Here's a great video from Fr. Mike that delves a little deeper into the subject specifically for Catholics: kzread.info/dash/bejne/mnuYls6elsbZcqg.html

@lindseydavis2061

3 жыл бұрын

Can you link the pizza parlor video as well please? Thanks!

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Here it is! kzread.info/dash/bejne/daOams2nXZivn7Q.html

@lindseydavis2061

3 жыл бұрын

Thank u so much!

It really saddens me that so many people think faith is just a hobby and shouldn’t be a big deal when it comes to dating or work. Living as a catholic is hard and I can’t imagine not sharing that worldview with my husband, every decision we make is informed by our faith and if we constantly disagreed that would be so stressful.

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree!!

"Does this person share my morality, or tolerate my morality?" - Jason Evert

I'm not Catholic, but I am a Christian. My boyfriend and I literally broke up one week ago. We were both starting to see that we could not agree on some fundamental things that would affect our life together and affect how we would raise future children. I love him a lot, but I did not feel like I was growing closer to God while in the relationship. Thank you for your very timely encouragement.

@SweetSerenadeXyWem

3 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? It must have been hard to break up. Or at least it can be.

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

I am so glad this was good timing for you. That was a brave and wise thing to do!

I decided when I was a young teenager that I wanted to wait until marriage to have sex because I wanted to be fully happy and safe being vulnerable with someone who committed to me and I didn't want to risk an unwanted pregnancy. Then my mistakes were telling people about this belief and not having any boundaries - I told friends and they all laughed at me and said, "You're going to die alone, no one wants a virgin" or "Your dating options are going to be so slim, you'll never find someone, so you might as well just have sex" and I gave in. My first boyfriend pressured me as well and because I was obsessed with him, I didn't know how to say no. I couldn't say no even though I wanted to. I completely understand what you mean Emily by not wanting to have to explain your deep set beliefs to someone you are in a relationship with, you just want someone who is compatible and who just gets it! I want the same for myself and so I recommitted to abstaining until marriage. Wasting time on boys who didn't care about me or even themselves hurt me tremendously. Never again! Much love ❤️

@stutterstudios4731

3 жыл бұрын

Much love and good job! Jesus loves ya🙏🏼💙🤝

@elizabethpritchard8908

3 жыл бұрын

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I am a Protestant and the most important thing is that God is the most important in my life. If my partner does not have this relationship with my God, that is huuuuuuge part of disconnection with that partner. I want to share my innest dearest things with him and if we do not have same values, it can make things pretty difficult.

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed 100%.

Love this! I live in an area where there are very few Catholics, and the only relationship I have ever had was long distance and it just didn’t work for me. People don’t understand why I don’t just date someone in another religion, but I’d rather be single than date outside of Catholicism.

@Ann12098

3 жыл бұрын

Same! There’s a part of me that’s afraid I won’t ever find anyone, but I would rather be single than marry someone who doesn’t share the faith. The only people who understand where I’m coming from are other Catholics/Christians who are strong in their faith, everyone else thinks I’m being too “judgmental” or picky.

@shady1234shady

3 жыл бұрын

I love this, I agree all of the men I have dated have been Catholic. But also I have fallen into a trap in some scenarios because they have not been devout and that’s what I am eager to find. I want someone who is running to God as fast as I am

@strawberrysmile2212

3 жыл бұрын

Sending you lots of love from Germany ❤️ Once you will find the right man, but you've already found Jesus-and that is the most important thing

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

I fully support you :)

This is perfect timing! I'm a catholic teen living in the bible belt. The guys that are the best and most serious about their faith aren't catholic and the catholic guys I've met are not. This is the encouragement I need until a great catholic Christian guy comes around.

@abbigailchatfield9787

3 жыл бұрын

I was in the exact same place when I was in high school. I went to a Catholic university and met my husband there. He was so worth the wait! There are absolutely good and virtuous Catholic men out there who take their faith seriously!

My husband is an orthodox Christian and I am protestant. Its definitely not for everyone and we have had many many many conversations about our differences. But we choose to love, accept, embrace our differences❤ Great video; important to consider.

