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He depends upon your appreciation to feel good, that's intimacy for him. Pleasing you gives him pleasure, let him do for you. Let him be your hero, set him up for success to win with you.

Stay in your feminine and stay positive. Don’t sweat the small stuff. He wants to please you. Avoid negativity.

I have so much respect for Dr John Grey. What a powerhouse of knowledge and experience. Thank you Dr Grey for your generosity in providing us with totally free information that is truly transformative. I speak from experience. Dr John saved and continues to save my marriage on a regular basis.

Tell him 3 things you’d like to do - let him pick. He wants to make you happy 😊 and then he can take credit for

@mariamejia4969

2 жыл бұрын

Or just do the PAPER ROCK SCISSORS CHALLENGe

John makes me excited to get back out there and date. I love men and am hoping to find my next partner.

I definitely understand the "rubber band" thing. My man is like Velcro to me, I can barely do anything on my own. Then sudden he will recoil and close down. In past relationships that would have made me feel really panicked and insecure but for some reason l don't feel that way with him. I just tell him to come back when he feels like it then make myself busy with the things I can't do with him. (I literally wrote a book during these times.) Then, anywhere between one and three days, he springs back to life, now full of gratitude that l had no problem giving him his space when he wanted it. Life continues the way it was for about 4-6 weeks and then it happens again.

@richerDiLefto

7 ай бұрын

Hmm, interesting. And they say men have no “cycle!”

@MelodyAMc14

7 ай бұрын

@richerDiLefto My husband has been through a lot of stuff as a soldier then as a first responder. I strongly suspect it has something to do with PTSD and triggered anxiety. He recoils to deal with it then returns when he has his composure back.

I read the classic Men are from Mars and Women from Venus 30 years ago. Men needing cave time is something that helps me to understand my partners behavior. I'm addicted listening to Mr. Gray and It makes a lot easier now to deal with my with my partner ! I'm enjoying learning a lot of things about relationships. Something I can pass to my daughter and son in the future! ❤ Thank you for featuring him in your channel.

Men & women misinterpret each other bcuz we're differrent. Mars & Venus is Genius 😎😘

When a woman is self sufficient there is no room for a man to make her happy. A man wants to feel appreciated, valued, acknowledged, adored. A woman wants to feel cherished, loved, appreciated, acknowledged, adored & respected. Respect is a two way street imo.

Wow. I learn so much from this guy. Amazing

A book called WHEN TESTOSTERONE MEETS ESTROGEN

@celestelesego3347

Жыл бұрын

Hi there I can not the book with the title you mentioned and I'm super intrigued. Please help

Its not a big deal but whay I'd really like is .... Don't sweat the small stuff He wants to please you, point out the positives to build him up Nagging, complaining, brings him down, lowers testosterone Let him DO for YOU and respond with appreciation ... Romance occurs when estrogen goes up when he's happy to provude, tell him three things you want to do and let him pick something that makes him happy and take full credit for it. Setting a man up for success, is making you happy. If you give a man a task, give him the credit...John found it, John picked it, John made it, John is a great communicator. Men need ego boosts and hero cookies of praise & admiration. What do you think? Let him pick, he gets appreciation & acknowledgement. Its not a big deal, its not a fight to the death, lol. Say it out loud, all the wonderful things he does for you. Gradually educate, teach a man indirectly or gently. A direct approach cones off as bossy, ctrling, demanding which makes a man cringe, resist. He needs gentle coaxing not boss vibes, being told what to do turns them off and they will refuse. Let them be your Hero, let him win. Let him hear how he helps you, what you appreciate, say it with humour, lighten up. Smile, be happy and he's happy.

I just want to say I used the same technique with my landlord and my son said mom just say no rush and it worked !!!what a difference!!! This works on male and female interpersonal relating

Women unknowingly sabotage by focusing on what you're not getting instead of focusing on what you want. It isn't A big deal, I noticed you did this and I appreciate that. Ask in a loving way, the art of effective communication is asking in a loving tone of voice, ask nicely, notice & appreciate. How to motivate a man to put a fire out, he needs to feel needed. We both need each other to reintegrate our masculine feminine selves. We need guidance & understanding to navigate successful relationships & positive interactions. So true!

That sounds so sweet that a man wants to please a woman! I have never met a man who wants to please me, but they sure do want to please other women! Guys tell me how much they enjoy pleasing other women. Why do they enjoy tormenting me by talking about how much they love other women?

