"I'm not even a star" darlin you're the whole fucking universe

@judeweyland8834

3 жыл бұрын

This made me feel so uplifted ty

@Someone-fn3ij

3 жыл бұрын

@@judeweyland8834 im so glad!!

@Jp_-dd1rl

3 жыл бұрын

Aww🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️

@hannahreynen4283

3 жыл бұрын

See I think this lyric has a different meaning. I think we are supposed to have different purposes and are completely different from the white American boy she is talking about. The lyric “but awake at night I’ll be singing to the birds” says she is darkness.

@junebug2205

3 жыл бұрын

this made me smile so hard

can't believe mitski invented america just for this song omg

@purr4829

2 жыл бұрын

She inveted the moon and skittles 🤩💅🏻

@roryrising

Жыл бұрын

@@purr4829 SKITTLES?

@LayLay-uh6pz

Жыл бұрын

Ikr such an icon

@Ashevzkyi

Жыл бұрын

And spoons😍

@lydiawilliamson8263

Жыл бұрын

😊😊😊😊😅p

When I was little I had an entire plan to become white. Bleach my skin, straighten my hair, dye my hair blonde, get plastic surgery on my eyes so they were blue. I was 7.

@kidonaplanet4583

3 жыл бұрын

i remember looking in a mirror and crying because i could never be pretty because i could never be white. i remember only drawing white princesses even though i don’t have white skin. i remember being shocked when my cousin drew a princess with dark skin, i didn’t know dark skinned princesses were a thing. i remember being insecure about the hair on my body. i remember being pushed to shave my body hair. i remember feeling too masculine no matter what i did. i remember finding all of my middle eastern features the ugliest things about me. i never knew this was a shared experience among other poc and woc. comments like yours as well as this song have given me an overwhelming feeling of validation.

@ursamjr4406

3 жыл бұрын

never had that experience but notice that unless I was drawing myself or a classmate I would be drawing white girls, I did that shit unconsciously.

@ohno6017

3 жыл бұрын

i had the exact same plan + get surgery on my nose so it wasnt so wide when i was about 9 and i wrote it all down in my "get prettier" notebook :(

@rollertxt9015

3 жыл бұрын

this happened to me but i think i was 9

@maddieboo2297

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my god I am so sorry

"your mother wouldn't approve of the way my mother raised me" that line alone brought out so many feels, this song is a masterpiece.

@thevampirefrog06

5 жыл бұрын

"but I do, I finally do"

@jonathanflores2302

5 жыл бұрын

@@thevampirefrog06 Finally... after 2 years

@thevampirefrog06

5 жыл бұрын

@@jonathanflores2302 It's both meta AND the key follow up line that slams me personally every time

@evl457

5 жыл бұрын

@@thevampirefrog06 that's the real bit right there. Beyond rebellion, to understanding.

@user-sh1gc3jk7l

5 жыл бұрын

Tiger mom

as a poc, this song literally hits me in the heart. i've never related to a song so much...

@Urluv4clem

3 жыл бұрын

@maryam ! thank you!!

@cadre3586

3 жыл бұрын

I remember how much I wanted to be white in 5th grade, both of my parents were immigrants and didn’t “act American” and I resented that part of me for a long time.

@deeznuts6962

3 жыл бұрын

I SEE YMIR I RESPOND

@qti4664

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@n4t3sha

3 жыл бұрын

same :(

This song makes me think of my mom. She's a brown woman from Cuba married to a white American man. They're rrly in love, but their cultures and personalities clash. She almost cried the other night because we don't have any family traditions, because my dad's family really doesn't, and she grew up with a lot of family traditions that she treasures.

@dumbp2312

3 жыл бұрын

Off topic but love your profile pic of baby Connor SHJJLKH

@lemonboy7994

3 жыл бұрын

@@dumbp2312 thank you!

@charlottelee111

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah my mom is Korean American and my dad is white. I feel like my mom had to whitewash and Americanized her kids so that we wouldn’t face discrimination like she went through. I really wish I celebrated and knew more about my culture.

@baharm8892

3 жыл бұрын

@@charlottelee111 its never too late to do research and help her teach you about them :)

@brandonsanchez3122

3 жыл бұрын

@@charlottelee111 I understand this. my mother is Indian/Japanese and she is so whitewashed because of my white father and wanting to be seen as white. I wish she would stop dying her hair blonde every week and stop talking about wanting to get rid of her on ethnic features and showed me more about my culture, traditions, religion.

being a 1st gen woc with strict and toxic parents this song just hits me in the heart, i just want to experience fun relationships with guys or girls like most my age are, i feel so left out, all i do is stress over online school, clean the house 24/7, cry, sleep, eat and that's it? i wish i could be normal and pretty enough for people to want me, i grew out of my white validation phase thankfully, but part of me is still holding on, i just want someone to make me feel loved without me having to change myself to fit the damn beauty standard

@peptopeko

3 жыл бұрын

We live the same life. I think the best thing we can tell ourselves is that we’re not alone, and that our time will come, we shouldn’t rush into anything. Remember that your worth is not based on how many partners you have.

@TAB00

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you :(

@pandarainbow429

3 жыл бұрын

Jean

@mellol0v324

3 жыл бұрын

living the same life sadly :(

@moon-yw1rt

3 жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much, im also a first gen woc

This song brings me comfort in knowing I'm not crazy when I pose the question "why am I good enough for you to lust after, to comfort you, to love you but when the lights come on you dissapear because who would approve?"

