outstanding, i mean your way of thinking is like film in front, very knowledble

Siblings are not available for each after marriage. They fight for property and none of them want to look after parents. Times have changed... Mama fufa mausa mausi ... Ye rishtey ab naam ke reh Gaye ..these ppl just meet for functions and I todays world they don't have time also... siblings of the same house are destined to stay in different cities . No use...sirf parents ka life bacche raise kar kar ke gujar jayegi

@Vijay55234

Жыл бұрын

Yes .. agree..

@electronics36

Жыл бұрын

Wrong. It's upto you to develop relations. Property to be divided equally. Oldage homes for help . But kid needs a sibling for first 20 years of life which goes in long way .

@govindakumar7584

Жыл бұрын

Aare bhai to kya kre bas rehane de aise hi it's a negative thoughts

@shishpalsingh1667

Жыл бұрын

One child is the need of hour.

@pradeepshukla7654

Жыл бұрын

Dear brother..aesa kuch kuch nahi hai..unse poocho jinke bacche nahi hote ya jinke bhai behen nahi hote..how much these people suffer and how over consciously these people live life without sibling..or those who have lost sibling or one of the son/daughter in life..1 is always putting your family in a risky zone

Sir, two kids is the best. I am from Kerala and here the trend is that if the first child is a girl then people are hesitant to have a second child for fear of having two daughters. If the first one is a boy then they are more confident of planning a second kid.

@aastha6930

7 ай бұрын

Sad !

Sir reality of society is aajkal bacche ki kisi ko nahi padi na inlaws ko na father ko. Sab apna comfort jone dekhte. Bhugtna sirf maa ko h and working maa ki halat pathetic h

@SangoLifeSutras

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you. Thats the trend

@khushi1890

Жыл бұрын

True i m agree with you. N i also faced this situation in my life. Bachaa, ghar, job , parents, inlaws, society sab kuch expections from women.

@krutikah1468

Жыл бұрын

True I am also facing same thing

@bankergill8340

8 күн бұрын

​@@SangoLifeSutras meri sas to meri nand k bache bde kr diye ab hamare k liye phle hi tane dene lgi h m nhi chahti itni -vity k sath jbrdsti mere bache ko unke pas rkhu

Sir with due respect !! To each his own . I am a female Govt Officer . Married Females cannot work or go beyond their comfort levels without the support of either Dada dadi or nana nani . In looking after kids . Blessed are those females who have a support system .

@akhileshsingh3597

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@shakship3103

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree

@lakshminarayanan6220

Жыл бұрын

Very true

I have only one reason... Job ke sath it's very difficult to go for a second child and if you have difficult parents it will make it more worse...

@jyotiyaduwanshi5186

Жыл бұрын

Same with me

@jyotirrr7798

Жыл бұрын

Same here . Kindly suggest on this sir

@smartmom7758

Жыл бұрын

Just point view - It's hard but you don't wann leave your kid alone in life with no sibling relationship when you get into old age or in their teenage years or when u r no longer there to support them.. when they need someone their age group. Other side it's nice to have 2 kids as your support system at some point in life.

@dahliajaji9547

Жыл бұрын

@THE ZOLDICS ,yes you are right. Not to have long gap. As it is one can't work full time with toddlers unless support from mom or mom in law is there. Along with first child, we can look after second one too. Subsequently both can be sent to nursery, primary, secondary schools together. Parents/ In laws would be comparatively younger. That's my opinion

@raunaqueiquebal7088

Жыл бұрын

I think am also think in same way one is enough

We r in different spectrum 4 daughters. 1st daughter second twins and third total surprise package from bhagwan ji. No ladka ladki concept it just happened. It's a complete joy all under age of 7

@rohanch07

3 ай бұрын

Ab Toh condom laga le bhai. Bhagwan ji don't do sex in your place.

@divyanair6595

2 ай бұрын

Both husband and wife are working?

I am a mother of a daughter. Married for 8 years. Turned 38. Zero savings. I have lost my job during Covid. My husband is taking care of his two brothers and sisters in laws with their monthly expenses and also took full education responsibility of one of his sister's son. And my father in law is staying with us. With my current situation I am in depression. Can't figure out what to do. If l take another baby I will not be able to do or apply for jobs as l have to take care of my children and my father in law. Moreover, with the limited income of my husband how long we will last in the future. So I made a decision on not having another baby.

