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Merrie Gresham: Stepdaughter-in-law to CS Lewis | Rejection and Restoration

At six, Merrie was rejected by her mother, who wanted to join a religious order and couldn’t be burdened with looking after her. Instead, Merrie was raised by nuns and was trained by them in nursing. Having never known the security of being loved, Merrie thought she had found love at last when she met a boy in her teens. But, her world collapsed when instead, she found herself pregnant and alone. Worse still, there was no way she could confess to the nuns…
Sometime later, it meant absolutely nothing to Merrie that the young man who was continually asking her to marry him was the stepson of C. S. Lewis, one of the most famous writers of the twentieth century. She rejected Douglas Gresham’s proposal for three years before eventually agreeing to marriage. But the life of bliss she had hoped for didn’t materialise, mainly because an unpleasant memory of something that had happened in her teens wouldn’t leave, even though decades had now passed. Instead of maturing into a happy person, anger became a dominant emotion in Merrie’s life. She didn’t want life to be like that but didn’t know how to change. But one day, in a very unexpected way, Merrie took the first step towards her road to recovery.
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  • @sharonf9012
    @sharonf90123 ай бұрын

    What a wonderful testimony! My heart went out to Merrie in her struggles and I'm so happy she found Jesus. Such a blessing to hear.

  • @hannahhope3553
    @hannahhope3553 Жыл бұрын

    What a sweet, beautiful, pure woman. Blown away by her honesty. ❤️

  • @jeanlanz2344
    @jeanlanz2344 Жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful story of healing and love in Christ. Her patient and loving husband stuck with her, and helped lead Merrie to Christ. God bless your marriage, children, and family. Thank you for sharing.

  • @pnutbutrncrackers
    @pnutbutrncrackers3 жыл бұрын

    This was such a precious blessing. I hope Merrie reads this comment and knows that the courage and honesty with which she shared her story touched my soul deeply, and I'm sure many others as well. Wonderful.

  • @hillbill3243
    @hillbill32433 жыл бұрын

    Such a lovely testimony of God's transformative love. Thank you.

  • @mortalclown3812
    @mortalclown3812 Жыл бұрын

    My grandfather once said that Jesus is a bird and that churches are cages: I think I understand him more as time goes by. God loves us all equally, eternally, immensely and without exception. The healing expanse of such love is ineffable and transformative entirely. How beautiful this story was... and affirming. It does seem like fate was in the mix. May we heed the whispers of our angels - messengers of that Love. Blessings to everyone.

  • @highball2231
    @highball22314 жыл бұрын

    WOW Merrie your honesty is so Awesome....❤️👍😎

  • @pedinurse1
    @pedinurse13 жыл бұрын

    I cant help but cry, what a story, God always wants redeemption. What a glorious testimony

  • @joanneodonnell5910

    @joanneodonnell5910

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me too I'm crying cause Jesus died for us what a love he has he is love gosh I love this thank you Jesus what a God to have gosh how beautiful this is

  • @edwardhall2067
    @edwardhall20673 жыл бұрын

    After watching the interview with Douglas Grisham, I watched this and I am so glad I did. Absolutely awesome!

  • @rebanelson607

    @rebanelson607

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here. I feel a sense of connection with these two Believers that I've never experienced from listening to a testimony. Beautiful. God is always calling out to the suffering and the searching. God is good!

  • @Pamela.B

    @Pamela.B

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes! Lovely testimonies. God is so good.

  • @denicelittle325
    @denicelittle3252 жыл бұрын

    To go back to my pre Christian days would be like going back to some sort of madness. I love it. She has what I have a peace in Jesus. A wonderful testimony

  • @monikabucher5572
    @monikabucher55725 жыл бұрын

    Jesus did it all, all to Him I owe! Thank you Merrie for this amazing testimony!

  • @SzerenM
    @SzerenM3 жыл бұрын

    Rejection in a child's life is devastating. I know it I went true it. Takes a lifetime to overcome it if ever.