@CerberusMascot

4 жыл бұрын

I hate that I relate to this so much, but it is comforting knowing I’m not alone here

@brianna1077

3 жыл бұрын

oh wow that hurt

@nocaed

3 жыл бұрын

ouch

@trustworthy_hypocrite1838

3 жыл бұрын

I don't know if you've ever heard Mitski'd other song called "Liquid Smooth" but it hits just as hard as this one because Liquid Smooth very much sounds like it's coming from the perspective of a WOC who knows what it's like to only be seen as beautiful when being fetishized by others.

@deniseseguin6043

2 жыл бұрын

Stop I’m gonna cry

I feel like this song is perfect for first generation women of color. I connected with it so much. It freaking brought me to tears.

@waityseg

5 жыл бұрын

right? this song captures the 1st gen woc experience so well it hurts

@athomassen3980

4 жыл бұрын

@@elisnovat3955 First off, people can read whatever they want into art. That's the whole point. Why make art if other people aren't going to interpret it for themselves? If you don't agree with other people's interpretations, fine, but don't be a dick about it, dude. Second, this is what Mitski herself said in a Wired article: "I was in love with somebody, but I just felt like our backgrounds or the places we come from or how we were raised were so completely different. And it felt like something that couldn't be overcome by love." I'd say that's very much about the struggles of 1st generation immigrants...

@Deller__

4 жыл бұрын

​@@elisnovat3955 What the fuck? Mitski does indeed talk about what her songs mean, and she has literally talked about the fact that this song is about cultural differences impacting a relationship. I don't understand how you can HEAR her sing about "the way her mother raised her" and then say this is not about race. The fuck? Whatever, if you're incapable of listening to the goddamn lyrics, see www.npr.org/sections/allsongs/2016/03/01/468690106/new-mix-music-from-m-ward-nothing-marissa-nadler-a-chat-with-mitski-more?.com&?.com&#playlist and www.npr.org/2016/06/19/482375750/mitski-on-puberty-2-and-the-nature-of-happiness Also, I don't read a "victim complex racism issue" in the OP. Sit the fuck down.

@ooooo000ooooo

4 жыл бұрын

Elis Novat For someone who accuses others of projecting, you sure get overly defensive and make a lot of assumptions about other people’s personal traits lmao

@sunflower2187

4 жыл бұрын

Same :(

“you’re the one, you’re all i ever wanted, i think ill regret this” is my favorite part

@ohno6017

3 жыл бұрын

i think my favorite part is "you're the sun, you've never seen the night"

@bunnywavyxx9524

8 ай бұрын

both quotes above me are soul crushing. i love them both. my favorite is "well im not the moon, im not even a star"

to all of my immigrant daughters & woc reading this- i know how hard it is and how much you might be hurting as you listen to this song but please know i love you so so much

@okay5897

3 жыл бұрын

😭😭

If I could, I'd be your little spoon And kiss your fingers forevermore But, big spoon, you have so much to do And I have nothing ahead of me You're the sun, you've never seen the night But you hear its song from the morning birds Well, I'm not the moon, I'm not even a star But awake at night I'll be singing to the birds Don't wait for me, I can't come Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I think I do And you're an all-American boy I guess I couldn't help trying to be your best American girl You're the one You're all I ever wanted I think I'll regret this Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I finally do And you're an all-American boy I guess I couldn't help trying to be the best American girl Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I think I do

@Yearnfor26492

Жыл бұрын

Love you man❤️

I feel so guilty when i listen to this song, i’m a 2nd generation Mexican American but i feel so whitewashed like i don’t feel Hispanic enough for my own culture, but at the same time i’m not white enough for the US

@namjuice3231

3 жыл бұрын

literally took the words right out of my mouth

@nataliearzo946

3 жыл бұрын

I'm mexican american as well, I dont know how to speak Spanish, I cant cook and I don't know anything about my culture it really sucks

@ffxxss6697

3 жыл бұрын

fr its even worse when your surrounded by people who are very hispanic or very white but can relate to either

@nobody6965

3 жыл бұрын

@@nataliearzo946 FR I FEEL DUMB ASF AT FAMILY GATHERINGS

@nobody6965

3 жыл бұрын

@@ffxxss6697 YEAH LIKE IM JUST LIKE🧍‍♂️

I'm a half-asian guy. As a kid growing up I used to be embarrassed by my Chinese mother's ways and second-language English. I've since 180'd and kinda wish I was more Chinese, super proud to be half. This song is great; love to all the women out there and people in general with whom this song resonates. You don't need "fixing."

@flwrhs

3 жыл бұрын

180*

@PK-vw3gd

3 жыл бұрын

@@flwrhs Bahaha, good catch! ;)

@nicole.4295

3 жыл бұрын

thank you so much man

@salsa8040

3 жыл бұрын

Felt this 100%, kinda scary how similar this is to my experiences, with the embarrassment phase and then wanting to be more "asian" and all (though the asian part was mainly for my mom's approval). Great to see that you've since accepted yourself, hope you're doing well now man

@vallove9546

2 жыл бұрын

sobbing

I'm actually glad this didn't come out in the 90s. I wouldn't have handled it.

@nmulae

4 жыл бұрын

Dogmo Satchmo Oh man, just as glad as you are too. I wouldn’t be able to handle it either, had it come out at a time that I miss so much and wish I can go back to relive my childhood again. :’(

It makes me sad knowing that I’ll never fit his beauty standards, not just his but any boys beauty standards. They always choose the white girls, and they don’t even know how lucky they are. Then some of them complain about being brunette instead of having blonde hair, imagine being a 1st Gen immigrant :/

@whatthehell760

3 жыл бұрын

this 💔💔

@rubybutterflyb7841

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. If all you had to do was dye your hair a lot of people would’ve done it already.