@chahem

Жыл бұрын

Do what suits you best

Agree for 2 kids. I have a 2, a daughter and a son. Plan to at least, give 1 flat to each in a metro city. If my kids study and land decent job also their life will be successful if they play SIP SIP in small cap and mid cap MF also. Itna kuch bhi best Dene ki jaroorat nahi hai. Best de ke bhi kid usko leverage kar payega ki nahi pata nahi. Many Ppl sending their kids to International schools and getting overwhelmed by high fees. Itna sochne ki jaroorat hi nahi hai. Avg education and avg job ke saath b agar kids sirf sip sip bhi khelte rhe zindagi bhar, To bhi they will do extremely good, provided parents have provided for the home in metro city as that's the biggest expense if you see...

Two kids. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the audience. It will be very helpful.

Very well said. Somehow young parents have developed this misplaced sense of affection towards kids. Now a days raising a child is treated like a project work, like wanting to do everything that is "best" for the child. God knows what they mean by the "best" in the first place.

@vaishnavikrishna1287

Жыл бұрын

Best means , giving a life which our parents couldn’t give it to us.

@BhuvanWalia

9 ай бұрын

@meerarajamani77 Who are 'they' in your life ?

@rishaveagarwal3737

6 ай бұрын

best means they should not struggle for iit , neet aaur govt exams , they should have enough money to pursue what they want to ,

2 kids - Not sure how common is it but I have seen quite a few cases of single child where parents don't know how much care is good care. It becomes obsession after a point. Child looks suffocated under such parenting.

When we are a part of society, every choice ultimately impacts the society. Good point about missing relationships with 1 child. Same issue of personal choice applies to health - people eat and live irresponsibly - say it's their personal choice. Then mess their health up burden the healthcare system, society and caregivers, at which point its not personal anymore, and therefore has a social impact. Difficult to convince the senior generation about that. Would love to hear your thoughts and suggestions for taking responsibility of one's health. Thank you!

I think one child is enough.This way all the earnings and assets of parents can go that child.In case of a brother and sister all the parents give all their assets to their male child and hardly anything to the girl child, which creates bitterness in relationships.

@SangoLifeSutras

Жыл бұрын

Have 2 n give to both

@miraj955

Жыл бұрын

@@SangoLifeSutras Yes,this should be the case,but my father has given me 2% and 98% to my brother.Very few have the heart to give 40% to their daughters.He married me into a very low level family as compared to them,otherwise I wouldn't have asked for a penny.I have started from zero.I have kept to 1 child,as I don't have enough resources and time to bring up 2 children.

@azadjain8534

Жыл бұрын

But giving money to married daughter is termed as dowry.

@techihandle

Жыл бұрын

@@miraj955 are you taking care of your parents and keeping them with you ? Did they not give dahej in your wedding? Are you not educated and working ? If answer to any of the above question is yes then you should get share in property.

@rishaveagarwal3737

6 ай бұрын

@@azadjain8534 she is telling about inheritence not gifts or dowry

Sir ye wala point bilkul sahi h ...har level par humiliation milta h husband and inlaws se......isiliye second baby nhi kiya...

Here I don't agree with you sir.. Having 2 kids is good provided our population would have been stabilized.. But since we are too many and resources are too less. People with good money money and at better positions in life are consuming more resources and leaving very less for family which are earning less. So for family with less resources tend to improve their life only by cutting additional burden. I think sir every country has to go through such tough situations if our grand parents had only 2 kids then our situation would have been lot better. Also when growth comes at the expense of quality, value of life then this growth is superficial and temporary. 140 crore people is not less. It is a lot of people and opportunities are the same.. Take example of America Warren Buffett said if you are born in America you have already won half of the battles of your life. It has deep meaning... This doesn't mean i recommend to people to go to America. It simple means koi toh ek generation hoga jo sab bhuktega.. Previous generations ki mistakes ko.. China maine abhi ho raha hain india 10-15 bad hoga bas.... Just because 10 percent people in India doing better than others doesn't mean everything is good in now.. Our generation have lot if different problems and having 2 kids is not an option. Just my opinion.abhi toh recession bhi start hogaya hain.. All these things impact humans.. It impact our mental health.. No peace no stability no security nothing is fix in today's world

