Marry Yourself - Japan's Lonely Women | Journal Reporters

Fewer and fewer Japanese find their way to the altar. 37-year old Haruna has found her own solution: She has married herself. An agency in Kyoto makes it possible.
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  • @TellingItLikeItIs2000
    @TellingItLikeItIs20007 жыл бұрын

    I've been married to myself for 17 years. I want a divorce.

  • @namusole

    @namusole

    5 жыл бұрын

    WHatsaap me on +256776958522 fred

  • @marykathleensapp6937

    @marykathleensapp6937

    5 жыл бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @shahin6671

    @shahin6671

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hehehe... I have filed too...

  • @naeemrashada1009

    @naeemrashada1009

    5 жыл бұрын

    Married 19 years to myself but I can't afford a divorce. 😭😢😭

  • @jaclyneagle6210

    @jaclyneagle6210

    5 жыл бұрын

    lmao i'm going to bed after this comment but thanks i needed a laugh after my day.

  • @BenjaminBadbrother
    @BenjaminBadbrother4 жыл бұрын

    The Japanese have a disturbing habit of laughing while in extremely depressing situations.

  • @kittynakamoto2449

    @kittynakamoto2449

    4 жыл бұрын

    It’s called cultural differences, they laugh when they are embarrassed.

  • @jdtv50

    @jdtv50

    3 жыл бұрын

    Kitty Nakamoto that’s what the guy said lol u jsut said the same with extra steps

  • @user-sw5hy6ox6l

    @user-sw5hy6ox6l

    3 жыл бұрын

    lmao this made me cry from laughter i always laugh in depressing situations and people find it really strange. its so you cant cry from how depressing they are it makes it almost comical in a way to not face the depressing reality.

  • @noo343

    @noo343

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm an American and I'll do this

  • @clindsell6111

    @clindsell6111

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@kittynakamoto2449 its not even a cultural difference lots of people do it all over the world its called nervous laughter. when my last gf broke up with me all i could do is laugh. she got really, REALLY mad.

  • @kylehendrickson2800
    @kylehendrickson28004 жыл бұрын

    Next big trend in Japan: alive funerals

  • @lunarcalendar368

    @lunarcalendar368

    4 жыл бұрын

    😂

  • @ficread5370

    @ficread5370

    4 жыл бұрын

    already a thing in China. people pay to lie in coffins to experience what it's like

  • @husaindaud5569

    @husaindaud5569

    4 жыл бұрын

    Well few Corona patients were burnt alive by CCP

  • @hamdiomar9103

    @hamdiomar9103

    4 жыл бұрын

    Highland Laird they already done it

  • @zaheerahshareef7608

    @zaheerahshareef7608

    4 жыл бұрын

    😂🤣

  • @SigureRangiku
    @SigureRangiku5 жыл бұрын

    "Being Alone is Not The Same As Being Lonely"

  • @lynnanderson8062

    @lynnanderson8062

    4 жыл бұрын

    Perhaps, but we wouldn't be talking about this if it wasn't lonely.

  • @macariosakay3511

    @macariosakay3511

    4 жыл бұрын

    yeah ,lets make happy together

  • @jamoriah

    @jamoriah

    4 жыл бұрын

    Agree

  • @MsKiki-jd7il

    @MsKiki-jd7il

    4 жыл бұрын

    exactly

  • @lirianorga7521

    @lirianorga7521

    4 жыл бұрын

    Being in a relationship is stressful I would rather marry a fictional character in my favorite movie/book.

  • @desa415
    @desa4155 жыл бұрын

    This country needs some serious work-life balance. How can you do anything (like raising a family) if you work 70 hours a week?

  • @micaholson1052

    @micaholson1052

    4 жыл бұрын

    Well, my thoughts through all this are, if things aren't changing, what's preventing it from doing so? And who are the people benefiting from it?

  • @lhancelotg6632

    @lhancelotg6632

    4 жыл бұрын

    im working here in japan its so stressful coz im working 68hrs a week

  • @cynthiakila1161

    @cynthiakila1161

    4 жыл бұрын

    D. Matz. I can’t imagine i feel exhausted with 30 , but 70 😣

  • @jburtonca

    @jburtonca

    4 жыл бұрын

    Raise a family? Many people would be too tired to even have sex.

  • @harrylim3393

    @harrylim3393

    4 жыл бұрын

    They don’t want to raise a family at all

  • @Tom-re6zo
    @Tom-re6zo4 жыл бұрын

    That just sounds like being single with extra steps.

  • @millamya

    @millamya

    4 жыл бұрын

    Ahaha nicee..

  • @msjahun

    @msjahun

    4 жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂 That's sounds like something a morty will say

  • @cindytran5628

    @cindytran5628

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hahah that’s exactly what it is. 😂

  • @Joeyblondewolf2

    @Joeyblondewolf2

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Hanze Brix nice way of putting it lol

  • @Angelshavemanyeyes

    @Angelshavemanyeyes

    3 жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂

  • @luvsdecor5973
    @luvsdecor59734 жыл бұрын

    people can't deal with reality anymore.

  • @nicewater894

    @nicewater894

    4 жыл бұрын

    I am physically delusional

  • @CamTizzle

    @CamTizzle

    4 жыл бұрын

    I see what you’re saying but in her situation it’s not a she can’t deal with it. She just wanted that moment

  • @__jan

    @__jan

    4 жыл бұрын

    wrong. people have never been able to deal with reality. we always fear what we can't control, what we don't understand or simply what we just think we don't like. this behavior is deeply rooted in humanity as a whole, and what we're seeing is just a manifestation of that due to the over-abundance of people, resources, progress of technology, etc., because reality is becoming easier to ignore every day.

  • @coffeepandacat

    @coffeepandacat

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@nicewater894 i'm fartedly pooplusional

  • @kbs1212

    @kbs1212

    4 жыл бұрын

    luvsdecor But your concept of reality is based on social constructs, which are just man-made things in an attempt to put order and routine into daily life. Your reality isn’t any more real than the people in the video’s reality.

  • @ronmortimer252
    @ronmortimer2525 жыл бұрын

    There's something deeply sad about this though. Like a reflection on a lake, distorted by the ripples, of a society that's lost its way and will soon be gone.

  • @27b4

    @27b4

    5 жыл бұрын

    In spite of the up-beat tone of the film, I find it troubling too. Just another way of exploiting those who have been made to feel alienated by the modern world. I hope this lady finds something better in the future.

  • @ronmortimer252

    @ronmortimer252

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@27b4 Yes 'alienated by the modern world' where our God has become money and success describes a multitude of people doesn't it.

  • @27b4

    @27b4

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@ronmortimer252- Success nowadays seems to amount to little more than getting noticed, and look where that's leading so many young people.

  • @salvador_ii9771

    @salvador_ii9771

    4 жыл бұрын

    Such poetic words for a deeply sad phenomenon.

  • @flipflierefluiter5665

    @flipflierefluiter5665

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@ronmortimer252 bruh money has always been our god. Our society is nothing different from ancient society thousands of yours ago in that sense

  • @anonamos225
    @anonamos2257 жыл бұрын

    "For her this is more important than marriage itself" That's all you need to know. She doesn't actually care about marriage. What she wants is a wedding and those two things are not the same. She wants the dress and the pictures and the and all the material aspects of it, not the lifelong commitment.

  • @MementoMori1001

    @MementoMori1001

    7 жыл бұрын

    Anon Amos the more they become secular the more they care only about material things and themselves.

  • @CuriousConnoisseurs

    @CuriousConnoisseurs

    6 жыл бұрын

    I think just every Woman want to be a Princess at least for a Day.

  • @clairee4939

    @clairee4939

    6 жыл бұрын

    The princess thing has gotten way out of hand. There was a really good book written a few years ago now called “The Narcessism Epedemic: Living in the Age of Narcessism" which had a whole chapter on this one subject!That said, she has been honest aand has not used anybody in the process, which I do respect in one way, although it seems fairly rediculous. This could just as easily have been done as cultural satire!

  • @LoveLife-xy9ir

    @LoveLife-xy9ir

    6 жыл бұрын

    Anon Amos haha rediculous

  • @minoriruba1828

    @minoriruba1828

    6 жыл бұрын

    I hear some people say that the concept of marrying bcuz of "love" is a new "western' idea!! In ancient time people married each other in order to carry the family name and having kids so that that kids can take care of the parents when they get older.so I see nothing wrong with a woman marrying a husband bcuz of "money"!!

