story 2: as someone who was an 11 year old with self ending thoughts and actions: i didnt mope or outwardly seem depressed. I enjoyed doing things and was usually smiling. I didnt show warning signs and the fact they are ignoring this blatant self harming behavor is insane

@lindah3803

3 ай бұрын

The parents aren't going to pay attention or do anything until the girl does something that impacts their reputation at work or in the community. They've been given a heads up. Are choosing to ignore it. This is so much more than other parents get. People always like to get on the speel that the parents should have known. There had to be blaring signs. Good parents miss the signs all of the time. Those signs are so subtle, so insignificant. They are that way because it is intentional. Considering/attempting suicide is a very personal matter. It belongs to that person. It doesn't matter that You think that person has everything to live for. Or You believe that it is a sin. They are going against God. Personally I find this absolutely ridiculous as a "reason". If someone is totally set on committing, they will do it. Eventually they will find a method that is successful. With this story, intervention Now may work. May help her come to terms with her feelings. Might even give her a new direction. I say May and Might because therapy and medication doesn't always work. They aren't the magical cure for all. If someone you know does commit. Yes, you will be sad,confused, thinking what a waste. Try to come to the understanding that now, that person is at peace. They're good now.

@Maninawig

3 ай бұрын

There is a reason the most common saying at a self-ending is "they are the last people I ever thought would do that"

Story 2: I'm really, REALLY hoping this is fake or even exaggerated because it's DISTURBING. It feels like the 11 yo may be being sexually abused, and she's certainly being neglected by her parents. They are ignoring what is clearly problematic and even dangerous behavior. She needs help DESPERATELY! OP may think calling CPS is too drastic, but it appears to the drastic resort may be her ONLY resort.

Story 2: She’s 11??? What the hell?!

@erickaennis2738

3 ай бұрын

Kids these days are wild. They are kind off scary, to be honest. If ever there was a case for therapy, this is it. IP therapy. That and a lot of praying because at this point, it may not take. May be too late.

@erickaennis2738

3 ай бұрын

Story 1, that sh*t was just nasty. No they cannot come back. Let the parents keep the SIL at their house. Props to OP for making her husband clean up his family's nasty mess. The hell he means, why should he clean it up, though. The SHEER audacity. Go NC OP. His family is toxic AF. This one is a doozy.

@erickaennis2738

3 ай бұрын

Dollars to doughnuts Jane found out she's the affair baby. She was probably not treated all that great either by the mom. I mean, she is a reminder of her husband's betrayal. Yeah, Jane is pretty much doomed. Poor kid. BUT....That doesn't excuse her bad behavior.

@DeadlinePhil

3 ай бұрын

don´t be suprised my mother is a teacher for 5th up to 10th grade here in Germany and the thing´s that she tells me about what so happens in that school especially in the lower grade´s are just wild.

Similar happened with my sister. She was 13. Found out after the police came. Told her that if she does it again, she wont have a brother anymore. Also if she endangers our smaller siblings in any way shape or form ever again, she wont have a healthy bone in her body. Ill make sure of that. Also publicly humiliated her. Now she tries to behave somewhat. I see that she is still a narcissistic liar, but knows that if i get mad again, i wint stall my hand.

Jane needs therapy. She’s putting her whole family in danger. I would’ve only left her with old cell phone without apps, and the names of the people she can call ,she would be grounded and most definitely going to therapy even if it’s against her will.

s2: these parents piss me off. The way the dad said that his coworkers talk about how their daughters "act depress" and literally self harm. Even if they're doing it just because, thats not right. No normal human being hurts themselves just because they're a preteen. Listen, my parents didn't believe in mental health either. But even they wouldn't have read that note and thought that it was normal behavior. This is abusive and neglectful on the parent's part, whether or not op doesn't see it that way. Although, I'm also on the stance to never label someone victim if they don't consider themselves a victim. That little girl needs help. I was a little kid on the internet and saw shit I should've have and talked to people who hurt others. Shes barely in middle school, I was still playing with dolls at 11 or playing minecraft on my phone. I know that 11 year olds are growing up too fast these days, but this is dangerous. I'm scared for her and how she allows others to access her.

@papaquesito

3 ай бұрын

when I say "allows", i dont mean she asks for any harm. Shes a child. I just mean that she is a *child*, and doesn't understand that some people can harm her online.

For second story, OP said her parents grew up in a small town, I’m assuming the literal words were pueblo chiquito. For anyone that hasn’t been in a Latino country this can mean town, but it can also mean village something which they barely care to clarify. Given how the parents don’t have a care in the world about mental health I’d say it’s most likely the ladder.

@brighterphantom4530

3 ай бұрын

Access to personal devices might say otherwise.

Story 1: pretty sure adulterate doesn't mean acting as an adult.

Wasn't it Frank Zapper, and the mothers of invention that came out with the lyrics, "She's only thirteen, but she knows how to 'nasty' " ? Well, it seems that this one 'knew how to nasty' as well.

Jane needs help. She is only 11 years old and she’s doing all this crap stealing lying being inappropriate with sexual things. This is a big deal. Most 11 year olds do not act this way.

First story they were guidelines, and they didn’t follow them. She can throw her own bloody tampon away. She’s at someone else’s house, have some manners and courtesy.

Janes Dad, thank you for being an adult and doing something about this.

Story 1 NTa they’re disgusting and love how you reversed and said shes the one who seems jealous of you. Story 2 ESH you need to contact CPS as you and Jane will never forgive yourselves or your parents if something happens, either self harm or kidnapping. Also your parents are evil she needs help as most of what she’s doing are screams for he,p and attention, and quite frankly it seems as if your mum is happy she’s miserable does she actually resent your dad and affair child for having to raise her.

Mental health is real🤦‍♀️

If they had clean up after themselves like normal guest and not leave gross stuff for OP in her husband they’d still be there. I’m glad the husband is telling his family. They’re in the wrong. Sometimes family is not good for you. You took them and once And they ruined that

@LunaP1

3 ай бұрын

Their actions were intentional. SiL made it her mission to wreck OP’s house out of some one-sided rivalry.

I’m sorry…adulterated?

Hold up wait a min story isnt selling stuff that isnt yours illegal like get that it on there proberty but im pretty surr they can its theres if they have the recites

@LunaP1

3 ай бұрын

Not unless it’s to legally pay for damages by force (selling their items as compensation).