We are so excited to be taking you guys along with us for this!!! Did I explain it ok? If you have questions, leave them here. 😁

@namakandosimenda4390

Жыл бұрын

18.09.2022 Which tradition or culture is used in a mixed marriage? I hold the view that no one should be compelled to uphold traditions or culture of the other in any mixed marriage. I personally object to being subjected to traditions like having to pay dowry or lobola. Why should one pay for his bride or wife? Tradition is doing certain things because others did them or still do them. Most traditions are connected to ancestral spirits and evil covenants. I am not a traditionalist because many so- called traditionalists have failed to explain why I should uphold certain traditions apart from saying "it's our tradition!". Lobola is meaningless and should be outlawed in Zambia. Read and learn what happened to Laban in the Bible. . .Laban was forced to do the right thing at the end i.e. bless his daughters and the marriage.

@sindiswandlazi

Жыл бұрын

Loving family you put smiles on our faces and this is what we call LOVE

@preciousoge3224

Жыл бұрын

@@namakandosimenda4390 so how else would he marry her officially?

As a Zambian this new to me too so I’m excited that i got the chance to see the procedure 👌🏾😍

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Glad we are able to help...I don’t even know if we are allowed to show some of that👀🤫🤫

The girls looks just like their dad and the son looks like his mom…such a beautiful family.Thanks for sharing your journey,you guys are the perfect couple with such polite children..God bless your family and relationship/marriage 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️

This goes somewhat exactly like ours in western Uganda except its animals instead of cash. The having kids out of "wedlock" z also considered a massive bad so an extra animal or 2 or more depending on the family. African cultures are so intertwined. Similarly we also use representatives on both sides of the family. Love this video a whole lot

Gal, never be apologetic about your culture. The Indians and Israelites have progressed because of upholding their cultures. The British recently buried their Queen culturally. Africans should also carry their cultures into modernity!!!!

This has a lot of similarities to some Asian cultures. Very beautiful and respectful ❤️

❤. I bet her family was very impressed with your raw honesty, wisdom to rectify the situation and especially the love you have for their daughter/niece/cousin/granddaughter/etc.

I’m so happy your family excepted! You two were meant to be together!

This is the same even in Kenya, at least I can talk about my tribe. You pay even more if you have a son or sons. Looks like our traditions have some sort of similarities. Your family seems humble. This was fun to watch.

I am so glad he did the right thing

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Hey hun! Absolutely!!! Me too. I’m so grateful too. ☺️

This was amazing to watch Really exclusive content 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

Wow my hubby was happy to see this .his also just started negotiation after 2kids🤗

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Omg congratulations!!!! So happy for you guys!!! Let’s us know how it goes. 🤗

Amazing video!! I love the way you guys relate with each other. True love!😍

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

We really do. It flows so well when marry your bestie ☺️

This is beautiful Racheal. You are raised well

This was so artistic, creative and beautiful, by this time I had watched the lobola video already. All the best dearests 👏👏👏💜❤️💙

Very much like in South Africa too the whole lebola negotiations. From paying for damages, having a family rep or so to the negotiations.

Thank you for sharing, this is sacred...

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your support🥰🥰🥰

Awwwww this bought me to tears, it was beautiful

I’m so excited and anxious for this surprise

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Omg I was too! I was trying to be patient and it was so HARD. 😂🤣

It's the pettiness of the melting all that ice for me too cute

Totally adorable 🥰

Looks interesting. Let me relax and enjoy the video

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Aaaww thank you. How did you like it? ☺️

Wow amazing, you explained well...and congratulations to you both❤️

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I am glad her family was willing to work with me and have forgiven me. It is a weight off my shoulders

I’m Zimbabwean and as a new generation Zimbabwean there’s a lot about our culture that’s lost to me. So watching this helped cause I can see some similarities between your culture and ours so I imagine that the idea is the same. Thank you for sharing ❤

@kasikwagoma6740

Жыл бұрын

Panashe joy I am surprised how can it be lost to you?? Did your parents not bring you up with your culture? My mother is a shona from Zimbabwe but my dad is a Zambian. I noticed that there were a lot of similarities between us and it is beautiful to see.

@iampanashejoy

Жыл бұрын

@@kasikwagoma6740 well, my dad is more of a modern man. My mother does teach me about our culture but aspects such as these are a bit uncomfortable to ask about so finding out about them online is a blessing. And my parents are separated so the things concerning my tribe and how we do things are ‘lost’ with my dad. My mum may not have enough knowledge on them.

😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 that was unexpectedly beautiful. The final note 📝

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you hun. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts. ❤️

i am Burundians we do the same things as well i love this. thank you for sharing

Wow this is great, Gabe well done

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. It’s really good it went so well too. ☺️

I totally enjoyed..

I'm from south africa and this practice is common in for many cultures in my country, and I think yours is close to the baVenda culture. Love it ❤️

@takalani4329

Жыл бұрын

You are very right. I am Venda and this is how we do it.

You guys are awesome.

Great video

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much. Truly appreciate it very much.