  • @Rocketbearful
    @Rocketbearful4 жыл бұрын

    ancestor's souls are weeping seeing their descendants like this.

  • @sceaserjulius9476

    @sceaserjulius9476

    4 жыл бұрын

    They should have done better.

  • @TellingItLikeItIs2000

    @TellingItLikeItIs2000

    4 жыл бұрын

    Rocketbearful Those samurais harakiri'd themselves for nothing.

  • @Rocketbearful

    @Rocketbearful

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@TellingItLikeItIs2000 strong men make good times, good times make weak men. weak men make hard times... hard times make strong men..

  • @wasiahmed4308

    @wasiahmed4308

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@Rocketbearful nice wording 👍

  • @albertus_elite829

    @albertus_elite829

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Rocketbearful How original.

  • @98zei
    @98zei5 жыл бұрын

    "Let me celebrate my loneliness"

  • @tashikrtv6878

    @tashikrtv6878

    4 жыл бұрын

    @David Walker lmao, stop roasting people in the comments 😂.

  • @gurpreetbhamra9752

    @gurpreetbhamra9752

    4 жыл бұрын

    🎂

  • @africaisacontinent2149

    @africaisacontinent2149

    4 жыл бұрын

    @David Walker 😂😂😂😂😭😭

  • @raylevi5343

    @raylevi5343

    4 жыл бұрын

    @David Walker so mean 💀

  • @TheLeoZhou
    @TheLeoZhou4 жыл бұрын

    This just looks like Japan’s wedding dress industry’s desperately trying to stay alive XD

  • @loganwolverine2573
    @loganwolverine25736 жыл бұрын

    paying $ for a boost in self esteem. Japanese business people are geniuses!

  • @continuousself-improvement1879

    @continuousself-improvement1879

    5 жыл бұрын

    US Fastfood companies are making people pay $$$ to get poisoned by their food. Which is more genius?

  • @allison-7399

    @allison-7399

    5 жыл бұрын

    Continuous Self-Improvement They have junk food and fast food in Japan...

  • @transforgoku

    @transforgoku

    5 жыл бұрын

    The self-help/coaching industry makes tons of money every year by masturbating people's egos and their unrealistic expectations all over the world. This is nothing new...

  • @gladitsnotme

    @gladitsnotme

    4 жыл бұрын

    Actually, if you paid attention, the only women doing this are high in self esteem. The women who are depressed about being single aren't throwing these parties.

  • @brendakabanda2181

    @brendakabanda2181

    4 жыл бұрын

    I agree.

  • @Dot-Dot-Dash
    @Dot-Dot-Dash5 жыл бұрын

    Sad that materialism and too many extensively long hours of work throw them off balance and culture destroyed.

  • @LadyCoyKoi

    @LadyCoyKoi

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for not adding into the useless sexist rants in this comment section. You really get it. ^_^ This is a socioeconomic problem of hyperconsumerism, hypermaterialism and over exaggeration of a failed economic system that doesn't benefit human survival.

  • @vaughanlockett658

    @vaughanlockett658

    4 жыл бұрын

    Something changed and it wasn’t just men . They reacted to what women wanted. See what most modern women don’t get is after 25 there looks are starting to decline. All those years spent studying and getting a job and ignoring the fact that men are interested in them but failed to acknowledge this because of study and work means that men waited around far to long to become interested in relationships . They found other things to do. If you couple this with fact women after 25 and beyond are now desperate to have children. It doesn’t feel to men your getting married for love . But to be a sperm Donner and a cash machine that could be divorced at any time if she so chooses. Marriage is far to late these days for men to be interested . I know this not just women’s fault but society in general has changed .

  • @Galodoido190

    @Galodoido190

    4 жыл бұрын

    Dorethea Simone nope!!! Thanks to feminism Japanese man prefer rubber dolls instead of real women..... and I agree ....MGTOW HARD CORE LOL ...!

  • @becomingdauntless8821

    @becomingdauntless8821

    4 жыл бұрын

    yea and then you have those countries that are needlessly overpopulating...

  • @bilalmajeed3282

    @bilalmajeed3282

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@becomingdauntless8821 welp even if they are overpopuating they are doing it with their own resources, did they beg to other countries? no. people have their own choices if they chose to reproduce its their right. i am amused how a person from another country gives lecture and opinions about countries that have nothing to do with them or their country. We should RESPECT everyone choices just like they respect ours.

  • @kisut7
    @kisut74 жыл бұрын

    She smiling, but when she alone in her room, she is crying.

  • @cobramoghadam3139

    @cobramoghadam3139

    4 жыл бұрын

    U r agood mentalist !

  • @gurpreetbhamra9752

    @gurpreetbhamra9752

    4 жыл бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣

  • @hn6498

    @hn6498

    4 жыл бұрын

    I just love broken english

  • @FreakFast

    @FreakFast

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me Tarzan you Jane

  • @rahilashakil3360
    @rahilashakil33604 жыл бұрын

    Look at the pain in her eyes

  • @srp1129
    @srp11297 жыл бұрын

    she's not bitter. she seems sweet... that's good!

  • @GreenGearMood

    @GreenGearMood

    6 жыл бұрын

    I think it's a facade.

  • @allgoo1964

    @allgoo1964

    6 жыл бұрын

    Sherren Pulcher says: "she's not bitter. she seems sweet... that's good!" == Not yet, you mean? lol

  • @qjtvaddict

    @qjtvaddict

    6 жыл бұрын

    Sherren Pulcher the work culture is to blame for the death of families in Japan

  • @allgoo1964

    @allgoo1964

    6 жыл бұрын

    qjtvaddict : "Sherren Pulcher the work culture is to blame for the death of families in Japan" == Young people not getting marred is a worldwide trend. So is low fertility rate, at least in the developed countries Japan or not Japan.

  • @torachan23

    @torachan23

    5 жыл бұрын

    Only men can be bitter. Women are queen

  • @DPTigre
    @DPTigre7 жыл бұрын

    I have a feeling this will become more and more common place, not only in Japan but in other countires (as it is here in the states from the reports I've read)

  • @kkibela

    @kkibela

    5 жыл бұрын

    I was seriously thinking about doing this for myself.. Sick of the toxic nature of.. Waiting... On some level no matter how happy I am I feel I deserve love and every once in a while I wonder if its ever going to happen.. Its not even sad it's just annoying.. Marrying your self seems like a great way to put that needy part to bed once and for all.. I fully support it

  • @simplehealthyliving4681

    @simplehealthyliving4681

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@kkibela If it's merely an annoyance or like you said "neediness", then no, you are not experiencing deficiency in love. What you are experiencing is absence of some marker that symbolizes the rite of formation of a committed couple - but not the deep love bond aspect of a couple's relationship.

  • @roxmittens

    @roxmittens

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@kkibela j

  • @kkibela

    @kkibela

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@simplehealthyliving4681 lol please don't.. Its so reductive...

  • @simplehealthyliving4681

    @simplehealthyliving4681

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@kkibela I'm saying minor annoyance/"neediness" is a trivial thing. The wedding ceremony in itself as merely a marker is a trivial thing. If you are experiencing serious deficiency in love, that's a serious thing. The wedding ceremony symbolizing the beginning of a lifetime of love and fulfillment is not a trivial thing. I'm not minimizing your pain, if pain is what you are really feeling. Also, you don't need to edit your post - to convey sarcasm. Resorting to sarcasm is very immature when we are talking about serious things like loveless living which will become the norm as the world becomes more and more materialistic. All a person can do is feel happy seeing the small, beautiful things in life that still exist.

  • @PlasmaMongoose
    @PlasmaMongoose5 жыл бұрын

    If you marry yourself and later on marry someone else, can you be charged with bigamy?

  • @SpiritOfOrange

    @SpiritOfOrange

    4 жыл бұрын

    PlasmaMongoose Does marrying your own ego count? What if the bride suffers from schizo effective disorder?

  • @davidlafleche1142

    @davidlafleche1142

    4 жыл бұрын

    You could, if you have multiple personalities; but at least you'd get more tax deductions, since you can claim your "selves" as dependents.