@rishaveagarwal3737

6 ай бұрын

actually i have realised that he only makes the video for upper middle class , he forgets that lower middle class is still struggling to make ends meet

Sir, I echo your thoughts. I moved to a nuclear family setup before planning kids which helped me a lot . Husband was also able to contribute well to household work in this setup and we hired external help too according to our convenience. I now have 2 kids and doing well in my professional life with the grace of God.

Giving birth and raising kids is no joke. With cost of living going up, very hard But if the women get 5 to 8 years of break in service and then allowed to join the same office or company, then it is somewhat possible. A woman who is intelligent, hars working and career minded is forced to forgo her job for the sake of the child. The sad thing is neither the husband nor the family respects a woman who doesn't earn money. Hope some positive change happens.

@sheillybansal5356

3 ай бұрын

so right

Me and my wife both are living life of abundance by not having kids. More aspiration / goals / travel / greater learning. Kids are an anchor / an expenditure / baggage. Reputation isn't worth sacrifices.

@techihandle

Жыл бұрын

You will know about baggage when you grow old

@SaiAbitathaDUCIC

Жыл бұрын

@@techihandle well said

@arya4551

Жыл бұрын

Very good bro 👏

@mithundias8170

Жыл бұрын

@@techihandle Looks like you took it personally. Wish you good luck.

@giftcards9111

10 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

Totally agree with you on this topic. I always advice every couple in my group to have at least two kids. Now I can show them your video as a reference. 👍

We had our first baby last year. We are settled abroad. Raising a kid is such a commitment… our life has become so difficult. Forget about sleep, constant attention to baby, all peace from life is gone. We are tired and getting cranky. That’s why we have decided no more kids. Not sure how previous generations raised multiple kids, kudos to them

@doncorleone3901

Жыл бұрын

Same in India. We had our son and man first few years were hell. Constant late nights, constant running around to drop him to play homes so he is not bored at home. Money or education were not the issue for us but i was just tired at the end of it all and i can't bring myself to do it all over again. We put a lot of focus into our son and thankfully he is doing great

@ganapatihegde1024

10 ай бұрын

That is the reason, I did not want baby kids. Child free life is more relaxing.

@udaypatel123

Ай бұрын

@@ganapatihegde1024it won’t be the same forever. 😢

Best is to adopt kids! So many kids have become orphans after Covid!

Brilliant video. Can you please upload video on if advisable to adopt a child when already having a biological child. Any negative consequences for the adopted child or for any other family member. I think I found my life mentor in your videos.

@RANI1793TIGGA

Жыл бұрын

Same question

@nikunjadoshi1592

Жыл бұрын

Yes..even i have the same question

@divyad601

Жыл бұрын

Me and my Husband too wants to adopt 1 girl child.Also we have 1 biological daughter. But due to my full time govt.job and my bitter experiences with in laws I am unable to adopt/own second child. Please Sir we need your advise🙏🙏🙏

@pratibhamalik

6 ай бұрын

Hello please follow @claritywithpratibhamalik for adoption experience.

As always, wonderful thoughts. Thanks again Sir Ji

Parents should have kids only on the ability to properly raise them basic with human amenities and rights. Cannot raise half starved under nutrition kids. School lunches and deeply subsidized food rations are a good step towards a healthy country.

no support system sir, how is woman supposed to have a job, 2 kids, and live her life! Saas, Manager, duniya waalem a woman has many bosses!