@johnnythedeceasedrat1835

3 жыл бұрын

I probably wouldn’t fit any boys standard, I’m a gay, hispanic, male.

@teencrisis4750

3 жыл бұрын

THIS

@val5673

3 жыл бұрын

Fr

i know a lot of people interpret this song to be about being in love with/in a relationship with someone and feeling alienated because of your culture/upbringing, but to me this song makes me think of growing up and thinking this exact way about everyone, especially friends. i always felt embarrassed and ashamed of how i was raised and tried to hide it around my american friends. i wish i was actually strong enough to get to the point where i can say "you mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me but i do i finally do." it's so hard to actually accept and love who you are when everyone around you makes you feel so different

@alfred-san3639

3 жыл бұрын

Brazilian friends too;-;

@ellora107

2 жыл бұрын

god yes.

@eugeniabukhman8533

2 жыл бұрын

^

This song needs to be played so loud your speakers are distorting to truly understand the beauty of it.

@woahhcat

4 жыл бұрын

Nicholas Bal god i saw it live and i felt like i fucked mitski ever since

@opal2667

Жыл бұрын

I wish it was louder😢

a half japanese half white woman who is from america made this song. (ik she was born in japan, but she wasn’t raised there, and i’m pretty sure she’s in america now which is a struggle being poc) it’s amazing. the feeling of being a poc but feeling distant from both sides, and not fitting into the standards of america.

@maya-ci2py

3 жыл бұрын

it's not just for woc/poc who grew up in america it's for all of woc/poc

@Otra_Chica_de_Internet

3 жыл бұрын

@@maya-ci2py well, immigrant poc. Because if someone is poc and grew up surrounded by other poc I don't think they would be able to relate (for example a japanese woman who has spent her entire life in her home country)

@bambi5489

2 жыл бұрын

i have found my people

A song that defines a generation

@netizenrealness

5 жыл бұрын

period.

@twistbugs

3 жыл бұрын

this is a song abt woc..??

@solianasamson9936

3 жыл бұрын

@@twistbugs the one instance when i want to gatekeep something

@isa5104

3 жыл бұрын

@@twistbugs I assume they’re talking about first gen immigrants, I’m not sure

@jfm14

3 жыл бұрын

@@twistbugs Of course, but they didn't say it wasn't... ?

To any woc/nboc who has cried to this song I will gladly wipe up your tears !! You all deserve the world and I'm sorry if you have ever felt like you weren't even a star, you most definitely are the whole universe !! I love you !!

@solaceberry

3 жыл бұрын

i dont even know you but ily

@emoneslamian6757

3 жыл бұрын

What about a moc?

@tmxdpage

3 жыл бұрын

@@emoneslamian6757 hi hi!! I'm pretty sure this song is primarily directed towards women of color or afab people of color. I'm not exactly sure if it includes men of color but if any moc have cried to this song I will wipe up your tears as well!!

@emoneslamian6757

3 жыл бұрын

@@tmxdpage but thx your so sweet 🥺

@paola2946

3 жыл бұрын

Nboc? What is the meaning?

Words cannot describe how much I love this song. It encapsulates my experience as a WOC perfectly. The line "But big spoon, you have so much to do-and I have nothing ahead of me" hits so hard. It is so hard growing up as a WOC and not seeing anybody who looks like you in movies and pop culture in general. The standard is white, American individuals. In movies, the heroes are always white. The villains are always foreign and darker-skinned. Nobody looked like me. As a Southeast Asian, it was hard growing up. Whenever there was Asian representation, most of it were East Asian people. And most of the time, those East Asian individuals would be the villain or painted out to be "mystical" and "oriental" with an exaggerated thick accent. If there was another WOC, many times they were sexualized or mocked. It was damaging and led me to believe that I could never be important; I could never be a hero. When I was a young child, I used to beg my mother to bleach my skin so I could fit in because I was bullied so badly in school for being different. For years, I refused to eat my grandma's cooking and begged for American food because that's what everyone else who was normal ate. I was always the only nonwhite kid in school. There was one Arabic kid but he would make fun of me with everybody else and he would allow himself to be made fun of, called "terrorist," and mocked his own family so he could fit in. I feel like so many POC feel like they are only worthy if they have white validation. Regardless, I grew up with the biggest inferiority complex. Growing up in a predominately white midwest area was extremely traumatic. I'm still here and still feeling like I don't belong. But songs like these and reading the comments section of this video makes me feel like I'm not alone. I've grown to love myself and, now, I want to do nothing but embrace my culture and surround myself with it. To my fellow WOC, you are 1000% valid and I love you so much. I wish you all happiness and I hope you all learn to accept and love yourself.

@yourlocalplaguedoctor7023

2 жыл бұрын

Shit, that sounds like so much to go through at such a young age. I hope you're doing better, and remember: you're beautiful just the way you are!!!

I need to pick my jaw up off the floor

"I know what a volcano feels like"

@chekysam1767

4 жыл бұрын

EMILY AND SUE 😍😍😍😍😍

@candedimeo699

3 жыл бұрын

I was scrolling and waiting for a comment like this

@eleanakoliou7968

3 жыл бұрын

@@candedimeo699 hahahahhaha

@damaged.collateral

3 жыл бұрын

Cheky Sam who ?

