Matthew Hussey: How to Foster Healthy Romantic Relationships
Why do men feel intimidated by women who make more money than them?
In this episode of Habits and Hustle, I chat with Matthew Hussey about how one can foster healthy romantic relationships in today’s modern world. We explore how technology may be getting in the way of many people finding “their person” and how it may hinder our ability to make real connections.
Matthew Hussey is the world’s leading dating advice expert for women. He has coached millions of women around the world to help them get the love lives of their dreams.He's a New York Times bestselling author of “Get The Guy,” the relationship columnist for Cosmopolitan magazine and the resident love expert on The Today Show.
What we discuss:
00:43: What is Matthew’s professional title?
05:32: Is it normal to feel sad about not finding your person?
07:27: Is technology hindering our ability to create relationships offline?
15:55: How did Matthew become who he is today?
20:43: How did Matthew get started in his line of work?
25:28: How did Matthew learn everything he knows?
29:38: Why do women stay in bad relationships?
31:15: How can you raise your self-worth?
37:11: How can you change your beliefs through curiosity?
47:55: How does jealousy show up in relationships?
54:44: How can we overcome social anxiety?
01:04:14: Why do women not like too much attention from men?
01:08:42: Why do people you are interested in make you feel nervous?
01:14:14: How do stories we tell ourselves affect our relationships?
01:24:34: What are the top 3 things that men are the most attractive to in women?
01:36:16: How can standards impact your relationships?
01:37:50: Do men really want a woman who is more successful than them?
01:46:40: What are the two most common questions Matthew receives?
Key takeaways:
The cure to changing the beliefs about yourself it is to become curious about yourself. Too often, we get stuck in a rut of doing things the same ways and then wondering why we can’t separate ourselves from a certain belief we want to eliminate. To do that, you need to become curious about your current situation and look for ways you can move differently to change your perception of yourself and these beliefs.
Social anxiety in dating is something that many of us feel. However, what we fail to realize is that being shy is, in a way, you being selfish. This is because when you are shy, you are withholding empathy and compassion from someone who is in the same room as you and may need it. Thus, looking as your shyness as a way of you doing a disservice to others is one of the many ways you can get yourself to come out of your shell.
The reason why a lot of people stay in relationships that they should leave is not always due to low self-worth. Sometimes it’s due to the fact that they don’t know what beast it is they’re dealing with. When someone has high self-worth and was raised in a very healthy environment, they may not be able to recognize when they are being played by a narcissist or being gaslit. As a result, they stay in relationships where they aren’t aware of how toxic it is.
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"A relationship is replaceable, your life is not." ❤
It would be nice if the host did not constantly interrupt Matthew's answers with her own answer, just wait till the other person finished.
@StorytellingHeadshots
8 ай бұрын
That’s weird, I feel like she keeps trying to say something and Matthew bulldozes through. Perception is hilarious.
@meganpittman0615
7 ай бұрын
I could not agree more with this. It was distracting to the overall message and content being relayed by Matthew.
@elizabethash4720
6 ай бұрын
I enjoyed the banter between Mathew and the hostess. I thought she had great humour and was spot on in tune with Mathew .Well done.😊
@elizabethash4720
6 ай бұрын
Host 😊 ess.
@dragonFly29P
6 ай бұрын
Yeaaaa
Matthew Hussey is such a gem!
I believe that childhood trauma absolutely creates low self worth, abandonment issues etc...and these patterns we learn early on in life sadly follow us into adulthood. We have become so used to this feeling that we seek out,unknowingly relationships that mirror the relationships we had in childhood. Doing the deep work on trauma and pattern changing is key in my opinion to break that cycle.
Matthew is a natural talent and has a tremendous passion for helping people in relationships. He could qualify for a Ph.D in Emotional intelligence👏🙏👍❤️
One thing I noticed is how well spoken Matthew is unlike the interviewer. There's too much of the "like..", "I mean..", "you know.."s. Quite a big contrast. Hope you take it as a constructive criticism, not as hate. It's a great interview, though!
@christinarichie6171
8 ай бұрын
Matthew had a proper education and was around intelligent, genuine people growing up. The host was brought up on garbage and fakeness/shallow/junk tv/junk food.
@JulianKeniryGreen
5 ай бұрын
Not fair.
