This talk is actually really desperately needed. The level of scandal and detraction that is actually going on out there is insane. Thanks Fr Ripperger. Thanks Steve.

@KateKing217

11 ай бұрын

Amen ♥️🙏🏾🇨🇦🇺🇸

Father had an actual DROP THE MIC moment for me when he said that few Catholics live the faith and continue a life of habitual sin and as a result, they cannot expect that Priest, bishops and the Pope to be men of outstanding character because it’s not the leaders that they deserve!!!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏. BRAVO Father. Once again You hit it out if the Park. 😂😂😂. I soooooo needed this. Thank you as always. 🥰. Steve, you just gut punched with this one!!

This is such an important and underrated topic, so many young teens and even adults have taken their own lives as a result of detraction. It’s a serious problem especially in the age of social media. It’s a very pernicious sin. Depending on the degree of detraction or calumny, it can even feel like a slow and painful death.

@sam12587

Ай бұрын

Yep. My sibling (golden child) has been doing it to me since grade school with it getting worse & worse with age. Only spoken/been around the sibling 6 or 7 times since 1996 and they still speak to folks like they see me, are over at my home regularly. The lies have cost me lots, more then I can type here because people think I’m a junkie they shouldn’t associate with :(

Detraction St. Thomas - Summa - sometimes translated as 'backbiting' However, detraction is saying something that is true in order to harm someone's good name or reputation. It is different from calumny which involves saying something false to the same end. Murmuring - talking behind someone's back to destroy someone's reputation Contumacious - saying something that harms someone's good name to their face. Directly or Indirectly 4 Direct Ways: 1. Saying that which is false about him. 2. Stating his sin to be greater than it is. 3. Revealing something unknown about him. 4. Ascribing his good deeds to a bad intention. Indirectly: 1. Speaking against his good. 2. Maliciously concealing a good of him. 3. Diminishing the good of someone. Is it a grave matter to detract? Grave to blacken someone's good name. Restitution - if this was the case, you should strive to make restitution. However, it may be venial if: 1. Done from a light motive Not detraction to reveal a hidden sin so that a brother may amend his life. Sometimes, you can do this in a group setting for the good of public justice (charity in mind). Keeping someone from an evil situation. No right to ruin someone's name given the past acts they have since amended. Things that hinge on one's good name: 1. Reputation 2. Business affairs ruined 3. Charity Should we listen to people who detract? If a person is detracting and we listen without resisting it, we participate in their sin. Careful not to induce others to detract, gossip or probing through our questioning. What happens if we are detracted against? If you're good, remember it might be a test from God for you to grow in patience. "If they persecuted me, they will persecute you" At times, we should defend ourselves. Other times, just grow in virtue. Does that mean that every time we say a true thing that harms a reputation is a detraction? Conditions for it NOT to be a detraction: 1. What we say has to be just (neither greatly nor lower) and proportionate. 2. Detachment from saying bad things about others (it should pain us). Constant detraction against priests, bishops, and the pope. Lack of certitude about things these people have said due to news media - ALWAYS go to the source video/transcript or refrain from commenting at all. We get the leaders we deserve. Straighten your behavior first, instead of going around detracting. (Take the plank out of your own eye...) When to do it: 1. Only do it for the good of the person you're talking about (fraternal correction) 2. For the good of someone that might fall for the trap/snares of this person. When not: To feel smug or superior (malice) Government involvement in our lives is extreme. And it's the vast majority of the news. Stop paying attention to them. Start reading more (Scripture, Catechism, Organon, Ethics, Saints lives, etc.) Always avoid taking delight when revealing info. Necessary: when someone unjustly has a good name that can be used to cause great harm. Counsels: - Should be infrequent. - Check the appetites (do not habituate to delight in evil - malice) - Avoid constant negativity, focus primarily on God - *Charity above all*

@beefstew4698

11 ай бұрын

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@WhiteChocolate74

11 ай бұрын

Govt involvement in our lives is extreme. Corporate influence is worse

@silpapaul1925

11 ай бұрын

Thank you

@Dee-ur9zq

11 ай бұрын

Thankyou so much for the summary!