  • @leftylizard9085

    @leftylizard9085

    3 жыл бұрын

    Well bigamy is two women, so unless you're a lesbian, I would say no, not technically

  • @1980rlquinn

    @1980rlquinn

    2 жыл бұрын

    Self marriage isn't legally binding, so, no.

  • @jacobjacob4139
    @jacobjacob41394 жыл бұрын

    Japanese men are hardcore MGTOW (Herbivore), these men ignore women to the point where women marry themselves! damn!

  • @silverman824

    @silverman824

    4 жыл бұрын

    because women are career obsessed, no man wants a career woman and no woman wants to be a housewife today. so its not all mgtows fault, it's globalisation

  • @Nokss87

    @Nokss87

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@silverman824 💯

  • @greenbook4578

    @greenbook4578

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@silverman824 Indeed.But it can if both want to tolerate.

  • @risunshin

    @risunshin

    3 жыл бұрын

    Men married doll too because women be ignoring him.

  • @drakes4625

    @drakes4625

    3 жыл бұрын

    In a sense, the women are the ones rejecting relationships even more (not surprising since they have the most social pressure). Ppl complain that men in Japan do not seek sexual partners, but women are even less likely to.

  • @furkidsonboard4103
    @furkidsonboard41037 жыл бұрын

    Not every is fortunate enough to find love. What she did reminds me of kids who go to their prom even though they did not have a date but have a good time anyway. The events are milestones and people can still experience the joy by going through the ceremony. This lady valued herself enough to make the effort and now may be resigned to the fact she may never find a mate. Here in the US, what she did is called a commitment ceremony.

  • @solecurious1448

    @solecurious1448

    5 жыл бұрын

    FurKids OnBoard I cannot find anything admirable in her fruitless attempt to live a fantasy. A more fruitful way might be working on her attitude (men can’t handle confident women) and improve on building meaningful relationships rather than chasing a pointless dream. Start by making herself beautiful inside, I am certain it will only increase her chances to meet a man who loves her for being herself. If she still cannot find a mate, at least she will make true friends rather than keep going to singles events and fortune tellers. What is there to admire for this fruitless, lonely existence?

  • @naeemrashada1009

    @naeemrashada1009

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@solecurious1448 I totally agree with you about that. She paid money for an illusion and a fairytale.

  • @stype8468

    @stype8468

    5 жыл бұрын

    Marriage and love are not the same

  • @mayhendrapanjaitan8924

    @mayhendrapanjaitan8924

    5 жыл бұрын

    I bet she rejected some nice man

  • @nineball5058

    @nineball5058

    5 жыл бұрын

    What's wrong with hikikomori? Lol

  • @ItzSaya
    @ItzSaya4 жыл бұрын

    I don’t like the English voiceover when they are speaking Japanese. I rather hear them and use subtitles.

  • @nightowl7592

    @nightowl7592

    4 жыл бұрын

    Maybe this intended for any blind people so they can at least hear the audio

  • @umairishfaqchattha2620

    @umairishfaqchattha2620

    4 жыл бұрын

    why

  • @davidlafleche1142

    @davidlafleche1142

    4 жыл бұрын

    I'm used to it. I watched a lot of Japanese monster movies. The dubbing was awful.

  • @sceaserjulius9476

    @sceaserjulius9476

    4 жыл бұрын

    Then you would have to learn to read.

  • @ItzSaya

    @ItzSaya

    4 жыл бұрын

    Your Precious Trash ooouu I didn’t think of that. Very interesting.

  • @Zero-tm5xk
    @Zero-tm5xk4 жыл бұрын

    She seems really picky when she talked about that singles party.

  • @paolagrando5079

    @paolagrando5079

    4 жыл бұрын

    Well, she shouldn't be with anybody, but somebody that she feels comfortable with. She said that the guys weren't prepared to commit.

  • @vagrant5970

    @vagrant5970

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@paolagrando5079 yeah,no one isnt enough for her,tipical modern woman.

  • @paolagrando5079

    @paolagrando5079

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@vagrant5970 You can always look in the older generation.

  • @Zero-tm5xk

    @Zero-tm5xk

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@paolagrando5079 But she literally just met these guys. How can she expect people she just met to express interest in commitment to her. She needs to earn it. People should not commit to someone just because it is expected. They should commit when they find someone they want to commit to.

  • @paolagrando5079

    @paolagrando5079

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@Zero-tm5xk We don't know, we weren't there. Maybe they were talking as a general thing. Maybe she got the gist from the way that they were talking about their life or their previous relationships.

  • @SeamusMartin1
    @SeamusMartin13 жыл бұрын

    I just found this heartbreaking.

  • @indrinita
    @indrinita6 жыл бұрын

    I love how when women finally discover they can be happy without being married, they are immediately labelled as "lonely".

  • @angelmcgovern116

    @angelmcgovern116

    6 жыл бұрын

    it's bitter men who think of them that way. Their fragile masculine egos don't like the idea that women finally realize they are redundant

  • @myunfilteredvision8

    @myunfilteredvision8

    6 жыл бұрын

    indrinita true

  • @Gambit771

    @Gambit771

    6 жыл бұрын

    Angel McGovern I found the bitter female with a fragile feminine ego realising she's the one who is redundant. Such toxic femininity.

  • @sonnyangjaya2812

    @sonnyangjaya2812

    6 жыл бұрын

    oh boohoo, it applies to both gender mate

  • @seidyn9439

    @seidyn9439

    5 жыл бұрын

    Angel McGovern its not a about men, its all about die alone, thats the problem...

  • @thoughtsurferzone5012
    @thoughtsurferzone50124 жыл бұрын

    This is comedic gold.

  • @nidhi6699

    @nidhi6699

    3 жыл бұрын

    More like tragedy lol

  • @parkestanley2436
    @parkestanley24365 жыл бұрын

    Social skills have declined worldwide because everyone is on Facebook, the internet, texting, but less meeting in person and making real, physical connections.

  • @michaelojeda8338

    @michaelojeda8338

    5 жыл бұрын

    I agree. All of the latter you listed is so impersonal and so disattached to the real world and real people. We live our lives more separate than together which is really tragic considering that we need impartial love more than ever before. Back in the twentieth century, when technology didn't dominate all aspects of life, there was more social interaction and love. The twenty-first century tech-filled world transformed human beings into cold unloving machines who only interact when connected online. So so sad.😢

  • @michaelojeda8338

    @michaelojeda8338

    5 жыл бұрын

    I agree. All of the latter you listed is so impersonal and so disattached to the real world and real people. We live our lives more separate than together which is really tragic considering that we need impartial love more than ever before. Back in the twentieth century, when technology didn't dominate all aspects of life, there was more social interaction and love. The twenty-first century tech-filled world transformed human beings into cold unloving machines who only interact when connected online. So so sad.😢

  • @parkestanley2436

    @parkestanley2436

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Crim Sin Older people including baby boomers use social media heavily, too, the biggest being Facebook. Interacting at work is transactional, you have to do it, thats not voluntary socialization. But, when people of all ages get home, they now have many online choices for their time that did not exist 30 years ago. A higher % of people are single now, a lower % date and have sex. Less people paint, play instruments now....it's just too easy to go online and stay in that safe, addicting world.

  • @parkestanley2436

    @parkestanley2436

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Crim Sin There again, they are people like you and me who DO still get out and meet people, do things 😀

  • @Abitsarcastic

    @Abitsarcastic

    5 жыл бұрын

    Maybe next people will start marrying their gadgets since it is the only thing they need and trust nowdays

  • @paolagrando5079
    @paolagrando50794 жыл бұрын

    Fascinating how the choice of a single person about her life gets so many people upset.

  • @JayJordanJuly

    @JayJordanJuly

    2 жыл бұрын

    It’s an indication Paola; people are so far up their own backsides that they can’t process how ridiculous their own behaviour is. If any young woman wanted to marry: she’d be married. If she was interested in being a good partner she would do that too. It’s not hard for a woman to find a man and have a satisfying life. But that’s not what they want. They want to be insane and they want us to accept that.

  • @jamesmir89

    @jamesmir89

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@JayJordanJuly bro, here’s your W.

  • @JayJordanJuly

    @JayJordanJuly

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jamesmir89 I don’t understand? What does that mean?

