Your very strong my dear. God is your everything not people

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊🙏🏾

God knows how deep this slaps... I can relate

I am a single mother of twins in Atlanta seriously considering getting an au pair. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. They seemed not to care about you. I definitely do would not want my au pair to walk away feeling like the way you did. What advice would you give a potential host?

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊. Au pair is a really great program if both host and au pair has good intentions. From the point of an au pair I’d say that being in a different country with people you don’t know really well is not easy. So making your au pair comfortable and feeling like the part of the family is important. The first month is usually not easy on Au pairs. So my advice is that while you’re doing interviews, be open and be honest when au pairs ask questions, Could be about your expectations. Understanding that au pair is a cultural exchange program is really important, so on days when your au pair is off allow her to explore and make friends. If au pairs feel cared for and a part of the family, everything will flow naturally. Take your time doing the interviews cos not all au pairs are good too. If you’re not sure about someone, possibly it’s not going to work. Communication is key, make your au pair feel safe to come talk to you about anything. That helps so you know if there’s something going on or if they are not happy about something. If you’re not happy about something too, voice it out right away.

@kairetugekenerikahakiemma4937

3 жыл бұрын

@Therez Rollins Hi Mom, I'm a Kenyan I'd love to be an au pair incase you need one

@hopedavid1556

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Therez,kindly tell me how one applies for an au pair job,looking forward to apply,have been a nanny for 6 years.

I’ve been an Au Pair 3 times, my first time I got a horrible family, with a control freak for a host mom. The second family was amazing, and my third family, due to Covid, I’m extending my time with them because they are amazing. However, I cannot wait until I can have my own space, I dislike living in the home, I always feel like.it’s not mine you know no matter how welcoming they are, it’s like an awkward feeling 😂

@lania7823

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you!!!! How was your experience with rematching with new host families? I think I need to start looking for a new family and am wondering how long it took you to find your second family!

@hoptrinh5753

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate. It will never be your home. Hope that you had the most out of your journey

I think the best way is to expose the family. Make them well known and what kind of heartless people they are.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

It’s ok, I’m happy now I’ll just let life deal with them.

@LostToAdventure

3 жыл бұрын

@@AfricanCalifornia No...for someone else ....to warn someone who wants to be an Au pair

I’m sorry you’ve had this experience. I’m an African American born, raised, and still living in Chicago. My husband and I have had the privilege and pleasure to visit South Africa six times in the last 10 years, and we have friends in SA that have become family. We would have loved to be of support to you. Stay strong, Sisi.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you sisi. I’m happy to hear that you and your husband enjoyed your visits in South Africa😊.

As much as I wanted to join Au pair but I think not anymore. Thank you sis.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

People’s experiences are different, I didn’t share to discourage anyone😊. You can still do it, but just know your experience might be good or bad. I have friends who had the best host families that even helped me when mine wasn’t good to me.

@deontladi1515

3 жыл бұрын

Was the money good enough to buy a car in two months?

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

@@deontladi1515 you get paid $200 a week, so it wouldn’t be a brand new car.

I'm about to host an au pair from SA also. I'm so sorry this was your experience here 🥺.

@lungelwasigqala6409

2 жыл бұрын

Hi mam! South Africans are used to this kind of job especial us african, problem is being this far away from and having no shoulder to cry on when you are sad and frustrated, we understand employers are not always up to chatting with you, its all about understanding each other since we came from different backgrounds! This ill treating happens every where, even religious ppl, politicians, etc, i think its all about power and the entitlement!

So much for people with history of being shipped and enslaved to the US...wow this host dad is so insensitive...so much oppression... Some people need to be taught how to be nice...

@luvingg

3 жыл бұрын

Weird comment.

@francisjaffier2977

3 жыл бұрын

Extremely weird!