@emilyc.8109

11 ай бұрын

Thank you very much 🙏🏻

Thank you Father. I desperately needed to hear this. It's a sin I struggle with.

Very much needed. Detraction in social media has turned very common, with the excuse of "defending" truth and faith.

@rickseaton

11 ай бұрын

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@rickseaton

11 ай бұрын

😅 10:43 10:54 10:59

@rickseaton

11 ай бұрын

😅😅😊😅

@rickseaton

11 ай бұрын

😅😊😊😊😊😊😊 13:57 😊😊

@jackieo8693

11 ай бұрын

Yup!

Love Fr. Rip! ❤ Let's all keep him in our prayers please 🙏🛡

From Québec happy to listen to you Father, such real truth! Thanks for leading us all to sanctity! Louise ocv

This is a great video, I think it is a sin that all of us has fallen into. Thank you Fr.

Make sure to comment on the videos to make them more popular and reach more people! 🇻🇦✝️🇻🇦

@iiitrifle9895

11 ай бұрын

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@elijahn3725

11 ай бұрын

DEUS VULT

@sebastianofmilan

11 ай бұрын

For the algorithm

Awesome teaching, needed to be said. Im reminded that when I point the finger at someone I have three pointing back at me.

What a sermon 😳 love ❤️ from Liverpool England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

Thank you Fr. Ripperger for a much needed information these days. Deo Gratias!!! 🕊💒🙏

God bless you father ripperger

One of the most common sins. This is why silence is golden.

Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil; May God rebuke him, we humbly pray; And do thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host, by the power of God, cast into hell Satan and all evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.

love to hear it

Ive only ever corrected one person in Mass… she was sitting in front of me and my children playing a game on her phone during the Homily. I felt bad but I checked in w Fr afterwards and he said it was correct and also an act of Charity..

Excellent talk, as per usual! Thank you, Father, and Steve. Full disclosure, this is one final (but not the only) area I have had to depress, in my life. I use this as a joke, but it’s true, I come from Italian and Greek background, mainly, so I’ve been battling spaghetti and revenge my entire life. Thankfully, it is dissipating, and where I need to take proper steps, if talking to the person doesn’t work, I look for legal ways of amending the issue - and to whatever length this may be necessary, no more and no less. I still have to keep my tongue in check, so regular confession helps, immensely. In terms of those in authority, I have one rule. If they can cheat and lie to their spouses and family, they have no qualms about doing the same to others. Doesn’t deserve my vote, full stop.

Love of God means youlove your neighbor means you protect your neighbor from evil, in all instances. Which means the apostacy going from the top to the bottom of the Catholic Church.

What about if everyone is just freaking awful and their behaviors drives one insane so you can't live peacefully without venting about it? That's the current state of pretty much everyone witnessing this chaos.

Please pray for the miracle healing of my Heart teeth gums eyes ears stomach lungs and all the organs and parts of my body mind spirit 🙏

@Nicole-uq2ul

11 ай бұрын

Covering you in prayers 🙏

Thank you, Fr. Ripperger. Currently struggling with this at work.

I see Fr ripperger, I click. Learned more from him than the last 54 years.🔥🩵🕊️🙏🕯️🕯️✝️✝️✝️

Thank you Fr 🙏🏽🇻🇦

Very convicting. Very helpful. Thank you, Father Ripperger.

I needed to hear this...God is so gentle in dealing with our faults. I'm listening Lord. Help me...i don't want to hurt you.❤

We Trads love our priests

I have a person who daily destroys my reputation on purpose. She told me it's for my lifetime. I'm doing my best to live a good Christian life. All of its done behind my back.

@levrai944

11 ай бұрын

I’m truly sorry to hear that. I’ve gone through this myself, to make a very long story short… Me and my gf went through a rough patch last year, (I had my fair share of mistakes in the situation). She went and created an entire Instagram account with the sole purpose of destroying and ruining my reputation. She posted very damaging content on this account, and proceeded to follow the majority of my friends, family, acquaintances and people who work in my industry. In order to seek revenge. It was very humiliating and painful to endure. Eventually had to get the police involved to stop it. I haven’t fully gotten over it or healed from it. So I understand how painful it can truly be.