Regret.The basic problem today is to find the right match, to avoid joining the growing number of divorcees.See the matrimonial columns and discover the no.of divorcees in the marriage market.Even in the lower class I see lot of divorce cases

@Raj-yd3pk

2 жыл бұрын

This is side of any kind of growing society

@dahliajaji9547

Жыл бұрын

There is lack of understanding between couples. Working ladies have different issues. Expectations from each other should be kept at minimal. Intervention from in laws should be minimal and that too in a positive manner. Mutual respect and understanding is key to successful marriage

@selvarani7772

Жыл бұрын

As Sir spoke in one of the videos, in this technically developed world , it is not issue of survival alone. Women position has changed and same old traditional system will not work for happy and prosperous life. There is lot of uncertainty in persons life now a days, so women needs to work. They have to contribute to family financially too for the welfare and progress of her family ( husband and children) . Husband have to understand , support and have to work on family happiness too. Man can be provider but women are born protectors of her loved ones. If wife is happy, children will bloom beautifully.

Sir I have 3 by chance. Got twins second time. You are right here in every point regarding the multiple factors leading to only one child. But in all this the mother herself has to be the strongest to stand for her children . No matter how any one behaves mother has to take the onus because the child is biologically hers the most.

No, 1st ladki hoti to bhi pass hote hai q k aajkl bohoto ko ho hi nahi rahe bache ,prb horahi h logo ko... i have only 1 child aur vo beti hai, muje nahi lgta me fail hui, and my husband also dont want other child

@ayuship2022

Жыл бұрын

Maine society ke iss concept ko female phobia diya hai

My husband gave me that bitterness during my first child no support thats y I didn't take second chance

One child is enough to rid the mother of any identity and health. Truth is nobody supports her so why should she destroy her peace for a second child. Reality is the relationships today don't support in child rearing. I have seen husbands having extra marital affairs during their wife's second pregnancy.

I agree with the two kids concept but the problem is with unstable marriage, long working hours, high fees in schools , career ,standard of living , job security . Support from inlaws and family are also major concern as majority of the inlaws want grandchildren but don't want responsibility also their dominance and interference in the the couple married life is the root cause for all mess this is the main reason why couples are choosing to stay childless and live life independently and not a selfish decision 😱😤😪

You explained it so nicely Sir. But nowadays it is very difficult to convince our young generation.

Very practical and logical advice. THANKSSS

@AnilKumar-qm4yv

2 жыл бұрын

Two kids✌🙏

Thank you for the video sir i am completely agreeing with your thoughts and prospective. My whole friend circle has 1 kid either its girl or boy but sir at-least we are having one kid but some youngsters where both doing job don’t even bother to raise one kid they consider this as trouble for raising them for initial 4 years and those years will be blocked for them. There are many cases where couples are not even planning for one kid.

Dude, US population is one fourth of india, and they have a GDP of 20 trillion. Its not about how many people you have its about how much consumption is there per capita. So instead of increasing the population its better to increase the quality of human beings we have. Travelling in metro or mumbai local is hell

Who will look after the kids of working couples, as grandparents are also aged & tired 🤔🤔

Sir true, husband needs to be supportive, we feel insecure without their support

@ry8156

2 жыл бұрын

Wife also needs to be supportive

Having two kids both are daughters....happy and blessed ❤❤

Completely agree. Dada dadi contribution zero hoti hai. Wo bache ko take care krne se saaf mana kr dete hai. 6 month ki maternity milti hai uske baad maa bache ko kha shore? Agar c-section section ho jaye to in law's me koi care nai krta. Husband job PE chle jate hai, usko Ghar pe uski mother uski wife k saath kya krti kuj PTA nai hota. Ladki ki bhut dorghati krte hai in law's Wale

I'm feeling good after watching your video on this topic Amit Ji.. after the first kid who is a boy ... We tried for having a girl..and now we have three boys 😂

I have a boy 5 years I am scared of second kid because I don’t want another boy. Always wanted a daughter

Yes Sir 100 % true🙏 your videos are absolutely amazing. I believe in song do phool na khilen toh ..aangan maza na dega .. i have two lovely kids 👦👧♥️♥️

Gud one sir...n that pause when u said naukari se joojh rahe ho n biwi se 😂😂...

@SangoLifeSutras

2 жыл бұрын

🤭

@shivamsekhri.05

2 жыл бұрын

@@SangoLifeSutras 😂😂😂😂🙏

@manvir777

Жыл бұрын

Biwi se to sab juj rahe he 😂😂

Absolutely agree with the idea of having two kids!

