Some people are arrogant and feel entitled. They need to know their place.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

K.A. Wippel love your comment! Thanks for sharing 🙌🏽

@ordemeprogresso727

9 ай бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley That must be so exhausted for people who are freeloader, that they can never maintain a honourable or sustain in a relationship. I can't imagen how they are doing in daily life, it must sucks being them!

I have almost broke the bank treating others I'm over it!

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Marty's House good! It’s okay to bless others but you must bless yourself too! Thanks for watching and commenting I truly appreciate you riding with me in the beginning. 💃🏽

This is EXACTLY how I have learned to do it. Give the waiter the card in ADVANCE and let them know to bill me for my stuff. It eliminates a lot of drama.

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Hon ey yasssssss! Drama free and no more mooching. Appreciate you for watching and commenting! 🙌🏽

Oh yes, girl. Happened to me once...note I said ONCE. The second time, left the cards at home and had limited cash. Girl, people were fighting at the table and calling out folks for backup cash...but it wasn't me!!!!

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

TheMabes69 🤣 thanks for sharing and making me laugh aloud for real. “Calling out folks!” It be a whole scene girl. 🤦🏽‍♀️ thankfully it only happened to you once. The limited cash was a smart move and great tip too 🙌🏽 appreciate ya!

@kristidrehnig4313

Жыл бұрын

Nice. Smart.

You don’t have to buy friendship. I love ❤️ it.

@MissCharlotteBurley

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching, appreciate you.

“You don’t have to buy friendship.” Wonderful! Thanks, I have a mooched friend coming to town today and suggested dinner…🙄

@MissCharlotteBurley

Жыл бұрын

You can treat but don’t be mistreated! Thanks for watching and commenting I appreciate you. Don’t forget you can pick the place for dinner too 😉

@leataylor9277

3 ай бұрын

Don’t forget to not pay for her either.

Haha! That’s awesome advice how you gave the waitress your card and made sure you only got charged for your own food and drinks. Great way to protect yourself from getting taken advantage of. I’m going to do this!

@MissCharlotteBurley

2 жыл бұрын

That’s good! Always protect yourself 🙌🏽

Great video. Makes you wonder how people can repeatedly attempt to get others to pay for their good time..without being ashamed. You sound like a very classy lady. Cheers!

@MissCharlotteBurley

2 жыл бұрын

Cheers! Your comment made my day. I appreciate you for watching and I pray your kindness is never taken for granted. Enjoy the weekend 🤗

I am no longer a victim. I'm not buying friends and family. Lesson learned.

@MissCharlotteBurley

Жыл бұрын

Amen! Thanks for watching and sharing. Appreciate you 🙌🏽

man i wish i could’ve had this advice back than. Thank you for sharing your story, how dare people feel that they’re your kids and you need to be spending on them like they don’t have money themselves and if they didn’t than WHY GO OUT MR/MS BROKE

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Kevin Diaz lol exactly. Well the great thing is now you know. Hopefully you haven’t lost much money due to this issue. Also check out some of the comments below. Great tips shared by others. Please know that your comment made my day! Appreciate you 🙌🏽

God I've made it clear to my friend indirectly and directly but she still keeps doing it.

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Khattak so sorry you are dealing with this. Try telling the waiter upfront in front of her “please make two checks one for me and one for her.” That should be real clear. If she says “I don’t have any money.” then say “waiter never mind we’re leaving.” Enough is enough! 🤨 Also you can change up the outings. No more paid entertainment with her. Go for nature walks tell her to bring water. Girl! Ain’t nobody got time to be used no more. 😂 thanks for watching and commenting I so appreciate you for that. 🙌🏽

@khattak9376

5 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley Thank you for your advice, I appreciate it.

thats why i stopped going out to concerts or on birthday.They all give sob story and want me to pay everything down to the cake.

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Kathleen Bradley let them tell their sobs stories right to your hand 🖐🏽 lol. No more and not today! Thanks for watching and commenting. Sending you positive vibes 🙌🏽

I had to stop that shit and once I did (started covering my own shit), a lot of so-called friends stopped asking to go places with them and that was more than ok with me. I got sick of covering down for other folks, especially those who are always trying to get over.