@Funsoul8

11 ай бұрын

Tell her off. Get mad!! Don’t just allow her to continue. Tell everyone she spread lies to about you that you heard she has real mental problems..

@melmckenna4599

11 ай бұрын

Pray for those who persecute you, do not render evil for evil but do good to those who hate you

A much needed talk, thank you, Fr Ripperger. A technical problem, however, is that the YT audience never hears questions from your live audience as clearly as you do. Please can you repeat the gist of a question before launching into the answer. This applies to every lecture of yours I’ve heard

Thank you.

Tis a very excellent and needed explanation . Thank you Father

Thanks for this topic Father. God Bless!

Thank you Fr. Ripperger. I pray for you and thank God for sending you.

Clear and concise. Thanks for posting!

Great talk, I learned so much and what I am guilty of

Great information. This comes at a time I needed it most. Thank you.

Great lecture

Social media and phones have multiplied this sin exponentially. It’s so easy to rashly write your basest thoughts and hit send without really thinking. Phones in the hands of kids and teens is especially bad, but now the immaturity and lack of self-control has extended into adulthood. I don’t own an internet cell phone, or use any social media. This is the farthest I go, an occasional comment on KZread and I use email with close friends and family. Nonetheless, I nearly lost my job because of one person’s false conclusion regarding something I said in a private conversation with another person at a conference. The lady overheard a phrase I spoke, assumed the worst, made it into an entire work of fiction, and proceeded to spread it all over via Facebook. After six months, it made its way to my supervisor, who, instead of asking me, went to her supervisor, then to the department head, and from there, to the head of the regional chapter. Only then was I informed via “a confrontation,” in which I was demanded to defend myself. I had no idea what the man was talking about because the original conversation was of no consequence, small talk by the coffee urn between conference speakers. I was hounded by this for three years before I was able, with the help of some computer savvy friends, to contact the woman with whom I had the original conversation. In the meantime, the woman who spread the fiction had quit and moved away. I missed out on four potential promotions with corresponding pay raises and in-service training. The department head knew the original woman, so I was able to partially clear up the matter at work, but many still had their suspicions. I remained socially excluded for the remaining five years I worked there. The story spread outside my workplace to similar workplaces and to people in my chapel, because it concerned a moral matter.

@fiiorella

11 ай бұрын

I'm really sorry that you've gone through all of that 😔 I'm sort of in a similar situation at work, there's a lot of gossip in the workplace and I've had someone spread some negative, exaggerated things about me, which has damaged my relationship with my other colleagues. That person's left the company as well (and this was our HR too) but I'm still feeling the effects of the damage that was caused. I'm glad to be listening to this video and reading the comments, I'm happy and sad at the same time to know I'm not the only one who's gone through this.

Thank you, Fr. Ripperger

Yay. A Fr. Ripperger homily 🙏

Thank you Fr

Thank you, Father. 🙏

SENSUS FIDELIUM !👍💪🙏⛪

Thanks!

Thank you so much 🙏

Thank you. 🙂

That was very helpful Thank you :)

Thank you Fr. This is such a great sermon with wonderful examples.

Good talk

thank you

great information to know! thank you, fr.

Thank you so much for this information, especially the real life examples

It’s very difficult to protect yourself against a liar. There’s more than the spoken word involved also.

I was wondering as I listened about situations where people feel the need for emotional support after being abused or badly treated, in that situation it isn't necessary for the other person to know what someone did, but the speaker can receive counsel and find peace through talking about what happened. Would that be sinful?

This is a great topic basically it says think before you speak because your words can be deadly and I know I’m guilty of this so it’s a good reminder as Jesus taught us and it’s all through the Bible the evil of a loose tongue can cause a roaring fire

Thank you Father 🙏🏻🕊

Only speak to others about their faults if it will benefit them spiritually. John McHatton

@barbdwyer5759

11 ай бұрын

That’s one thing but talking lies behind someone’s back is very wrong.

Detraction in modern parlance is that cancelling?

They talk about “The Christian Name” in the Catechism under Thou Shalt Not Take The Lord’s Name in Vain. In our worship of God, we don’t want to have the ruin of someone else’s name on our conscience unless their character is not good.