@walesz92
5 ай бұрын
@@JulianKeniryGreen what’s not fair?
@coolied2865
2 ай бұрын
She has no idea what she is doing at all! She interrupts him all the time with her "right" aha etc..
I met my boyfriend, now fiancé at work. When I was on dating apps, I just found the whole experience to be so exhausting and disappointing. Especially during covid when ppl were even more hesitant to meet up. I just had no interest spending hours on my phone having the same conversation over and over with different ppl. I grew tired/bored of it so quick. I could tell some of these peeps were just lonely and wanted to pass the time, not seriously looking for anything.
@christinarichie6171
8 ай бұрын
Not everyone meets their fiance at work and I'd never recommend getting involved with someone in the workplace either. You're correct about the apps but this is where we are people rarely meet just going about their business outside. Unless your set up by friends and that doesn't happen anymore unless in the upper echelons. Plebs have the crappy apps.
@beccasalt8960
6 ай бұрын
@@christinarichie6171it's interesting that you wouldn't recommend getting involved with someone in the workplace. Historically, that has been one of the most common ways to meet friends and partners. I agree casual sex with work colleagues is a terrible idea, but if real feelings develop and you want to explore it in a healthy and consensual way, I'd say go for it. The only caveat would be making sure there is no power/authority deficit on one side of the work relationship
I commend Matthew for suffering through this interview with poise and patience due to this interviewers scattered thoughts, interruptions, lazy language, inattention (she’s more concerned about what she’s going to say than what Matthew’s saying). The content Matthew shared was invaluable. She really needs another gig. This one isn’t it.
@Sunshine78200
6 ай бұрын
Absolutely agree 100%
@deenalentz7472
5 ай бұрын
Agree!
@coolied2865
2 ай бұрын
Sorry, but she is very annoying with nervous energy
I can’t finish this podcast. I adore Matthew, but can’t listen to her interrupt him any longer.
content was great, I got to see a little bit different side of the content Matt's been saying for years, Jennifer seemingly wants to help so much in phrasing, sometimes rephrasing that it ends up being disruptive, even holding that back made me anxious listening to it, the little breaths, start of words that overlap I promise the silence is ok, Matt is just thinking his way through it, theres no rush 🙏
@coolied2865
2 ай бұрын
YES, You are spot on!!! she is very disruptiven and needs to learn a lot about interviewing people. I had to stop watching it
If someone cheats on you, beats/hits you, harasses or tricks you...leave them ASAP. Trust me. Ask me how I know, unfortunately.
Agree !!! There is no greater thing then LOVE ❤
No, not all of us feel a lack when we don’t have someone in our lives. We may think it would be nice but it’s not bullshit when we say we’re OK without. I would hate to think that accomplished successful loved people think their life is bullshit because they don’t have a significant other. It’s OK to say you’re sad that you don’t have one. It’s also OK to say you’re perfectly fine. Both points of view are valid.
Please allow him to talk and elaborate his valuable thoughts and ideas. Before interrupting with your thoughts.
What she said in the beginning about the lie we don't need anyone is B.S. is SO TRUE. Everything else is indeed distraction because we don't have love. So refreshing to hear someone finally say it.
My life as a single woman always feels incomplete!!! How true is this!?!
So interesting sharing about love relationship,thank you Math& Jennifer,appreciated😮❤
Thankyou, I can relate as soon as I stopped relying and started listening to you.Socially isolated , loathing technology, came across the video leading me here to heal myself!. Your goal to reduce suffering has reached me.and visiting a range of different of those 60-100 000 daily thiughts 🎉
I think she was great not really interrupting him a lot. It’s not good also not to be so quite being the main interviewer. Will come out boring if she doesn’t say a word. But her guest was excellent amazing knowledge of what women go through about relationships. Thanx for a wonderful program..Aloha to both!!♥️🌺👍😊
I was only on dating apps for 3 months, met two great guys and I quit the Apps because I noticed they were always on even after dating me. I didn’t want to be in their rotations.