@bubbay.1610

Жыл бұрын

Those SAY IT= FREELOADERS.

Great video Charlotte. This video was fire truth about Moochers and Users so called friends for money. Love the example when you went to the restaurant with your friends and they stuck you with bill. Charlotte I love the way you took control of the situation and paid your part of the bill they were on their own. This will be a classic.

Timeless, Priceless Advice!!!! I wish that someone had told me this many moons ago. Money has cost me life long “friends” and family members. However, my mind, money and morals are all still intact!!! As for them-most are still being money predators looking for whoever will!!!! ‘NO’ is a Powerful Word!!!! Sending You Much Love, More Peace and Many Blessings!!!!!

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Patricia King thank you Queen I appreciate you for the kind words and for watching. I share because I care and just like you... I wish somebody would have told me too. That’s why I’m telling now lol in hopes to save the next before they lose their money to moochers.

Your energy and advice on this matter is perfect!! Thank you! After many tough lessons, and toxic people, I learned this the hard way but everyone needs to take this advice!!! 👍🏻🙏🏻

@MissCharlotteBurley

3 жыл бұрын

Your comment made my night. I'm glad you're not being taken advantage of any more. Thanks for watching I appreciate you more than you'll ever know.

I have learned to bring cash! Then nothing can happen to your card.

I have a friend who is always asking me for money. She has three kids with three different deadbeat dads who refuse to get jobs to help her out. She is on disability due to health issues and such. Naturally her disability does not pay much so she is always short on cash. She always wants to borrow around $100.00 and promises she will pay it back. Well l have never gotten paid back ever. When l remind her that she owes me money, she gets an attitude with me and says she won't pay it back. So l stopped helping her. She can mooch off of someone else.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

VideoFanatic02 exactly! Your kindness was taken for granted and for weakness but trust that you were blessed. When you give wholeheartedly the blessing returns to you from another source. There’s nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. Thanks for sharing as you never know who may need to read your story. It could be a wake up call for the next. Stay blessed 🤗

@VideoFanatic02

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I got tired of being her bank. She saw me as nothing but a bank for her to borrow from. She took total advantage of me and I don't have much money myself. She started doing it when her youngest kid was a toddler. She never did this before then. In fact for years she worked two jobs to make ends meet since, like I said, the father's of her kids would not pay any child support at all. However since she got disabled and stopped working, she has been bugging me for money. One time she asked me for $40.00 and I reluctantly gave it to her. Then the following week, she asked me for $60.00. I said no way, no how. And if we went out to places with her kids, she wanted me to pay their way too.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

VideoFanatic02 🤦🏽‍♀️oooweee!

Well said. It is a shame that so many waitresses get bogged down in the middle of their shifts having to split up checks bc it's cone to this. I've been at a table where one person has g9ne through mental gymnastics, diversion tactics, creative math. and impromptu theatrics to avoid just making a reasonable gesture to get out of paying any or a reasonable share of a restaurant bill. Like pretending their Venmo account was locking them out, just bc they are cheap yet always want to be the girl with the shrimp cocktail. Beyond how annoying this is to the people they're out with, and embarrassing, waitresses are usually very busy and work very hard and their time is valuable. I'm glad you said to take the waitresses aside and tell her up front that you want the check separated.

@MissCharlotteBurley

Жыл бұрын

OMG thanks for adding the waitstaff’s point of view. Great point! “Mental gymnastics” 🤣 I can’t love your comment enough. It’s always that ONE opportunist messing it up for everybody else. Appreciate you for sharing 🙌🏽

Love the advice. When I was a shotcalling lawyer it gave me pleasure to pay the bill, but I noticed the same thing. What I did, because I actually really hate ackwardness concerning money, is started hosting dinner parties at my house. For the cost of maybe two expensive meals and drinks, I paid a private chef to cook for me and my friends and ordered lots of wine or a specialty drink. No bill at the end. Unfortunately I live in NYC now and no home or big dining space to do this...but I'll be back!

@Launicanumba1

3 жыл бұрын

But you’re basically doing the same thing though just in a different way. Either way it’s still costing you money to eat with your friends.