Thank your for the video, Emily! Please pray for my relationship with my boyfriend, Tyler. He was raised in a Protestant denomination. We attend mass together with my family and then go to his service with his family after. He loves the Lord. He wants to learn more about the Catholic faith and knows I want a Catholic marriage and raise children in the Catholic faith as well. He is very supportive of this idea. This week will be his first week in RCIA. Please pray for his journey in discovering the truth in the Catholic Church and depending his faith with the Lord. I hope this experience is fruitful in our relationship with each other and our relationship with God. ❤️

just started dating a Greek Orthodox man... the Holy Spirit pulled THROUGH

@strawberrysmile2212

3 жыл бұрын

I wish you two all the best ❤️

This reminds me of being in a high school writing class, trying to explain to my teacher why I would not marry or even date a non-believer. She seemed to think I was being somewhat bigoted or exclusive, and I was getting very frustrated because I couldn't seem to find the words to explain how I felt about this. Funnily enough, the only one who seemed to understand what I meant was a muslim girl in the same class, who also wanted to date within her faith. Great video as always! I'm a protestant and not a catholic, but I still get so much encouragement from your wisdom and admire your faith and heart for the Lord

Thanks Emily for this! I made the decision to break up with a man I loved because he didn’t share my Christian faith. It was the hardest choice I’ve ever made and it did NOT happen overnight. It took so much prodding, anxiety, sleepless nights, tearful conversations, etc to finally bring me to make the decision to end the relationship. It is almost a year later now, and I still miss him and pray for him everyday. But I’ve never, not once questioned my choice. If you are questioning your relationship, just think about the difference between a life lived under God’s sure protection, and a life lived outside of that. Think about the hard moments that will inevitably come. Do you want a partner who will rely on God to get through those times, or a partner who relies on the world? It is SUCH a hard choice and not a fun one but I promise, your faith and a relationship with Jesus is SO worth it.

I recently broke up with my Non-Denominational boyfriend. I stayed in the relationship for so long. It was hard but my Catholic faith is the core of who I am ❤️

Love your videos! What a blessing you are ❤️

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

I am in love with someone of a different faith. Sure, it would have been easier to date someone within our respective faiths. I have explained alot of things to him about mine, and he respects it and is very accepting vice versa. We were both patient enough to inform each other. Although I would never compromise my faith as a Christian, I think other Christians dub you as lukewarm whenever they find out the difference in faith, when that is far from the case😔. Queen Esther was in an interfaith marriage but she didn't compromise. I rarely see videos about this so thank you for putting things into perspective🙏🏿

Every relationship requires a respect for the other person, but that probably goes extra for two people that come from different faith backgrounds.

'alot of people don't know that catholics are Christians' you're so mature about acknowledging that. I honestly struggle to tolerate the ignorance.

@angievalful

3 жыл бұрын

I heard that phrase and laughed so much because , honestly, not knowing that Catholics are christians its like not knowing that the sky is blue😂😂😂😂😂😂

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

Yall I have met Catholics who shared with me that they did not know they were Christians until they got more into their faith in COLLEGE!!! It's a BIG problem!!!

Funny story - I have a friend who is not religious at all, and once she shared with me that her biggest deal-breakers in a relationship is if the guy she's dating has a faith, because that would mean they have completely different foundations in their worldview and will not be able to have a healthy relationship. When I started sharing my opinion (she knows I'm a Christian) she said "wait, let me guess - you want the opposite thing (a guy who takes his faith seriously) but for the same reason" I thought it was so interesting that she and I saw eye to eye that faith, or lack thereof, is a deal breaker.

I soooo agree with your point. I am protestant, I am a member of an evangelical baptist community and for years I thought it's completely okay for me to marry someone who is a serious Christian but might be from an other denomination. Lately I've realised that since, like you said, for me faith is the core of my life, I want my marriage to be centered around and only around Jesus so the best thing is to marry someone withing my church. It will make everything so much easier, I think.. So I strongly agree with you and I pray that people can be confident in their faith and choose to live for God completely. Thank you for the video. ♥ :)

I love this conversation! So many people I ask who are Christians and specifically Catholic sometimes don’t ask there partners about their faith and it’s shocking.

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree!

I always feel so empowered from your videos, and love how you so want us to be free to make the decisions right for our hearts. Thanks for always being here for us X

Recently went through this but just with dating. It was the other way around, I’m not Catholic and he is. It was the right decision for both of us. I think if it’s such a major value you shouldn’t compromise, similar to if one person wants to get married some day and the other person thinks marriage isn’t important.

Ahhhhh your videos are so timely!!! Thank you Emily! Was having second thoughts about a break up and this is confirmation that I made the right choice. Thank you!!!