  • @brandnewyorker
    @brandnewyorker Жыл бұрын

    So chillingly familiar… Loneliness, resentment, love, anger, energy, wrestling with God, peace…. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏💕

  • @TomMcClean
    @TomMcClean7 жыл бұрын

    Well done Merrie that wasn't an easy look through your life. It's very hard mulling over and exposing to the world, those times when we have mucked up big time. Thank you for your honesty.

  • @Pearcity

    @Pearcity

    Жыл бұрын

    Merrie, what a lovely story of redemption ❤

  • @SharonNikon
    @SharonNikon8 жыл бұрын

    Merrie I knew you almost 30 years ago in Ringarooma (Tasmania) - in your big house behind the hedge - and you were a beautiful person then. You were generous and loving, and helped me no end. I will always remember you very fondly.

  • @yvonnerahui8729

    @yvonnerahui8729

    20 күн бұрын

    Oh wow..I was hoping you might have been able to connect with Merrie. Would have been exciting for you seeing this video.

  • @CaptainKoozmack
    @CaptainKoozmack Жыл бұрын

    Oh the power of testimony.

  • @CaptainKoozmack

    @CaptainKoozmack

    Жыл бұрын

    And the hope of endurance. I've coined a phrase for myself which is "it will take my whole life to live my whole life." And I know that God will be there to meet me when I arrive to that point.

  • @milels6917
    @milels69173 жыл бұрын

    What a angelic face How honest she is a lot of women will know how she felt as a young woman and the first time she knew love

  • @sagradobethgravina
    @sagradobethgravina Жыл бұрын

    A touching testemony. 🙏🏼

  • @sharonleis1365
    @sharonleis13652 жыл бұрын

    Such a beautiful woman and her honesty is refreshing. God bless Merrie's words.

  • @rebanelson607
    @rebanelson6072 жыл бұрын

    Boarding school must have been a horrible experience for thousands of children. I've read what C.S. Lewis wrote about his own nightmarish school. Thanks for this testimony. It has been a blessing. C. S. Lewis has had a profound effect on the lives of many people. His life and works are like a golden thread of blessing that continues to bring light and hope to the world.

  • @joseacosta1354
    @joseacosta13546 жыл бұрын

    Bravely put, such palpable pain.

  • @aprillund9137
    @aprillund91374 жыл бұрын

    I’m grateful to have stumbled upon your story, Thank you for sharing your beautiful testimony for JESUS💙!

  • @joeysmomable
    @joeysmomable2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Merrie. I'm glad God sent you to Douglas.

  • @nanettedoerr4396
    @nanettedoerr43962 жыл бұрын

    Dear Merrie; What a testimony this is. I can so relate to the double life, and the anger (not knowing where it was coming from)I do know now. My recovery is slow but realizing that Jesus gave his life for me, and wants me at peace. Thank you for sharing.

  • @hmbseesaw
    @hmbseesaw5 жыл бұрын

    What a treasure to stumble onto your story Mary. I feel like I know you. Gary

  • @user-to8ye6mk9m
    @user-to8ye6mk9m Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, dear sister, for this touching, outspoken story. God be with you and your family always.

  • @MalumbaBono
    @MalumbaBono4 жыл бұрын

    "To go back to my pre-Christian days would be like going back to some form of madness." Wow. What a note to end on. Thank you, Merrie Gesham, for sharing this candid testimony with the world. It will do an enormous amount of good. God bless you, Douglas, and all you love.

  • @liseernie

    @liseernie

    4 жыл бұрын

    ...so right!

  • @gailjoynt-sigley9450
    @gailjoynt-sigley94504 жыл бұрын

    Thank you sooo much Merrie. What a wonderful honest and genuine testimony. Blessings

  • @fredafleetwood7078
    @fredafleetwood70787 жыл бұрын

    Very honest and very brave lady, Thinking of you all

  • @jo9354
    @jo93544 жыл бұрын

    Rejection. Truly the most devastating thing that can happen in a child's life. No human can heal it. But God can... and he LOVES to step in and do it! Thank you, John for letting Merrie share her story. It is something I desperately needed to hear at this time!