Ur such a wise woman ... I love u so much

My best friend of twenty years recently opened his home and his wallet to this 25 year old guy down on his luck. This is the first time he's loaned such a large amount of money to anyone. I'm going to call him a kid because that's how he's acting. This kid has made no attempt to pay the rent agreed upon nor attempted to pay a dime on the loan. Recently he has blatantly been showing total lack of respect for the rules, my friends home and vehicle and totally shows lack of gratitude and acknowledgement for everything my friend has done for him. I've been asked not to say anything to the kid but it's hard not to because seeing what it's doing to my best friend. How do people like this live with themselves and not feel any shame, regret or guilt for what they've done? Is there any hope they'll ever change?

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Ty! First let me say this... you are a great friend! I can feel how much you care in your writing. Your best friend is lucky to have you. To answer your question, yes, there is always hope and there is always learning experiences. This is one of those times where both your best friend and the 25 year old will learn a life lesson from this moment. We all make mistakes in life and the 25 year old is making a huge one with your best friend. The reason your best friend may be asking you to keep quiet is he may understand just how badly the 25 year old has it. Ty, take comfort in knowing that your best friend will be blessed ten times over for his act of kindness. Good always win over bad... sometimes it don't feel like it... but it does. I hope you had a great Thanksgiving and please know that I appreciate you for watching and commenting. xoxo C

@angelamwatts

5 жыл бұрын

I am certain that your friend is already seeing this. This guy who is mooching off of your friend sounds like a parasitic mooch and trust me, there's probably a very good reason why the "mooch" is down on his luck. I could sum it up in one word "laziness" or "slacker." Good people try to help themselves and they keep their fininacial problems to themselves.

Great video, Im having this situation, and I've thought about your solution or hanging out less with this person. Thank you for your perspective.

@MissCharlotteBurley

6 жыл бұрын

Edgain trust me I know it’s hard not to be nice but too many take kindness for weakness and will use you up in a New York Minute! Wing them off and use that extra money on yourself or a loved one worthy of your $$. Thanks for watching I’ll be back with more advice soon!

Took my friends to my million dollar condo on the beach and we went out and bought alcohol. Everywhere we went it’s was torture because he’s so cheap, I paid for almost everything except alcohol. And then a week later he asks me to Venmo him for the alc! Wtf bro

@Kane-qf8dn

2 жыл бұрын

Wasn’t even having much fun because we had to go to McDonald’s to eat. And when we did go to the restaurants he would leave hungry

@MissCharlotteBurley

2 жыл бұрын

You would have been better off with a vacation for one! Good thing is now you know who NOT to invite. 😉 Thanks for sharing appreciate you.

Sister, You were TAKEN, SEPARATE CHECKS. DONE DEAL. Live and Learn. By the way, they know. GAME OVER.

Number 1 rule is don't hang out with ppl , who have no purpose or direction in life. The ppl who aren't actively pursuing careers but always out on town at the weekend do this shit

@MissCharlotteBurley

Жыл бұрын

You better preach! Appreciate your comment. 🙌🏽

@RC-fe9py

7 ай бұрын

Unmarriageble females all have no meaningful purpose in their lives so they are right where they belong.

When I moved away from my hometown I cut some of my friends off because I was reflecting on when we did go out I was always paying and looking out for them so but when it came to me the never did the same.

@MissCharlotteBurley

Жыл бұрын

Real friends don’t use & abuse you. Thanks for sharing 🙌🏽

Yeah man I'm dealing with some moochers rn. Like everytime we go out they expect me to pay they way for everything like wtf

@MissCharlotteBurley

3 жыл бұрын

I hope my hindsight helps your foresight. Don’t be a victim and you don’t have to pay for friendship.

This was helpful. Hell im not financially stable but I had truck driver homeboy that constantly stayed at my house and evaded bills...he also always had an excuse when I came time to pay me or pay his own way. I had to just all together cut him off because no matter how many times I talked to him about the issue...he never came through

@MissCharlotteBurley

6 жыл бұрын

David, good for you! God places people in our lives for a reason and or a season. Take comfort in the fact that you were able to help him when you could but also that you have enough self love not to be taken for granted either. As Martin would say "You Go Boy!" Thanks for watching! I appreciate you!

Luv your makeup 😊!

I ain’t going out with them people no more!

@MissCharlotteBurley

19 күн бұрын

@@mstarr67 🤣 okay!