@deepspace5121

3 жыл бұрын

yasss! That moment emisue

i get a lump in my throat listening to this

“You have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me” hit hard as someone that was always behind in classes and never left the house. Watching people grow older and get friends whilst I’m just standing still. I’ve always been standing still and I find it comforting knowing that I won’t get anywhere in life.

i am sobbing. this hurts so much. as a latina, who's not white passing at all, my ex white bf cheated on me and left me for this white girl. she's gorgeous, she's so lovely to him with her perfect blonde hair and blue eyes why on earth did i think my brown eyes could ever compete with his. im crying so hard right now, why cant i just be someone like her,

@oliviartsss

3 жыл бұрын

Baby you are BEAUTIFUL. You are not accountable for your appearance, only for your heart. And his heart was not good. Remember that your eyes are the most beautiful honey in the sun, the rich soil of which beautiful green life bursts. your dark hair is the embers of which the fire of summer burns. It brings warmth and life to the smile you carry. She is unique because she is her, and she is beautiful. But you are unique because you are not her. You are yourself. And that is the most beautiful person you can be. My Instagram is olivialikespuppets if you ever need to talk.

@josiebee23

3 жыл бұрын

he's missing out. you are absolutely beautiful, no less than that other girl, and you do not deserve to feel bad about the way that you look. if he was willing to cheat on you he didn't deserve you in the first place; you're too good for him. i hope the pain gets better soon and i hope you know that you're absolutely gorgeous and there are wonderful people out there who will see that and love you :)

@user-hd6gq6jq7k

3 жыл бұрын

his loss :/ BUT hey ur beautiful just the way you are dont forget that!!

@iah123

3 жыл бұрын

that is his loss!! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND HE DOESNT DESERVE U WHATSOEVER!! EMBRACE WHO U ARE CUZ UR AMAZING!! although im just a kid and dont rlly have that much experience in the world, just know u r loved! ^^

@angelizanais1663

3 жыл бұрын

his loss!!! you're so beautiful and deserve so much better...

this song reminds me of growing up in a predominantly white neighborhood. I wanted to have blonde hair and be pale like the others so maybe they would like me. A memory I have is my white friend telling me "I wish I wasn't so pale. I wish I had your tan skin tone" but I wanted to have her skin tone so badly.

@Miss.Malibu

3 жыл бұрын

I've noticed that people always want what they can't have, or don't have. I think a lot of that comes from how the beauty standards in America are constantly changing, yet so strict and demanding. When you give society what they want, they change their mind immediately after and want something else, which puts you in the dark again. It's impossible to keep up with and please, and it sucks. I want you to know though that tan skin like yours is very beautiful. All skin tones are, and you're just as worthy as the next person, whether they're pale or not. Don't ever try and change your features or hide your heritage because of what society tells you. It's society that has the issue, not you. The way POC are treated is terrible, and maybe one day you could use your experiences as a way to make a difference. I wish you the best, hun :)

@Ava-nf2qq

Жыл бұрын

yeah like in the uk you’re made fun of for being called pale and told to go outside and get a tan since it’s the standard and shows that you’re wealthy enough to go to holidays in the summer and get a tan / spray tan. of course not on the same scale as darker people have it but sadly the beauty standard will always put people down

@Syzoths_therapist

11 ай бұрын

i havent seen this response. i listen to this song when I really need it and I forgot i wrote that comment. I don't think i sobbed harder you're very lovely thank you. I've been feeling better about and honestly i really needed to see this. i wish u the best aswell. i wish i can express more but my hands are shaky haha @@Miss.Malibu

Her going from “I think I do” to “I finally do” and then back to “I think I do” is one the most heartbreaking parts of the song. Finally acknowledging what your mother does for you, especially as a WOC, then having it be taken away because of the “I wish I were white” phase hits too hard to home. I’m indigenous and I grew up seeing people make fun of my cultural music and dancing. I’ve seen my mother go through so many hardships, and I myself experienced similar racism and misogyny she did. It hurt so much to be ridiculed where I wished I was white, I wished I could be like the white girls in my class, beautiful blue eyes and blonde hair. I remember not being allowed to have blonde Barbie’s because of that. Thankfully now I have learned to love my culture, but it gets hard sometimes to deal with the racism from others.

@lastwrdsofastar

7 ай бұрын

hey im indigenous too!! im so sorry for what you went through. youre beautiful, and i hope the world gets better. sending love

the star line is getting me bc black women have always been the last pick and even then, we’re not chosen unless we look a barbie doll and i’m tired

@anoblesteed5685

3 жыл бұрын

That’s what I’ve been thinking

I fell in love with a person with a completely different culture and upbringing to myself for the first time when I was 18, I knew it was doomed from the start but that didn't stop me falling for his autumn night eyes :(

@comradehermit9320

4 жыл бұрын

Keep trying. Some white folks suck less than others. And for many of us, our best American girl is Asian, black or Latina. Fuck how our mothers raised us. They had their chance. Now its our turn. America is whatever the fuck we want it to be.

@justinpipes85

4 жыл бұрын

@@comradehermit9320 why do you assume that they meant "white folks?"

@bettydraper2034

3 жыл бұрын

@@justinpipes85 maybe bc of the song they commented this on lol?