Good job Thando keep it up

@AfricanCalifornia

4 жыл бұрын

Aphiwe South Africa Mngwengwe thank you baby girl😘

I feel bad for you. But thank you for sharing your video. Take care always

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you but I came out strong😊. I had to share, for someone else going through it or someone thinking of becoming an au pair. God bless you.

good thing you left that host family of yours....goodluck for finding a job....am sure you can find....God will provide and protect you....God bless

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Amen🙏🏾

I was a mother's help many years ago I'm 60 now was 17 at the time I live in Wales and went to London the children were lovely and thier father but the mother was so horrible

I remember i almost traveled to the U.K as an aupair when i was 18years old. It didn't work out and two years later i traveled to the U.S. instead.

Ooh God and am waiting for a feed back am on the process waiting for confirmation 😭😭😭 am even worried now

@AfricanCalifornia

2 жыл бұрын

I pray it works out, don’t be worried😊. This wasn’t to scare people, my friends had the best experience!

I'm so sorry this happened to you abroad. I'm an Aupair here in Durban Zimbali. Wonderful family and they are paying me handsomely.

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

That’s great, I didn’t know there’s au pair in South Africa.

@mvelomkhabela2192

3 жыл бұрын

hello nozipho. which agent did you use for an Aupair in durban ?

@noziphomkhize7077

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Mvelo. AUPAIR SA its an online agency. My friend used LITTLE SUNSHINE offices in La Lucia you pay them about R200 but it's legit. You can also search online in terms of how much per hour and the requirements. Good luck ❤

@lailayakiti1201

3 жыл бұрын

@@noziphomkhize7077 thanks

@nyanpasu4813

3 жыл бұрын

@@noziphomkhize7077 hey may I ask how much you get paid per week?

very similar story I went through. Super depressed and everything -just staying on my bed and crying. Hostdad and hostmom super akward on the end. I kinda feel it happens to 70% of most of the au pairs

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you also went through the similar experience, but I’m sure it taught you a lot about yourself and people. You are strong you made it through💗.

You beautiful girl ! Never lower your status by accepting such people

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊. Never again!

Some people can be exceedingly cruel! I have worked as a part time carer in the UK and I had my fare share of batsht crazy locals and a few very decent, upstanding ones. Most of the time however they were increasingly demanding and unappreciative of the hard work so I eventually left to focus on my full time job. Some were racist or classist or fully accepted me ...but overall I am glad to have had the experiences that helped shaped my life here.

Heyy, I just saw your video. I'm also from south Africa and I was a pair in Germany, in 2016 and I after decided to stay here. Four years later, I'm still here

@lailayakiti1201

3 жыл бұрын

Hi dear which agency did you use?

@ashantilucia8541

3 жыл бұрын

@@lailayakiti1201 i used tact in action agency in Durban

Hi, your experience is very helpful to me and to everyone who experienced or is experiencing what you experienced before. I am currently wanting to leave my family without saying good bye, or telling them. I am from the Philippines but I am scared they are going to report me and I will not get a European visa or come back to Europe again. What can you advice me to do?

Sthandiwe so by the time you left the family. Did you come back home for proper healing and went back or you continued to stay with friends until you were healed?.. I'm sorry you had to go through such hard phase 🤗🤗

@indefinitelyserge547

2 жыл бұрын

She stood state side we recently went home to SA check out her recent video

How are you going to have someone take care of 3 kids, one special needs all week and weekends and pay them 200 dollars. Do they know how much day carecost

@lydian5762

3 жыл бұрын

That is how much it cost???? Damn, maybe I should get an Au pair and pay them better

I was a Aupair in Spain . I had a terrible experience . Can’t believe it’s been a year since I left Spain . My the host mom had a bad drinking problem & the host dad was awesome . But it was too much too handle & the kids were cussing a lot to be 7 & 10 years old . I left right away back to the United States 😐🚫 lol 🤣

I just decided to go to UK for 10 months as an Au pair but this video made me little nervous 😅❤

@AfricanCalifornia

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t be nervous, I hope everything goes well for you❤️.

@xXurbansweetnessXx

3 жыл бұрын

I've known people who had great experiences as an au pair

okay i have a question. is there anything that they can actually do, in your type of situation, if you just get fed up with them and decide to leave? can they actually prevent you from getting a visa back into the country again?

Can l genuinely ask, did you take those antidepressants in the end as l have something to reveal to you