When they steal from me they go to jail by me calling the cops. I watch my statements closely. I use passwords as well.

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Aimee Seek whoa you don’t play! 😳 if you do the crime... be ready to do some time cause Aimee calling the cops! Thanks for commenting because I’m sure somebody just got a real warning. Don’t do it! I appreciate you for watching too 🙌🏽 have a great weekend.

Ouch! Never had it happen but I always bring cash or ask for separate checks.

@MissCharlotteBurley

Жыл бұрын

You’re lucky and I hope you never have to experience it. 💃🏽

Nine times out of 10 when you're with a big group at a restaurant for example there's always some goofball or goofballs that don't have money and they look at you bail them out I learned that the hard way I went on a cruise with my ex-boyfriend and his family including his mother my ex-boyfriend and his mother hardly had money who goes on a cruise without money his mother was a big-time freeloader never paid for anything when we got to Saint Thomas they looked at me to pay for the Excursion I fix both of them I told them that's their son brother should be taking care of them not me because I'm not married to that family my ex boyfriend was embarrassed and so is his mother but they didn't mess with me anymore when it came to money some people just think they're entitled to your money I hang out with a small group of people I never once had to worry about paying for them if they invited me out and I didn't have a lot of money I wouldn't go out but I wouldn't show up expect them to pay for me

@MissCharlotteBurley

3 жыл бұрын

Td K you took the straight up no chaser route 💃🏽 okay! Loved this story. Thanks for sharing. It’s extra hard when you’re dealing with lovers. Hopefully somebody needed to read how you dealt with it. I ain’t mad at you at all. Direct to the point! 🙌🏽

Love the video! I want to know what happened re the others when you told the waitress you had already given your card over. How did they all pay in the end (I am only asking because I am nosey pmsl)

Thanks Charlotte !

@MissCharlotteBurley

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

Going dutch = each one pay for her/his self is the best way. Here in Canada we need to inform the waitress from the start to bring separate bills for myself/each person. This way at the end of the meal, the waitress gives each person the bill only for what each one ordered. Always go dutch.

"Ahhh excuse me..." lol!

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Wayne Lawson. You know I was heated when it happened! LOL

I had my big share of mistakes, but I got tired of it .I did what you do, tell the waitress ahead . What I eat and drink is on me, I will tell which appetizer I will pay to share with them .

@jennifercox1098

3 жыл бұрын

Also they said I’m fun to be with ;( actually I’m the life of the party without these friends, but to some I’m because I stupidly end up paying all the time . Not anymore .

@bubbay.1610

Жыл бұрын

Don't believe the FLATTERY It is a Manipulation . @@jennifercox1098

Had so-called friends who expect me to pay for the alcohol when I invited them to my concert I was performing at . And they expect me to give them free tickets to my performance and stop talking to me when I said I couldn’t .

Best Solution Seperate Checks Or Water Only Or Walk Out You are only responsible for what you ordered.. Yes if they are ordering way more than you are, chronically short on cash/credit, and make no attempts to pay then they do deserve to be embarrassed because they are using you. If the person being short on the bill is a 1 time thing and they immediately pay you back, then okay... If they order a reasonable amount of food and drink but remain respectful of your financial limit then that's acceptable. It sounds like they were moochers... Once you leave them at the restaurant to pay for themselves, since they spent the night "balling out" like a millionaire, they may have an adult tantrum, but they will get the message not to stick you with their "balling out" bill...

@MissCharlotteBurley

3 жыл бұрын

Water only or walk out that’s hard core. I feel ya. 🙌🏽 thanks for watching and sharing. I appreciate ya!