Very good advice sir as always

Sir I feel having kids or not having kids, both is fine. Marrying or not marrying, both is ok. What is important is if you are born, kuch acha karke jao yaha se. Apna purpose find karo or apne hone se kuch fayda karao society me. I am 35 yrs old very spiritual from a young age and my issue is I don't like to go through the process instead feel like adopting kids. Am I thinking right?

2 Kids . Thank u sir 🙏 for sharing such a deep perspective.

Cost of bringing up a child is enormous, emotionally, financially. Aspirations of young children are huge. It is difficult to bring up one child nowadays. We are staying in urban jungles where money is important . It’s a difficult decision for young parents.

Bitter truth, nobody feels happy at the birth of girl child. I have 2 children n both are girls

Aapke yeh video mein fevicol ka dum hain Sirjee!!☺️

Perfect! Guidance. I have one son. Sent him to Canada....Miss him like neverbefore(.2 kids)💯

Yes ...I agree with ur opinion..2 kids is best❤

Now India holds the number 1 position in population.

'2' only if parents are subscribers of Sango Life or mature enough to raise them. Otherwise '0' because of overpopulation... The next generation should be better than us!

Amit ji marriage ke baad bachhe parents ke sath hi nahi rahte toh doosre bachhe ke liye support kaise kare.

As a single child myself, i don't want anyone to be all alone during childhood. Being a single child is a curse

I have 2-boy kids. But iski education ke paise nahi he. Gov. School me padhau ya private school me. I m so confused.

Please dont motivate youth for this. This blunder to have kids at this time. Biggest sin is to have multiple kids. At max one or adoption can have one if need multiple. Reason for this is each kid born on death of so many animal spices we cut jungles for basic needs and kids grow up and our earth is suffering. Please do reasrch on that perspective also. Janwar extinct ho rahe or hame apne mama mami tau ki pade hai.

@techihandle

Жыл бұрын

Dont have even one kid if you have such thought , adopt animals and enjoy.

@AnkitKumar-kk3iw

Жыл бұрын

Abeee 😂😂 Jb insaan hi nhi bachenge to dharti pr jaanwar aur ped poudho ka achar daaloge? 😂😂😂

@rohanagarwal7880

Жыл бұрын

Janwar ki thekdaar hum hi hai kya.. Koi 8,10 krne bol bhi nhi rha 2.1 is Replacement level woh bhi galat bol rha hai??Japan South Korea China Bacche paida krne keliye Logo ko paise de rhe hai woh log Gawar hai? Problem pehle hone dena hai Yaa fir Bachna hai

@SaiAbitathaDUCIC

Жыл бұрын

@@rohanagarwal7880 correct

@viraaj9876

8 күн бұрын

Hahahahahahahahaha

Superb video Sir !!!

Excellent 🎊🎊🎊 Nice 👍 explanation

You are absolutely right uncle. I also planned two with same thoughts. But now a days in gurgaon or with other friends of mine I have observed if they have only one girl then they are content. As some of my friends who has only one boy are not planning second one as they don't want two boys. They want assured one girl but can't take risk of another boy. Now a days ppl are happy with one girl or two but not two boys. But I agree there are different world of ppl, in other world there is still demand for boy.

Heads of u sir yr practical knowledge boost up young generation

Hello Sir your videos have helped me think more practically and thereby increasing happiness in my life.Could you please make a video on how to deal with the pressure of not being able to become parents even after many honest attempts.Would adoption be a logical choice in such case?Would like to know your views on this topic.

Two kids best. I have 2. Totally agree with ur thoughts.

Excellent video

more important is couple should be honest about being ready to take the huge responsibilty & put another person first or not otherwise no kids in last video you said dont worry about the society , if you are not happy , how can you contribute to society

To raise a kid, it takes a whole village. But in reality, people think that it is only mother's responsibility. Somehow in so called modern families, they want kids to be tailor made achievers, where they won't take any responsibility but will expect from mothers. Abundance is killing the art of raising a child.

Nice video with good point... 2kids...

I revere you a lot and i also agree with your social understandings on this topic..but i would want to pose one question to you…you always tell your viewers to leave their jobs at 50 ( obviously after exploring other options) which is really thought provoking…but a person who marries at 29 or 30 will probably have his second child at the age of 37 odd…by the time father reaches to 50 the second child will be around 13 years of age…how will then a father manage this ?