  • @jamesmir89

    @jamesmir89

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@JayJordanJuly your W, your win

  • @JayJordanJuly

    @JayJordanJuly

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jamesmir89 Uhhh thanks?

  • @constipatedinsincity4424
    @constipatedinsincity44245 жыл бұрын

    You're lucky to have had 1 love in your lifetime. I have been lucky to have found love. We were 3 weeks away from getting married. She flew to the Philippines to bring her grandmother back for the wedding. Her plane crashed on the way there. She was pregnant with the son I never had! That's the last time I was in love. Love is worth fighting for!

  • @DavidZakuzaRyutashi

    @DavidZakuzaRyutashi

    4 жыл бұрын

    Im sorry to hear that.

  • @Handsoflight7766

    @Handsoflight7766

    4 жыл бұрын

    constipated in sin city Îm so sorry for your losses. I wish you the best

  • @Poodleinacan

    @Poodleinacan

    4 жыл бұрын

    Damn.... A pretty dramatic end. It's terrible.

  • @rayva1

    @rayva1

    Жыл бұрын

    😢

  • @lug.5329

    @lug.5329

    Жыл бұрын

    What flight?

  • @czogg99
    @czogg997 жыл бұрын

    Those who are single want to be married, those who are married want to get the hell out of dodge.

  • @RealityContradiction

    @RealityContradiction

    6 жыл бұрын

    Ck KO Perfect comment. So really, we should just be happy with our lives regardless of the present moment

  • @AM-re2bc

    @AM-re2bc

    6 жыл бұрын

    Jupiter Stars This 😏

  • @yuurishibuya4797

    @yuurishibuya4797

    5 жыл бұрын

    Welcome to what's called life

  • @paulines581

    @paulines581

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hahaha:-) true

  • @JordanConley808

    @JordanConley808

    5 жыл бұрын

    We need more polyamory!

  • @thebigpicture2455
    @thebigpicture24554 жыл бұрын

    Signs of a dying civilization.

  • @vagrant5970

    @vagrant5970

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@niriribururur7074 what? kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk,my godness.

  • @alatisangelvs
    @alatisangelvs4 жыл бұрын

    The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race.

  • @ThePaner43

    @ThePaner43

    3 жыл бұрын

    Mr. Ted K.? Are you here?

  • @simodjordjevic2701

    @simodjordjevic2701

    2 жыл бұрын

    The wheel should have never been invented..

  • @milascave2
    @milascave25 жыл бұрын

    In Japan as in the USA and probably most other places, the wedding itself is fetishized. Little girls are thought to dream about their wedding day. It is the wedding day that they are dreaming of, not the day to day reality of having some guy in your life all the time. Boys are not taught to dream of wedding days. It is a cliche that while young boys were looking at Playboy, young girls are looking at bridal magazines. But cliches have some truth to them.

  • @madlKmT

    @madlKmT

    5 жыл бұрын

    one of the only people here who has common sense.

  • @carcarjinks1430

    @carcarjinks1430

    5 жыл бұрын

    in the old days, the long-term success of marriage was more important than the wedding itself. then the de beers diamond company came along in the late 19nth century with the big lie that you need a ring to make a marriage. then marriages got more and more expensive, because women were taught to believe that the symbolism was more important than the reality.

  • @lecourageuxame100

    @lecourageuxame100

    5 жыл бұрын

    Exactly!

  • @LadyCoyKoi

    @LadyCoyKoi

    5 жыл бұрын

    Really? I was looking into gaming and Sesame Street magazines as a little girl. I dreamt of a Paleontologist and having a pet Brachiosaurus, never once wanting to be a bride. Sorry I wasn't the girly-girl. My teen years were different, but still no bridal dreams, just wet dreams. BTW, in Japan the boys looked into Hentai the most, not Playboy. Is Playbboy even a thing now-a-days? Here in the US, kids today (boys and girls) go straight into the hardcore sites. The terms and ideas little 8 year olds know these days is alarming. O_O Sometimes I feel like a virgin the way these kids talk. Oh my!

  • @itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118

    @itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118

    4 жыл бұрын

    More idolised than fetishized. The concept that if a woman doesn't have a wedding in her life she's a failure. The dream is still being sold heavily to little girls. It's a remnant of US culture from the 50's that is still going strong, it comes from a time when girls were being prepped for marriage (and little else) all through their teens. If they were sent to college it was usually to find a husband.

  • @MoralesAlex805
    @MoralesAlex8055 жыл бұрын

    People are going nuts.

  • @southengirl1

    @southengirl1

    4 жыл бұрын

    Alejandro Morales people are already nuts!

  • @suhailinayatulla652

    @suhailinayatulla652

    4 жыл бұрын

    Is it just me..or is it getting crazy out there?

  • @MubashirullahD

    @MubashirullahD

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@suhailinayatulla652 well, connected world shows us too many problems.

  • @freedomvoice4604

    @freedomvoice4604

    4 жыл бұрын

    Not so literrally,she is nice when not married,but after married ,her teeth gonna longger than that

  • @thebigpicture2455

    @thebigpicture2455

    4 жыл бұрын

    Simple...but so true. And funny.

  • @screwthenet
    @screwthenet5 жыл бұрын

    *puts a ring on my own finger * "Oh, you saucy thang. Tonight...YOU..." ^~^

  • @henrikstaaf3293
    @henrikstaaf32934 жыл бұрын

    I'm so against marriage I would leave myself at the alter

  • @erenmademewritethis9833

    @erenmademewritethis9833

    3 жыл бұрын

    That's kinda deep in a dumb way

  • @Joeyblondewolf2

    @Joeyblondewolf2

    3 жыл бұрын

    🤣

  • @spimentel562

    @spimentel562

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hahahhahaha!

  • @gwynzynoodles2553

    @gwynzynoodles2553

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Joeyblondewolf2 Why hello

  • @zuckthebetacuck2789

    @zuckthebetacuck2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm so against marriage that I'd rather die first before something like this happened to me.

  • @GaingsterKid
    @GaingsterKid6 жыл бұрын

    For those who are taking a dump on marriage and relationships in the comment section , out if bitterness , you are missing the point . Finding someone is more than just finding financial or sexual stability .It's more than the illusion of "love" . It's all about finding someone who shares life with you , the good , the bad and the ugly . It's not about escaping being alone but rather being lonely .And that's what makes this video even sadder .

  • @v.958

    @v.958

    5 жыл бұрын

    Gaingster Kidd yes, and that experience is not for everyone

  • @writingmaster3008

    @writingmaster3008

    5 жыл бұрын

    well said

  • @micaholson1052

    @micaholson1052

    5 жыл бұрын

    Why should one need a woman to escape being lonely? People don't realize that there's many people out there already that care about them, including their friends and family. It's because of this that I know I'm well valued and that I don't need validity of my own existence through a relationship.

  • @johnroberts1616

    @johnroberts1616

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@micaholson1052 No one said you need validity of your own existence through a relationship. That isn't why most people have relationships or marriage. Most people just end up in a relationship and getting married because they fall in love for real. Once you truly are in love, it's almost impossible to resist being with that person and usually wanting marriage. It just happens to you. You aren't trying to validate your existence or some other silly idea.

  • @micaholson1052

    @micaholson1052

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@johnroberts1616 Love is really nothing more than a chemical reaction in your brain. You may disagree, but the concept of love is really nothing more than a man made one. Same as marriage.

  • @sayakauotani3572
    @sayakauotani35725 жыл бұрын

    You know, the bridal agent should just pack a model groom to complete the wedding pictures lol like why not? Maybe charge a bit more for the optional groom prop lol since it’s just taking pictures and a pseudo wedding

  • @alexsoto5403

    @alexsoto5403

    5 жыл бұрын

    Considering you can hire "sisters" and "friends" in Japan, I'm surprised that isn't an option.

  • @emlmm88

    @emlmm88

    4 жыл бұрын

    And then you can pay a little extra later to have yourself photo-shopped into the groom's positions in the photos.

  • @wildeonsight
    @wildeonsight4 жыл бұрын

    She is putting herself out there and hasn’t found what she’s looking for, so she is doing something for herself, I just hope she took a nice vacation after!