I'm dealing with this issue right now. My roommate took over my car and won't let me drive it at all because he wants to buy it off me. He works almost 3 mins away from home and wants my car to pick up his manager from his house and go places. I'm taking the bus, working two jobs and walking everywhere in this Arizona heat. Got into an argument with him too about it.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

RoyalKingA73 whoa! This roommate is out of control. I’m sorry you are dealing with this treatment. “And won’t let me drive it at all” it appears that you are being bullied. You need to find a way to speak with them around others/friends or family. Decide if you’re selling the car to them or not. Now if they are making payments on the car then that’s the reason for this treatment. If they are not making payments and you still want to sell the car. Then ask for the keys and explain they can have the car once they pay for it. Until then, it’s your car and you have every right to drive it. If they refuse to give you back the keys... then please speak with your friends and family and ask for help. Again I am truly sorry you are going through this. You don’t deserve this type of treatment. Sending you best of luck and prayers too. 🙏🏽

@RoyalKingA73

4 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley , he said he'll buy it from me next week in payments but I own it and the title is in my name but he's acting like he owns it. He almost blew the headgasket because he was driving it without coolant in the radiator. This car is 31 years old and doesn't have 100k on it yet. Only reason why I'm selling it to him is because he won't leave me alone and blow my phone up for rides and stuff like that.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

RoyalKingA73 well my good man, if you have taken money/payments from your roommate. You are in a bind. Again talk with your friends and family but I offer this advice. Start shopping for a new car for yourself because in your roommates’ mind he owns what he is making payments on. Again, ask those that are closer to you and who knows the situation personally. My advice is to start anew. Get yourself a new ride and let your roommate buy the car outright. Again, good luck 🙏🏽

@dla116z3

2 жыл бұрын

I hate to be harsh but U sound like ah damn fool, I wouldn't have even shared this story out of embarrassment. Grow ah pair and stop being ah damn victim, man Up!

The truth is my friend is boring ! I sing karaoke a lot, I mingle and smile but my friend is not smiling now why would I pay if she boring company ?

When you go out to eat with friends _ co-workers let them know you are not the meal ticket ☺️ !!!!!!!

@MissCharlotteBurley

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!

@johnnielehew2794

2 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley you are so beautiful ❤️ 😍 !!!!!!

@MissCharlotteBurley

2 жыл бұрын

@@johnnielehew2794 thank you kind sir 🙏🏽

446 What did those moochers do when they expected you to pay but you had a separate check/bill?

@MissCharlotteBurley

3 жыл бұрын

They looked like this 🤨 and then 😬 because they realized that I finally caught on. Their goal was to keep their money and to let me spend my money on them. Please don’t let anyone take you for a fool. I learned the hard way hopefully you won’t have too. 🤗

I pay my way

What about a mother daughter duo that my mom constantly invites on our and other mothers and daughters trips? Every time they come they blow their money on stupid clothing items then come time for dinner or fun outings, they got that crazy look on their face and say “oh we’re not hungry” and they’ll just eat whatever complimentary drink and food the restaurant starts the table out with. 9 times out of 10, my mom ends up paying for them because she’s a caring person who wants everyone to have a great time. I love them dearly but my mom and I are at the stage of our lives where we want to see bigger and better and i hate seeing her foot the bill for other grown women. (Im 22 years old) How do i respectfully address this situation to my mom? It’s not fair for her to have to take care of someone else who is physically able to make and save her own money.

@tatianabritton6258

4 жыл бұрын

*The mother has been best friends with my mom since they were kids and the mothers daughter is 1-2 years younger than me.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

@@tatianabritton6258 I love that you want to look out for your mom. It sounds like your mom has been taking care of her BF for a long time. Please know that your mother continues to be blessed because she is always a blessing to others. However, I feel where you are coming from. You feel that her kindness is being taken advantage of. It may be on purpose and or it could be an awareness issue for the BF. My advice if you want to bring this to your mom's attention. Offer to treat her to a mother and daughter outing. Just you and her no one else. During that time spoil your mom, be extra kind and caring. Then share how you feel in a loving tone. This is her BF so you have to tread with care. As you do not know for certain that your mom and her BF may have worked out some form of repayment in private. If your mom feels she is not being taken advantage of. Then ask if she can do you a one-time favor. Ask that the next time you all go on vacay together that she allows her BF to foot her own food and beverages. Ask your mom to only focus on you and her in regards to funds. Just once. Now in the event your mom says no. You must respect her wishes. But trust that your mother will be much more aware now that she knows you are very aware. I hope everything works out for the best. Sending you positive vibes Queen. C

@Launicanumba1

3 жыл бұрын

Your mom reminds me of my mom

I'm 55 and this happens to me as well.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

Christine Diasio you would think at a certain age we wouldn’t have to deal with this sort of behavior. However people are not perfect no matter the age. Hopefully some of my tips will help you in the future. It’s okay to treat others but it’s not okay to be abused. Hang in there and you look amazing for 55 🙌🏽

@christinediasio6680

4 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley Thank you! Are you in the Boston area?