@annie1911

3 жыл бұрын

@@comradehermit9320 wtf this is so powerful and i needed it. ty

@julia-nt8ll

3 жыл бұрын

i fell in love with someone with a completely different culture too. im scared on how or if my mom finds out

this is one of those songs that demands great headphones or speaker system. awesome though

@IzabellaFullerton5sos

3 жыл бұрын

yea lmao i tried listening on some shitty headphones and i couldn't hear her vocals at al

this song reminds me of when i "fell in love" with this white dude and i whitewashed myself so much to just feel accepted by him (im a 1st gen asian) and it still didn't stop him and other boys from fetishizing me. like i had this one guy be my friend for a year solely for the purpose of getting "asian nudes" and this other guy tried to date me because of the asian girl stereotype (one time he was talking to his friend and he said, "see. asian girls are always so forgiving!") those boys left me for the "best american girl." white girls with eurocentric features: everything i will never be. on top of that, i'm filipino and i dont fit the asian beauty standard of porcelain skin, monolid eyes, small face, and slim figure. im slightly tan with hooded eyes, big arms, keratosis pilaris, and eye bags. i cant remember a single time ive seen a character that looked like me while i was growing up other than dora. so either way, it's hard for me to accept myself. :/

As a white woman reading all the stories from WOC makes me sad, I know I will never understand your pain and frustration but I’m here to listen. That being said all the other white woman in the comments talking about not having “blonde hair, and blue eyes” you definitely missed the whole point of this song.😐

As a woc, this song hits so close to home. Being a mixed latina (indigenous and white) and not being white passing has had a huge impact on my life, Mitski’s music describes it perfectly. I’m so happy to see so many fellow woc connecting and relating to eachother in this comment section, not because of the experiences but because almost all of us have been through similar things and can support each other if that makes sense

I've always dreamed to be pale, thin straight hair, a small nose and flat hips. I cry whoever I see my wide hips, dark skin, frizzy curls, and tall nose. I feel so gross. I hate being stuck in a republican town in the south. I haven't been to my homeland in three years. I just don't want to feel like I stand out anymore

@sallypellegrini7394

3 жыл бұрын

Don't feel gross, the only truly gross thing is that republican town and the trump supporters you have to deal with lmao. The corruption of societal beauty standards should not define nor determine how attractive any woc is. What you may see as imperfections are actually gorgeous in so many ways yet too many people are programmed to think not since a lot of privileged society is ignorant and annoying as hell.

@FelixKrankenkilledmykids1974

Ай бұрын

Your are beautiful just the way you are, art belongs to the eye of the beholder and you are art

“your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” PLEASE.

this song crushes me.

“your mother wouldnt approve of how my mother raised me.. but i do, i think i do?” but i do, i FINALLY do.” korean american, asian household, immigrant mother, this slapped me across the face

no lie.. this song made me cry because of how relatable it is. ),:

@sairachiodini

7 жыл бұрын

me too girl.

@nmulae

6 жыл бұрын

So did I honestly. :’(

@percyperanamus7432

6 жыл бұрын

narcissism incarnate - mitski mentions it's about troubles in a interracial relationship she was in and how their cultural differences became an issue

@aemeou9880

2 жыл бұрын

Lo entiendo porque nací y vivo en latinoamérica, pero no lo he experimentado :(

@Dragonking-fd1qv

2 жыл бұрын

@@narcissismincarnate9201 the struggle WOC face

i want the entire 1st verse of this tattooed on me... possibly my favourite lyrics of all time

"well i'm not the moon, i'm not even a star" as an indigenous person, that lyric hit so close to my heart. i grew up on an indian reservation, which is on a very small island, and i've had limited access to the world outside from my community. but everytime i leave, i feel like im a part of some unknown world. i feel like an outsider, i just feel so different from the rest of the white ppl at my town school bc i never got the same experience that they did. ive always felt so in-between my indigenous community, and the mainstream society im not able to be apart of. somedays, i want to be a beautiful white boy with no problems in the world at all. id be rich, well-going and healthy. but also, i wanna stick to my culture sometimes, and be the "star" of my race. the attractive one, the ones you see on insta/tiktok everyday. i just dont know which character i wanna be, and it hurts so bad.

@MrKmas508

4 ай бұрын

I am extremely curious as to where in America there is an Indian reservation on an island

@lastwrdsofastar

4 ай бұрын

@@MrKmas508 its in canada

i love how the lyrics “your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me but i do, i finally do” and “i think i do” are right next to each other. i think it shows no matter how much you make a stance and be proud of who you are there’s always a voice in the back of your head doubting you’re good enough because of the people who’ve engraved that in your psyche.

ive dealt with ocd, anxiety and now depression most of my life and i feel as if ill never be able to have real relationships because of my constantly crumbling mental condition. my first boyfriend lived in a world completely different from mine, he was american and had never had any severe mental illnesses or disorders (i am also from australia). his life was great until i entered it. he didn't know much about mental disorders and was afraid of mine for so long. it eventually tore our relationship apart because he felt pressured to take care of me. i dont love him romantically anymore, but i miss him as a friend. he hates me now and im afraid ill always feel like i cant show my real self to anyone because our worlds are too different. i used to listen to this song a lot as we started drifting apart. i never felt good enough for him, but now i realise that isnt healthy for a relationship. i hope he is having a really good life now. sometimes i feel like ill never be able to be apart of everyone elses world though. but reading comments on mitski songs makes me feel less alone, i know everyone in the world is struggling. i hope everyone can find happiness and can overcome their struggles. thank you mitski

@acedia2

3 жыл бұрын

i hope youre doing better than you were when you wrote this comment

Everybody is going on about the lyrics, and don't get me wrong they are great, but can we talk about how tasty those drop D chords are? It's a big part of why this song hits so hard.

this song is so relatable it hurts. i can't even put it into words. it's like mitski grabbed my heart and the very essence of my soul and what it's been through and started singing it out loud. i'm crying i love you mitski

i just wanted to rant about how i relate to this song as a fully-bangladeshi girl // i grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood, and because of that, i've always felt insecure. exhibit A: i try to hide my arms because of my excessive body hair (relating to the lyric "and you're an all-American boy , I guess I couldn't help trying to be the best American girl") exhibit B: im always embarrassed because my family isn't as wealthy (relating to the lyric "but, big spoon, you have so much to do , and I have nothing ahead of me) exhibit C: i hide my parents from people because they don't raise me the same way others do (relating to the lyric "your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me"). exhibit D: it hurts to hear people fight about "blondes or brunettes," when they've never even LOOKED at the direction of WOC (relating to the lyric "you're the sun, you've never seen the night , but you hear its song from the morning birds, well, I'm not the moon, I'm not even a star"). and so i ask, why do we always have to be ignored? why do people always have to be against us? i don't think ill ever get valid answers to those questions. so i think ill just embrace my culture instead.. and i say the same to my fellow people :)