Those who were already in a situation like this will perfectly agree with you 🙏🏼 Greetings from Brazil! God bless you and your lovely family! Love your videos ❤️🙏🏼

This video hit so hard. The topic is something my Reformed boyfriend and I are working through now. Seeing the notification for this was a message from God (of what, exactly, I am still figuring out) and it stopped me in my tracks. We are taking steps to understand where the other is coming from-- Bible studies together, meeting with his pastor and my priest. But the fear of this not working out hurts. Thank you for saying the things I don't want to hear but need a reminder of. And even if we do not get married, you reminded me that it is not because one of us could not measure up or is any less.

Hey, Emily. You give me hope and I’m thankful for you.

You have such a beautiful heart Emily, so grateful for you ❤️

Great video! I also struggle with the hard decisions I've had to face when I encounterd major differences with other Christians! Thinking particularly about beliefs around dating, boundaries, spiritual disciplines etc. I think communication and discernment is so important when these differences arise.

Thank youuuu for this Emily!!

Was literally thinking about this topic today! Wowow God is good 💛 and so are your videos

This is a really considerate video and challenged my perspective. Love your videos Emily 💙

Good and important advice, Emily. At the very, very least, it is a conversation (more than one I'm sure) that a couple heading toward being serious--envisioning marriage, children--have to have. Otherwise the natural human tendency to make comforting (but very possibly wrong) assumptions will take over!

THIS IS SUCH AN IMPORTANT VIDEO!

My eyes read that as a “different earth” And I was like I mean ig it makes sense we have our own different realities😂

Such an incredible video and an important topic! It’s very true, probably the two most influential decisions that will affect your life are 1) what your faith beliefs are and 2) who you marry. I knew it wouldn’t work for me to not have the same beliefs as my husband, and I *for sure* didn’t want to spend our Sunday mornings apart. So when I met my Catholic husband I knew I’d better figure this out, as I was raised Baptist. I looked into if we could meet in the middle (Lutheran? Methodist? Nothing was “home”) and finally into what looked into what the Catholic Church teaches. Immediately was called to join the Catholic Church and I am soooo glad for the journey. And that my husband and I are on this journey *together* ☺️

@jonatikaWwe

3 жыл бұрын

How beautiful! 💙

So timely wow. I have been thinking about this for a while. My boyfriend doesn't understand why I try to practise my faith, and trying to save myself for marriage. He keeps trying to tempt me and I believe it's because he doesn't understand the point and thinks it's irrelevant yet it is important to me.

I’m Greek Orthodox and my partner is Pentecostal. I didn’t really think any thing much of it but once we started talking about baptism that’s when we started having arguments. We never fight. He believes you need to get baptised as an adult cause it wasn’t my choice and to be reborn again. I believe anyone can get baptised no matter what age but you need to repent for your sins which is what I do. It’s sad that we had this arguments but we realise it’s something we are both passionate about and don’t discuss it anymore. I’m glad we are both saving ourselves until marriage and we both want to raise our children as Christians. Sometimes I wish he would respect my views. At times I feel like he is pushy but sometimes it can be miscommunication. I don’t think I could date anyone who wasn’t a Christian as faith is the most fundamental thing in my life.

I am Catholic and i have personally experienced this when i was dating a truly amazing and wonderful guy ... who was an atheist...and i can say this video is really good👏🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 I wish i had watched this before going through so much pain trying to force something that was never going to work. I bit of advise : as a Catholic or Christian is great and desirable to be open to people of other faiths or atheists, but when it comes to romantic relationships you need to REALLY define your "no negotiables" otherwise you will suffer so much ( and the other person too, because they will probably feel like your imposing your beliefs on them)

Your cheeks are glowing. I love them! 💕

Love your videos Emily 🦋

I wish there were comments to read 😭

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

Hehehe you're here the MOMENT the video got published! Comments take time to come in :)

I am Catholic and I personally do not have someone being Catholic as a dating or marrying requirement for now, because I find that even I have a lot of religious and life perspectives that are different from other Catholics. We don't all think and act the same, and I have seen and met Catholics whom I wouldn't even be friends with because their behavior scares me (ex. judges others immensely, yells at people for having different beliefs, etc). I do have a list of requirements that I expect in a husband, but I sometimes wonder if I'm being too harsh or too lenient. I have not received any marriage proposals, so I really don't think I need to worry about it right now.

@winter-wb7cf

3 жыл бұрын

I’m in the same place! I’m currently dating a Protestant, and he’s my first boyfriend. I go to a church full of seniors and barely anyone my age. I feel like God called me to date my current boyfriend. You have to be honest with them early on that marriage probably isn’t likely, but because we don’t know the future, we decided that we will see what happens. Like Emily said, follow your heart!!