  • @preciousstory244

    @preciousstory244

    4 жыл бұрын

    I’m so glad you found it helpful J O. Thank you for your comment. Blessings.

  • @pamelaroebuck1079
    @pamelaroebuck10792 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Merrie. You are a most precious being.

  • @mollyshumaker7325
    @mollyshumaker73253 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful story of GOD's redemptive love for us, and what powerful change comes from accepting HIS love. Thank you for sharing.

  • @carismacatalyst1289
    @carismacatalyst12894 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much for sharing your Story. It was deeply moving because i saw the suffering in your eyes. 🕊

  • @savedbygrace777
    @savedbygrace7772 жыл бұрын

    I just loved this interview, I swear her life is almost identical to mine! Praise God, he is so real!

  • @thebluedoorstep647
    @thebluedoorstep6475 жыл бұрын

    God loved you so much, Merrie, as to never let you go. Thank you for sharing.

  • @tarey05
    @tarey052 жыл бұрын

    Merrie, you were a victim of narcissistic abuse inflicted by your mother. God bless you, Merry, for surviving that! You are so courageous and an inspiration!

  • @samsmom400

    @samsmom400

    Жыл бұрын

    Narcissism is a form of demonic possession.

  • @glyniscooper5820
    @glyniscooper58203 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Merrie for your heartfelt testament which has been such a help to me. God bless you.

  • @joerhodes8785
    @joerhodes87854 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful couple, beautiful story.

  • @thovenne
    @thovenne7 жыл бұрын

    such a beautiful testimoy! your big heart shines!

  • @avalondreaming1433
    @avalondreaming14332 жыл бұрын

    Imagine being 5 years old in a strange land alone and seeing your family only once a year.

  • @ruthheyl6895
    @ruthheyl68954 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this beautiful testimony!

  • @jiara01
    @jiara012 жыл бұрын

    Marrie is so beautiful and so is her story. Thank you for sharing your story Merrie. I love how Douglas said, "I had seen this girl that I had been looking for all my life, and I recognised her." What a precious people and couple you are. God bless!

  • @scostie
    @scostie4 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful story. What a blessing.

  • @cecilefox9136
    @cecilefox91362 жыл бұрын

    I loved listening and watching Merrie´s story, how sad a lot of it was!

  • @marysmyth8288
    @marysmyth82883 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Merrie for a wonderful testimonial Mary Canada 🇨🇦

  • @fastteddyb
    @fastteddyb5 жыл бұрын

    My goodness - true love story. That was difficult for her to tell - happy ending!

  • @ryszarddopierala6624
    @ryszarddopierala6624 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your experience in our crazy life..

  • @meanwhile4308
    @meanwhile43082 жыл бұрын

    Simply beautiful, she is so lovely💞. Learning to forgive ourselves through and from the love of our Father Creator is astonishing!

  • @joannafelten1959
    @joannafelten19598 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your witness.

  • @carolhensen8005
    @carolhensen8005 Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful story, Thank you for sharing your life…….

  • @gardenerkatecarter5911
    @gardenerkatecarter59113 жыл бұрын

    The first thing my friend said afterwards was you seem to think before you speak now.......I read the Bible, Koran, lots of godly ways of healing. It’s a joy to hear you and see you . Thanks for hanging out with me today Mary

  • @katharinebuckman2815

    @katharinebuckman2815

    3 жыл бұрын

    Are you reading one as Trurth or still expecting both books to?