@idontfwtechnology

2 жыл бұрын

awhh don't worry, as another full bangladeshi girl hopefully u'll feel better soon and u'll find somebody who loves u for who u r, dw

I'm crushing on a yt boy, "you've never seen the night, but you hear it's song from the morning birds," reminds me of how he can do all he wants to be against racism and sexism, but he'll never know the real affect it can have on a person. Especially a person who's mourning the loss of a little girl and embracing someone else, better, but still mourning the loss of that girl.

This song really resonates with me as an autistic woman. I feel like the second or third option chronically. I try my best to be the best, and for what?

Am currently writing an essay about myself growing up with immigrant parents as i sob and weep listening to this song

I can't stop listening to this song over and over and over.

to all of the woc here, i love you so much. you’re gorgeous. you’re loved. you’re beautiful.

@kadjagnee.4811

3 жыл бұрын

thank you :)

@c.a.r.o

2 жыл бұрын

do white passing people count? /gen

I always cry when the " you have so much to do and i have nothing ahead of me" because it reminds me to me and my best friend. were in the same situation but she will have a great future and i will just die young at some point of my teen years

“your mother wouldnt approve of how my mother raised but i do i finally do” im literally about to cry dont

"im not the moon, im not even a star" hits hard cuz im nobody's first choice ☹️

"your mother wouldn't approve of the way my mother raised me" as a middle eastern, this hits hard.

@starrysoups

2 жыл бұрын

same :(

to all of the woc in this comment section and beyond, i love you. thank you for toughening up even when you shouldn’t of had to

i’m first gen half filipino, and i’ve never truly felt asian because of how white washed i am and i don’t feel asian because i’ve been told so many times “you’re not really asian” it’s hard to fit in so i had to learn to love myself and i’m glad i did

@deidremmm

3 жыл бұрын

me too!! i'm a first gen filipino-mexican person! i get teased by my family so much about how i'm white washed and stuff because i grew up in a predominately white neighborhood outside of the city i was born in. it's hard to flip back and forth from wanting desperately to be white and then wanting to remove yourself from the whiteness you grew up in :(

@happyplayce8725

3 жыл бұрын

As someone who's mixed between white and arabic, i was about to comment something like this but i was aftraid people would think that i dont have any "real" struggles, so i am so happy i found your comment, i hope you have a great day and i relate to this so much

@happyplayce8725

3 жыл бұрын

@@deidremmm I WAS EXACTLY ABOUT TO SAY THAT, like i feel terrible because my ex bsf was a poc and i ranted to her about trying to distance myself from my arabic side after my crush rejected me because of it, and i remember her facial expression when she said "at least u have the white too" and since then i havent really talked about any of my struggles because i felt so bad and like idk how to explain it but ur comment felt so relatable i just had to reply to it hah..

@ursamjr4406

3 жыл бұрын

I can't speak my parents' language because was never taught it but I was expected to just know it or learn it on my own, I can't even find any good language videos or sites for it and google translate JUST got it last year but it still feels unreliable. It's frustrating because I'm teased for not knowing it >:/

@averymon2292

3 жыл бұрын

I'm filipino chinese, I get you. We barely even celebrate chinese holidays anymore or we dont really love our culture as much. I feel so invalidated but I'm asian, and you are asian too. You cant erase that part of yourself

she gets it

"your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me" is crazy

this song reminds me of my mom and lowkey makes me so sad. she was a asian immigrant who came to america and was ridiculed for not knowing english, and she married a california american white man. the way she grew up was so accurate to this song.

I can relate to this.. interracial relationships are difficult

@Mountain_Tim

8 жыл бұрын

i think someone was mean to you when you didn't deserve it

@kevinjboconnor

8 жыл бұрын

"american" doesn't specify race, maybe i'm just not hearing some of the other lyrics

@Pickpocket

8 жыл бұрын

+Jack Xin that's because everyone wants our superior skin color

@NoNoseProduction

7 жыл бұрын

sweeping generalizations are great.

@8bitdiedie

7 жыл бұрын

If you think it's just white americans then you're sorely mistaken. Just look at all the elitist families who are Jewish, Eastern Asian or pretty much everywhere else.

growing up with toxic parents in a biracial house hold being mixed with so much and constantly being asked "what are u?" it honestly hurts I'm not white enough I'm not Indian enough I'm not Puerto Rican enough ill never be enough sometimes I feel like just ripping off all my ethnic features and throwing them away I hate how my nose makes me look hate how my cheeky eyes make me look I hate how my curly hair never works on any products and I hate how my sisters have a higher privilege then me cuz they're the white beauty standard.