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

Christine Diasio you are welcome. I’m in California.

👍👍👍👍👍

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the thumbs up!

I swear i give so much and she hasn't even treat me more than once or we haven't ever stayed at her place even once or have a sleepover there and we have been friends for almost 5 years. It pisses me of that she wants to do everything and go anywhere with me as long as she doesn't pay shit. When she comes to my place( pretty often) she doesn't offer shit and when my mom cooks for my friends and me she'll be the first one to grab the food and try to get as much as possible for herself...she is so toxic and i feel like i don't care about her and her friendship anymore. Should i leave her ?

@MissCharlotteBurley

3 жыл бұрын

Wistful Skye before we think the worst let me ask you this. Maybe she is going through a poverty spell? Sometimes people are poor and they are too embarrassed to tell anyone. Maybe she is escaping her reality by living in yours? Take a step back and look at her situation. Is her place nice like yours or worse? Also what value besides material things does she bring to y’all relationship? Does she make you laugh or feel good? If she is just poor but nice consider yourself blessed and blessing her will bring more blessings to you. NOW if this is not the case; if she is financially stable and just selfish but still brings joy to your life, have a serious talk and share how you feel about her behavior. If she don’t change for the better than slowly but surely move her out of your life. Sometimes folks aren’t aware of their behavior because we don’t say anything to them. A lot of times we assume they know better. But you’d be surprised how many are not aware till someone curse them out! 🤣🤣 I hope this helps. Thank you for watching please know that I appreciate you 🙏🏽

@Wistful.Skye5

3 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley she is financially stable sometimes i think she has way more money than i do but she is willing to spend it only for herself. She is a nice person and i have a good time with her and we've talked about this in the past but she keeps acting the same way. She is in denial :( idk it makes me sad

@MissCharlotteBurley

3 жыл бұрын

Wistful Skye that is sad. However you deserve the same energy you give her. You took the time to talk to her, now it’s time to show her you’re serious. Actions speaks louder than words. No more hanging at your spot. No more eating your food. From now on limit your hangout time to mutual locations. Eat before you meet up and tell her as such. Say “I’ll meet you there. I’m treating myself to a nice meal before we meet up” bam! If she wants to dine with you simply ask “are you treating?” If she says no then say “Dutch it is.” If she is a user and realizes you ain’t her victim no more... she’ll either act right or move on. Either way you gonna be good! You ain’t got time to be used by no one! Be strong and sending you good vibes. 🙌🏽

@Wistful.Skye5

3 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley Thank you so much for your advice and your time! I'll keep everything you said in mind ☺️

Hello! I know you made this video a year ago but I have a question. What if it's your boyfriend who does this? I've been dating a guy for almost a year and has only paid for dinner for him and myself 3 times. The rest is either I paid or he paid for himself, I paid for mine. Another thing is he come over all the time and brings his dirty clothes so he can wash them. We have to use my car for everything because it's good on gas. Do you have signs to know if a man is mooching on you?

@mythofreadiness2213

5 жыл бұрын

For what its worth I might suggest you communicate and establish the cost of sharing your property and the financial responsibilities. Asking him to repay for gas all the way to paying a portion of the maintenance costs to the car like brakes or oil changes. Gas may only cost $25 but maintenance services can cost you hundreds. Indicators of a mooch is the person not taking significantly noticeable steps to try to improve their financial situation. Using guilt tactics in an attempt to shame you or curry sympathy. And importantly if they are just bad with money. Also at your own discretion communicate and evaluate the value of exchange of both your time and property. Some people do believe that non-monetary repayments are adequate substitutes for the monetary costs they incur. How and what you chose as adequate compensation should never be based on anyone else's opinion other than your own.