@SangoLifeSutras

Жыл бұрын

Marry at 24

@Dev-pe2sz

Жыл бұрын

Sir humbly i would contest this by saying that a normal middle class person completes his education at 23-24 then he searches job for next 2 year’s minimum after that he enjoys his life for next 2 years then he would be around 28 years of age…so these days it doesn’t seem practical to marry at 24 years of age

@Dev-pe2sz

Жыл бұрын

Bro life is not just about marriage only..marriage is part of your life…everyone should marry when they think they are ready not just becoz they have to accomplish some mission of ‘hum do hamare do’. Not everyone thinks that way…that is not how life goes…not everyone marries late becoz of preparing for govt jobs only

@dahliajaji9547

Жыл бұрын

@@Dev-pe2sz you are right. Once you are in stable job, plan your finances accordingly to own a house, child education and health issues. Not to go for luxury during initial years under peer pressure. Plan alternate source of income before leaving job . If one has control over expenses, couple can manage to raise two children. You may not be able to send them to new age private schools or holidays abroad every year

@shwetasharma6043

Жыл бұрын

@It's T time with Swara I had qt 41

Wonderful video sir.

Jo bhi decide kro soch samjh k kro. Sabka apna situation hota h. Ek lo ya do achche se time do decent life style provide kro aur bachche ko apni jindagi jine do

Great expectation🙏

Very informative 👍

So many comments saying having a sibling builds values sharing and caring. Completely disagree. My daughter 11 yo, being my only child is very kind and caring to her friends and cousins. Her teachers and relatives are all praises for her loving nature. We give our best to our child and make sure that she knows the value of all that she has. When parents are gone, children will have their own families, jobs and most importantly, purpose of their lives. Why does anyone need a sibling to fall back on?

True picture of society told by u. I appreciate

Fully agreed for two kids..!! Personally I feel for this, below are the reasons:- 1- The quality of sharing things in kids should be very important & its lacking in single child. He/she becomes rude, lack in understanding if seeing somebody owns his/her things. Very complex emotions to handle, major drawback of single child. 2- Psychological aspect of child is more important rather than financial condition of family. Good morale, ethics, values carrying child always does best in his/her life as per inherent capabilities.

Another master blaster

instead of 2nd child, legal adoption isnt a good idea, pls share ur thoughts on this as well

@SangoLifeSutras

2 жыл бұрын

No

Yes absolutely correct

Very good suggestions sir 🙏

Two kids are ideal for a family &for society too

Thanks for neutral clarity!

Very good explanation sir. 2 or 3 children 🧒 is good 😊

very true......agree with you

2 kids❤️ boy/girl is immaterial. Kid is a kid.

My own thoughts .sir u explained very nice ly

3 kids

@azadjain8534

Жыл бұрын

2.1 replacement rate rakhne k liye kuch logo ko 3 bhi karne padenge

Having single daughter of 09 yrs ..and I am happy due to financial reasons and taking care of my parents....aur Ghar mein hi ristedar mummy papa ko kabhi support nahi Kiya to kya matlab hain bhai bahen hone....from my family experience its quality of life matters over quantity of siblings....

I found all ur vedios good but not this beacuse it is subjective ... every relationship is different their lives wants are different...

Superb coverage sir

Sir Most of the times u r Absolutely Right.

Three kids😁❣️

Sir you are Great 🙏🏻✍🏻😊✍🏻🙏🏻

Sir please make a video on how to grow family with unity value such that people support each other, now a days family's are infighting and divided. In perspective of newly wed couple as existing family's can't be fixed due to power dynamics.

Sir childless couple kaise positive rahe. Iske upar video banaye. Agar bache na ho to life mein kya pros and kons hote hai

@KunalKumar-sg1cs

Жыл бұрын

surrogacy se aap bacha kar sakte ho

True her level per bitterness milti hai marriage unsatable financial problem

Very well said Sir.

बहुत अच्छा मै आपसे सहमत हूं।

The reasons brought out by you for not having the second child are also true.