@Kittywolf1777

2 жыл бұрын

I honestly understand where ur coming from ☹️ sometimes I look in the mirror and can’t tell if I’m white (Greek) or Indian - I feel so culturally confused all the time, like I have no idea where I’m going. Sometimes I flop between thinking I’m a white girl Or not and I look so damn ambiguously poc at the same time I just can’t tell who I’m supposed to be

@brandonsanchez3122

2 жыл бұрын

@@Kittywolf1777 honestly this is something I wish I learned a long time ago. Ur never gonna be white or Indian enough because ur not one u are both. Embrace both sides and don’t feel as if u have to pick one cuz u don’t. U shouldn’t have to dissect urself thinking u have to choose one when ur an amazing person. Stay strong

First time I kissed a girl this was playing in the background. Kissing someone while eating pop rocks at the same time #mouthexplosion

@bosspowell1613

4 жыл бұрын

rockin I'm alone with no pop rocks

@b4lenci

3 жыл бұрын

no way

@OmniTheLeader

3 жыл бұрын

This is the best love story I’ve heard

@cweepypasta3440

3 жыл бұрын

I want to experience this

@jwo279

3 жыл бұрын

That sounds... *a m a z i n g*

I am so addicted to this song. it's in my head when I fall asleep & there when I wake up.

@trevolution69now

8 жыл бұрын

literal same.

@jamaigar

7 жыл бұрын

Heather Abney same here ^^

@August.6260

5 жыл бұрын

i love this comment so much and i dont know why

She went from "your mother wouldnt approve of how my mother raised me, but i do *i think i do* " To "your mother wouldnt approve of how my mother raised me, bit i do *i finnaly do* "

"Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me, but I do, I finally do" always makes me cry. I spent so long trying to be something I wasn't, trying to make myself fit this mold that only white women and white people in general could fit into. And when I was younger I went as far as trying to forget the culture I was raised in. I've always felt insecure as a Puerto Rican. Even though I know we're not the most discriminated against that never changed the way I saw the dirty glances I'd get if I were too loud or too proud of my heritage. Especially because of the fact I'm afab It took a lot for me to realize I am proud of myself, and that I should never be ashamed of myself.

@Charlee-lk7vn

3 жыл бұрын

I understand how you feel, im half Cuban half Puerto Rican and as a kid i wanted like nothing to do with my culture, I wanted to have white skin and straight blonde hair and blue eyes. I was always so frustrated that I didn’t measure up to the standard. I love my heritage so much, it means the world to me now. I’m still insecure about my looks, but ive begun to feel better about myself bit by bit as time goes on idk if you even care, but from one internet stranger to another, I get it

As an afghani, who didn’t really care for my appearance, I barely relate to this but I love how it sounds.

listening thinking about how when i was growing up i wanted to be white so bad i wanted to have beautiful straight hair that would flow in the wind. I wanted to have the same future they could i wanted the same opportunities they had but i just won’t because i’m a person of color.

@awesomesauce010

3 жыл бұрын

this is exactly what I’m growing through right now god I also live in a shitty country

@weirdozz2763

3 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY i hated being mexican growing up, why couldn’t i be white? blonde hair, blue eyes, no body hair, not being called racial slurs and horrible things.

@funfettipuppi

2 жыл бұрын

@@weirdozz2763 YES

when i was in like first grade i came home crying that i wanted to be blonde with blue eyes, and that every pretty girl in my class was blonde with blue eyes. i’m asian. i wish i could go back and tell her that she is beautiful, and that she’s going to grow up into the most beautiful young woman and she doesn’t need blue eyes or blonde hair to do that.

@yoongi7854

2 жыл бұрын

lol yeah a lot of poc girls wish to be white with blue eyes and blonde hair which is so toxic

@Ni_416

3 ай бұрын

Omg , same ):

as a woc this song means so much to me i relate to it so much i can’t even explain it.

I wish i could hug 7th grade me while listening to this song. Im peruvian with brown skin and used to hate my culture so much, people made me hate it. I remember crying in my moms arms wishing I had blue eyes and white skin. but now 9th grade, i love my culture and Im so proud of my parents for sacrificing everything by moving to this country so we could live a safer life.

when i was 4 i used to beg my mom to let me bleach my skin, hair, and get blue contacts. i begged for my dad to buy me "american" lunch and buy me fast food for dinner because i was so embarrassed of the foods we ate since it was so different from my friends dinners. now that ive gotten older i learned how to appreciate my culture and the differences between my family and my friends (im 12 now and none of my parents remember me doing this)

Tune of the year so far.

@trevolution69now

8 жыл бұрын

agreed.

@fedegufedegu

8 жыл бұрын

+Trevor Harrison agreed

Fuck, what a powerful hook this song has.

i had a line of this song’s lyrics on my lockscreen a few days ago, and my mom texted me telling me she looked the line up and ended up falling in love with Mitski’s songs. we took a late-night flight to Florida yesterday together and we shared airpods while listening to this song. it’s easily by far one of my favorite moments with my mom.

@bigmanpounder1229

7 ай бұрын

half a year later i just found this comment i made, lmao. proud to say we’re still avid mitski listeners :) edit; going to see her concert in february this year !!! 😭

@carat_light

8 күн бұрын

​​@@bigmanpounder1229hope you had a good time at the concert!

"you have so much to do but i have nthg ahead of me" this hits so hard

Un-fucking-believable. Made me cry.

to every woc that reads it: i love you. -from a black person

"Guys stop trying to gatekeep this it's just a song!! 😠😠😠" Shut up.

@hayaszn

3 жыл бұрын

NO FR IT SUCKS BECAUSE WHEN US WOC HAVE SOMETHING, THEY TAKE IT LIKE EVERYTHING ELSE

I really had a crush on this one girl, she is gorgeous and she didn’t made uncomfortable questions about my country and was very sweet when I first met her, our relationship grew and we became friends, catching a crush on her with time. Later, she acted like if my culture was an aesthetic and vibe, directly calling it that, every conversation we had would mostly end about my country, she ghosted me after, and started to hang out with a group of people who recorded me and a friend on a very racist video:(((

@FATHERLESS66

Жыл бұрын

I know how you feel it always hurts so mych when they backstab you, especially when you get a crush on them.

just heard this on a local radio station in Chestertown Maryland holy crap I'm in love... What a jam

@OG-tr4sc

8 жыл бұрын

+devin canfield so good

@koatfur

3 жыл бұрын

qwertyfields owo maryland isn’t in the new england region

White people, we're allowed to listen and vibe to this masterpiece? Yes, we are. But keep it in mind: this is not about us. Please, we're not protagonists.