@rdgobjects9754

2 жыл бұрын

Don't go for men who you don't emotionally connect with - if you can't emotionally connect with yourself practise then you can choose the right man rather than the men who use you

@jeanlemcke6458

2 жыл бұрын

@@rdgobjects9754 I don't understand what you are saying. Emotionally connect with myself? What does that look like, and how do you do that? I know you feel physical pain, but how do you feel emotions? Could you please explain? Thank you!

@sylvia-cerstintaylor8944

2 жыл бұрын

@@jeanlemcke6458 try mindfulness, meditation, therapy etc. Get insight into yourself and connect with what you are feeling, where you are feeling it, etc

@aminaa1115

2 жыл бұрын

Hi guys my name is amina from Kenya l am single for 11yrs l feel lonely l never come across a good guy in my life l want to date l am 32yrs pliz advice me

@FlawlesZMa

2 жыл бұрын

@@sylvia-cerstintaylor8944 that is a bad suggestion she dont need this new age stuff..we need to connect with God to Know who we are. Read his Word

Thank you so much for these gems! This video was pure ecstasy!

Your lecture is so special and loving, and have so much implications for private relationships and for understanding the world

Thank you very much Michelle and Dr. John Gray for all your great effort!🙏🏻💖

As always. Thumbs up !

This is extremely valuable!!

When I used to occasionally get upset with my ex husband, he would go on and on with escalation. I would say at a later point in time. When I’m upset just give me 10 minutes and you know then I’m fine. He never followed that advice.

@mysteria5804

2 ай бұрын

I think most of these dating and relationship advice only apply to normal human beings. Any person with psychological or mental or personality disorders should be avoided

Wow, John & Michelle… 🙈🙉😂👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 thank you! 🏆

@abdohm5219

2 жыл бұрын

Hi CHRISTINA haw are you

Thanks Michelle

If u knew how to get it you would have it🌸 thank you all 💡

Just a little bookmark: 31:33 Thank you!

Let the man be the expert, stop correcting him, let him figure it out on his own,. Give him an out don't call him out 💥 pointing out his flaws makes him feel like a failure, criticism is pointing out his flaws. He will retreat, deflate. A stressed woman talks about problems to counter correct, her estrogen levels goes up and her stress levels go down. Emotions are highly regulated with talk therapy for women.

I absolutely don’t know. I’m afraid I never will. 🥺

Lovely

I have a curious question about the rubber band and cave time phenomenon. When y’all say don’t let him get too far on his feminine/estrogen stage, is there any way to measure that in time or efforts? I understand it can’t be a specific amount or exact measure of time, but is there even an estimate?

Really man will ask "what you want to do" ? Whant to provide and protect for a woman. Unbelieveble!

Does the hormonal balance dynamics change when a man has had trauma in intimate relationships?

@zaria5785

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. He will go deeper into his feminine energy or extreme masculine. Examples: taking more risks: gambling, riding a motorcycle or driving really fast, drugs and alcohol, or overt sexual deviant behavior.

Lifes too short to invest in relationships 101

Stress makes men bias negatively, pessimistic outlook. How to regulate his emotions is to detach from his feelings produces low testosterone and too much estrogen. Watching tv is disconnecting and relaxing ...rebuilds testosterone if you usr it up. If your too much in tv mode your too much in estrogen, he gets bored with you, pulls away to regain interest. Let him disconnect to build testosterone to regain interest in you. Don't pressure or demand him to pursue you, let him wax and wane. Let him come and go and be happy to see him, smile and greet him warmly. A warm welcome always feels good 😊 Reward his accomplishments and he will reward you and make you happy.

What if he says things that hurt you? And even after talking it out he does it again. Then what? Does he care or respect his partner?

@zaria5785

2 жыл бұрын

If you create boundaries that he continues to cross, or agreements that he knowingly breaks and it doesn’t make you feel good, go silent. Do your own thing and keep to a schedule that you can control. You can’t control him. And when he is ready to talk ask him what kind of a relationship he is expecting when he hurts you. Leave that question for him to ponder and go out for a walk for an hour and by the time you return he may have pondered about it deeper. Then if he changes the subject ask him “Have you had a chance to think over my question .” Leave it at that. Either he’ll shift his approach or you’ll know if the relationship has a future. I’m not an expert but that would be my approach.

@nsotara

2 жыл бұрын

@@zaria5785 thank you. Appreciate the direction and help.

@adj5767

2 жыл бұрын

@@zaria5785 absolutely A+ answer. Very measured, poised and self-possessed, all feminine qualities.