@mariekatherine5238

11 ай бұрын

And even if someone’s character isn’t good, is it your place to reveal it?

Dear Fr. Ripperger, How would you differentiate it (detraction) from Prudence? For example, in our neighborhood are prostitutes who passed themselves off as Decent person. So, one who does not know them are preyed upon. When you warn your friends about them or tell them not to be part of their group...isn' that being prudent? Out of concern for your friends , you must warn them for the danger they could be facing if they continue to seek the company of these women who hide their deceitful agenda. Thank you Fr. Ripperger! GOD BLESS! AVE MARIA!

If an employee is stealing goods from a company then a coworker reporting him commits no sin. If a man is running around on his wife, at some point the wife needs to be informed, if the husband refuses to leave off. But if I tell the husband's neighbour who has no business knowing, then it's detraction. If a pastor is abusing a child, then he must be reported. Yes, we have a right to privacy and our good name, but it's not an absolute right, it can lost by our immoral behaviour or grave necessity. If a truck driver is drinking on the job, he forfeits his right to a good name, and needs to be reported. When an potential employer checks out a candidate's references, previous employers are fully justified in discussing their faults.

@mariekatherine5238

11 ай бұрын

Yes, but when it’s not true and you can’t find another job that pays a survival wage? I had a woman at work derail my professional, social, and church life. I have been unable to clear my good name and was forced to retire as I am disabled, can’t do low-pay work and denied SSD.

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Do you think the sexual abuse scandal especially considering the lavender aspect of it , was facilitated because of the hierarchy fear they were detracting by addressing it more directly vs indirectly or avoiding it , especially if they thought they were overall protecting the reputation of the church.

This is great, but it’s also unclear on how it relates to the sin of Omission….

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I see KZread was listening to my convos yesterday 😅

What if it's to protect from abuse so others know as a cry for help or if something happens they know.

So, if I ask "is the pope catholic?", and use his words, and actions, as a basis for my serious question, is that detraction?

lawyers are good on this to influence a jury/the judge and win a case

But what about warnings about an individual who presents himself as honest but actually takes advantage of others?

@kattanism

11 ай бұрын

I have the same question. This video is unclear to me.

@kattanism

11 ай бұрын

Are we supposed to sit back and knowingly let others get hurt by that person?

@JohnCenaFan6298

11 ай бұрын

That's a Prudential judgement. I would talk to your priest if its hard to answer

Yeah... I don't ever expect the Seminary nor Diocese to ever admit Detraction.

Im a convert a little over 3 years now, been going to an TLM apostolate over 2 now, and ive seen first hand the negative fault finding and pessimistic outlook with long time traditionalists, former sedevecantists. Its a quite a bad habit

@therealfragmental

11 ай бұрын

If someone is willing to murder with their tongue the hierarchy of the mystical body of Christ, you are not too far off

@carolynkimberly4021

11 ай бұрын

Well we Trads know Catholic theology and rightly call out hierarchy that teach the contrary.

@therealfragmental

11 ай бұрын

@@carolynkimberly4021 yeah you should recognize and resist. But I'm talking about excess, and beyond excess

What if they don't know and will never know the person you're talking about ?

@contemplatingchrist

11 ай бұрын

If it is necessary, true, and beneficial to share the story to someone else (note what Fr Ripperger says in the video for reasons, for counsel), then don't use any identifiers location, work, name, age. Keep it vague 3rd person "they" instead he, she, etc, an acquaintance, etc with no way for the person to connect the dots of who or where this person might be.

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What if I have a difficult colleague and she hurts others by commnts or behaviors? I find myself either laughing at her or talking about what she's up to? My boss won't correct her, am I at fault for "venting " with others?

@lisalapoint7022

11 ай бұрын

The problem with venting is that it gives pleasure, and so becomes a bad habit. I confess to detraction, although when I vent, I am merely stating facts. It is a difficult habit to break when this venting is listing factual injustice. Years ago I worked in a place that was fraught with people who deliberately sought to hurt others with words and actions, and I would vent about it to my closest colleagues in private. It became something that I looked forward to doing because it was a release. Not good. Had I prayed for those people every time instead of venting, it would have been better. I was just as mired in that toxic culture by detracting.