  • @peruseperusing5027
    @peruseperusing50272 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful testimony. God is so Good!! :)

  • @rtrouthouse1506
    @rtrouthouse15063 жыл бұрын

    This is a very precious gift from Merrie. Thank You

  • @fayepinkerton1550
    @fayepinkerton15504 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Merriie...you put into your words th WORD OF GOD. HE LOVES EVEYONE AND YOU SUFFERED LIKE HE DID FR YOU AND US

  • @ClassicRoyal
    @ClassicRoyal3 жыл бұрын

    Bless-ed story! Lovely lady! Praise God for her testimony!❤️🙏

  • @jshalemnissie3404
    @jshalemnissie3404 Жыл бұрын

    I really really like you ma'am thank you for sharing this wonderful testimony

  • @bheinzel5101
    @bheinzel51012 жыл бұрын

    So encouraging her testimony. Warms my heart. And just proofs Gods love to me too. Praise God for His amazing love through Christ

  • @Childoftheking89
    @Childoftheking892 жыл бұрын

    So touched and encouraged. Really incredible testimony. God is so good!

  • @marilynmouton9818
    @marilynmouton98189 ай бұрын

    A beautiful honest story. So real a true testimony thank you. ❤

  • @pamosRN
    @pamosRN3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your heart!!! Such an encouragement!

  • @jerryheller7446
    @jerryheller744611 ай бұрын

    Absolutely beautiful testimony. Thank you so much for sharing. Pray it leads others to salvation through Jesus. Lord and Savior

  • @flashlitestriker4028
    @flashlitestriker40282 жыл бұрын

    What an awesome, & moving, testimony! Thank you so much for sharing this, John Callister, & Merrie Gresham!

  • @jeffloflin6316
    @jeffloflin63162 жыл бұрын

    Excellent!

  • @newmannoggs
    @newmannoggs7 жыл бұрын

    This is a great testimony. Lovely to hear a bit of Merrie's story which I hadn't heard before. It's wonderful the part that Lewis played in the healing/redemption of his stepson's wife, and great to see those George MacDonald books on the shelf behind Douglas when he's on camera!

  • @rlunnerstall3527
    @rlunnerstall35272 жыл бұрын

    Thank You Merrie for sharing your story, it blessed me beyond words.

  • @josalmon4742
    @josalmon47422 жыл бұрын

    Wow, bless her heart and thank you, how you have touched me.

  • @Voronochka262
    @Voronochka2627 жыл бұрын

    cool interview. wish I could meet them

  • @sallyebrahimi7491
    @sallyebrahimi74912 жыл бұрын

    It was so special finding this while searching you tube. Thank you

  • @petersanmiguel1164
    @petersanmiguel11642 жыл бұрын

    Very good testimony. Thank you!

  • @MarcosJ-mq4lk
    @MarcosJ-mq4lk4 жыл бұрын

    All Praises be to the most high God..The only true and living God.

  • @margyeoman3564
    @margyeoman35644 ай бұрын

    It is this lady's true honesty that puts such light in her face. Light in her heart. Her wisdom is real too. "We let other people be our gods for us. " And if we have them as our happiness, it is a big shift to let go and turn to the true God.

  • @lisaforte1575
    @lisaforte15752 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your testimony!

  • @sandymalon5918
    @sandymalon59184 жыл бұрын

    I enjoyed both stories that I heard and they both touched my heart and you both ment a lot by the way you told the stories and it was touching I believed if I head more stories like this it would help me all so so if you have any more of your self I would Like to hear them because both of them was very great and I appricate you for letting me hear them that was a blessing and they were very great thank you for letting me here you

  • @katharinebuckman2815

    @katharinebuckman2815

    3 жыл бұрын

    The key is to yield to God Almighty as Jesus is nnocking at the door. Only me inside my door, and you inside your door, can ipen the soor to the peraon of Jesus Christ . When you do this, life will turn to a devotion to His Word and His Will for each of our lives.