  • @abdillahfamilychannel8418
    @abdillahfamilychannel84185 жыл бұрын

    I married my wife together since my age 20 and my wife 19 by also doing college. In Indonesia, going marry is easy u know. Our life is very good nowadays

  • @iam_joshua_bcxvii

    @iam_joshua_bcxvii

    4 жыл бұрын

    I must have a Japanese mentality then, I couldn't even imagine getting married at my current age of 24, Let alone at 20 yrs old, Heck not even at 29yrs old max I guess.

  • @spiritanimal7516

    @spiritanimal7516

    4 жыл бұрын

    Where your from they encourage marriage, in the U.S they tell you to wait till you're 30.

  • @adintyaannasaidhiakharisma5202

    @adintyaannasaidhiakharisma5202

    4 жыл бұрын

    alhamdulillah selamat !! 😍

  • @MubashirullahD

    @MubashirullahD

    4 жыл бұрын

    Happy for you.

  • @MubashirullahD

    @MubashirullahD

    4 жыл бұрын

    @Sweetbutter Cupcakes it will be offset by the none you will have.

  • @Rek26987
    @Rek269879 жыл бұрын

    I feel sad watching this. the most valuable thing in life is love not money. Its hard to get love from this world!

  • @torachan23

    @torachan23

    7 жыл бұрын

    Rek26987 | You need money to get love, fool.

  • @carultch

    @carultch

    7 жыл бұрын

    Love is just a sugar coating word we use for hiding the elephant in the room. The fact that men and women both mutually have ulterior motives for getting involved with each other in the first place. If they both admit their ulterior motives, it is called prostitution. If they both hide their ulterior motives and call it love, it is romance.

  • @carultch

    @carultch

    7 жыл бұрын

    That's the no-true-Scottsman fallacy.

  • @carultch

    @carultch

    7 жыл бұрын

    Women marry for financial security. Men marry for the illusion of sexual security.

  • @josephsmith728

    @josephsmith728

    6 жыл бұрын

    I think that Asians get bored of looking at other Asians in Japan, and they just want newness or novelty. They want something that they can't find in the continent bounded by Europe and the Arctic, Pacific, and Indian oceans. They want either a black man or white man.

  • @WLotus
    @WLotus5 жыл бұрын

    The title is misleading. Even the wedding planner says being alone is not necessarily the same as being lonely. This woman is enjoying her life, and part of that enjoyment was buying a wedding package for herself. I love it!

  • @biplav32

    @biplav32

    5 жыл бұрын

    No, its the same.

  • @warpnin3

    @warpnin3

    5 жыл бұрын

    But the main component in a wedding ceremony is missing: a partner. This really is sad.

  • @kozuta8858

    @kozuta8858

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Kuuryo yeah I agree seriously you're supposed to have a partner in marriage. And doing it alone and trying to experience it but the groom is missing is kinda pointless it's almost like she wants to escape reality and her problems that she would just plan a wedding but shes alone, its pretty sad.

  • @hiimain7932

    @hiimain7932

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@biplav32 Haha it is funny you insisted she is lonely when you have never interacted with her 😆 I am extrovert person, and somehow I can say that I can easily connect with others, but after years of self reflection of finding what makes me more at peace and content, I find the answer in spending more time with myself. You dont really need other people to make you happy, at the end of the day--happiness is a choice. You can find happiness in every small things, learning new things on your own, I mean, there lot of happiness you can find in building a good relationship with yourself. I feel more at peace and calm and happier being by myself. But dont get me wrong, I still hang out with my friends so I can tell the difference of happiness I find by enjoying myself alone or with other. I think the difference is the happiness you find by spending time with others is sort of "temporary" and "fragile", but the happiness you can find by being yourself is sort of "long term" and "genuine". In short, I think, it is naive to think people who are alone are lonely, you would not know they are more happier than those with partners.

  • @biplav32

    @biplav32

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@hiimain7932 tldr

  • @propov1802
    @propov18024 жыл бұрын

    Am I speaking to the man or the woman of the house? - - - - Yes.

  • @skyam2677
    @skyam26775 жыл бұрын

    I love this part of the Japanese culture. They turn a problem into a charming experience. In a society of shut-ins and high suicide rate, self-love and self-care is beautiful. Good for her.

  • @margoac9476
    @margoac94765 жыл бұрын

    I’d marry myself but then the likelihood of divorce would be really high! 😂 ♥️🤭

  • @MojiMikato

    @MojiMikato

    4 жыл бұрын

    Margo A. C. MAC of course because you are a women. Women are grown up children.

  • @florianlaur5300

    @florianlaur5300

    4 жыл бұрын

    I know you're joking, but it still says something about how you seem to see yourself subconsciously...

  • @c4crafts286

    @c4crafts286

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@MojiMikato ok sadman

  • @u2buserusingu2b95

    @u2buserusingu2b95

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes, so sad. Divorced, but you still having to live with yourself. Looking in the mirror, pleading, "Why don't you love me, anymore?", receiving only stares and silence.

  • @yosbudi5708

    @yosbudi5708

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hi beautiful 🌷🌷🌷🌷

  • @anny5324
    @anny53248 жыл бұрын

    good for her. I would never judge her. I think it's great she is happy with her decision.

  • @josephsmith728

    @josephsmith728

    6 жыл бұрын

    anny Japan needs Jesus Christ.

  • @XHellCandyX

    @XHellCandyX

    6 жыл бұрын

    Joseph Smith don’t you know they have Christian church don’t be ignorant and Jesus is going to what get her pregnant don’t joke.

  • @luciatat4084

    @luciatat4084

    6 жыл бұрын

    She may seem happy, it does not mean she really is....the fact that she got to marry herself cannot come out of happiness and cannot be happiness either....

  • @andriipalchik

    @andriipalchik

    5 жыл бұрын

    She's pathetic!)

  • @rudeegruenberg9184

    @rudeegruenberg9184

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@josephsmith728 its not your concern respect their culture

  • @MubashirullahD
    @MubashirullahD4 жыл бұрын

    Imagine a guy showing up on the self wedding.

  • @Melly16yr10
    @Melly16yr103 жыл бұрын

    This story was strange but also rather sweet at the same time. I loved how she learnt more about herself and enjoyed every minute of it very heart warming. Also makes me want to be a Wedding Photographer or at least professional photographer at the very least. Beautiful story.

  • @rayva1

    @rayva1

    Жыл бұрын

    Not really. What she needed was to travel and get out of the country, meet and marry a foreigner instead. She’s has little more spirit than how most Japanese in society behave.

  • @1houroflove186
    @1houroflove1866 жыл бұрын

    Solo wedding: US$2,010. And people ask me how I can afford to travel.

  • @annieranai2198
    @annieranai21985 жыл бұрын

    That woman has mastered the TREAT YO SELF philosophy. It's too bad this channel has titled this video "lonely women" or wrote that she married herself because it's really not the case. At no point she's saying that she's marrying herself. She's merely enjoying a fun activity that may also reconciled herself with her dream and what she wished to be. So many comments didn't understand that and are using that as a tool to spit on feminism or western culture. I think they simply didn't watch the video and just read the title/description. What Haruna and other women did isn't that far from people cosplaying or putting on an Oiran kimono...

  • @leotardbanshee

    @leotardbanshee

    5 жыл бұрын

    They would rather blame feminism than toxic masculinity and capitalism for making these men into dudes selfish macho men they don't want to marry.

  • @JanetStarChild

    @JanetStarChild

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@leotardbanshee Truth! Toxic men love to piss on Feminism, but it's because of Toxic Masculinity and the Patriarchy why Feminism exists and is still relevant to this day.

  • @RainyRunningRiver

    @RainyRunningRiver

    5 жыл бұрын

    Annie Ranai no I think YOU are the one missing the point but whatever you want to think.

  • @nanyummyify

    @nanyummyify

    5 жыл бұрын

    I think they wanted an eye catching title so they slightly exaggerated. Try not to read too much into it. I see your point though.

  • @ZNMelowLeloNeka

    @ZNMelowLeloNeka

    5 жыл бұрын

    whats so nice about marrying yourself...I mean, when you are born you are already married to yourself anyway because you have to live with yourself.

  • @billyno-neck9576
    @billyno-neck95765 жыл бұрын

    You know what, you go girl! It isn't hurting anyone and it gives a self esteem boost!