@fixtureofthesun

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

@fixtureofthesun

3 жыл бұрын

thank u for understanding

@sonial1839

3 жыл бұрын

Can you provide an example of what wanting to be a protagonist would it be for a white person when it comes to this song?

@peachooss

3 жыл бұрын

@@sonial1839 in this song, Mitski is talking about her experience as a POC woman, especially in romantic relationships.

@momliker2465

3 жыл бұрын

as a white person, i agree

I'm a mixed Brazilian (half indigenous and brown from my dad's side, half yt from my mother's side). This song always manage to make me cry, Istg. Mitski, you could've just said "I'm in love with a yt boy, but I ain't yt" but you wrote this banger instead. Idk if I should be thankful or force you to pay my therapy sessions 😭😭😭✋🏻

tonight is a cry to your best american girl girl type of night

"But big spoon you have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me." brb im gonna bawl my eyes out

mitski. oh how I love you. oh god. how do you Understand So Well

[Verse 1] If I could, I'd be your little spoon And kiss your fingers forevermore But, big spoon, you have so much to do And I have nothing ahead of me [Verse 2] You're the sun, you've never seen the night But you hear its song from the morning birds Well, I'm not the moon, I'm not even a star But awake at night I'll be singing to the birds [Pre-Chorus] Don't wait for me, I can't come [Chorus] Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I think I do And you're an all-American boy I guess I couldn't help trying to be your best American girl [Bridge] You're the one You're all I ever wanted I think I'll regret this [Chorus] Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I finally do And you're an all-American boy I guess I couldn't help trying to be the best American girl [Outro] Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I think I do

When I was a little kid I used to love going outside and playing in the sun. But eventually I found out that people don't think that tan skin is "pretty". I was devastated and straight up cried almost every night about it. I stopped going outside and playing in the sun, I kept asking my parents for sunscreen, and I would always try my best to make myself look paler. And then one day I found out that my monolids weren't "pretty". I would tape them up to make double lids. I would steal my grandmas makeup and try to draw it on. Then I found out that my accent was considered "a joke" or "ugly". I would watch KZread videos on how to get an American accent. I've stopped doing so many things like stop bringing my own food to school because the kids made fun of it. I made a plan to bleach my hair and my skin and wear blue contacts. I truly don't think my friend knows how much it hurts me when she says she "wishes she wasn't white".

"Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me, but I do, I finally do." I almost forgot how to speak Romanian because when I was younger and didn't speak much English I would get made fun of for it. So I completely stopped speaking my mother tongue once I learned English properly, now I'm trying to re-learn my own language. I brought traditional food to school for the first time a couple of months ago, it was such a big deal for me.

@vli838

4 ай бұрын

Girl ur Romanian ur white .. don’t try getting ur story into this

before I used to be embarrassed of my mom when she would speak with her Spanish accent and her customs from our country, the way she would be so considerate and affectionate to others that isn’t common in America. I used to feel embarrassed because of these things but now I’ve learnt to appreciate all these things she has taught me and how to develop as a person because I feel like the culture she passed onto me has a lot to do with how I am as a person. For that, I can now proudly say that I am Peruvian. This song resonates deeply with my experience as a young teen and the emotions I felt at that time.

‘Your mom wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me but I do, I think I do’ Real mitski real especially the ‘I think I do’ AGHHHHH SHE JUST GETS IT

Not about the actual meaning of the song, but the part that says "you have so much to do, and i have nothing ahead of me" hits me particulary, since when someone is the little spoon they arent facing anything nor anyone,, the part "your mother wouldnt approve of how my mother raised me but i do" hits me in a familiar way, i wasnt raised like a normal kid and the lyrics that almost say that the person needed to accept how their own mother raised them resembles me.

I relate to this song so much coming from a African American and a Haitian immigrant. Like this song shows how I feel like I’m an outsider and don’t really belong. Especially since I live around white people and don’t really have black/poc as friends.

This song was sent to me by a guy once. He was my mom's friend son, this particular friend had a strict traditional way of parenting. My mother and other friends always felt bad for her kids, her son was a very good friend of mine and growing up I wasn't really affectionate nor interested in love. One night we were texting and he sent me this song with a lengthy message, turns out he liked me for years and thought I looked down on him because he didn't do well in school or because he was raised the old way. I was shocked to say the least, we met the next day and had a long conversation and I told him " I'm not going to tell you that I know what you're feeling but I am gonna tell you that you were always my best boy" he cried into my arms that day but he was happy and relieved in the end and that's what I care about ♡

Growing up I had two best friends who were Mexican, and they’d REFUSE to go outside without an umbrella or something to cover their skin because they “wanted to be as pale as me and didn’t want dark skin” is what they said. I didn’t realize how heartbreaking that was at the time but looking back I feel awful they thought they had to lighten their skin to be pretty.

as a the oldest first gen woc this makes me think of the difference of treatment between me and my brothers. i love them with all my heart but i will allways be so jealous of them

“your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me. but i do, i finally do.” wow.

i can feel this song like truth realized

this song breaks me down everytime i listen to it because it reminds me of when i felt unaccepted in my american school as an asian