  • @VickyRBenson

    @VickyRBenson

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@katharinebuckman2815 That’s true, but as I was listening to Merrie’s story, I was stunned how she as a child, mistook the instruction to give her suffering to God as an offering. So sad. He is there to take our burdens upon Himself-has already taken them and wants to LIFT our burdens from us! I also grew up in Africa, but I never had to go to boarding school. Later when my husband and I were in Indonesia, and saw the missionary children there in the mission school, and first-graders sitting on the front row of church, my heart went out to them, and I felt I could never, ever leave my child in a boarding school. God wants us to cast our cares on Him and know He cares for us and wants to comfort us. In that case, “yielding” to Him is a much different proposition than what Merrie thought. His Word becomes food for our souls, and in His presence is fullness of Joy. (I, too, had to stop looking to my husband to be God to me! And release my anger and look to God instead.) It was horrifying to me to think that little Merrie couldn’t look to God for help and didn’t realize how much He loved her. Every child needs to learn that first-hand. We love Him because He first loved us! 💝❤️ Merrie finally did learned this through her pain, and through the love that God sent her through a husband who loved her. She was able to share the reality of how she came to love Jesus so beautifully. We should all share our stories because we never know what people have suffered through.

  • @carolineheydenrychartist9732
    @carolineheydenrychartist97325 жыл бұрын

    Jesus is way! Thank you Merrie for sharing your testimony.

  • @kay-pu7hr
    @kay-pu7hr11 ай бұрын

    Her story is similar to mine, especially wanting affection from males. I also became pregnant and had an abortion which even when I did it, I knew it was a life and I always regretted it. (I would have dreams of getting married in a "pink" wedding dress rather than in white.). Many years later I decided to follow Jesus and found new life in Him. I am thankful today--I am old now-- that He died for my sins but there are still consequences. I hurt myself and my unborn child, but God knows me, and one day in heaven I will meet my child. I don't know how that will happen, but God knows, and He has a plan for my life, "a plan for good and not for evil". Praise the Lord, there is hope in Christ. For anyone reading this, there is life in Christ if we turn to Him. I have special understanding of other young women who are looking for love "in all the wrong places" as I did. They needed love and God loves them. There is hope in Christ, and I am grateful.

  • @Isilzhatheta1
    @Isilzhatheta16 жыл бұрын

    Lovely testimony and witness. So was she brought up Anglican or Catholic? She doesn't say. She is still a very handsome woman. A greater appreciation for Douglas Gresham now.

  • @katharinebuckman2815

    @katharinebuckman2815

    3 жыл бұрын

    Was v.common to be sent to a convent school with no religious or Christian upbringing- especially in the class that young Merrie came from.

  • @24dmiller
    @24dmiller3 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful! Thanks be to God.

  • @godfreydaniels702
    @godfreydaniels7025 ай бұрын

    Merrie and Doug thanks for a inspiring testimony pray you are all blessed GODFREY AND MURIEL LOVE YOU LOTS

  • @toriferris629
    @toriferris6292 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Merrie! You have touched my heart in a very personal way. We've similar past history and I would love to meet you one day. If God doesn't permit it in this life on earth I look forward with greetings in heaven. Your sister in Christ, Tori Migliore Ferris

  • @SuppersReady8880
    @SuppersReady8880 Жыл бұрын

    Two very precious souls on a journey through the deep tough love truths about themselves and the Redeemer. Really appreciate the transparency and honesty, thank you both and John too.

  • @ladyketurahinwaiting
    @ladyketurahinwaiting Жыл бұрын

    I miss you Merrie. I had many good times with you. Thank you for allowing me to live in your home and be a part of your life. Love you Merrie, outrageous blessings on you 💝

  • @yvonnerahui8729

    @yvonnerahui8729

    20 күн бұрын

    I hope you can find Merrie as his video was put by someone else. Maybe he might now.

  • @rezmetis6723
    @rezmetis67233 жыл бұрын

    Wo! Cool! The gift of faith, hope and love. The three theological virtues.

  • @rlyman111
    @rlyman1113 жыл бұрын

    Well said. Glad for the journey!

  • @carlosreira2189
    @carlosreira218911 ай бұрын

    Amazing story, so much in it to learn from. LOVE must be be real to have a positive effect. But God will "cause all things to work together for good for those that love Him and are called according to His purposes."

  • @paulaguinazzo6363
    @paulaguinazzo63632 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful testimony

  • @stevenforman3044
    @stevenforman30445 жыл бұрын

    Nice video. Thanks heaps. :D

  • @lindatenn8028
    @lindatenn80283 жыл бұрын

    We are joyous that Jesus who is love is in you and your love in him. Wonderful.