Wow culture is beautiful ❤️❤️❤️

That was a nice trick. Gabe

Wow this was real and awesome congratulations we are learning honey all the best

40 years ago my late husband had to pay my ma !ina approximately $200.00 AS LABOLA. She raised me disciplined me and most off all she loved me. (Ps I am a white South African) . I still uphold all the African traditions she instilled in me.

Never seen before content my love so exclusive thanks i love the humble apology from mulamu Gab love from Gigy

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Aaww thank you so much my dear. Truly appreciate the feedback. It means so much to us. ☺️

This was beautiful. Such a beautiful culture. 😍

Great video.... proudly Zambian

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much. We truly are. ☺️

Nice one

It was fun 😂😂😂😂😂

Good I like 😂😂

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you ☺️

My wife's dowry for her was set up a bit different. I guess me and my wife was my representative when negotiating for her dowry.

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

Really?! It’s amazing how each culture is similar yet so different. Yes! I’ve heard of that before. Ours isn’t in the least possible without a representative

@this_is_africa

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheBeyerleBunch I parents already passed. The dowry was for her three brothers. Her uncle was consulting me telling me how it is done. So, I wonder if that made it different?

@this_is_africa

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheBeyerleBunch I parents already passed. The dowry was for her three brothers. Her uncle was consulting me telling me how it is done. So, I wonder if that made it different?

Gal, you have a very loving husband!!!! All the blessings of your African grandies that have gone before you be upon you!!!!!

How did you come up with that idea Gabe ? 😍😍

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

I keep asking him this too. Let me have him maybe explain to us both here soon. ☺️

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good Culture should be upheld. It shows your roots and thus one cannot get lost no matter where you are on this world. I respect your husband's decision to respect it coze it means he love and respects who you are, the importance of you and your children being attached to your family and to have a relationship with your family. I pray that God also forgave him for not going in the right channel at first as even your family forgave him and enjoy life to the fullest .it's nice to see your on family happy

Fun but it’s too much work My anxiety levels ah

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 right?! Triggered my anxiety too! 😩

My brother Is marrying this lovely lady from Albania I can imagine what he had to do was kinda similar lolol

I am confused, isn’t a dowry paid in the beginning? Or different cultures pay it at different times?

@neemaadam

Жыл бұрын

Should be before marriage but they had kids before making everything official. That is why they were fined 'damages' for not following proper procedures.

@Habibtay

Жыл бұрын

He impregenated her before going to pay dowry. That means it can be paid later.

I love everyone in this video but yes I don't know what to think. I'm glad it worked out. It's the money. Not the begging, not the apology, not your Dad deserving respect, it's the money. It's hard enough to feed your family in this world. I'm sure I will get fussed at but I would have accepted everything but the money. I guess I need to be schooled on the subject but my mind always goes to "that's taking things from the grandchildren that they may need"

@noziqu7728

Жыл бұрын

Let me say this money is not that important to African culture. This custom is about respect for the girl's family and the protection of the woman. Paying Dowry is a sign/or a proof on the man's side to the bride's father that I will treat and cherish your daughter as you have done. That is a groom's pledge. Also the dowry is never paid up in full because if you mistreat the woman and run back home you will be penalized and pay more for breaking your vows. That is why marriages were strong no man was changing women like he changes his under wear. Man already know they do not have money to be throwing for all the Lobolas (dowry) and they keep well the woman they have chosen. Another thing it is a diisgrace/taboo to a family to loose her virginity without bride's price that is why a man was expected to pay damages for pregnanting a woman. It is a way culture was preventing fatherless babies. Lastly, may I say we Bantu are the true Israelites and we follow the customs and laws in terms of marriages and circumcision. It is all about Respect and Respect and Respect within the Black African household and we do not need the West to teach us. If you do not roll with it do not join it. Africans do not embrace a woman to have children by many different man is a DISGRACE and ABOMINATION.

@justreinah51

Жыл бұрын

He gives money to the girls family to show them that he is capable of taking care of their daughter it's not about the parents receiving money

@f.-j.j.5738

Жыл бұрын

If giving lobola puts the well-being of the grandkids at risk, then you cannot afford a family to begin with and should not be pursuing marriage. Wait and work until you are financially stable.

@missqt48

Жыл бұрын

Money is just a symbol Many African tribes pay with animals, very common in the olden days.

What is the name of that song I like it

Iam a malayali, I like your videos

Zambians are just too cool or easy, where are the jackets to show respect.

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@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

You rock! ☺️

Hello

Okay hear me out… my partner is Arabic so this is also in his culture but he also agrees with my thought that the adding “damages” was just a lil bit of scammy energy 😅 sorry but that part just lacks logic

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Just audio, can't watch

@TheBeyerleBunch

3 жыл бұрын

That was for only 15 seconds. The rest is video

Gabby is considerete

@TheBeyerleBunch

2 жыл бұрын

He really is. It means the world to me. 🥰

ز في هذا القسم مخصص لعرض # ٠٠فبراير لعرض المعدات البحرية طلعات بحر مناقشات قسم القوارب الرياضية و المسابقات معرض صور

Wow Have liked the fact that the Wife comes from a rich 🤑 Family coz most of the interracial couples 99 percent come from poor Families 👌👌👌👌

@mercym7259

Жыл бұрын

You are senseless