@TheMabes69

5 жыл бұрын

Yes...those are the signs...all of them lol

@edencrush2223

3 жыл бұрын

In college if us women went on dates and the man uses the typical I forgot my ATM card at home or spend too much time at the ATM try to get money out forget it he's a loser one guy try to play that on me at the movies the typical I forgot my ATM card at home so when we got to the ticket booth I only bought one ticket for myself and I told him bye-bye and it was a big crowd of people that night he got what he deserved I kicked him to the curb most people would say it's a one-time thing and maybe he did forget his card but nine times out of 10 that's not the case this happened back in the early 90s

Those people who have this arrogance and entitlement like "you got money, you should hook me up." Well once or twice but when it's expected that is out of pocket. When somebody agrees to pay rent and then doesn't but won't leave?! Homicidal thoughts dance through your head. They are literally stealing a room in my place.

How about dealing with mooching girlfriends? They believe if you have a good job you owe them money and have to buy them stuff. I always knew how to budget my entire life. Im an accountant. Im 24 have my own place, car, go on vacation twice a year. Both relationships I ever been in the only issues I had was with budgeting. In the start they were so proud of me I cooked dinner every night. Than they called me cheap cause I didn't want to go out. I only go on occasions. Than what really triggered me was I lent my gf money once at a mall and I bought her stuff. I go shopping only for only neccesities for myself so I splurged on her a few times. I got her dinner after. Ok it was a nice night. Than I remember a week later I asked her to get me something from a store and she said she needs to budget she can't waste money like that. It was like a 10 dollar thing I don't remember. She was ok spending my money but budgeting on her own. Than I realized I need to play it smart. I didn't give her a single penny, stopped cooking for her and I slept with her a lot. Guess what a week later she left. Now I go anywhere I want and I buy what I want. She never even left North America, I travelled everywhere with my own dime. She was a leech. I learned.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

George Chachati 🤣🤣🤣 you had me cracking up “I slept with her a lot” 🤣 now you know you was wrong for that! But I totally get why you did it. You are going to come across good women and bad women. The best you can do is be straight up from the first date. Make it a fun/sexy game. The rule: you have to share the top three deal breakers that will end your friendship. Make sure you list “no mooching” and explain exactly what you mean. Never assume they understand the meaning because your perspective is different especially when it comes to money. I really appreciate your comment is was very enlightening and you never know who may read it and needed it. Be safe and thanks for watching 🙌🏽

@georgec8210

4 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley thank you. I learned from mistakes.

@georgec8210

4 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley i wanted to get revenge by taking all her clothes and throwing it out and kicking her out myself but she left with her stuff anyways on her own. It was a bad break. The sleeping thing was bad but I didn't care about her the same after i found out she never cared for me. If she cared she would want me to budget and save for a family but she was a leech. I lost feelings for her but was not confident enough to break it off so I used her in the end. Now im dating a Greek girl. She is a million times better in every way. Some people know that money doesn't grow on trees. Im just stating that budgeting is good with the right person and nobody would want there partner to go into debt cause of them. Have a great life.

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

George Chachati I wish you and the new girlfriend tons of happiness and wealth! 🥰

That's what you call pass the buck card 😒 Keep old card so you don't have to pay Everybody knows to kick in

@MissCharlotteBurley

3 жыл бұрын

Covid put a stop to this mess lol! Thanks for watching I appreciate you.

@leonspencer782

3 жыл бұрын

@@MissCharlotteBurley 🙂

Bring cash pay your share.

If you are wondering who the fish at the table is, it's you

@MissCharlotteBurley

5 жыл бұрын

michael connor that’s a good way to put it! Thanks for watching and sharing much appreciated.

@michaelconnor

5 жыл бұрын

That's from Bon Fires of the Vanities - Tom Wolfe

Hi. 🙂 Please, let us pray together. Dear God who art in heaven hallow be thy name thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven, give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us and lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil for thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever in Jesus Christ's name we pray amen.

@MissCharlotteBurley

2 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏽

Most of my mooching friends are women. 🤷‍♂️

@MissCharlotteBurley

4 жыл бұрын

kenny ross thanks for watching and commenting. Treat all moochers the same 🤷🏽‍♀️ stop them.

@Meanoldwoman2013

2 жыл бұрын

I know that is right. I have a neighbor near 70 years old that is a world class mooch. Drives me nuts! I told her months ago she couldn't be driving my car or truck around, and now she is trying this crap again. People make all these appointments and plans, and expect others to jump in and help them. Nah. I am old, and mooches just wear me out.