@contemplatingchrist

11 ай бұрын

If you need to vent / process emotions, first talk to GOD or spouse or councilor or journal. People who vent excessively, daily or weekly, might have a victim-mentality, overly sensitive, unable to process events with wisdom. It's super draining to be around frequent "venters" since its a negative convo. If you're venting because you're physically in danger or abused, get out of the situation and help. If you're venting because someone does something irritating, then defer to fr ripperger's points.

@Nicole-uq2ul

11 ай бұрын

@@lisalapoint7022 I confessed and the priest told me that it wasn't a sin and that it's good to let go of negative feelings. He asked me several details about the situation so don't jump to conclusions about him not being traditional enough. He basically said that I have a terrible boss, but yes, I should pray for everyone involved. I did feel strange about it not being a sin, that's why I threw this out there. Blessings

@lisalapoint7022

11 ай бұрын

@Nicole-uq2ul The supernatural grace that comes from absolution is worth the confession regardless. It gives you grace to be more charitable and to withstand temptation to the more sinful actions related to detracting and gossip in future. If I were you, I would continue to confess it.

@drhumupower8570

11 ай бұрын

Are you venting with coworkers who know and interact with the person? Or are you interacting with friends and family? If you are talking to coworkers, it's probably more of a problem. If you are at a distance from from work and need support and to decompress, it's different, you aren't really at risk of harming the person if you have some degree separation. It's not the best, but it's not particularly grave. Regardless, you should pray for the person.

Think before you say anything! Does it pass through these three filters from Socrates: 'Is it TRUE, is it KIND, or is it NECESSARY?'

Words are like bullets they can hurt and destroy people. De traction is a mortal sin? Fr Ripperger, the most educated priest on the doctrines of the Catholic church.

Soooo.. hypothetically, telling the truth about the Pope's performance as being outside the Faith, with the intention of warning others about the problem in order to protect their souls and without commenting directly about the state of the Pope's soul, would be an admirable and faithful act, would it not? And likewise, not calling out such heresy would be wrong especially for our Bishops and Cardinals?

Damn it. I thought keeping silent was the good thing to do. Ought i just abruptly leave?

What about priests ,bishops that are destroying the catholic faith! What about the laity that are their victims. Including the popes?????????

@Funsoul8

11 ай бұрын

Everyone is speaking about how awful this Pope is. Also certain priests and bishops who have spoken against things, have been let go ie..Fr Altman, and others,because they are too truthful about what is happening to the Catholic church today.

@dianneraimondi8382

11 ай бұрын

@@Funsoul8 Condemning errors within this catastrophic situation in. the catholic church is an act of charity.

@melmckenna4599

11 ай бұрын

It is the duty of the priests good bishops to warn the faithful so that is not detraction to teach against heresy

This is so legalisticly complicated.

Praying for the "traditional" Catholics who say horrible things about Pope John Paul II and Mother Teresa.

What is the use of keeping quiet when this Pope is purposely attempting to destroy the Church from within?

@melmckenna4599

11 ай бұрын

The clergy do not detract when they are speaking against errors and warning the faithful

Boy, They really need to send apologies to Trump for all the lies they have told about him..🎉 Trump 2024 🎉🎉

So it’s settled, conservative detractors must hold back on talking falsely if their own church and pope. It’s a grave sin.

@carolynkimberly4021

11 ай бұрын

But for justice sake orthodox Catholics must call out the malicious errors of a corrupt papacy

@Mrpargmatic

11 ай бұрын

@@carolynkimberly4021 Do we work within a fallen society, hoping to transform it, or do we make the audacious claim that one has found solace in righteousness? What sounds more realistic and who is blinded by pride?

@carolynkimberly4021

11 ай бұрын

@@Mrpargmatic Bergoglio

Father Ripperger, please stop going on “Doctor” Marshall’s show. He bad mouthes the Pope for a living. Thank you

@dianneraimondi8382

11 ай бұрын

He should bad mouth a diabolical individual that has no right being in the Petrine chair.