Love love love ❤️

Could you make a video talking more about interfaith marriages? I'm glad you mentioned briefly in this video that they can work out. My Mom grew up a strict Lutheran although she later became a Methodist- her faith has always been important to her. My Dad was raised Jewish, but didn't practice any religion himself as he identified as an atheist most of his life. He was a scientist, so it made it harder to jump in and say "yes! I believe in something I cannot see". People can be VERY judgmental or ignorant about interfaith marriages. As a young child, the Mom of one of the kids I was playing with said to my Mom, "isn't your child going to grow up confused because her parents don't share the same faith"? That was a very insensitive comment- my parents were always respectful of the others beliefs and I was raised to believe in God although I didn't grow up going to Church. My Dad was diagnosed with ALS when I was in hs, so when college came, I picked the school closest to home which happened to be a private lutheran college (people of all faiths or no religion were welcome there too). I had never read the Bible before although I had researched the beliefs of different demoninatuons of Christianity like Mornon, Catholic, Methodist etc. as well as the other most popular religions before. Reading the Bible for the first time and building my own relationship with God- not forced on me by anyone makes my commitment even more special to me. After reading the Bible, I chose to get baptized at 19 in a Methodist Church although I identify now as a non-denominational Christian. I didn't agree with all the teachings of any one religion or church- I feel I have the best relationship with God when I do what I feel called to do like read the Bible one morning or go to church, pray etc. I'm so glad I made the choice to get baptized myself and I was NEVER confused about religion- it just was never important enough to me when I was a kid. I think God would rather us live a life of kindness and goodness and not go to Church every Sunday bc we feel obligated and then live being a bad person (trying to hurt others, going to Church only to look "good" etc). When my Dad was in hospice, his closest friend was a Baptist (he is a family friend now). My Dad ended up after spending his whole like an atheist coming to God and we saw many miracles in my Dad's life. No one could convince my Dad to even consider Christianity before, but this friend (who we met by accident) made him feel called to get baptized and become a Christian. I have cousins who have a Catholic mother and a Jewish father. They celebrate both religions. I think coming from a family with different beliefs has made us more accepting of other faiths. For instance, I love to pray on the rosary despite not being Catholic. I don't think birth control is a sin- especially since some girls like me need it for endometriosis. At the same time, I feel it in my heart I should wait until marriage or engagement at least. I think God made all of us perfect and even though I went to a school that taught us that being gay was a "sin"- I totally disagree. Being gay is not a choice- why would anyone choose to be discriminated against? Not to mention, gay behaviors have been seen in hundreds of species of animals. I believe there have even been imaging studies showing differences between people who are straight vs gay and who identify as Republican vs. Democrat. I can't see how I can say God made the world perfect if some people are born gay- that's saying either 1. God didn't make all of us perfectly or 2. That you think being gay is a choice when scientific evidence shows it is not. Science and God can coexist together imo. I agree with you that it not right to date or marry someone who doesn't share core values that are really important to you whether that be religious or non-religious values. Can you make a video about people's experiences in a serious relationship that does NOT share their religion and stories of kids who grew up in interfaith marriages? As I have gotten older, it has been hard to find someone who shares and respects that waiting until marriage is right for me, yet is also respects and hopefully shares my core beliefs that being gay is not a choice (it is SO important to me that my kids know their parents love them no matter what their sexuality is). I feel confused now on if I am ok even dating an atheist because God has helped me get through the hardest times in my life and I need a partner that also believes in God to help encourage me when I have doubts like all Christians do. I don't care what denomination they are as long as we share the same core morals and respect our differences. It makes me feel guilty though or like I am being too "picky" as I have never had a boyfriend and I am in my early 20s. I don't want to waste my time dating someone who will only break up with me in a month because they don't want to wait until marriage. I want to guard my heart even if it makes me feel and look like a loser to others.

Only dating a Catholic man so we can both go to adoration......no exceptions. but I’m not dating so I’m going to adoration by myself....love my singleness

AMEN!!! 🙌🙌🙌

Random question: where can I get the shirt from?

I'm currently dating someone who wasn't raised into any religion. When we first started dating he came to mass with my family. He is open to it but my mom is very religious and she sometimes pushes about him being baptized. I don't want to push him into it and fall into the dating to convert category. I would rather he decide for himself because he has felt the call to become Christian. Any advice on parents in this situation. We have been together for 3 years and he agrees with all the principles regarding children.

@emwilss

3 жыл бұрын

Nobody should be pushed into doing ANYTHING!! It is not your mother's place to push like this one bit. Find a trusted mentor who is not your parents who can help guide you in this situation. And continue to take it one day at a time!