  • @cf-kw5qo
    @cf-kw5qo Жыл бұрын

    God loves you so much ! So sad for this pain in your young life : you will see your child in heaven

  • @liseernie
    @liseernie4 жыл бұрын

    fantastic testimony

  • @mariadelagarza0928
    @mariadelagarza09286 жыл бұрын

    She's so beautiful:)

  • @rosalindmartin4469
    @rosalindmartin44692 жыл бұрын

    Powerful. Better than any fictional account written for money and fame.

  • @Sophiamia6960
    @Sophiamia69602 жыл бұрын

    Wow that is a absolutely beautiful story! Only Jesus can make us whole!!He loves us so much!!!

  • @elizabethfarrell9650
    @elizabethfarrell96505 жыл бұрын

    Truly liked it. :D

  • @Gemmagalgani99
    @Gemmagalgani992 жыл бұрын

    A big hello from Amy with the red hair who stayed with you in 2002! Hugs! 😘

  • @christinelanterme9324
    @christinelanterme932413 күн бұрын

    What a brave lady. How beautiful your life became.

  • @JesusHernandez-do4ic
    @JesusHernandez-do4ic6 жыл бұрын

    The best is yet to come.

  • @ingridsalzmann5439
    @ingridsalzmann54392 жыл бұрын

    Hmmm. Empathy of course for everything difficult that shaped Merrie's life, and wonderful that she now feels fulfilled. However. I too had an abortion, at the age of 19. I had it because I knew that there was no way I could take care of that child properly, and NO way I could ever put a child up for adoption, given the perverts and psychopaths and even just psychologically and psychospiritually unformed people out there into whose hands that child might fall. So I asked it to come back later, and it is my conviction and experience that that is what that soul did (no I cannot prove that, just as you cannot prove faith but can only live it, - though the child herself told me so) . Never have I experienced a day's guilt over that abortion - and I am a person who has been very prone to feelings of guilt. I believe this lack of guilt is because the God I have known since earliest childhood is a non-judgemental, loving God, greater by far than the creeds and codified beliefs, stemming after all from human (mis?)understanding , with which we would bind and shackle It/God (I use the neuter advisedly: regard the genderless forms of Hebrew). It is a God of understanding and of accompaniment of us through our life's challenges, a God of unconditional love. Of this I've never had any doubt. As to nuns, with whom I too grew up, well they are also mere people. Why Merrie should feel hypocritical vis à vis the nuns, with regard to her misguided but very understandable search for love - haven't we all been there, in our own ways - is easy to understand (given the successful indoctrination of their preaching) but completely unwarranted. Nuns are, as a rule, easily the most emotionally crippled group of people I've ever encountered. Well-intentioned, in some BUT NOT ALL cases, but so adept at suppression and denial by virtue of their training/initiation that there is no way they can stand as examples to any of us, living in the real world of daily challenge, for becoming emotionally and spiritually developed human beings. My question: woukd C. S. Lewis, such a beautiful example of Christian living, have judged you for that abortion? I know Bishop Tutu, another luminous Christian soul, never would have. I'm sure both of them would have advised against it, but judged? I profoundly doubt it.

  • @VickyRBenson

    @VickyRBenson

    2 жыл бұрын

    You’re right in this; Jesus did not come into the world to condemn the world but to save it. He did not even condemn the woman caught in the act of adultery, and told her so, while saying to Go and sin no more. Sometimes we seem to forget the message of reconciliation we have been given to relay to the world as God’s ambassadors, “God was in Christ, reconciling the world to Himself, NOT imputing their trespasses to them” but has committed to us the word of reconciliation, to plead with them on Christ’s behalf to be reconciled to God!

  • @k.17383
    @k.173832 жыл бұрын

    Amen!

  • @selenahadlow9700
    @selenahadlow9700 Жыл бұрын

    God bless you❤❤❤❤❤

  • @77agape
    @77agape2 жыл бұрын

    good story