  • @anthnysalazar2887
    @anthnysalazar28875 жыл бұрын

    2:23 there you have your answer,,,, they just don’t want to lose their freedom

  • @birgitcangonja5175

    @birgitcangonja5175

    4 жыл бұрын

    Selfishness

  • @SpiritOfOrange

    @SpiritOfOrange

    4 жыл бұрын

    Birgit Cangonja I think it could be deemed selfish if people want a partner and that type of freedom. How would they ever be able to compromise over important joint decisions? It’s not selfish to want freedom but one would get the most out of that freedom if the person remains partner less and celibate. The freedom from having to be concerned when, with whom and where the next lustful session will materialise from. That is liberating.

  • @amartinjoe
    @amartinjoe9 жыл бұрын

    that's interesting..."we want our independence"....hence no need for companionship.

  • @madlKmT

    @madlKmT

    5 жыл бұрын

    I don't think you really get what independence they're talking about. Most men are pretty independent but they still get married? I think independent means if you didn't have a husband or wife, it wouldn't stop you from living. Not that if you're independent, you no longer are able to find a relationship. I know this comment is a bit late but I just wanted you to understand the misconception

  • @aviweskiti8031

    @aviweskiti8031

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@madlKmT 100% thank you

  • @khadijamohammadi4521

    @khadijamohammadi4521

    5 жыл бұрын

    Your company is the besssssst company you have. No one takes advantage of you and you do not take advantage of others.

  • @KyleRiffs

    @KyleRiffs

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@aviweskiti8031 0% no thanks

  • @LadyCoyKoi

    @LadyCoyKoi

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Scott Sullivan Than change the economic system so that problem wouldn't happen. Most men don't want to settle down till they are over 40 years old.... oh but women have to deal with saggy nasty old man balls filled with deteriorated ASD sperm right? Hypocrite much?

  • @sselemaNrM
    @sselemaNrM7 жыл бұрын

    Japanese people probably work more than us and any free time they have, and I can see how they'd rather spend it first on themselves than with other people. It's the work culture and high standard of living that's ruining it I think, but also perhaps technology as well

  • @alexiagordy5193

    @alexiagordy5193

    5 жыл бұрын

    I work over 90 hours a week. I understand Japanese womans struggle with finding friends and partners. Its extremely difficult and lonely. But you must make discoveries about yourself.

  • @randommortal3383
    @randommortal33834 жыл бұрын

    The ceremony is mostly booked shortly before a 30th or 40th birthday.... hmmmm

  • @ajl2232

    @ajl2232

    3 жыл бұрын

    And?

  • @MrWeitblick

    @MrWeitblick

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ajl2232 What "And"?

  • @lthegreatestdetective5568
    @lthegreatestdetective55683 жыл бұрын

    I feel so sad for her :( It's been 5 years I hope she's living happily with or without a partner.

  • @shaun2513

    @shaun2513

    Жыл бұрын

    There was a time when she rejected nice guys and guys frowned upon her but she keep rejecting her. But after 30 her beauty fade way and the nice guys ignored her. It's her own fault.

  • @AdmiralRamirez7

    @AdmiralRamirez7

    9 ай бұрын

    ​@@shaun2513agreed

  • @KanengBotsha
    @KanengBotsha6 жыл бұрын

    the whole "i wanna be single and independent" line being taken to a whole new level...wow!!!

  • @tigerex777
    @tigerex7778 жыл бұрын

    I've been all over the world and noticed that societies and countries that are high ranked in income and wealth tend to have the loneliest people. Just like that one Japanese man said that they didn't want to bother with marriage because they wanted to do stuff and not sacrifice personal freedom; that's called you don't want to be in a relationship, because the moment you're in one, especially marriage, it's two, not one. Countries like in South America don't really have this problem because people live simpler lives and are just more simple minded, so they are more family oriented and family focused. Sadly Korea is going the way of Japan very slowly and that's not a good sign.

  • @orgami100

    @orgami100

    8 жыл бұрын

    You're totally correct. .. Spent a year in South Corea, few times in Japan and Singapore. .. Unless they're drinking and getting drunk they behave like cement columns. .. Actually this leaves great opportunity finding one of these ladies ( left over brides ) since the guys don't have any romance game, young guy's spending their life away smoking in the Pachinko game parlors. .

  • @hemmel777

    @hemmel777

    8 жыл бұрын

    Thats why i travel to poor countries ;)

  • @jbaron8120

    @jbaron8120

    8 жыл бұрын

    So they just work and play game consoles and not interested in sex or short term relationships?

  • @orgami100

    @orgami100

    7 жыл бұрын

    That's why they come to work there, then sending money to their home country. .

  • @100kby35

    @100kby35

    7 жыл бұрын

    Men in Japan have gone MGTOW. They have done a cost, benefit, and risk analysis of marriage and have deemed marriage to not be worth it. MGTOW is trending in the West now. What we see in Japan will play out in the West, not just the rise of MGTOW or Herbivore Man but also economic stagnation caused by the bursting of asset price bubbles.

  • @angeliqueroux3017
    @angeliqueroux30175 жыл бұрын

    I think a honeymoon for 1 would be a lot more fun.... like, spa treatments, touristy things, the complete self-care abroad package.

  • @erebostd

    @erebostd

    5 жыл бұрын

    That's just a nice vacation. A honeymoon is for two.

  • @ganmu3970

    @ganmu3970

    5 жыл бұрын

    What you said it was just depressing, on the other hand, that's one of the reasons why couples are not longer working, because, these days a person only likes to focus on oneself and its own wishes.

  • @angeliqueroux3017

    @angeliqueroux3017

    5 жыл бұрын

    Ganmu I don’t think so. The value of emotional independence & putting your own needs first is essential in any healthy relationship. You cannot learn to love someone else if you can’t love, respect and value yourself. Relationships no longer work because people are emotionally immature, lack higher values from themselves/are lying to themselves that they are good people, or have been hurt too badly to try again. You don’t go into a relationship to feel like their significant other completes them. You are 100%, your significant other is 100%, and when you’re together it’s a 200% kind of magic. That’s healthy.

  • @angeliqueroux3017

    @angeliqueroux3017

    5 жыл бұрын

    Erebos A honeymoon is the romantic vacation you take after a wedding. But however you want to define the concept, I wouldn’t condemn people who never find love to never being able to experience a honeymoon just for the sake of being conceptually correct. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Compassion first. I bet half of the people who watched this video are judging the woman for doing what she did. It’s funny how we form opinions about how other people should live their lives. I really hate that about humanity. Not all opinions are valuable.

  • @aksheygupta1556
    @aksheygupta15564 жыл бұрын

    this anime sucks, where are the subtitles

  • @last_womann8344
    @last_womann83445 жыл бұрын

    This is about to be America very soon, and probably all over the world thanks to technology and poor communication skills as a result.

  • @LadyCoyKoi

    @LadyCoyKoi

    5 жыл бұрын

    It would be caused due to the socioeconomic system persay, not technology. The misuse of technology, maybe, but not technology itself. What will cause the down fall will be the rise of many disorders due to people having children at an older age, because of the monetary-market system is set up to make it harder to settle down earlier. Older men produce ASD (Autism) and other social related disorders and gene mutations, while older women produce down syndrome, and other disabilities and gene mutations. Bottom-line, the selfish actions from the typical developmental people (i.e. normal non-disable people) will be the downfall of our species. All because a group of morons wouldn't dare to face the facts that our current economic system is a failed experiment that needs to be replace with something that benefits human survival as a whole... and not just to live, but to thrive and be able to transfer genes to the next generation more efficiently.

  • @NPC-rz4rg

    @NPC-rz4rg

    5 жыл бұрын

    Juci Shockwave Enjoy watching it all crumble.

  • @elena-lc4uk

    @elena-lc4uk

    4 жыл бұрын

    Live in your own plastic bubble,,,on ly yourself as company,,,,, watching ppl do ordinary things online ,,cos you don't hang out with real people

  • @VanteSeis

    @VanteSeis

    4 жыл бұрын

    true

  • @shihoblade

    @shihoblade

    4 жыл бұрын

    Has more tl do withnthe global economic situation. Work hours are increasing but actual wealth per person is decreasing. Since finances are so important to women, their options are dwindling down and in response men are pulling back from courtship since time is less and its getting harder to impress.