Wow, absolutely love this interview. I have watched Matthew for awhile. I find his explanations really hit home with me and I feel like I understand things so much better! Excellent!😍😍😍
Watching this I see Matthew being kind and brilliant and the host being abrupt, loud aggressive. She clearly can’t read social cues. If you have someone on your podcast have respect for them and find out about what they do. She mocked his love club as she called it and said it sounded like a swingers club?! She diminished what he does by saying “if I didn’t do this I would do what you do” the only reason I was able to suffer through this was purely to hear Matthew because he is incredible. This woman needs a new job. She was terrible! I cringed Everytime she spoke.
Thank you so much 💓
10:02 No I never wait 4 weeks. I meet ASAP. So many women seem to wait too long. I don’t. I don’t understand why women wait forever. I know I’m not the only woman who doesn’t wait forever.
@christinarichie6171
8 ай бұрын
They're not serious it's just a dopamine hit. Also so many cowards nowadays. Men and women.. 🤡
@thesetruths1404
7 ай бұрын
I agree. I liked to meetup within a week at most.
@lipsticktattoos
3 ай бұрын
I like to give it at least a week of messaging, so I can try and pick up on any ill intentions/bad vibes. I personally see it as a bit of a red flag if a guy won’t commit to at least a week before hounding for a date. I value my safety over anything else.
I feel bad for Mathew at some point 😂
I definitely feel technology has a massive part to play in connecting with people
Such a powerful conversation
you're a natural, Matthew!
Chronic Pain : socially inflicted and self inflicted, as we cannot accept the reality. People around us are not really kind. Even if I am happy alone, it only takes a small number of unkind social comments…
I like it Jessica.Fresh stuff. Different perspective.
I also feel the host was on a very mediocre level comparing with Matthew’s ….she’s has still to learn about the art of listening….but this was a great podcast❤
I couldn’t agree less. This lady saying that PhD ‘studies’ suggest women are lying when they say they are happy with their lives as is, is really unfair. Women are capable of being happy on their own and having their lives as they want them. For her to call that ‘bulls*it’ is very sad and also immature. When she gets a bit older, she’ll learn more and well… Matthew is a man, so he can’t talk about what makes women happy. The point of my comment is, no woman should see this video and be ashamed to be single if they are happy. It’s YOUR life plus, men and women dont love in the same way so protect yourselves from these idealistic views also.
Have to have a love 4 life, so true 👍.
As the great rock band phish once said in the song bittersweet motel - when the only tool you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
1:36:16 should be "how having unrealistic expectations negatively impacts having a relationship" 1:37:50 should be "men don't care how much she makes, they just want to know she appreciates what he brings to the relationship"
@christinarichie6171
8 ай бұрын
Exactly! Everything is inverted now.
Its hard to listen to because of her constant interruptions. She keeps cutting him off mid sentence while he's trying to make an important point just to say something completely irrelevant and unhelpful.
I feel Agape love comes first becuz without it love is fleshly, its greedy and it doesnt edify. I think we are getting it wrong somehow. Why isnt anybody talking about it?
On dating sites, I withhold the fact I have a PhD (I’m also an attorney). If I start dating a man, I have to gauge when it’s “safe” to disclose the PhD: like it’s herpes, or a felony conviction.
@AviatorAngela
4 ай бұрын
😂 Aw.
Very difficult to watch due too so many advertisements... Such a pity...
@charlottefradet6295
7 ай бұрын
get an adblocker :)
Edwin like taiwanese so much,I won't be his spare tyre.since I let go n they together then of course we break but he nv go away
I am trying to get through this interview because I love everything I've heard from Matthew in other videos he's been in, but this interviewer needs better skills. It's not about you. You have him on your show for a reason. Let him talk. You don't need to say something at every turn. This isn't a conversation. It's an interview. It drives me mad every time she interrupts him. I might have to quit.
women fool themlseves into thinking they want love. really they want to be taken care of and less figuring out things. if a man decided to make a womans life more exciting and fun she'd take it regardless if he love her or not.
A woman search for what is better than her life.
I been seeing a man on a app in a another country and I spyed on the app use called whatsapp and noticed he is texting other people through the evening when I'm sleeping. Our times are different. I asked him and he said family and friends and I don't believe him. I want to see who he's texting. I want to see a picture of it. Is that ok
If your watching this video they aren’t into you 😂😂😂😂
I was only on dating apps for 3 months, met two great guys and I quit the Apps because I noticed they were always on even after dating me. I didn’t want to be in their rotations.