@kathyalex778

3 жыл бұрын

I'm curious, if he agree with all the principles regarding children and he is open and goes to mass with your family, wouldn't that mean he would eventually convert? I'm confused because what you're describing sounds like a dating conversion story to me. I mean, you either both live in faith, neither of you live in faith, or you try to make your differences work and keep your beliefs separate. It's a tricky situation.

I am not Catholic. I am Protestant. I love most of your videos though. I would never consider dating a guy who doesn't have personal relationship with Christ. 2 Corinthians 6:14 talks about not being unequally yoked with a person who doesn't have a personal relationship with Christ. That means not dating or marrying someone who doesn't have a personal relationship with Christ. I have done that before and it usually never works out. I am familiar with Catholicism but there are some things that I don't agree with.

Amen amen amen!

Thank you Emily, for your wisdom and the clear and encouraging way in which you communicate with us. What would you advise in the case of a Catholic woman seeking to date within the faith, but only seeming to meet Catholic men who don't want to follow certain key teachings? Should we be patient and try to help bring someone back to the faith? It can sometimes feel as though all the practising/devout men are already taken or nowhere to be found, and that we should be more flexible or open to dating guys who are Catholic but currently away from the Church. It's hard because I desire a relationship with a guy who can lead me in the faith... Thanks and prayers for you and the work you do xx

@claudialorna4927

3 жыл бұрын

I resonate so much with this! Often the problem isn’t even about someone being of a different faith but about people who may believe in Christ but are not actual Christ followers. Here in Italy the majority of people are Catholic but it’s still so very hard to find someone who actually puts their faith at the center of their lives. I’m not saying this in judgmental way because I myself have a long way to go in my faith journey but sometimes when I see Christian couples here on youtube I wonder if I will ever find that kind of Christ centered relationship.

@rebk5391

3 жыл бұрын

@@claudialorna4927 Thanks for your reply Claudia :) There must be many of us who want to do our best to follow Church teachings, but it's hard to find a Catholic guy who would be on board with all that involves. I will keep you in my prayers, as I pray for other single women hoping to live the vocation of marriage one day x

What if being catholic is very important to you but the other person is of a different branch of christianity?

@veronicarose463

3 жыл бұрын

I found that this video still fits perfectly for dating someone who is of a different christian denomination. You still have to consider the same factors no matter what. I went on a few dates with a guy from a different denomination. He thought contraception was fine within a marriage (which as a Catholic I don't) and thought Mary was "just another woman." Even though we had a loooooot of common beliefs I still struggled a little with these things that were fundamental to my beliefs. I almost found it easier to date people outside of any religion because they were much more understanding of my beliefs rather than disagreeing which type of Christianity is "right." Not sure if that adds any perspective :)

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makes me wonder why he dated her in the first place tbh... seems like something that could have been avoided

I have some super close atheist friends who make "jokes" like "haha we should talk again about that whole God-thing you believe in" or "lol what if you're just acting and in reality you don't believe in God haha" ........... they don't mean anything by it, it's just fun and games to them, but they don't get how deeply disrespectful that is to me. It's like they are making fun of the core of my life, you know? It's so rude and ignorant. I'm sad to say it but I had to distance myself from these atheist friends. They don't get me.

@jonatikaWwe

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you! I've experienced that from both friends and family and honestly it's SO hard to live like this 😢 You're so right, for someone without faith, they just don't get how deeply disrespecful and plain painful it can be when they attack your faith. Like if someone was to insult and make fun of your mother, only even worst than that, but they just don't get it because they've never known what faith it is like

This is a big no no for me - a guy, if that helps

OMG but this guy in the red sweatshirt suddenly woke up AFTER THREE YEARS of dating! If you are looking for a Catholic - break with an atheist! Stop giving her hope for a relationship by dating 3 years [facepalm] He should think about this erlier -.- I don't feel sorry for this guy, but his ex-girlfriend - yes, he probably broke her heart.

2 Corinthians 6:14 makes it pretty clear that marrying someone of a different faith is not a good idea. More often than not the children end up paying the price...

My parents have always said that you shouldn’t get into a relationship in hopes of converting the person you’re dating into Catholicism. And I totally understand that. It may be extremely difficult to effectively convert them, however as I see it, it may be probably not impossible for them to convert if they already have a strong relationship with Christ and that they see your love of Christ as well and if they want to learn more about the origins of Christianity.

im born-again, she needs to be born-again too.

My boyfriend is Sikh, but we make it work very very well 🥰🥰