  • @chainedunfree727
    @chainedunfree7276 жыл бұрын

    I really wanna hug her (not in a creepy way) but because I could relate, and what her friend told her really hit me hard, the; "it should feel natural like air because if not. it's not gonna last." Haruna is such a nice name and seeing a woman with this much sadness breaks my heart in a way. she smiles every now and then but i can feel that there is real sadness in her heart.

  • @BBenice1
    @BBenice15 жыл бұрын

    On the one hand, it’s comforting to know that there are other groups of women in the world going through the same thing the black women in America are going through. On the other hand, it’s really sad to see that love is dying in certain parts of the world and for certain groups of people.

  • @RIMJANESSOHMALOOG
    @RIMJANESSOHMALOOG4 жыл бұрын

    If she finds a husband she'll have to divorce herself first

  • @graceyoung3771
    @graceyoung37715 жыл бұрын

    Good for her. She has worked long and hard. She deserves to experience one if her dreams. There wouldn't be a controversy if she decided to blow her money on a vacation. This is her dream not ours.

  • @antgotguap6951

    @antgotguap6951

    5 жыл бұрын

    Grace Young but this isn’t her dream she’s just doing it because she’s gettin old and thinks this is experiencing marriage. She dreams of having a man ask her to marry him

  • @jburtonca

    @jburtonca

    4 жыл бұрын

    It's absolutely tragic. This is not a dream, it's a nightmare.

  • @mac9162

    @mac9162

    4 жыл бұрын

    Grace Young Exactly! Stop bashing her.

  • @mac9162

    @mac9162

    4 жыл бұрын

    Antgotguap How you know? Could this b ur interpretation?

  • @lupitaarroyo
    @lupitaarroyo6 жыл бұрын

    A lot of really negative, judgemental comments, we don't even know this lady or her life really.I agree and research has found that the key to joy and health is connection with others. She obviously wants it but you can't blame her for not having found it. There's no worse feeling than lying in bed next to your partner and feeling completly alone, plenty of people are married with children and miserable.. I don't think there's a simple answer/solution. Human beings are very complex.

  • @eren_krugerTV

    @eren_krugerTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    I hope she is happy and responsible for her personal choices and then do not blame the men and do not ask the Daddy State to take care of her with the taxpayers' money through the Social Welfare.

  • @macrick

    @macrick

    5 жыл бұрын

    HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @amyabay4826

    @amyabay4826

    5 жыл бұрын

    she paid 2,300 euros for her own "self wedding" from her own pocket... she is self sufficient earning her keep with a little extra to spend on her whims.. better this than being stuck with a deadbeat husband who will rip her off from alimony after divorce

  • @amyabay4826

    @amyabay4826

    5 жыл бұрын

    CJ, you are off topic... must be the barbiturates kicking in..

  • @Polones12

    @Polones12

    5 жыл бұрын

    I'm judging her in silence

  • @TheCrusaderRabbits
    @TheCrusaderRabbits4 жыл бұрын

    Marrying yourself is the epitome of loneliness.

  • @cgyj
    @cgyj4 жыл бұрын

    A business that built off people misery 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @kwamebushman606

    @kwamebushman606

    4 жыл бұрын

    The US government knows all about such businesses

  • @freedomvoice4604

    @freedomvoice4604

    4 жыл бұрын

    True

  • @raylevi5343

    @raylevi5343

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@kwamebushman606 👀 you're on to something.

  • @MyOnlyCommentIs

    @MyOnlyCommentIs

    4 жыл бұрын

    Stonkz

  • @ajl2232

    @ajl2232

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@kwamebushman606 Facts! Most businesses are built of someone's misery and low self esteem.

  • @CopiousDoinksLLC
    @CopiousDoinksLLC6 жыл бұрын

    3:06 You know, it's really interesting what this woman says because less than a minute earlier in the footage we see a young guy _completely contradicting her_ in every way. The men all appear very polite and civilized; the young fella explains _exactly_ why men aren't really looking for relationships in a very down-to-Earth manner. It makes you wonder if anybody showed Haruna this footage at any stage during the researching of this piece or if maybe she's watched it afterwards.

  • @mac9162

    @mac9162

    4 жыл бұрын

    Edward Carnby Right.? I feel Haruna can't win. She should travel outside of Japan and endless possibilities b open. I wish her love!

  • @MsLotusBlooms
    @MsLotusBlooms7 жыл бұрын

    This made me so sad.

  • @intrestvidsaffairs6505

    @intrestvidsaffairs6505

    6 жыл бұрын

    Tina but i love this mens r not slave of feminism

  • @alldogsgotoheaven3434

    @alldogsgotoheaven3434

    6 жыл бұрын

    I am single, 45 year old woman. Watching this I feel sad too. I am not pretty enough to ever have a husband so I kind of always knew I wouldn't get married. So I reconciled my self to that a while ago. However she is pretty and that is why I feel sad. She always figured she would get Married. So she has not had the time I have had to reconcile with that reality. On the other hand this show gave me an idea, not for a solo marriage. But to treat myself every year to a satisfying experience that we can look back on. I think that is what the solo marriage is all about. I think I am going to treat my self to an interesting travel adventure every year. I always thought it was sad yo take photos as I was by my self in them , but now I realize the necessity of it . I want to be able to say , even if it is just to my self, you did that. That is you in Hawaii, that is you in Paris etc. I think this is something, women, married or single should do.

  • @nbert35

    @nbert35

    6 жыл бұрын

    @All dogs Go To Heaven they're lot of single men your age, you definitely can get married if you want ! Best luck :)

  • @clockworkorange3628

    @clockworkorange3628

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@nbert35 love your optimism, stay straight......

  • @jacobjacob4139

    @jacobjacob4139

    4 жыл бұрын

    MGTOW

  • @lalakuma9
    @lalakuma93 жыл бұрын

    I think this is happening because society has made weddings kind of a rite of passage that people feel like they must go through at a certain age. Society tell little girls that they will get married and be a bride someday. The emphasis is usually a lot more on the wedding than on the marriage relationship itself.

  • @pinkroses9320

    @pinkroses9320

    2 жыл бұрын

    I think some people want to experience a wedding and don’t necessarily want the burden of marriage. It’s a great way to make your dream happen and not deal with the man.

  • @anonmouse15

    @anonmouse15

    9 ай бұрын

    Always found that confusing, but then again, I am male.

  • @1knightero
    @1knightero4 жыл бұрын

    This just brings forever alone to the next lvl ....

  • @Iluvmycowcow
    @Iluvmycowcow9 жыл бұрын

    I feel like this is a really positive experience but it is a shame that the dating scene in Japan is like that for her.

  • @Gambit771

    @Gambit771

    6 жыл бұрын

    Women created the dating scene and this is one of the inevitable results.

  • @aymara9152

    @aymara9152

    6 жыл бұрын

    Gambit771 what do you mean "women created the dating scene" ? I'm actually interested in what you mean by that

  • @Gambit771

    @Gambit771

    6 жыл бұрын

    A stranger named Aymara Dating is all about women. Asking her out, taking her out, paying for everything and so on. All a woman has to do its turn up and she can mock him and criticise him to everyone afterwards without ever once being judged. The dating scene is a one-sided in experience all situations. Like valentines day and weddings it is all about her so women create the dating scene whatever's that is and men are foolish enough to play along.

  • @gigischuster3078

    @gigischuster3078

    5 жыл бұрын

    That's same dating scene in U.S as well now!

  • @Kresanikelfe
    @Kresanikelfe5 жыл бұрын

    The thing is: sometimes you get so used to being single (for a long time), the thought of another person living with you and be by your side and sharing life together can get really intimidating and unusual --> like wedon't even have place for another person in our life, because we established being living on our own, which is kinda sad :')

  • @TygerLille
    @TygerLille5 жыл бұрын

    She looked happy and beautiful. I wish they would have shown a few of her pictures, the backgrounds were amazing.

  • @mo_7199
    @mo_71993 жыл бұрын

    You know what I realize after watching these? Ordinary is amazing. The ordinary life of having a stable job, with a family of your own, a comfortable house, and friends to spend time with. Wouldn't that be so beautiful?

  • @pinkroses9320

    @pinkroses9320

    2 жыл бұрын

    No

  • @rudeegruenberg9184

    @rudeegruenberg9184

    Жыл бұрын

    @@pinkroses9320 what make you said that?

  • @KallusGarnet
    @KallusGarnet5 жыл бұрын

    Haruna is s perfect example of Japanese people not loving themselves enough, we all need to love ourselves before we can truely find love and happiness.

  • @mrazik131

    @mrazik131

    5 жыл бұрын

    Kallus Garnet she doesn’t have to she has her carrier,that is All ? By today standards...

  • @katewrightsings
    @katewrightsings5 жыл бұрын

    Can we just skip to the part where people just love each other? All these comments are either blaming women or blaming men. Let's just stop blaming and fix it. Love for everyone :)

  • @ulquiorra3104

    @ulquiorra3104

    5 жыл бұрын

    Before we can fix or start the healing process we need to know where to shift the blame and whom is responsible for it

  • @seidyn9439

    @seidyn9439

    5 жыл бұрын

    Utopia, its not possible.

  • @macrick

    @macrick

    5 жыл бұрын

    HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @mikicerise6250

    @mikicerise6250

    5 жыл бұрын

    Omg, you two are a perfect couple. You're so cute together. :D

  • @Tippy2forU

    @Tippy2forU

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@ulquiorra3104 : Yep. Many don't look in the mirror. Many don't love themselves.

  • @worldcitizeng6507
    @worldcitizeng65075 жыл бұрын

    I have been taking solo honeymoon(vacation) around the world in the last 10 years and loving it, no commitment needed :)

  • @kisut7

    @kisut7

    4 жыл бұрын

    Good for you. I really love to hear you say "no commitment needed" when you're 60yrs old and have cancer.

  • @Matthew-16-26
    @Matthew-16-265 жыл бұрын

    I can’t imagine doing all of that (especially the dating website) to meet someone. Maybe it’s just me but ALL of the men I found extremely attractive I just happened to meet when I wasn’t even looking (it taught me to always keep enjoying life and eventually I’ll meet the right one).

  • @LadyCoyKoi

    @LadyCoyKoi

    5 жыл бұрын

    I usually bump into a few at conventions. Who pays for dating sites? Pay a weekly pass at Supercon and bump into many cute guys with similar interests. I have yet to find one that doesn't want kids.

  • @CLOWNBOT00
    @CLOWNBOT007 жыл бұрын

    *Workaholics.*

  • @univuniveral9713

    @univuniveral9713

    6 жыл бұрын

    I am a workaholic too. I prefer it that way.

  • @anothersatisfiedcustomer

    @anothersatisfiedcustomer

    6 жыл бұрын

    I thought that was South Korea

  • @maxmenaktas

    @maxmenaktas

    5 жыл бұрын

    Bs they are sociospastics

  • @danwilson12

    @danwilson12

    5 жыл бұрын

    I'm not sure if it's being a workaholic rather it's the work culture of the nation to needlessly take too much time out of their people. Lack of good jobs and low pay for how much work is put in.

  • @Nava4Gamingz
    @Nava4Gamingz6 жыл бұрын

    *This is Actually SAD Story..*

  • @sophiashakti5638
    @sophiashakti56384 жыл бұрын

    A perfect business strategy based on vanity hiding under"self-discovery" of " I worth it".

  • @sanjeevkushwaha4043

    @sanjeevkushwaha4043

    2 жыл бұрын

    It will be very profitable in future 😎

  • @TechnoBeehive
    @TechnoBeehive4 жыл бұрын

    This makes me want to cry

  • @BenjiGalore
    @BenjiGalore5 жыл бұрын

    High Standards without having High Quality.

  • @AllStar4261

    @AllStar4261

    5 жыл бұрын

    yes

  • @freedomvoice4604

    @freedomvoice4604

    4 жыл бұрын

    True

  • @UrbanaticLemonade

    @UrbanaticLemonade

    3 жыл бұрын

    true very true

  • @leechandler374
    @leechandler3745 жыл бұрын

    My Japanese language teacher told me that Japanese women are more particular than American women. That's why I don't have one. They are too selective.

  • @BobSaint

    @BobSaint

    4 жыл бұрын

    That's not what manga taught me, though. Each and every romcom starts with: "This is me, average student, with no interesting traits what so ever...".

  • @rolamahmoud8909
    @rolamahmoud89095 жыл бұрын

    Alone time is the best quality time. Being alone shouldn’t lead to loneliness. Many women think that a wedding dress is the best thing about marriage. That might be true. In such crazy unpredictable world children pay the price wether an unhealthy marriage survives or breaks. Many beautiful women are desperate about finding the right men, only to later immerse their hearts in disappointment, grief and loss. We own our lives and our happiness. Why give them to someone else to mess around with them? Falling in love with oneself isn’t selfish. Getting to know ourselves better and better everyday and update ourselves of what we’re becoming is so liberating and enlightening. We owe ourselves happiness and joy. Once we stop looking for them outside, we start becoming more desired and appreciated by others.

  • @ledlight6630
    @ledlight66303 жыл бұрын

    It looks like Haruna is very happy for wearing a wedding dress and taking beautiful pictures and I think she is having fun 😍 That was an amazing video❤ , I liked it , thanks very much DW team🙋‍♀️ ,Japan is a Wonder land 🎎

  • @she_wizzdom4410
    @she_wizzdom44105 жыл бұрын

    Meeting as many people as possible in 2 hrs sounds so stressful and crazy Relax!

  • @Nemo0279
    @Nemo02795 жыл бұрын

    I actually think this is a pretty neat idea. Its not that much different than playing dressup and having some cute photos especially if you're a fashionista or just like to try new things

  • @cristianhcm1914

    @cristianhcm1914

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wrong

  • @r0land4323501
    @r0land43235014 жыл бұрын

    Im happy for her and sad at the same time.

  • @RC-fe9py
    @RC-fe9py5 жыл бұрын

    What we really wanna know though is did she consummate the wedding?🤣🤣🤣

  • @awakenthegreatnesswithin

    @awakenthegreatnesswithin

    5 жыл бұрын

    Rob Clark 🤔😆🤦🏼‍♂️

  • @warpnin3

    @warpnin3

    5 жыл бұрын

    In Japan there are apps and robots for that.

  • @LadyCoyKoi

    @LadyCoyKoi

    5 жыл бұрын

    I bet she did before, during and after.

  • @Tsubahi

    @Tsubahi

    4 жыл бұрын

    By masturbation, yes. 😐

  • @lalalalalala9333

    @lalalalalala9333

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bro im dead 💀 Lmfaoooooooooooooo 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @calliope2296
    @calliope22966 жыл бұрын

    I think this is awesome! She just wanted to do something that made her feel good about herself and to feel beautiful. If someone wants to dress up and have a day to wear a beautiful dress and make up and have pictures as memories I don’t see that as self centered at all. She’s making her own happiness and not depending on anyone else to do it for her. I love it! 😊👍

  • @taniakaulitz6490

    @taniakaulitz6490

    5 жыл бұрын

    But at the end of the day I bet she cried on her pillow for being so lonely

  • @joy1196
    @joy11965 жыл бұрын

    Being alone doesn't mean you're lonely.. Nobody wants to end up being miserable after marriage..

  • @jusaverage6347
    @jusaverage63474 жыл бұрын

    Lord this is so sad. So many factors play against her. I hope things turn around for her at some point and she doesn’t have to die alone

  • @subhrajitgupta5535
    @subhrajitgupta55354 жыл бұрын

    The "lady monopoly" in dating gets a reality check by hardworking and noble men.. Get a juice of that first.

  • @noviceprepper53
    @noviceprepper539 жыл бұрын

    lovely lady, how nice she gets some of the bridal experience

  • @reversemoustachecat8127
    @reversemoustachecat81277 жыл бұрын

    This is the highest form of sadness

  • @nomorefood6742

    @nomorefood6742

    6 жыл бұрын

    reverse moustache cat but it's not a bad idea

  • @ghostfifth
    @ghostfifth4 жыл бұрын

    Well WTH. I can't find a good girl here and they are marrying themselves....

  • @noticemesenpai69

    @noticemesenpai69

    3 жыл бұрын

    The issue is that those women wouldn’t want to date you until they got desperate

  • @pentakadi
    @pentakadi4 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely fantastic...